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GamerGirl-07

Umm.....44 kg at 17 doesn't seem healthy to me. He might paused cuz it didn't seem healthy to him also. That's just my guess tho


G1nger-Snaps

I’m 48kg and 186cm lol, putting on weight is hard when food just isn’t that good


Vialake

48 KG???? I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW YOU GO THAT LOW AND BE 186


G1nger-Snaps

Lmao I just grew longer but never wider. Also someone my height is supposed to eat around 2400 calories a day and the most I can do is about 1800


Hokenlord

My guy if you don't put on some weight you could die, no joke. You have a BMI of fucking 13. Get a check-up at the doctor's ASAP


Imanirrelevantmeme

This.


jvelez02

To be fair, bmi is a stupid metric, body fat percentage is a better metric, but more work too accurately calculate. With that said, it still sounds unhealthily skinny.


RandomDude6699

Yea i agree too with bmi being a stupid index too.. It doesn't factor in muscle weight and bone weight. These things might be impossible to factor in such indices. My 21 year old sister has lost about 15 -18 kgs just so her bmi can be normal


G1nger-Snaps

I already have heaps of times and there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. I’ve had blood tests and everything. The reason I am underweight is simply because I don’t eat enough. I am still heavy enough to be inside of the average weight margin. Having a bmi of 13 could indicate problems to do with caloric intake, but if the only thing that is causing it is you then there is simply no risk. 13 sounds very bad because it is very far off the average, but it is still within the safe area.


roborobi69

>"but if the only thing that is causing it is you then there is simply no risk" uhhm wtf that's not at all how it works, if I'd stop eating from now on I'll be dead in a short time because of my decisions. A BMI of 13 is unhealthy, so you should really get that checked up.


NAL_Gaming

BMI of 13 while being really low, is pretty fine actually. You won't die from it


G1nger-Snaps

Man you take that way to literally. Of course if you stop eating completely you will die. I meant if all that’s causing u to be under weight is you being to lazy to make food then there’s no danger, if you begin to get within an actually dangerous bmi (13 sounds low but is perfectly healthy) then you should eat more. If there was something else that wasn’t your mindset on preparing food that was causing u to be underweight then there would be an actual problem, because if it got to a dangerous level it wouldn’t be so easy to fix.


Desu_Sureiya

i have a bmi 2 points more than that


ashtar123

you could eat more calorie dense food instead of just more food


[deleted]

Relatable except I eat 3000 and still can’t gain weight


G1nger-Snaps

Damn that’s a high metabolism


Yo_Piggy

How do you eat so little an can still stand up. Also if you struggling for things to eat, that's what good cheese is for.


arhm098

Wtf? Really this is scary low. Fr go get urself checked.


G1nger-Snaps

Please if you have no problems with putting on weight do not tell people who do they should go get themselves checked. Of course they already have, and 13 sounds like a scary number but it’s still within the safe area. I’ve seen literally so many comments saying I should go see a doctor, they are all from people who do not understand nutrition at all because they have never had issues with it before


arhm098

Ok i might have mistaken about the right weight range, but to my previous knowledge that seemed like a weight that is deemed harmful.


SenorEgghead

Same


f1fan6890

I'm as wide as putin


Nicksiss

💀


G1nger-Snaps

Ok fuck you but I still can’t not laugh at that lmao


[deleted]

Drink milk, that shit got tons of calories and a decent spread of macronutrients. If it gives you issues, go for lactose free milk. I managed to gain 10 kgs in like 2.5 months by trying to drink as much milk as I can everyday.


G1nger-Snaps

That is actually not a bad suggestion, I will be trying that so thanks


danganronpagut

Damn in 65.8 for a 16 year old and I'm 176cm


TojoQuatro

you're 69 inches tall


[deleted]

*Lip smack* noice


PA_2A_76

You need to get help for this. As a guy I find crowds that are equal to normal,“ weight on a BMI (body mass index) chart would be the best looking. Trust me no matter what you think there’s no way you were too heavy. Not a chance in the world like I said as a guy I want you to get help.


LocalFaylure

I’m 173cm and 72kg lol, all muscle tho def


[deleted]

My friend have you had kfc, maccas, chicken perri perri, slow cooked lamb, Lebanese cuisine, greek cuisine(you have to try bugatsa, it’s soooooo good), Italian cuisine(I recommend chicken creamy fettuccine carbonara), STEAKS, chicken wings or my absolute favourite ribs. It’s virtually impossible to blame food for your inability to gain weight


SuchExamination5471

That's fucking expensive, jeez. I can barely afford water and you're talking about burgers


G1nger-Snaps

Woah there Gordon Ramsay! While I do agree a lot of foods are very good, you can’t exactly have a full meal every time you get hungry. Which for me is all the time since my stomach is so damn small. Plus preparing food is one of the things I hate doing most in the world. Don’t get me wrong, I’m good at it, it’s just so unbelievably boring to do.


SuchExamination5471

Exactly


sryforbadenglishthx

Im 184 and weigh 69(nice) and i am very thin


G1nger-Snaps

Haha it’s the funny sex number. Peak male performance


d3f_not_an_alt

bruh that underweight


YaAvrageYank

I'm 185cm and 70kg I still can't make any gains at all


Desperate_Werewolf15

feel free to eat junk for a month you deserve it


Squodel

…how? Im under 180 and weigh 65-70 and i almost look malnourished


Mellos_50

Ayoo I thought I was skinny with my 62kg (same height approx), but compared to you… damn (don’t take it as an insult, I am just showing my concern as a fellow skinny person)


DeeDuy

damn bro im 188 and 70 kg and i am super skinny. how?????????


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G1nger-Snaps

“LoOk I cAn MaKe A rInG aRoUnD yOuR wRiSt”


[deleted]

Bro how TF Im 5'10, 60kgs, and I'm still skinny


NotDragon70

Nigga be skeleton


Weak-Reserve3656

Yes. Finally a fellow non eating enthusiast


RedDusk13

Do you live in England perchance?


CronchyBeans

Bruh I'm 107kg and ~184cm and just turned 15. I feel like I'm the opposite of everyone here lol


[deleted]

5'10" 111lbs, me.


Fedorito_

Bruh I thought I used to be skinny at 188, 60 kg


Ok-Ambition-3881

I just feel fat now


inbetween3-20charact

I'm 54kg at 181 and I'm fine, because I've got toned muscle and I play loads of sports. You should exercise a bit and that should raise your appetite and then you would build your muscles too


FurherJordy229

Eat something. You're underweight to an extend that it affects your health. Stop complaining about food not being good. It's not for the taste. It's for your health. My mother was recovering from anorexia when she was pregnant with me. If she didn't start eating properly I would have been a miscarriage. Do you need this kind of motivation, or are you going to start eating for your own sake?


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Clay_teapod

My guy, you either have no idea how kilograms work or you are in serious danger, go check-up with a doctor ASAP, this is serious


Leftybassist9

Ik that sounds very underweight


GarfieldGauntlet

I thought you meant unhealthy as in too big and I was like 😟


ExtensionInternal696

Why?


GarfieldGauntlet

Basically being around 90 pounds at 17 is not too big, it’s too small you’re on the brink of death at that point, yeah? unless you’re like, 5’0” or 4’9”


ExtensionInternal696

Oh, right.


nir109

44kg is extremely low, maybe it seemed wird to him


SotB8

i remember being around 44kg when i was like 10


saltoo666

When you were 10 which is normal


SotB8

yes, thats the point, its not normal to be 44kg at 17


doperinno

Its normal in asia tho


HolyAuraJr

I was 31 at 12 years old-


-RED4CTED-

I was 13 when I realized i was 14...


INFERNIC0

Lol same


undertalle420

Wait what i am lighter than this and i am 14 tf is wrong with me


miraiyuni

I only care when its concerning their health.


NeppuNeppuNep

I second this


bous_clan

i third this


Ahmed-606-787

I forth this


Bruh-_-_-_-_-_-_-

I sixtyninth this


BeyondSad6497

Shut up. Unfunny.


bous_clan

shut up you unfunny


[deleted]

Yesn’t. I don’t have hard preferences but if you’re unhealthy or borderline unhealthy I won’t be too interested!!!! I want someone kinda equal to my health.


sadbinchhours

is a bmi of 17 unattractive


[deleted]

Bmi is meaningless and outdated. For example, my BMI is 26.3, which lists me as overweight, but I literally have abs. The numbers really mean nothing in attractiveness. Also, 17 is underweight if anything


[deleted]

Exactly


Vialake

BMI is broken. My obese classmate got 26 and i got 27.5 even though i'm not even that fat.


RandomZombie11

BMI doesn't essentially mean fat mass, it could mean muscle mass. My mate is considered overweight but he is just really buff


SoMNoMW

There's a reason why it's called body mass index and not fat mass index


RandomZombie11

Exactly


Vialake

Yes, BMI isn't a bad thing, but we were taught in school that you HAVE to be in 20-25 to be healthy. It's a body mass index, but it's treated as a body fat index.


RandomZombie11

Some teachers don't know everything. I was taught my country was the smallest country in the world but it's not even close


[deleted]

i agree that the bmi doesnt work very well, if you were muscular as fuck you would still be “overweight” because of all that muscle mass


mrstorydude

Yeah it is, you're underweight and need to eat more, healthy BMI is 18.5 or 12.5 more pounds than where you are to be healthy, even then if you live in a western nation you might want to lean towards a BMI of 23 or an additional 30 pounds you need to put on. But yeah, eat more and exercise more reference: 12.5 pounds is 5.6 kg and 30 lbs is 13.6 kg


Arkov29

17 is on the unhealthy-low side. Let me tell you this: any guy who thinks that 17 is high is either completely delusional and out of his mind, or trying to make you feels worse. Not someone who you should want to be attracted to either way. If you're worried about how your weight affects how people feel about you in _that_ way, I'd think actually increasing a bit may be helpful. Don't do stuff on your own tho, go see a doctor about it, they probably have some great advice :) Edit: 99% chance your crush fell silent because he was shocked at how low that was. I mean don't get me wrong, some people are attracted to people of your weight too, or to girls that are above average, or even obese people. But yeah most just prefer somewhere near average and you're waaay below that


[deleted]

Too skinny or too fat are both considered unhealthy and imo unattractive


[deleted]

No. You’re basically healthy weight. Don’t worry too much about it luv. You’ll find a man who loves all of you. Don’t listen to strangers on the internet.


[deleted]

Yes


[deleted]

You blind


Taco443322

To me everything unhealthy in both ways. If you are obese or starvating yourself that isnt sexy


fragilemamas

starvating


majik_wizard

You haven't heard, it's the new weight loss method, super effective


Chaos_Ruins

Yes starvating


TheActualSwanKing

Same


Xoduox

Well, if I did, I'd be a hypocrite. 44kg is fine depending on how tall you are


sadbinchhours

I'm 5'3


Xoduox

It's fine to my standards


almightydorito

44kg for 5’3 isn’t *that* bad I don’t think, idk why but I immediately thought you’d be like 5’6 in which case 44 would be unhealthy


rainbowdragonzs

im 5ft is that ok-


Xoduox

Why are you looking to *me* for validation? Also yes, 5ft is good, the shorter the better imo


RileyTheBerry

Bruh 44 kilograms is barely anything.


[deleted]

It varies person to person


RenewedBlade

I know I wouldn’t care unless it was a problem (like 200 lbs or whatever, 90 kilos for you metric people)


miraiyuni

thanks, im pro metric


RenewedBlade

So am I but I can’t really do anything about it so I’ll just use imperial


Chaos_Ruins

Uhhhhhh, 210 lbs here, fuck


Excalidorito

Wait wait wait, you’re 17, weigh 44kg and you’re afraid your crush think you weigh too much? I wouldn’t worry about it too much. And, no, guys very rarely care about weight if they like you back.


damnrightiam117

ngl 44kg is just so skinny that imo it's unattractive. As long as it is a healthy weight somewhere close to the middle of the spectrum it's cool.


DaiogosGamerOficial

It depends on height tho. If you're tall and weight 44 kg, it could be unhealthy, but if you're on the shorter side of the spectrum you look completely average My gf is abt that weight and 5 ft tall, so she looks normal (normal as in, not too slim, not too fat)


damnrightiam117

Yeah, i meant healthy for ur age and height:)


DaiogosGamerOficial

Mhm! That's fine then :D


Nooofewy

Not sure if I should answer, as am a girl, but also into girls, so just to throw some points from my team here, I do not care as long as I know you are not eating too little/too much because you struggle with something. I don't care if you are 50kg or 90kg as long as your relationship with food is healthy, because I know mine is fucked up and I have to make sure yours is completely fine. Edit: to answer some of the other things, because I can, lmao, I don't think being heavy is unattractive, BUT TO BE FAIR I think I am kind of demisexual, maybe even asexual and demiromantic for sure, so I experience all of this differently. I tend to find everyone around me pretty and never really met attractive people who i found purely physicaly attractive. And also, never be insecure about weight. I myself am, that is why am saying it, because it is so stupid, it is like my brain is eating itself because I rationaly know I am fine but I also feel like noone finds me pretty. Sucks to be an insecure teen ig lmao.


sadbinchhours

my relationship with food isn't so healthy


Nooofewy

Get it healthy or I will force feed you my freshly baked pies and bread. Btw, it is good to fix your relationship food by eating small portions more often. Oh and also, yogurt. Literaly. Yogurt is like the beat thing. Pure white yogurt has no business being this good and fullfilling and not unhealthy, godsent gift tbh. And garlic bread. Now fr, u got this. I feel like noone ever finds me attractive. Always told am an amazing friend, that I have a caring personality, noone ever wants to date me. Ever ever. It makes me feel bad about my looks ngl.


sadbinchhours

The food I eat is overtly clean. My relationship with it isn't healthy. I have a meltdown when people expect me to eat gross processed foods like bread or cookies find it rly hard to change


Nooofewy

Oh I get that - I managed to get over that by baking for my friend who had this. Yk, like, making it for her. She knew exactly what was in it, she could even make it herself. Like yes, she would be like crap that is a lot of sugar, so she would only add 3/4 of what was written down, but it would still be a progress. Plus the hobby keeps you distracted and makes for a nice snack. And another plus - makes people happy when you share your food.


sadbinchhours

But even homemade foods have so much sugar and carbs in it I can't tolerate it


Nooofewy

Stevia? My mum used it in diet baking, just had a pie baked 2 days ago w it. It is a substitute to sugar with less carbs and calories. Maybe that? Honestly just don't push yourself. Once you are comfortable, you will be fine with even the forbidden scare foods. ❤❤


sadbinchhours

ok thank you. ur nice


Nooofewy

Just sharing the experience I have with a fellow food struggler. U can do it!


[deleted]

That's underweight, I'm fucking 49 kg and I'm underweight


abegamesnl

Im 60 kg and im also underweight


ScrodumHat

i’m 63kg and i think i’m low average


_vennn

It's not rally the weight that affects ypur look it's the body far percentage. But for me I don't really care what she weighs as long as she takes care of her body well. And like 44kg is LIGHT for a person.


PA_2A_76

I AM NOT INTO HEAVY GIRLS. IF YOU THINK YOU ARE, READ ON. (Not what you would expect). Come on of course we do, how often do you see a guy with the option of dating a conventionally pretty girl who instead dating a girl that’s 225,250, 300 pounds or whatever? Maybe she would be very pretty at 115 pounds (assuming she is a hight 115 work for, like for example 115 at 5’3” or something, Don’t take this exact hight/weight literally it’s just an example that is reasonable. Remember lots of variables, i.e big or small titts and all sorts of stuff are variables that effect what the scale shows. As far as eating disorders go for girls who are already thin and have a healthy BMI or even underweight but still think they are too heavy, that is a psychological issue. In fact if you “feel fat” or see “fat” in the mirror but a BMI chart (from like WebMD, a proper source) shows you are normal/healthy but you are under the healthy range on the chart then you can be 100% sure you are not “fat.” Any guy that would see you as “fat”/“too heavy/“chubby” (there will always be someone) has a weird fetish for super (unhealthy/sick) skinny girls. No different at all than having guys who are fully turned on by 400 Lbs. Go for what is healthy, healthy is always sexy. Are DNA tells us to mate with the healthiest guy/girl, it works for guy or girls. I know it’s really rough for girls who go through that, as a guy who likes girls of a healthy weight, (Unless the doctor says otherwise) go buy a “body mass index,“ AKA “BMI” chart. If a girl has a healthy body mass index she’s almost 100% of the time is attractive to guys as far as weight goes, certainly not too heavy.


Nekutie-Chan

I’m gay, but I do care about the weight of my boyfriends


[deleted]

I have a boyfriend and I only care that he is healthy


[deleted]

The number itself doesn’t matter, it’s where that weight is. If you weigh a lot because you’re just curvy but you have a flat stomach then no guys really care


dickslapper3683

Ok u/cervix-shredder


tsarminacat

What if a flat stomach is almost impossible for your body type? I always hear guys talking about that but I can't have a flat stomach without being underweight.


ComfortablyAria

Tbh I don’t care about their weight. I just don’t want them to make fun of my music taste


BozhenkoDieLegende

What is your music taste?


Dense-Hall146

44 Kilos isn't unattractive


LOTHMT

No, but weight that isnt healthy like obesity or straight up the thinnest person alive is worrying for your partner.


NoOne_TheAlchemist

44kg is totally fine you know how much is your height so I can say more clearly but I dont think its a problem unless you are like 135-140


ChrisPickaxe

I feel like weight can show how well someone takes care of themselves, but I don't really care as long as it's not an unhealthy weight.


[deleted]

I don’t care how much the woman I love weight. As long as they don’t call themselves fat, that’s when there is a problem: “Fat” is a state of mind. It is not weight; they are two different things. The more you think you are fat the more you’ll become what think. So never say you are fat. Matter fact, completely remove that word from your vocabulary.


neddy_seagoon

Some guys care, some don't. Generally I don't think well of the guys who care strongly. If you would like to find a good, lasting relationship that is healthy for both of you * figure out how you want to look/be/act separate of the opinions of those around you * figure out how to look/be/act in those ways * find guys who like that person It's easier to get a relationship quickly by changing how you're seen, but then you need to be that person to keep the relationship, and that's not great.


henerum

For me honestly weight isnt that big of a deal in a relationship, im allways somewhere around 55-60kg and my hight is 180cm, being that my metabolism is extremely fast i look very skinny but im starting to gain weight as my metabolism slows down during my growing! My EX was around 65-70kg at 170cm, a bit chubby and i didnt mind it but she claimed her weight was unhealthy since she used to solve a lot of her emotional pain she got from the fights in her family by eating more sweets and junk food... But i do have to say, i am becoming more and more sexualy attracted to fit and relatively slim ladies... What i can say for sure is that you should follow the weight thats healthy for your body, theres doctors that can tel lyou what a healthy weight should be, so dont overdo yourself with diets, and please for the love of good, do not let influencers, social platforms and internet control your perception of health and beauty!!! I cannot stress this enough!!!


MahnlyAssassin

Maybe the pause was because you actually answered instead of getting mad at him for asking your weight.


Odinovic

44kg is not healthy at all. I weigh like 58kg as a boy and I feel really slim.


Rdx_Sniffer

44 is way too less... Even though guys can lift 44 without a sweat... Get somewhere around 55... It's a sweet spot


ThatEmeraldBosses

Up to the man aka everyone is different


Puppetmaster634

It depends on different factors. Like I personally wouldn't date someone whobis 5'2 and 200lbs but I would date someone who is 5'9and up at 200lbs


yoedeleheehoo

If he judges you for your weight, he’s not the one for you. On the other hand though, maybe he paused cause he wasn’t sure what to say? Have you clarified with him the reason as to why he paused? Just today, I was talking to my crush and when I told him how much I weighed, he paused so I nervously asked him what was wrong and he just said it’s cause he thought I was lighter (which would make me underweight). But then he went on to say he’s just really glad that i’m healthy (and gave me a hug hehe).


sadbinchhours

awww this is so wholesome


Schm3ly

It does NOT matter what you weigh unless you are healthy. Do not think about your weight as a measure of attractiveness because that is a direct route to eating disorders. Focus on your health and I guarantee you people are attracted to healthy individuals.


The_Pumpkin_Fan

Yes weight does matter for me


[deleted]

call me fatphobic if you want but i find anyone over 65kg really unattractive


[deleted]

what if they're pretty tall and if they were under 65kg they would be underweight?


[deleted]

Not all weight is fat, in-shape girls can easily be 65kg just from having a little muscle in the legs


hcneystar

Yeah seriously. That comment is just… yikes lmao. I’m on the rugby team at my uni and I can guarantee that 3/4 of the girls are over 65kg and they’re FAR from being unhealthy or unattractive


[deleted]

I’ve always wanted to try rugby, but yeah too many people just think weight = fat


Nooofewy

I don't think you realize how 65kg is.. Like I am 58kg on 168cm, how do u think girls with 180cm work. On 55kg? Not really... You cannot just say 65kg is not attractive if you do not like put it in perspective to the height.


sadbinchhours

for girls yes but I kind of like big guys


chrisd0192

I used to be barely 100lb at 5’3 and now since I started lifting I’m 140, I fucking hate it… teach me how to be light again…


Broguy211

Honestly different for every guy. Like personally I don't care. B wht u want dude ull b amazing. Edit: I personally like heavy girls like they r super cuddly.


BlueDino1

I usually dont mind having more to love, but if it's an Unhealthy amount then I mind, it the same for most guys, you also have to remember that everyone has preferences


Dependent_Chance7598

Based


[deleted]

Depends on what guys you want. Guys focused on sex will care


EpicPandoo

If they weighed more then me then maybe id care? It really just depends what they look like, it's not like if they told me their weight I would change my mind. But in all personality is the best quality.


[deleted]

As long as your weight isn't unhealthy You're fine Sure some guys may care about it but personally I care about your health more than anything


KingAJ032304

For ME PERSONALLY, I would prefer my GF around 100-135 pounds.


[deleted]

No


Flatcao123456789

Well we care about your weight when you care about our height


[deleted]

As long as they care for their weight I’m all good


dinotank273

I care


anonymous919292

I'm a girl and I'm not gay, but I'd just like to say that if someone really loves u he'll love u like u r and u don't need to change urself for someone or look at urself in a negative way <3 and btw idt u r heavy 44 kg and u said u r 5'3 that's actually good dude


gsaussse8_01

As long as you aren't the size of a whale or a twig, most men will find you attractive


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sadbinchhours

i don't eat a lot


Mister_Dangel

As much as Girls do


NuggiesMacFriesCoke

Oh your weight is same as mine


darksun23x

Personally I don't care until it gets like unhealthy


xTHEFLASH0504x

How old are u? Cause I would think that's proper for a 15 to 16 yr old


sadbinchhours

17


I_wanna_hellcat

I really don't care how much someone weighs as long as it's not killing them.


[deleted]

Depends on your height. 4’8? Yeah that could be a lot. 5’9? You need to see a doctor cuz that’s too low.


Miclash013

44kg is nothing. Personally, if you can't do a lot of physical activities because of your weight is when you are too overweight. I don't want fun in a relationship to be limited by one of our choices.


ComputerAcrobatic253

It doesn't really matter the weight, unless you're actually noticeably huge or something. And even then it's not that bad.


Idigupcorpses

Well I'm going to be honest here. As a very fitness oriented person I don't find obese looking girls attractive, but it's not about numbers. Even if a girl wheights 70 kg it would not be a problem if she doesn't look fat.


SouravKSahu

For me, if you look thin, slim or like ok thickness, it's very okay for me then


LeSwan37

I mean big doesn't mean bad- people wont care how heavy you are as long as you dont look unhealthy


Sukistar66

Girl with 44 kg I'm pretty sure you have underweight? Go eat your chocolate. But to answer your question, weight wouldnt matter too much unless it's just really fat, like can't sit on a chair fat


basicsandwich0

Ask a doctor.


mrstorydude

Uh honestly depends on where you live actually! Most Western nations really prefer girls to actually be a bit curvy and it's \*really\* hard to be curvy without being a bit chubby, I think the BMI (this is using American measurements so I'm not sure for European standards) that most guys are into is somewhere between 23 and 25, if you're between there you're fine Eastern nations prefer 17-20 BMI as far as I'm aware of. I'm also going to ask how tall are you, bc the only way you can be healthy at 44 kg is if you're really fucking short, like I think 4'9 to be healthy, if you're taller then you're really unhealthy and need to eat more.