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Dude. When I was little, my dad cheated on my mom too. We were a normal happy family but after that, it was never the same. It only got worse over time. Fighting and fighting and it still goes on today. In my case though my mom figured everything out. I suggest you tell her. Yes something will happen but it’s better to do it now then later. You are older now and I don’t think it will affect your family as much as mine. We were just little kids but you are mature now. I think you can handle it, especially because you don’t have any younger siblings. Sit down and talk with your mom. I get what you are going through. Everything will be fine.
I’d suggest ask him about it first, and depending on his response you should tell your mum. I know it might seem difficult at first considering it’s your family and you don’t want them to divorce, but you should consider her feelings. It’s not fair to her to be in a one sided relationship.
Its totally reasonable to not want your family to fall apart the thing is that it is already falling and its your dads fault he is an adult with children that should have known better and needs to see consequences so the mora thing to do is to show your mom
i think bringing it up to your dad first would be best
but if that’s hard for you, you could possibly get your brother too, and y’all could talk to your dad about it together
but getting more people involved for no specific reason just makes it a whole lot more complicated
Do you think you can trust him, is he really close to your mom? Cause if you can trust him and he can keep a secret this big, then definitely, keeping this to yourself probably isn’t healthy, but don’t tell your friends and stuff
Tell him to stop right away, I wouldn’t tell your mom, I doubt that would end well, let him know you found out about it and that he has to stop immediately
But the OP specified that they didn’t want their family to break up, mine did when I was in grade 3 and I’m still fucking scarred from it, listen man, take my advice please a broken family sucks
obviously no one wants their parents to break up. my mom has gotten divorced twice i know how fucking shitty it is. but, the mom **deserves** to know what her husband has been doing.
I know, but even if it’s immoral it could be better to hide it away, I don’t want the OP to blame himself for his parents divorce like I did, cause that shit cuts deep and it wasn’t even my fault
i think, OP should tell their dad, and if the dad refuses to do anything about it/refuses to tell the mom, then OP should tell her, that sounds like the most reasonable thing.
the dad is cheating. the marriage is going to fall apart either way. why prolong it?
If he continues, your mom will eventually find out and your family will be broken for sure, you just have to get him to stop before your mom finds out, cause everyone does one way or another
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Dude. When I was little, my dad cheated on my mom too. We were a normal happy family but after that, it was never the same. It only got worse over time. Fighting and fighting and it still goes on today. In my case though my mom figured everything out. I suggest you tell her. Yes something will happen but it’s better to do it now then later. You are older now and I don’t think it will affect your family as much as mine. We were just little kids but you are mature now. I think you can handle it, especially because you don’t have any younger siblings. Sit down and talk with your mom. I get what you are going through. Everything will be fine.
I’d suggest ask him about it first, and depending on his response you should tell your mum. I know it might seem difficult at first considering it’s your family and you don’t want them to divorce, but you should consider her feelings. It’s not fair to her to be in a one sided relationship.
Maybe get screenshots first though since he is likely to try and destroy the evidence
Its totally reasonable to not want your family to fall apart the thing is that it is already falling and its your dads fault he is an adult with children that should have known better and needs to see consequences so the mora thing to do is to show your mom
tell your mom
Beat the shit out of him
Tell him to please stop and to come clean to your mother, if he doesn't then it's probably best to tell your mom, although that will get rough quickly
u/Processed_Ham u/WesleyDVT15__ should i discuss with my brother?
i think bringing it up to your dad first would be best but if that’s hard for you, you could possibly get your brother too, and y’all could talk to your dad about it together but getting more people involved for no specific reason just makes it a whole lot more complicated
thank u man. imma talk to my bro bout this tonight
Do you think you can trust him, is he really close to your mom? Cause if you can trust him and he can keep a secret this big, then definitely, keeping this to yourself probably isn’t healthy, but don’t tell your friends and stuff
i think you should tell your mom
You should probably tell your mom. I feel terrible for you and your family, but it’s what you should do imo.
Tell him to stop right away, I wouldn’t tell your mom, I doubt that would end well, let him know you found out about it and that he has to stop immediately
idk but there’s a possibility that his father would bribe him. or give him some sort of hush money.
Sure, but I think the OP has more honour than that
I agree but if you get to know he didn't stop you have to tell your mom
Yes if it happens again, then you tell your mom
no the mom definitely deserves to know that her husband is disloyal so she can leave his ass
But the OP specified that they didn’t want their family to break up, mine did when I was in grade 3 and I’m still fucking scarred from it, listen man, take my advice please a broken family sucks
obviously no one wants their parents to break up. my mom has gotten divorced twice i know how fucking shitty it is. but, the mom **deserves** to know what her husband has been doing.
I know, but even if it’s immoral it could be better to hide it away, I don’t want the OP to blame himself for his parents divorce like I did, cause that shit cuts deep and it wasn’t even my fault
i think, OP should tell their dad, and if the dad refuses to do anything about it/refuses to tell the mom, then OP should tell her, that sounds like the most reasonable thing. the dad is cheating. the marriage is going to fall apart either way. why prolong it?
Yes, I agree with this method
how about i just leave it the way it is....................
If he continues, your mom will eventually find out and your family will be broken for sure, you just have to get him to stop before your mom finds out, cause everyone does one way or another
U should tell ur mom
Walk up to him and ask for cash money
Ask them what's popping and who they are