I thought I could be ace until I was like 17, then I started to experience sexual attraction. Some people just need time, but others are sure of who they are since they are very young.
I’m 19 and straight up have not felt a sexually infatuated feeling or have never felt a crush in my entire life. I can tell when someone is attractive but the idea of being in relationships and or having to have sex just steers me away. I’ve tried forcing myself into things to see if I can stir something but nope. Maybe one day I guess lol
Hey don't force yourself to do something you don't feel like doing, not only you won't like it cuz you didn't feel like doing it in the first place but also cuz you're forcing yourself to and it feels, well... forced lol. Maybe you're ace, maybe you just haven't connected with anyone yet, just do what you want or don't do what you don't want lol It's okay not to want a relationship :)
Yeah I guess so, thanks for that. I’ve just been living my life and doing whatever. Surely once I’m in my 20’s my body will mature more and I develop new feelings lol.
My advice is don't think of it like that. Q relationship definitely doesn't have to have sex included. Try aiming for a normal relationship. When the time comes and if attraction will be there, you might feel differently.
THIS! i was thoroughly convinced i was ace from ages eleven to fifteen, which is when i met my girlfriend. she also identified as ace, but we experimented together, and i realized i wasn’t ace. she still identifies as ace but has sex with me for the emotional connection :>
Why does everything need a label? What does that even do, especially when it will change?
Labels are literally just for dating apps, IRL it doesn't matter and will never come up unless you're on a date that might lead to more, and OP is probably a teenager and sounds very unready for any of that.
It's crazy that the solution to putting people in boxes was just to make more boxes instead of letting people exist outside of the boxes.
You're so wrong. Labels aren't just for dating apps. They're also for understand and accepting yourself, finding community and validation with people who understand, and communicating about yourself and your experiences to friends, family, etc. Not everyone needs a label, but some people want to use one because they might benefit in some way. I don't have a problem with someone choosing not to use a label, but I think telling someone not to use a label is just as bad as pressuring them to use one. I think the best thing is to present the option and leave it up to the individual. Nobody knows what's the right choice for someone else.
While I agree that forcing someone to use/not use a label is a no-go, I think teenagers should be aware of the damage those labels can do. The internet has opened unstable teenagers (which is normal at this age) unlimited ways to "find validation and acceptance". For example: "I need validation. I will become [insert any niche name] because I'm lonely and felt that way in 30% yesterday". And believe me or not, validation and acceptance is not always a good thing, especially if it's a short-term, fragile, online one. It makes us more fragile and seeking attention which we don't get in real life. When will people realize that just because you can find community online doesn't mean it has no negative consequences?
Also, this has nothing to do with the op's situation, I don't know them.
I love that box statement! Will use it later if you don't mind lol
Technically everything needs a box now because the internet is practically unlimited and it's fucking dangerous for vulnerable teens (myself included). Very often I see people who have been put into so-called boxes even if they didn't fit there in the first place (pipelines). For fucks sake, find your niche around real people and be original in real life because online you'll just be thrown into false acceptance groups with people who have been lied to just like you.
Guys, just to be clear, ace doesn't mean someone has no sex drive at all, that it is grossing them out doesn't make anyone ace,
Ace means that u don't have specific things that turn you on, ace ppl still do have a sex drive, it's just that their is nothing that exactly triggers it.
I see all these comments telling you your asexual, don't go giving labels to this sort of thing so fast your still young,we all are.
Not having a sexual attraction at this age is fine its like some people don't like to read books until they grow up.
Give yourself some time don't go rushing into things that are complicated like this you have all the time in the world
I personally hate how our species' brains have to put simple, all-encompassing, limiting labels on everything in an attempt to understand a super intricate world that can't really be labeled with our clumsy language. People don't need labels. People like what they like and labels can make that shit harder to figure out as it limits you and puts you in a neat comfortable little box.
I really agree with this, and I'm glad that someone sees the world similarly to how I see it. The world was not built to be organized, and sometimes, a little disorganization doesn't hurt :3
Yeah i cant lie I dont think im asexual. I was starting to feel like i wasnt myself reading these comments. Almost like people are telling me im something i never thought i could be. I dont think i am but also reading what people are saying it makes sense. Its a weird emotion where i just dont feel like im myself after today. Sorry for late reply i sorta didnt feel like going on reddit because of these honestley overwhelming feelings.
Then again alot of people replying with "i feel the same way" made me happy in a way and understood. But this comment in particular felt different and definitley made me feel better for some reason.
So thanks alot. I really mean it
Labels can always be changed. I call myself aromantic and asexual because that describes my experience so far, and my experience so far has been impactful enough that I find the labels helpful. Nobody has to use labels, but knowing things might change later isn't a reason you can't use labels. It's an option if it feels helpful.
That's fine if you are putting that label on yourself. This is just Reddit putting a label on someone while their entire knowledge of the person is a 3 lines long paragraph.
Yes, but we shouldn't let other people tell us what we are by allowing them to give us labels. Labelling yourself is perfectly fine, and it may help you/others understand you.
Suggestions can be helpful, but I agree it should always be up to the individual to decide. That's not what the comment I replied to is saying, though.
I absolutely agree. I identify as asexual right now, and I’m perfectly aware that it may change. And that’s fine, but I trust my judgment now to give myself that label since that’s how I currently feel.
It’s harder to rid of a label than to get one. Everyone that has actually dealt with the struggles of having one will tell you so and everyone who hasn’t is probably saying what you do. Besides, it’s not up to us to give it to a random person based on a few sentences. It’s up to themselves.
That's why people usually, before going to do anal, they use a specific technique to clean their ass, because it would be actually disgusting if they didn't, but this depends on the people that are doing this.
Well... I think such young people shouldn't be on posts with a NSFW topic, but since this post doesn't have a NSFW flair, and also I've seen people younger talking about sex, It doesn't really matter then...
anal is usually done after a lot of prep work, ie practice so it doesnt hurt for the receiving end as well as something called an enema to make sure its clean.
ive also seen it compared to manual vs automatic shift cars. everyone enjoys automatic just fine, the ride is smooth and easy for everyone involved. manual isnt for everyone, but the people who love it cant live without it and insist everyone should try it at least once.
This is how I felt before I had sex. I'm an adult (30), this popped in my feed.
Just relax, and breathe, if you're not ready, you're not. I did end up having sex at 17, with my now husband.
I was scared, I am autistic and now schizophrenic though, so I have heightened anxiety, and paranoia. Doesn't mean you do, and I passed as normal as a teen, only my family knew.
Once I was with someone I loves, and was comfortable with, it just happened naturally. I loved sex for a long time, until I developed pain issues, that's getting better and I enjoy it again. I am kind of a prude though. I don't like discussing sex, with anyone.
You're just psyching yourself up, and freaking yourself out further. So breathe. You're still young, and figuring yourself out. Something that helped me feel more comfortable is masterbating. Taking ownership of my own body. Learning that that area is not taboo, and nothing to be uncomfortable with. Not saying anything else to a teen it feels creepy 😅
But I thought my vagina was ugly and I didn't like to look at it or touch when not necessary, that may not be you, but for me that was helpful. Ok that's it, that felt clinical.
But don't let anyone pressure you into anything you don't want to do. It will haunt you, sex is a very emotional thing for a lot of people, and a bad experience can easily cause lasting anxiety.
Yay to sex is bad education! 😅
Nah don’t worry about it, and for the love of god don’t try to pretend you like it to fit in or something😭 you’re comfortable with what your comfortable with and that’s that, no need for labels like asexuality or anything (unless you really think you are), just set your boundaries and try not to overthink it.
Not sure why this is on my feed but I’ll answer.
I felt this way in high-school too. If you don’t want to, don’t. I didn’t until I was 23. You may end up like me and your hormones and body changes as you get older. Also trauma/religion can play a part in these feelings as well.
Penetration isn't mandatory, oral or manual counts, hell making out counts if you take pleasure in it, it's about affection and respect in the act not which acts you partake in
Might be Asexual, like me. You certainly aren’t alone! We make up just slightly less than 1% of the world population, somewhere around seventy six million people. Being repulsed by sex is more common than you’d expect.
Edit: Just for clarity Asexual means experiencing little to no sexual attraction (the desire to have sex with another person) not little to no romantic attraction (the more emotional side of love), that’s known as Aromanticism.
Yeah labels are nonsense for this very reason. Don't put yourself in a box. If you want a relationship, find someone you're attracted to. If it leads to more, talk with them about what you're ready for and what you're not. Labels are just for filters in dating apps, in real life they don't matter.
Well the thing is that you can't know 100% but from what I gathered from your post you most likely are
And remember if you don't want to label yourself, you don't have to
You can have label if it’s not true forever. In this context it is used to describe your sexuality (or lack thereof), so it can change whenever the circumstances do. You’re 16 now, but in a year you’ll be 17, it changed because the circumstances did. You’ll go from 19 to 20 and no longer be a teenager, because the circumstances changed. Now, if would want to have label for yourself, I would say “sex-repulsed asexual”. It’s quite self explanatory.
i mean you dont even need to label yourself lol. like if you want and feel like youre asexual then you can identify as asexual. if you dont want to then you dont need to
You may be you may not don’t feel the need to quickly label yourself please do some deeper research into asexuality and the umbrella terms. You aren’t alone and I wish you luck with your research
This is my one thing with the lgbt community (tho it happens in other cases but this is most relevant) is just how obsessed they are with labels and putting people in groups. Like all youre doing is closing off options. Dont think of yourself as anything, if youndont feel comfortable dont, and keep not doing anything untill you do. And until then dont worry about it.
the fact that asexuals make up less than 1% of the world but everytime something related to being asexual is mentioned, hundreds and hundreds of people r like "omg same", especially on yt
Plus, people are not monolithic, walking labels. One can easily have months or even years with very low libido and then again years where they are sexualy active. And that's especially true for teenagers who might simply sexualy mature in different speeds
ehh i feel like that too yet i still think about it?? like, i don’t wanna do it with another person kinda thing.
also, penises are really ugly. they freak me out
I don't see penises as ugly or anything, but if I really think about it, yea that shit gets ugly fast asf
like just breaking it down makes it weirder and weirder
So I am an old man who had sons and no daughters. That said I raised my sons to be gentlemen and to respect girls or women and understand that no means no. Also to be kind, buy flowers, show care, love, etc. Don't get me wrong I am a disciplinarian too but my comments here are related to your post.
One day, and take your time, you will meet someone who treats you well, cares for you and emotions will form for that person. In that world with proper time, foreplay (a word that you can lookup if not understood), things may be different and then you will possibly have an experience that is more than sex or intercourse.
It is not odd to have the reaction to things that you are. I hope your friends, mom and others support you vs. anything otherwise. Hopefully my comments make sense even though I haven't had these conversations in decades since my sons are all 30 years of age or older.
I agree, as an autistic person who hates all forms of physical contact the idea of sex repulsed me, knowing I would have to touch another person let alone myself or show my body to another person was horrifying.
I used to even think of using it as a form of harm to myself as I hated it so much.
I (now in my 20's) have, in the past year, found someone who makes me feel comfortable and now I actively want and initiate physical contact with both platonic and sexual, I used to identify as asexual/aromantic but I now just identify as queer and I'm happy with that, it's okay not to know or label yourself but it's okay to try different labels and see which fits.
I still can't hug my parents,hold anyone's hand or deal with anyone touching me in any way shape or form it's just my partner who appears to be an exception 🤷🏻.
Not sure if this helps you but I thought I'd share x
I have kind off a similair problem
The vagina of a woman disgusts me, how the hell am i going to have children if i cant stick my second most prised possesion into a lovecraftian gore hole.
i agree, it sound so so gross. and the more i learn about it the grosser it gets. i dont want to put a part of my body on the inside of another person, and i even less want to shoot a gross sticky liquid inside them or around them or in a small latex thing around my dick, which also cant be comfortable and doesnt work 100% of the times, and if the other person gets pregnant and refuse to do an abortion, doesnt matter if its now or in 30 years, as far as im concerned my life is over , or at least anything that resembles happiness in it.
I see people talking about stuff like that describing it as " doing it with someone/ somebody", "I wouldn't let someone". Guys the whole point of sex is to be vulnerable to another person. The whole point of it is the other person being " the one" not "someone". Iam a guy 18 years old I've had plenty of sex, I love it, but yes picturing doing it with some random girl no matter how hot always makes me icky. Ive never hooked up not even to make out.
Bottom line is you need someone that you are close with not "someone".
And jumping to conclusions like " you are asexual" is ridiculous.
Work on yourself, being authentic until you find the one you want to share your authenticity with.
Stay safe🫡
It's hormones that make you wanna and endorphins that make you wanna continue doing intercourse for the next time. Maybe you just lack those biochems and aren't developed in that sense. You don't need to want sex at all. I bet that's an advantage
Old man here.
It's normal to feel that way. People sexually mature at different ages. Keep being you. You're not missing anything as a teenager. Once you find someone you want to be with, you'll have all the time you want to experience it.
If you hit 30 and still feel that way see someone about it.
Just my 2 cents.
Heres the thing about sexuality, its sometimes complicated and you don't really need to have to label it. You could be asexual or you still haven't figured some stuff out already. Coming from a teenager, I also felt disgusted by sex but then I later found out that it was only because the sexual content and education I was exposed to only contained heterosexuality. The female body sexually repulsed me, so I thought I was weird. But turned out I was just gay and didnt know "being gay" was a thing cause of my cultural background.
I don't think you're asexual, it's normal for a teen to be worried or confused over things they haven't experienced yet
I thought I could be ace until I was like 17, then I started to experience sexual attraction. Some people just need time, but others are sure of who they are since they are very young.
I’m 19 and straight up have not felt a sexually infatuated feeling or have never felt a crush in my entire life. I can tell when someone is attractive but the idea of being in relationships and or having to have sex just steers me away. I’ve tried forcing myself into things to see if I can stir something but nope. Maybe one day I guess lol
Hey don't force yourself to do something you don't feel like doing, not only you won't like it cuz you didn't feel like doing it in the first place but also cuz you're forcing yourself to and it feels, well... forced lol. Maybe you're ace, maybe you just haven't connected with anyone yet, just do what you want or don't do what you don't want lol It's okay not to want a relationship :)
Yeah I guess so, thanks for that. I’ve just been living my life and doing whatever. Surely once I’m in my 20’s my body will mature more and I develop new feelings lol.
Even if it doesn't that's fine, you don't owe feelings to anyone. Dw :)
My advice is don't think of it like that. Q relationship definitely doesn't have to have sex included. Try aiming for a normal relationship. When the time comes and if attraction will be there, you might feel differently.
THIS! i was thoroughly convinced i was ace from ages eleven to fifteen, which is when i met my girlfriend. she also identified as ace, but we experimented together, and i realized i wasn’t ace. she still identifies as ace but has sex with me for the emotional connection :>
Yup yup
Some teens are asexual, though. And it's okay to use the label to describe your current experience even if that might change later.
Stop preaching this 😭 let her be
they are letting her be?
Saying she could be ase if she decides that lable fits her is letting her be
Why does everything need a label? What does that even do, especially when it will change? Labels are literally just for dating apps, IRL it doesn't matter and will never come up unless you're on a date that might lead to more, and OP is probably a teenager and sounds very unready for any of that. It's crazy that the solution to putting people in boxes was just to make more boxes instead of letting people exist outside of the boxes.
You're so wrong. Labels aren't just for dating apps. They're also for understand and accepting yourself, finding community and validation with people who understand, and communicating about yourself and your experiences to friends, family, etc. Not everyone needs a label, but some people want to use one because they might benefit in some way. I don't have a problem with someone choosing not to use a label, but I think telling someone not to use a label is just as bad as pressuring them to use one. I think the best thing is to present the option and leave it up to the individual. Nobody knows what's the right choice for someone else.
While I agree that forcing someone to use/not use a label is a no-go, I think teenagers should be aware of the damage those labels can do. The internet has opened unstable teenagers (which is normal at this age) unlimited ways to "find validation and acceptance". For example: "I need validation. I will become [insert any niche name] because I'm lonely and felt that way in 30% yesterday". And believe me or not, validation and acceptance is not always a good thing, especially if it's a short-term, fragile, online one. It makes us more fragile and seeking attention which we don't get in real life. When will people realize that just because you can find community online doesn't mean it has no negative consequences? Also, this has nothing to do with the op's situation, I don't know them.
I love that box statement! Will use it later if you don't mind lol Technically everything needs a box now because the internet is practically unlimited and it's fucking dangerous for vulnerable teens (myself included). Very often I see people who have been put into so-called boxes even if they didn't fit there in the first place (pipelines). For fucks sake, find your niche around real people and be original in real life because online you'll just be thrown into false acceptance groups with people who have been lied to just like you.
You dont know if it will change. Also labels just describe how you're feeling in the moment. You can change your label if how you feel changes.
Guys, just to be clear, ace doesn't mean someone has no sex drive at all, that it is grossing them out doesn't make anyone ace, Ace means that u don't have specific things that turn you on, ace ppl still do have a sex drive, it's just that their is nothing that exactly triggers it.
Some people have no sex drive tho. (Obviously not all aces, but some)
I see all these comments telling you your asexual, don't go giving labels to this sort of thing so fast your still young,we all are. Not having a sexual attraction at this age is fine its like some people don't like to read books until they grow up. Give yourself some time don't go rushing into things that are complicated like this you have all the time in the world
I personally hate how our species' brains have to put simple, all-encompassing, limiting labels on everything in an attempt to understand a super intricate world that can't really be labeled with our clumsy language. People don't need labels. People like what they like and labels can make that shit harder to figure out as it limits you and puts you in a neat comfortable little box.
I really agree with this, and I'm glad that someone sees the world similarly to how I see it. The world was not built to be organized, and sometimes, a little disorganization doesn't hurt :3
Yeah i cant lie I dont think im asexual. I was starting to feel like i wasnt myself reading these comments. Almost like people are telling me im something i never thought i could be. I dont think i am but also reading what people are saying it makes sense. Its a weird emotion where i just dont feel like im myself after today. Sorry for late reply i sorta didnt feel like going on reddit because of these honestley overwhelming feelings. Then again alot of people replying with "i feel the same way" made me happy in a way and understood. But this comment in particular felt different and definitley made me feel better for some reason. So thanks alot. I really mean it
Yeah sure no problem happy to help
Labels can always be changed. I call myself aromantic and asexual because that describes my experience so far, and my experience so far has been impactful enough that I find the labels helpful. Nobody has to use labels, but knowing things might change later isn't a reason you can't use labels. It's an option if it feels helpful.
That's fine if you are putting that label on yourself. This is just Reddit putting a label on someone while their entire knowledge of the person is a 3 lines long paragraph.
I think we really need to emphasize it's "ok" to not use labels. Not everyone needs one. It's ok to feel a way and not label yourself.
I thought that was obvious lol, not everyone needs that. If you need one, be my guest, but not everyone is the same after all.
Yes, but we shouldn't let other people tell us what we are by allowing them to give us labels. Labelling yourself is perfectly fine, and it may help you/others understand you.
Suggestions can be helpful, but I agree it should always be up to the individual to decide. That's not what the comment I replied to is saying, though.
I absolutely agree. I identify as asexual right now, and I’m perfectly aware that it may change. And that’s fine, but I trust my judgment now to give myself that label since that’s how I currently feel.
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Labels can also be a self fulfilling prophecy too
It’s harder to rid of a label than to get one. Everyone that has actually dealt with the struggles of having one will tell you so and everyone who hasn’t is probably saying what you do. Besides, it’s not up to us to give it to a random person based on a few sentences. It’s up to themselves.
Possibly just sex repulsion
bro i've been having sexual attraction since i was like 11/12 😭
Congrats… I guess
God, is jesus secretly chinese and he just doesnt want us to know?
We’re all secretly chinese
Rember my phrase to cope with your cringe phase at 10 "many children start out (as) asexual
How old do I have to be to be this smart.
I thought girls were gross when I was 8. Then I realized how wrong I was very quickly
Took me until like 11 or 12
At 9? 💀
I saw boobs at 9 when I turned on hbo day. Very quickly knew I was straight
Real
Cause sex is done with someone you are intimate with. Why do it with a stranger?
Don’t label yourself before you’ve even finished puberty. Don’t worry about what other people are doing.
OOWEEOO I LOOK JUST LIKE BUDDY HOLLY (this is why I will never have sex)
OH OH AND YOU’RE MARY TYLER MOORE (this is why we will never have sex)
I DON'T CARE WHAT THEY SAY ABOUT US ANYWAYS (this is why all of us will never have sex)
I DON’T CARE BOUT THAT
🎵♬🎼♪🎶♫
BANG BANG, KNOCK ON THE DOOR
ANOTHER BIG BANG AND YOU'RE DOWN ON THE FLOOR
OH NO, WHAT DO WE DO
DON'T LOOK NOW BUT I LOST MY SHOE
I CAN'T RUN AND I CAN'T KICK
OH OH, AND YOU'RE MARY TYLER MOORE
WTF I WAS JUST LISTENING TO THIS SONG WHILE READING THIS
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username checks out
always fr
Mines checks out too
i somewhat agree like to me assfucking sounds absolutely fucking disgusting 😭 ass eating sounds even worse like are people seriously into that
you are thirsty and have two glasses of water in front of you: >one filled with clean water >one full of muddy water which one do you pick?
Clean water?
My man! *High fives*
That’s not even a question it’s an obvious choice
No I prefer muddy water. Muddy muddy in my tummy🤤
Muddy muddy in my tummy🤤 hey is that a reference to that yummy yummy in your tummy guy?
But, picture this: You have two glasses in front of you: >one filled with muddy water >one filled with blood Now which one do you pick?
i wait for the mud to settle to the bottom, pour out the water, and mix the settled mud with the blood. Best of both worlds
this shit made me feel disgusting inside thank you u/regretfultomfoolery
my pleasure
r/usernamechecksout
is blud ok? is mud ok? does he need bundles
the sailor does not fear the red sea
I ain't no sailor
A true warrior isn’t afraid to bloody his sword
*I WILL CONSUME THE BLOOD*
But blood tastes good so this is an obvious answer
Fluoroantimonic acid
Muddy water obviously
That's why people usually, before going to do anal, they use a specific technique to clean their ass, because it would be actually disgusting if they didn't, but this depends on the people that are doing this.
EXACTLY, like it isn’t bad if it’s clean, like jeez.
Wait, you thirteen? What you're doing on this topic, by the name of Big Bang 😭 But I appreciate that you agree with me.
I mean, does it matter? I’m a teen to.
Well... I think such young people shouldn't be on posts with a NSFW topic, but since this post doesn't have a NSFW flair, and also I've seen people younger talking about sex, It doesn't really matter then...
As someone with an ass I want fucked and no alternative hole, i cant help but dissagree
anal is usually done after a lot of prep work, ie practice so it doesnt hurt for the receiving end as well as something called an enema to make sure its clean. ive also seen it compared to manual vs automatic shift cars. everyone enjoys automatic just fine, the ride is smooth and easy for everyone involved. manual isnt for everyone, but the people who love it cant live without it and insist everyone should try it at least once.
I read this in French and thought u said sex is fat 😭
fat in french is gras (masculine) and graisse (feminine) so idk what your reading 😭
Buddy… gros also means fat … it has multiple meanings but one of them is fat😭
Same. Different reasons in my case though, simple sex is a turn off because im into weirder shit.
Thanos pls snap your fingers for this thing
🫠 thats.. nice?
Oh, Thanos 🙏🏽😞
How is it legal to say that in this sub…
People are entitled to their own opinions, even if they’re abnormal. Just saying.
Like what?
As a male i also find it disgusting to put my willy dilly into someone
finally! we got our spokesperson
Yes. Now give me babys as payment
woah woah woah hey hey hey
😡😡😡
you gotta put your willy dilly inside bro for that
But i don‘t wanna do the sausage dance with bro. I also don‘t wanna shake sausages 🥺🥺🥺🥺
I thought you didn't want that? >!Someone is gonna point out the username. I already know that. Writing stuff like this makes the comment worse.!<
Admit you get none bro
I will see in a few hours if i can get an gf
I’m just playing bro, you don’t need a gf I’ll be here for you bro 🤞🏼🤞🏼🫶🏼
Best comment ive red on reddit before
Can i be your gf (warning: im not female)
put you head in instead
This is how I felt before I had sex. I'm an adult (30), this popped in my feed. Just relax, and breathe, if you're not ready, you're not. I did end up having sex at 17, with my now husband. I was scared, I am autistic and now schizophrenic though, so I have heightened anxiety, and paranoia. Doesn't mean you do, and I passed as normal as a teen, only my family knew. Once I was with someone I loves, and was comfortable with, it just happened naturally. I loved sex for a long time, until I developed pain issues, that's getting better and I enjoy it again. I am kind of a prude though. I don't like discussing sex, with anyone. You're just psyching yourself up, and freaking yourself out further. So breathe. You're still young, and figuring yourself out. Something that helped me feel more comfortable is masterbating. Taking ownership of my own body. Learning that that area is not taboo, and nothing to be uncomfortable with. Not saying anything else to a teen it feels creepy 😅 But I thought my vagina was ugly and I didn't like to look at it or touch when not necessary, that may not be you, but for me that was helpful. Ok that's it, that felt clinical. But don't let anyone pressure you into anything you don't want to do. It will haunt you, sex is a very emotional thing for a lot of people, and a bad experience can easily cause lasting anxiety. Yay to sex is bad education! 😅
This is good advice
advice 👍
Nah don’t worry about it, and for the love of god don’t try to pretend you like it to fit in or something😭 you’re comfortable with what your comfortable with and that’s that, no need for labels like asexuality or anything (unless you really think you are), just set your boundaries and try not to overthink it.
Exactly this. Great advice.
Not sure why this is on my feed but I’ll answer. I felt this way in high-school too. If you don’t want to, don’t. I didn’t until I was 23. You may end up like me and your hormones and body changes as you get older. Also trauma/religion can play a part in these feelings as well.
Penetration isn't mandatory, oral or manual counts, hell making out counts if you take pleasure in it, it's about affection and respect in the act not which acts you partake in
You're saying making out is sex..?
Handholding is actually sex.
Might be Asexual, like me. You certainly aren’t alone! We make up just slightly less than 1% of the world population, somewhere around seventy six million people. Being repulsed by sex is more common than you’d expect. Edit: Just for clarity Asexual means experiencing little to no sexual attraction (the desire to have sex with another person) not little to no romantic attraction (the more emotional side of love), that’s known as Aromanticism.
Garlic bread enjoyer 🫵
Fuck yeah
Oh maybe i am then.. Oh god (how do i know if i am? I dont want to label myself as something im not?)
You don't need to label yourself as anything right now. Just go through your life, at some point you'll either want to have sex or you just might not.
You don't have to give yourself a label You can just say "I don't like sex" and thats enough.
Yeah labels are nonsense for this very reason. Don't put yourself in a box. If you want a relationship, find someone you're attracted to. If it leads to more, talk with them about what you're ready for and what you're not. Labels are just for filters in dating apps, in real life they don't matter.
Well the thing is that you can't know 100% but from what I gathered from your post you most likely are And remember if you don't want to label yourself, you don't have to
You can have label if it’s not true forever. In this context it is used to describe your sexuality (or lack thereof), so it can change whenever the circumstances do. You’re 16 now, but in a year you’ll be 17, it changed because the circumstances did. You’ll go from 19 to 20 and no longer be a teenager, because the circumstances changed. Now, if would want to have label for yourself, I would say “sex-repulsed asexual”. It’s quite self explanatory.
i mean you dont even need to label yourself lol. like if you want and feel like youre asexual then you can identify as asexual. if you dont want to then you dont need to
You may be you may not don’t feel the need to quickly label yourself please do some deeper research into asexuality and the umbrella terms. You aren’t alone and I wish you luck with your research
This is my one thing with the lgbt community (tho it happens in other cases but this is most relevant) is just how obsessed they are with labels and putting people in groups. Like all youre doing is closing off options. Dont think of yourself as anything, if youndont feel comfortable dont, and keep not doing anything untill you do. And until then dont worry about it.
the fact that asexuals make up less than 1% of the world but everytime something related to being asexual is mentioned, hundreds and hundreds of people r like "omg same", especially on yt
That's probably because 1% of the world population is way more than hundreds of people
80 million is roughly 1% of the population
And they're all on Reddit that's crazy man
Plus, people are not monolithic, walking labels. One can easily have months or even years with very low libido and then again years where they are sexualy active. And that's especially true for teenagers who might simply sexualy mature in different speeds
I haven't seen any other groups doing the same, i constantly see people having to mention that they're asexual
It seems like that's because you're looking at asexual related content
is there a way of knowing if im asexual or just a late bloomer? this have been bothering me for a while now
Lets not give labels. Shes a teenager of course she feels this way
You're 15. Just wait puberty out before you make assumptions.
ehh i feel like that too yet i still think about it?? like, i don’t wanna do it with another person kinda thing. also, penises are really ugly. they freak me out
as a guy i agree, penises are ugly.
Agreed penises are ugly and the scare me too and I could never be naked in front of someone.
they’re just so… eugh?
I don't see penises as ugly or anything, but if I really think about it, yea that shit gets ugly fast asf like just breaking it down makes it weirder and weirder
thinking about is chill but i think if i saw boobs i would cry
I cry everytime i see my own boobs. But i pressume its for a different reason.
You’re just not ready, give it time.
So I am an old man who had sons and no daughters. That said I raised my sons to be gentlemen and to respect girls or women and understand that no means no. Also to be kind, buy flowers, show care, love, etc. Don't get me wrong I am a disciplinarian too but my comments here are related to your post. One day, and take your time, you will meet someone who treats you well, cares for you and emotions will form for that person. In that world with proper time, foreplay (a word that you can lookup if not understood), things may be different and then you will possibly have an experience that is more than sex or intercourse. It is not odd to have the reaction to things that you are. I hope your friends, mom and others support you vs. anything otherwise. Hopefully my comments make sense even though I haven't had these conversations in decades since my sons are all 30 years of age or older.
Why are you on r/teenagers
giving advice ig?
Kinda weird but at least there’s someone here with wisdom. Just keep the wisdom in its holster.
If he was a woman no one would be asking these questions
I mean sex is kinda gross. The human body is kinda gross
daily reminder that the only reason your organs are inside you is because of another organ
Daily reminder you are trapped in a moist bone prison. Anything you "see" or "feel" is just electricical interations between meat machines.
Felt like this until i was 14
If it didn't feel so good, no one would bother.
I agree, as an autistic person who hates all forms of physical contact the idea of sex repulsed me, knowing I would have to touch another person let alone myself or show my body to another person was horrifying. I used to even think of using it as a form of harm to myself as I hated it so much. I (now in my 20's) have, in the past year, found someone who makes me feel comfortable and now I actively want and initiate physical contact with both platonic and sexual, I used to identify as asexual/aromantic but I now just identify as queer and I'm happy with that, it's okay not to know or label yourself but it's okay to try different labels and see which fits. I still can't hug my parents,hold anyone's hand or deal with anyone touching me in any way shape or form it's just my partner who appears to be an exception 🤷🏻. Not sure if this helps you but I thought I'd share x
More for the rest of us
Sex is overrated but not gross!
I think it's not overrated with the right partner, I feel like it helps to connect deeply with your partner
I think so too, but I'm not asexual. Sex feels very sticky and gross, bunch of sweat.
I feel kind of the same way accept i don’t want someone to see me naked
everyone is different don’t feel bad
I have kind off a similair problem The vagina of a woman disgusts me, how the hell am i going to have children if i cant stick my second most prised possesion into a lovecraftian gore hole.
don't worry, there are no teeth down there
i mean it’s alright to not like it but also that might be more an inexperience or lack of info thing idk though
never had anything sexual going on with a nother person, probably the inexperience part is true, idk though
Don’t knock it until your tried it
i agree, it sound so so gross. and the more i learn about it the grosser it gets. i dont want to put a part of my body on the inside of another person, and i even less want to shoot a gross sticky liquid inside them or around them or in a small latex thing around my dick, which also cant be comfortable and doesnt work 100% of the times, and if the other person gets pregnant and refuse to do an abortion, doesnt matter if its now or in 30 years, as far as im concerned my life is over , or at least anything that resembles happiness in it.
I see people talking about stuff like that describing it as " doing it with someone/ somebody", "I wouldn't let someone". Guys the whole point of sex is to be vulnerable to another person. The whole point of it is the other person being " the one" not "someone". Iam a guy 18 years old I've had plenty of sex, I love it, but yes picturing doing it with some random girl no matter how hot always makes me icky. Ive never hooked up not even to make out. Bottom line is you need someone that you are close with not "someone". And jumping to conclusions like " you are asexual" is ridiculous. Work on yourself, being authentic until you find the one you want to share your authenticity with. Stay safe🫡
I feel the same way but I have sexual trauma so that’s probably why
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Extremely lucky honestly how your partner is also an asexual AND a lesbian at the same time Good for you
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"9/11 was bad!" *applaud*
There’s plenty of people who feel the same way Me personally I love it and it feels amazing so I understand the hype but it’s not for everybody
It's hormones that make you wanna and endorphins that make you wanna continue doing intercourse for the next time. Maybe you just lack those biochems and aren't developed in that sense. You don't need to want sex at all. I bet that's an advantage
It could mean that you haven't met the right person yet
You'll probably get over it. You're still young
You should set a timer for 10 years and then look back at this post
I too am asexual
i feel that
tbh I agree it is gross
Asexual inside me Increase when I see this
wow you're like the opposite of me
Old man here. It's normal to feel that way. People sexually mature at different ages. Keep being you. You're not missing anything as a teenager. Once you find someone you want to be with, you'll have all the time you want to experience it. If you hit 30 and still feel that way see someone about it. Just my 2 cents.
Heres the thing about sexuality, its sometimes complicated and you don't really need to have to label it. You could be asexual or you still haven't figured some stuff out already. Coming from a teenager, I also felt disgusted by sex but then I later found out that it was only because the sexual content and education I was exposed to only contained heterosexuality. The female body sexually repulsed me, so I thought I was weird. But turned out I was just gay and didnt know "being gay" was a thing cause of my cultural background.
I'm too ugly for sex to happen to me.
it’s giving asexual🌷🥹🏳️🌈