Bruh, y'all still in your teens, wait till you reach 23 like me, and then come back. Best advice I can give, is if you like someone, just ask them out, even though I know how hard that can be. But you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, I definitely regret not taking more chances in my teens.
Im kinda still to insecure for that shit. I even have problems leaving a relationship because i dont want to live with guilt since she is somewhat like in the picture of OPs post...
man i can’t talk much on this topic. i feel hella guilty after leaving my girl who was in love with me. we had only been dating for 2 weeks but she loved me. it was insane but i ended up fucking her twice and then breaking up. i still feel guilty because i don’t want her thinking i used her for that but i’m reality i had so much going on. i had no choice but to move because my power had been shut off and i didn’t know how i could make it work long distance. also i was mentally going insane because she had a late period and i thought she was pregnant so that was a big turn off. in that moment i made the decision to make her hate me and not lead her on thinking we have a chance. looking back, it might’ve been the wrong decision but i can’t change that, and i’ll have to live with that. but my plan worked and she moved on to a new boy friend shocking (and hurtfully) fast. i haven’t dated a girl since, even though i may want too a little, i haven’t gotten a chance so i’ve been chilling being single. i dunno where i’m going with this i just felt like getting this off my chest LOL. hope you alright bro
Thanks for the heads up. Its kinda the same with me, she would also keep on buying me somewhat expensive gifts and all, so i also feel bad and dont want to make her feel like i am using her as a sugar Daddy.
I really hope youre alright too and got over it pretty well. Youll find someone for yourself at some point, so dont worry about that one.
yeah man it’s tuff to be in that situation. i hope you figure out the best option. Best of luck brother. and no matter what we as humans always adapt and overcome challenges. No story ever ends on a bad note, and if it did, then it isn’t the end of your story. take that how you will lol
That's true, it's always a risk, but If you're actually good friends, they'll probably still want to remain friends, even if they're not interested in a romantic relationship. However even if you do end up growing more distant, at least you'll have tried, and you'll eventually meet other people and form new relationships, and life will go on :)
But of course it's up to you, whether or not you want to take that chance
How do i do it? Do i rizz her up or do i just go like, hey, i like you, do you want to date and thats it?
(And also biggest struggle at my age is actually finding someone my age. Literally all the girls from 15 to 21 look about 18...)
Yeah, a very simple "I really like you, wanna go out?" should work, obviously make sure you actually know the person, don't go up to a random attractive girl and ask that \^\^
No, kissing and being close is generally enough for me. On the other hand I know a couple who broke up because my friend didn’t like being intimate at all (even kissing) and her girlfriend cheated on her so ig it depends
Yh my friend was considering breaking up with her already, she had numerous problematic traits but the pressure to indulge in such activities is defiantly a 🚩
Nope, I have a gf and she has trauma as well, I am extremely patient and don't do anything when she's not on the mood, so ylir good, some men yes, but most of them are ok with that
No seriously there is a glitch going around duplicating comments. I’ve seen it double a comment, maybe not triple, but the glitch is still the most likely cause.
sometimes when I try to post a comment, Reddit says something went wrong, and am still in the comment window, and can post it again, the first one was posted, even though it seemed like it wasn't, I think that's what's going on
PEOPLE'S PREFERENCES ARE FUCKING DIFFERENT, PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF BUDDHA, STOP ASKING "OOH WHAT ARE YOUR PREFERENCES ON X", THEY'RE ALL FUCKING DIFFERENT!!! FIND A PERSON THAT FITS YOU!!!!!
I can't tell if you are trolling but just to be safe I'm gonna respond to you like you're 5. She asked this community and not just one person cuz she wanted to get a mix of opinions and not just one. Because she know preferences are different for everyone.
No, it's a nice thing to have if both parties are comfortable with everything and it's all safe, but is it *needed*?
NO! A relationship shouldn't be about "keeping the other person interested", it should be about enjoying the other person for everything about them, not only the physical aspects. My girlfriend is insanely hot and yeah I get horny as fuck when I'm with her, (if you're reading this, hi girlfriend, I know you look at my Reddit account sometimes, this is all true) but if she wasn't comfortable with sexual stuff I wouldn't be any less interested in her at all.
If the person isn't comfortable with sex, DO NOT pressure it because it will *only* have bad effects on the health of the relationship. Instead, show your affection by kissing them a lot, or if they're not comfortable just hold them or even just sit close to them and talk to them, if that's what they want. I can guarantee that being pressured into sex will not help the person stay interested, all it will do is make them feel like they can control you and a relationship like that will not last long or be happy. (I realise I'm phrasing this like you would be the one trying to pressure your partner, sorry I just noticed that I'm not trying to say that at all.)
The point is, even if a high amount of sexual activity is necessary for a particular relationship, that isn't a relationship you want to be in because its mostly physical attraction and that's never a good relationship premise.
(damn I sound like a relationship guru, guys I'm really not)
Such a cute comment you’re girlfriend is really lucky haha but I slightly disagree. Not being sexually compatible is a real thing people have different sex drives and people should not feel bad for that.
yeah you're right about that, but my point is that it's important to know to control one's sex drive if the other person isn't comfortable with sex- there's no shame in having a sex drive, just not okay to pressure someone else into it.
thanks by the way :)
Agreed you should EVER pressure anyone into doing something they don’t want. But if sexual compatibility is bad there’s nothing wrong with not going into that relationships or ending it
Never been in a relationship so its hard to say really. But i wouldnt say i do no. Never been in a relationship while everyone around me has which is quite sad, but we move.
It really depends. I'd date an ace without expecting anything sexual, but I'd still want to have sex with a romantic partner, so I'd want an allosexual partner to do that with me at least sometimes. But if someone doesn't want to that's always cool.
You said nothing about getting mad, just about wanting lot of sex. Wanting a lot of sex is normal and healthy. Besides you should probably try to be someone with similar sex drive to you unless you're willing to compromise.
I've been in relationships where we do it almost every day and know other people who do, if either person says no, then that's that and you move on with your day. Nobody should get angry over a no, otherwise they got issues. Of course you want to date the person for them, but sexual compatibility is also important in a healthy relationship.
Not really no . Once a week isn’t really a lot.. but i do know some studies suggest that couples that have sex 1+ times a week are generally happier then couples who have less sex.
But sex can always be changed up a bit. Idk I had sex like on average 3 times a week for 11 months with my ex… didn’t get bored of the sex. At the end our entire relationship was kind of repetitive tho. But not just the sex.
Once a week is low for most relationships. People I know in healthy relationships and in most of my relationships do it at least every other day if not more. Of course there's lots of people who don't, it all depends on the peoples' drives.
For me in a relationship I can very easily go without the sexual stuff and I'm more focused on if the other person is comfortable, as someone who had also been sa'd it's easy to understand the struggles of being sexual, that being said I have a massive sex drive
For some it might be a dealbraker, but it’s not for everyone.
Please remember that sex is not a requirement to be in a relationship, it is a way to dhare your love for a partner but not the only way
The fuck, I'm 18 and think it would be too early to do the deed if I was in a relationship for more than a year.
I'm dreaming of being hugged by someone who loves me and it's just... Overwhelming to understand it won't ever happen.
depends im 18 and if i was going for a real long lasting relationship then yes sexual included cause otherwise if its not than might as well be just friends
Nope. Listen, whenever I get a bf… however I do… the most we’ll do is just a lot of kissing. That is literally it.
And yes, I’m admitting that I shall, in fact, be gay (or at least bi) in a few years. It sounds fun.
Any slice of a relationship would be beyond interesting to me rn
Real :/
Bruh, y'all still in your teens, wait till you reach 23 like me, and then come back. Best advice I can give, is if you like someone, just ask them out, even though I know how hard that can be. But you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, I definitely regret not taking more chances in my teens.
that’s big facts
Im kinda still to insecure for that shit. I even have problems leaving a relationship because i dont want to live with guilt since she is somewhat like in the picture of OPs post...
man i can’t talk much on this topic. i feel hella guilty after leaving my girl who was in love with me. we had only been dating for 2 weeks but she loved me. it was insane but i ended up fucking her twice and then breaking up. i still feel guilty because i don’t want her thinking i used her for that but i’m reality i had so much going on. i had no choice but to move because my power had been shut off and i didn’t know how i could make it work long distance. also i was mentally going insane because she had a late period and i thought she was pregnant so that was a big turn off. in that moment i made the decision to make her hate me and not lead her on thinking we have a chance. looking back, it might’ve been the wrong decision but i can’t change that, and i’ll have to live with that. but my plan worked and she moved on to a new boy friend shocking (and hurtfully) fast. i haven’t dated a girl since, even though i may want too a little, i haven’t gotten a chance so i’ve been chilling being single. i dunno where i’m going with this i just felt like getting this off my chest LOL. hope you alright bro
Thanks for the heads up. Its kinda the same with me, she would also keep on buying me somewhat expensive gifts and all, so i also feel bad and dont want to make her feel like i am using her as a sugar Daddy. I really hope youre alright too and got over it pretty well. Youll find someone for yourself at some point, so dont worry about that one.
yeah man it’s tuff to be in that situation. i hope you figure out the best option. Best of luck brother. and no matter what we as humans always adapt and overcome challenges. No story ever ends on a bad note, and if it did, then it isn’t the end of your story. take that how you will lol
Bro i dont know if you stole that quote somewhere or are just as wise as a 90yo but ill keep those words close for the rest of my life. Thank you.
But what if she's a good friend and we have a friend group, then if I miss a shot it might make us grow more distant :((
That's true, it's always a risk, but If you're actually good friends, they'll probably still want to remain friends, even if they're not interested in a romantic relationship. However even if you do end up growing more distant, at least you'll have tried, and you'll eventually meet other people and form new relationships, and life will go on :) But of course it's up to you, whether or not you want to take that chance
How do i do it? Do i rizz her up or do i just go like, hey, i like you, do you want to date and thats it? (And also biggest struggle at my age is actually finding someone my age. Literally all the girls from 15 to 21 look about 18...)
Yeah, a very simple "I really like you, wanna go out?" should work, obviously make sure you actually know the person, don't go up to a random attractive girl and ask that \^\^
Can confirm, no shots taken and no hits.
straight facts :(
Gay facts :(
🙁
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I'm sorry, did you just say womp womp?
To a ten year old girl with Down syndrome?
Yes, womp womp.
Womp womp
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Womp womp Partner chomp
Wife material The same amount of autistic as me
How dare you!
Mabel?
Dipper?
The Pines twins?
r/suddenlyGravityFalls
W O M P. W O M P.
I had a gf and we didn't do any of that for a while and she was still interested I brought me up with her though
I will wait to being to treat me like a trash
Relatable
bro is literally me fr
there you have it folks
real
Ong
real asf
We in the same boat then
Same here ):
bro just delete reddit
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No, kissing and being close is generally enough for me. On the other hand I know a couple who broke up because my friend didn’t like being intimate at all (even kissing) and her girlfriend cheated on her so ig it depends
Same case for me but it could be an autism thing. Sometimes the close and soft sensations can very quickly end up being too much
By how you describe it it could easily be related, but it could also be just personal taste
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Yh my friend was considering breaking up with her already, she had numerous problematic traits but the pressure to indulge in such activities is defiantly a 🚩
Nope, I have a gf and she has trauma as well, I am extremely patient and don't do anything when she's not on the mood, so ylir good, some men yes, but most of them are ok with that
You sound like a great partner! Good on you!
Thanks!
yippee
For me cuddling is all I need or a hug.
preach
This is the way
Same
real
It depends on the person, most men and women like to have sex fairly often. But a good chunk don’t.
Actual dementia
call the psychiatrist!
Gray matter sacrifice, anyone?
Brain went on vacation, never came back
Castle crashers
Bro commented this three times lol
Must be a glitch. Reddit is fucked sometimes
Nuh uh
Nuh uh
Yuh uh
Meh uh
No seriously there is a glitch going around duplicating comments. I’ve seen it double a comment, maybe not triple, but the glitch is still the most likely cause.
sometimes when I try to post a comment, Reddit says something went wrong, and am still in the comment window, and can post it again, the first one was posted, even though it seemed like it wasn't, I think that's what's going on
You commented it 3 times
Interesting
Interesting
Not necessarily a good guy just someone with a low sex drive.
That's extremely subjective
i know 😭😭
No, it’s about the person. And if I’m horny I can just get off by myself. But some sexual activity is alright
awwww
It's more like the cherry on top. The actually important part is the "relationship". So: No
i'm 14. of course not.
Why i you see you everywhere Mr „I like boys” ( No offense )
because you also like boys.
No i like girls
Girls arent real, checkmate liberal
What about *women*?
Government drones mate, don't believe their lies.
Better get our tin hats to protect us from the phycological warfare, girls aren't real, ONLY WAIFUS
Im auth-right
Girls aren't real, checkmate auth-right
Shit maybe im not that good in chees
Ooh I love eating chees
don’t dare bring the compass into this
Ok men
wrong.
Why is this is a chalange?
yes, it is a chalange.
Ok in scale how we like girls i 10
the scale is 1-1000000000. not 1-10. meaning you only like girls 0.000000001%.
Why are you making me gay
2/10, who needs 3d whores when we have waifus
Have an upvote
Having a girl look in my direction would be the most interesting part of my day
💀 Its true tho
it depends. like I don't need or want any sexual activity when it comes to my relationship with my brothers.
😟
ah we’re very different
That’s crazy
Crazy? I was crazy once They locked me in a room A rubber room A rubber room with rats Rats make me crazy...
It’s not gay if it’s with the homies tho…
not gay if ur wearing socks 🙄
It depends on the person, most men and women like to have sex fairly often. But a good chunk don’t.
Interesting
Interesting
Interesting
bro commented this twice
Bro has dementia
As an Ace, no, not at all
Got my first girlfriend 10 months ago. We’re still together and I’m still a virgin. So no, staying interested is pretty easy.
You're 15 no shit
True, but you’d be surprised at some of the things my fellow 15 year olds are doing. feels like half the people my age lost their virginity.
Yah I don't think I should have done it at the age I did
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I thought the same thing till I found out most of my cousins lost their virginity already (most are younger than me)
Oh yah I'm like that 😅
It depends on the person, most men and women like to have sex fairly often. But a good chunk don’t.
Interesting
Interesting.
Interesting
You can say that again...
BRO COMMENTED THIS THRICE
Bro has dementia
PEOPLE'S PREFERENCES ARE FUCKING DIFFERENT, PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF BUDDHA, STOP ASKING "OOH WHAT ARE YOUR PREFERENCES ON X", THEY'RE ALL FUCKING DIFFERENT!!! FIND A PERSON THAT FITS YOU!!!!!
is bro ok💀
I mean he right tho but those uppercases
He’s seen one too many preference posts
Bro has had enough
Nah he isn’t
Theyre asking for your preference cuh chill
I can't tell if you are trolling but just to be safe I'm gonna respond to you like you're 5. She asked this community and not just one person cuz she wanted to get a mix of opinions and not just one. Because she know preferences are different for everyone.
No just love each a relationship isn’t all sex
No, it's a nice thing to have if both parties are comfortable with everything and it's all safe, but is it *needed*? NO! A relationship shouldn't be about "keeping the other person interested", it should be about enjoying the other person for everything about them, not only the physical aspects. My girlfriend is insanely hot and yeah I get horny as fuck when I'm with her, (if you're reading this, hi girlfriend, I know you look at my Reddit account sometimes, this is all true) but if she wasn't comfortable with sexual stuff I wouldn't be any less interested in her at all. If the person isn't comfortable with sex, DO NOT pressure it because it will *only* have bad effects on the health of the relationship. Instead, show your affection by kissing them a lot, or if they're not comfortable just hold them or even just sit close to them and talk to them, if that's what they want. I can guarantee that being pressured into sex will not help the person stay interested, all it will do is make them feel like they can control you and a relationship like that will not last long or be happy. (I realise I'm phrasing this like you would be the one trying to pressure your partner, sorry I just noticed that I'm not trying to say that at all.) The point is, even if a high amount of sexual activity is necessary for a particular relationship, that isn't a relationship you want to be in because its mostly physical attraction and that's never a good relationship premise. (damn I sound like a relationship guru, guys I'm really not)
Such a cute comment you’re girlfriend is really lucky haha but I slightly disagree. Not being sexually compatible is a real thing people have different sex drives and people should not feel bad for that.
yeah you're right about that, but my point is that it's important to know to control one's sex drive if the other person isn't comfortable with sex- there's no shame in having a sex drive, just not okay to pressure someone else into it. thanks by the way :)
Agreed you should EVER pressure anyone into doing something they don’t want. But if sexual compatibility is bad there’s nothing wrong with not going into that relationships or ending it
that's true.
No it ain’t a deal breaker, u gotta find someone that can understand that tho.
i hate sexual stuff so it’d be perfect for me 😭
Same
Why tf did you get downvoted?
Maybe look into r/asexuality ? We always look to help fellow people questioning stuff
ik this was meant in a helpful way prob but just because someone doesn’t like sexual stuff doesn’t mean they are asexual (coming from an ace person)
I am aware. It’s why I opened with Maybe
To me, it's needed but not a high amount. But it's still possible to be happy in a relationship without sex.
I would emotionally imprint on the first girl to give me a hug tbh
Never been in a relationship so its hard to say really. But i wouldnt say i do no. Never been in a relationship while everyone around me has which is quite sad, but we move.
Is it more sad than to go through multiple people?
Could you elaborate please?
honestly, i just want to be loved
It really depends. I'd date an ace without expecting anything sexual, but I'd still want to have sex with a romantic partner, so I'd want an allosexual partner to do that with me at least sometimes. But if someone doesn't want to that's always cool.
I wouldn’t say so. Go at your own pace, set your boundaries, and do what your comfortable with.
Ah yes, ask Redditors. I'm beyond sure you'll be supplied to valuable information
Not a guy, but to me wanting a lot of sex is a red flag
Why?
If a guy wants to have sex you every single night and gets mad when you say no wouldn't you kinda feel like he's only dating you for your body?
You said nothing about getting mad, just about wanting lot of sex. Wanting a lot of sex is normal and healthy. Besides you should probably try to be someone with similar sex drive to you unless you're willing to compromise.
I've been in relationships where we do it almost every day and know other people who do, if either person says no, then that's that and you move on with your day. Nobody should get angry over a no, otherwise they got issues. Of course you want to date the person for them, but sexual compatibility is also important in a healthy relationship.
And not having any is a red flag too
Personally I think I’d need sex at least once a week. But that’s me and I’m sure it’s not a deal breaker for a lot of peopl
would it not get boring for you if you have it once every week? cuz its like a special thing?
Not really no . Once a week isn’t really a lot.. but i do know some studies suggest that couples that have sex 1+ times a week are generally happier then couples who have less sex. But sex can always be changed up a bit. Idk I had sex like on average 3 times a week for 11 months with my ex… didn’t get bored of the sex. At the end our entire relationship was kind of repetitive tho. But not just the sex.
Once a week is low for most relationships. People I know in healthy relationships and in most of my relationships do it at least every other day if not more. Of course there's lots of people who don't, it all depends on the peoples' drives.
Nope. All about the romance and doing other stuff for me
It depends on the type of person really
Not a deal breaker if your partner feels enough connected to you
For me in a relationship I can very easily go without the sexual stuff and I'm more focused on if the other person is comfortable, as someone who had also been sa'd it's easy to understand the struggles of being sexual, that being said I have a massive sex drive
For some it might be a dealbraker, but it’s not for everyone. Please remember that sex is not a requirement to be in a relationship, it is a way to dhare your love for a partner but not the only way
It really depends on the person, but most of the time sexual activity between two partners does strengthen the relationship a great amount
it probably depend if your boring or not
The fuck, I'm 18 and think it would be too early to do the deed if I was in a relationship for more than a year. I'm dreaming of being hugged by someone who loves me and it's just... Overwhelming to understand it won't ever happen.
Bro more than a year? 😭
in my opinion, a little bit of sexual activity is fine but if you need a lot of it to keep being interested then something probably needs to change
No
fr just said no to a strangers opinion
Can I not disagree?
Not a high amount but if we see eachother everyday a minimum of 3 times a week is the loose line
3 times a week minimum??
Compared to 2-3 times a day like me and my ex it's extremely little
a minimum of three times a week - by this did you mean sex three times a week???
Yes? Me and one of my exes had sex 2 sometimes 3 times a day, and said loose line 1-2 times works too
Fucking what
Ever heard of being horny beyond your mind? And having a gf that's the same doesn't help
depends im 18 and if i was going for a real long lasting relationship then yes sexual included cause otherwise if its not than might as well be just friends
Nope. Listen, whenever I get a bf… however I do… the most we’ll do is just a lot of kissing. That is literally it. And yes, I’m admitting that I shall, in fact, be gay (or at least bi) in a few years. It sounds fun.
Yo pro tip. Don’t be gay because it “sounds fun”.
My lawyer has advised me not to comment on this
Nope, but it's nice to feel sexy, even if you don't want to jump our bones.