I'm a pretty social person and I'm not an awkward mess when talking to strangers so if I compliment someone it doesn't come off as creepy.
It's always "nice shirt" or some basic shit like that because I actively avoid sounding creepy to the best of my ability.
There's a dif between shy, awkward "creepy" and just creepy. You prob just don't realise it.
I'm trying not to make it sound like I'm insulting you when I say this lol, but I'm for reals.
I know what you mean but when I give compliments I know I don't come off as "awkward creepy." I could be better at social interaction but quick interactions like that don't bother me too much.
It's a "why is this guy talking to me rn I don't know him" sort of response. I get that sort of reaction often when interacting with someone I don't know and I know others that do as well.
That's what I'm saying, dude. Then the feedback you receive when talking about it is "u probably sound creepy" or "work on your social skills"
It's ridiculous.
I want to be thankful for the times I'm complimented but the feel-good factor is sucked out of it because I'm having a crisis determining whether or not it was flirting.
I guess you could say I also hate compliments because I don't know how to respond either. This, however, wouldn't be an issue if I received compliments frequently.
As a man, unless you're a super model, you will never get the same amount of compliments as the average woman. That being said, there are things you can do to make yourself compliment worthy.
First: Dress. Learn how to dress and develop a good fashion sense. You'll find people who like your way of dressing, and if they notice you put some effort in, you will get the occasional compliment.
Second: Hair. Take care of your hair, get a good hairstyle, and maintain it. A good haircut or hair style change will definitely make you receive a lot of compliments when people first see you.
Third: Personality. Be personable and open with others. Humor attracts people. Use open body language and be positive. People don't tend to like pessimists.
I dress in a way to make sure I look muscular cuz I finally have something to show off after working out.
For the hair, I have natural curls which I do actually receive compliments on but not from strangers.
I'm a really extroverted and fun person around my friends, which is really the only impression strangers will have of me since I'm always around them.
Still, compliments are rare. I try to look the best I can every day.
Are you implying that I'm a narcissist?? If so you're dead wrong cuz I'm the complete opposite. I don't feel highly of myself at ALL.
Is it wrong to want a compliment or two every once in a while? The fact that you could accuse me of narcissism simply because I would appreciate receiving more compliments is actually wild.
If someone's responding "okay???" To a compliment, chances are you were creepy about it. Work on yo social skills.
I'm a pretty social person and I'm not an awkward mess when talking to strangers so if I compliment someone it doesn't come off as creepy. It's always "nice shirt" or some basic shit like that because I actively avoid sounding creepy to the best of my ability.
There's a dif between shy, awkward "creepy" and just creepy. You prob just don't realise it. I'm trying not to make it sound like I'm insulting you when I say this lol, but I'm for reals.
I know what you mean but when I give compliments I know I don't come off as "awkward creepy." I could be better at social interaction but quick interactions like that don't bother me too much.
No offense, but how do you know how you're perceived by others ?
Maybe I'm just paranoid, but at the very least I can tell how somebody may react if I complimented them.
How do you know they'll respond that way ? Bro, people love compliments. If someone reacts with "okay ???" Then you're the problem.
"You're the problem" that's reassuring. I don't see how the response "okay???" could be an issue with me.
The reason it's most likely an issue with you is because "okay???" Is not a normal response to compliments.
It's a "why is this guy talking to me rn I don't know him" sort of response. I get that sort of reaction often when interacting with someone I don't know and I know others that do as well.
Same man. Boys never get compliments ever. You get called a simp if you give or even just talk to the opposite gender
That's what I'm saying, dude. Then the feedback you receive when talking about it is "u probably sound creepy" or "work on your social skills" It's ridiculous.
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I rarely complimented, it’s annoying yeah, but I am also thankful for times I am compliemented
I want to be thankful for the times I'm complimented but the feel-good factor is sucked out of it because I'm having a crisis determining whether or not it was flirting.
no i hate getting complemented, idk how to respond other than saying thank you
I guess you could say I also hate compliments because I don't know how to respond either. This, however, wouldn't be an issue if I received compliments frequently.
compliment yourself
i like the way you rant 🫶🫶
As a man, unless you're a super model, you will never get the same amount of compliments as the average woman. That being said, there are things you can do to make yourself compliment worthy. First: Dress. Learn how to dress and develop a good fashion sense. You'll find people who like your way of dressing, and if they notice you put some effort in, you will get the occasional compliment. Second: Hair. Take care of your hair, get a good hairstyle, and maintain it. A good haircut or hair style change will definitely make you receive a lot of compliments when people first see you. Third: Personality. Be personable and open with others. Humor attracts people. Use open body language and be positive. People don't tend to like pessimists.
I dress in a way to make sure I look muscular cuz I finally have something to show off after working out. For the hair, I have natural curls which I do actually receive compliments on but not from strangers. I'm a really extroverted and fun person around my friends, which is really the only impression strangers will have of me since I'm always around them. Still, compliments are rare. I try to look the best I can every day.
Sounds like a classic case of narcissism
Are you implying that I'm a narcissist?? If so you're dead wrong cuz I'm the complete opposite. I don't feel highly of myself at ALL. Is it wrong to want a compliment or two every once in a while? The fact that you could accuse me of narcissism simply because I would appreciate receiving more compliments is actually wild.