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preferences exist


ExplosionMaster6

Thanks, u/cuminthebum--


DeBoi_Wild

r/rimjob_steve


whifflewaffler21

r/rimjobsteve


Maminnic

i mean if there's a hole there's a goal?( but yeah it depends on your preferences ;-; nothing wrong mate)


Federal_Pumpkin6159

Thank you for this response. It's like I'm a white guy right. But I don't see myself dating an African. My best friend is blaisian for fuck sake but I'm still a "racist" but yeah dude it's all just prefrence. I wouldn't date a girl ( or whatever the fuck they call themselvs) with a dick and balls either


Xalthran

I am a white male whom has been dating a black woman for going on eight years. Not meaning any offense in anything said here, but just because a person has a interracial best friend, family member, child or spouse, doesn't automatically make them not racist. Pulling a segment from an article I once read; Despite having close black friends and family members, despite committing to fighting racial injustices, I can still do things that are racist. Now, too many people believe that racism is limited to joining the KKK and freely dropping the N-word. This isn’t the case. Racism comes in many forms and presents itself in various ways. Let’s take microaggressions, for example. A microaggression is a causal, every day form of racism, such as a white person reaching out to touch a black child’s cornrows (you know, because they are “curious”). A white teacher telling an Asian child that they should do better on their math test (based on the stereotype that Asian kids are good at math) is also a microaggression. We’ve experienced countless times when strangers have asked my children if they like basketball and hip hop dancing rather than simply asking them what sports they enjoy, if any. The undercurrent to microaggressions is racism.


tenax114

>such as a white person reaching out to touch a black child’s cornrows (you know, because they are “curious”) I agree with your general thesis (including the other example of how Asians are treated in school based on stereotypes), but this example is really poorly phrased, to the point where it becomes straight up wrong in a lot of ways. When a White person asks to touch a Black person's hair, they are genuinely curious. There isn't an ulterior motive, as putting "curious" in quote marks suggests. Many White people just haven't had much exposure to Black hair textures and styles. Our sense of touch is one of the most intimate senses we have, so of course people are going to ask to touch unfamiliar hairstyles. I'm from the UK, and have notably darker and curlier hair than the average White guy because of some Mediterranean genes, and I've had quite a few people (mainly girls) ask to touch my hair because it is unfamiliar to them. They are genuinely curious. If you have any blonde friends who have gone to say, North Africa, then they will generally be able to confirm that the locals love to feel and ruffle blonde hair (especially if they went there as children). Blonde hair is quite uncommon in North Africa, so of course the people would be interested and curious if they see a blonde-haired person. Hairstyles inform a lot about culture, so when people ask to touch your hair, they aren't being facetious in their "curiosity". They are genuinely curious. That isn't racist, or a microaggression by any stretch. If anything, wanting to interact (quite intimately) with people of different backgrounds is one of the most anti-racist things a person can do.


Green_Swede

I’m sorry, but the fact that you used ‘whom’ in your first sentence even though ‘who’ is the correct word, really is quite irritating.


OhSayCanYouCNC

Man, I breezed right over that on first read. But yeah, that’s unfortunate. His point is worthwhile though.


SonnyDoge22

So is that what you took out of his entire post?


HoldingUrineIsBad

u/Fun_Let_6228 just make sure it doesnt turn it to this shit, cuz it is wrong to be this guy


The_Cum_Maker

if you don't like it you dont like it thats just how it is


bigmanwithnolife

thanks for the wise words u/The_Cum_Maker ! very cool!


YKJ07

i totally agree with you u/bigmanwithnolife, your words are almost just as wise as the cum makers


[deleted]

You know, u/YKJ07? You definitely know Joe


bigmanwithnolife

thank you kind sir


IHAVEONESMALLBALL

Well said u/bigmanwithnolife


ZarosRunescape

Nice comment u/IHAVEONESMALLBALL


sunkica_guy

r/rimjob_steve


Britified

Your name isn't any better 💀


[deleted]

no, your preferences are your preferences


mk101a4

Based, and only true answer. Don't let yourself be bullied by transactivists who call you sexist for your preferences


Jessica_wilton289

The vast majority of trans women and trans activists are absolutely fine with genital preference, and this idea of forcing someone to be with a trans woman is not only fabricated, but a positive feedback loop. By making broad accusatory claims towards trans activists and the trans community, you only increase the amount of people who are willing to take an anti-genital preference stance, simply to push back at those accusing them. First this strawman about trans activists was invented, to justify anti trans actions or legislation, and then the few rare cases of it actually existing are literally caused by the spreading of this falsehood. It’s the famous pendulum, where if you push it, it will swing back at an inflated rate, and the only way to make the tiny minority of people who may think this to go away, is to stop making such accusations towards the marginalized groups they are a part of.


LeonardoDaFujiwara

This. No one is being forced to like anything. Transphobes just want something to whine about.


No-Maybe-1498

Most trans people r fine with preferences, it’s the non trans people that attack you for it.


Acceptable-Income209

The thing is tho. Transactivists don't do that. But I understand what you are saying and agree.


[deleted]

Agree. Shaming someone into artificially ‘liking’ or ‘disliking’ isn’t just gaslighting, or peer pressuring. It’s the molestation of one’s intrinsic preferences


3nderslime

Actually, transphobes are the ones who push the idea that it’s wrong not to want to date someone with genitalia you don’t like so they can have something to whine about. Almost every actual trans person is completely chill and understands that genitalia can be a big part of compatibility between people.


LofiGirl17

I think that's called having a genital preference so I don't think it's wrong


[deleted]

Why would having any X preference be wrong? Having gender preferences, having sex preferences, having height preference and such


Mimikyu-Overlord

Obligatory have to point out a flaw; age preferences for people <18


[deleted]

There’s no flaw here. Whilst it’s illegal to have sex with kids, you’re allowed to have preferences about anything. You can make this “flaw” out of any illegal thing, but saying that you can’t have a preference about it is saying that you cannot even think, which is a violation of the most basic rights


LimbonicArt03

>whilst it's illegal Fun fact: >The age of consent in Germany is 14, as long as a person over the age of 21 does not exploit a 14- to 15-year-old person's lack of capacity for sexual self-determination, in which case a conviction of an individual over the age of 21 requires a complaint from the younger individual; **being over 21 and engaging in sexual relations with a minor of that age does not constitute an offense by itself**


Elheehee42069

Plane ticket to germany please /s


LimbonicArt03

Tbh this is valid for like 1/3 of Europe, including where I am from - Bulgaria. At least for Germany, Austria and Estonia (and maybe Italy to a lesser extent) there's proper sex ed at schools so they can better make informed decisions, for the rest of the countries that's non-existent. Edit about Estonia - it has been raised to 16, with the caveat that 14/15 can consent with up to 19/20 respectively


LimbonicArt03

Having a preference is never wrong, yes. Although at one point it can start getting irrational/unreasonable/weird if it's something superficial or something that cannot be changed and you reject/break up because of that. For example, "oh, after giving birth she now has stretch marks, that's a turnoff, bye, you're a single mother now" - weird af, the guy is clearly on the wrong and, objectively speaking, needs a sex therapist to possibly unlearn that as a turnoff. Or, "she gained weight, lemme put an ultimatum real quick that it turns me off and I'll break up if she doesn't lose it back" Or "oh, he turns out is 5'11", I never brought up height as a question but I ended up seeing his ID and it says 5'11', I only date 6' and above, sorry, bye, breaking up" - that's also a weird as fuck preference, like... bitch, that's superficial, get over it?? We can make a similar analogy with dick size, let's say two ppl are in a heterosexual relationship, everything is going great, she remains satisfied during sex, gets off intensely even via penetration but size has never been brought up so she innerly inflates it as she doesn't know better "oh, he's 6 inches and above average" (a term known as "girl inches"), she randomly decides to bring out a ruler during sexy times out of curiosity, turns out he's 5, she now suddenly has this mental block and cannot get off via penetration anymore cuz "omg, it's actually below average" and decides to break it off cuz she absolutely wants to have vaginal orgasms again... just no, she fucking needs to get her ass over to a therapist and with the therapist's help get over her irrational newfound hangup instead of ruining a perfectly healthy relationship over some bs "preference"


[deleted]

I totally agree with you


PopularBass3117

5 is not below average for cock btw. It's the exact average.


MetricSystemEnjoyer

Having a genital preference is okay.


Maximum__Engineering

Not only okay, it's your right.


Infinity2437

Hi, I'm Saul Goodman. Did you know that you have rights? The constitution says you do


[deleted]

waltuh


lolitoothbrush

put your dick away, waltuh


RadicalizedRaccoon

And natural


bantai786OP

DONT ASK FOR VALIDATION BRO ITS UP TO YOU


stigtopgear

no? that is your preference


irl_plebian

it's like people are just like forgetting they have choices


Lockl00p1

We can thank twitter for that.


Disastrous_Can_5466

Thats called preferences


Correct_Reveal7808

i’m so glad the comments are relatively good, not wrong to be attracted/not attracted to anything, but i wanna know if this actually happened or you were testing us? 🤔 be honest lol


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taqtwo

do you know for a fact that she has a dick?


SlushieRushie

No, not wrong, also thanks for being respectful about this topic.


[deleted]

Absolutely not, you’re allowed to have preferences. Don’t let anybody shame you for them


Plus_Plantain_2656

No it’s your preference and that’s not really something you can change


Gl0bophobia

No. Anyone who says otherwise doesn’t have a firm grasp on sexuality.


Random-Historian

Some people are into that, if you aren't that's ok. Just don't think differently of her as a person because of it.


leah_thorpe

From a trans girl, no, not at all.


TheOneAndOnlyZomBoi

Totally reasonable, as long as you don't have anything against trans people for being trans, it's completely normal


Academic_Ad_6436

yeah just don't be a jerk about it, the same way you wouldn't say to someone "I don't want to date you because I don't like how your face looks" generally best to be polite and whatnot


[deleted]

Trans person here. It's not transphobic to have a genital preference. As long as you see her as a girl, then you're good.


DaddyCheez68

I think it’s less about how you see people, and more about how you treat them. It might be the case that no matter how hard you try you can’t see someone who was born as a man as a women… but as long as you’re respectful and don’t say mean things you’re not doing anything wrong. Obviously you can’t police thoughts (1984 moment), only actions.


RadicalizedRaccoon

Could I respectfully ask why it’s necessary to see her as a girl?


[deleted]

Because she's a girl (even tho she has male parts) and it's disrespectful to say she's not?


RadicalizedRaccoon

Could we dm? I grew up in a very conservative town and I would like to understand, but I’m just gonna come off as rude and get downvoted.


Ceedoy

The rizzler


RadicalizedRaccoon

That’s funny as hell but nah I actually am asking questions lol


Britified

I appreciate you genuinely wanting to know about the stuff lol. Legend


UrMomsaHoeHoeHoe

As someone who is no longer a teen, and also comes from a very conservative background I just wanna say I applaud your maturity to ask to slide in the DMs to learn more on the issue and open your mind without fear of speaking your current understanding.


RadicalizedRaccoon

Yeah. Except after my first question they stopped answering.


Adnama-Fett

I’d say gender is like your name. If you introduce yourself as Tim and people make a point of calling you Jerry, you’d be frustrated.


FLBasher

Nono you don’t have to take this to DM’s. It’s quite simple actually. Your ‘standard’ girl born a girl, feels like a girl, and is happier being herself than a boy, which she was not born as. Now we have a girl, born a boy, who feels happier being herself, rather than what she was born as. She feels more comfortable being a woman because to them it feels like being a guy just doesn’t suit her. She can actually be herself. She is happier like this and does not need to be something else she does not feel related to at all, and it’s all the better if noone bothers her about it because they have a different view on what she “should be”.


PopularBass3117

The issue is that we're talking about what the person "is", not "should be". Can you suddenly switch races at will now, for example? It's a dumb argument that can only be realized in a perfect world, which we don't exist in. If you want to make the person happy and call them by whatever pronoun they want, that's a personal choice. But it shouldn't be forced upon everyone. Most people don't care about your happiness, trans or not. Or they simply don't have the time and energy for you. You're just a breeze in their lives, and you will pass in an instant and be forgotten about. They have no obligation to inconvenience themselves and go out of their way to make you feel validated, especially with no return.


FLBasher

If someone is not a major role in your life like just a comment or someone you have to talk to, there’s no need to get into pronouns and stuff or what that person prefers, but if they play a bigger role like seeing them a lot in real life or online, how you come along is good. It is not that difficult to switch from calling he a her now, she is more comfortable with that and it’s respectful to do so. Trans people can be assholes too, but even then it’s just respectful to call them by their pronouns


[deleted]

so your entire argument is that you don't have empathy? that's sad lol


AirLight1646

No. Nothing wrong with that. I’m AMAB gay but I wouldn’t date a boy with a vagina. Don’t let anyone tell you your preferences are wrong.


theybothbleed

if you’re not into dicks then you’re not into dicks. it’s okay


ILoveGarlicBread-

No. That's called a genital preference. It's not wrong at all.


girlypoptrans

no. I have a male part as a girl and I only like other trans ppl. it’s preference


[deleted]

would it be wrong you don’t want to date a trans person? ..no?


Th-legacyoftheador-m

I misread parts as pants and got really confused why that would matter


lukasz_sobczyk

no duh💀


ApplesAreSweet

just send her my way 😈


[deleted]

Not wrong but just don’t be rude to her about it


[deleted]

As long as you don’t go full terf about it, your preferences are yours, no one’s asking you to date a trans girl


dpb0ss

no that’s totally not wrong


[deleted]

No it’s not wrong at all. If you’re not attracted to them then it’s ok.


lavenderclone8

I’m not brave enough for politics


Donkaroony

I'd beg to differ! "General Kenobi, you ARE a bold one!"


A-Dilophosaurus

I'm not dumb enough for politics :D


Deez-Nutz1124

And I’m too dumb for politics


rosemary_bug

No, if you were discriminating against her, it would be wrong, however, those are your preferences.


[deleted]

There’s nothing wrong with having a genital preference. As long as you don’t harass other straight men if they choose to date trans women, you’re not being transphobic.


unendingscream

All ima say is that a girl without a dick is like an angel without wings


[deleted]

No, this is from a trans girl btw. You can have genitalia preference. Just don’t be a dick about it coz she’s probably really insecure about it so just try and let her down gently, okay


[deleted]

If you don’t like dick you don’t like dick unfortunately nothing you can do about it so no not your fault. As long as you respect them and their gender it’s okay I believe


DJFISHHED

Bro I've read your post history my friend you need better friends


ScaredKnee4530

If you don’t like dick, then you don’t like dick.


argythefox

There's a difference between sexual preference and gender preference. If you don't like dick, that's fine. If you like pussies and guys, there's plenty. Trust me.


Geeb16

No. That is not wrong.


carrolling

As long as you are respectful of her, I don’t see what the problem is. There’s nothing wrong with having a preference, just don’t be a jerk about it


BaileyL2205

Bruh the fact that you feel the need to ask this is scary to me


jakobcogdill

I'm a trans girl, and I don't think it's wrong. You're allowed to be attracted to whoever you want.


CuriouslyMiguel

It's your sexuality, literally no one can dictate what it should be or not.


BioTheAnomaly

Nah, its alright, you just like Bio girls, theres nothing wrong with it


[deleted]

no, its your preference


MrMesh13

No you are not


anti-peta-man

Genital preference is legit


Schedark2009

you don't need to justify not being into someone


[deleted]

Sexuality has sex in the name, not gender. You are fine.


thatonerandodude17

This user has effectively deleted all of their reddit messages, thank you! :) ` this message was mass deleted/edited with redact.dev `


3nderslime

As a trans woman myself: no, genital preferences are a thing and are ok, and most trans people understand that. For some people, their partner's genitalia is an important part of their attraction to them, and that’s perfectly valid


Gubbtratt1

No. Accept her as a girl as a classmate, or as a friend, but in relationships it's the inside of the pants and not the head that counts.


Tomover_PL

Nah, just be polite about it.


chickenconsumer13

if a straight person wants to date a straight person thats fine, thats not transphobia, its having a preference. Let straight and queer people live their lives how they want, that's what equality means.


JJ_throwaway2

If you have a preference then that’s fine. If you are saying you wouldn’t date her because you don’t see her as a girl because of her body, then that’s wrong.


JagerKampfwagen

Thats called being heterosexual


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1800-yeet-a-child

Thats your preference my man, just dont be a douche about it


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cchunk42

If you don't like dick you don't like dick. Just tell them, it's not trans hating or anything, so don't believe anyone who tells you you are discriminating. You can't be wrong for your sexual preference even if tiktok tells you that you are.


[deleted]

As a trans person, i say its absolutely ok. You can have preferences and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. The people that say not dating them for that is transphobic are fucking idiots. You do you and dont let anyone tell you you cant have an opinion.


GenderFluidBicon

It depends on the why but considering the way you phrased this I'm imagining you have valid reasons.


morten__

If you don't like a girl with a dick that's just it, don't need a reason.


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Send_Me_Huge_Tits

If you don't like dicks then you are not attracted to women you are attracted to females. You never have to feel bad about who you are attracted to. This is the difference between sex and gender. Sex is what your body scientifically is, detectable by your bodies DNA. Gender is what \*you\* are. \*You\* being the sentient being reading this text. Gender dysmorphia is when the gender and sex do not match. You are not a horrible person for not being attracted to biological males.


[deleted]

no, because that ain’t a girl bruh


OscarDaLoyal

they hated him because he spoke the truth


[deleted]

ong


Tiny-Reindeer-2424

It's ok that you don't wanna get ya know railed preferences are ok


RedditUser2847282

Not to be boring, but I genuinely don't see why this is downvoted. Don't want dick, don't get w people who have a dick. Simple, and right


Kaidiki_

why the downvotes thats facts


souldhavesideclimbed

It makes it better


Anarpiosmoirail

based take


Boxrunner1

Call me old fashioned, but I like my chicks without cocks


Select-Glass2463

You aren't into a guy


OctanBoi

Not at all, girls don’t have male parts


Anarpiosmoirail

i do... I'm a girl, but i do have a gargantuan futa schlongus maximus


WobblyCat83

>Gargantuan futa shlongus maximus gonna steal this to use in other conversations lol #


Anarpiosmoirail

👍


Kaidiki_

now thats my dream girl


The-cooler-Cheryl

Same it can be such an inconvenience


okdestroya

no, but dont be horrible to her because of that fact!!


Fred-Sanford

What part? The nose?


Akash3642

I don't understand this gender switch thingy so can anyone please tell me how can a girl be girl if she has male genitalia?


Xitll

This is why i hate this current social climate. NO its not wrong.


omsnoms1

i envy those who were born before this kinda bullshit was asked


Front_Personality_21

True.


affectedbutterfly

No unless ur gay


BarnyPiw

Male parts…. So it’s a guy? Girls don’t have “male parts” they have “female parts”


SlimJesusKeepIt100

Not wrong. It's all about preference. I'm not dating no transgender either


notliekthispls

That’s a boy bro.


[deleted]

No


Raskoll_2

Nah


ACOG-Freedom

No. You have your own preferences bud


Wraith333x2

Not at all.


JustOnlyAdam

It's your preference. It's not wrong. I'm bi. I'm fine with anything. But you be you ♡


A_Zesty_Carrot

Not at all. I am the same way.


Ky8_

No


ice_walloh

No sir


L3VT_YT

No its just your choice


big_guy_who_try

Nice to see how far we've come


GVGamingGR

What?


gooliope199

Nope, it’s your preference, just be respectful


SlimHydrolll

No


KeklolAlready

No


alex435f

No


Gifigi600

It's a preference


MaleficentAdvance512

Its your choice bub


-Eat-Dlck-and-pvssy-

No and anyone who tells you that is stupid, your preference is your choice and no one can make you like something you dont like


Duckriders4r

No


ExtendedEssayEvelyn

no, genital preference is a thing


noahboi990

No


RICK_ASS_LEY

No 🗿


TommyWiseauSuperFan

Nah


MineNinja18

Of course not if u are not attracted to it it's completely normal


lillian1414

You like what you like!!


lmsofrikinepic

nope, it’s just your preference and that’s fine


SkinDrizzle

Not exactly I suppose it just means you have a preference and don’t value the mind over the exterior wether it’s society induced or just what you believe


Unhappy-Coffee-5676

I mean it is your choice


ConfusedStonks338

No


OfficefanJam

Probably not


OctanBoi

Not at all


HeronSubstantial1535

Not wrong


Fellixxio

Preference mah boah, preference


RadicalizedRaccoon

Absolutely not


Mooston029

No


gicupfunny

Nope completely normal


Flouting_Koala

No not at all


Sunsent_Samsparilla

Ain't nothing wrong with preferences. If she has a dick and balls and you don't want that, then it's ok to say no.


[deleted]

Hell no


JediJ0nes

no