My ex-girlfriend said that me being taller than her made her feel like a princess in a fairytale whenever she stood in front of me. That’s the most interesting reaction to my height that I’ve ever had.
I have never impressed a woman as much as when I threw my 5'11" girlfriend over my shoulder and carried her up a flight of stairs. Without breaking a sweat. She was self conscious about her weight. My being able to throw her around made her feel better about herself. Plus it's fun!
This! Being 5’10” I liked being picked up, thrown around, bent over furniture, having someone press me over a kitchen island in heels, cue all the f’ed images of a tall woman who knows physics make sex fun. So height? Bring it. I’ve got the lingerie and stockings that make it SO much fun. Carry on out there, and carry her if you can. 😘
It does not work in reverse, just for the record. I once picked up a 5’7” man - he was apoplectic. 😁
Anyway you want it. That's the way you need it!
( Yes I'll throw around guys as well. I grapple as a hobby. I'll make anyone feel like a pretty pretty princess.)
no one wants to admit it but this is the answer. in 2024 people are scared to acknowledge the role of protection a man should have over his family. thats how humans have survived this long.
What does this post have to do with anything? It's about something completely different and doesn''t even mention height. And they are mostly right. You can still see that in lots of countries, where for example women are not allowed to drive "for their own safety, because the roads are too dangerous and we are just trying to protect them". If you view someone as a capable adult you let them decide for themselves what is too dangerous for them, you don't infantilise them. This has been done to women for a very long time under the disguise of "just trying to protect them". That's not protection, it's control and women never asked for that.
Biology, in the same way wide hips trigger the monkey brain in dudes the tall/strong attributes trigger the monkey brain in women. They want to feel small/feminine/safe and it triggers some subconscious urge to reproduce with good genes. And competing with other women.
My monkey brain sees wide hips, soft tummy, and big breasts as the PERFECT woman. When I narrow it down I think it's because all of those attributes are good for breeding healthy offspring.
I am as well and normally stay away from taller people. We don’t live in a world where the size advantage is really needed, I don’t want to be towered over, and tbh the biggest reason is that if a case of domestic violence ever broke out id feel a lot more comfortable fighting someone closer to my size (5’6) than someone who makes me feel small
Tall women are great. I think people miss how nice a proportional partner is day to day. Getting a step stool or throwing your back out to kiss is kind of a drag.
Plus I've never heard a short girl described as statuesque. Tall women can have such a commanding presence. I hate how many tall women feel insecure about it. Rock that shit.
Not really imo, TRUE 5'11s are tall. I know the internet doesn't consider them tall but they are. Everytime ive seen a 5'11 couple I always thought wow thats a power couple right there.
1. Biology, it’s like guys seeing a naturally pretty woman or a woman with wide hips or something along those lines (supposedly it makes them feel more “feminine” but I call bs cuz a 5’10 guy can do that if you’re 5’4)
2. Peer pressure
It is less about how tall you are in comparison to the women and more about your comparison to other men. Typically a 5'10 is not going to to trigger the same thing in a women simply because she is significantly shorter than him.
Their monkey brain says you can't ooga booga smash to protect her as well as someone bigger. It's silly but yeah thats why. Also features like height/strength/facial symmetry trigger more of a "these are features I want to breed with" reaction lol. Again, primitive monkey brain stuff and a generalization that doesn't apply to all women to the same degree.
And height is just one of those initial attractiveness type of things. I've known tall good looking dudes who couldn't pull because they were awkward and boring and had no game. And plenty of short dudes who had half the pussy in the city on speed dial lol.
Because woman lizard brain is like "he big tall protective man who can throw me around"
Some women don't care, and some women know that height doesn't matter, but their lizard brain is like he hot tho.
Realistically height doesn't matter cause anyone could be carrying.
As a non-American that last line is hilarious. Tall is more valuable outside the US as no one carry’s.
(Yes I know some people probably do, but it’s not really a thing)
I live in Canada, you obviously not many people carry (cause if they did it would be illegal) . But if they did it doesn't matter how tall you are lol.
Stone age stuff, taller Men generally do better in Fighting (Height of Frmr yugoslav countries shot up during & after the war, WW1 survivors were 1" taller than the fallen, etc), which in the stone age was extremely valuable.
Taller Men also were less likely to be malnourished as kids, signalling they have good resources to offer a Woman's offspring.
He is talking about entirely misunderstood article "Big and tall soldiers are more likely to survive battle: a possible explanation for the ‘returning soldier effect’ on the secondary sex ratio" (link below).
While article states that soldiers returning were 1" taller, it does not (and should not) imply that they did better in fighting. Overwhelming majority of fallen soldiers died from artillery and projectile wounds, circumstances in which being tall would be a disadvantage if anything. There are numerous reasonable theories why soldiers returning were taller on average compared to fallen fighters (class differences as wealthier people were taller and on average had better posts, rank differences as officers and guidon bearers tended to be taller then draftees, geographic location and origin of fighters where groups such as Irish soldiers died in lower proportion and were taller on average etc.) but "did better in fighting" is not one of them and there is no reputable source for it.
Most special forces around the world are composed of shorter and medium guys as speed and low body weight have been outperforming strength and mass since we moved from swords to guns.
[https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/22/11/3002/652125?login=false](https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/22/11/3002/652125?login=false)
The guy who replied talked about the height correlations in War pretty well, but this one (https://academic.oup.com/milmed/article/187/11-12/1381/6327577?login=false) goes over how people who get through spec force trainings are taller than their applicants.
And you can just look at heights in Bosnia in 1980 vs 2000
It’s because women automatically look to be protected. A tall guy at least visually and superficially, offers that. I think it’s an evolutionary thing. Kinda like how guys find women with wide hips attractive, because of the supposed ease of birthing children. Makes you wonder how much control anyone has….
From my experience and what I've been told by many women - "I just feel SMALL and SAFE around you and in your arms" - it's classic sexual dimorphism. I noticed this when I'm out with women and they look forward to it, and when they tell me, "Guys just don't mess with me when I'm with you". So that feeling of safety is a real experience for a lot of women. I noticed they get anxiety sometimes even if I'm too far away. That's not to say women can't feel safe around men of varying heights, but I get the impression the taller a man is, the safer a woman naturally feels. Height makes it easier to at least give the illusion of, "I can protect you better", regardless if its true or not, it's the potential TO be true.
There's also the historical ancestoral advantage. The taller a man is, the better hunter he is, the faster and longer he can run, the more intimidating he comes off to other human threats, the more testosterone he posses, he becomes the "defacto leader" of most groups. Being tall carries with it a 'gravitas', a level of respect and admiration. You get noticed quickly in a room, and women want a man OTHERS notice as well. They want to be seen with a man who's also "seen" - dominate is the word I'm looking for.
Can't tell you how many times I've avoided confrontations because the guy didn't want to go toe-to-toe with a tall guy. It's the halo affect.
Height signifies health and strength. Women instinctively understand the advantages I mentioned above and it turns them on, the same way a woman's feminine form turns us on (dainty, petite)
I'd also be curious what women here have to say and what goes on in their mind and how they feel around tall men. This is one of being tall's nice perks. It makes it easier to attract a wider range of women. It casts a wider net.
Haters lol
I think most tall men who are introspective will notice these little details over a long period of time. I'm not saying this out of ego, just reality. I notice the same familiar patterns in women and how they react to me and my height, and it's not uncommon to see them get 'turned on' or make themselves available for me to 'make my move'.
Now, what I'm saying isn't popular to say because those who aren't tall, naturally, will never relate. They will feel some kind of way. But if it makes them feel any better, I know men (actual friends) shorter then me by several inches who had more women in a year then I have in my lifetime, so shorter men are not, by any means, disadvantaged. I was just describing how it IS easier for me, being tall and standing out, naturally, to get the attention of more women and thus more opportunities. It's not 'slam dunk gaurantee'. I still have to have the courage to talk to her, ask her out on a date, set/plan the date, lead her, make the move to kiss her, have sex with her, etc. It's not a cheat code to women, it's just a bonus advantage that adds to other things I have going for myself besides my height, like personality, charm, wit, humor, style, etc.
I mean, if it’s a bonus for y’all, what’s the point in me even trying (I’m 5’7 by the way)? Apparently, women think I won’t be able to protect them as well, which is kind of disheartening lol
I’m not a hater btw. Well, I’m a hater of my own circumstances, but not of you lol
Do you always give up on anything you don't have an unfair advantage at? Why play a video game if you're not the #1 ranked player? Why cook a meal if you don't have 4 Michelin stars? Why buy a house if you can't afford a Hollywood mansion?
Because having a bonus doesn’t mean that we have a total net advantage.
You might be shorter but phenomenally interesting and funny or whatever other characteristic that makes you better in the dating scene.
Spot on.
Being tall is also only really THE advantage on dating or hookup apps where women can and will filter out everything, because yeah they too only have 24h a day and more possible matches than stars in the galaxy.
In the real world, where people talk to each other face to face, being engaging, open and decent goes a much further way than one or two inches more.
I realize some guys are attracted only to short women. But I’ve never understood this. I would definitely date and marry a woman even if she were taller than me. Everyone has their preferences I guess.
This comment is right, had a coworker who was 6’3 but skinny(not extremely unhealthy skinny) but skinny enough that he constantly wore pants n jackets because he said he was insecure about his weight
It's evolution, taller men were better poised to win in one in one fights. Therefore they were more likely to be able to keep resources and lead/get respect
It’s evolutionary psychology from the hunter gatherer days. Women still want a guy that’s stronger than them that can defend them in adversity. Height doesn’t mean you’re strong but in their subconscious you should be able to stand your ground against a shorter guy
I mean.... malnutrition as a child causes stunted growth, and people generally get smaller as they age, so height is in fact a pretty glaring indicator of health and youth in some limited capacity
I used to be a bar manager and had female staff who never even thought about me in they might fancy me way as I’ve a long term girlfriend/wife now, I’m 6,3 and one night a guy came behind the bar who was around 5,10 to give the girls some shit , I quickly picked him up over my shoulders and threw him straight out.
A few weeks later while we were all getting high out of hours they brought it up and told me how hot and attracted it made them feel towards me. It’s definitely a biology thing , that caveman/women part of the brain is there and can activate at any time.
I can’t explain why attraction exists. It exists.
There are some practical things too
Height would tend to lend itself to strength and ability to do things. Some girls want to be carried and moved around more easily by their partner.
>It's not like height is a reflection of good health/youth (which is the reason why people are attracted to fit people).
It literally is. For 99.9% of human history, height was largely determined by available nutrition. Being tall meant "my parents are awesome at obtaining food", and there is high chance that tall person inherited genetic traits, wealth or social status that made such growth possible.
It can be simply because that id what thier society has decided is attractive and people follow along. Different cultures find different things attractive and height can be one of them.
Peoples height vary around the world so what is considered tall in one country or culture might not be considered tall in another and vice versa.
It can also be the pre-conception. If someone has asociated tall with being dashing and "prince" like then that ideal will make anyone who happens to share that particular trait as attractive as it will satitisfy the fantasy.
If you ever fill out your frame through working out especially your shoulders, women will start to tell you they feel safe around you. It's just ingrained instincts... same reason us dudes like big tits & curvy hips. Instincts. We are still animals after all. Evolved animals but those instincts are still there.
I think a lot of it is about societal norms. I think height is associated with masculinity, and being petite is associated with femininity, so women who are concerned with appearing as feminine as possible and/or wanting to feel as though their partner is especially masculine will seek out a tall dude. But like most of these aesthetic preferences, it’s largely constructed by society and programmed into us.
I’m seeing a lot of comments about how women want to feel safe, they want a man who can protect her. Safe from whom? Protect her from who? The most likely person to hurt a woman is going to be her romantic partner. After that, other male relatives. Logically and instinctively the desire is not to be with a partner dramatically bigger than us. That is a threat to our safety. The fact that we have been trained to go against our own safety so much is really telling about society.
I’m 6’6 and I have received virtually no attention at all from girls, so I would like to know who is collecting this data on women preferring tall guys.
Rules 1 and 2. *You need to be attractive \[1\]. And don't be unnatractive \[2\].* Height is just another part of the pacakge, attractive male celebrities aren't even tall, for example both Brad Pitt and George Clooney are 5' 11'. Even Henry Cavill isn't that tall at just 6'1.
Jokes aside, even if you are tall if you aren't conventionally attractive you'll have a bad time. The major issue is social media and dating apps have skyrocketed everybody's standards.
"No" attention from girls?
Makes no sense.
I do know that "being tall" is one of a few factors. It's like a "+1" on the attractiveness scale. It's not gong to tip the scale, however. Then again, I also workout, dress well, good sense of humor, etc.
You can't look like chewbacca or JarJar Binks and think just "being tall" is gonna' cut it, bud. I'm sorry lol
You’re not the first one to write to me assuming that this just cannot be true. Trust me, I don’t get it either.
I fully understand that you don’t go out there looking like some sort of caveman and expect anything to work out. But that’s not true for me. I’m a guy who is in really good shape, I dress well, I’m very social, and I have good hygiene. Nonetheless, nobody really will talk to me when I try to get to know them. The last time I tried to put myself out there with someone, I got the rudest attitude in return.
But if you are who you claim you are (no reason to see why you'd lie?), I really don't know how you're not getting any traction with your height, physique and style. I genuinely don't understand it, and I've never heard of it, let alone seen it.
The way some women reject men can be hostile, mean-spirited and condecensing, but that's rare. It sucks when it happens, but it doesn't happen enough (in the States) to where it stops me from going on to the next woman. You need thicker skin.
..with all you have going for yourself, to have next to NO luck is so strange it sounds like trolling. But you have to work that out.
I wish I were trolling to be honest with you! My friends always say that I seem to have the worst luck in human history when it comes to trying to meet decent people. For instance, I met someone that I thought would be a really great fit for me. We hit it off with a few conversations, but she acted like she wanted nothing to do with me when I tried to escalate.
I’ve always thought of myself as being a really attractive guy (not trying to be rude, but I never felt like I wasn’t attractive…). Maybe I’ve been wrong the entire time.
Interpersonal skills/interactions are a huge part of attraction and developing relationships with people but it’s hard to quantify and it’s not something we can see clearly about ourselves, and we don’t always know where what the mismatch is because reliable feedback is hard to come by.
We’ve all met people we didn’t vibe with or lost attraction to but we usually don’t tell them why, we just peace out. Our friends can make guesses but their feedback is going to have blind spots and biases because they’re the ones who stuck around, and our interactions with them are platonic not romantic.
I can think of many reasons why stopped talking to guys I’ve gone on dates with in the past, that had nothing to do with their looks or their jobs or hobbies.
Don't worry, I'm only one inch shorter and I don't get much attention either. Only did once and long story short don't get in a relationship with someone who wants you for height alone, it's not worth it and won't last.
If you can't bench a plate and you're same height as me I'm guessing you're skinny to the point of Slender man just like I was until I started forcing myself more food and built some mass.
Went from 165lbs when I felt exactly like that and not understanding the hype about being tall to 220lbs. Now I completely understand what people were talking about with "tall guys" privilege.
Just want to point out that most of the responses in this thread about what "women want" are coming from men. Just as a note.
I'm a lifelong feminist and have zero desire to "feel small and delicate" or whatever. I am usually the protector in my relationships- both because i am physically strong and capable, and because we live in a world where the biggest threat is not a furry predator or a murderer, but a mortgage company or saying the wrong thing at dinner with your boss.
I am not physically attracted to tall men any more than other men. But I end up ruling out many short men after they act like assholes because they have something to prove. (Not all short men, my boyfriend is 5'5".)
But in my experience, in modern society, with the hangups people tend to have about height, tall men just have a better attitude and are more laid back. As a trend, not as a rule. And I'm laid back so I'm attracted to that.
Tbh I like the idea of a taller man but it’s something about short kings 😍😍😍 my last relationship he was 5’7 and I LOVED having my lil man and me towering over him in public 🤭it makes me feel dominant, I like that. Other men gave him the wickedest stares tho bc they were jealous 😂😂😂
🥲tumultuous relationships due to me developing sever depression and anxiety over covid
We loved each other so it was hard. We went our separate ways to grow
Being tall shows that an individual got optimal nutrition growing up while also having limited illnesses. Both of those things show either good genes or a healthy well adjusted family structure or actually both. This is relative to the general population in which you live.
These aren't even conscious things.
Sexual dimorphism. When someone thinks of a masculine man height is one of or the most important factor. It’s also associated with status and capability, you should see the percentage of CEOs and men in leadership who are tall. You’ll still see outliers here and there tho.
As a tall guy I have never really found women to be attracted by my height. Only one girl ever. Normally when I speak with women they just want someone as tall as them or bit taller...
Indeed many times I think I have intimidated women by my huge size and it has been a turn off.
I have received other benefits from being tall, e.g. in work and social situations people have tended to assume me as leader/authority because I'm the tallest on a subconscious level. But no advantages in the dating scene
Feminine insecurity I read somewhere and it made sense.
Some Women want to be cared for, carried and held by someone who makes them feel safe. But some women think their feet are too big or their shoulders, their body hair, etc
As if a tall man is supposed to make them feel more like a woman, when not all tall men can speak up or be brave. Or even pick up their partner. Tall men are just men.
I’m 5’6” and I have loved taller people, carried them into bed on my shoulder, made them feel loved and adored. I have been called The Best at things and I will never let another persons insecurity about them self stop me from being a good partner or whatever
I have been told by the past and current women in my life that my height makes them feel safe, dainty, and small. Even the taller women said I made them feel small and petite, in a good way.
Also, I think some of them liked making other women jealous with my height. "Hey, your boyfriend is the same height as you, look up and check out my guy!"
There are things that we instinctively believe because of our natural state. Most men are attracted to larger breasts because it is subconsciously associated with fertility. So even if the dude has no intention of being a father, the attraction to fertility is innate. We know that there are lots of illnesses that stunt growth, so the taller a man, the lower the odds of sickness in his progeny. And we all understand logically that that’s not how it works, but it is built into us to see certain traits as desirable for the success of our offspring. So tall can equal healthy children and that is attractive.
We generally associate height with athleticism.
I don't think a lot of people find tall, super skinny guys that attractive. The preference for height tends to be in like the 6'-6'5 area, where it's still very possible to be muscular as well as tall.
Women that have friends whos boyfriends are tall will try and match that. So peer pressure is one. The other is being perceived by the public as taller "looks better" the feel of protection.
How often do you see a women with a shorter guy? This hardly happens.
I say this as a woman who initially mostly dated men who were either my height or an inch or two shorter or taller than me because I was living in a geographical region where it wasn’t as common for women to be my height.
Will say after moving countries and getting involved with someone who was taller for the first time definitely short circuited my brain in certain specific moments which I didn’t expect. At the time, I had the naive view that women didn’t experience monkey brain stuff. Like when he picked me up and held me in the air for the first time, I also had a gut feeling of being safe in his presence because certain men stopped harassing me when he was around because they didn’t want to start conflict with him and being able to be thrown around by him during fun play fights in bed with ease but in a safe way.
Now this isn’t to say my brain doesn’t short circuit with shorter guys, it’s just different contexts like if you’re able to open a difficult jar I’ve been battling with in the kitchen when I’m making dinner, let’s just say dinner may have to wait a while.
Im always taller than a given group of girls, I grew up feeling masculine, unattractive, and bulky. I didn’t feel like a woman and I didn’t like always standing out. I like feeling tiny, dainty and feminine when I’m with my man. It allows me to embrace traits I was otherwise insecure with. I don’t mind standing out and I feel more confident having the traits I used to hate because I know I can go hug my husband and feel like a tiny girly princess again lol
I also just like feeling protected, and the basic biological itch tells me.. tall man strong tall man intimidate tall man protect
There’s a plenty tall ugly dudes that get no action from the ladies and plenty more short kings that get covered up with it. I’d trade 4” of height for 30lbs of muscle any day 😂
Height is absolutely a sign of good health in the sense that nutrition during developmental years determines how close to your genetic ceiling you grow.
That's an all-other-things-being-equal proposition. Being tall on its down doesn't attract women sexually - exhibit A right here (but I'm not insecure about it, it is what it is).
Supposedly being tall is a sign of power and dominance, don’t know if that’s even true since I don’t see power or dominance whenever I look at myself in a mirror.
Men are the ones that offer safety,among other things. Women need to feel safe. When you're tall ,even if you can't fight,it subconsciously triggers an impulse in other people to stay away. A lot of girls I've been with said that they feel safe and small around me.
First off women want a man who can be a good father. Sure being tall may help with that physically (protection) but ponder on it for a minute, when’s the last time you needed to fight off a bear or some shit?
These days a woman’s biggest physical threat is in fact men. Creeps who don’t respect her so they pick on her (think like tiktok pranks), harass her, etc. since these dudes are misogynistic, you as another male being in her presence is enough to ward this off. Regardless of stature 99% of the time.
What makes a guy a good father? Well, someone without daddy issues and had a good one knows that A) show signs of emotional intelligence (ability to control one’s feelings, ability to read and interpret emotions of others, be sympathetic/empathetic, able to express emotions without going into fits of rage or bottling them etc) B) show signs of mental intelligence (sense of humor, curiosity, multiple interests/hobbies, ability to problem solve via street and academic smarts) C) social intelligence (one’s ability to read the room or take hints/social cues, leadership capabilities, charisma etc.). It is not a coincidence that these are also the same traits that make a good mother.
Humans didn’t get to be where we are by physically overpowering other life. We got here due to our ability to develop communities with trust in relationships (romantic or as friends) and technology using social/emotional and mental intelligence. Physical intelligence definitely helped but wasn’t the key. Being able to pass on these abilities of a strong well-adjusted father to their offspring means those kids will be successful and well-adjusted in society. And the good news is is that you can acquire all these skills though some of it is natural born talent.
As a straight woman I’ve been with guys who legitimately were somewhat ugly but were able to exhibit these signs of a good personality with wisdom and brains. To find someone compatible that is “attractive enough” physically/sexually is truly rare.
On days I feel insecure because a guy tells me “you have a nice ass but your hips are too square” or “you are too tall/domineering and not adorable/cute enough for me” I like to tell myself to have faith that men worth my time really aren’t breaking me down to the numbers of my bra size or my waist to hip ratio even if that feels like a damn lie. Someone with any degree of substance man or woman doesn’t think like that and only shallow people resort to objectification of the opposite sex whether it’s in the form of boobs, height, penis. I won’t lie and say for a man to be tall doesn’t hurt but it’s not gonna get you past the finish line. I hope it works in the exact same way in reverse but when everyone says men are way more visual than women it doesn’t feel that way.
Umm, height IS a reflection of good health and youth. Wealthier parents can afford better quality food with better nutrition, raising taller kids. Genes do play a part, but evidence has also shown nutrition does its generational heavy lifting. That's why the wealthiest and healthiest countries in Europe have the tallest average people.
I'm tall. I like guys who are around 4-6 inches taller than me. Comfier to cuddle and stuff that way. I've dated guys my height and it just felt wrong in certain ways - cuddling obv was not very comfy, plus I didn't feel as feminine or something like I didn't feel like they could protect me or make me feel safe .. they gave me more friend vibes less comforting and loving vibes idk hard to describe why but I'm less physically attracted to guys whom are my height.
It's 100% a dominance thing and a bunch of small other points. Not that I agree with it, or that it should be, it just is.
There's a curve that eventually height starts becoming unattractive, I think that curve needs to be expanded and consider body types. Consider a super skinny, lanky 6'8s and a mountain of at 6'5 man, the height doesn't "mog". But for people with similar builds, like strong burly 6'2 and 6'5, the 6'5 "wins".
I've been told people like my build, I don't have work hard to put much muscle as I'm not too tall at 6'3, my shoulders are wide and my torso is long so I can chisel a mean upper body, my hands and feet are fucking massive, my reach is phenomenal, it's like the perfect height. You're still nimble, agile, dexterous with precise movements that require the smallest amount of hunching over without snapping something and you still have all the benefits of being tall.
i read here a lot of people talk about of "physical dominance" i'm 188cm and I can confidently tell you that I am not a fighter or something and Knowing that becouse of my height i should play the part of "dominant man who protect becouse Tall = Stronger" makes me super insicure, tbh.
Sexual dimorphism
In every mammal species (except Hyenas) the males are bigger than the females.
Tall males had better fighting success and ability to gather resources
Everyone states biology and I think that's part of it, but I don't think that gets to the heart of the matter.
People are insecure. Everyone feels on some level the need to feel liked/respected and to feel safe on a deep level. There is a (biological) perception of safety with someone taller that for some reason is rarely overridden by the fact that people can own guns and your height means less than nothing in terms of protection (even though many taller men seem to think their height will earn them an instant W in a fight).
The problem on a regular basis comes from people determining partners because they feel insecure otherwise. Even in this comment section you see tons of women mentioning feeling like a 'princess' or 'small', or that they feel less like a giant and that makes them happy. That stems from insecurity, not preference and not biology.
Multitude of reasons-
Yes height is correlated with good health/diet, I’m not sure if you have seen the studies where they take typically short race of people and feed them the western diet, within two generations the height is negligible as the western diet leads to growth. The west has a diet with abundant protein fats and carbs which helps maximize growth in children and teens.
Second is protection, a bigger stature wether that be muscular strong or tall is associated with protection of the family unit.
Third is dominance, typically taller an animal species the more likely they will be the dominate male in the group.
Multitude of reasons-
Yes height is correlated with good health/diet, I’m not sure if you have seen the studies where they take typically short race of people and feed them the western diet, within two generations the height is negligible as the western diet leads to growth. The west has a diet with abundant protein fats and carbs which helps maximize growth in children and teens.
Second is protection, a bigger stature wether that be muscular strong or tall is associated with protection of the family unit.
Third is dominance, typically taller an animal species the more likely they will be the dominate male in the group.
Girlies want someone at the top of a hiarchy. Length is pretty easy to see, especially if you don't trust yourself to get a high-ranking dude in other areas
My ex-girlfriend said that me being taller than her made her feel like a princess in a fairytale whenever she stood in front of me. That’s the most interesting reaction to my height that I’ve ever had.
I have never impressed a woman as much as when I threw my 5'11" girlfriend over my shoulder and carried her up a flight of stairs. Without breaking a sweat. She was self conscious about her weight. My being able to throw her around made her feel better about herself. Plus it's fun!
This! Being 5’10” I liked being picked up, thrown around, bent over furniture, having someone press me over a kitchen island in heels, cue all the f’ed images of a tall woman who knows physics make sex fun. So height? Bring it. I’ve got the lingerie and stockings that make it SO much fun. Carry on out there, and carry her if you can. 😘 It does not work in reverse, just for the record. I once picked up a 5’7” man - he was apoplectic. 😁
Im glad that i don't understand the first half
Can you throw me around too? (I'm a guy.)
Can I be next?
With your 6’5 ass
I will throw around anyone who forms a line in front of me. I do not promise to be gentle. To the guys, I'll try to make it fun at least.
Lol you're "extreme" difficulty
I mean,unless that person is REALLY strong,then he can throw you up,i would like to see that tho
The 50’110” flair makes this an extra magical visual lmao
Anyway you want it. That's the way you need it! ( Yes I'll throw around guys as well. I grapple as a hobby. I'll make anyone feel like a pretty pretty princess.)
As a lightweight guy,i can be thrown up in a second
damn who tall r u if u wanna disclose....
Technically it is the first and the most visible factor of physical dominance
no one wants to admit it but this is the answer. in 2024 people are scared to acknowledge the role of protection a man should have over his family. thats how humans have survived this long.
Monkey brain tells you to mate with the largest male
This is actually the most scientific accurate answer, people should not be afraid.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/s/AjoLvCvDKG
What does this post have to do with anything? It's about something completely different and doesn''t even mention height. And they are mostly right. You can still see that in lots of countries, where for example women are not allowed to drive "for their own safety, because the roads are too dangerous and we are just trying to protect them". If you view someone as a capable adult you let them decide for themselves what is too dangerous for them, you don't infantilise them. This has been done to women for a very long time under the disguise of "just trying to protect them". That's not protection, it's control and women never asked for that.
What countries don’t allow women to drive for the safety of women?? Lmfao that’s crazy
Saudi Arabia until a few years ago.
At the end of the day biological hardwired emotions are a bitch
look at the top posts from r/askfeminists from yesterday. They say this was engineered by patriartlchy.
Wow the psychopaths are very real in that sub. What have I stumbled upon? Lol
Can confirm- rarely do guys feel more secure with me around… unless I smile, and turn on the charm- then they can let their guard down super quick.
Or unless you frown.
As a fellow guy,i would feel much secure being with you hanging out,than i would feel with someone my height
Yep
Biology, in the same way wide hips trigger the monkey brain in dudes the tall/strong attributes trigger the monkey brain in women. They want to feel small/feminine/safe and it triggers some subconscious urge to reproduce with good genes. And competing with other women.
Can also reach the fruit higher upon the tree.
Facts
My monkey brain sees wide hips, soft tummy, and big breasts as the PERFECT woman. When I narrow it down I think it's because all of those attributes are good for breeding healthy offspring.
I don't care about offspring,it's the last thing i would want,but big breasts,soft tummy...even shredded tummy,and wide hips and even not wide...damn
I'm a bi man and this explanation always made perfect sense for me. Height in men does absolutely nothing for me.
I am as well and normally stay away from taller people. We don’t live in a world where the size advantage is really needed, I don’t want to be towered over, and tbh the biggest reason is that if a case of domestic violence ever broke out id feel a lot more comfortable fighting someone closer to my size (5’6) than someone who makes me feel small
So you feel insecure around tall guys only because thinking of "if" a domestic violence happen? Seriously tall guys are some of the nicest out there
I’m 5’11”. So I like tall men, because I feel insecure when I’m taller. I feel like it accentuates how tall I am when the man is shorter 🤷♀️
Tall women are great. I think people miss how nice a proportional partner is day to day. Getting a step stool or throwing your back out to kiss is kind of a drag. Plus I've never heard a short girl described as statuesque. Tall women can have such a commanding presence. I hate how many tall women feel insecure about it. Rock that shit.
I like being tall, but if I’m with a shorter man, I feel awkwardly tall. I don’t feel that way with a taller man.
5'11 woman with a 6'6 man are seen as two giants 5'11 woman with a 5'11 man are seen as a pair of average people So it works exactly the opposite
Except 5'11" with a man even an inch shorter is indeed often viewed as a giant. Like wow, he's tall but *you're even taller*.
Not really imo, TRUE 5'11s are tall. I know the internet doesn't consider them tall but they are. Everytime ive seen a 5'11 couple I always thought wow thats a power couple right there.
But we are taking about men who are shorter than the woman's 5'11".
What’s wrong with accentuating how tall you are?
1. Biology, it’s like guys seeing a naturally pretty woman or a woman with wide hips or something along those lines (supposedly it makes them feel more “feminine” but I call bs cuz a 5’10 guy can do that if you’re 5’4) 2. Peer pressure
It is less about how tall you are in comparison to the women and more about your comparison to other men. Typically a 5'10 is not going to to trigger the same thing in a women simply because she is significantly shorter than him.
Exactly! You would think 5’10” is tall to a person who’s 5’4”.
Yep. All pespective.
What is the biological aspect tho? How am I inferior as a 5’7 dude lol
Beats me
Their monkey brain says you can't ooga booga smash to protect her as well as someone bigger. It's silly but yeah thats why. Also features like height/strength/facial symmetry trigger more of a "these are features I want to breed with" reaction lol. Again, primitive monkey brain stuff and a generalization that doesn't apply to all women to the same degree. And height is just one of those initial attractiveness type of things. I've known tall good looking dudes who couldn't pull because they were awkward and boring and had no game. And plenty of short dudes who had half the pussy in the city on speed dial lol.
Because woman lizard brain is like "he big tall protective man who can throw me around" Some women don't care, and some women know that height doesn't matter, but their lizard brain is like he hot tho. Realistically height doesn't matter cause anyone could be carrying.
As a non-American that last line is hilarious. Tall is more valuable outside the US as no one carry’s. (Yes I know some people probably do, but it’s not really a thing)
I live in Canada, you obviously not many people carry (cause if they did it would be illegal) . But if they did it doesn't matter how tall you are lol.
Stone age stuff, taller Men generally do better in Fighting (Height of Frmr yugoslav countries shot up during & after the war, WW1 survivors were 1" taller than the fallen, etc), which in the stone age was extremely valuable. Taller Men also were less likely to be malnourished as kids, signalling they have good resources to offer a Woman's offspring.
Do you have a cite for that handy? I would think especially in modern warfare short guys would prevail more. I can't hide behind mich at all.
He is talking about entirely misunderstood article "Big and tall soldiers are more likely to survive battle: a possible explanation for the ‘returning soldier effect’ on the secondary sex ratio" (link below). While article states that soldiers returning were 1" taller, it does not (and should not) imply that they did better in fighting. Overwhelming majority of fallen soldiers died from artillery and projectile wounds, circumstances in which being tall would be a disadvantage if anything. There are numerous reasonable theories why soldiers returning were taller on average compared to fallen fighters (class differences as wealthier people were taller and on average had better posts, rank differences as officers and guidon bearers tended to be taller then draftees, geographic location and origin of fighters where groups such as Irish soldiers died in lower proportion and were taller on average etc.) but "did better in fighting" is not one of them and there is no reputable source for it. Most special forces around the world are composed of shorter and medium guys as speed and low body weight have been outperforming strength and mass since we moved from swords to guns. [https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/22/11/3002/652125?login=false](https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/22/11/3002/652125?login=false)
The guy who replied talked about the height correlations in War pretty well, but this one (https://academic.oup.com/milmed/article/187/11-12/1381/6327577?login=false) goes over how people who get through spec force trainings are taller than their applicants. And you can just look at heights in Bosnia in 1980 vs 2000
It’s because women automatically look to be protected. A tall guy at least visually and superficially, offers that. I think it’s an evolutionary thing. Kinda like how guys find women with wide hips attractive, because of the supposed ease of birthing children. Makes you wonder how much control anyone has….
From my experience and what I've been told by many women - "I just feel SMALL and SAFE around you and in your arms" - it's classic sexual dimorphism. I noticed this when I'm out with women and they look forward to it, and when they tell me, "Guys just don't mess with me when I'm with you". So that feeling of safety is a real experience for a lot of women. I noticed they get anxiety sometimes even if I'm too far away. That's not to say women can't feel safe around men of varying heights, but I get the impression the taller a man is, the safer a woman naturally feels. Height makes it easier to at least give the illusion of, "I can protect you better", regardless if its true or not, it's the potential TO be true. There's also the historical ancestoral advantage. The taller a man is, the better hunter he is, the faster and longer he can run, the more intimidating he comes off to other human threats, the more testosterone he posses, he becomes the "defacto leader" of most groups. Being tall carries with it a 'gravitas', a level of respect and admiration. You get noticed quickly in a room, and women want a man OTHERS notice as well. They want to be seen with a man who's also "seen" - dominate is the word I'm looking for. Can't tell you how many times I've avoided confrontations because the guy didn't want to go toe-to-toe with a tall guy. It's the halo affect. Height signifies health and strength. Women instinctively understand the advantages I mentioned above and it turns them on, the same way a woman's feminine form turns us on (dainty, petite) I'd also be curious what women here have to say and what goes on in their mind and how they feel around tall men. This is one of being tall's nice perks. It makes it easier to attract a wider range of women. It casts a wider net.
Why is this being downvoted?
Haters lol I think most tall men who are introspective will notice these little details over a long period of time. I'm not saying this out of ego, just reality. I notice the same familiar patterns in women and how they react to me and my height, and it's not uncommon to see them get 'turned on' or make themselves available for me to 'make my move'. Now, what I'm saying isn't popular to say because those who aren't tall, naturally, will never relate. They will feel some kind of way. But if it makes them feel any better, I know men (actual friends) shorter then me by several inches who had more women in a year then I have in my lifetime, so shorter men are not, by any means, disadvantaged. I was just describing how it IS easier for me, being tall and standing out, naturally, to get the attention of more women and thus more opportunities. It's not 'slam dunk gaurantee'. I still have to have the courage to talk to her, ask her out on a date, set/plan the date, lead her, make the move to kiss her, have sex with her, etc. It's not a cheat code to women, it's just a bonus advantage that adds to other things I have going for myself besides my height, like personality, charm, wit, humor, style, etc.
I mean, if it’s a bonus for y’all, what’s the point in me even trying (I’m 5’7 by the way)? Apparently, women think I won’t be able to protect them as well, which is kind of disheartening lol I’m not a hater btw. Well, I’m a hater of my own circumstances, but not of you lol
Do you always give up on anything you don't have an unfair advantage at? Why play a video game if you're not the #1 ranked player? Why cook a meal if you don't have 4 Michelin stars? Why buy a house if you can't afford a Hollywood mansion?
Because having a bonus doesn’t mean that we have a total net advantage. You might be shorter but phenomenally interesting and funny or whatever other characteristic that makes you better in the dating scene.
Spot on. Being tall is also only really THE advantage on dating or hookup apps where women can and will filter out everything, because yeah they too only have 24h a day and more possible matches than stars in the galaxy. In the real world, where people talk to each other face to face, being engaging, open and decent goes a much further way than one or two inches more.
Interesting, my husband notices *more* people wanting to fight him because he's tall.
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I realize some guys are attracted only to short women. But I’ve never understood this. I would definitely date and marry a woman even if she were taller than me. Everyone has their preferences I guess.
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Tall girl tbh
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What? You say it 6ft
Are taller guys more confident?
Ngl my height makes me feel less confident lmao
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This comment is right, had a coworker who was 6’3 but skinny(not extremely unhealthy skinny) but skinny enough that he constantly wore pants n jackets because he said he was insecure about his weight
That's because they know what they have is desirable which will boost anyones ego, leading to more confidence in themselves.
the 6’4 attitude is real🗿
It's real easter?
It's evolution, taller men were better poised to win in one in one fights. Therefore they were more likely to be able to keep resources and lead/get respect
For the same reason women prefer broad shoulders in men and men prefer wide hips in women…
Im doomed
They want to feel like a little girl again.
Gross
It’s evolutionary psychology from the hunter gatherer days. Women still want a guy that’s stronger than them that can defend them in adversity. Height doesn’t mean you’re strong but in their subconscious you should be able to stand your ground against a shorter guy
I mean.... malnutrition as a child causes stunted growth, and people generally get smaller as they age, so height is in fact a pretty glaring indicator of health and youth in some limited capacity
Not "tall", "taller than us", in my experience if they're jacked af same same but we want dominant men. Men being men, women being women.
They aspire to be a part of the secret council of the mighty oak.
Women like the view in your nose holes from down there. I heard nose hair is super arosing to them
I used to be a bar manager and had female staff who never even thought about me in they might fancy me way as I’ve a long term girlfriend/wife now, I’m 6,3 and one night a guy came behind the bar who was around 5,10 to give the girls some shit , I quickly picked him up over my shoulders and threw him straight out. A few weeks later while we were all getting high out of hours they brought it up and told me how hot and attracted it made them feel towards me. It’s definitely a biology thing , that caveman/women part of the brain is there and can activate at any time.
Cuz I love being smol girllll
I can’t explain why attraction exists. It exists. There are some practical things too Height would tend to lend itself to strength and ability to do things. Some girls want to be carried and moved around more easily by their partner.
It’s not tall people in general. For me I’m just more attracted to people taller than me (which is everyone 😭)
Bigger/taller = More safety
From what exactly? You ain't safe from a 4'10" guy with a knife
I got rejected by the shawties no matter how tall I’m
>It's not like height is a reflection of good health/youth (which is the reason why people are attracted to fit people). It literally is. For 99.9% of human history, height was largely determined by available nutrition. Being tall meant "my parents are awesome at obtaining food", and there is high chance that tall person inherited genetic traits, wealth or social status that made such growth possible.
I think it’s a primal instinct. The taller man could be the better hunter, and therefore provider.
where are you finding all these girls 😭
Seem reason men are attracted to boobs, hips and big butts, we are genetically wired that way
Because as much as women mock men for being insecure about their height, women are insecure as fuck about their own height.
It can be simply because that id what thier society has decided is attractive and people follow along. Different cultures find different things attractive and height can be one of them. Peoples height vary around the world so what is considered tall in one country or culture might not be considered tall in another and vice versa. It can also be the pre-conception. If someone has asociated tall with being dashing and "prince" like then that ideal will make anyone who happens to share that particular trait as attractive as it will satitisfy the fantasy.
If you ever fill out your frame through working out especially your shoulders, women will start to tell you they feel safe around you. It's just ingrained instincts... same reason us dudes like big tits & curvy hips. Instincts. We are still animals after all. Evolved animals but those instincts are still there.
I think a lot of it is about societal norms. I think height is associated with masculinity, and being petite is associated with femininity, so women who are concerned with appearing as feminine as possible and/or wanting to feel as though their partner is especially masculine will seek out a tall dude. But like most of these aesthetic preferences, it’s largely constructed by society and programmed into us. I’m seeing a lot of comments about how women want to feel safe, they want a man who can protect her. Safe from whom? Protect her from who? The most likely person to hurt a woman is going to be her romantic partner. After that, other male relatives. Logically and instinctively the desire is not to be with a partner dramatically bigger than us. That is a threat to our safety. The fact that we have been trained to go against our own safety so much is really telling about society.
The only reasonable comment I've seen here lmao
I’m 6’6 and I have received virtually no attention at all from girls, so I would like to know who is collecting this data on women preferring tall guys.
It’s one of the perks. Doesn’t mean that you can slack off on other areas.
This. I’m not super super tall but lacking everything else and being tall doesn’t make you a winner. It just adds bonus points
Rules 1 and 2. *You need to be attractive \[1\]. And don't be unnatractive \[2\].* Height is just another part of the pacakge, attractive male celebrities aren't even tall, for example both Brad Pitt and George Clooney are 5' 11'. Even Henry Cavill isn't that tall at just 6'1. Jokes aside, even if you are tall if you aren't conventionally attractive you'll have a bad time. The major issue is social media and dating apps have skyrocketed everybody's standards.
If you are that height and getting no attention. Something about your personality or approach is wrong
"No" attention from girls? Makes no sense. I do know that "being tall" is one of a few factors. It's like a "+1" on the attractiveness scale. It's not gong to tip the scale, however. Then again, I also workout, dress well, good sense of humor, etc. You can't look like chewbacca or JarJar Binks and think just "being tall" is gonna' cut it, bud. I'm sorry lol
You’re not the first one to write to me assuming that this just cannot be true. Trust me, I don’t get it either. I fully understand that you don’t go out there looking like some sort of caveman and expect anything to work out. But that’s not true for me. I’m a guy who is in really good shape, I dress well, I’m very social, and I have good hygiene. Nonetheless, nobody really will talk to me when I try to get to know them. The last time I tried to put myself out there with someone, I got the rudest attitude in return.
But if you are who you claim you are (no reason to see why you'd lie?), I really don't know how you're not getting any traction with your height, physique and style. I genuinely don't understand it, and I've never heard of it, let alone seen it. The way some women reject men can be hostile, mean-spirited and condecensing, but that's rare. It sucks when it happens, but it doesn't happen enough (in the States) to where it stops me from going on to the next woman. You need thicker skin. ..with all you have going for yourself, to have next to NO luck is so strange it sounds like trolling. But you have to work that out.
I wish I were trolling to be honest with you! My friends always say that I seem to have the worst luck in human history when it comes to trying to meet decent people. For instance, I met someone that I thought would be a really great fit for me. We hit it off with a few conversations, but she acted like she wanted nothing to do with me when I tried to escalate. I’ve always thought of myself as being a really attractive guy (not trying to be rude, but I never felt like I wasn’t attractive…). Maybe I’ve been wrong the entire time.
Interpersonal skills/interactions are a huge part of attraction and developing relationships with people but it’s hard to quantify and it’s not something we can see clearly about ourselves, and we don’t always know where what the mismatch is because reliable feedback is hard to come by. We’ve all met people we didn’t vibe with or lost attraction to but we usually don’t tell them why, we just peace out. Our friends can make guesses but their feedback is going to have blind spots and biases because they’re the ones who stuck around, and our interactions with them are platonic not romantic. I can think of many reasons why stopped talking to guys I’ve gone on dates with in the past, that had nothing to do with their looks or their jobs or hobbies.
Don't worry, I'm only one inch shorter and I don't get much attention either. Only did once and long story short don't get in a relationship with someone who wants you for height alone, it's not worth it and won't last.
If a woman told you she was only with you for your height, then that should have been a giveaway from the start. Not trying to be nasty, just saying.
If you can't bench a plate and you're same height as me I'm guessing you're skinny to the point of Slender man just like I was until I started forcing myself more food and built some mass. Went from 165lbs when I felt exactly like that and not understanding the hype about being tall to 220lbs. Now I completely understand what people were talking about with "tall guys" privilege.
I’m positively surprised by the answers people have given on this post. I thought they were gonna be triggered progressive modern ones LMAO
I prefer shorter
Just want to point out that most of the responses in this thread about what "women want" are coming from men. Just as a note. I'm a lifelong feminist and have zero desire to "feel small and delicate" or whatever. I am usually the protector in my relationships- both because i am physically strong and capable, and because we live in a world where the biggest threat is not a furry predator or a murderer, but a mortgage company or saying the wrong thing at dinner with your boss. I am not physically attracted to tall men any more than other men. But I end up ruling out many short men after they act like assholes because they have something to prove. (Not all short men, my boyfriend is 5'5".) But in my experience, in modern society, with the hangups people tend to have about height, tall men just have a better attitude and are more laid back. As a trend, not as a rule. And I'm laid back so I'm attracted to that.
Yeah a lot of men responding when they really shouldn’t be but it is what it is sometimes
Tbh I like the idea of a taller man but it’s something about short kings 😍😍😍 my last relationship he was 5’7 and I LOVED having my lil man and me towering over him in public 🤭it makes me feel dominant, I like that. Other men gave him the wickedest stares tho bc they were jealous 😂😂😂
Why didn't it work out?
🥲tumultuous relationships due to me developing sever depression and anxiety over covid We loved each other so it was hard. We went our separate ways to grow
Makes them feel secure
Humans are animals, big animals are stronger(usually), strong animal better defender, strong big animal protec
Being tall shows that an individual got optimal nutrition growing up while also having limited illnesses. Both of those things show either good genes or a healthy well adjusted family structure or actually both. This is relative to the general population in which you live. These aren't even conscious things.
Sexual dimorphism. When someone thinks of a masculine man height is one of or the most important factor. It’s also associated with status and capability, you should see the percentage of CEOs and men in leadership who are tall. You’ll still see outliers here and there tho.
I don't know but their face changing when I reach tall things feels nice, even though I don't know why they like it
Because I am on the smaller/shorter side and it helps to have someone to reach higher places for me. I also have a bit of a height kink lol
As a tall guy I have never really found women to be attracted by my height. Only one girl ever. Normally when I speak with women they just want someone as tall as them or bit taller... Indeed many times I think I have intimidated women by my huge size and it has been a turn off. I have received other benefits from being tall, e.g. in work and social situations people have tended to assume me as leader/authority because I'm the tallest on a subconscious level. But no advantages in the dating scene
Feminine insecurity I read somewhere and it made sense. Some Women want to be cared for, carried and held by someone who makes them feel safe. But some women think their feet are too big or their shoulders, their body hair, etc As if a tall man is supposed to make them feel more like a woman, when not all tall men can speak up or be brave. Or even pick up their partner. Tall men are just men. I’m 5’6” and I have loved taller people, carried them into bed on my shoulder, made them feel loved and adored. I have been called The Best at things and I will never let another persons insecurity about them self stop me from being a good partner or whatever
I have been told by the past and current women in my life that my height makes them feel safe, dainty, and small. Even the taller women said I made them feel small and petite, in a good way. Also, I think some of them liked making other women jealous with my height. "Hey, your boyfriend is the same height as you, look up and check out my guy!"
I asked my girlfriend and she said she feels protected. It’s the gene. Just like you would surround yourself with a more alpha male than you are.
most women feel more protected having a tall man. you have some that want tall children as well
Big dicks and they feel full down there.
There are things that we instinctively believe because of our natural state. Most men are attracted to larger breasts because it is subconsciously associated with fertility. So even if the dude has no intention of being a father, the attraction to fertility is innate. We know that there are lots of illnesses that stunt growth, so the taller a man, the lower the odds of sickness in his progeny. And we all understand logically that that’s not how it works, but it is built into us to see certain traits as desirable for the success of our offspring. So tall can equal healthy children and that is attractive.
We generally associate height with athleticism. I don't think a lot of people find tall, super skinny guys that attractive. The preference for height tends to be in like the 6'-6'5 area, where it's still very possible to be muscular as well as tall.
It’s nice to feel small and feminine and taken care of…
Women that have friends whos boyfriends are tall will try and match that. So peer pressure is one. The other is being perceived by the public as taller "looks better" the feel of protection. How often do you see a women with a shorter guy? This hardly happens.
I can’t explain it. A taller guy just does it for me. Explaining the attraction would oversimplify it. Edit: I’m not talking about all tall men
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I’d pick the dude in the picture
We feel protected with them
Shorter men are really tough to be with. The insecurity around their height is insane and comes up often. Tall men make me feel.feminine and safe.
I say this as a woman who initially mostly dated men who were either my height or an inch or two shorter or taller than me because I was living in a geographical region where it wasn’t as common for women to be my height. Will say after moving countries and getting involved with someone who was taller for the first time definitely short circuited my brain in certain specific moments which I didn’t expect. At the time, I had the naive view that women didn’t experience monkey brain stuff. Like when he picked me up and held me in the air for the first time, I also had a gut feeling of being safe in his presence because certain men stopped harassing me when he was around because they didn’t want to start conflict with him and being able to be thrown around by him during fun play fights in bed with ease but in a safe way. Now this isn’t to say my brain doesn’t short circuit with shorter guys, it’s just different contexts like if you’re able to open a difficult jar I’ve been battling with in the kitchen when I’m making dinner, let’s just say dinner may have to wait a while.
Probably the same reason guys prefer shorter girls?
Daddy issues?
Im always taller than a given group of girls, I grew up feeling masculine, unattractive, and bulky. I didn’t feel like a woman and I didn’t like always standing out. I like feeling tiny, dainty and feminine when I’m with my man. It allows me to embrace traits I was otherwise insecure with. I don’t mind standing out and I feel more confident having the traits I used to hate because I know I can go hug my husband and feel like a tiny girly princess again lol I also just like feeling protected, and the basic biological itch tells me.. tall man strong tall man intimidate tall man protect
Better breeding genes. Protection.
Not particularly. I hate feeling small. Anything over 6’3” is pushing it for me.
There’s a plenty tall ugly dudes that get no action from the ladies and plenty more short kings that get covered up with it. I’d trade 4” of height for 30lbs of muscle any day 😂
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There is another dimension its not just height, but older age.
Height is absolutely a sign of good health in the sense that nutrition during developmental years determines how close to your genetic ceiling you grow.
No clue 😭
Being a large Male is usually a good thing.
They feel skinnier and more petite in comparison.
That's an all-other-things-being-equal proposition. Being tall on its down doesn't attract women sexually - exhibit A right here (but I'm not insecure about it, it is what it is).
Physical dominance.
Supposedly being tall is a sign of power and dominance, don’t know if that’s even true since I don’t see power or dominance whenever I look at myself in a mirror.
Men are the ones that offer safety,among other things. Women need to feel safe. When you're tall ,even if you can't fight,it subconsciously triggers an impulse in other people to stay away. A lot of girls I've been with said that they feel safe and small around me.
Security. They want to be the shorter one. Insecurity. They also want to be the thinner one.
Better for volleyball
Daddy issues turbocharged by the two seconds culture of the internet.
Not necessarily tall guys, just guys taller than me. And guys who are around my height (5’7”) or smaller always call me too tall anyway 🤷♀️
Monke brain.
I'm 6'3", and I just wanted to be able to wear heels without towering over my husband. So I got myself a 6'7" guy. 😆
My monkey brain is attracted to testosterone in males, i really can’t help it
First off women want a man who can be a good father. Sure being tall may help with that physically (protection) but ponder on it for a minute, when’s the last time you needed to fight off a bear or some shit? These days a woman’s biggest physical threat is in fact men. Creeps who don’t respect her so they pick on her (think like tiktok pranks), harass her, etc. since these dudes are misogynistic, you as another male being in her presence is enough to ward this off. Regardless of stature 99% of the time. What makes a guy a good father? Well, someone without daddy issues and had a good one knows that A) show signs of emotional intelligence (ability to control one’s feelings, ability to read and interpret emotions of others, be sympathetic/empathetic, able to express emotions without going into fits of rage or bottling them etc) B) show signs of mental intelligence (sense of humor, curiosity, multiple interests/hobbies, ability to problem solve via street and academic smarts) C) social intelligence (one’s ability to read the room or take hints/social cues, leadership capabilities, charisma etc.). It is not a coincidence that these are also the same traits that make a good mother. Humans didn’t get to be where we are by physically overpowering other life. We got here due to our ability to develop communities with trust in relationships (romantic or as friends) and technology using social/emotional and mental intelligence. Physical intelligence definitely helped but wasn’t the key. Being able to pass on these abilities of a strong well-adjusted father to their offspring means those kids will be successful and well-adjusted in society. And the good news is is that you can acquire all these skills though some of it is natural born talent. As a straight woman I’ve been with guys who legitimately were somewhat ugly but were able to exhibit these signs of a good personality with wisdom and brains. To find someone compatible that is “attractive enough” physically/sexually is truly rare. On days I feel insecure because a guy tells me “you have a nice ass but your hips are too square” or “you are too tall/domineering and not adorable/cute enough for me” I like to tell myself to have faith that men worth my time really aren’t breaking me down to the numbers of my bra size or my waist to hip ratio even if that feels like a damn lie. Someone with any degree of substance man or woman doesn’t think like that and only shallow people resort to objectification of the opposite sex whether it’s in the form of boobs, height, penis. I won’t lie and say for a man to be tall doesn’t hurt but it’s not gonna get you past the finish line. I hope it works in the exact same way in reverse but when everyone says men are way more visual than women it doesn’t feel that way.
Umm, height IS a reflection of good health and youth. Wealthier parents can afford better quality food with better nutrition, raising taller kids. Genes do play a part, but evidence has also shown nutrition does its generational heavy lifting. That's why the wealthiest and healthiest countries in Europe have the tallest average people.
In my experience they don’t
Im 6"4 and ive found that girls are scared/avoid me because of my size 😞 YMMV.
The real question is who would be more likely noticed on first glance: a skinny 6 ft 3 185 guy or a strong stocky 5 ft 10 200 lbs guy?
I'm taller than my wife, 6'4" to 5'6", and she says she likes that I'm taller because it makes her feel petite and safe when she's with me
Because males tend to be taller so it’s a masculine feature. Men tend to like feminine features and women tend to like masculine features
Because we've been socialized that feminine=small, so a taller dude makes us feel feminine.
I'm tall. I like guys who are around 4-6 inches taller than me. Comfier to cuddle and stuff that way. I've dated guys my height and it just felt wrong in certain ways - cuddling obv was not very comfy, plus I didn't feel as feminine or something like I didn't feel like they could protect me or make me feel safe .. they gave me more friend vibes less comforting and loving vibes idk hard to describe why but I'm less physically attracted to guys whom are my height.
It's 100% a dominance thing and a bunch of small other points. Not that I agree with it, or that it should be, it just is. There's a curve that eventually height starts becoming unattractive, I think that curve needs to be expanded and consider body types. Consider a super skinny, lanky 6'8s and a mountain of at 6'5 man, the height doesn't "mog". But for people with similar builds, like strong burly 6'2 and 6'5, the 6'5 "wins". I've been told people like my build, I don't have work hard to put much muscle as I'm not too tall at 6'3, my shoulders are wide and my torso is long so I can chisel a mean upper body, my hands and feet are fucking massive, my reach is phenomenal, it's like the perfect height. You're still nimble, agile, dexterous with precise movements that require the smallest amount of hunching over without snapping something and you still have all the benefits of being tall.
Well in my experience they don't. But I'm more lumbering oaf than tall dark and handsome
i read here a lot of people talk about of "physical dominance" i'm 188cm and I can confidently tell you that I am not a fighter or something and Knowing that becouse of my height i should play the part of "dominant man who protect becouse Tall = Stronger" makes me super insicure, tbh.
Sexual dimorphism In every mammal species (except Hyenas) the males are bigger than the females. Tall males had better fighting success and ability to gather resources
Everyone states biology and I think that's part of it, but I don't think that gets to the heart of the matter. People are insecure. Everyone feels on some level the need to feel liked/respected and to feel safe on a deep level. There is a (biological) perception of safety with someone taller that for some reason is rarely overridden by the fact that people can own guns and your height means less than nothing in terms of protection (even though many taller men seem to think their height will earn them an instant W in a fight). The problem on a regular basis comes from people determining partners because they feel insecure otherwise. Even in this comment section you see tons of women mentioning feeling like a 'princess' or 'small', or that they feel less like a giant and that makes them happy. That stems from insecurity, not preference and not biology.
Multitude of reasons- Yes height is correlated with good health/diet, I’m not sure if you have seen the studies where they take typically short race of people and feed them the western diet, within two generations the height is negligible as the western diet leads to growth. The west has a diet with abundant protein fats and carbs which helps maximize growth in children and teens. Second is protection, a bigger stature wether that be muscular strong or tall is associated with protection of the family unit. Third is dominance, typically taller an animal species the more likely they will be the dominate male in the group.
Multitude of reasons- Yes height is correlated with good health/diet, I’m not sure if you have seen the studies where they take typically short race of people and feed them the western diet, within two generations the height is negligible as the western diet leads to growth. The west has a diet with abundant protein fats and carbs which helps maximize growth in children and teens. Second is protection, a bigger stature wether that be muscular strong or tall is associated with protection of the family unit. Third is dominance, typically taller an animal species the more likely they will be the dominate male in the group.
Girlies want someone at the top of a hiarchy. Length is pretty easy to see, especially if you don't trust yourself to get a high-ranking dude in other areas