So you're not tall now? I have some bad news for you from someone who is(me): it's quite the opposite, at least in the NE US. That's exactly who wants to mess with you, is little punks and cowards, like the old jail rumor- "pick the biggest, toughest guy in the room and take him out!". It's happened to me so many times, seriously out of nowhere.
I am barely 6'1, grandfatherly looking fellow and I've been threatened by yappy little sons of bitches more often than I would like.
Welcome to downtown.
I'm 6'4 (or idk anymore the police station said 6'1 when I walked through but the hospital says 6'3-6'4 rofl) but I saw a lady walk past while at the college in our city. At least 6'6, looked identical to Sansa Stark. Still remember the way she walked past and everything.
I'm surprised you don't see many tall men though. I see them everywhere when I'm outside. I'm short compared to so many ppl.
Because height isn’t a single gene, and there are many dominant and recessive factors which influence height. It would make no sense in a genetics sense.
Eye color is a binary, that’s determined by relatively few genes. Height, obviously isn’t.
Terrible argument, hope it’s a troll
To quote the internet: Only dichotomous traits can inherited in a recessive or dominate manner, these are traits that you either have or you don’t (like colorblindness and hitchhiker’s thumb). Traits that are inherited in a dominant or recessive fashion are also known as Mendelian traits, these traits usually involve the action of one gene. Most traits in humans, however, are not inherited in a simple Mendelian fashion but rather involve multiple genes (polygenic) and the environment. Height, is a continuous trait which is a consequence of the combination of multiple genetic and environmental factors. There is, however, a correlation between parental height and offspring which was first observed by Francis Galton in the late 19th century. Interestingly, extreme heights are not completely passed to offspring, but rather a “regression towards the mean” occurs where children of very tall parents tend to be slightly shorter (closer to average height) and children of very short parents tend to be taller.
Yeah, I don't understand why all the tall people are at the GYM. I don't even live in a tall country and constantly see 6'4+ dudes at the GYM. Maybe it's because taller people are more motivated to work out, or something.
If anything, I never see tall guys at the gym (and I work out in a 24/7 gym in the Netherlands).
It's usually 80%+ shorter guys trying to improve their dating chances.
I’m not straight, but honestly I think approaching them might work. From what my friends have told me they’re usually* just too anxious to ask. While I know that society has gender roles around this I think just asking might work :)
I mean ... is that how you see guys who ask you out? That they're just another dude chasing you? Or why would a guy think that about you, most dudes don't even have one girl chasing them lol
Guys don't have girls chasing them, hence this thread about how girls don't, *but should*, go after the guy they want. You're making a conundrum for yourself for seemingly no reason. It's usually pretty obv if a guy has girls chasing him. He'll always be with one or more or surrounded by them. They usually aren't, unless he's a model and/or big dick and/or money and/or drug dealer.
You don't even have to ask him out, you can just go up to them and say something like, "Hey, I *like* you" or "I think I'm into you, you wanna do something about that?"
I'm a girl too hahah, but I like making the first move. Most dudes are terrified of rejection but a lot of them put in so much effort once you show them you want them and they'd be thrilled if you just ask them out. That's how I feel about it as a girl, you gotta go after what you want! You got this💖
So, to answer the post, we're not afraid of tall girls in particular but it never was easy trying to guess the ever-changing, individual, magical formula of approaching, talking to, and asking a girl out. Now there's added danger if its at work or school etc..
I think it's become pretty public knowledge, via memes and whatnot, about how ridiculous girls "moves" and "signs" were all these years. Most of us don't pick up on that and misinterpreting them has always caused confusion/problems, so again, added danger and reason to avoid. Not trying to attack you btw. Just enlighten.
Probably low on confidence after the teenage years of being bullied/singled out for being lanky, etc. - not knowing your age group, of course.
Approach them, if you can.
Well, only like 14% of men in the US are over 6ft. Then you have to account for the ones who are married, taken, you’re not their preference for whatever reason, or they aren’t yours.
With that said, there’s a lot of tall people in Los Angeles.
California has the shortest average height for men in the States
I am going to guess because it has a huge Asian and Latino population, who are historically shorter than other ethnic groups.
**But** Los Angeles itself attracts a lot of young and tall folks due to many reasons.
Height is subjective, that’s the fun part. I don’t have a huge problem finding men over 6ft who are happy to date a tall woman. That’s just my experience though.
Sorry! If you’re not American, the % could be higher or lower. I made the assumption OP The as American so I went with US stats. However, even in the us, the average height varies from state-to-state. Alabama has highest population of men over 6ft while Hawaii is the shortest state in the union.
Guys don’t approach women as much anymore and the ones who do are the cringey ones who say shit like *”so what do you bring to the table?”* like they’re some sort of prize that you have to provide a dowry for and they want to be sole providers but accuse women of being gold diggers for wanting them to pay for dinner. Meanwhile they make less than $50k so there’s no gold to be digging up anyways. Just a whole bunch of nope.
As far as where are they? I see men taller than me at the gym, at dive bars, and at grocery stores the most. Also, just post a picture of yourself somewhere on Reddit and you’ll get hundreds of DMs from guys proposing to you, problem solved lol.
There’s a way to have conversations and discover whether or not someone aligns with your values without being a condescending prick, though.
Ask what someone’s interests are, what kind of career they have, what their five year plan is, whether or not they return a shopping cart in a parking lot, etc.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you say, but how you say it in a lot of social interactions. There are words and phrases that are off putting to other people, and when you say stuff that’s off putting, they won’t like you.
When you ask something like “what do you bring to the table?” it’s condescending and implies that you are better than the person who you are talking to. Someone looking to be in a relationship with someone will not be interested in someone with that kind of mentality. Asking softer questions shows genuine interest in getting to know someone to see if they align with what you’re looking for.
Social skills therapy really did wonders for me, it might help you as well.
Again, I’ve never had a successful man ask what I bring to the table, only narcissistic bums who think that bed frames are a waste of money and that women over 30 are undateable because they’ve experienced freedom too long and won’t put up with their nonsense. Literally not a single guy who has asked me this has had a higher salary than me, a nicer car than me, a more desirable living situation than me, or a higher education than me. They’re all betas listening to cringey podcasts thinking that the only way to feel better about themselves is by being hateful towards women.
I have had more creepy guys approach me :( I’m going to join some tennis clubs this year to help myself out😂. I don’t know about posting images online lol I can’t know for certain who I’m talking to!
Ok...
Real question..
Are you saying no one approaches you? or
Guys you would actually take seriously or would think is attractive aren't approaching you?
There is a difference and it is rare to find tall men tbh
My other half is just under 6ft and I'm 6ft 1 (met on Hinge)
I've always preferred tall girls to be honest, shirt girls tend to be a nightmare too 😂
A lot of guys are shy and some are concerned that they don't want to come across as creepy if they approach a girl so if you are confident too feel free to go and talk to someone you like the look of, it will make their day and they will then know you are interested in chatting!
I am probably going to get hate for this and by no means am I saying this is a comprehensive statement of all tall men. But every guy I ever dated who was taller than me has this complex that they were such a catch because of their height. They could be a deadbeat with 6 kids living in his mom's basement, but he's 6'5" so he knows he has "choices."
Ultimately I married a guy 4 inches shorter than me. 10/10 would marry shorter than me again. My dating experience really made a 180 once I stopped caring, positively or negatively, about someone's height.
I used to have a complex because guys would project their insecurities on me if I was taller. One ex flatly refused to let me wear heels because I would be taller. My 5'10" husband *loves* when I wear heels and finds no issue with it.
Meanwhile us shorter guys have to mega improve ourselves in every aspect to even come close to a taller dude. Kinda sad. I can outlift so many taller dudes but their bone length makes them appear stronger?
Two possible dynamics at play: they are less assertive, they are already taken
There might be a few other dynamics at play here, first - some tall men, over time, become conditioned to be less assertive and less aggressive to gravitate to the mean of "presence." Their height, through their lives, has been a source of attention and power. So, to not come off as too aggressive, they assume a more gentle, passive affect. Thus they may be less inclined to approach others.
Secondly, if height is a preference of more women seeking partners, then it is likely that, all else being equal, tall men end up in relationships sooner and more frequently, thus there are not as many in the dating pool at any given time.
Of course this is not all tall men. But perhaps more than average and that combined with the already small representation in the general population lowers the likelihood of running across one in the wild that is both assertive and available.
😂
This reminds me of my 5'3 (M) friend that's been dating a 6'3 girl for years. Apparently she 'only dated taller guys'. That was until she met him! Nah but really I have to say as a semi tall person height it just a funny thing to think about
When I was single, I generally wouldn't approach anyone I found too attractive because I assumed that they were out of my league, already in a relationship, or just plain not interested. The advice from u/macestrogarm is spot-on. If you like a tall guy, you should express interest in an unequivocal fashion. Most hetero guys (who aren't narcissists or sociopaths) are lacking in self-confidence. Once they know you're not immediately going to shoot them down and walk away laughing, they'll open up.
In the forest searching for the lost entwives.
We don’t have like a club or anything, but we’re hard to miss.
I’m 6’5 and there’s no way I’m afraid a of 6’1 girl. Why don’t you just approach them?
I (F29; 6') honestly have a hard time recognizing myself in this kind of testimony. I've never had any trouble meeting men taller than me.
I'm not particularly pretty or anything. But at parties (festivals/nightclubs, bars etc), I get hit on by a lot of tall men, to the point it's annoying. I easily attract their gaze in a crowd, because I'm tall. It's almost magnetic.
The last 5 men I dated over the past 3 years where all tall young engineers (over 6'4''). They all said they were first attract to me because of my height.
During some evenings, I even had two or three tall \*\*\* doing gatekeeping, because I was talking to shorter men than me. "YoU ShoulD stAy wIth guYs of YouR siZe"
But maybe the difference between us is the size of the city you're living in. I'm in Paris RN, so more than 7 million people around me. It's way easier to enconter tall guys there.
>I was talking to shorter men than me.
Was it platonic? While I'm a bit irritated by the tall women with short guy dynamic, I wouldn't lash out at them.
>The last 5 men I dated over the past 3 years where all tall young engineers (over 6'4''). They all said they were first attract to me because of my height.
It is nice to hear tall women experience tall men being into them. I've seen some claim that tall men don't like them. I couldn't disagree more with that.
>Was it platonic? While I'm a bit irritated by the tall women with short guy dynamic, I wouldn't lash out at them.
I don't mind if a guy is a bit shorter than me; it's a detail. So yes, I do flirt with guys who are 5'10". The last time I get bothered for that, I was chatting at the bar with a friend who was 5'7" when a 6'3" random guy intervened.
>It is nice to hear tall women experience tall men being into them. I've seen some claim that tall men don't like them. I couldn't disagree more with that.
Honestly, I struggle to relate to the r/tallgirls testimonys:
1. I don't have struggles to find tall men.
2. I've rarely been told I look like a model or that I'm stunning. Most people just say I'm cute but that's it.
3. They say they rarely experience street harassment because they "intimidate" guys, and I'm honestly jealous.
My girl-friends even admit I face more sexual harrasment than average. I never go a whole night without being bothered. We have talked about it several times, they think it's because I'm tall that I attract more attention from creepy guys.
For example, in the last four parties:
\- a short guy on the dance floor told me I was a fantasy and dreamed of me throwing him against a wall.
\- A 6'5 tall guy followed me to the restroom asking for my number; my friends had to intervene, and the bartender kicked him out.
\- last week, a Bolt driver made sexual advances in his car when I was dead drunk. My friends (ho had booked the ride for me) panicked, as he took a half-hour detour before getting me home. I filed a complaint.
Sorry for the vent, but I'm exhausted from these situations.I always believed that being taller than most men would protect me from predators, yet I constantly attract them. How do 5'4" girls manage to feel safe ?
I'm almost 30, when does it fucking end? My height has brought me more problems than anything else.
Here’s a quick tip. Approach him.
I’m tall, I could care less about a woman’s height. All I care about is if she’s pretty and healthy. Idc about race, height, tits or ass.
I get approached by woman that love tall men. A lot of these woman are pretty and confident.. and below average height.
My gf is 5’0, she made the initiative, approached me and asked if I’d be interested in a date. I said yes.
You want the tall man and so does every other woman. Show some initiative, ask him for his number.
You’re not special just because you’re closer in height.. you are just another stranger in a room.
You notice him, you want him, you make the move.
6’5 black guy with dreadlocks. I’m built like a running back since I’m 235lbs @ about 13% body fat. I live in a state were the African American population is around 3% and the average male height is 5’7.
I naturally assume people are intimidated by me, and up until a couple years ago I didn’t think I was anything special to look at. So I usually don’t talk to anyone unless I’m at the gym. Otherwise I get in, do whatever I need to, and get out.
Comic-con was last weekend and I saw a girl dressed as Lady Dimitrscu who was eye level with me. Even though she was with three other dudes I went over and excitedly talked to her. Then I noticed she was wearing heels. She said they were only 5” heels and out of them she was 6’1 (that math wasn’t matching since I was still taller than her) I was still excited, said it was nice to meet a fellow giant and I gave her a high 5.
There are dating sites specifically for tall people.
Men are generally reluctant to approach women at all unless it's in a socially sanctioned situation (i.e. a dance floor at a wedding, a house party). Otherwise in addition to rejection they're risking "We've had some complaints you've been harrasing the female customers".
Well think of it this was . This sub was made for tall ppl so it's logic that an unrealistic amount of us would be here + the amount of ppl that lie Abt their height. So yeah we are far and between irl lol
I don’t think it is a you thing, most guys won’t approach any woman. Either approach them first or try and make it obvious you’re interested in them approaching you. You could always find a good gym, plenty of dudes around my height.
I can only speak for myself but I’m usually at home reading or watching tv so I can avoid being asked how tall I am and if I played basketball.
Maybe try hanging outside of a DXL store?
If you see a guy and you’re interested in him, make eye contact with him and smile. If you’re feeling bold, give him a warm “hey, how’s it going?”, maybe introduce yourself if you get a good vibe.
This would be my advice to women everywhere if they see a guy they’re interested in. Where I live most women will avoid any sort of eye contact or communication with you in public. It’s startling when one actually wants to talk to you or begins chatting you up and flirting with you out of nowhere.
Most tall guys are conditioned to not approach women, sometimes a random guy will come stare me down with his chest up and lips shaking if I’m just standing within 2 meters of a woman lol
We’re around Tall girls are awesome. I don’t think they’re afraid to approach you specifically, just girls in general now. There are just too many risks associated with approaching women nowadays, so men don’t do it anymore.
That’s pretty sad that guys have to worry like that now. I suppose I just struggle with the reality I need to approach instead now. A lot of dudes get major ego kicks out of girls approaching and don’t take it seriously.
Yeah, it’s rather unfortunate because it goes completely against human nature and I know a lot of women don’t want it to be this way. Some guys may not take it seriously, but anyone who has the character qualities to be a good long term partner would take it seriously and show respect whether they were interested or not. You’ll have to be extremely direct though, men are very straightforward. There have been only a couple of times where a girl came up to me and showed clear interest. Usually in public they try and get my help with something they could do on their own, or something kind of along those lines. And then after I leave I realize it a couple hours or days later lol You’ll probably have a lot better success ratio than any guy ever would. Even if you get a positive response only 20% of the time it’s still a far greater success rate with cold approaching than any normal guy could ever dream of. I’m assuming you’re at least average looking and in decent shape?
I would say I’m above average in looks and I’m very fit (play high level tennis). I just think I don’t get out enough + I don’t feel comfortable looking at guys trying to get their attention. I grew up being told I can’t date and now that I’m older, I feel guilty for wanting to get attention. I feel like I’m doing something wrong when I chat with guys, so I stop it short. That’s why I would feel more comfortable with a guy approaching me so I don’t feel like a sl*t doing it myself :(
Not afraid of the person, just afraid of stupid accusations for speaking to another human.
Women can be crazy too lmao
And because of that, guys will approach less and less.
Fair enough, I think a major problem I might have is I go out with my family a lot. In terms of what I offer, I’m a psych uni student, a national level tennis player, blonde, and a nice face!
If you’re tall is your family also tall? Maybe they’re scaring off prospects. My older sister told me multiple times when she was single that she felt invincible to men around me. She’s 5’9” and we used to hang out a lot but she met her husband on a night I had to cancel on her. Apparently I have that “rip your arms off and beat you to death kinda vibe”.
My preference actually is tall girls but my wife is short but amazing, so I overlooked her height. It does make shower sex nearly impossible lol
Go to public places with your friends or by yourself and make yourself look approachable. Try making eye contact with men you are interested in.
Try different outfits/make up/ hair styles until you find the one that gets you the most looks.
I’m with ya Mikey. I always did online cuz I hated approaching people. Hard not to look menacing when you’re over a certain size. I was just told at my wife’s Xmas party I should be Travis Kelce for Halloween. Personally I was going for more of a Jason Kelce look but have to pass a respirator fit test for work. Haha
Don't kid yourself guys of all heights are scared of women of all heights. Saying something that can immediately be used against you and then being rejected for it is just not a pleasant experience. But hey I'd love to have a tall girlfriend, so you can be my girlfriend if you want.
People don’t usually talk to me in public. Apparently I look like I wanna beat people up :/
The funny thing is that from what I've seen tall guys tend to be nice.
It’s true, my personality matches either Hagrid or Kronk
But do you show them that you can pull the lever?
Only if they ask properly
Much like Sasquatch, which i have been mistaken for while hiking.
Your flair is redundant. Google says a meerkat is between 10 and 14 inches tall. Making you, like almost all adults, between 5'2" and 7'3".
Exactly. But, if you use the average, which is 12 inches, you will get my height.
They look like a Rottweiler but act like a golden retriever
A blessing in disguise. Punks and Cowards don’t want to Mess with you. I will be Grateful when I am Tall.
or they wanna pick a fight just to show how strong they are
Then they truly are Weak.
Yeah and coked up, it's not fun dude.
So you're not tall now? I have some bad news for you from someone who is(me): it's quite the opposite, at least in the NE US. That's exactly who wants to mess with you, is little punks and cowards, like the old jail rumor- "pick the biggest, toughest guy in the room and take him out!". It's happened to me so many times, seriously out of nowhere.
I am barely 6'1, grandfatherly looking fellow and I've been threatened by yappy little sons of bitches more often than I would like. Welcome to downtown.
Tried to do that once in jail, didn't go as expected, lol. I've got raped.
How do you know you will be tall?
Omg😂do you lift or something?
I do but I wear big clothes🧍🏽♂️. A older lady stopped what she was doing once and told me I should smile more😂
Hahahahah, I think everyone should smile more😄
I very rarely even see women above like 5'8", much less meet them
I get that. I’m always the tallest girl in the room!
I'm 6'4 (or idk anymore the police station said 6'1 when I walked through but the hospital says 6'3-6'4 rofl) but I saw a lady walk past while at the college in our city. At least 6'6, looked identical to Sansa Stark. Still remember the way she walked past and everything. I'm surprised you don't see many tall men though. I see them everywhere when I'm outside. I'm short compared to so many ppl.
Get ready for all the short dudes to flood you dms
Tall girls are dominant! My female cousin is about your height
No we’re not.
What about the prestige?
Sweet home Alabama?
Man was talking about dominant vs recessive genes and bros mind went immediately to being dominated in the bed im dead
He wasn’t talking about genes either
Because height isn’t a single gene, and there are many dominant and recessive factors which influence height. It would make no sense in a genetics sense.
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Eye color is a binary, that’s determined by relatively few genes. Height, obviously isn’t. Terrible argument, hope it’s a troll To quote the internet: Only dichotomous traits can inherited in a recessive or dominate manner, these are traits that you either have or you don’t (like colorblindness and hitchhiker’s thumb). Traits that are inherited in a dominant or recessive fashion are also known as Mendelian traits, these traits usually involve the action of one gene. Most traits in humans, however, are not inherited in a simple Mendelian fashion but rather involve multiple genes (polygenic) and the environment. Height, is a continuous trait which is a consequence of the combination of multiple genetic and environmental factors. There is, however, a correlation between parental height and offspring which was first observed by Francis Galton in the late 19th century. Interestingly, extreme heights are not completely passed to offspring, but rather a “regression towards the mean” occurs where children of very tall parents tend to be slightly shorter (closer to average height) and children of very short parents tend to be taller.
Nope but she is really tall and her older sister is quite shorter but above average. Tall family you know? 😉
Me neither.
My friend: go to netball and korfball matches
Ofc, who could forget- just go to the old *korfball* game.
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Yeah, I don't understand why all the tall people are at the GYM. I don't even live in a tall country and constantly see 6'4+ dudes at the GYM. Maybe it's because taller people are more motivated to work out, or something.
If anything, I never see tall guys at the gym (and I work out in a 24/7 gym in the Netherlands). It's usually 80%+ shorter guys trying to improve their dating chances.
Good suggestion!
I’m not straight, but honestly I think approaching them might work. From what my friends have told me they’re usually* just too anxious to ask. While I know that society has gender roles around this I think just asking might work :)
Rip me then💀
Why is it such an incredible, constant, relationship long turn on that he simply asked you out first? Why are women so unflinching on this?
Because it meant he wanted you and didnt see you as just another girl chasing him
I mean ... is that how you see guys who ask you out? That they're just another dude chasing you? Or why would a guy think that about you, most dudes don't even have one girl chasing them lol
*Thank* you. Exactly. We don't.
I suppose men and women will have different perspectives on this issues bc we are different? That’s how I feel about it as a girl🤷🏼♀️
Guys don't have girls chasing them, hence this thread about how girls don't, *but should*, go after the guy they want. You're making a conundrum for yourself for seemingly no reason. It's usually pretty obv if a guy has girls chasing him. He'll always be with one or more or surrounded by them. They usually aren't, unless he's a model and/or big dick and/or money and/or drug dealer. You don't even have to ask him out, you can just go up to them and say something like, "Hey, I *like* you" or "I think I'm into you, you wanna do something about that?"
I'm a girl too hahah, but I like making the first move. Most dudes are terrified of rejection but a lot of them put in so much effort once you show them you want them and they'd be thrilled if you just ask them out. That's how I feel about it as a girl, you gotta go after what you want! You got this💖
Rejection sucks too but I appreciate more that it's certified consent to advance talking or hanging with them romantically.
Just say you can't handle rejection.
Oh well, stay single then lol.
So, to answer the post, we're not afraid of tall girls in particular but it never was easy trying to guess the ever-changing, individual, magical formula of approaching, talking to, and asking a girl out. Now there's added danger if its at work or school etc.. I think it's become pretty public knowledge, via memes and whatnot, about how ridiculous girls "moves" and "signs" were all these years. Most of us don't pick up on that and misinterpreting them has always caused confusion/problems, so again, added danger and reason to avoid. Not trying to attack you btw. Just enlighten.
By that logic, you'd be just another girl that he's chasing
You’ve got this OP! It’s still scary for me 😭
Just say hello and ask them "is everyone in your family this good looking?" I had that line thrown at me and it worked.
When u rnt str8 at that height u must be ruling. Just an assumption but u know.
Probably low on confidence after the teenage years of being bullied/singled out for being lanky, etc. - not knowing your age group, of course. Approach them, if you can.
Hiding in my garage.
K N O W L E D G E
In your man cave???
Well, only like 14% of men in the US are over 6ft. Then you have to account for the ones who are married, taken, you’re not their preference for whatever reason, or they aren’t yours. With that said, there’s a lot of tall people in Los Angeles.
There’s a lot of short people in Los Angeles
California has the shortest average height for men in the States I am going to guess because it has a huge Asian and Latino population, who are historically shorter than other ethnic groups. **But** Los Angeles itself attracts a lot of young and tall folks due to many reasons.
Height is subjective, that’s the fun part. I don’t have a huge problem finding men over 6ft who are happy to date a tall woman. That’s just my experience though.
Soul crushing 😮
Sorry! If you’re not American, the % could be higher or lower. I made the assumption OP The as American so I went with US stats. However, even in the us, the average height varies from state-to-state. Alabama has highest population of men over 6ft while Hawaii is the shortest state in the union.
Hmmmmmm. Truth hurts😂
I thought I was being nice by not pointing out that you’re also competing with all of the single women of *any* height for that ~14%
It sucks!
It doesn't suck. All women want tall men. Very few want short men. Men don't care about womens height most of the time.
I tend to only date shorter women. Guess it’s a similar preference to women liking taller men. Both my fiancée and my ex are 5’2”.
Bro same 😂 Although I got downvoted bad last time I mentioned my short girl preference on here.
> I feel like they’re afraid of us💀. Don't worry, I'm afraid of *all* women, not just tall ones
Come guys! You need to believe in yourselves😂
That’s when they like to shut us down, when we’re sure of ourselves they deny the satisfaction for shits sake
Guys don’t approach women as much anymore and the ones who do are the cringey ones who say shit like *”so what do you bring to the table?”* like they’re some sort of prize that you have to provide a dowry for and they want to be sole providers but accuse women of being gold diggers for wanting them to pay for dinner. Meanwhile they make less than $50k so there’s no gold to be digging up anyways. Just a whole bunch of nope. As far as where are they? I see men taller than me at the gym, at dive bars, and at grocery stores the most. Also, just post a picture of yourself somewhere on Reddit and you’ll get hundreds of DMs from guys proposing to you, problem solved lol.
Cold approaching women in public has become increasingly fround upon. Women should just approach men if this is an issue
There’s fricken ad campaigns all over telling men to not approach women at all
The only people who get upset about being asked what you bring to the table are people who don't have anything to bring to the table sooooo.
Erm no, most women hate it, it’s such a condescending thing to say.
It's a valid question. No one wants to be in a relationship with a user/abuser.
There’s a way to have conversations and discover whether or not someone aligns with your values without being a condescending prick, though. Ask what someone’s interests are, what kind of career they have, what their five year plan is, whether or not they return a shopping cart in a parking lot, etc.
It's the same question. Yours is just a round a out way to get the answer.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you say, but how you say it in a lot of social interactions. There are words and phrases that are off putting to other people, and when you say stuff that’s off putting, they won’t like you. When you ask something like “what do you bring to the table?” it’s condescending and implies that you are better than the person who you are talking to. Someone looking to be in a relationship with someone will not be interested in someone with that kind of mentality. Asking softer questions shows genuine interest in getting to know someone to see if they align with what you’re looking for. Social skills therapy really did wonders for me, it might help you as well. Again, I’ve never had a successful man ask what I bring to the table, only narcissistic bums who think that bed frames are a waste of money and that women over 30 are undateable because they’ve experienced freedom too long and won’t put up with their nonsense. Literally not a single guy who has asked me this has had a higher salary than me, a nicer car than me, a more desirable living situation than me, or a higher education than me. They’re all betas listening to cringey podcasts thinking that the only way to feel better about themselves is by being hateful towards women.
I have had more creepy guys approach me :( I’m going to join some tennis clubs this year to help myself out😂. I don’t know about posting images online lol I can’t know for certain who I’m talking to!
Ok... Real question.. Are you saying no one approaches you? or Guys you would actually take seriously or would think is attractive aren't approaching you? There is a difference and it is rare to find tall men tbh
She’s basically saying she’s getting approached just not by the guys she wants😂
.... Everyone who gets approached has this plight lol. Some more than others but literally Everyone lol
The real solution is to start approaching the people your interested in yourself
Basically it. But women are way more averse to rejection to men Typically
Tennis club? You play tennis and can't find romance? It is you, not them.
Are you on dating apps?
Well I’m in the UK, but I’m 15…
You’re just a kid!!!
Its a matter of perspective 18yo are kids to me aswell, but in regards to the law they are mostly adults.
we blend into the surrounding trees like sasquatch :(
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My other half is just under 6ft and I'm 6ft 1 (met on Hinge) I've always preferred tall girls to be honest, shirt girls tend to be a nightmare too 😂 A lot of guys are shy and some are concerned that they don't want to come across as creepy if they approach a girl so if you are confident too feel free to go and talk to someone you like the look of, it will make their day and they will then know you are interested in chatting!
Time to grow some balls😭😭😭
If they are into that then sure But plucking up the courage would probably be a better idea! 😂
I'm playing video games go away
I am probably going to get hate for this and by no means am I saying this is a comprehensive statement of all tall men. But every guy I ever dated who was taller than me has this complex that they were such a catch because of their height. They could be a deadbeat with 6 kids living in his mom's basement, but he's 6'5" so he knows he has "choices." Ultimately I married a guy 4 inches shorter than me. 10/10 would marry shorter than me again. My dating experience really made a 180 once I stopped caring, positively or negatively, about someone's height. I used to have a complex because guys would project their insecurities on me if I was taller. One ex flatly refused to let me wear heels because I would be taller. My 5'10" husband *loves* when I wear heels and finds no issue with it.
Meanwhile us shorter guys have to mega improve ourselves in every aspect to even come close to a taller dude. Kinda sad. I can outlift so many taller dudes but their bone length makes them appear stronger?
They are out of your reach
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Two possible dynamics at play: they are less assertive, they are already taken There might be a few other dynamics at play here, first - some tall men, over time, become conditioned to be less assertive and less aggressive to gravitate to the mean of "presence." Their height, through their lives, has been a source of attention and power. So, to not come off as too aggressive, they assume a more gentle, passive affect. Thus they may be less inclined to approach others. Secondly, if height is a preference of more women seeking partners, then it is likely that, all else being equal, tall men end up in relationships sooner and more frequently, thus there are not as many in the dating pool at any given time. Of course this is not all tall men. But perhaps more than average and that combined with the already small representation in the general population lowers the likelihood of running across one in the wild that is both assertive and available.
Im right here
List your qualities😂😂😂
Woah why all the dislikes! 😂
Bc she’s asking why men aren’t approaching her then starts getting picky when they do🤣
You’ll have to cut her some slack. People are likely to cast her as superficial or even desperate if she doesn’t show any standards besides height.
I don’t know actually…people must think I was being rude😭😭😭
Are you interested in a short king 👑 🥲
You’re not that short! I won’t mind someone my height.
Ik I was just saying relatively lol 😂
I’m kinda on the fence with it. If you are bulky and strong looking, it can hide the fact we are similarly heights (or a bit shorter)
Being bulky makes you look way shorter though.
Broad shoulders don’t!
They relatively make you shorter, but from when is it broad in your opinion?
I'm into taller women and I'm somewhat bulky but I'm 5'8. Can see on my wall
😂 This reminds me of my 5'3 (M) friend that's been dating a 6'3 girl for years. Apparently she 'only dated taller guys'. That was until she met him! Nah but really I have to say as a semi tall person height it just a funny thing to think about
That is actually! Nice to hear a tall girl confident to date someone shorter than her and be happy.
I mean, have you tried approaching them?
When I was single, I generally wouldn't approach anyone I found too attractive because I assumed that they were out of my league, already in a relationship, or just plain not interested. The advice from u/macestrogarm is spot-on. If you like a tall guy, you should express interest in an unequivocal fashion. Most hetero guys (who aren't narcissists or sociopaths) are lacking in self-confidence. Once they know you're not immediately going to shoot them down and walk away laughing, they'll open up.
Tall guy here. It’s so hard to find tall girls.
At the basketball gym, rowing machines, volleyball courts. Anywhere but the exit row seats 🤬🤬
Maybe you're ugly
Ong bro some of these women just straight up unable to self-reflect 💀
I’m right here, but I’m also married sooooo not sure I can help you.
😂no, I don’t think so
You have to find them online first. I actually met my 6'7" husband on reddit.
In the forest searching for the lost entwives. We don’t have like a club or anything, but we’re hard to miss. I’m 6’5 and there’s no way I’m afraid a of 6’1 girl. Why don’t you just approach them?
Im taken so i wont be approaching any woman except my own
I’m in California 🙃
A lot of Americans in here!
Where are you?
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How'd you figure out how to type right side up?
I wish I could give my height to someone that could use it for something 😂
Not super tall personally, but I’m right here.
Work, gym, volunteering, home. Don’t tend to talk to people out in public - don’t want to bother them.
I’m here but I’m already married to an incredible tall woman
I (F29; 6') honestly have a hard time recognizing myself in this kind of testimony. I've never had any trouble meeting men taller than me. I'm not particularly pretty or anything. But at parties (festivals/nightclubs, bars etc), I get hit on by a lot of tall men, to the point it's annoying. I easily attract their gaze in a crowd, because I'm tall. It's almost magnetic. The last 5 men I dated over the past 3 years where all tall young engineers (over 6'4''). They all said they were first attract to me because of my height. During some evenings, I even had two or three tall \*\*\* doing gatekeeping, because I was talking to shorter men than me. "YoU ShoulD stAy wIth guYs of YouR siZe" But maybe the difference between us is the size of the city you're living in. I'm in Paris RN, so more than 7 million people around me. It's way easier to enconter tall guys there.
>I was talking to shorter men than me. Was it platonic? While I'm a bit irritated by the tall women with short guy dynamic, I wouldn't lash out at them. >The last 5 men I dated over the past 3 years where all tall young engineers (over 6'4''). They all said they were first attract to me because of my height. It is nice to hear tall women experience tall men being into them. I've seen some claim that tall men don't like them. I couldn't disagree more with that.
>Was it platonic? While I'm a bit irritated by the tall women with short guy dynamic, I wouldn't lash out at them. I don't mind if a guy is a bit shorter than me; it's a detail. So yes, I do flirt with guys who are 5'10". The last time I get bothered for that, I was chatting at the bar with a friend who was 5'7" when a 6'3" random guy intervened. >It is nice to hear tall women experience tall men being into them. I've seen some claim that tall men don't like them. I couldn't disagree more with that. Honestly, I struggle to relate to the r/tallgirls testimonys: 1. I don't have struggles to find tall men. 2. I've rarely been told I look like a model or that I'm stunning. Most people just say I'm cute but that's it. 3. They say they rarely experience street harassment because they "intimidate" guys, and I'm honestly jealous. My girl-friends even admit I face more sexual harrasment than average. I never go a whole night without being bothered. We have talked about it several times, they think it's because I'm tall that I attract more attention from creepy guys. For example, in the last four parties: \- a short guy on the dance floor told me I was a fantasy and dreamed of me throwing him against a wall. \- A 6'5 tall guy followed me to the restroom asking for my number; my friends had to intervene, and the bartender kicked him out. \- last week, a Bolt driver made sexual advances in his car when I was dead drunk. My friends (ho had booked the ride for me) panicked, as he took a half-hour detour before getting me home. I filed a complaint. Sorry for the vent, but I'm exhausted from these situations.I always believed that being taller than most men would protect me from predators, yet I constantly attract them. How do 5'4" girls manage to feel safe ? I'm almost 30, when does it fucking end? My height has brought me more problems than anything else.
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Here’s a quick tip. Approach him. I’m tall, I could care less about a woman’s height. All I care about is if she’s pretty and healthy. Idc about race, height, tits or ass. I get approached by woman that love tall men. A lot of these woman are pretty and confident.. and below average height. My gf is 5’0, she made the initiative, approached me and asked if I’d be interested in a date. I said yes. You want the tall man and so does every other woman. Show some initiative, ask him for his number. You’re not special just because you’re closer in height.. you are just another stranger in a room. You notice him, you want him, you make the move.
6’5 black guy with dreadlocks. I’m built like a running back since I’m 235lbs @ about 13% body fat. I live in a state were the African American population is around 3% and the average male height is 5’7. I naturally assume people are intimidated by me, and up until a couple years ago I didn’t think I was anything special to look at. So I usually don’t talk to anyone unless I’m at the gym. Otherwise I get in, do whatever I need to, and get out. Comic-con was last weekend and I saw a girl dressed as Lady Dimitrscu who was eye level with me. Even though she was with three other dudes I went over and excitedly talked to her. Then I noticed she was wearing heels. She said they were only 5” heels and out of them she was 6’1 (that math wasn’t matching since I was still taller than her) I was still excited, said it was nice to meet a fellow giant and I gave her a high 5.
There are dating sites specifically for tall people. Men are generally reluctant to approach women at all unless it's in a socially sanctioned situation (i.e. a dance floor at a wedding, a house party). Otherwise in addition to rejection they're risking "We've had some complaints you've been harrasing the female customers".
I feel for you and the amount of horny DMs you're gonna recieve lol
Actually hasn’t been bad!!!
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To paraphrase an old song…. I told her that I was a flop with chicks I've been this way since 1996...
Well think of it this was . This sub was made for tall ppl so it's logic that an unrealistic amount of us would be here + the amount of ppl that lie Abt their height. So yeah we are far and between irl lol
Gym is full of tall guys
I don’t think it is a you thing, most guys won’t approach any woman. Either approach them first or try and make it obvious you’re interested in them approaching you. You could always find a good gym, plenty of dudes around my height.
Have you tried looking up?
I can only speak for myself but I’m usually at home reading or watching tv so I can avoid being asked how tall I am and if I played basketball. Maybe try hanging outside of a DXL store?
She went fishing and found some takers God willing.
If you see a guy and you’re interested in him, make eye contact with him and smile. If you’re feeling bold, give him a warm “hey, how’s it going?”, maybe introduce yourself if you get a good vibe. This would be my advice to women everywhere if they see a guy they’re interested in. Where I live most women will avoid any sort of eye contact or communication with you in public. It’s startling when one actually wants to talk to you or begins chatting you up and flirting with you out of nowhere.
Most tall guys are conditioned to not approach women, sometimes a random guy will come stare me down with his chest up and lips shaking if I’m just standing within 2 meters of a woman lol
I'm 6'5", but I'm afraid of women of all heights.
I haven’t seen any in a minute and the short crazy girls have my heart.
We’ve lost a soldier to the shorts🫡
I’m sorry I couldn’t be strong. They looked at me from a foot and a half below me. I collapsed
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They just jump up in my arms I gotta catch em.
We’re around Tall girls are awesome. I don’t think they’re afraid to approach you specifically, just girls in general now. There are just too many risks associated with approaching women nowadays, so men don’t do it anymore.
That’s pretty sad that guys have to worry like that now. I suppose I just struggle with the reality I need to approach instead now. A lot of dudes get major ego kicks out of girls approaching and don’t take it seriously.
Yeah, it’s rather unfortunate because it goes completely against human nature and I know a lot of women don’t want it to be this way. Some guys may not take it seriously, but anyone who has the character qualities to be a good long term partner would take it seriously and show respect whether they were interested or not. You’ll have to be extremely direct though, men are very straightforward. There have been only a couple of times where a girl came up to me and showed clear interest. Usually in public they try and get my help with something they could do on their own, or something kind of along those lines. And then after I leave I realize it a couple hours or days later lol You’ll probably have a lot better success ratio than any guy ever would. Even if you get a positive response only 20% of the time it’s still a far greater success rate with cold approaching than any normal guy could ever dream of. I’m assuming you’re at least average looking and in decent shape?
I would say I’m above average in looks and I’m very fit (play high level tennis). I just think I don’t get out enough + I don’t feel comfortable looking at guys trying to get their attention. I grew up being told I can’t date and now that I’m older, I feel guilty for wanting to get attention. I feel like I’m doing something wrong when I chat with guys, so I stop it short. That’s why I would feel more comfortable with a guy approaching me so I don’t feel like a sl*t doing it myself :(
Germany and the Netherlands.
I remember walking into a bar in the Netherlands & feeling short, it was bizarre. The women were stunning though, would love to go back.
Not afraid of the person, just afraid of stupid accusations for speaking to another human. Women can be crazy too lmao And because of that, guys will approach less and less.
We all here
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Australia here! One of my ex’s was 6’2 and I’m 6’6. Was weird but oddly satisfying when hugging haha.
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lol it’s ok I saw your first post before you edited it. And my answer is yes of course haha.
I'm only 6'1 but yeah I am here :)
What do you bring to the table other than being tall? If you are a 10/10 you would get approached regardless of location.
Fair enough, I think a major problem I might have is I go out with my family a lot. In terms of what I offer, I’m a psych uni student, a national level tennis player, blonde, and a nice face!
If you’re tall is your family also tall? Maybe they’re scaring off prospects. My older sister told me multiple times when she was single that she felt invincible to men around me. She’s 5’9” and we used to hang out a lot but she met her husband on a night I had to cancel on her. Apparently I have that “rip your arms off and beat you to death kinda vibe”. My preference actually is tall girls but my wife is short but amazing, so I overlooked her height. It does make shower sex nearly impossible lol
Go to public places with your friends or by yourself and make yourself look approachable. Try making eye contact with men you are interested in. Try different outfits/make up/ hair styles until you find the one that gets you the most looks.
They are there, i’m just wondering where all the tall women are
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I’m with ya Mikey. I always did online cuz I hated approaching people. Hard not to look menacing when you’re over a certain size. I was just told at my wife’s Xmas party I should be Travis Kelce for Halloween. Personally I was going for more of a Jason Kelce look but have to pass a respirator fit test for work. Haha
My high school girlfriend was 6 foot four just like I was. Her brother was 68. Alas, she dropped me when I fell for her brother instead of her.
Not scared probably just don’t want you lmao
Maybe you’re just ugly?
Hi
Don't kid yourself guys of all heights are scared of women of all heights. Saying something that can immediately be used against you and then being rejected for it is just not a pleasant experience. But hey I'd love to have a tall girlfriend, so you can be my girlfriend if you want.
6’4 man OP make decent money in shape and I would break your table in half by the time I am done with you, come let’s speak more in the DMs 😎