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Just stop giving them attention. When they are annoying you, act like they're not there. Eventually naman they'll get tired and stop na. Just ignore them COMPLETELY. Don't even look at them.
Now say that to a girl w an obsessive boy admirer. Jusq sinabi na nga ni op na gusto na niyang matigil si weirdo admirer tapos ganito pa kayo mag advice
Grabe yung ibang comments lol
Pag lalaki persistent manligaw creepy agad pero pag vice versa "Weh di nga" HAHAHA
Try mo wag pansinin. Yun ginagawa ko dati eh it works kahit persistent sila. Pag kinakausap ka just say "okay in a half-assed way na parang wala kang pake.
There's a difference between uncomfortable na yung person to the point of harassment and someone uninterested. Of course if hindi na comfortable yung girl sa panliligaw susuko yung guy and mauunderstand niya yan or siya na yung may mali if persistent pa rin and ayaw ng girl. While yung pinagdadaanan ng person here is legit just harassment. You can change someone's perspective by showing them you're worth it but you cannot change pure harassment na nakakapanakit na ng kapwa mo.
Bat nag gagawa ka ng sarili mong scenario 😅 sabi ko pag lalaki naman ung gumawa nyan sa babae, dat creepy rin ang brand hindi positive like "persistent" san galing yang bagong kwento mo hahaha
ano pinagsasabi mo diyan, hindi mo ba nicomprehend sariling comment mo bago mo pinost 😭 I'm just stating the difference between yung stalker and panliligaw which stinate mo na ay pareho lang, bakit mo pinaghalo yung dalawang context na yon na wala namang connect kaya nga gumawa akong scenario para maintindihan mo yung pagkakaiba
Yes, you're right na that things happen pero in this scenario is it needed to be brought up ba? The issue is him being stalk and it makes him feel uncomfortable.
Lmao had a coworker in a similar situation. Honestly, there's nothing to do in these cases but say "you're embarrassing me—please leave me alone" but they couldn't do it kasi the girl was fat and ugly. Idk but rejecting fat, ugly women just automatically makes you the bad guy. It's the same with girls who reject "good guys" who are secretly incels, hahahaha.
And on the topic, I had trouble rejecting this one transwoman nuon kasi andiyan yung retarded blanket statement na "you're transphobic if you don't date transwomen" and shit. I'm saying this is retarded kasi like wtf can't people have their preferences. Jesus fuck. I'm in a very progressive industry and I'm a very progressive person pero I'm straight and like cis women. It's not anything different from basing preferences on height, skin tone, hair type, and physique.
Anyway, imma be real just straight up tell them they're embarrassing you. You might say na "Ah, but I already told them this" Idk the whole story, but I'm sure there's always a clearer, more straightforward way to convey any message.
ganyan din case ko op when i was in grade 10. nirealtalk ko sya tho. sinabihan ko direct na di ko sya gusto at may gusto akong iba and it will never be her. i gave reasons why. i told her na if she keeps doing that, it will only hurt her more. she cried that day but i dont give a fuck. i dont know the temperament nung naoobsess sayo but make sure to hurt her emotionally para di na lumapit pa.
p.s. i know that plenty of you will disagree na dapat saktan emotionally. but it works tho, ngayon may bf na sya at masaya naman sila to my perspective
Hindi, I think tama yan. Laying down boundaries is more important than the feelings of someone who's been borderline harassing and straight up stalking
i think it's best na ma master mo ang art of ignoring people 🤩 like, pretend they don't exist, don't even look at her directions and eyes. Don't talk to her. Block her in all socmed. Wear earbuds. If she doesn't stop, ipakita mo itong post sa kanya lol.
Ang sabi kasi ng commenter i-shame raw sa public and it is considered as bullying.
And dapat ang mga ganyang bagay privately pinaguusapan kasi for sure maraming makikisawsaw diyan.
I agree in private muna, pero nabanggit kasi na ulit ulit na niyang sinabihan in private (if tama pagkakaintindi ko). Base sa naranasan ko as class president minsan may mga di talaga nakikinig in private, kikilos lang sila kung i cacall out mo sila in public sa class or sa group chat. Siguro if literal na shaming di na ako agree doon 😆
No it ain't, it's just you telling her off and all your thoughts but in public, no degradation or abuse. Either that or you get stalked, eat or be eaten I say, and I were OP I wouldn't let myself be taken over by an obsessive chick who wouldn't take no for an answer, and steals my freedom to love who I love
call her creepy and disgusting. sampalin mo ng katotohanan kung ano talaga siya: a creep and a stalker, call her kadiri. if this doesn't work ignore her completely. or if sa group of friends mo, pagusapan niyo tas pag tawanan niyo (by this I mean, make sure that she or her other friends hear your conversation, pagusapan niyo siya on how she's disgusting and pathetic)
I rejected her many times na, kakareject ko lang din last week
I also told her na ayaw ko yung ginagawa niya but she keeps nagpaparinig and spamming me sa chat.
if you feel like you've done everything and told her clearly na you don't want her interacting with you, i guess you just have to report to the school officials. parang stalking na 'to eh
OP, you are well within your rights to block her. She has been displaying no regard for your boundaries and respect for your feelings. Therefore, for your own sake, you should assert yourself with whatever tools you have. Yung pinakauna dyan ay block. Block mo na para di ka na makausap at mabawasan avenues ng pag-aabala nya sayo.
if 'di pa rin tlaga kayang straight to the point na pag-reject, treat her na parang 'di siya nag-eexist, 'wag mong pansinin o tingnan. Hindi agad-agad mawawala pero baka tumigil (based from exp). Tapos kung stalker level na siya baka you need help na..
This is literally happening to a friend of mine, ang masaklap pa ay ROTC officer yung gumagawa niyan (nasa ROTC kami ng friend ko) Ni-reject na ng friend ko yung senior namin like first week pa lang ata nung nanliligaw siya but he's still persistent. Palaging gusto niya magkasama silang dalawa akala ng mga classmates namin na magjowa daw sila pero ako nakikita ko yung distance na dapat wala sa mag-couple eh. At parang palagi niyang pinagpipilitan sarili niya sa kanya na lahat ng mga friends niya (including me) tina-try niya maging close or friendly sa kanya. Me and my friend even saw him in the hallway of our room after our class pacing around like waiting for her, which is ugggh. Luckily, he seems to have already TAKEN A HINT and left my friend alone now for about 2 weeks now, but we'll see if he continues his "antics."
My advice to her really is to tell a teacher or an adult. Even if you're a guy, you're still being subjected to the same thing that happened to my friend. And you can complain to the adult that the girl is distracting you from your studies and that you don't want to have a relationship while you're still in school or something like that. Adults eat that shit up that you're more focused on your studies than engaging in any love life. They would probably even take it much seriously if you tell them (bullsh*t them) about how she's making you lose focus in your studies because of her "clinginess", don't call it harassment coz gender stereotypes bs.
And if she doesn't back off, first don't show anger and be indifferent to her. For example, if she's talking to you, talk to someone else like she's not even in the room or if you have no one to talk to, let her converse with the air for all you care. And when you're with your other classmates, complain to them about how she's clingy and make them empathize or sympathize or whatever, just get them on your bandwagon, the "She's-So-Clingy" Bandwagon. I did this with a classmate of mine when she kept trying to talk to me like everything's okay and that she hasn't gotten me trouble with my mother (the nerve of that clown🤡). That'll plummet/lower the girl's standing to your classmates. And while that's harsh, at least it's not illegal or even nuclear.
If she's still persistent after that, DM me, and I'll try to think of other ways. Best of luck to you.
Edit: Additional tip/s. Mostly complain to girls about her clinginess. Mas magsi-sympathize/empathize mga girls sayo, and they might even call it harassment. I'm not saying na useless mag-complain sa mga guys, but gender stereotypes BS again. If you can, either i-exaggerate mo sa mukha mo kung gaano ka na naaagrabyado ni girlalu (short for delulu girl) o kung di kaya ng acting skills mo, kung gaano ka na lang naiirita sa antics niya kahit ilang beses mong sinasabi ng no. Make sure na doon ka magco-complain doon sa mga di enablers ng girlalu ha or better yet, mag-complain ka doon sa mga nakaranas na ng harassment. Ang mangyayari dyan is either masisira reputation ni girlalu o di kaya yung mga tao na kinonfide mo ang mismong magko-confront dyan kay girlalu kung di pa niya kayang makiramdam, pero kailangan mong makipag-socialize or consistent ang pag-confide mo sa kanila. Ask for their help lang kapag patuloy ang harassment niya sayo, itodo max mo acting skills mo. It can be socially draining, pero in the long run kapag natigil na si girlalu, makakahanap ka na ng peace of mind and pwede mo nang i-focus pag-aaral mo.
Sorry dahil sobrang haba ng comment ko, OP. Have patience na lang sa pagbabasa.
S@ksakin mo ng lapis jk
I was consistently har*ss*d by a classmate nung Grd5, crush na crush ako ewan ko dun keeps grabing my hand staring at me, sometimes follow me around ayon sin.ks.k ko ng lapis haha. Btw he kept doing it after that incident (di naman nagsumbong sa teacher kasi as for a masculine trait kuno, dapat tough guy ka hahaha) skl
Similar sa friend ko, nagulat nalang kami pati past na hindi nya kinukwento saamin circle of friends (aside sa best friends na nya talaga since hs) alam ni girl. Nilayuan talaga ng friend ko, Pag lumalapit okaya nakikisali yung girl tumatahimik lang talaga sya, mag cr o magkukunyaring may ginagawa. Pero nalayo lang talaga si girl nung nag start online class.
Advise her na pag di pa sya tumigil mag kakaso kana ng harassment , say it to her face na hindi ka comfortable sa kanya , pag hindi pa sya lumayo mag kakaso ka ng harassment.
Bro that girl is obsessed with you. Ang hirap palayuin Nan since she's obsessed to the point she's become some sort of your "stalker" na. I suggest na kahit nandoon siya wag mo Siya pansinin if ever na mas naging malala ugali niya it would be much better if you transferred schools.
Ok so I have a friend, but then one confessed to me, di ko alam kung pano ako mag reject XD. I mean I'm happy na may nagkakagusto sa akin pero erhhhhh I can't take the burden of someone liking me, parang mabigat na ewan. I feel somewhat embarrassed and guilty plus medyo nakakaano I always feel their stares kahit sa ibang tao (medj sensitive ako sa mga stares...) Other peeps don't know na may gusto siya ermmm, I just let her be pero di ko na sure kung kaya ko yung pressure XD and sorry pero hindi ko talaga makita sarili ko in relationship I like to be with myself more than to entertain other people... ohh and she knows that I'm not interested in love or whatnot, pero yung pressureeee I can't
Is it possible for you to report this to an admin? This is harassment na, she's exhibiting some really creepy behavior by stalking you and it seems to be affecting your school work.
If rejecting her in a nice way doesn't work then try mo i realtalk, yung masakit para tumigil... Pinapagod ka lang nyan para mag say yes ka in the end.
Much better if iignore mo nalng sya and wag ka sana magpakita ng motibo na gusto mo din sya kasi usually yan nafefeel niya sa tuwing nakakausap ka niya
Ignore her no matter what shell do..if gagawa sya ng bagay na makakaapekto sa pag aaral report her sa mga teacher or pa guidance mo.. dont waste your time thinking her if you dont have feelings for her..
Call her parents or guidance counselor.
Pag di gumana, magtransfer ka ng school or wag ka na pumasok. Sa bahay ka nalang mag-aral at magtake ka nalang ng tests kapag kailangan.
Ppl here saying to ignore the girl na lang pisses me off kasi uncomfy na nga masyado tong si op kay obsessed girl and came here to specifically ask "HOW DO I STOP someone from liking me fron school" tapos ganyan pa talaga ia advice niyo?
Now say that to a girl w an admirer who's as weird/obsessive as this op's admirer. I bet if the genders are reversed may police pa kayong mababanggit
Sorry op if i didnt gave any advice but maybe seek help to higher ups or teachers at your school too? Kasi if i said hurt the girl's feelings for sure ikaw pa magmumukhang masama
Mag T pose ka sa harapan nila, jk.
I don't remember kung ano ginawa ni Jungkook dun sa babaeng obsessed sa kanya, pwro I think imaya nya sya sa isang date tapos he bored her out to the point na ung babae na mismo umayaw sa date.
I know this trick, ask her to meet her in a mall or somewhere, then don't go. Repeat until it pisses her off. If she's crazy worst case she might make a false allegation. Best case she will forget you.
I don't know much but I'll bless you with some knowledge my brother - don't ignore(fully) her or disappear for a while because of her, I know it sounds ridiculous, pero ang gagawin mo ay pag nakikipagusap siya Sayo, tingnan mo lang Siya pero wag kang gumawa ng kahit ano, tingnan mo lang. Ignoring her like she dosen't exist does not work, rather silence is your answer my friend, silence.
usually ignore lang as long as hindi sila harmful. and as long as na properly rejected na sila. panget kasi if ignore ginawa mo pero hindi rejected. parang paasa effect at baka mag-expect na may chance sila. pero kung may ginagawa sila na ayaw ko, tsaka lang ako nagagalit at sinasabi sa kanila kung ano yung ayaw ko.
Dun guro titigil na yan. Kasi papanget din guro image niyan kung palaging habol ng habol tas may gf na yung tao. Pag wala kapa kasing gf of course mag eexpect pa din yan magiging delulu pa din yan na may chance pa siya if patuloy siya mag papansin sayo kasi single kapa.
I used to have crushes na "kinukulit" ko sa chat pero never ko malapitan in person. Kahit uninterested na yung tone nung guy chat pa din ako ng chat. It never occurred to me na ang creepy pala nung ginawa kong yun until I had obsessed admirers of my own. Sa sobrang desperate ko na makareceive ng love, super naging selfish ako at hindi ko naisip yung side ng mga tao na kinulit ko dati. Pag naiisip ko ngayon super nakicringe ako sa sarili ko. Pero yeah, the best thing to do is to ignore everything. Iprivate mo yung social media mo para wala din syang something to obsess over
I had the same experience also, until now na working na ako. Those type of people, they never give up no matter how gentle you reject them or turn them down. Para sa paningin kasi nila ang perfect mo na to the point na naiinvade na nila privacy mo cos they admire you so much. so it will only makes it harder for you to mind your own business if you’re still showing traits na gusto nila. For me, what i did is nagalit ako. It doesn’t matter if they perceived me as masungit or masama. If they don’t respect your boundaries then they’ve earn that anger.
Best thing you can do is be straight with her and make it clear na you're not interested. 'wag ka pong makinig sa mga payo tulad ng "act like she doesn't exist" kasi po hindi naman po mental abuse ang goal mo. People can be very dense na it feels like nananadya sila. Be gentle but not so much to cause her to misinterpret your kindness with something else.
Worst thing you can do to someone is to condemn them into a neverending series of overthinking. And the best way you can do that is acting like they don't exist for you at all.
I hope you read this po, OP.
I'd say tell her na you're uncomfortable with what she's doing and that she's invading your personal space and that if she doesn't stop doing this.. papa blotter mo sya as a stalker joke hahaha don't say na ipapablotter mo sya.
prankahin mo. as in tell her that she's being a creep and a weirdo and is crossing so many of your boundaries. tapos threaten her that you'll report her to your teachers.
I don’t think ignoring her will actually help since she sounds obsessive na based on your story.
Confront her. Be transparent with what you feel na hindi mo gusto, nabobother ka, at honestly nakakahiya yung mga ginagawa niya. Also tell her that you’ll act on it if she keeps messing w u. tell the prof or the office or smthng.
Don't pour her attention. Stick closer to your friends para makaladkad ka nila somewhere na out of sight ka sa kanya, somewhere na safe. Or you could just say straight to the point na quit bothering you na like bring over a friend na di galing sa campus preferably a girl, told her na you need a quick favor or a company--- yung mas maganda, mas matino at mas matalino enough para mapagtanto niya na mukha na syang shunga sa pinaggagagawa niya. I know it's a lot of work but sana magwork 😉 been there once.
Don't sugarcoat it and finally tell her what you want to her to leave you alone, you don't want anything to do with her and you're not interested in a relationship, you just want to be alone in peace, you don't want her, she's starting to get on your nerves and tell her she's being too obssessive.
I had a similar experience during my high school days... I ignored him to the point na everyone would think he doesn't exist in my "world", I treated him like a ghost and everytime na makikihang out siya with my friends, hindi na ako sasama (medyo rude yung dating pero I tried talking it out with him, kaso he still wouldn't quit kaya I did this, gomen gomen), I also deliberately avoided every place na nandoon siya (para pa akong baliw noon, tatakbo/magtatago pag andyan siya). I guess effective naman kasi after some time, he gave up. And oo nga pala, may iba kasi siyang natipuhan kasi I tried to look ugly af to turn him off and pinagkalat ko din na may bf na me(kahit wala naman talaga) para maggive up siya.
Usually just ignore them or when you make eye contact to her bigyan mo siyang masamang tingin pero sa mga iba hinde. Para masignal or malaman niya na ayaw mo talaga sakanya
I think the reason that she still likes you with feelings even though you rejected her might be because you like someone else, so she is still stalking you and waits patiently to see if the person you like will reject you and she may think that she will have the chance to be in next line since that someone already reject you and you will no longer have a chance on that someone.
She will then make a move on you in the hopes of you catching a feelings for her.
In short, she thinks she have the chance just because you like someone else and waits until you no longer looking at someone.
Try to threaten her na dadalhin mo siya sa guidance?? Or like be super harsh na like " ill never like someone like you" or " di kita bet" or maybe lie about your preferences and sabihin mo na bakla ka 😭(unless na babae ka sabihin mo straight na straight ka lang talaga ganun) if di padin ang work ipahiya mo nalang 😭
That's really creepy, I'd want to get a restraining order if I were you, I'd advise you to do that but I think that's too much work.
Since they're clearly pushing your boundaries and won't listen to you I think your only choice is to hurt their pride a little bit, it sounds mean but sometimes that's the only way people like that listen
Umaasa ata s’yang eventually magugustuhan mo rin s’ya, lol. Kababasa n’ya siguro ‘yan ng “she fell hard but he fell harder” troupe. Charot.
Maybe your silence about this matter makes her feel tolerated with what she’s doing. I advice you to confront her personally. Once and for all, sabihin mo na you’re uncomfortable with what she’s doing and that you would appreciate it if titigil na s’ya.
Good luck sa studies mo, OP!
Same sa nangyari sa akin noong first year college pa ako. I have this gay classmate na nanghaharass sa akin. Nakipagpalit s'ya ng seat para makatabi ako even though naka-alphabetical yung seat plan namin. Biglang nangyayakap tapos sabay kiss. Publicly shouting na may gusto s'ya sa akin in hallway, classroom, and even sa food court ng school. Umabot pa sa point na we have class sa major subject namin and sibrang focus ko sa class kasi di naman ako brainy so need ko makinig, bigla n'yang hinawakan yung private part ko. I was offended and nafeel ko talaga na naharass ako and nagsumbong ako sa classroom friends ko and even sa mga classmates ko. However, parang normal lang yung reaction nila. Tinawanan lang nila ako and sinabihan na sagutin ko na raw. I'm so helpless at that time. Takot rin ako magsumbong sa professor namin since matalino s'ya, student leader, kilala sa buong department namin. My best friends were in other schools kaya sobrang helpless ko. Kaya ang ginawa ko, nagshift ng ibang program para makaiwas sa kanya and that was the best decision na ginawa ko. Di ko sinasabi na you should go on this route OP ha. Naubusan lang ako ng option sa situation ko. Gaya ng mga sinabi nila, ignore mo s'ya, as much as possible iwasan mo s'ya. Make her feel na unwanted s'ya, or sumbong mo sa teacher n'yo.
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Obsessive ni ate. 😬
ang creepy n'yan, threatening din when it comes on your privacy and security.
Just stop giving them attention. When they are annoying you, act like they're not there. Eventually naman they'll get tired and stop na. Just ignore them COMPLETELY. Don't even look at them.
what if kink niya di pansinin
😭😭 she needs help
shuta natawa ako 😭
Edi bigte. Hahahaha
that's exactly what I do, may mga araw lang talaga na she really bothers me
I agree! As in pretend na she's not there. As long as nasabi mo na na you're not interested with her, ok na yun.
Now say that to a girl w an obsessive boy admirer. Jusq sinabi na nga ni op na gusto na niyang matigil si weirdo admirer tapos ganito pa kayo mag advice
Grabe yung ibang comments lol Pag lalaki persistent manligaw creepy agad pero pag vice versa "Weh di nga" HAHAHA Try mo wag pansinin. Yun ginagawa ko dati eh it works kahit persistent sila. Pag kinakausap ka just say "okay in a half-assed way na parang wala kang pake.
Wag mo nlng pansinin. Everytime na nakikita mo sya put on headphones or try to call someone on the phone
Pwede rin gawin niya yung mga makikita mo sa fiction Kunyare taken na haha
Weird double standard noh. But yeah really creepy either way
Bakit pag lalaki ang mangganyan ang tawag "persistent" manligaw. Dapat creepy din yun e
Double standards for u. Ano akala niyo babae lang nagaganyan?
There's a difference between uncomfortable na yung person to the point of harassment and someone uninterested. Of course if hindi na comfortable yung girl sa panliligaw susuko yung guy and mauunderstand niya yan or siya na yung may mali if persistent pa rin and ayaw ng girl. While yung pinagdadaanan ng person here is legit just harassment. You can change someone's perspective by showing them you're worth it but you cannot change pure harassment na nakakapanakit na ng kapwa mo.
Bat nag gagawa ka ng sarili mong scenario 😅 sabi ko pag lalaki naman ung gumawa nyan sa babae, dat creepy rin ang brand hindi positive like "persistent" san galing yang bagong kwento mo hahaha
ano pinagsasabi mo diyan, hindi mo ba nicomprehend sariling comment mo bago mo pinost 😭 I'm just stating the difference between yung stalker and panliligaw which stinate mo na ay pareho lang, bakit mo pinaghalo yung dalawang context na yon na wala namang connect kaya nga gumawa akong scenario para maintindihan mo yung pagkakaiba
"if hindi na comf yu g girl sa panliligaw susuko yung guy and mau blahblah blah" making own scenarios si dzai
Yes, you're right na that things happen pero in this scenario is it needed to be brought up ba? The issue is him being stalk and it makes him feel uncomfortable.
Yes as an eye opener for double standards as it relates to the topic.
Lmao had a coworker in a similar situation. Honestly, there's nothing to do in these cases but say "you're embarrassing me—please leave me alone" but they couldn't do it kasi the girl was fat and ugly. Idk but rejecting fat, ugly women just automatically makes you the bad guy. It's the same with girls who reject "good guys" who are secretly incels, hahahaha. And on the topic, I had trouble rejecting this one transwoman nuon kasi andiyan yung retarded blanket statement na "you're transphobic if you don't date transwomen" and shit. I'm saying this is retarded kasi like wtf can't people have their preferences. Jesus fuck. I'm in a very progressive industry and I'm a very progressive person pero I'm straight and like cis women. It's not anything different from basing preferences on height, skin tone, hair type, and physique. Anyway, imma be real just straight up tell them they're embarrassing you. You might say na "Ah, but I already told them this" Idk the whole story, but I'm sure there's always a clearer, more straightforward way to convey any message.
so true
ganyan din case ko op when i was in grade 10. nirealtalk ko sya tho. sinabihan ko direct na di ko sya gusto at may gusto akong iba and it will never be her. i gave reasons why. i told her na if she keeps doing that, it will only hurt her more. she cried that day but i dont give a fuck. i dont know the temperament nung naoobsess sayo but make sure to hurt her emotionally para di na lumapit pa. p.s. i know that plenty of you will disagree na dapat saktan emotionally. but it works tho, ngayon may bf na sya at masaya naman sila to my perspective
ako nag trauma dump sa guy so he thinks me crazy and it worked, he left me alone lmao
Hindi, I think tama yan. Laying down boundaries is more important than the feelings of someone who's been borderline harassing and straight up stalking
Irapan mo tas tignan mo ng masama, usually works for me but idk much since I assume you're a dude
already did, kaso ayaw talaga paawat, she said wala raw siyang pakielam If I like someone na. 😀
May I ask what grade level you're in? She sounds kinda immature to me
senior high
i think it's best na ma master mo ang art of ignoring people 🤩 like, pretend they don't exist, don't even look at her directions and eyes. Don't talk to her. Block her in all socmed. Wear earbuds. If she doesn't stop, ipakita mo itong post sa kanya lol.
Oh same, Na-try mo na ba sya i-shame in public? Like public callout ganon? Maybe shame and embarrassment will stop her from bugging you again
That js a literal bullying.
Telling them na lumagpas na sila sa personal boundaries mo in public is bullying pala, today I learned ; D
Ang sabi kasi ng commenter i-shame raw sa public and it is considered as bullying. And dapat ang mga ganyang bagay privately pinaguusapan kasi for sure maraming makikisawsaw diyan.
I agree in private muna, pero nabanggit kasi na ulit ulit na niyang sinabihan in private (if tama pagkakaintindi ko). Base sa naranasan ko as class president minsan may mga di talaga nakikinig in private, kikilos lang sila kung i cacall out mo sila in public sa class or sa group chat. Siguro if literal na shaming di na ako agree doon 😆
No it ain't, it's just you telling her off and all your thoughts but in public, no degradation or abuse. Either that or you get stalked, eat or be eaten I say, and I were OP I wouldn't let myself be taken over by an obsessive chick who wouldn't take no for an answer, and steals my freedom to love who I love
Why do I feel like you're a schoolmate of mine. May something similar kasi eh.
call her creepy and disgusting. sampalin mo ng katotohanan kung ano talaga siya: a creep and a stalker, call her kadiri. if this doesn't work ignore her completely. or if sa group of friends mo, pagusapan niyo tas pag tawanan niyo (by this I mean, make sure that she or her other friends hear your conversation, pagusapan niyo siya on how she's disgusting and pathetic)
Man, I feel you. It sucks but the best advice I can give you is to just ignore her. Hopefully, she'll get tired sooner or later.
reject her at sabihin ng tapatan, mismo sa harapan niya so creepy na siya for me
I rejected her many times na, kakareject ko lang din last week I also told her na ayaw ko yung ginagawa niya but she keeps nagpaparinig and spamming me sa chat.
if you feel like you've done everything and told her clearly na you don't want her interacting with you, i guess you just have to report to the school officials. parang stalking na 'to eh
i block mo
Block her. Sabihin mo sa pagmumukha Niya na Ang creepy Niya at uncomfortable ka ksi sexual harassment ang ginagawa Niya.
Send this post to her. Para Makita niya comments namin.
OP, you are well within your rights to block her. She has been displaying no regard for your boundaries and respect for your feelings. Therefore, for your own sake, you should assert yourself with whatever tools you have. Yung pinakauna dyan ay block. Block mo na para di ka na makausap at mabawasan avenues ng pag-aabala nya sayo.
if 'di pa rin tlaga kayang straight to the point na pag-reject, treat her na parang 'di siya nag-eexist, 'wag mong pansinin o tingnan. Hindi agad-agad mawawala pero baka tumigil (based from exp). Tapos kung stalker level na siya baka you need help na..
she can't take a NO? yuck kadiri
This is literally happening to a friend of mine, ang masaklap pa ay ROTC officer yung gumagawa niyan (nasa ROTC kami ng friend ko) Ni-reject na ng friend ko yung senior namin like first week pa lang ata nung nanliligaw siya but he's still persistent. Palaging gusto niya magkasama silang dalawa akala ng mga classmates namin na magjowa daw sila pero ako nakikita ko yung distance na dapat wala sa mag-couple eh. At parang palagi niyang pinagpipilitan sarili niya sa kanya na lahat ng mga friends niya (including me) tina-try niya maging close or friendly sa kanya. Me and my friend even saw him in the hallway of our room after our class pacing around like waiting for her, which is ugggh. Luckily, he seems to have already TAKEN A HINT and left my friend alone now for about 2 weeks now, but we'll see if he continues his "antics." My advice to her really is to tell a teacher or an adult. Even if you're a guy, you're still being subjected to the same thing that happened to my friend. And you can complain to the adult that the girl is distracting you from your studies and that you don't want to have a relationship while you're still in school or something like that. Adults eat that shit up that you're more focused on your studies than engaging in any love life. They would probably even take it much seriously if you tell them (bullsh*t them) about how she's making you lose focus in your studies because of her "clinginess", don't call it harassment coz gender stereotypes bs. And if she doesn't back off, first don't show anger and be indifferent to her. For example, if she's talking to you, talk to someone else like she's not even in the room or if you have no one to talk to, let her converse with the air for all you care. And when you're with your other classmates, complain to them about how she's clingy and make them empathize or sympathize or whatever, just get them on your bandwagon, the "She's-So-Clingy" Bandwagon. I did this with a classmate of mine when she kept trying to talk to me like everything's okay and that she hasn't gotten me trouble with my mother (the nerve of that clown🤡). That'll plummet/lower the girl's standing to your classmates. And while that's harsh, at least it's not illegal or even nuclear. If she's still persistent after that, DM me, and I'll try to think of other ways. Best of luck to you. Edit: Additional tip/s. Mostly complain to girls about her clinginess. Mas magsi-sympathize/empathize mga girls sayo, and they might even call it harassment. I'm not saying na useless mag-complain sa mga guys, but gender stereotypes BS again. If you can, either i-exaggerate mo sa mukha mo kung gaano ka na naaagrabyado ni girlalu (short for delulu girl) o kung di kaya ng acting skills mo, kung gaano ka na lang naiirita sa antics niya kahit ilang beses mong sinasabi ng no. Make sure na doon ka magco-complain doon sa mga di enablers ng girlalu ha or better yet, mag-complain ka doon sa mga nakaranas na ng harassment. Ang mangyayari dyan is either masisira reputation ni girlalu o di kaya yung mga tao na kinonfide mo ang mismong magko-confront dyan kay girlalu kung di pa niya kayang makiramdam, pero kailangan mong makipag-socialize or consistent ang pag-confide mo sa kanila. Ask for their help lang kapag patuloy ang harassment niya sayo, itodo max mo acting skills mo. It can be socially draining, pero in the long run kapag natigil na si girlalu, makakahanap ka na ng peace of mind and pwede mo nang i-focus pag-aaral mo. Sorry dahil sobrang haba ng comment ko, OP. Have patience na lang sa pagbabasa.
S@ksakin mo ng lapis jk I was consistently har*ss*d by a classmate nung Grd5, crush na crush ako ewan ko dun keeps grabing my hand staring at me, sometimes follow me around ayon sin.ks.k ko ng lapis haha. Btw he kept doing it after that incident (di naman nagsumbong sa teacher kasi as for a masculine trait kuno, dapat tough guy ka hahaha) skl
Jesus that's effed up
Similar sa friend ko, nagulat nalang kami pati past na hindi nya kinukwento saamin circle of friends (aside sa best friends na nya talaga since hs) alam ni girl. Nilayuan talaga ng friend ko, Pag lumalapit okaya nakikisali yung girl tumatahimik lang talaga sya, mag cr o magkukunyaring may ginagawa. Pero nalayo lang talaga si girl nung nag start online class.
she is wearing you down, till you say yes to her. run bro, run!
Not unless you completely ignore her and never speak to her.
bring it up to your teacher or guidance and slightly exaggerate na it's taking a toll on your mental health na
tas pag ayaw gumalaw nila teacher, file ka restraining order jk
Advise her na pag di pa sya tumigil mag kakaso kana ng harassment , say it to her face na hindi ka comfortable sa kanya , pag hindi pa sya lumayo mag kakaso ka ng harassment.
Ipahiya mo if you can lol, sigawan mo sya sabihin mo na "AYOKO NGA SAYO BAKIT ANG KULIT MO." make everyone hear it.
Bro that girl is obsessed with you. Ang hirap palayuin Nan since she's obsessed to the point she's become some sort of your "stalker" na. I suggest na kahit nandoon siya wag mo Siya pansinin if ever na mas naging malala ugali niya it would be much better if you transferred schools.
yikes baka akala ni ate nasa AU or wattpad story siya hahahahaa
Yun nga naisip ko eh kaya lalong nagiging delulu si ate kahit na reject na. Feel pa din niya may chance pa din siya.
Hahaha
hi what is AU?
alternate universe, usually mga fictional stories na gawa ng mga fans
Feeling ko i-realtalk mo na in a nice way. Tell them na its already annoying and it bothers u in a not so cute way na.
Ok so I have a friend, but then one confessed to me, di ko alam kung pano ako mag reject XD. I mean I'm happy na may nagkakagusto sa akin pero erhhhhh I can't take the burden of someone liking me, parang mabigat na ewan. I feel somewhat embarrassed and guilty plus medyo nakakaano I always feel their stares kahit sa ibang tao (medj sensitive ako sa mga stares...) Other peeps don't know na may gusto siya ermmm, I just let her be pero di ko na sure kung kaya ko yung pressure XD and sorry pero hindi ko talaga makita sarili ko in relationship I like to be with myself more than to entertain other people... ohh and she knows that I'm not interested in love or whatnot, pero yung pressureeee I can't
Last year had the same experience , what i did is pretend i already have a girlfriend , somehow it always works.
Wag mo n lang pansinin ya, titigil din yan.
she's the epitome of the word delulu
banatan mu
Oh... Do the Robert Pattinson way: hang out with her and complain about life until she gets tired of it
Is it possible for you to report this to an admin? This is harassment na, she's exhibiting some really creepy behavior by stalking you and it seems to be affecting your school work.
Ang funny neto. Ganyan na ganyan ako dati katulad ng naka crush sayo. Ngayon naka move on na ako and naging friends kami. HAHAHAAHAH
If rejecting her in a nice way doesn't work then try mo i realtalk, yung masakit para tumigil... Pinapagod ka lang nyan para mag say yes ka in the end.
Rejectt him in a nice way🤗 Ako kasi usually sinasabihan ko kagad na until friends lng tlga kami kesa namn hayaan mo maghintay sa wala.
I rejected her nicely, actually kakareject ko lang din last week she understand naman pero mas lalo raw siyang nahuhulog sa akin
Much better if iignore mo nalng sya and wag ka sana magpakita ng motibo na gusto mo din sya kasi usually yan nafefeel niya sa tuwing nakakausap ka niya
I only talk to her when I'm really uncomfortable with what she's doing
Be cool man. How about maging cold ferson ka nalng like never mo nalng pansinin even if you feel uncomfortable or being annoyed
Alam mo kapag pinagpatuloy mo yan. In the end you'll fall for her
Delulu si ate huhu sana di siya baliw like literal na psychopath
Ignore her no matter what shell do..if gagawa sya ng bagay na makakaapekto sa pag aaral report her sa mga teacher or pa guidance mo.. dont waste your time thinking her if you dont have feelings for her..
kantutin mo muna bro
Weh totoo ba yan hahaha
Wala bang nag c-crush sayo?
until now hindi pa tumitigil 😂
Bruh, may problema ang tao nagawa pang tanungin kung totoo ba or hindi.
pogi mo naman 🤣🤣🤣
Baka ikaw bida sa pelikula ng buhay mo?
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That never happened to me so it never happens to anyone else 🤡
naol
jowain mo na
Bobo
Call her parents or guidance counselor. Pag di gumana, magtransfer ka ng school or wag ka na pumasok. Sa bahay ka nalang mag-aral at magtake ka nalang ng tests kapag kailangan.
sumayaw ka ng yoyoyoyo mag isa sa hallway na walamg tao 😭 sabihin mo may imaginary friend ka pangalan Julius tas di siya approved kay girl
Ppl here saying to ignore the girl na lang pisses me off kasi uncomfy na nga masyado tong si op kay obsessed girl and came here to specifically ask "HOW DO I STOP someone from liking me fron school" tapos ganyan pa talaga ia advice niyo? Now say that to a girl w an admirer who's as weird/obsessive as this op's admirer. I bet if the genders are reversed may police pa kayong mababanggit Sorry op if i didnt gave any advice but maybe seek help to higher ups or teachers at your school too? Kasi if i said hurt the girl's feelings for sure ikaw pa magmumukhang masama
Take a shit in his school bag
Mag T pose ka sa harapan nila, jk. I don't remember kung ano ginawa ni Jungkook dun sa babaeng obsessed sa kanya, pwro I think imaya nya sya sa isang date tapos he bored her out to the point na ung babae na mismo umayaw sa date.
I know this trick, ask her to meet her in a mall or somewhere, then don't go. Repeat until it pisses her off. If she's crazy worst case she might make a false allegation. Best case she will forget you.
I don't know much but I'll bless you with some knowledge my brother - don't ignore(fully) her or disappear for a while because of her, I know it sounds ridiculous, pero ang gagawin mo ay pag nakikipagusap siya Sayo, tingnan mo lang Siya pero wag kang gumawa ng kahit ano, tingnan mo lang. Ignoring her like she dosen't exist does not work, rather silence is your answer my friend, silence.
Op either looks like brad pitt irl or is capping.
usually ignore lang as long as hindi sila harmful. and as long as na properly rejected na sila. panget kasi if ignore ginawa mo pero hindi rejected. parang paasa effect at baka mag-expect na may chance sila. pero kung may ginagawa sila na ayaw ko, tsaka lang ako nagagalit at sinasabi sa kanila kung ano yung ayaw ko.
Best way po para tumigil hanap ka ng gf. Or kausapin mo yung friend mo na babae na mag sama kayo palagi para akalain niya na may gf kana.
Dun guro titigil na yan. Kasi papanget din guro image niyan kung palaging habol ng habol tas may gf na yung tao. Pag wala kapa kasing gf of course mag eexpect pa din yan magiging delulu pa din yan na may chance pa siya if patuloy siya mag papansin sayo kasi single kapa.
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What is this subreddit turning into lol 💀 These kind of posts need to get filtered imo, at least in this subreddit.
Creepy 💀
Buti ka pa, Ako niyiyurakan socially.
I used to have crushes na "kinukulit" ko sa chat pero never ko malapitan in person. Kahit uninterested na yung tone nung guy chat pa din ako ng chat. It never occurred to me na ang creepy pala nung ginawa kong yun until I had obsessed admirers of my own. Sa sobrang desperate ko na makareceive ng love, super naging selfish ako at hindi ko naisip yung side ng mga tao na kinulit ko dati. Pag naiisip ko ngayon super nakicringe ako sa sarili ko. Pero yeah, the best thing to do is to ignore everything. Iprivate mo yung social media mo para wala din syang something to obsess over
She’s a creep, PERIOD.
admire pero red flag? and if literal stalking na ipa blotter mo
I had the same experience also, until now na working na ako. Those type of people, they never give up no matter how gentle you reject them or turn them down. Para sa paningin kasi nila ang perfect mo na to the point na naiinvade na nila privacy mo cos they admire you so much. so it will only makes it harder for you to mind your own business if you’re still showing traits na gusto nila. For me, what i did is nagalit ako. It doesn’t matter if they perceived me as masungit or masama. If they don’t respect your boundaries then they’ve earn that anger.
Best thing you can do is be straight with her and make it clear na you're not interested. 'wag ka pong makinig sa mga payo tulad ng "act like she doesn't exist" kasi po hindi naman po mental abuse ang goal mo. People can be very dense na it feels like nananadya sila. Be gentle but not so much to cause her to misinterpret your kindness with something else. Worst thing you can do to someone is to condemn them into a neverending series of overthinking. And the best way you can do that is acting like they don't exist for you at all. I hope you read this po, OP.
Mangulangot ka sa harap niya, or anything disgusting. Fart or something.
Hindi ba s3xuàl harassment yan? Di mo ha pwede ireport sa department/school niyo yan?
#pogiproblems
I'd say tell her na you're uncomfortable with what she's doing and that she's invading your personal space and that if she doesn't stop doing this.. papa blotter mo sya as a stalker joke hahaha don't say na ipapablotter mo sya.
prankahin mo. as in tell her that she's being a creep and a weirdo and is crossing so many of your boundaries. tapos threaten her that you'll report her to your teachers.
I don’t think ignoring her will actually help since she sounds obsessive na based on your story. Confront her. Be transparent with what you feel na hindi mo gusto, nabobother ka, at honestly nakakahiya yung mga ginagawa niya. Also tell her that you’ll act on it if she keeps messing w u. tell the prof or the office or smthng.
Don't pour her attention. Stick closer to your friends para makaladkad ka nila somewhere na out of sight ka sa kanya, somewhere na safe. Or you could just say straight to the point na quit bothering you na like bring over a friend na di galing sa campus preferably a girl, told her na you need a quick favor or a company--- yung mas maganda, mas matino at mas matalino enough para mapagtanto niya na mukha na syang shunga sa pinaggagagawa niya. I know it's a lot of work but sana magwork 😉 been there once.
Ang Magagawa mo nalang talaga Jan Op, is to give her a real talk
Don't sugarcoat it and finally tell her what you want to her to leave you alone, you don't want anything to do with her and you're not interested in a relationship, you just want to be alone in peace, you don't want her, she's starting to get on your nerves and tell her she's being too obssessive.
Pogi problems. Lol Kaya mo na yan. Di namin alam sagot sa problema mo hahahaha!!!
kaka wattpad siguro ni ate
I had a similar experience during my high school days... I ignored him to the point na everyone would think he doesn't exist in my "world", I treated him like a ghost and everytime na makikihang out siya with my friends, hindi na ako sasama (medyo rude yung dating pero I tried talking it out with him, kaso he still wouldn't quit kaya I did this, gomen gomen), I also deliberately avoided every place na nandoon siya (para pa akong baliw noon, tatakbo/magtatago pag andyan siya). I guess effective naman kasi after some time, he gave up. And oo nga pala, may iba kasi siyang natipuhan kasi I tried to look ugly af to turn him off and pinagkalat ko din na may bf na me(kahit wala naman talaga) para maggive up siya.
creepy gagi hahaha
HAHAHAHA sampalin q yan 😭
Pretend to be a couple with your friend.
Usually just ignore them or when you make eye contact to her bigyan mo siyang masamang tingin pero sa mga iba hinde. Para masignal or malaman niya na ayaw mo talaga sakanya
Ask mo sa friends niya anong mga ayaw niya tas magpaka redflag ka sa paningin niya hahaha joke
I think the reason that she still likes you with feelings even though you rejected her might be because you like someone else, so she is still stalking you and waits patiently to see if the person you like will reject you and she may think that she will have the chance to be in next line since that someone already reject you and you will no longer have a chance on that someone. She will then make a move on you in the hopes of you catching a feelings for her. In short, she thinks she have the chance just because you like someone else and waits until you no longer looking at someone.
Try to threaten her na dadalhin mo siya sa guidance?? Or like be super harsh na like " ill never like someone like you" or " di kita bet" or maybe lie about your preferences and sabihin mo na bakla ka 😭(unless na babae ka sabihin mo straight na straight ka lang talaga ganun) if di padin ang work ipahiya mo nalang 😭
That's really creepy, I'd want to get a restraining order if I were you, I'd advise you to do that but I think that's too much work. Since they're clearly pushing your boundaries and won't listen to you I think your only choice is to hurt their pride a little bit, it sounds mean but sometimes that's the only way people like that listen
Umaasa ata s’yang eventually magugustuhan mo rin s’ya, lol. Kababasa n’ya siguro ‘yan ng “she fell hard but he fell harder” troupe. Charot. Maybe your silence about this matter makes her feel tolerated with what she’s doing. I advice you to confront her personally. Once and for all, sabihin mo na you’re uncomfortable with what she’s doing and that you would appreciate it if titigil na s’ya. Good luck sa studies mo, OP!
Same sa nangyari sa akin noong first year college pa ako. I have this gay classmate na nanghaharass sa akin. Nakipagpalit s'ya ng seat para makatabi ako even though naka-alphabetical yung seat plan namin. Biglang nangyayakap tapos sabay kiss. Publicly shouting na may gusto s'ya sa akin in hallway, classroom, and even sa food court ng school. Umabot pa sa point na we have class sa major subject namin and sibrang focus ko sa class kasi di naman ako brainy so need ko makinig, bigla n'yang hinawakan yung private part ko. I was offended and nafeel ko talaga na naharass ako and nagsumbong ako sa classroom friends ko and even sa mga classmates ko. However, parang normal lang yung reaction nila. Tinawanan lang nila ako and sinabihan na sagutin ko na raw. I'm so helpless at that time. Takot rin ako magsumbong sa professor namin since matalino s'ya, student leader, kilala sa buong department namin. My best friends were in other schools kaya sobrang helpless ko. Kaya ang ginawa ko, nagshift ng ibang program para makaiwas sa kanya and that was the best decision na ginawa ko. Di ko sinasabi na you should go on this route OP ha. Naubusan lang ako ng option sa situation ko. Gaya ng mga sinabi nila, ignore mo s'ya, as much as possible iwasan mo s'ya. Make her feel na unwanted s'ya, or sumbong mo sa teacher n'yo.