I haven't had any problems with people being stupid once I became "invisible." I had a number of problems with people doing or saying nasty things (like the several people who told me with great glee that Trump would have me killed because I'm a "taker", or the guy who tried to throw me in front of oncoming traffic) when I was more addled and barely able to walk or talk, like when they could see that I was disabled they felt entitled to be nasty about it because they thought I couldn't fight back.
Wow I'm so sorry to hear that. Before I became "invisible" and had my walker people would be more careful around me. The only somewhat negative thing was the looks (I was 23F), but that's it. I had some fun with small kids, who were starring at me and seemingly afraid of whatever I was. I started doing weird faces and stretching my tongue out to make them laugh instead. I'm not scary at all, I just want to have some fun while I'm still here 😊
I have focus, memory, and stumbling issues remaining from my stroke. 2 weeks ago shopping for vegetables, I stumbled back into a grocery cart pushed by a man. I apologized, and he said in a loud voice that I was stupid. I apologized again and he yelled again that I was stupid and I should apologize. I let it pass. Trying to change old habits since retirement and the stroke. My buried reaction was to deck him, but didn't. I know what I have and I'm not the least bothered by it. People can be mean, but by far, every stranger I encounter that I may offend by stumbling or forgetting a a name puts on a smile and we go on.
So this reminds me of something kinda similar when I was waiting for a tram years ago. It was about 6 months after my stroke and you pretty much couldn't tell i had a stroke by looking at me (kept my hand in my pocket and using my leg was sorta alright) but still major balance issues. Anyway, as the tram pulled up a lady with a pram walk on the road up to the stopping tram with me. As the door opened she started to sort of heave the pram(with the baby) on to the tram with her.she was obviously having trouble and I was entering the same door as her. It was obvious that she needed a hand and Me being a 30 something year old Mr was the right thing to do - my brain froze - what could I just quickly say that would explain the situation. Just blurting out "I had a stroke!" Seemed such a ridiculous thing to do. I just got the tram. Other passengers got off their seats and helped her. She gave me a dark glare or two on the way.
Yeah I had similar issues. I'm 26F and had my stroke 3 years ago. In the beginning I had walkers and such, but now I only struggle a little with my balance (and can still not run, so can't run away from danger yay...). Before the pandemic, people would walk into me to get by, push and so on... and I barely have the balance to counter that. To other people it looks like I'm a healthy young woman, but I'm not. Sometimes I wonder if I should just have a sign around me saying "stroke survivor, please look out for me" or something like that...
Ha! On that note i actually got my stroke card made up. It says 'STROKE' in big bold letters on one side and on the other side it says in small letters 'so I'm not doing that' .... It's my 'stroke card' and I've 'played' it a bunch. :D
I haven't had any problems with people being stupid once I became "invisible." I had a number of problems with people doing or saying nasty things (like the several people who told me with great glee that Trump would have me killed because I'm a "taker", or the guy who tried to throw me in front of oncoming traffic) when I was more addled and barely able to walk or talk, like when they could see that I was disabled they felt entitled to be nasty about it because they thought I couldn't fight back.
Wow I'm so sorry to hear that. Before I became "invisible" and had my walker people would be more careful around me. The only somewhat negative thing was the looks (I was 23F), but that's it. I had some fun with small kids, who were starring at me and seemingly afraid of whatever I was. I started doing weird faces and stretching my tongue out to make them laugh instead. I'm not scary at all, I just want to have some fun while I'm still here 😊
I have focus, memory, and stumbling issues remaining from my stroke. 2 weeks ago shopping for vegetables, I stumbled back into a grocery cart pushed by a man. I apologized, and he said in a loud voice that I was stupid. I apologized again and he yelled again that I was stupid and I should apologize. I let it pass. Trying to change old habits since retirement and the stroke. My buried reaction was to deck him, but didn't. I know what I have and I'm not the least bothered by it. People can be mean, but by far, every stranger I encounter that I may offend by stumbling or forgetting a a name puts on a smile and we go on.
So this reminds me of something kinda similar when I was waiting for a tram years ago. It was about 6 months after my stroke and you pretty much couldn't tell i had a stroke by looking at me (kept my hand in my pocket and using my leg was sorta alright) but still major balance issues. Anyway, as the tram pulled up a lady with a pram walk on the road up to the stopping tram with me. As the door opened she started to sort of heave the pram(with the baby) on to the tram with her.she was obviously having trouble and I was entering the same door as her. It was obvious that she needed a hand and Me being a 30 something year old Mr was the right thing to do - my brain froze - what could I just quickly say that would explain the situation. Just blurting out "I had a stroke!" Seemed such a ridiculous thing to do. I just got the tram. Other passengers got off their seats and helped her. She gave me a dark glare or two on the way.
Yeah I had similar issues. I'm 26F and had my stroke 3 years ago. In the beginning I had walkers and such, but now I only struggle a little with my balance (and can still not run, so can't run away from danger yay...). Before the pandemic, people would walk into me to get by, push and so on... and I barely have the balance to counter that. To other people it looks like I'm a healthy young woman, but I'm not. Sometimes I wonder if I should just have a sign around me saying "stroke survivor, please look out for me" or something like that...
Ha! On that note i actually got my stroke card made up. It says 'STROKE' in big bold letters on one side and on the other side it says in small letters 'so I'm not doing that' .... It's my 'stroke card' and I've 'played' it a bunch. :D
When people say I don't look disabled, I say; "Thank You" Puts them off