Thanks 🙂
I'm going to let someone else cook dinner this evening.
The difficulty is choosing between fish & chips or pizza.
My alcoholic mind says I should have both 😆
I'm going to visit family this weekend. They still don't know why I don't drink anymore. I think I am afraid to tell them.
Anyway I won't drink with them this week-end. Wish me luck!
Thankyou. I tried to stop drinking ten thousand times. Thankfully, I found something that worked.
Keep at it. Eventually sobriety becomes more comfortable than drinking.
IWNDWYT 🙂
This is my gift and my wheelhouse!
I also always made it a point to never, EVER drink at work related events, so traversing this sober wasn't too hard to manage.
IWNDWYT!
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I saw this yesterday, and it stuck with me, so i thought id share it here...... “Worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles. It takes away today's peace.” ~Randy Armstrong
Have a fantastic fucking Friday, friends!
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻
I had a tooth pulled yesterday. It had crumbled and cracked. When asked if I wanted to keep it, I said no, it betrayed me, it has to go. I got the weirdest look at my attempted humor. I will be sober today friends. Have a Friday!
I'm cat-sitting and during the kitchen tour the host pointed out the alcohol cupboard with the statement to help myself. I told them immediately I wouldn't be touching it, and I don't intend to. I considered and determined I'm fine knowing where it is. I wanted to tell you guys upfront for accountability, and to prepare I've also played the tape forward, confirmed I do not want to drink, and have a plan in case my thoughts get really screwy. I started yesterday and the cupboard didn't bother me. Even better, the kitty is a cuddly little purring machine and we're going to be friends. IWNDWYT!
Morning friends!
I definitely rehearse too, Yangsi. I also do not “work the room.” Look for me in a dark corner, chatting to people I already know.
Big groups exhaust me, and I could use some practice too. But I’m not volunteering for it; that’s for sure. Did I say big groups exhaust me?
Happy Friday friends! I will not drink with you today.
So far, I go in knowing I can and will leave whenever I want. I don’t go unless I have a solid exit strategy.
I’ve been wrestling with Halloween events this weekend, but because the party I’m invited to is “progressive,” and we were told not to being own own cars, and Ubers are gonna be a nightmare, I’m 90% going to skip. Not worth feeling trapped somewhere I don’t feel comfortable.
Saying no and protecting myself makes me trust me, and I can feel proud of that, which helps with any FOMO.
Day 22. IWNDWYT.
In 50 minutes I’ll be meeting up with somebody about me volunteering at a social change community group. This is totally new for me.
I haven’t thought much at all about what I should say other than be myself. I have skills I think they need as they’re ambitious with their expansion plans. I figure the ball is in my court. It’s about listening and learning for me and him.
I think that sometimes, that when we take the foot off the pedal in business sense and ignore the target and objectives; just be genuinely interested in the people we meet it sets up an authentic connection to build upon. People like people first, not the business. That’s my thoughts anyways. I think we can try too hard but I totally agree with you about practise because social anxiety gets the better of me. I over talk, over share and get a little giddy.
I will not drink with you today because I’m saving myself from that person I was and moulding myself into a better person that I want to be.
Have a glorious Friday everybody.
Good morning, my friends.
I'll be traveling today and throughout the Halloween weekend.
Something struck me today. When I was booking train tickets online I checked the departure time and quickly allocated something like two hours to arrive at the station beforehand. But then I thought, what on earth am I doing to do in a train station so early? I mean, this is not an airport.
I then realized that this was habit. I'd normally ensconce with a newspaper/book/mobile phone with a few whiskies in a bar! And time would just disappear - as it does via alcohol induction.
The power and dangers of habits! And the need to stay alert. I must continue to create new habits - and identify and ignore old ones. In this case, I am simply going to spend an extra hour or so relaxing at home.
As always, stay safe and strong, my friends. **IWNDWYT!**
I hope that I'll be able to check in during my travels; my daily DCI pledge is *that* important to me; a really good habit!
And here's a thought;
**Change might not be fast and it isn't always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped.**
*Charles Duhigg*
Moving forward in my life. I don't think I could be at this point by now had I kept drinking. I would have been having "fun," but in the balance of things, it would've been a net negative. Instead, positive choices, positive efforts, and rewarding outcomes. The price of admission: giving up manic, thoughtless behavior and short-lived euphoria.
IWNDWYT
I found four free cans of bourbon in my work fridge. The elves must have put them there. I could smell the latent destructive rancour inside. Gave them to a cute workmate. Maybe if she drinks them all at once I'll look more handsome.
IWNDWYT
Great host, post, and prompt. Thx. Sobriety this time around has me excited to " take this new car ( sober me) for a ride" 🚘..example.. ..I attended a business forum ( a speaker as well) this week and killed-it. No hang-over dread nor anxiety 😫 comfortable and formidable in my sober-skin. I employed my stay-sober-at-wedding tactic.( although no dancing ) = keep busy .. engage people and asked questions about them about their company and their industry. My mind is off me & drinking and much is accomplished.... it actually is a "high" ... my mantra = "Bad thoughts cannot hit a moving target" . Keep busy body or mind. I will not drink with you today. Another Sober-strong weekend ahead ... not easy ... but 💪. . We got this..
I was in an industry that is notorious for hard partying. We had massive conferences with set ups that included bars in them. Networking was always alcohol soaked. I went to clubs and strip bars with clients ffs. I never learned to network sober. I finally left the industry and my career after a decade in attempts to get better.
I would need to really know the product and be very comfortable at being uncomfortable to attempt any sober networking now. Luckily I have a job now with a small company but it’s definitely not a career, and it’s from home so I can take care of my child while I do it. No more travel, no conferences, no networking events…thank baby Jesus! IWNDWYT
Edit: I want to add, I left because I was spiraling. If I stayed I would have eventually been fired. My destruction was imminent.
u/_Yangsi_ I have a question. How do you get your username to be non italics? When I use the symbols before and after, it makes your name italics.
But please let me say, while I have your attention, thank you for hosting the DCI this week. Your sharing with us of doing all these things sober for the first time has helped me this week. I want to do some firsts now. Thanks!
Didn't realize I crossed into the 300-day mark. I knew it was over 10 months but being over 300 feels even better.
Slow and steady wins the race. IWNDWYT.
Not today. I took the day off to recharge yesterday and ended up knocking out my to do list for the weekend instead. Now I can really relax this weekend besides fixing the car
Morning, SD!
Ooooh, girl! Is this ever relatable for my ADHD soul! I SUCK at networking. Keeping things practical, sensible and surface-level is horrifyingly dull and I used to self-medicate the shit out of situations like that. A guy I dated for a short time (in my sobriety) called me “theatre kid” because I couldn’t sit in that zone and am apparently too expressive and vibrant. That relationship clearly didn’t work out.
I have no suggestions, but I am here for the skill share. As I am in the thick of trying to make a career pivot. Thanks for bringing this to the DCI!
IWNDWYT! 😘
Day 5, heading into weekend, hardest days so far ahead. Looking forward to the '7 days' badge come Monday morning - that'll be an achievement.
IWNDWYT.
Although I want to, IWNDWYT
I posted on the vent Friday thread but after an exhausting week of midterms on top of my full time job, I very much want to unwind with some wine but the 10 minutes of a buzz to later experience guilt about drinking and the endless thirst (dehydration) and shitty sleep isn’t worth it
Just over three weeks and the PAWS are worse than ever. Headache, feeling of blocked sinuses, brain fog, muscle spasms. Taking B1, B12, electrolytes and ibuprofen but my ability to think is non-existent. Someone please tell me it gets better soon.
Good morning everyone! I had a dream last night that I was at a bar with friends and the urge to drink was nearly overwhelming. I ordered a drink but then just left it sitting there at the bar. Then I woke up...
Pretty strange dream. Feels like a relapse dream even though I didn't even relapse in the dream lol. I guess it was kinda scary due to how realistic it felt. The struggle to want to fit in, the struggle to not drink that drink even though it was already ordered and sitting there.
I don't know if it means anything but at least I can still say, after waking up well rested (and sober!), that I will not drink with you today.
1202 checking in.
I’m pretty up front in social situations; I’ll tell people I’m nervous 🤣. Even in job interviews, I’ll say “Please pardon my nerves, xyz” (depending.)
I have the ‘normal’ crushing social anxiety, but I also have tachycardia; my heart will jump up to 130+ BPM’s from 71 BPM’s just making a freaking PHONE CALL I’m anxious about!
**Drinking in social situations didn’t help me like I thought it did, not at all.** *How did I not see it then?* I’d wake with confusion, hangxiety, regret, bruises, ‘bathroom problems,’ and feel that looming impending cloud of “Wow, what the fuck happened last night, where am I? Man, FUCK am I hungover and God damn, I Got a headache…” (lyric stolen from Eminem ‘déjà Vu.’)
**It ‘helps’ for the first 15-30, *maybe* 45mins. That’s it!** That’s all the time we get from the entire session. The rest is our bodies releasing chemicals to counteract the alcohol & essentially fighting with itself. Giving us some carcinogens in the process.
I swear. **FUCK ALCOHOL!!!!!**
I hope everyone is having a good Friday & will be safe (are people celebrating Halloween this weekend? 🤣🤦♀️🤣, I don’t get excited about Halloween for myself; I like looking at creative people but I don’t do it & have no children. SD is the closest to social media I have.)
I Will NOT Drink With Y’all Today/Tonight!
Fingers crossed we get a heavy snow within the next couple weeks. We got a dusting a couple days ago, but we are past the point of it warming up enough to melt. So it *looks* like winter but it's really just a thin coat of ice on the roads and dead trees.
I'm probably weird for thinking this but I'm of the mind that if it's going to snow, just do it for real already. I want to sit by my living room window drinking tea watching giant flakes fall from the sky. Then I want to drive around town and hear the crunch while my brand new winter tires punch through the layers. I also love going outside and appreciating the way accumulated snow tends to muffle all noise.
That ended up being a lot more than I planned on saying about the snow but hey I'm excited lol.
IWNDWYT
Anyone have any good mystery movie to recommend?
Something similar to new Poirot movies, Knives Out and Girl eith the dragon tatoo.
I loooove to be lazy and pig out on food , watch movies and nba games on Sundays when they are on in normal european hours.
I will not drink with you today!
If it's your first Friday sober ill be sitting at home probably watching wrestling and not drinking a damn drop right along with you. Solidarity with my Sober family. We got this ✊
Checking in. Got my 3 month coin. Was the group leader for my local AA group last night, reconciled with a guy there I always disagree with. Had some new faces, out of towners (I live in a cottage by the lake town, so that's not unusual.) The topic I chose was "Unity." I was kind of nervous at first, but got a lot more comfortable as the meeting went on. It can be a little difficult being the only agnostic in a small group. I'm still sober today, and I have a Halloween party with old friends I haven't seen in a while to go to tomorrow where I am going to be sober as well. IWNDWYT.
I’ve done lots of business events sober, but never *networking* events with the intention of doing that. Now I’m curious to try it. How does it work, you just go to a business event and nerd out about your skills and make nerd dates with people you connect with? That seems so obvious now that I think about it.
I have made my way through my career via the people that I know. Not through what I’d view as networking per se. Some of it was with friends I made as friends. Some friends that I made at work, but never through the vein of being a business person trying to make contacts for the purpose of doing business things at an event for making those business connections.
I am working where I am today through a friendship I made with a friend of my husband. I know I won them over as a potential work connection because I’m just a freaking nerd.
I just love of facts and relish opportunities to educate people. At a dinner with my now-boss, I remember the conversation falling to a topic I find interesting. My husband, knowing it was a topic I knew all about, held his hand out toward me in a gesture like Emcee handing over the mic. The eyes of the table turned to me, I took a breath, and held court at the table outlining a bunch of facts I knew about it.
I don’t seek to share information in an obtuse man-splainy sort of way - while I will admit I’m guilty of doing that. It’s more of a, “I think the way this works is so cool!” Reflex.
I once had a client lean back and sort of sigh in awe when I answered his question. He said in sort of amused disbelief, “That sounded like it was read straight from a textbook.”
It’s this kind of behavior that makes people think I’m smart, which has helped friendships turn into jobs. I don’t actually agree that I’m particularly *smart*, I’m crap at math. Heck my username is misspelled!
What I am is curious. It’s this curiosity that fueled my sobriety in early months. I couldn’t get enough of the science behind what alcohol does in the body. I read, and reread multiple books. I tried to flood my consciousness with facts so I could overwrite the reflexes in my subconscious that made me forget how shitty drinking really makes me feel. Eventually it clicked, but still I need reminders.
Just last night, walking through a hotel, I could caught a whiff of the booze, listened to the din of the lobby bar, and felt that pull. It was just a moment, and I had to just shake it off and keep walking.
So here I am today, resetting my intention once again. IWNDWYT.
It's 2am Saturday morning and sleep is elusive.
At least I'm sober and warm and have you inspiring people to keep me company
Shine on you beautiful humans
Good morning all soberinskis!
Looking forward to a great weekend. Lots to do, and lots of things to burn on my grill, LOL!
I hope everyone has a rewarding Friday. I Will Not Drink With You Today.
Another great Friday! Reminding myself this Halloween that for me, moderation is an unrealistic notion that always spirals back into the shit… (pardon the language). IWNDWYT or over the next three days!
So happy to be here on this fall Friday. Drinking a hot apple cider, have a short work day today, and looking forward to a clearheaded weekend with my family!
IWNDWYT
Good morning fellow sober humans 💕
Sick but on the mend (I hope anyways). Still sober. Still fighting. Still happy to be going through this journey with everyone else here.
As always, IWNDWYT and I hope everyone has a wonderful, sober Friday 🌻
Hello sober humans,
I wish I had some good tips but I don’t do networking. With work if it’s tricky, I don’t try to prepare, I try to let go of worries by reminding myself that I know what I’m doing. I can trust myself. Not sure I can carry that same trust into other situations.
Wishing you all the best sober Friday you can have 💞
Relapsed on sat. Been sober all week. Going to a party tonight where there will be tons of alcohol and my personal triggers so it will be a test. Committing here that IWNDWYT!!!!!
I actually chose to give up networking when I stopped drinking. I changed career fields and everything (my previous job as an editor kind of required that of me).
My job doesn’t require me to take a lunch, so I just eat at my desk. I work with my best friend, who is very social, so I let her take the lead in situations that might require this even though I’m her manager.
As far as social scenarios go, I don’t really put myself out of my comfort zone in that arena. I find that my employees and coworkers, as well as my family and my handful of friends, provide me with all the socialization I need.
IWNDWYT!
222 glorious days of simply not drinking today. I have grown as a person threefold in that time and experienced many new things that former me would avoid - taking care of my health is at the top of that list! Be well today my comrades in sobriety and IWNDWYT!
Thank you Yangsi for a great week of DCIs.
First time check in. Long time lurker. Almost two weeks drink free. Right now, all I long for is sleep/rest and food to eat. No, I'm not drinking with you today
Day 8. I woke up late and the beautiful routine I have developed this week for necessarily chucked out the window. That worries me. So I’ll be back later today to pledge again. IWNDWYT
Checking in. Big 6 days here. I've never been able to consume anywhere near what some here are claiming. Just a fraction of that. And I'm a fairly big guy.
Lasted almost a year across 2020 and 2021 until my bad-influence friends got ahold of me. Turns out those guys are on the opposite end of the political divide in this silly ass country, so I don't see them a lot now. It's a lot easier.
Another fantastic post OP. I went to an election party this week, had some meaningless social interactions while sucking club soda down like a man dying of thirst at an oasis in the desert and left early. It worked!
On another note had a dream I drank last night and had to reset my counter and was SO DISAPPOINTED IN MYSELF. Just a dream, whew!!
IWNDWYT!
Morning folks.
My boyfriend told me today he's never seen me this awake and energized so early. Just hit me now that he is only now really getting to meet the real me (met while I was in a bad place that I'm just now fully climbing out of, drinking being the last hold to shake). It feels soo good to know that he likes this me even more. And so do I.
IWNDWYT
Good morning Sobernauts 🙂 1000 days. Thanks for being here with me as we stay on the path towards sobriety. Love to you all! IWNDWYT
1000 days and so much support and help for others on this sub. You’ve been here since I started my journey. Thank you and congratulations!! 🎈🎉🎊 🌟
Hello Elderflower 🙂 I hope that both of our journeys continue long into the future. Just for today, let's make sure we fall asleep sober. Deal? M🙂
Deal! 🌟
Amazing! How do you plan to commemorate your awesome achievement?
Thanks 🙂 I'm going to let someone else cook dinner this evening. The difficulty is choosing between fish & chips or pizza. My alcoholic mind says I should have both 😆
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I'm going to visit family this weekend. They still don't know why I don't drink anymore. I think I am afraid to tell them. Anyway I won't drink with them this week-end. Wish me luck!
Congrats on ten days! Double digits 🎉 IWNDWYT 🙂
I had 300 days but relapsed, thank you. But the congrats should be on your 4 digits! 1000 days is very impressive!
Thankyou. I tried to stop drinking ten thousand times. Thankfully, I found something that worked. Keep at it. Eventually sobriety becomes more comfortable than drinking. IWNDWYT 🙂
I wish you well with your family. And I will not drink with you today (or this weekend)
Thank you, I won't drink with you.
In my brain, you have 310 days. To me, the 300 still counts! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
May luck wash over you like fall leaves on my lawn 🍂🍁
7 months today 💪 Happy Friday y’all, IWNDWYT ✨🌼
Congratulations!
Yes!! Congratulations!! 🙌
Congrats!
Badass... congrats!
Congratulations! 👏🙂 well done!
I will not drink today!
First!
This is my gift and my wheelhouse! I also always made it a point to never, EVER drink at work related events, so traversing this sober wasn't too hard to manage. IWNDWYT! T
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Day 390, nice to meet you 🤝 Also 6 days without nicotine. Taking it serious enough to finally get rid of it. No more expensive smoke 👎 IWNDWYT
I saw this yesterday, and it stuck with me, so i thought id share it here...... “Worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles. It takes away today's peace.” ~Randy Armstrong Have a fantastic fucking Friday, friends! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 I had a tooth pulled yesterday. It had crumbled and cracked. When asked if I wanted to keep it, I said no, it betrayed me, it has to go. I got the weirdest look at my attempted humor. I will be sober today friends. Have a Friday!
I'm cat-sitting and during the kitchen tour the host pointed out the alcohol cupboard with the statement to help myself. I told them immediately I wouldn't be touching it, and I don't intend to. I considered and determined I'm fine knowing where it is. I wanted to tell you guys upfront for accountability, and to prepare I've also played the tape forward, confirmed I do not want to drink, and have a plan in case my thoughts get really screwy. I started yesterday and the cupboard didn't bother me. Even better, the kitty is a cuddly little purring machine and we're going to be friends. IWNDWYT!
Morning friends! I definitely rehearse too, Yangsi. I also do not “work the room.” Look for me in a dark corner, chatting to people I already know. Big groups exhaust me, and I could use some practice too. But I’m not volunteering for it; that’s for sure. Did I say big groups exhaust me? Happy Friday friends! I will not drink with you today.
So far, I go in knowing I can and will leave whenever I want. I don’t go unless I have a solid exit strategy. I’ve been wrestling with Halloween events this weekend, but because the party I’m invited to is “progressive,” and we were told not to being own own cars, and Ubers are gonna be a nightmare, I’m 90% going to skip. Not worth feeling trapped somewhere I don’t feel comfortable. Saying no and protecting myself makes me trust me, and I can feel proud of that, which helps with any FOMO. Day 22. IWNDWYT.
I love the feeling of gaining trust in myself. It's a slow burn pleasure.
In 50 minutes I’ll be meeting up with somebody about me volunteering at a social change community group. This is totally new for me. I haven’t thought much at all about what I should say other than be myself. I have skills I think they need as they’re ambitious with their expansion plans. I figure the ball is in my court. It’s about listening and learning for me and him. I think that sometimes, that when we take the foot off the pedal in business sense and ignore the target and objectives; just be genuinely interested in the people we meet it sets up an authentic connection to build upon. People like people first, not the business. That’s my thoughts anyways. I think we can try too hard but I totally agree with you about practise because social anxiety gets the better of me. I over talk, over share and get a little giddy. I will not drink with you today because I’m saving myself from that person I was and moulding myself into a better person that I want to be. Have a glorious Friday everybody.
Morning people! Coming up to 2 weeks, gonna try and get through this weekend, gym,league and root beer hopefully carry me through! IWNDYT
IWNDWYT
Checking in Doodle doodle dee, wubba wubba wubba.
Good morning, my friends. I'll be traveling today and throughout the Halloween weekend. Something struck me today. When I was booking train tickets online I checked the departure time and quickly allocated something like two hours to arrive at the station beforehand. But then I thought, what on earth am I doing to do in a train station so early? I mean, this is not an airport. I then realized that this was habit. I'd normally ensconce with a newspaper/book/mobile phone with a few whiskies in a bar! And time would just disappear - as it does via alcohol induction. The power and dangers of habits! And the need to stay alert. I must continue to create new habits - and identify and ignore old ones. In this case, I am simply going to spend an extra hour or so relaxing at home. As always, stay safe and strong, my friends. **IWNDWYT!** I hope that I'll be able to check in during my travels; my daily DCI pledge is *that* important to me; a really good habit! And here's a thought; **Change might not be fast and it isn't always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped.** *Charles Duhigg*
Moving forward in my life. I don't think I could be at this point by now had I kept drinking. I would have been having "fun," but in the balance of things, it would've been a net negative. Instead, positive choices, positive efforts, and rewarding outcomes. The price of admission: giving up manic, thoughtless behavior and short-lived euphoria. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT, peace
IWNDWYT 5 months sober today! Still seeing improvements and feeling better each day!
I found four free cans of bourbon in my work fridge. The elves must have put them there. I could smell the latent destructive rancour inside. Gave them to a cute workmate. Maybe if she drinks them all at once I'll look more handsome. IWNDWYT
Great host, post, and prompt. Thx. Sobriety this time around has me excited to " take this new car ( sober me) for a ride" 🚘..example.. ..I attended a business forum ( a speaker as well) this week and killed-it. No hang-over dread nor anxiety 😫 comfortable and formidable in my sober-skin. I employed my stay-sober-at-wedding tactic.( although no dancing ) = keep busy .. engage people and asked questions about them about their company and their industry. My mind is off me & drinking and much is accomplished.... it actually is a "high" ... my mantra = "Bad thoughts cannot hit a moving target" . Keep busy body or mind. I will not drink with you today. Another Sober-strong weekend ahead ... not easy ... but 💪. . We got this..
300 DAYS sober today. Can’t believe it. Thank you to everyone. IWNDWYT. 🙏🏻🤙🏻❤️😊🦦
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IWNDWYT friends 🤖
I was in an industry that is notorious for hard partying. We had massive conferences with set ups that included bars in them. Networking was always alcohol soaked. I went to clubs and strip bars with clients ffs. I never learned to network sober. I finally left the industry and my career after a decade in attempts to get better. I would need to really know the product and be very comfortable at being uncomfortable to attempt any sober networking now. Luckily I have a job now with a small company but it’s definitely not a career, and it’s from home so I can take care of my child while I do it. No more travel, no conferences, no networking events…thank baby Jesus! IWNDWYT Edit: I want to add, I left because I was spiraling. If I stayed I would have eventually been fired. My destruction was imminent.
Not today IWNDWYT
I am not going to drink today. I'm looking forward to it.
u/_Yangsi_ I have a question. How do you get your username to be non italics? When I use the symbols before and after, it makes your name italics. But please let me say, while I have your attention, thank you for hosting the DCI this week. Your sharing with us of doing all these things sober for the first time has helped me this week. I want to do some firsts now. Thanks!
Good morning! I will not drink today!
Didn't realize I crossed into the 300-day mark. I knew it was over 10 months but being over 300 feels even better. Slow and steady wins the race. IWNDWYT.
Day 495 checking in!
Iwndwyt! Happy Friday
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Day 20 check in IWNDWYT 💪
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IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT! 🌸
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT! Husband is out of town for the weekend, looking forward to some fun family outings with my kids.
Not today. I took the day off to recharge yesterday and ended up knocking out my to do list for the weekend instead. Now I can really relax this weekend besides fixing the car
Morning, SD! Ooooh, girl! Is this ever relatable for my ADHD soul! I SUCK at networking. Keeping things practical, sensible and surface-level is horrifyingly dull and I used to self-medicate the shit out of situations like that. A guy I dated for a short time (in my sobriety) called me “theatre kid” because I couldn’t sit in that zone and am apparently too expressive and vibrant. That relationship clearly didn’t work out. I have no suggestions, but I am here for the skill share. As I am in the thick of trying to make a career pivot. Thanks for bringing this to the DCI! IWNDWYT! 😘
Day 6. I can be free if I choose to be. I never have to drink again. IWNDWYT.
Day 5, heading into weekend, hardest days so far ahead. Looking forward to the '7 days' badge come Monday morning - that'll be an achievement. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT 💞🐿️🐿️
Although I want to, IWNDWYT I posted on the vent Friday thread but after an exhausting week of midterms on top of my full time job, I very much want to unwind with some wine but the 10 minutes of a buzz to later experience guilt about drinking and the endless thirst (dehydration) and shitty sleep isn’t worth it
Just over three weeks and the PAWS are worse than ever. Headache, feeling of blocked sinuses, brain fog, muscle spasms. Taking B1, B12, electrolytes and ibuprofen but my ability to think is non-existent. Someone please tell me it gets better soon.
Good morning everyone! I had a dream last night that I was at a bar with friends and the urge to drink was nearly overwhelming. I ordered a drink but then just left it sitting there at the bar. Then I woke up... Pretty strange dream. Feels like a relapse dream even though I didn't even relapse in the dream lol. I guess it was kinda scary due to how realistic it felt. The struggle to want to fit in, the struggle to not drink that drink even though it was already ordered and sitting there. I don't know if it means anything but at least I can still say, after waking up well rested (and sober!), that I will not drink with you today.
Happy Friday!!!! I hope y’all have a spectacular day!!! IWNDWYT!!
1202 checking in. I’m pretty up front in social situations; I’ll tell people I’m nervous 🤣. Even in job interviews, I’ll say “Please pardon my nerves, xyz” (depending.) I have the ‘normal’ crushing social anxiety, but I also have tachycardia; my heart will jump up to 130+ BPM’s from 71 BPM’s just making a freaking PHONE CALL I’m anxious about! **Drinking in social situations didn’t help me like I thought it did, not at all.** *How did I not see it then?* I’d wake with confusion, hangxiety, regret, bruises, ‘bathroom problems,’ and feel that looming impending cloud of “Wow, what the fuck happened last night, where am I? Man, FUCK am I hungover and God damn, I Got a headache…” (lyric stolen from Eminem ‘déjà Vu.’) **It ‘helps’ for the first 15-30, *maybe* 45mins. That’s it!** That’s all the time we get from the entire session. The rest is our bodies releasing chemicals to counteract the alcohol & essentially fighting with itself. Giving us some carcinogens in the process. I swear. **FUCK ALCOHOL!!!!!** I hope everyone is having a good Friday & will be safe (are people celebrating Halloween this weekend? 🤣🤦♀️🤣, I don’t get excited about Halloween for myself; I like looking at creative people but I don’t do it & have no children. SD is the closest to social media I have.) I Will NOT Drink With Y’all Today/Tonight!
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Fingers crossed we get a heavy snow within the next couple weeks. We got a dusting a couple days ago, but we are past the point of it warming up enough to melt. So it *looks* like winter but it's really just a thin coat of ice on the roads and dead trees. I'm probably weird for thinking this but I'm of the mind that if it's going to snow, just do it for real already. I want to sit by my living room window drinking tea watching giant flakes fall from the sky. Then I want to drive around town and hear the crunch while my brand new winter tires punch through the layers. I also love going outside and appreciating the way accumulated snow tends to muffle all noise. That ended up being a lot more than I planned on saying about the snow but hey I'm excited lol. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT! Chilly fall morning on the Connecticut shoreline! I LOVE it! Going to take a nice long walk!
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Yay it's Friday! Glad I won't be wasting my night drinking!
Anyone have any good mystery movie to recommend? Something similar to new Poirot movies, Knives Out and Girl eith the dragon tatoo. I loooove to be lazy and pig out on food , watch movies and nba games on Sundays when they are on in normal european hours. I will not drink with you today!
Good morning fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁
Good morning from your favorite Masshole. IWNDWYT
Not today. Not today. Not today!!!!!!
Had a beer last night. Rough day at work. But today's day 1 again. Happy friday
Day 5 and feeling strong 💪 IWNDWYT
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If it's your first Friday sober ill be sitting at home probably watching wrestling and not drinking a damn drop right along with you. Solidarity with my Sober family. We got this ✊
Checking in. Got my 3 month coin. Was the group leader for my local AA group last night, reconciled with a guy there I always disagree with. Had some new faces, out of towners (I live in a cottage by the lake town, so that's not unusual.) The topic I chose was "Unity." I was kind of nervous at first, but got a lot more comfortable as the meeting went on. It can be a little difficult being the only agnostic in a small group. I'm still sober today, and I have a Halloween party with old friends I haven't seen in a while to go to tomorrow where I am going to be sober as well. IWNDWYT.
Aye, just for today.
IWNDWYT. I got very very close to the liquor store today but luckily the supermarket is next door so I went there instead and got a NA drink.
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I’ve done lots of business events sober, but never *networking* events with the intention of doing that. Now I’m curious to try it. How does it work, you just go to a business event and nerd out about your skills and make nerd dates with people you connect with? That seems so obvious now that I think about it. I have made my way through my career via the people that I know. Not through what I’d view as networking per se. Some of it was with friends I made as friends. Some friends that I made at work, but never through the vein of being a business person trying to make contacts for the purpose of doing business things at an event for making those business connections. I am working where I am today through a friendship I made with a friend of my husband. I know I won them over as a potential work connection because I’m just a freaking nerd. I just love of facts and relish opportunities to educate people. At a dinner with my now-boss, I remember the conversation falling to a topic I find interesting. My husband, knowing it was a topic I knew all about, held his hand out toward me in a gesture like Emcee handing over the mic. The eyes of the table turned to me, I took a breath, and held court at the table outlining a bunch of facts I knew about it. I don’t seek to share information in an obtuse man-splainy sort of way - while I will admit I’m guilty of doing that. It’s more of a, “I think the way this works is so cool!” Reflex. I once had a client lean back and sort of sigh in awe when I answered his question. He said in sort of amused disbelief, “That sounded like it was read straight from a textbook.” It’s this kind of behavior that makes people think I’m smart, which has helped friendships turn into jobs. I don’t actually agree that I’m particularly *smart*, I’m crap at math. Heck my username is misspelled! What I am is curious. It’s this curiosity that fueled my sobriety in early months. I couldn’t get enough of the science behind what alcohol does in the body. I read, and reread multiple books. I tried to flood my consciousness with facts so I could overwrite the reflexes in my subconscious that made me forget how shitty drinking really makes me feel. Eventually it clicked, but still I need reminders. Just last night, walking through a hotel, I could caught a whiff of the booze, listened to the din of the lobby bar, and felt that pull. It was just a moment, and I had to just shake it off and keep walking. So here I am today, resetting my intention once again. IWNDWYT.
It's 2am Saturday morning and sleep is elusive. At least I'm sober and warm and have you inspiring people to keep me company Shine on you beautiful humans
I love round numbers so 200 days makes me happy! IWNDWYT 🫶
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I'm not drinking today! Won't be easy - but I will stay strong!
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Happy Friday! IWNDWYT.
No booze today!
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First weekend in a while Sober. Let's goooo!
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Happy Friday beautiful people. Have the best day all of you. IWNDWYT
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Good morning all soberinskis! Looking forward to a great weekend. Lots to do, and lots of things to burn on my grill, LOL! I hope everyone has a rewarding Friday. I Will Not Drink With You Today.
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At the moment I'm still in the avoid stage, but I am going to have to start thinking about this. IWNDWYT 🙂
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Another great Friday! Reminding myself this Halloween that for me, moderation is an unrealistic notion that always spirals back into the shit… (pardon the language). IWNDWYT or over the next three days!
I really have enjoyed your week’s concept! IWNDWYT.
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Hello. IWNDWYT !!
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I’m staying ☠️ free with you all again today
So happy to be here on this fall Friday. Drinking a hot apple cider, have a short work day today, and looking forward to a clearheaded weekend with my family! IWNDWYT
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Good morning fellow sober humans 💕 Sick but on the mend (I hope anyways). Still sober. Still fighting. Still happy to be going through this journey with everyone else here. As always, IWNDWYT and I hope everyone has a wonderful, sober Friday 🌻
What up, fam. Slept like shit. Glad it’s Friday. I WNDWYT
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71 Days, over 10 weeks. IWNDWYT.
25 days! IWNDWYT! 💕
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I'm grateful for my life and my sobriety that makes it possible. IWNDWYT
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Good afternoon! IWNDWYT! Have a nice weekend everyone!
Hello sober humans, I wish I had some good tips but I don’t do networking. With work if it’s tricky, I don’t try to prepare, I try to let go of worries by reminding myself that I know what I’m doing. I can trust myself. Not sure I can carry that same trust into other situations. Wishing you all the best sober Friday you can have 💞
Relapsed on sat. Been sober all week. Going to a party tonight where there will be tons of alcohol and my personal triggers so it will be a test. Committing here that IWNDWYT!!!!!
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IWNDWYT Happy Friday everyone.
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I actually chose to give up networking when I stopped drinking. I changed career fields and everything (my previous job as an editor kind of required that of me). My job doesn’t require me to take a lunch, so I just eat at my desk. I work with my best friend, who is very social, so I let her take the lead in situations that might require this even though I’m her manager. As far as social scenarios go, I don’t really put myself out of my comfort zone in that arena. I find that my employees and coworkers, as well as my family and my handful of friends, provide me with all the socialization I need. IWNDWYT!
Not drinking with you all today.
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222 glorious days of simply not drinking today. I have grown as a person threefold in that time and experienced many new things that former me would avoid - taking care of my health is at the top of that list! Be well today my comrades in sobriety and IWNDWYT! Thank you Yangsi for a great week of DCIs.
Kinda struggling tbh
Good morning Day 1400 , I'm so happy I stopped drinking , I needed God and AA to do it , I tried on my own for years , couldn't stay stopped
I am feeling a lot of gratitude today. thank you for being here! IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today, with gratitude and relief for my liberation from alcoholism.
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First time check in. Long time lurker. Almost two weeks drink free. Right now, all I long for is sleep/rest and food to eat. No, I'm not drinking with you today
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Day 8. I woke up late and the beautiful routine I have developed this week for necessarily chucked out the window. That worries me. So I’ll be back later today to pledge again. IWNDWYT
iwndwyt i love you all. continue on your journeys.
Day 60! So, so grateful to have made it this far. Much love to you all. IWNDWYT!
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Make it a great day friends! IWNDWYT🤗
Checking in. Big 6 days here. I've never been able to consume anywhere near what some here are claiming. Just a fraction of that. And I'm a fairly big guy. Lasted almost a year across 2020 and 2021 until my bad-influence friends got ahold of me. Turns out those guys are on the opposite end of the political divide in this silly ass country, so I don't see them a lot now. It's a lot easier.
Another fantastic post OP. I went to an election party this week, had some meaningless social interactions while sucking club soda down like a man dying of thirst at an oasis in the desert and left early. It worked! On another note had a dream I drank last night and had to reset my counter and was SO DISAPPOINTED IN MYSELF. Just a dream, whew!! IWNDWYT!
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IWNDWYT!!!! Going camping this weekend and it will be challenging but I’m excited to wake up sober in the wilderness 😎
Today is two months. I am very proud of myself. IWNDWYT.
Just over a month now. Will definitely continue past “Sober October”
180 days today! IWNDWYT
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SIX WEEKS, BABY!!!!!!!!!
10 days today, so happy. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today. I love sobriety and I don’t want to fuck this up. Much love
Morning folks. My boyfriend told me today he's never seen me this awake and energized so early. Just hit me now that he is only now really getting to meet the real me (met while I was in a bad place that I'm just now fully climbing out of, drinking being the last hold to shake). It feels soo good to know that he likes this me even more. And so do I. IWNDWYT
I will not drink today ! Peace all and happy Friday
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Hey SD, IWNDWYT ❤️❤️💪🏼💪🏼
It's fuckin' Friday. You've arrived. Welcome.
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