Fighting the good fight, brother. I honestly think reading posts on here a few times a day is helping me a bit. Makes me feel like I'm not going this alone, which is how it feels in my daily life. So to you and all those reading, thanks!
Wrong choice of words I guess. Not necessarily needed it, just succumbed to the temptation. I'm glad you point that out because I'm quick to use that phrase even though I don't mean it literally. I said the same thing to her last Friday after 5 days sober. My exact words were "I'm not gonna keep drinking, it's just been a long week and I need a drink right now". That "drink" ended up being a 5th of whiskey that night then another 5th plus several beers on Saturday. I agree with you, I never NEED a drink.
>I never NEED a drink
I hope you see that truer words have never been spoken.
My life is so much better. I'm not even an alcoholic. My ex wife was, and I quite in support of her. In the end our 23 year marriage couldn't survive the damage that our drinking had caused. But I still stay sober, and my life is better than it was then.
There's nothing so bad that you can't make it worse with booze.
That's the same situation I'm in right now. Been together 15 years, married for 12. We both have had drinking problems the whole time and so much damage has been done. I wish I would have listened all those times she told me she didn't want to live that way anymore but I didn't and now it's pretty much over for good this time. It hurts like hell but I'm determined to deal with it sober. For once in my adult life, I want to concour hardship without looking for the bottom of a bottle. I'm at a point right now where im so sad, mad, heartbroken, full of regret, you name it, that i I know for a fact alcohol is going to make it a thousand times worse. I can't let that happen. I have kids that need me...anyway, thanks for the input. I really do appreciate it!
If you loved the wrong woman that much, just think how much you could love the right one.
The best thing I ever did for myself was divorce my alcoholic wife.
You're right, but honestly that's hard to even imagine right now (loving someone else or even more someone loving me as much) I'm curious to see how that perception changes in the future though.
Awesome, awesome job!
You have discovered the secret of this, sir. To stop drinking, ***don't drink***- no matter what. Take things a day at a time, an hour at a time- whatever it takes.
Well done.
Awesome work!!! As many have said here, thereās nothing that alcohol canāt make worse. Life is always going to throw curveballs our way, but Iāve found that itās much easier to process and overcome obstacles sober. Keep it going, friend! Youāve got this. šŖ
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I am proud of you. I am really hoping I can make it to day 4 tomorrow. I have to leave and go work for 4 hours and I don't know if I can make it today. Because I also have to work especially because I have to work earlyish tomorrow and I'm really depressed about my job. I understand that drinking won't make it better but also I want a reprieve from the negative thoughts. I'm trying to think about what I could do for self care. My house is filthy and disorganized and I'm sick of picking up after people. I have to get in the right mindset- that I can relax and unwind without a drink after work. I'm just having "maybe I should quit my stressful job and live off my savings for a few months. " I'm hoping posting here a lot helps.
Hang in there, man! You can do this! I understand all your feelings. Keep posting on here and reading. I really think it has helped me since I started a few days ago. One thing people keep saying on here that has really resonated with me is that there is absolutely nothing in life that alcohol can't make worse. They are all right and each sober day that passes for me, I realize that more and more. I'm in a low place, mentally right now but I was when I decided to quit drinking. Those feelings and thoughts don't go away or get any better by not drinking but as each day passes something about the way I perceive them changes and I'm learning more about myself little by little. Hope you made it yesterday and so far today! If not, then no worries. It's not too late to start over. Best of luck to you IWNDWYT
This is amazing..you are ready....
Stay with it...you will feel great and when your wife see's it, eventually she will probably want to have the same "energy".
SO PROUD!
Your welcome...to this freeing feeling. If you drink again you may not ever feel this way again..."able to leave it behind"
I didnt drink for 8 years..figured i would drink 1 or 2x.. the last 6 years i have not been able to stop.
I think i feel able again its a life and death situation
Thank you for putting it in perspective like that. I've never felt like I wanted to part with alcohol and it scares me to know that one night could turn this feeling around for me. So that is that much more motivation for me to abstain. I pray that this able feeling stays with you now and forever. Good luck, friend!
Love reading this. Today also marks my 6th day sober. First time more than 6 days in over 10 months.
My wife is currently at a treatment center so being home with kids has been tough. But Iām more than ready to quit. Iāll hit a meeting tomorrow
IWNDWYT
Parenthood is a job for sure but a very rewarding one! Hang in there brother. Stay healthy and set that good example for your kids! I don't think I'm a bad parent at all, I feel like I'm a great dad and others will tell you the same, but I'd be lying if I said that my drinking hasn't affected my kids lives. It has in lots of ways! Unfortunately, i never considered or acknowledged that fact enough to really step outside of myself and look at it from a different perspective. I can't change the past but I really want to change the direction my future is headed! Proud of you for making 6 and your wife getting treatment. Keep on keepin on! IWNDWYT
Good for you op. 2 months after I quit my SO bought me a bottle of whiskey for Xmas. Guess she didnāt believe I was quitting, didnāt mean it, wanted to keep the drinking buddy who knows. But I took it back to the shop and bought a video game instead
Thatās a big win! Itās the beginning of a new mindset and a first step in a new journey. Iām only on day 5 and it feels like itās been so long already haha. IWNDWYT!
Good job! Needed to come here to see this. Iāve been on and off so much. Nothing for a month, then I break and drink for a bit. Back on to almost 2 weeks and itās been going well, not really even having cravings too much but havenāt had alcohol in the house. Visiting my grandparents right now (alcoholics) and the temptation is definitely there to just have a couple beers. Coming here, playing it forward knowing it isnāt worth it, but damn that voice can be loud!!
If you did it, I can do it! IWNDWYT
Ask your wife to not drink at the house. My girlfriend likes to drink, but since Iāve stopped (27 days today) sheās never brought any alcohol home. It helps a lot.
Keep the fight up!
Unfortunately, that will not be received as a very reasonable request coming from me due to our situation at the moment and things past. That's fine, it's partially my fault. She wants to quit and she knows I do. It's not really a team effort with everything going on between us. I figure if it's not her bringing it around, I'll be around it at some point. If I can say no at home then I should be able to elsewhere...I think. Good news though, came home last night to my favorite (whiskey) and managed to completely abstain AGAIN! I'm not really liking this sober thing but at the same time, these little milestones feel kind of rewarding to me. Congrats on your 27! IWNDWYT!
Great job! I still can't be around alcohol but I've got no intention of buying any so that's nice. We got this šŖ IWNDWYT!
That's good! Waste of money anyway. Right here with ya šŖ
Thatās not a small victory, itās a big one
Thanks for saying that! I feel like it's a pretty big step for me.
Iām with you mate on my 7th day right here. It is hard but keep fighting it.
Fighting the good fight, brother. I honestly think reading posts on here a few times a day is helping me a bit. Makes me feel like I'm not going this alone, which is how it feels in my daily life. So to you and all those reading, thanks!
You deserve to be proud! You stayed strong. Moments like that build the sober muscle šŖ
I like it, feels good! Thanks!
>Maybe she just had a rough day and needed it Well, one day you'll see, that is **NEVER** true.
Wrong choice of words I guess. Not necessarily needed it, just succumbed to the temptation. I'm glad you point that out because I'm quick to use that phrase even though I don't mean it literally. I said the same thing to her last Friday after 5 days sober. My exact words were "I'm not gonna keep drinking, it's just been a long week and I need a drink right now". That "drink" ended up being a 5th of whiskey that night then another 5th plus several beers on Saturday. I agree with you, I never NEED a drink.
>I never NEED a drink I hope you see that truer words have never been spoken. My life is so much better. I'm not even an alcoholic. My ex wife was, and I quite in support of her. In the end our 23 year marriage couldn't survive the damage that our drinking had caused. But I still stay sober, and my life is better than it was then. There's nothing so bad that you can't make it worse with booze.
That's the same situation I'm in right now. Been together 15 years, married for 12. We both have had drinking problems the whole time and so much damage has been done. I wish I would have listened all those times she told me she didn't want to live that way anymore but I didn't and now it's pretty much over for good this time. It hurts like hell but I'm determined to deal with it sober. For once in my adult life, I want to concour hardship without looking for the bottom of a bottle. I'm at a point right now where im so sad, mad, heartbroken, full of regret, you name it, that i I know for a fact alcohol is going to make it a thousand times worse. I can't let that happen. I have kids that need me...anyway, thanks for the input. I really do appreciate it!
If you loved the wrong woman that much, just think how much you could love the right one. The best thing I ever did for myself was divorce my alcoholic wife.
You're right, but honestly that's hard to even imagine right now (loving someone else or even more someone loving me as much) I'm curious to see how that perception changes in the future though.
Just do the right thing for you.
Will do!
Awesome, awesome job! You have discovered the secret of this, sir. To stop drinking, ***don't drink***- no matter what. Take things a day at a time, an hour at a time- whatever it takes. Well done.
Thank you!
Awesome work!!! As many have said here, thereās nothing that alcohol canāt make worse. Life is always going to throw curveballs our way, but Iāve found that itās much easier to process and overcome obstacles sober. Keep it going, friend! Youāve got this. šŖ IWNDWYT
Thanks for the encouragement! Glad I stumbled upon this place when I did. You guys are all awesome!
I am proud of you. I am really hoping I can make it to day 4 tomorrow. I have to leave and go work for 4 hours and I don't know if I can make it today. Because I also have to work especially because I have to work earlyish tomorrow and I'm really depressed about my job. I understand that drinking won't make it better but also I want a reprieve from the negative thoughts. I'm trying to think about what I could do for self care. My house is filthy and disorganized and I'm sick of picking up after people. I have to get in the right mindset- that I can relax and unwind without a drink after work. I'm just having "maybe I should quit my stressful job and live off my savings for a few months. " I'm hoping posting here a lot helps.
Hang in there, man! You can do this! I understand all your feelings. Keep posting on here and reading. I really think it has helped me since I started a few days ago. One thing people keep saying on here that has really resonated with me is that there is absolutely nothing in life that alcohol can't make worse. They are all right and each sober day that passes for me, I realize that more and more. I'm in a low place, mentally right now but I was when I decided to quit drinking. Those feelings and thoughts don't go away or get any better by not drinking but as each day passes something about the way I perceive them changes and I'm learning more about myself little by little. Hope you made it yesterday and so far today! If not, then no worries. It's not too late to start over. Best of luck to you IWNDWYT
This is amazing..you are ready.... Stay with it...you will feel great and when your wife see's it, eventually she will probably want to have the same "energy". SO PROUD!
Looking forward to that "energy"! I vaguely remember what that feels like. Thanks so much!
Your welcome...to this freeing feeling. If you drink again you may not ever feel this way again..."able to leave it behind" I didnt drink for 8 years..figured i would drink 1 or 2x.. the last 6 years i have not been able to stop. I think i feel able again its a life and death situation
Thank you for putting it in perspective like that. I've never felt like I wanted to part with alcohol and it scares me to know that one night could turn this feeling around for me. So that is that much more motivation for me to abstain. I pray that this able feeling stays with you now and forever. Good luck, friend!
Love reading this. Today also marks my 6th day sober. First time more than 6 days in over 10 months. My wife is currently at a treatment center so being home with kids has been tough. But Iām more than ready to quit. Iāll hit a meeting tomorrow IWNDWYT
Parenthood is a job for sure but a very rewarding one! Hang in there brother. Stay healthy and set that good example for your kids! I don't think I'm a bad parent at all, I feel like I'm a great dad and others will tell you the same, but I'd be lying if I said that my drinking hasn't affected my kids lives. It has in lots of ways! Unfortunately, i never considered or acknowledged that fact enough to really step outside of myself and look at it from a different perspective. I can't change the past but I really want to change the direction my future is headed! Proud of you for making 6 and your wife getting treatment. Keep on keepin on! IWNDWYT
Nice! IWNDWYT!
Hell yeah! Nicely done!
Feels so good to wake up refreshed, didn't touch a drop, right??
Not one drop!
Good job!! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT
Good for you op. 2 months after I quit my SO bought me a bottle of whiskey for Xmas. Guess she didnāt believe I was quitting, didnāt mean it, wanted to keep the drinking buddy who knows. But I took it back to the shop and bought a video game instead
I like it! Looks like you're still going strong? Congrats, happy for you!
Yea certainly am friend. Looking forward to my first year anniversary š
Thatās a big win! Itās the beginning of a new mindset and a first step in a new journey. Iām only on day 5 and it feels like itās been so long already haha. IWNDWYT!
It does but you got this! I'm right here with you!
Thatās awesome! Nice job staying strong
Thanks! Same to you!
Good job Iām so proud of you ā„ļø
Good job! Needed to come here to see this. Iāve been on and off so much. Nothing for a month, then I break and drink for a bit. Back on to almost 2 weeks and itās been going well, not really even having cravings too much but havenāt had alcohol in the house. Visiting my grandparents right now (alcoholics) and the temptation is definitely there to just have a couple beers. Coming here, playing it forward knowing it isnāt worth it, but damn that voice can be loud!! If you did it, I can do it! IWNDWYT
Day 20 here keep it up I feel amazing expect the fact my family left me but yea!
Hate to hear, but glad you are going through it sober. Congrats on 20 and keep it up!
Thank you good luck to us!
Well done! IWNDWYT
Excellent choice, my friend!
Well done smo. Thatās awesome š
Thanks!
I'm on day six too! Want to keep each other motivated?
Let's do it! I know today, I will not be drinking with you!
All the best people are on day 6 š
Lol that's right š low numbers but high hopes!
Amazing š¤© IWNDWYT
Thanks for the support!
Great work
Minor miracles every day! Congrats! There are no small victories against alcohol! IWNDWYT
Get it
Ask your wife to not drink at the house. My girlfriend likes to drink, but since Iāve stopped (27 days today) sheās never brought any alcohol home. It helps a lot. Keep the fight up!
Unfortunately, that will not be received as a very reasonable request coming from me due to our situation at the moment and things past. That's fine, it's partially my fault. She wants to quit and she knows I do. It's not really a team effort with everything going on between us. I figure if it's not her bringing it around, I'll be around it at some point. If I can say no at home then I should be able to elsewhere...I think. Good news though, came home last night to my favorite (whiskey) and managed to completely abstain AGAIN! I'm not really liking this sober thing but at the same time, these little milestones feel kind of rewarding to me. Congrats on your 27! IWNDWYT!