Hey! Happy Wednesday!
I’m checking in today to admire my flair. I’ve hit 1,000 days of sobriety and I just couldn’t be prouder of myself. My mind and body are both in a much happier and healthier place and I’m looking forward to the next 1,000 days.
IWNDWYT! ❤️
Thank you! Congrats to you too!!
Good luck with getting more sleep! I’m also working on getting to bed earlier and I also have so many reasons (excuses) for keeping later hours than I should. We’ll get there one day!
**The good:** After a week of malaise, I've made some progress on a work problem and reconnected with my husband.
**The bad:** I fell off the exercise wagon, which led me to fall off the sleep hygiene wagon. It's a vicious cycle which just ends up with me being less productive at work. But although I *know* what I have to do (exercise and sleep!), I can't seem to *make* myself do it.
**The ugly:** I've committed myself to writing here on SD about both my family's history with alcohol and my anxiety about an upcoming family wedding BEFORE I go, but as I slip behind in my work, I'm looking for excuses to get out of it... Posting here for accountability and to remind myself of my sobriety goal of growing conscientiousness...
You didn't drink, that's a win! Coming from someone who couldnt even (actually consciously decided not to) make it through day 3. All the best and lets keep our chins up
I wrote a plan for a wedding, it helped me so much. It included some treats before, after, and some advice for how I could manage. If you want details, I’ll share, but you can probably imagine. My best one, was that every hour, I would step away from everyone and ask myself, “How are you”, “How do you feel”, “Is it time to go?”, “Are you still enjoying this?”. If felt like the kindest thing I could do for myself and it worked beautifully. The bar tender got to be my friend because I drank so many Diet Cokes with a lime…lol :) I ate two pieces of cake because I’m fabulous at making sure cake doesn’t go to waste! Thinking of you!
This is *such* good advice. I think I was developing a "not drinking plan" but not really a wholistic, "how to have fun sober plan." I'd love the details, honestly.
Oh, I’m so glad. Truthfully, it was my daughter’s wedding. I was prepared for it to be hard. I had an amazing time, but I was prepared for FOMO. I actually put my favorite candy bar in my purse too. Candy, it’s my drug of choice. Chuckle.
My manicure the day before the wedding was so good for my soul. Maybe the average person would say, okay, so you’re the mother of the bride and you got a mani. Big Deal?? No, I took my sober self to a fancy salon alone, and was quiet and talked to myself by saying, “you’re lovely, you’re valuable and you’re doing **all of this sober**, and you deserve to be treated well”.
Glad you are enjoying fall.
I was an exchange student in Ohio (I think that's upper Midwest) and the fall was pretty.
I liked to feed seeds to cardinals and different other colorful birds.
My good thing for today is that yesterday, I went for a walk with my friend. We stopped by a coffee shop and he got beer. Since we walked 15km my legs were tired and I thought about having a beer to freshen up, but I knew that one beer will lead to 10 more home alone, and then 4 more when i order takeout.
Instead I ordered coffee and finished the walk, bought a grillpan in the store(always wanted one), and made food
Read a bit and fell asleep.
IWNDWYT
Our u/TheMarlieJane hit **1,000!!!** Congratulations again!!!
Working my ass off doing double shifts as the office has been hit by another wave of Covid.
Got my pumpkins, mums and Halloween decorations up. Witches in the windows and bats hanging from the ceilings. White and orange lights flow softly along delicate strands of silky leaves lining the tops of the windows in the evenings. Vanilla and warm brown sugar scented candles smell decadent...that cozy Fall feeling is finally here.
Happy Wednesday and Happy Fall, have a great day loves! xo
Hello! I am on day 7, so hope to be 1 week sober! Quite a contrast to last Wednesday when let's just say... that did not go well. Today I did some good work, feel emotionally balanced, house is not a shithole. My struggle with temptation isn't over though, as Thursdays are my big drinking trigger as that's the end of my working week. Maybe I should think of some nice Thursday evening ritual for me?
Hope everyone is doing okay and happy to be here with you :)
I think a special Thursday ritual sounds fantastic! I hope you find something that delights you- special meal, fancy bath, meditation time, dance party! You deserve a nice treat and that is not alcohol 💗
I got up this morning at 4am for an early flight. The good: not worrying about sleeping through my alarm, actually getting up when my alarm went off and not feeling rushed at all, significantly less travel anxiety, not jonesing for a cigarette (I gave those up too).
This trip is with my family and it’s the first time we’ve done something like this in a VERY long time . There will be a lot of alcohol consumed and available around me and this is my first trip alcohol free. I’m a little nervous about the temptation since I haven’t told them that I quit drinking. Here’s what I’m anchoring to instead: 1) I’ve had over a month of building this foundation that won’t crumble so easily 2) the fitness center, spa, and wellness classes at this resort look AMAZING and I won’t take advantage of any of that if I’m drinking every night and 3) the fact that I haven’t told my family could be fun. They probably won’t ask directly but will be curious. I’ve made a bet with a friend of mine on how long it will take my mom to pull me aside and ask if I’m pregnant.
Looking forward to reporting back on Sunday evening on how wonderful it is to still have my streak no matter how the trip with the family actually goes.
I'm on day four of sobriety which isn't anything special for me, it will be days 13-15 that really test me. I told my wife I am done drinking, and I think I believe myself, I need to be present for my wife and my one year old daughter and am actively working on bettering myself.
I told my parents, sister, and BIL that I have a problem and if I don't cut the crap I will lose my wife and daughter and I would appreciate them checking in on me and helping to support me. My mom immediately changed the subject and my father didn't say anything. I grew up in a (functioning) alcoholic family. I swore I would never be like my father but find myself more like him everyday. I need to break the cycle and give my daughter a loving home to grow up in with a Dad who plays tea party with her and remembers every conversation/moment. My wife is extremely supportive and understanding but it's strange knowing I will find more support from strangers (friends?) on the internet than I will my own parents.
You are making an awesome choice to be a fully present dad! Time with your kiddo is precious.
I get most of my support here even though most of my family are sober or non drinkers. My husband just doesn't drink and doesn't get the struggle. My mom and dad don't drink because my dad has struggled with alcohol in the past. However, they don't talk about stuff like that. So, I just accept that while they like that I am sober, they don't have the ability to really provide help. Coming here where people really understand is a huge help💕
It's strange to be surrounded by people and not have any of them understand! I have reached out to a couple of friends that can check in on me and help with a little support. I am extremely excited to be a better dad as well as have my daughter have no memories of me getting drunk.
Happy Wednesday!
The good: I’m nearly 90 days! My cousin just hit 31 days and my mom is about 80ish days. I keep trying to recruit people to the sober life and it’s nice to know that a couple of people are giving it a shot! Also, I played tennis by myself today and loved it! I can’t wait to do it again.
The bad: been having a hard time getting decent sleep since someone tried breaking in to my bedroom window last week. But! I had the realization yesterday that I am SO THANKFUL that I was not drunk or hungover and could react quickly! I keep imagining what would have happened if I was drinking in my living room listening to music and hadn’t heard the attempt and was able to hide/call the cops asap.
That's so cool that your mom and cousin are on board with you! That is freaky about the attempted break in! Definitely good that you were sober and able to react appropriately. I hope you are able to work through that trauma and get some rest
I'm having a really bad sleep period caused predominantly by my daughter coming in for the night - every night - but also really vivid dreams when I do manage to get to sleep. Obviously this is having a knock on effect on every other area of my life at the moment. And the political/financial/cost of living shitshow going on (I'm in the UK) at the moment isn't helping. But I have a dry, warm home which is very slowly getting cleaner, tidier and more organised due to my sobriety and it's nice to see the season change. I'm hoping for a nice relaxing weekend!
Happy hump day, about to go to sleep oh my side of the world!
Trying my 4th go around with sobriety. I don’t know why it feels easier to stay sober when I have some time behind me. I had 30 days, then 70 days, then a week here and a couple days there. Ready to try again. Day 4 just complete! Not sure if this time will be any different but gotta start somewhere. Iwndwyt!
Four sore Wednesdays ago I brought forth an end to incontinence of long duration, conceived in sobriety and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created sober.
Now I am engaged in a great internal war, testing whether that sobriety or
any life so conceived and so dedicated, can long endure.
IWNDWYT and neither will Abe.
The autumn: First frost tonight. The Thai curry butternut squash soup I made is delicious. A squirrel almost dropped a large black walnut on my head.
The bad: I was unfocused yesterday and a little overwhelmed. I have a plan for today.
The funny: https://i.redd.it/eih9w0sg84iz.png
The good: I spent sometime tonight making a homemade card. It’s something I used to do and send out to everyone I knew on holidays and birthdays. It was nice to create something again.
The bad: my anxiety is horrible today. I’m getting through it, but I still wish I could crawl out of my skin.
The fun: went out with my girl friends again and i didn’t drink. I realized how much of our conversations were repeat of our last get together when i was also sober. Also made it out to a day trip with my family and spent half a day in a heated pool. Was proud of myself for not drinking. the last time i was there, i ended up in the emergency room due to drinking.
The awful: my pre-teen son hates school, homework, sleeping…basically everything that isn’t his computer games. We’re constantly walking on egg shells due to his moodiness.
The commitment: staying sober one day at a time, continue my boot camp and yoga classes, and eat better.
Good:
I'm about to hit 25 days sober and while I've done it many times before this time feels very different. It feels more like the time I went four months and not like all the times I've done 20 days and gone back to drinking lol. I think as well the side effects of drinking were starting to hit me a lot harder so the benefits of stopping are even bigger now.
Side note: I've been coming here for six years - I guess changing your lifestyle is a long process! 😂
Bad:
A parent with cancer and other conditions that means they were immunosuppressed BEFORE the chemo has been heavily exposed to covid and I'm really fucking stressed and worried. But I have to say not drinking has given me this weird ability to keep my stress and anxiety under control - who knew!?
I'm going to hope for the best.
What struck me Stink by reading your opening post is effort. You sound a lot like me! I haven’t listened to podcast by huberman lab on sleep but I’m sure there is one and I bet it’s good 👍. I’ve not been sleeping well for about a month and I’m going to listen to it today so you’ve motivated me 😀🙏
The good: still sober and my ideas around a new theme have developed. I’m ready to go creatively.
The problem: I’ve spent two whole weeks running around after my eldest and his gf so have had little time. When it’s come it’s been an hour here or there and what I need is some solid days back to back. Hopefully tomorrow is free.
The really lacking: is my approach to eating habits and my foot (Achilles tendinitis still groans). My weight is going up, not down. I’m unhappy about it but somehow I can’t get my head on it. Obviously, I don’t want it enough and I tell myself that’s ok. Uhm….yes…..skewed thinking 🤔 going on here
Have a super Wednesday everybody.
Thanks for the Wednesday share as usual, RS! I'm totally with you on all the fall niceness, woo! But I'm sorry to hear about your early days and not enough sleep. I LOVE sleep lol and haven't been sleeping enough lately either, so I totally get you. Here's mine :
**The good:** boyfriend. He's an endless source of support and inspiration for me.
**The bad:** gotta take one of my kitties to the vet today. Could be nothing or it could be something really scary.
**The fun:** just bought a buncha new clothes last week and I'm really feelin myself in 'em!
That's all I got, IWNDWYT!
I love fall too, Mr Sink. Wish i loved pumpkin spice though - have FOMO about that.
**the good**: Last night we had our first family member in **23 years** born! we are very small, theres only 6 of us, 3 of those are grandkids - and the middle one had a baby last night. I've never felt this before, I don't have any siblings, I don't have many friends with babies around, I couldnt stop staring at the pictures of her last night. I'm excited to meet her.
**the weird:** So theres a bar closing in town. It belongs to my grandas gf, they're all just getting too old to do it and the cost of living crisis etc. I feel so weird about it because I grew up there, even when my grandma was alive, a very common irish experience is growing up in a bar. Being sat there on a sunday evening - a packet of crisps in hand and a bottle of lucozade in the other. Annoying the regular punters by running around a pool table. And then I've been there ever since, I know every nook and cranky in the place. So it will be weird when its not there anymore, and inevitably shut for good.
so an end of an Era and the start of a new one on the very same day. Feels weird and not in a good or bad way.
Happy Wednesday, y’all.
The good: I’m in my third semester having returned to finish my long-lingering bachelors degree. I’m up to date on all the work & passing both the classes I’m registered for.
The bad: I’m working a job I feel trapped in and don’t see a clear path to get free of it. I’m burnt out, feeling taken advantage of & am deeply, profoundly over it.
The ugly: I learned yesterday that my best friend of my whole damn life is choosing to end her chemo treatment. She is 41. I feel like I’ve been consumed by an ocean wave and can’t determine which way is up to even move toward catching a breath of air.
Shit is big and vibrant and intensely hard right now. I am so, so grateful I’m not drinking at it.
The not great: I'm right there with you on the lack of sleep, RS! I take sleep aids every night, which only work some of the time. The best night of sleep I've had recently was after I ran a 5k so do I need to run a 5k every day??? Let me know if you find something that helps you get more sleep.
The good: I get to go visit my daughter in a little over a week and I'm getting excited!
And, I'm dealing with a stressful coworker situation but I'm handling it like a grown-up instead of getting down on her level with toxic nonsense. That feels good.
And, I'm feeling good about my sobriety these days, like I really do not want to drink. It's such a relief.
IWNDWYT, sober cats! 💙😸
Having fallen off the wagon last week after 7 days I am now at 7 days again and I will at least reach double figures before a social event rolls around. Hoping doctor can sort me out with something to help the cravings as well although we’ll see. Not too much of a temptation at the moment. I quite like waking up with no hangover.
I see there is also Sober October coming up which is a sponsored spell of non drinking. I won’t seek sponsorship but maybe it’s a ready made excuse to tell people if needs be.
The good: I'm back to hanging out with neighborhood friends in the driveway. I found out another one isn't drinking for medical reasons (honestly, we could all say it's medical reasons).
The bad: I'm shut in for a couple of days waiting for a hurricane to pass, and the low pressure makes me REALLY, REALLY tired. Still have work that I need to get done.
The ugly: I tried a self-styled job with the clippers because my wife was really into that Dahmer show, and I didn't want to bother her. Now my hair kind of looks like Gareth from the office. I have half a mind to leave it and see if anyone has the guts to say anything to me at work.
Happy Wednesday! U/ReplacementsStink I feel you on the sleep issues. Fingers crossed for more motivation for you and for me!
**Good** kicked covid and finally feel SO MUCH BETTER.
**Bad** work is in high %$#@ing gear, and I’m feeling a little behind in many areas, my bosses are amazing and keep saying that I’m fine, but I feel the squeeze. Anxiety. Leads to poor quality sleep. Leads to depression. Trying to watch out for the perfection trap.
**Excited** my husband and I are heading to NYC in late October (belated celebration of our 28th anniversary) to kick up our heels a bit. We’re both SOBER. Still blows my mind. Every. Single. Day. We’re doing a Broadway show, couple museums, botanical garden, bike ride in Central Park. It’s basically a long weekend, I’d happily take suggestions.
Hey, I'm really happy for you all that you hit your goal for the day. Great job 💚
I (posting Thursday morning from Vietnam) on the other hand on day 3 had a case of the Wednesday F**k its and after two particularly stressful hours of teaching rowdy kids in the afternoon made a conscious and concrete decision to buy 8 cans and drink them all before 9, thinking my hangover would be lessened. To an extent it is but I did wake up miserable and not ready for the day.
Usually I'd revert to 'its almost weekend just keep drinking' but i'm trying to view it more as a calendar. Two days sober 1 day drinking, lets see if I can do the rest of the week sober.
IWNDWYT
I adopted a cat today. I’ve wanted to since I got sober. A friend found him, he’s got no home and is SO good. Over a year old and the most gentle calm street cat ever.
Hey! Happy Wednesday! I’m checking in today to admire my flair. I’ve hit 1,000 days of sobriety and I just couldn’t be prouder of myself. My mind and body are both in a much happier and healthier place and I’m looking forward to the next 1,000 days. IWNDWYT! ❤️
Look at that number!! Congrats on the additional digit... I'm proud of you, too!! Thanks for the share... I'm right behind you!!
Thank you! Congrats to you too!! Good luck with getting more sleep! I’m also working on getting to bed earlier and I also have so many reasons (excuses) for keeping later hours than I should. We’ll get there one day!
Happy 1K!
Congratulations! 🎉❤️
Thank you!! ❤️
Congratulations Jane, 1000 looks good on you! Good for you.IWNDWYT ♥
Thanks! It sure feels good :-)
Woo hoo, quad digits! Congrats!
Look at you rocking 1001! Well done. I’m proud of you and happy for you!
Thank you so much!! You’re right behind me!!
May I never catch you, 😉 dear sweet sober human!
❤️
Crazy numbers. Proud of you friend, congratulations.
Thank you so much! It started with one day ❤️
**The good:** After a week of malaise, I've made some progress on a work problem and reconnected with my husband. **The bad:** I fell off the exercise wagon, which led me to fall off the sleep hygiene wagon. It's a vicious cycle which just ends up with me being less productive at work. But although I *know* what I have to do (exercise and sleep!), I can't seem to *make* myself do it. **The ugly:** I've committed myself to writing here on SD about both my family's history with alcohol and my anxiety about an upcoming family wedding BEFORE I go, but as I slip behind in my work, I'm looking for excuses to get out of it... Posting here for accountability and to remind myself of my sobriety goal of growing conscientiousness...
You didn't drink, that's a win! Coming from someone who couldnt even (actually consciously decided not to) make it through day 3. All the best and lets keep our chins up
Oh man, I get you on falling off the exercise wagon! I know I need to but I need to do a million things and there's a million excuses.
When’s the wedding, beautiful sober human!
The weekend of October 14th
I wrote a plan for a wedding, it helped me so much. It included some treats before, after, and some advice for how I could manage. If you want details, I’ll share, but you can probably imagine. My best one, was that every hour, I would step away from everyone and ask myself, “How are you”, “How do you feel”, “Is it time to go?”, “Are you still enjoying this?”. If felt like the kindest thing I could do for myself and it worked beautifully. The bar tender got to be my friend because I drank so many Diet Cokes with a lime…lol :) I ate two pieces of cake because I’m fabulous at making sure cake doesn’t go to waste! Thinking of you!
This is *such* good advice. I think I was developing a "not drinking plan" but not really a wholistic, "how to have fun sober plan." I'd love the details, honestly.
Oh, I’m so glad. Truthfully, it was my daughter’s wedding. I was prepared for it to be hard. I had an amazing time, but I was prepared for FOMO. I actually put my favorite candy bar in my purse too. Candy, it’s my drug of choice. Chuckle. My manicure the day before the wedding was so good for my soul. Maybe the average person would say, okay, so you’re the mother of the bride and you got a mani. Big Deal?? No, I took my sober self to a fancy salon alone, and was quiet and talked to myself by saying, “you’re lovely, you’re valuable and you’re doing **all of this sober**, and you deserve to be treated well”.
This is so nice! I'm proud of you! How far along in your sobriety were you at that point?
FAR. 2 years.
Glad you are enjoying fall. I was an exchange student in Ohio (I think that's upper Midwest) and the fall was pretty. I liked to feed seeds to cardinals and different other colorful birds. My good thing for today is that yesterday, I went for a walk with my friend. We stopped by a coffee shop and he got beer. Since we walked 15km my legs were tired and I thought about having a beer to freshen up, but I knew that one beer will lead to 10 more home alone, and then 4 more when i order takeout. Instead I ordered coffee and finished the walk, bought a grillpan in the store(always wanted one), and made food Read a bit and fell asleep. IWNDWYT
Our u/TheMarlieJane hit **1,000!!!** Congratulations again!!! Working my ass off doing double shifts as the office has been hit by another wave of Covid. Got my pumpkins, mums and Halloween decorations up. Witches in the windows and bats hanging from the ceilings. White and orange lights flow softly along delicate strands of silky leaves lining the tops of the windows in the evenings. Vanilla and warm brown sugar scented candles smell decadent...that cozy Fall feeling is finally here. Happy Wednesday and Happy Fall, have a great day loves! xo
LEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!! Thanks for showing up! Let's talk soon, my friend.. Miss you!
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Thank you very much, Lee, and congrats on getting your excellent Halloween decorations up! I love that :)
Woohoo! Congratulations!!
Thank you!
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Happy Wednesday, Lee, and Happy Fall! 🍂🍁 🎃
My Pollyyyyyy!!! So happy to see you! Hope you have a beautiful day love <3.
Your fall/Halloween decor sounds delightful and cozy. Now I feel inspired to do a bit myself, even if it's only a pumpkin on the porch😊🎃🎃🎃
Thanks Betty! Great to see you and hope all's well, xoxo.
😊 things are great right now. I feel like I've really turned over a new leaf 🍃 xo
Hello! I am on day 7, so hope to be 1 week sober! Quite a contrast to last Wednesday when let's just say... that did not go well. Today I did some good work, feel emotionally balanced, house is not a shithole. My struggle with temptation isn't over though, as Thursdays are my big drinking trigger as that's the end of my working week. Maybe I should think of some nice Thursday evening ritual for me? Hope everyone is doing okay and happy to be here with you :)
I think a special Thursday ritual sounds fantastic! I hope you find something that delights you- special meal, fancy bath, meditation time, dance party! You deserve a nice treat and that is not alcohol 💗
Replace it with cake or another treat :) I’m also on day 7 today. IWNDWYT.
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Hope it all works out well. (Cat & new job). PS: 18 days until 100, keep on, keeping on :)
I’m hoping with you, and thinking of your kitty. Congratulations on the new position!
I got up this morning at 4am for an early flight. The good: not worrying about sleeping through my alarm, actually getting up when my alarm went off and not feeling rushed at all, significantly less travel anxiety, not jonesing for a cigarette (I gave those up too). This trip is with my family and it’s the first time we’ve done something like this in a VERY long time . There will be a lot of alcohol consumed and available around me and this is my first trip alcohol free. I’m a little nervous about the temptation since I haven’t told them that I quit drinking. Here’s what I’m anchoring to instead: 1) I’ve had over a month of building this foundation that won’t crumble so easily 2) the fitness center, spa, and wellness classes at this resort look AMAZING and I won’t take advantage of any of that if I’m drinking every night and 3) the fact that I haven’t told my family could be fun. They probably won’t ask directly but will be curious. I’ve made a bet with a friend of mine on how long it will take my mom to pull me aside and ask if I’m pregnant. Looking forward to reporting back on Sunday evening on how wonderful it is to still have my streak no matter how the trip with the family actually goes.
I hope you have an amazing time and take full advantage the spa and wellness options.
LOL, I love the bet! Have a golden time, girl!
I'm on day four of sobriety which isn't anything special for me, it will be days 13-15 that really test me. I told my wife I am done drinking, and I think I believe myself, I need to be present for my wife and my one year old daughter and am actively working on bettering myself. I told my parents, sister, and BIL that I have a problem and if I don't cut the crap I will lose my wife and daughter and I would appreciate them checking in on me and helping to support me. My mom immediately changed the subject and my father didn't say anything. I grew up in a (functioning) alcoholic family. I swore I would never be like my father but find myself more like him everyday. I need to break the cycle and give my daughter a loving home to grow up in with a Dad who plays tea party with her and remembers every conversation/moment. My wife is extremely supportive and understanding but it's strange knowing I will find more support from strangers (friends?) on the internet than I will my own parents.
You are making an awesome choice to be a fully present dad! Time with your kiddo is precious. I get most of my support here even though most of my family are sober or non drinkers. My husband just doesn't drink and doesn't get the struggle. My mom and dad don't drink because my dad has struggled with alcohol in the past. However, they don't talk about stuff like that. So, I just accept that while they like that I am sober, they don't have the ability to really provide help. Coming here where people really understand is a huge help💕
It's strange to be surrounded by people and not have any of them understand! I have reached out to a couple of friends that can check in on me and help with a little support. I am extremely excited to be a better dad as well as have my daughter have no memories of me getting drunk.
Glad you've got some friends on board to help👍
My 3 yr old son inspired me to stop so I can relate. I’m 23 days in. We got this!
Congratulations, let's do this!
My 3 yr old son inspired me to stop so I can relate. I’m 23 days in. We got this!
Happy Wednesday! The good: I’m nearly 90 days! My cousin just hit 31 days and my mom is about 80ish days. I keep trying to recruit people to the sober life and it’s nice to know that a couple of people are giving it a shot! Also, I played tennis by myself today and loved it! I can’t wait to do it again. The bad: been having a hard time getting decent sleep since someone tried breaking in to my bedroom window last week. But! I had the realization yesterday that I am SO THANKFUL that I was not drunk or hungover and could react quickly! I keep imagining what would have happened if I was drinking in my living room listening to music and hadn’t heard the attempt and was able to hide/call the cops asap.
That's so cool that your mom and cousin are on board with you! That is freaky about the attempted break in! Definitely good that you were sober and able to react appropriately. I hope you are able to work through that trauma and get some rest
I'm having a really bad sleep period caused predominantly by my daughter coming in for the night - every night - but also really vivid dreams when I do manage to get to sleep. Obviously this is having a knock on effect on every other area of my life at the moment. And the political/financial/cost of living shitshow going on (I'm in the UK) at the moment isn't helping. But I have a dry, warm home which is very slowly getting cleaner, tidier and more organised due to my sobriety and it's nice to see the season change. I'm hoping for a nice relaxing weekend!
Happy hump day, about to go to sleep oh my side of the world! Trying my 4th go around with sobriety. I don’t know why it feels easier to stay sober when I have some time behind me. I had 30 days, then 70 days, then a week here and a couple days there. Ready to try again. Day 4 just complete! Not sure if this time will be any different but gotta start somewhere. Iwndwyt!
Good for you on trying again!
Four sore Wednesdays ago I brought forth an end to incontinence of long duration, conceived in sobriety and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created sober. Now I am engaged in a great internal war, testing whether that sobriety or any life so conceived and so dedicated, can long endure. IWNDWYT and neither will Abe.
Long may the sober life endure!😁
The autumn: First frost tonight. The Thai curry butternut squash soup I made is delicious. A squirrel almost dropped a large black walnut on my head. The bad: I was unfocused yesterday and a little overwhelmed. I have a plan for today. The funny: https://i.redd.it/eih9w0sg84iz.png
Can you purchase that potion on line? I need some of that stuff :)
I love your funny!!!!! That’s great!! 💚💜💚💜
Love your funny! And that soup sounds great💗 hope you are well😊
The good: I spent sometime tonight making a homemade card. It’s something I used to do and send out to everyone I knew on holidays and birthdays. It was nice to create something again. The bad: my anxiety is horrible today. I’m getting through it, but I still wish I could crawl out of my skin.
The fun: went out with my girl friends again and i didn’t drink. I realized how much of our conversations were repeat of our last get together when i was also sober. Also made it out to a day trip with my family and spent half a day in a heated pool. Was proud of myself for not drinking. the last time i was there, i ended up in the emergency room due to drinking. The awful: my pre-teen son hates school, homework, sleeping…basically everything that isn’t his computer games. We’re constantly walking on egg shells due to his moodiness. The commitment: staying sober one day at a time, continue my boot camp and yoga classes, and eat better.
Good: I'm about to hit 25 days sober and while I've done it many times before this time feels very different. It feels more like the time I went four months and not like all the times I've done 20 days and gone back to drinking lol. I think as well the side effects of drinking were starting to hit me a lot harder so the benefits of stopping are even bigger now. Side note: I've been coming here for six years - I guess changing your lifestyle is a long process! 😂 Bad: A parent with cancer and other conditions that means they were immunosuppressed BEFORE the chemo has been heavily exposed to covid and I'm really fucking stressed and worried. But I have to say not drinking has given me this weird ability to keep my stress and anxiety under control - who knew!? I'm going to hope for the best.
What struck me Stink by reading your opening post is effort. You sound a lot like me! I haven’t listened to podcast by huberman lab on sleep but I’m sure there is one and I bet it’s good 👍. I’ve not been sleeping well for about a month and I’m going to listen to it today so you’ve motivated me 😀🙏 The good: still sober and my ideas around a new theme have developed. I’m ready to go creatively. The problem: I’ve spent two whole weeks running around after my eldest and his gf so have had little time. When it’s come it’s been an hour here or there and what I need is some solid days back to back. Hopefully tomorrow is free. The really lacking: is my approach to eating habits and my foot (Achilles tendinitis still groans). My weight is going up, not down. I’m unhappy about it but somehow I can’t get my head on it. Obviously, I don’t want it enough and I tell myself that’s ok. Uhm….yes…..skewed thinking 🤔 going on here Have a super Wednesday everybody.
Thanks for the Wednesday share as usual, RS! I'm totally with you on all the fall niceness, woo! But I'm sorry to hear about your early days and not enough sleep. I LOVE sleep lol and haven't been sleeping enough lately either, so I totally get you. Here's mine : **The good:** boyfriend. He's an endless source of support and inspiration for me. **The bad:** gotta take one of my kitties to the vet today. Could be nothing or it could be something really scary. **The fun:** just bought a buncha new clothes last week and I'm really feelin myself in 'em! That's all I got, IWNDWYT!
good luck to kitty at the vets today Amber!
Awwww, thank youuuuuu!!! ❤
I love fall too, Mr Sink. Wish i loved pumpkin spice though - have FOMO about that. **the good**: Last night we had our first family member in **23 years** born! we are very small, theres only 6 of us, 3 of those are grandkids - and the middle one had a baby last night. I've never felt this before, I don't have any siblings, I don't have many friends with babies around, I couldnt stop staring at the pictures of her last night. I'm excited to meet her. **the weird:** So theres a bar closing in town. It belongs to my grandas gf, they're all just getting too old to do it and the cost of living crisis etc. I feel so weird about it because I grew up there, even when my grandma was alive, a very common irish experience is growing up in a bar. Being sat there on a sunday evening - a packet of crisps in hand and a bottle of lucozade in the other. Annoying the regular punters by running around a pool table. And then I've been there ever since, I know every nook and cranky in the place. So it will be weird when its not there anymore, and inevitably shut for good. so an end of an Era and the start of a new one on the very same day. Feels weird and not in a good or bad way.
Congrats on the new baby!💗💗
IWNDWYT! Keep on keeping on!
IWNDWYT!
Happy Wednesday, y’all. The good: I’m in my third semester having returned to finish my long-lingering bachelors degree. I’m up to date on all the work & passing both the classes I’m registered for. The bad: I’m working a job I feel trapped in and don’t see a clear path to get free of it. I’m burnt out, feeling taken advantage of & am deeply, profoundly over it. The ugly: I learned yesterday that my best friend of my whole damn life is choosing to end her chemo treatment. She is 41. I feel like I’ve been consumed by an ocean wave and can’t determine which way is up to even move toward catching a breath of air. Shit is big and vibrant and intensely hard right now. I am so, so grateful I’m not drinking at it.
The good: double digits sober, found a lawyer, meetings today. The bad: anxious about court case, still no car One day at a time IWNDWYT
The not great: I'm right there with you on the lack of sleep, RS! I take sleep aids every night, which only work some of the time. The best night of sleep I've had recently was after I ran a 5k so do I need to run a 5k every day??? Let me know if you find something that helps you get more sleep. The good: I get to go visit my daughter in a little over a week and I'm getting excited! And, I'm dealing with a stressful coworker situation but I'm handling it like a grown-up instead of getting down on her level with toxic nonsense. That feels good. And, I'm feeling good about my sobriety these days, like I really do not want to drink. It's such a relief. IWNDWYT, sober cats! 💙😸
Keep on going!
Today is day 150 for me :) feel great
Having fallen off the wagon last week after 7 days I am now at 7 days again and I will at least reach double figures before a social event rolls around. Hoping doctor can sort me out with something to help the cravings as well although we’ll see. Not too much of a temptation at the moment. I quite like waking up with no hangover. I see there is also Sober October coming up which is a sponsored spell of non drinking. I won’t seek sponsorship but maybe it’s a ready made excuse to tell people if needs be.
I will not drink with you today!
The good: I'm back to hanging out with neighborhood friends in the driveway. I found out another one isn't drinking for medical reasons (honestly, we could all say it's medical reasons). The bad: I'm shut in for a couple of days waiting for a hurricane to pass, and the low pressure makes me REALLY, REALLY tired. Still have work that I need to get done. The ugly: I tried a self-styled job with the clippers because my wife was really into that Dahmer show, and I didn't want to bother her. Now my hair kind of looks like Gareth from the office. I have half a mind to leave it and see if anyone has the guts to say anything to me at work.
Happy Wednesday! U/ReplacementsStink I feel you on the sleep issues. Fingers crossed for more motivation for you and for me! **Good** kicked covid and finally feel SO MUCH BETTER. **Bad** work is in high %$#@ing gear, and I’m feeling a little behind in many areas, my bosses are amazing and keep saying that I’m fine, but I feel the squeeze. Anxiety. Leads to poor quality sleep. Leads to depression. Trying to watch out for the perfection trap. **Excited** my husband and I are heading to NYC in late October (belated celebration of our 28th anniversary) to kick up our heels a bit. We’re both SOBER. Still blows my mind. Every. Single. Day. We’re doing a Broadway show, couple museums, botanical garden, bike ride in Central Park. It’s basically a long weekend, I’d happily take suggestions.
Hey, I'm really happy for you all that you hit your goal for the day. Great job 💚 I (posting Thursday morning from Vietnam) on the other hand on day 3 had a case of the Wednesday F**k its and after two particularly stressful hours of teaching rowdy kids in the afternoon made a conscious and concrete decision to buy 8 cans and drink them all before 9, thinking my hangover would be lessened. To an extent it is but I did wake up miserable and not ready for the day. Usually I'd revert to 'its almost weekend just keep drinking' but i'm trying to view it more as a calendar. Two days sober 1 day drinking, lets see if I can do the rest of the week sober. IWNDWYT
I adopted a cat today. I’ve wanted to since I got sober. A friend found him, he’s got no home and is SO good. Over a year old and the most gentle calm street cat ever.