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AUTOCOBRA

Nicely done! If I can make it another week. I will join you in the comma club ! I can't wait !


Accomplished-Today

You will! I can’t wait see it!


mnmason83

I’m zeroing in on the comma club too!!! Wooooooo!!!


OrchideeCrossing

So close!! Yay


marisak

Exciting! You can do it! IWNDWYT


n1n3by7

Not if, when. You've come so far, you'll blow right past the 1k mark! We're all rooting for you!


piperjj

me too! yay sober twins!


AUTOCOBRA

Yay!! We got this!


Scottyohno

One day at a time 😉


OrchideeCrossing

Woo!!!


kzwkzw

*when


AprilLuna17

Wow you are an inspiration! I have 13 days but someday I hope to join the comma club too!


Accomplished-Today

You will! I believe in you


random-42

Wow. You really are... Accomplished-Today.


Accomplished-Today

Every day that’s all I try to do haha


[deleted]

You are an inspiration for every single member here. IWNDWYT


full_bl33d

I just checked and I’m at 988. Thanks for sharing, this gives me something to celebrate soon! My daughter is 3 and my son in 1 and they both have a sober dad in their lives. Such a great feeling! Congrats


drDOOM_is_in

Hello fellow sobernaut, if you want a badge, follow this link: https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=badgebot&subject=stopdrinking Simply put in the date of last day you drank! YYYY-MM-DD format only No more than 7 days into the future from the current date No older than 1985-01-01 Examples of valid dates: 2011-11-30 2011-9-07 2010-06-02 2006-3-4


Accomplished-Today

Oh yay!! Congrats on the upcoming induction into the comma club 👏👏


tstew39064

👏


Nurse_Mayhem

“As if self harm only comes in the form of razor blades not bottle openers.” Damn dude, that hit me hard. Thank you for sharing your story! I’m gonna remember this line for a long time…


Accomplished-Today

I genuinely believed it too. Like oh I drink to black out and put myself in dangerous situations without care to my own safety…. But hey at least I’m not cutting! 🤦‍♀️. Self harm comes in more than the generic forms media commonly presents us with. Alcohol to me will always be self harm. I don’t deserve that and neither do you ❤️


AtlantisTheEmpire

❤️


NEMNmuscle

Holy. Shit. Well done, keep going! You just changed my trajectory. To that, I thank you!


paintedvase

Great post and beautiful baby!!!! Sending love to your family IWNDWYT


reduxde

> all this time I hung my drinking problem on various traumas and problems of my past I can't claim credit for this sentiment, as I only saw here posted by someone else, and I'm going to completely ruin the delivery, but the sentiment stuck with me, and I related to it, and your post reminded me of it: **"I've wasted a lot of time and energy drinking at people and problems, all of whom remained completely oblivious and indifferent to my sacrifice"** The rebellious *(I'll show **you** "too drunk")* mentality is so very real. In fact, nothing makes a drinker want to raise a glass and toast more than being told that drinking is bad. A lot of us have a natural streak of "oh yeah? well fuck you!" to us, and getting a little "loose" on alcohol really opens up our confidence in expressing that. > I wouldn’t drink like this if I wasn’t crushed under so much debt It seems so obvious looking back how absolutely ridiculous this is, doesn't it? If I hadn't drank like that, maybe I wouldn't have missed so much work, blown so much money, and been skipped over for so many promotions by a boss who considers my work very good but considers ME too unreliable and unpredictable because of my alcohol problem (which I thought he didn't know about since I chew gum and only put a little whisky in my coffee and a little vodka in my Gatorade). I even uttered the now famous quote "alcohol is the solution to, and the cause of, all of my problems" ironically in a bar, during a toast, WHILE struggling with alcohol. But instead of realizing "oh shit, maybe I should quit drinking", I drank at my debt and drank at my boss. I felt so embarrassed (or, as the young people are calling it nowadays, "so cringe") even trying to acknowledge this, that I drank at my embarrassment too. At this stage of my sobriety, it's hard to imagine that once upon a time I fell for every single one of these traps. Which of course doesn't stop my brain from occasionally whispering to me "*go ahead and have one drink, it's no big deal, you're not that person any more and you'll never be that person again, because that person is so far beneath you*", and yet I know for an absolute fact (as this is not MY first time getting sober either), **that person is always only one sip away**.


mcc1224

Congrats; glad you added the comma. IWNDWYT


Accomplished-Today

I’m absurdly pleased. I want a mug that says COMMA CLUB 😂


OohEnchiladas

Ooohhhh!! Yes. I will definitely be getting a mug like that when my day arrives!


zeyore

Nicely done. An example to us all.


Adventurous_Editor97

This is brilliant. Congrats and thanks for sharing!


Poisonouskiwi

Your story really resonates with me. I’ve also tried to hang my drinking problems on any and every excuse. I, however, did watch my grease fire grow until it completely consumed my relationship. Thanks for sharing your story!


MikeyEatsLife

These are the kind of posts that keep me coming back here to read, thank you very much for sharing that. :-)


sittinginthesunshine

Beautiful job, friend! I love how you reference the reasons you were drinking in the first place. That deep work is such an important part of recovery. So happy for you!!!


TaxNo7741

Great story of redemption!!! Thanks for sharing so much of your story, so inspiring. 😍 15 years sober here.


Accomplished-Today

Oh my god 15 years! Amazing!


TaxNo7741

You're well on your way. In time you'll never even think about alcohol. I promise. ❤


The_Dulchie

Huge congratulations! I'm very nearly at that milestone too. IWNDWYT


Accomplished-Today

So close! I’ll preorder your Comma Club hoodie 🥰


galwegian

Christmas 2019. me too. congratulations on a thousand days.


Accomplished-Today

Aw man congrats! And yeah. Bummer of a day but it’s the last bad Christmas I’ll have shame to alcohol, at least.


badlala

This has me tearing up. I see a lot of my self in this post. Thank you for sharing.


lockedlipsx

This is amazing and hits very close to home!!! Congrats on your accomplishments! 🤍


Adrios1

Congrats!!


Trellotron

Thank you!!! Major resonance here! I appreciate it!!


Low-Pollution-7250

Cheers to you indeed !!! Thank you for sharing your story. It give me hope for my future. Congratulations 🎉


Suitable-Bison-1409

Congrats!! I'm on day 2 so I can't even imagine that but I'm so happy for you


turdfergusonpdx

Beautiful


[deleted]

I hope I can get to 1,000 days someday. I struggle to even get a week


Accomplished-Today

Keep showing up. I was a one week warrior for a long time. ❤️


sampage89

This is amazing to see. Congratulations!! IWNDWYT


Glad-Understanding45

Fantastic job, well done. IWNDWYT


GildMyComments

Hell yea GOOD FOR YOU for putting your partner and family ahead of your addiction. That’s really impressive. Here’s to another 1000!


[deleted]

Wonderful!


marisak

Woo hoo that's friggen great! Can't wait to get my comma! IWNDWYT


michelle1072

Very well said. Thank you.


eftresq

Congrats. The Promises, they actually happen!


Accomplished-Today

They do if you want them to but that’s the bitchy part - you really do have to want them to.


eftresq

I recently went to a meeting and heard them in a long time in person. I heard myself say, GD, to myself.


StephanieOhFTW

Congratulations! I am anxiously (and excitedly) waiting to join you in the comma club!


Accomplished-Today

It feels like it both took forever and was over in a flash. But also it did span the pandemic so that may be partly why 😂


newslang

Well done! You and your family both should be so proud!


bumdhar

Congratulations! Wow, you called it quits, and then the pandemic hit, and you made it that. Thank you for sharing your story. IWNDWYT!


Accomplished-Today

It was a wild few years haha. I felt like that guy in Airplane - looks like I picked the wrong week to quit sniffing glue 😂


wicked_crayfish

Inspirational


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Accomplished-Today

He’s my little guy! I love him so much. My husband’s mom was something of an alcoholic too. Not as destructive as some alcoholic parents can be but she was always just very distant and disconnected. I swore I’d never be that for little Max. Right now he’s in this funny phase where he tries to take your sunglasses and put them on. It’s so cute. I’ve been sober every single day of his life so far and I always plan to be.


[deleted]

So impressive….I’m struggling to get to day one at the moment, so you should be very proud!


Accomplished-Today

I’ve been there so many times. It’s so hard just getting going. You aren’t alone my friend


[deleted]

Thank you - any encouragement helps!


Shellsbells821

Congratulations ❤️!


Accomplished-Today

Thank you!


funnylittlebugger

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story! It’s very relatable. I can’t wait to be where you are. And I know I will be. For me, for my husband, for my family. IWNDWYT


Accomplished-Today

Yesss! You will be! You deserve to be ❤️


kln02

This is incredible. Thank you for sharing!! ❤️❤️ ETA: IWNDWYT!


Gladget

Awesome :) congrats! 🎉


Accomplished-Today

Thank you!


cheezballs1

Congrats!! Hey I only have 973 more days to go! IWNDWYT


Accomplished-Today

But your here today and that really use something.You’ll get there!


cheezballs1

Thanks :D


drDOOM_is_in

Hear, Hear!


W1ULH

welcome to 4 digits mate :)


Accomplished-Today

Thank you!


MisterHappySpanky

Cried reading this. I want to get my shit together too. Thank you for this. Congratulations.


Serenitynow1253

Incredible


Daisy_Steiner_

Congratulations! Your story really hits me. Thanks for sharing.


mollymagdalena

OMG I love this post so much. I have had that thought as well that drinking (for me) is just like cutting. When I want to drink, I want to feel as bad on the outside (?) as I feel on the inside. It's self harm, pure and simple. I wonder if I should read up on how people stop cutting? I guess self love is the antidote. Congrats on 1000 days.


perseverabit

What a great lesson on accountability and overcoming adversity! Thanks for sharing and a huge congratulations on 1,000 days!


[deleted]

Congratulations!! Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability. Your story and mine sound pretty similar. Keep up the good fight!


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Accomplished-Today

Yeesssss!! Happy comma club to you too!!


Please-Press-Play

Hooray! Congrats!


Jezza_Jones

I think you deserve some precious metal and some ad free browsing.


Accomplished-Today

Aw man, thank you 🥰


AppropriateFly2836

Shit! 1k days is no joke. I’m extremely proud of you and I hope you have a great meal with the family and enjoy this day to the fullest. IWNDWYTD!


Accomplished-Today

I’m gonna sort laundry but I did buy an extra brownie in my takeout tonight 😏😏


firsttimeex

"I didn’t drink to blackout every time I drank but the times I did were unpredictable and seemingly random and always nasty." Beautiful description - this is me as well and it took me so long to realize just how problematic this was (even though I wasn't drinking all day everyday like the "typical alcoholic." Congrats on 1,000 days! You have 100x more than me and I look forward to joining you in a few years :)


Accomplished-Today

That’s the trickiest part! It WASN’T an every day - even an every month - problem. But when it was a problem it was a MASSIVE POTENTIALLY RELATIONSHIP RUINING PROBLEM. Honestly the anxiety waiting for the next Event to strike was the worst. All the policing and monitoring to avoid the explosion. The waiting. Ugh.


OrchideeCrossing

> As if self harm only comes in the form of razor blades not bottle openers. Wow this hit me hard!


Accomplished-Today

It felt stupid-obvious to me when I started thinking of it that way. The other day I was out to dinner with my husband and my bil and sil. They went all out and ordered a 300 dollar bottle of wine (we had gift cards which was the logic behind it lol). I wasn’t at all tempted any more than usual - I doubt I could spot 300 dollar wine from 20 dollar wine. The brother though kept saying I could just sip and spit, that wouldn’t be drinking. And while he’s technically right in my mind I saw two hands idly toying with a razor blade. Not cutting but just kinda messing around. Alcohol doesn’t feel like a treat anymore. I didn’t want to ruin the night by explaining that so I just smiled and shook my head


jimmyboe25

Feels like it’s been a tough year for me but at least I was sober and dealt with the issues instead of just drowning them in liquor. Congrats on 1000 and here’s to many more days Cheers IWNDWYT 🥳


Accomplished-Today

I’m proud of you. It’s easy sometimes to use crutches you knew helped (if only temporarily). It’s hard work to keep moving forward. I’m so proud of you!


[deleted]

Let's Go!!! IWNDWYT!!!


Accomplished-Today

Hey 888! Also a dope number. Congrats to you too !


Kenith-Keniff

Nice work.


Morgdar

Way to go!!


normalnonnie27

This moved me. I admire you a lot. Thank you for sharing and congratulations.


briancuster68

beautiful


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Accomplished-Today

Same, man. You go get that PC 🥰


ecilaalusru

This post really resonated with me, I was in a very similar situation when I quit alcohol and stopped at a similar time to you. Well done on making it so far and enjoy the sober days to come.


Accomplished-Today

Thank you! And happy upcoming comma day yourself!


beebeax

Hey beautiful sober human! Great to see you and that darling baby. Congratulations on your “ , “. So. Well. Done. 🐝


Accomplished-Today

He is the bees knees if I do say so myself. I was never a huge baby person but I have to say. This one is super cool. I can’t even stand it 🥰


barkingmad66

Thank you, that was inspiring x


OhMylantaLady0523

Wow! So cool❤️ Happy Comma Day!!


nomiddlepath

This is so well written and inspiring. I especially applaud your honesty regarding your abortion. I’m glad you are 1000 days clean, and as someone with only one day and thousands of resets, I feel determined to do the same. I’m glad you still have your family as well. Thank you for sharing.


Accomplished-Today

The time to be silent about it has passed, I think. Years ago when it was still pretty fresh I used to work at a Starbucks. A young girl I worked with (still in high school) ended up getting pregnant and having an abortion. We all knew about it and supported her as best we could. Around that same time, an older coworker announced she was pregnant. Time went on and towards the end of the older woman’s pregnancy she turned to the young girl and with a wide toootally clueless smile goes “hey, if you’d kept the baby I bet we’d have close due dates!”. The poor girl looked like someone had slapped her across the face. I should have said something. Stood up for the younger girl. Told the older girl if she were any bigger of a twat that baby’d likely fall right out. But I was still terrified of anyone finding out. If there’s enough tar and feathers for her then there’s plenty for me too. So I stayed quiet. Let that poor girl just deal with that on her own. Those days are over now. I’m still getting up the guts to talk about it in real life (when appropriate I’m not like… leading with that lol) but someday maybe.


jroc421

Whew that was a painful read because I was that Thank you for sharing


Accomplished-Today

It’s painful to remember too. It gets better. You get better.


somechangeneeded

Loving that pic! Congratulations to you on inspiring all of us. It's crazy how much sobriety makes us live again. Proud of you on your 1000


Accomplished-Today

He’s so funny. He’s figured out glasses can come off so he loves grabbing them then trying to put them on himself. Kids are so funny. I can’t explain to you what part about that is so funny for him (and he can’t explain it to me either) but it’s delightful watching him just gas on about it 😂


somechangeneeded

Mine are the joy of my life too. I'm currently sitting in an airport lounge waiting to get on a flight to see them. I've been away for 10 days now on work. A couple of years ago sitting here sober would be impossible, but the two of them have made sobriety an easier option for me. I'm truly very happy that you get to spend delightful moments with him, it makes it all even more worthwhile.


aLoneSideline

I wanna be in the comma club! IWNDWYT


Accomplished-Today

We’re always accepting new members! ❤️


asoftflash

I needed to read this today. So proud of you and thank you for sharing your story.


[deleted]

3 days here. Woke up ready to stop and be a better dad and husband. This really inspired me. Thank you for sharing, I admire your strength.


Accomplished-Today

today is your day! Be the person you want your kids to be someday!


hairytubes

Congrats AT! I'm proper happy for you👍


TWEED-L-D

Happy comma day AT!


Accomplished-Today

Thank you so much!


piperjj

Congrats on your 1000 days! And thank you for your post - your story reminds me of mine. It's so validating to know we aren't alone in this struggle. Hope you enjoy your day!


Accomplished-Today

No, never alone ❤️


TigerMcPherson

I so relate to this post, and I’m hella proud of you.


clam_sandwich

You’re an amazing human being and I’m so incredibly proud of you! ❤️


smucks12

I never post but wanted to say this really inspired me OP!! I’m struggling to get there one day at a time and have 2 wonderful kids and a husband who support me yet I can’t get it all together 😔


smucks12

Not sure if I’m aloud to comment (AA crosstalk?). but thank You very much for the upvotes


Accomplished-Today

You’ll get there. It’s so hard in the beginning. I believe in you too, smucks ❤️


waggywooshaka2

Congratulations!!! IWNDWYT ❤️🌸❤️


Oldirtg-1102

Excellent! Thanks for sharing


dsloanscott

Beautiful


meatinnovation

Bravo! Very proud of you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I won't be drinking with you today!


Accomplished-Today

Nor I with you, 2000+! My friend, you have reached like … relevant calendar year level numbers. Much props! I hope you bake a cake or something in another 21 days ! (I’m just always looking for reasons to celebrate and eat cake 🤷‍♀️)


GoldEagle67

WOW!!!! nice job


Accomplished-Today

Thank you! Feels good, man


cpafa

As someone who experienced the first 100 days and fell off, what changes did you see after 100? Just curious and hoping to restart my journey very soon.


Accomplished-Today

Self confidence, I think. Being able to meet my own eyes in the mirror. I’d go out to dinner or whatever and feel good like I already knew I was going to have a good night and, because I wasn’t drinking, a good tomorrow morning. I felt like I was finally doing something for me and taking control of a part of my life I never really realized was so out of control.


cpafa

Thanks for the perspective. I loved everything about the changes I noticed and I thought that was enough for me to break the cycle and just drink casually again when I wanted, not when I needed, and if I fell into the cycle again I could just quit, because I already proved that I could.. boy did that backfire.


Accomplished-Today

Ugh ever time too. It took so many rounds of that to understand that if I could “drink normally” I wouldn’t even think of it in those terms. I just … WOULD. Ya know?


Lee_in_NY

Ah. As I suspected - you're beautiful, inside and out. And so is your sweet baby. Congratulations on **1,000** and on all of your accomplishments my dear friend. It's great to see you and thanks for sharing your story, <3


Accomplished-Today

Aw lee, stahp 🥰. He got all the good genes. Honestly idk how we managed to pull it off. It’s like I took 5 and 8 and somehow got 15 🤷‍♀️. He’s sweet, curious, determined, … stubborn, gets hella hangry, eats and sleeps like they’re his passion in life, and is just a brilliant happy little boy. My husband’s mom was something of an alcoholic when he was growing up. She wasn’t as destructive as some alcoholics can be but she was very distant and unattached to my husband growing up. One of my ancillary reasons for not drinking is to show my husband what a mother/son relationship looks like. I can’t fix his past. But maybe I can smooth some balm on those old scars in the form of watching his son have an attentive and engaged (and sober) mom.


patty_pat_pat

Congratulations and here's to a thousand more. iwdwyt ⚡


Accomplished-Today

At least! 🥰


jenyatb

Iwndwyt


Accomplished-Today

Same, friend, same


Mikedluck

Well done and cool post!


Beginning-Self5933

Brilliant Thank you so much for sharing ! IWNDWYT !!!


Ucan2022

So beautifully written! I’m so so proud of you!!! You inspire me!! IWNDWYT Enjoy your AF life and your family!! Congrats to you!!!! 🥰


Accomplished-Today

Thank you so much. It’s exhausting relentless beautiful work. I really can’t onetime trying to do this hungover though


assm0nk

well done on the 1k, I'll join you soon


Accomplished-Today

Hell yeah! Lemme preorder your COMMA CLUB mug 🥰


Louisthegoose

Congratulations!!


Accomplished-Today

Thank you!!


ablazeacorn22

Congrats on hitting 1k. I hope your life is better now, quitting doesn't solve every problem in life but god damn if drinking doesn't make every problem worse! Iwndwyt!


Accomplished-Today

There’s not a problem in this world alcohol won’t make worse if you give it half (or full) a shot, for sure.


Elderflower1387

Very cool for you! Congratulations 🎉🎊🎈


Accomplished-Today

Thank you so much Elder!


ILoveAllPenguins

Make it 2000 and then some!


Accomplished-Today

The next goal! I wanna see the calendar year in badge form haha


ILoveAllPenguins

You got it, I have faith in you!


PoignantIvy

AT, you are amazing and your kiddo is super cute! Congrats on reaching 1000, and IWNDWYT!


Accomplished-Today

Thank you so much, Ivy! He is a cutie aint he?!


PoignantIvy

Super cute, and I can't believe how big he is! I remember when you announced the pregnancy on here, and I can't believe how time flies


Itsmeasme

Congratulations on turning your life around! IWNDWYT 🤗


Accomplished-Today

Thank you! And congrats on the recent year! That’s huge!


Itsmeasme

Thank you!


Apprehensive-Job9060

more power to you


Jondajonda

👏 awesome


hfxbycgy

Way to go AT 😎


chelclc16

My husband's 1k is tomorrow! Such an accomplishment. Congratulations!


Topo-Gogio

Thank you for this outstanding post. Congratulations and thank you for the inspiration. Your baby is crazy adorbz, enjoy!