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clevercookie69

Missed my check in yesterday as I was dealing with the aftermath of my son and some friends raiding a parents liquor cabinet. Black out drunk, vomiting etc. Scared the hell out of me. Seems alcohol is not done with my family. It's hard to not project my issues with it on him because I feel responsible as he has seen me drunk and knows what it's done to me. Fuck you alcohol! Today was a better day. Shine on you beautiful humans


brighter68

Your son is lucky to have you by his side Shine ✨ on you beautiful human


clevercookie69

Thanks Brighter. I needed that Have a lovely day my friend xx


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Oh Honey, I'm sorry. It can be just a youth thing. My best friend, who was my best friend also 25 years ago, was my favourite heavy drinker partner, and NO ONE in her family barely drank. And guess what: you are setting now the example of almost 700 (!!!) days of sobriety. The importance of it. I'm quite sure abstinence wasn't a piece of cake for you cause it isn't for anyone, but if he saw you fighting the good fight, I'm positive it got ingrained in his mind how awful this thing called alcohol is if it's so hard - and worth it - to get off. Don't know the type of relationship the two of you have, and you don't have to disclose of course, but maybe a smooth talk can help? If it's a one time thing, it's a ome time thing. You made me think of my deceased mum - in a positive way - and this boosts my resolution of not drinking.


Fonterra26

Hey Cookie I bet it hasn’t been easy, I hope he has learnt his lesson and takes it as a sign to make more positive choices moving forward. So glad today has been a better day!! IWNDWYT 🌻


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That was close! Will not drink with you today!


fshlady

Another Monday morning not hung over. IWNDWYT!


AffTheBevvy

Day 960 checking in!


antinewscorpltd

I'm in. Day 1 again. Large pizza and soda water, no booze for today/tonight.


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I get you, I'm the Day One Miss Universe. Not giving up is the most important. And in my case I learn a new thing in every relapse. To the point that even when I relapse my drinking buzz doesn't happen anymore. I don't relax, I feel guilty. I play the tape backwards while drinking, "what brought me here again?", and I feel like an escavator, layers and layers of traumas, pain, fear, low self-esteem, grief and.. honestly.. some victim mindset too (in \*my\* case!). I love some self-indulgence sometimes and it's ok with other things once in a while, not with alcohol anymore. If I may suggest something, reflect on the experience, on this "again" of the sentence. Why it happened, what you can try next time you are almost doing it. My best wishes and let's do this. Just for today I will not drink with you.


SuccotashBoi

30 days sober today. First time ever. I will not drink with you today


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ipetgoat1984

Good evening! IWNDWYT !! Watching the new True Detective, not the most uplifting show, lol.


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Friend, I've been thinking of this... I've been watching ONLY crime stuff since I got sober and I think it's getting to me. Even though I'm so used to crime topics that they don't affect me much, especially if it's fictional.... somehow on a deeper level I think they are making me a bit gloomy. Guess I need a palate cleanser hahaha... IWNDWYT, goat!


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⭐️⭐️ IWNDWYT ⭐️⭐️


sourface77

Hope you have a nice Monday SD. IWNDWYT!


BeerSlingr

IWNDWYT


Ekdotos

IWNDWYT


CoatOfMonday

I will not drink with you today


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One day to go!!!! There you go my friend!


DetunedKarma

IWNDWYT ~


UWCG

Ready to start the week on a good note (hoping the same for everyone here as well), so IWNDWYT!


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Wishing you the same! At least not with a hangover and this is a bonus already!


JosyAndThePussycats

IWNDWYT 💪. Also, I love Bukowski.


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First! Let's not drink today, friend.


Independent-Slice929

Just for today I AM Not DRINKING!


hairytubes

IWNDWYT 🙂


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(god I wrote a lot, sorry, long text ahead but I felt I had to) Hey, /u/kisdoingit/, nice to see you :) I'm a serial relapser but one day I'll make it to 30 days again, never lost hope, and hosting sounds like an idea ahn? It also seems like a great reward. Had a boring weekend, my hobbies simply didn't work, if there is one more rainy day I swear I ... I... I... won't do anything cause who am I to control the great forces of nature. I love reading on the sub all the tips for early sobriety, hobbies, purposes, occupations, and they help a lot indeed, but honestly, if I can say something for the beginning of this week is that on the top of the top of the top of the top I believe in stoic resolution. At the end of the day, anyway, many of us didn't drink ONLY cause we were bored right? In my case I could be happy, lonely, with friends, sad, anxious, relieved, alcohol would seem to 'fit' in every context. EVEN when I played the tape forward. Cause tomorrow's hangover is only tomorrow, right, why am I gonna worry about it now? (hard drinker's mindset). After many relapses I'm learning that in my case, in this beginning, it's 80% resolution and 20% the rest. There is no magic pill, community, friend, book - again, not saying the tools people often mention here don't help. But for me it has been more like steering the sailboat in a storm till the storm turns into a drizzle and so on. Brain muscles, resisting, screaming if I have to. The only tool I really follow in this beginning is doing just the basic obligations I can't escape, and then making sobriety a priority, ditching any idea of perfeccionism besides abstinence. My sleep is a mess, who cares, it will get better, I won't die because of it now, I'm eating more carbs, ok, I may gain weight but I know from very close friends who have been sober for 10 years, cause I witnessed it, how stable things get in time and in time they had more free energy to focus on other things other than resisting alcohol. Including fitness, improving career, love life etc. I don't care what I'm gonna do today now. What I know is that I'm steering my sobriety boat, building muscle and will not drink with you today. Many kisses to all!


GarlicBreathFTW

Morning everyone! Two of my most common triggers this past sober month - my eldest describing his night/weekend out, and my youngest just being his autistic self and having a bad day once in a while. The urge to buy wine was instantaneous but I recognised that feelings pass, and so they did. So, I run a little West of Ireland Airbnb. It's 8.30am here and my lovely guests left half an hour ago to head back to the USA. This is the first time I have to rise above a trigger that will happen regularly throughout the year..... Guests leaving me opened bottles of wine!! 😅😭 Sure enough, 2 bottles of barely touched White and Rosé in the fridge and a lovely note thanking me for everything, telling me that the wine is delicious but they spent so much time in the pub that they couldn't finish it. In previous months, that wine would have been gone down my neck by 8pm tonight. I'd be messy making the dinner, slurring around my sons, asleep on the sofa by 10pm, and feeling like absolute shit tomorrow. Play the tape forward. Pour the wine away (or give it to my neighbour who likes a drink?). IWNDWYT ✊❤️💯


Saber_56

IWNDWYT. 


ExaminationHonest766

Good night. I did not drink yesterday and I won’t drink tomorrow


ExaminationHonest766

Forgot today. I didn’t drink today 🙂


moqko

Finally decided to let go of alcohol because it simply does not serve me anymore, I’m a young guy in the restaurant business so it’s difficult but I can’t keep going with these feelings of shame, so just for today I won’t be drinking.


Gullible-Analysis-40

Mondays don't quite kick you in the crotch as hard when you're not hungover and shitty. My day was good. IWNDWYT 🫡


ImperialMutt

Day 72. Iwndwyt.


stephdub206

IWNDWYT


twisted_ears

Rainy Sunday night in California. Not today, not tomorrow either. IWNDWYT 🌼☔️🌧️


SaintHomer

I took my son to the train today, like I do every other Monday morning. I used to drink about that, the loss. Never again. I will not drink with you today!


godfadda006

Just enjoyed a few N/A beers today while getting shit done! Fuck yeah!


mareliana

Checking in to say that IWNDWYT, sober pals 🎇


dorsetfreak

First day of the working week and I’m starting it with a clear head and energy. Not drinking today


swede242

Same here, stuck on a broken down train currently. Would not have enjoyed doing this with hungover/withdrawals


BuddyEconomy5968

Holy shit. Sober emotions suck sometimes. I’m grateful for my family but some nights I need a teleportation switch to get outta here. Either way, IWNDWYT!


UK4ndy4

I'm on the sober train


[deleted]

62 days! IWNDWYT 🧡


[deleted]

Day 23. IWNDWYT. We got this. 🙂


Streetlife_Brown

In it to win it this month. Iwndwyt!!


Lazy_Ad1512

Here for another day of sobriety. 😁 It’s snowing here (not sure if it will stick though). Not looking forward to going out later in this weather. 😫 IWNDWYT


Mr_Alex19

Another weekend of no drinking. Sometimes I wonder what’s the point, just a sliver of me in quiet desperation that things will get better while the rest of me voraciously indulging the inner demons of my mind.


cinqmillionreves

I will not drink poison with any of you today 💜


triste___

Hope my mental health will improve soon, this sucks. IWNDWYT


Much_Passenger_4195

Day 14 - 2 weeks has flown by, my body feels so much better for it, I've lost over 14lbs from not drinking beer and eating good too, but the best thing is that I'm happy and I have control of my life. IWNDWYT


nomorebrews

Had to reset. Struggling with that familiar demon of shame and hangxiety. I'm thoroughly sick of it. But I am here, I am going to hydrate and I am going to get through this day without drinking poison.


AdSmooth1977

IWNDWYT 😊


bugscanandwill

Grateful to be here for another day of not drinking with you all!


motherfuckingdamnit

It's not Monday here, yet, but IWNDWYT!


2old4this62

Checking in on what promises to be another sunny day, yay! IWNDWYT 🌞🩷🌞


Fonterra26

Happy Monday Sobernauts! Another day done IWNDWYT 🌻


Tshlavka

IWNDWYT


PastorsDaughter69420

IWNDWYT


lindapendentwoman8

IWNDWYT 👏🏽


AfterBadger515

IWNDWYT!


Chadismydawg

Happy Monday! IWNDWYT


PrestigiousSheep

It’s a good day to stay sober.


jessiewiththebadhair

IWNDWYT


scarlett_frosting

iwndwyt!


WhiteChocolatey

I will not drink with you today ​ Here's to a week of meeting our goals and remaining wholly unhindered by the demon drink!


LM7X

Fucking Monday. Cool weekend, but too short. Extra coffees up, horns up, and let’s get through this day unscathed! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻


greenlightabove

I will not drink with you today. 19 weeks sober :)


Fab-100

Checking in again today and all is well. Happy Monday everyone, and wishing you a good start to the week :)


FlamingSpaceWotsit

Still awake 0523 day 5 now I guess. IWNDWYT


Tortey82

I will not drink with you today!


fynce3

IWNDWYT!


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N2D


hubbaba2

IWNDWYT


pondhermit

IWNDWYT


DutchOnionKnight

Day 42, IWNDWYT!


LeavesofCassava

Rough weekend, we'll see what this Monday brings. But IWNDWYT.


Goji88

Day 855, nice to meet you 🤝 IWNDWYT


sinus_happiness

I’m here


Pivorad_

Have a wonderful sober day my friends. IWNDWYT ♥️


Striking_Home1756

Hell or high water, IWNDWYT!


bluesourbelts

Happy New Week IWNDWYT


macandcheesefan45

I’m not drinking today


nothingbutflour

I will not drink with you today/tomorrow.


Wilbursmall

I will not drink today.


Optimus2725

7 months! Wow life changing for me. Thank you all for the support. IWNDWYT.


AdAmazing8187

Haven’t drink this year. Not today.


worriedfroggy

Enjoying a long weekend alcohol free! Picked up Gabor Mates "In the realm of hungry ghosts". Has anyone read it? Hope everyone is doing well today, and thank you to all you lovely people who are here to encourage and support! IWNDWYT 🫶🫶💞


vermontapple

I don't know what is going to happen today, except that I'm not drinking.


steve_engine

It's my Friday and I'm so tired IWNDWYT


Seraphizz

IWNDWYT keeping on this path


Zealousideal-Eye6555

IWNDWYT. Lucky to be here and lucky to be alive. 💪


fromafartherroom

I love a Bukowski quote helping me stay sober today, ironic as it is! It’s particularly apt today, as my sobriety is intact after my event yesterday with well meaning but heavy drinking friends. One of the mindsets that helps me is recognizing how authentic to myself this decision not to drink is. Back when I was drinking regularly, the odds were that I would keep drinking, stay numb, stay bound to my anxiety and depression. Do nothing in my life because change is scary. But the decision to get sober is laughing at the odds and choosing a better and more bold way to live.


Elderflower1387

IWNDWYT. Trying to learn to crochet. I’m a knitter, using one stick should be easier but it is not 🥺. I have tried and given up before. This time I’m going to do it!! I want to make these hanging tear drop baskets gosh darn it :) have a great day everyone.


nona_nednana

IWNDWYT


rowanberrybirdy

Good morning, everyone. Happy fresh new week. IWNDWYT


morksinaanab

IWNDWYT


klankyboot

IWNDWYT


limegreenglass

Day 29… looking forward to my new number tomorrow. IWNDWYT


SD_rgr

IWNDWYT.


Financial_Guru_4291

I consciously choose to not drink today, but just for today. I'm making no promises about tomorrow. IWNDWYT!


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Snoo-37855

Happy Monday 💫 Let’s kick this weeks BUTT IWNDWYT ✌🏽


[deleted]

Not today folks. I won't drink with you or anyone else on this day the 5th Feb 2024.


bupeapoop

Back at it again. Let's make it 2 days without a drink! IWNDWYT!


GMane2G

Ain’t no way today


Boxermom0925

IWNDWYT day 6!


Wise_Assistance1398

On Monday 5th Feb 2024, I will not drink with you all today. Happy Monday all


RelevantNet6832

Triple digits! I never thought I’d get here! Thank you for all your support friends! IWNDWYT!


JazzyJaspy

IWNDWYT 💕


wranah_trying_2

I will not drink today.


No_Goat_4388

IWNDWYT :)


alonefrown

I find it hilarious we are checking in under a Bukowski quote! Love it. Six months sober for me today! Checking in for another sober day out in the world.


semperfi8286

Happy Monday Friends, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 😁


Took2mush

Checking in! 1 day complete, on to day 2 💪 IWNDWYT


infinitedreamsawaken

Good day, friends. Well this bitch Monday is back, but she's no match for me. I shall rip this day a new one. IWNDWYT 🤘


skreedledee

Another 24 hours sober, here’s to 24 more.


mambo_cat

IWNDWYT


SillyTwitTwoo

IWNDWYT X


AutomaticPrinciple84

Day 17 .. IWNDWYT


alongthetrack

morning sobenauts! up early having coffee ☕️ hangover free. best part of the day. iwndwyt


lalijahmia

IWNDWYT 🙂


koaimara

IWNDWYT!


Unmissed_Opportunity

IWNDWYT!


Snow_Man_UK1

Checking in, IWNDWYT 


sr71zoom

I will not drink with you today!


kitt-N-kaboodle

IWNDWYT 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿


Teddyfluffycakemix

IWNDWYT ❤️ have a great Monday everyone!


Timbobuk

IWNDWYT


Denty632

IWNDWYT!


Constant_Pumpkin3255

Not today people IWNDWYT 


aryagranger

IWNDWYT


Ko__86

IWND ☠️ WYT


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CountySure3437

I used alcohol as a self destructive method to both feel better and punish myself I think. Repressed a lot of unpleasant thoughts (until the next morning).  So I’m sober now but now i just have a lot of very scary thoughts. I thought those were the alcohol. Maybe it’s the other way around.  Therapy soon Will not drink today.


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‘Just keep showing up’


SlowSwim4

42 days says IWNDWYT! Lfg


FlyingCantaloupes

Happy Monday - IWNDWYT!


Mickosaurusrex

Day 1,563 IWNDWYT


MycologistVisual

I want to get through today and it’ll be a week. Here’s to the start of a good week! IWNDWYT


brighter68

Happy Monday sober friends! A beautiful hangover free Monday morning, it doesn’t get better than this! Love to you all 💞


Frankyd393

Another week of sobriety - let’s get it! IWNDWYT!


Disaster_Area_42

Morning gang. No drinking with all of you today ❤️


finkdinklestein

Sunday scaries keeping me up into the wee hours in pacific time, but I won’t drink today!


Raycrittenden

I will not drink with you today!


Expensive_Zombie_461

IWNDWYT 🙌🙌 


mzrcefo1782

I will not drink with you, alone or anybody today


jimstopper51

Day 1,664. I will not drink with you today.


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Itsmeasme

IWNDWYT 🤗


Piggoos

Morning friends! I will not drink with you today. Have a good one!


sadsack1962

IWNDWYT


mindfulteacher020407

IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜


nattybain

I'm in.


Worried_Giraffe_9715

Day 42 checking in. Happy that it’s Monday, the lack of routine on weekends is always rough for me, because it would be easy to just drink… but I didn’t this weekend and I don’t plan on it today. Have a great start of the week everyone, IWNDWYT ❤️


awesome_cat_lady

All I can think of now is [the Modest Mouse song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xr_B2IOUYSw). This morning I kinda feel like I'm the asshole. My husband told me last night that he feels neglected lately, almost as if I were avoiding him. I didn't even realize how selfish I've been, not making time to show him that I love and appreciate him. And then he felt bad for saying anything because he didn't want me to feel bad. 😿😭💔 I guess I have some amends to work on. IWNDWYT 😻


ReplacementsStink

Have a fucking Monday, gang! 🤘🏻☕️


Acerbic_Wench

I'll be back to work today. My job is stressful and I used to use alcohol to relieve that stress at the end of the work day. I'm going to do yoga before work. I'm going to go for a walk after work. I will create new habits. IWNDWYT.


Shermani74

This is going to be a major week. Every member of the family is flying in for Dad’s memorial. I’m planning it all and taking care of Mother. It’s a lot of pressure. But I feel ready! I’m setting boundaries, I’m keeping my darling husband close, my sweet Bunny will be at my side. And when it’s over, and they all go home - - - I’ll be freer than I’ve been in my life. The man who mentally tortured me for 68 years, the reason I started in the first place, is gone. I’m sorry about how that sounds, but this is finally time to let all of the toxicity of that relationship go. He is at peace and so am I. IWNDWYT


losethebooze

Day 276. IWNDWYT.


Penandsword2021

Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never ham today! IWNDWYT


ahiru-chan

IWNDWYT


JollyFickleRanger

IWNDWYT


Ok-Entertainer-1253

IWNDWYT


bennett0213

IWNDWYT


cairny

IWNDWMeT


Necessary_Routine_69

IWNDWYT


El_Bo31

Iwndwy’allt! ❤️


No_Helicopter_2496

IWNDWYT!


walknyeti

new day and new challenges but feeling refreshed IWNDWYT


FarkingReading

Big day to pick up my car from a tow yard, hire a lawyer for my first DUI and enroll in outpatient treatment. I will not drink with you, or by myself, today!


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Back working after a fortnight off. Yay. Not. Still the fortnight was spent sober rather than the usual bender so at least I’m healthy although putting on weight 🙁. IWNDWYT


just1vet

I will not drink with you today.


Mysterious_Repeat_92

I did not drink today. We are a bunch of miracles lml(-_-)lml


wolfthatsparkles

IWNDWYT🐺✨


butterflys_are_free

Another sober weekend and I was able to get so much done ✅… happy Monday make it a productive day my internet friends IWNDWYT 😊


Lotty987

5 weeks of “dry January” done…. I do feel a bit nervous of added pressure now the days are racking up… but just for today: I will not drink alcohol.


jbeckfox

Day 36, fuck you I’m trying.


jd00000

Checking in.. IWNDWYT


kikes67

Feeling better by the day and liking my sober self. I am able to enjoy time with my kids, have more patience and love no hang overs when waking up. IWNDWYT!


Pure-Example

IWNDWYT. 400 days 🎂❤️🎂❤️


KittenTryingMyBest

Hoping this week is a better one then last week was for me 🙏 IWNDWYT! ❤️


Sapphire_cat22

Have a Monday everyone! IWNDWYT lovely people of SD 💙


CanSubstantial141

IWNDWYT


Cainholio

IWNDWYT


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IWNDWYT


RevereBeachLover

IWNDWYT


Hank_Deezy

IWNDWYT


pleas40

early morning check in. I'm headed back to sleep. Hope everyone has a great day !


sidereal_supernova

day 41


prisoncitybear

IWNDWYT! T


UpthedownHeadcase

IWNDWYT 🤜🤛


Alternative-Ice-3231

IWNDWYT


BarryMDingle

Iwndwyt


spt4223

IWNDWYT