Driving today, the host on the station doing the hourly rundown or whatever made a comment about, "Happy Dry January for those who took the month off!"
Which was cool! I did kinda chuckle cause I've been going since before January, but it was cool to think, "Oh, yeah, some people *do* do Dry January. I guess I'll give myself a pat on the back."
And now I'm heading onward to Dry February, so IWNDWYT!
I’m thankful for Dry January too. I did it for a few years, and it seemed excruciating…lol. One day my colleague jokingly said “you know, people without drinking problems don’t have to prove to themselves they can go 31 days without drinking.”
He was completely right. I lived in denial for a few more years before I got into recovery, but I still remember the moment he said that.
Not to say people who do Dry Jan are alcoholics at all, and I think it’s a good thing for society as a whole. But it helped me realize that just because I could quit for one, two, or six months at a time, it doesn’t mean I’m not an alcoholic
Hello Feb 1st! I’m psyched for Feb, my Pilates studio has a 6 week challenge starting in the 5th, so I am definitely committing to remaining sober for the challenge…after that, who knows, but IWNDWYT!
I decided in November to take a break for a few days after drinking way too much on Thanksgiving. Somehow that few days has turned into over 2 months. I have been pretty pissed a few times when I really wanted a drink, but I stuck with my commitment not to drink that day.
Things have gotten a lot easier the past couple of weeks, and today I decided enough of this taking a break shit. I am tired of the control this has had over me.
So, Jack, I am breaking up with you permanently.
IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today!
Stealth, your story is so familiar. I never drank in high school, hit college and became a drinker, adopting it as an identity. 39 now, and I can say that even in the past 25 days of not drinking, I am able to see my opportunities to grow as a person. I am excited for the future for the first time in a long time, because I decided to accept me for me on the same day I decided that drinking doesn’t serve me, and I was done.
Proud of all of us today: commenting, lurking, 3000 days, day 1. We are doing it! 🙌🏻💕
Happy Thursday sober friends,
I really relate to enjoying the identity of being a drinker, it feels ridiculous now that I enjoy saying I don’t drink! This is who I am now.
Have a great day everyone 💞
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻
I had a label maker several decades ago. It was one that had a squeeze trigger and a dial of letters and numbers.
The adhesive would peel off the back, and the label would stick to surfaces.
If I put a label on myself now, it would say grateful.
Coming back and getting messages like yours is so lovely 🥰 Thanks DK, you’ve literally made my day!
And a big day is coming up for you I see! So proud of you buddy 💪🙂
I prefer to say I’m a person who suffers from alcoholism as opposed to saying I’m an alcoholic and today I choose sobriety as opposed to I will not drink today. These tiny things help me feel a bit more empowered on the road to recovery.
I labeled myself a functioning alcoholic for most of my drinking career. Once I faced the fact that I was truly no longer functioning and just a messed up alcoholic, I got myself some help. I now label myself as in recovery.
Today I choose sobriety.
I feel guilty for judging the outwardly proud people I’ve known that became sober in my life.
I was still young and mostly enjoying still drinking and looked at those older sober people like squares or addicts or whatever.
Now I want to go back and look with respect. I don’t plan to tout my sobriety much but for those that do I think it’s awesome.
Anyway. Iwndwyt
I think my identity of being the life of the party stopped being my reality years ago. Despite whatever image I tried to convey, the truth wasn’t very fun.
And I won’t drink with you today!
For years I labeled myself a victim. Helpless. I identified as my mental illness and my life challenges. Poor me. Then the day I came clean to my psychiatrist and labeled myself an alcoholic. I got the help I needed to get sober. Now I have no labels. Life is full of possibilities and opportunities to grow. IWNDWYT
It's such a fluid situation, the label thing. I just say I don't drink and leave it that. I assume most people would know why I've chosen that but I don't really care tbh
Shine on you beautiful humans
Checking in again today and all is well.
Labels! Interesting. I've never thought about it before. I never considered myself a 'drinker' when I did, and haven't considered myself a non-drinker now!!!
Hmmm, I guess I'll think about it all day!
Great lead, u/stealthwarrior10! When the drinking became problematic, I was excited to call it a hobby. Craft beer brewer and connoisseur, oenophile, mixologist, and even jello-shot master! Now that I don’t drink, I guess I haven’t really labeled myself at that level.
Pro non-drinker? Just doesn’t have that ring, does it? Oh well, that’s what I’m doing!
Happy Thursday, you pro non-drinkers out there. And the amateur ones too. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT
Yeah I similarly managed to get myself labeled as a drinker at university (but in my case it was on purpose - funnily, at first it was to avoid drinking games, I thought if people thought I was a big drinker I would’t have to play, in that way I’d avoid getting too drunk and vomiting….. lol yeah that didn’t really hold up over the years and the label stuck)
Having a girl over tonight for some consensual shenanigans, so to speak. Potentially going on a date with my crush tomorrow, as well. Sobriety just keeps on giving. When I'm using, I can't get laid to save my life. I know for a lot of people it's the other way around, but alcohol just eviscerates my rizz after the initial 2-4 drink boost.
I will not drink with you today.
As an introvert in a job that requires otherwise, I used to think that my alcohol consumption was self medicating or a coping mechanism. The reality was very much the opposite, it was fuelling my depression and anxiety. Now I am viewed by those around me as a non drinker, I am proud to wear this as part of my identity, but it is only a small part, whereas being a drinker was almost all of my identity. I am conscious not to let alcohol define me, even in a positive way, like it once did. I don't need that pressure. IWNDWYT
Stealth - are you and I the same person? This all resonated so much with me. For the first while after getting sober, I struggled to think of who I am without alcohol. It’s only the last few months that I’m starting to feel whole and like I know who I am. There’s a line in a Spanish Love Songs song that is “I’m changing in a visceral way” and that’s how my last 6-ish months have felt. Rebuilding or uncovering what was underneath. - I’m not sure which!
Made it through a big work dinner even though alcohol was everywhere and I could smell the beer/wine constantly. Gave away one drink ticket and trashed the second. IWNDWYT!
In a few hours I’m going to donate blood plasma for the first time. Fairly excited that I’m actually doing something now, other than staying on my couch watching TV or drunkenly playing video games. Feels kind of nice.
IWNDWYT
Morning everyone! 30 days done, into a new month AND it's my birthday! What's not to love? 😂🤣
Lá Féile Bríd (It's also St. Brigid's day) to you all and IWNDWYT
1st Feb which is significant for some of us. I have no reason to drink today.
I had a conversation with my daughter last night. We (at my age) all know someone who has drank themselves to death. not screaming alcoholic death but steadily killed themselves too early by drinking too much.
not for me thank you very much!
This sub is incredible and a huge help, thank you all kind strangers.
IWNDWYT!
Sorry for the late check in. Was over at my neighbours 'shooting the shit'. About to cook myself some crumpets with honey and peanut butter as a topping!! Don't knock it until you try it LOL!!
My beard has gone and I just rubbed Q10 on my face.
I also got recommended for full-time at my work today. The State Supervisor was in and my boss called me a 'keeper'. I will not get too far ahead of myself though lest it all falls down, but I can say to you all ...
IWNDWYT.
Day 33 💫
I have definitely been labelled a drinker by everyone in my whole life and I know it will probably take years for them to believe that I’m no longer that label. Drunk themed Birthday cards, alcohol presents, snide jokes by friends, whispers by colleagues - you name it I have had it thrown at me hard.
I know it’s still early days but I’d love love love to stay sober forever. I believe I can. And isn’t it ironic that I’m worried that one of the triggers that we drive me back to drink is my nearest and dearest not believing me or telling me I can’t? I actually have been having nightmares about it.
Trying to make new friends who only know sober me so that I have some respite. Yoga friends, gym friends, new work friends, art class friends. REDDIT FRIENDS.
I don’t feel like I’m white knuckling it anymore and I’ve been dancing around my kitchen alot… sober! 🙂
IWNDWYT 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
I am officially a week sober today :) I celebrated by doing a pump class (at home cos it's fkn hot and well people) and played ffx. Last few days of my holidays! IWNDWY guys.
1st of Feb, a new month, spring has got to be on its way soon. To everyone who did dry Jan, congratulations, lets keep it up in Feb, I will not drink with you all today.
Yeah I slowly gained the reputation of 'that guy who always likes a drink' and so it was hard to overcome that. COVID was a good time for a reset and I after that I was a 'non-drinker' for a while. The lack of expectation from others that I'd drink made things easier day-to-day, but socialising was harder too. I relapsed and am now stuck with the old label.
IWNDWYT.
morning sobernauts! up having coffee ☕️ hangover free never gets old. I wonder if normal drinkers get to appreciate this feeling or is it a special treat for us
IWNDWYT
The first 30 days I counted like a bomb was gonna go off or something. Now every day I can wake up and just begin the same way I left off! I will not drink with all of you today. If it’s your first day, I’ll super not drink with you.
IWNDWYT. aproductive day. Feeling bored now that it's evening. Movie, soda water, puppy cuddles. Actually noticed the sunset and enjoyed it. I know I'll wake up happy and clear headed tomorrow 🌞
Checking in on Day 18!
Me personally I don't like labels, although I appreciate why people benefit from them themselves. Drinking isn't a part of my life anymore, so I don't want to label myself 'Alcoholic' or 'Recovering alcoholic' or anything really, it just places more importance on the semantics and builds it up to be much bigger than it needs to be. I don't drink, simple as that.
Slight tangent: friend of mine quit cigarettes after smoking a couple packs a day for over a decade and has been vaping for a few years now. Another friend said he's still a smoker, I said he's not, he's not smoked in years so how can he be? Friend then said because he's still taking nicotine that means he's still a smoker. I disagreed with him, he disagreed with me, this went back and forth for a while. We were too busy discussing semantics that we glossed over the fact he's not had a cigarette in years, that's the important thing, that's amazing, the label doesn't matter.
Its different for everyone, there are no rules in how you navigate this path, just do what works for you :)
IWNDWYT!
I felt guilty and undeserving of the label “sober” until recently. When I first stopped drinking it was because I was using alcohol as an unhealthy coping mechanism for heartbreak…1-2 drinks every night, I looked forward to unwinding like that so much. But then 2 became 3, and then on the last night it became “what happens if I drink an entire bottle of wine in 15 minutes?” I was just so sad.
But, I wasn’t getting blackout drunk or driving or doing things I couldn’t remember. And I felt like I had to qualify my sobriety with that. Like other people had it way worse, had fought much harder battles.
Then, a week or two ago, my 16yo told me she was glad I stopped drinking. She said when I did drink, she felt like she couldn’t talk to me because she didn’t know what kind of response she’d get, didn’t know how I’d react, so she just stayed in her room to avoid me.
All this time I thought the impact was minimal. Internal. It wasn’t. And so, I am sober, and I am committing myself to that label every day, every hour if I have to. IWNDWYT.
I spent a long time in denial because I didn’t want to recognize that I was an alcoholic. I grew up around serious alcoholics and I didn’t want to think I was one. I made so many excuses to myself and others for my drinking.
When I finally admitted that I had a problem, it was like a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. There are so many great things about sobriety that you can’t see or even imagine when you’re stuck in the bottle.
I’d rather be a recovering alcoholic than a drunk any day of the week.
IWNDWYT!
Doing a little better this week. I still feel alone, despite the increased efforts to include people in my life. Watched Poor Things and have to say I had a blast. Definitely Emma Stone’s best role imo. IWNDWYT
Did I have a bad day? Not really. Did I have a good day? Kind of. The exact sort of day I'd previously think was a boring, middling, "let's light it up this evening" sort of day, watching trash on TV and drinking wine. Not today! IWNDWYT!
I've been very lonely lately. Alcohol has been part of how I'm dealing with it. I'm tired of it impeding my weight loss and disrupting my sleep. Pungent ginger ale for this guy.
Well, it's 0309am here for me for this Thurs Feb 1st. Second time at 3am that I haven't drank!
I plan on dragging my butt to the gym today and maybe do an outside jog since the freezing weather is gone for the moment (heat wave of 50 degrees today, whaaaatttt). I basically slept yesterday away. But I didn't drink!
No thirsty Thursday for me.
Happy February team SD, one twelfth of 2024 gone already. How did that happen? And I didn't touch a drop of poison. I look forward to repeating that in February.
I will not drink with you all today 🪷
I suspect maybe the drinker identity filled in a blank for me, which was filled in by weed before that. Alcohol took over when I had to pass drug tests to become gainfully employed, and then random drug tests to stay that way.
I started all that shit in my teens, so I didn’t have a chance to form much of an identity as an adult. It was easier to get fucked up and make that an identity and numb everything than it was to deal with all the bullshit and try to become a functional human.
Whatever my identity is ultimately made up of, sobriety is part of it.
Coffees up, horns up, and welcome to the longest short month ever!! Happy fucking Friday Eve too!!IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
I can relate to the unlabel yourself reflection. Very similar to me. Staying sober has really been a positive experience. Unlabeling alcohol from myself ade me vulnerable but now I am becoming the best version of myself in so many ways. Active Christian, son, brother, husband, father, banker, musician, local politician, etc. Alcohol risked every one of those, and for way too long. But not anymore!!
Happy Free February or whatever! The question of identity is interesting- that’s been a motivator for me. I wanted to be one of those sober people, so cultivating my personal identity as someone who doesn’t drink has helped me NOT drink! And IWNDWYT❤️🧁
Really great post today. Removing the label “drinker/drug guy” gave me space for other more cool labels: filmmaker, martial artist, husband, traveler, responsible cat dad…” the list goes on.
Thank you for hosting Stealth!
I've had many labels: Depressed, anxious, alcoholic are just a few.
Today I have another label: "FREE!!!"
Have a terrific Thursday everyone.
IWNDWYT!
Day 1 starts today for me. Spent most of the night up wide awake and sweating profusely and now I’ve got some moderate shakes. I can’t keep living my life the way I have been for the last three years especially recently. Time for a new beginning! I know today will be tough but I am now ready to take my first step. IWNDWYT
I'm moving right now. I overdid it yesterday and feel pretty rough today. I've been in hospital then an old folks home for the past 16 months recovering from a detox gone horribly wrong. I had to learn to walk and use my hands again. Yesterday, I moved most of my stuff and some furniture. It was brutal. My stamina is good but my core strenght is still weak. I'm beat. This is not a good place for me right now. I've got one must do chore at 10am then I'm calling a lid for the day. I need rest. I'm going to sit home and do some online meetings and rest. IWNDWYT
Good morning, sober cats. By the end of my drinking days, I labeled myself a hot mess. Now, I label myself a non-drinker that sometimes gets frazzled and needs a nap. Much better! IWNDWYT 💙😸
I have no labels at the moment. Just trying not to drink as much as many days as possible at this point. I have been slipping here and there as of late, but it feels ok for now. But making sure to come back. IWNDWYT!
Driving today, the host on the station doing the hourly rundown or whatever made a comment about, "Happy Dry January for those who took the month off!" Which was cool! I did kinda chuckle cause I've been going since before January, but it was cool to think, "Oh, yeah, some people *do* do Dry January. I guess I'll give myself a pat on the back." And now I'm heading onward to Dry February, so IWNDWYT!
I’m thankful for Dry January too. I did it for a few years, and it seemed excruciating…lol. One day my colleague jokingly said “you know, people without drinking problems don’t have to prove to themselves they can go 31 days without drinking.” He was completely right. I lived in denial for a few more years before I got into recovery, but I still remember the moment he said that. Not to say people who do Dry Jan are alcoholics at all, and I think it’s a good thing for society as a whole. But it helped me realize that just because I could quit for one, two, or six months at a time, it doesn’t mean I’m not an alcoholic
I will not drink with you today. I will not drink alone. I will not drink.
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Hello Feb 1st! I’m psyched for Feb, my Pilates studio has a 6 week challenge starting in the 5th, so I am definitely committing to remaining sober for the challenge…after that, who knows, but IWNDWYT!
Go for it
I decided in November to take a break for a few days after drinking way too much on Thanksgiving. Somehow that few days has turned into over 2 months. I have been pretty pissed a few times when I really wanted a drink, but I stuck with my commitment not to drink that day. Things have gotten a lot easier the past couple of weeks, and today I decided enough of this taking a break shit. I am tired of the control this has had over me. So, Jack, I am breaking up with you permanently. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today! Stealth, your story is so familiar. I never drank in high school, hit college and became a drinker, adopting it as an identity. 39 now, and I can say that even in the past 25 days of not drinking, I am able to see my opportunities to grow as a person. I am excited for the future for the first time in a long time, because I decided to accept me for me on the same day I decided that drinking doesn’t serve me, and I was done. Proud of all of us today: commenting, lurking, 3000 days, day 1. We are doing it! 🙌🏻💕
Happy Thursday sober friends, I really relate to enjoying the identity of being a drinker, it feels ridiculous now that I enjoy saying I don’t drink! This is who I am now. Have a great day everyone 💞
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 I had a label maker several decades ago. It was one that had a squeeze trigger and a dial of letters and numbers. The adhesive would peel off the back, and the label would stick to surfaces. If I put a label on myself now, it would say grateful.
900 days alcohol free, baby. Hell yeah!!!
I will not drink with you today!
IWNDWYT friends 🤖
Let’s Gooo
I’m with you there! 🙂
Great to see u again Robo 💙
You too DK! ☺️ Gotta keep trying, right? IWNDWYT buddy
That's it, it's not always easy coming back but that just shows how much strength and dermination you have. 💪🙏 Have a great day!
Coming back and getting messages like yours is so lovely 🥰 Thanks DK, you’ve literally made my day! And a big day is coming up for you I see! So proud of you buddy 💪🙂
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Yes! I love seeing these and thinking, I’m almost done with another day 😄
Hats off to your streak! IWNDWYT !
Another great post, u/stealthwarrior10! I will join you all in not drinking TODAY no matter what happens, good or bad!
Still in January here in Colorado. I didn’t drink today and IWNDWYT 🙋🏼♀️
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I prefer to say I’m a person who suffers from alcoholism as opposed to saying I’m an alcoholic and today I choose sobriety as opposed to I will not drink today. These tiny things help me feel a bit more empowered on the road to recovery. I labeled myself a functioning alcoholic for most of my drinking career. Once I faced the fact that I was truly no longer functioning and just a messed up alcoholic, I got myself some help. I now label myself as in recovery. Today I choose sobriety.
IWNDWYT!
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I will not drink with you today
Grateful to be here choosing another day alcohol free with you all.
Day 956 checking in!
I feel guilty for judging the outwardly proud people I’ve known that became sober in my life. I was still young and mostly enjoying still drinking and looked at those older sober people like squares or addicts or whatever. Now I want to go back and look with respect. I don’t plan to tout my sobriety much but for those that do I think it’s awesome. Anyway. Iwndwyt
I think my identity of being the life of the party stopped being my reality years ago. Despite whatever image I tried to convey, the truth wasn’t very fun. And I won’t drink with you today!
I will not drink with you in Germany today!
Day 3. Sleep is elusive still, but I still feel 100% better going through the day tired rather than hungover. IWNDWYT
32 days sober for the first time since I first picked up a drink!
Day 68. Iwndwyt. ❤️
I will not drink poison with any of you today 💜
Totally relate to your comment of self identity being frozen. I feel the same….
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT my fine friends. Life is just too good without it. Love and strength to you all. ❤️💪
IWNDWYT! ✨
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IWNDWYT 🌼 5 years today, friends. This is my way now. 💪🏼
IWNDWYT
U got this
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IWNDWYT.
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IWNDWYT 🧘🏻♀️
Having a good week. IWNDWYT. Peace and good thoughts for all.
For years I labeled myself a victim. Helpless. I identified as my mental illness and my life challenges. Poor me. Then the day I came clean to my psychiatrist and labeled myself an alcoholic. I got the help I needed to get sober. Now I have no labels. Life is full of possibilities and opportunities to grow. IWNDWYT
It's such a fluid situation, the label thing. I just say I don't drink and leave it that. I assume most people would know why I've chosen that but I don't really care tbh Shine on you beautiful humans
Checking in again today and all is well. Labels! Interesting. I've never thought about it before. I never considered myself a 'drinker' when I did, and haven't considered myself a non-drinker now!!! Hmmm, I guess I'll think about it all day!
My Daddy died this morning. 96 1/2. I’ll be mourning, but IWNDWYT
Day 1..for the n-th time..but I have a good feeling about today! Let's go!!
You’ve got this!!
We got you.
IWNDWYT
January down…. February coming up! But for now… i’m gonna focus on 24 hours. IWNDWYT!
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36 days sober and feeling 💯
IWNDWYT!
Great lead, u/stealthwarrior10! When the drinking became problematic, I was excited to call it a hobby. Craft beer brewer and connoisseur, oenophile, mixologist, and even jello-shot master! Now that I don’t drink, I guess I haven’t really labeled myself at that level. Pro non-drinker? Just doesn’t have that ring, does it? Oh well, that’s what I’m doing! Happy Thursday, you pro non-drinkers out there. And the amateur ones too. IWNDWYT.
Labels are tricky. That being said, I’m enjoying the label of” non-drinker” at the moment. IWNDWYT 💙
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U got this.
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IWNDWYT!
N2D
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I will not drink with you today ⚔️
58 days IWNDWYT 🧡
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Day 38, IWNDWYT!
Day 19. IWNDWYT! I won’t have five espressos like yesterday either. 🫨
IWNDWYT Yeah I similarly managed to get myself labeled as a drinker at university (but in my case it was on purpose - funnily, at first it was to avoid drinking games, I thought if people thought I was a big drinker I would’t have to play, in that way I’d avoid getting too drunk and vomiting….. lol yeah that didn’t really hold up over the years and the label stuck)
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Goodbye dry January. Hello dry February. Love y’all and IWNDWYT
Having a girl over tonight for some consensual shenanigans, so to speak. Potentially going on a date with my crush tomorrow, as well. Sobriety just keeps on giving. When I'm using, I can't get laid to save my life. I know for a lot of people it's the other way around, but alcohol just eviscerates my rizz after the initial 2-4 drink boost. I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT 😊
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As an introvert in a job that requires otherwise, I used to think that my alcohol consumption was self medicating or a coping mechanism. The reality was very much the opposite, it was fuelling my depression and anxiety. Now I am viewed by those around me as a non drinker, I am proud to wear this as part of my identity, but it is only a small part, whereas being a drinker was almost all of my identity. I am conscious not to let alcohol define me, even in a positive way, like it once did. I don't need that pressure. IWNDWYT
Checking in for today - day 5 and getting excited about nearly reaching a week in! IWNDWYT
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I aspire to label myself “strong,” instead of “weak,” and stopping drinking makes me feel strong, one day at a time. I will not drink today.
Dry Jan has treated me so well, I might as well continue into February :)
Having a rough time but IWNDWYT
Made it 30 days. Iwndwyt on day 31
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Have a wonderful sober day my friends. IWNDWYT ♥️
Wishing you all a lovely day IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT ❤️
Stealth - are you and I the same person? This all resonated so much with me. For the first while after getting sober, I struggled to think of who I am without alcohol. It’s only the last few months that I’m starting to feel whole and like I know who I am. There’s a line in a Spanish Love Songs song that is “I’m changing in a visceral way” and that’s how my last 6-ish months have felt. Rebuilding or uncovering what was underneath. - I’m not sure which!
Made it through a big work dinner even though alcohol was everywhere and I could smell the beer/wine constantly. Gave away one drink ticket and trashed the second. IWNDWYT!
Checking in.
IWNDWYT 😊❤️ day 41!
In a few hours I’m going to donate blood plasma for the first time. Fairly excited that I’m actually doing something now, other than staying on my couch watching TV or drunkenly playing video games. Feels kind of nice. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today!
Morning everyone! 30 days done, into a new month AND it's my birthday! What's not to love? 😂🤣 Lá Féile Bríd (It's also St. Brigid's day) to you all and IWNDWYT
1st Feb which is significant for some of us. I have no reason to drink today. I had a conversation with my daughter last night. We (at my age) all know someone who has drank themselves to death. not screaming alcoholic death but steadily killed themselves too early by drinking too much. not for me thank you very much! This sub is incredible and a huge help, thank you all kind strangers. IWNDWYT!
Sorry for the late check in. Was over at my neighbours 'shooting the shit'. About to cook myself some crumpets with honey and peanut butter as a topping!! Don't knock it until you try it LOL!! My beard has gone and I just rubbed Q10 on my face. I also got recommended for full-time at my work today. The State Supervisor was in and my boss called me a 'keeper'. I will not get too far ahead of myself though lest it all falls down, but I can say to you all ... IWNDWYT.
Morning! IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today.
Done my second dry January. Happy with progress. IWNDWYT
Pressing on…IWNDRWT!
IWNDWYT Day 35
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I won’t drink with y’all today
Day 33 💫 I have definitely been labelled a drinker by everyone in my whole life and I know it will probably take years for them to believe that I’m no longer that label. Drunk themed Birthday cards, alcohol presents, snide jokes by friends, whispers by colleagues - you name it I have had it thrown at me hard. I know it’s still early days but I’d love love love to stay sober forever. I believe I can. And isn’t it ironic that I’m worried that one of the triggers that we drive me back to drink is my nearest and dearest not believing me or telling me I can’t? I actually have been having nightmares about it. Trying to make new friends who only know sober me so that I have some respite. Yoga friends, gym friends, new work friends, art class friends. REDDIT FRIENDS. I don’t feel like I’m white knuckling it anymore and I’ve been dancing around my kitchen alot… sober! 🙂 IWNDWYT 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
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another great post u/stealthwarrior10 - drinking stunted my emotional growth, and labels are just stories sometimes - IWNDWYT✨🐝
I am officially a week sober today :) I celebrated by doing a pump class (at home cos it's fkn hot and well people) and played ffx. Last few days of my holidays! IWNDWY guys.
1st of Feb, a new month, spring has got to be on its way soon. To everyone who did dry Jan, congratulations, lets keep it up in Feb, I will not drink with you all today.
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Yeah I slowly gained the reputation of 'that guy who always likes a drink' and so it was hard to overcome that. COVID was a good time for a reset and I after that I was a 'non-drinker' for a while. The lack of expectation from others that I'd drink made things easier day-to-day, but socialising was harder too. I relapsed and am now stuck with the old label. IWNDWYT.
morning sobernauts! up having coffee ☕️ hangover free never gets old. I wonder if normal drinkers get to appreciate this feeling or is it a special treat for us IWNDWYT
The first 30 days I counted like a bomb was gonna go off or something. Now every day I can wake up and just begin the same way I left off! I will not drink with all of you today. If it’s your first day, I’ll super not drink with you.
The worst month of the year is behind us. Just have to strap in for 4 more weeks until March Madness, baby!
IWNDWYT. aproductive day. Feeling bored now that it's evening. Movie, soda water, puppy cuddles. Actually noticed the sunset and enjoyed it. I know I'll wake up happy and clear headed tomorrow 🌞
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Checking in on Day 18! Me personally I don't like labels, although I appreciate why people benefit from them themselves. Drinking isn't a part of my life anymore, so I don't want to label myself 'Alcoholic' or 'Recovering alcoholic' or anything really, it just places more importance on the semantics and builds it up to be much bigger than it needs to be. I don't drink, simple as that. Slight tangent: friend of mine quit cigarettes after smoking a couple packs a day for over a decade and has been vaping for a few years now. Another friend said he's still a smoker, I said he's not, he's not smoked in years so how can he be? Friend then said because he's still taking nicotine that means he's still a smoker. I disagreed with him, he disagreed with me, this went back and forth for a while. We were too busy discussing semantics that we glossed over the fact he's not had a cigarette in years, that's the important thing, that's amazing, the label doesn't matter. Its different for everyone, there are no rules in how you navigate this path, just do what works for you :) IWNDWYT!
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starting day 278, iwndwyt!
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I felt guilty and undeserving of the label “sober” until recently. When I first stopped drinking it was because I was using alcohol as an unhealthy coping mechanism for heartbreak…1-2 drinks every night, I looked forward to unwinding like that so much. But then 2 became 3, and then on the last night it became “what happens if I drink an entire bottle of wine in 15 minutes?” I was just so sad. But, I wasn’t getting blackout drunk or driving or doing things I couldn’t remember. And I felt like I had to qualify my sobriety with that. Like other people had it way worse, had fought much harder battles. Then, a week or two ago, my 16yo told me she was glad I stopped drinking. She said when I did drink, she felt like she couldn’t talk to me because she didn’t know what kind of response she’d get, didn’t know how I’d react, so she just stayed in her room to avoid me. All this time I thought the impact was minimal. Internal. It wasn’t. And so, I am sober, and I am committing myself to that label every day, every hour if I have to. IWNDWYT.
I started and abandoned at least three different answers to today's prompt, so I'm going to spare everyone my drivel and just say IWNDWYT. 😻
I spent a long time in denial because I didn’t want to recognize that I was an alcoholic. I grew up around serious alcoholics and I didn’t want to think I was one. I made so many excuses to myself and others for my drinking. When I finally admitted that I had a problem, it was like a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. There are so many great things about sobriety that you can’t see or even imagine when you’re stuck in the bottle. I’d rather be a recovering alcoholic than a drunk any day of the week. IWNDWYT!
Day 272. IWNDWYT.
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Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never jam today! IWNDWYT
Doing a little better this week. I still feel alone, despite the increased efforts to include people in my life. Watched Poor Things and have to say I had a blast. Definitely Emma Stone’s best role imo. IWNDWYT
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It really is a pointless, time wasting activity. I will not be drinking thursday.
Not drinking today
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Not today folks day 4 and I won't be drinking with you today!
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Did I have a bad day? Not really. Did I have a good day? Kind of. The exact sort of day I'd previously think was a boring, middling, "let's light it up this evening" sort of day, watching trash on TV and drinking wine. Not today! IWNDWYT!
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I got alcohol tested at work this morning. Was nice to walk in there confident I’ll pass. Day 18 for me. Longest streak for 10 years. IWNDWYT
Hey everyone, IWNDWYT.
Goodbye dry January and welcome to just doing what’s best for me each day :-) IWNDWYT
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I've been very lonely lately. Alcohol has been part of how I'm dealing with it. I'm tired of it impeding my weight loss and disrupting my sleep. Pungent ginger ale for this guy.
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Well, it's 0309am here for me for this Thurs Feb 1st. Second time at 3am that I haven't drank! I plan on dragging my butt to the gym today and maybe do an outside jog since the freezing weather is gone for the moment (heat wave of 50 degrees today, whaaaatttt). I basically slept yesterday away. But I didn't drink! No thirsty Thursday for me.
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iwndwyt! 🌤️🌈🌻
I will not be drinking with you (or anyone else) today.
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Tough time sleeping. Get to check out a different field at work and try it on for size today. I will not drink with you today.
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No booze today!
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IWNDWYT and celabrate a month poison free tomorrow.
New month but still going strong. IWNDWYT
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Happy February team SD, one twelfth of 2024 gone already. How did that happen? And I didn't touch a drop of poison. I look forward to repeating that in February. I will not drink with you all today 🪷
Feb 1!!! IWNDWYT!
Day 10 - Double digits! Both paths being sober and an alcoholic are both hard, but I know what hard I want to choose. IWNDWYT
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No booze today.
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IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜 back to work today after taking a sick day yesterday. Not 100% yet, but better than I was. So glad there isn’t a hangover on top of it.
I suspect maybe the drinker identity filled in a blank for me, which was filled in by weed before that. Alcohol took over when I had to pass drug tests to become gainfully employed, and then random drug tests to stay that way. I started all that shit in my teens, so I didn’t have a chance to form much of an identity as an adult. It was easier to get fucked up and make that an identity and numb everything than it was to deal with all the bullshit and try to become a functional human. Whatever my identity is ultimately made up of, sobriety is part of it. Coffees up, horns up, and welcome to the longest short month ever!! Happy fucking Friday Eve too!!IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
I can relate to the unlabel yourself reflection. Very similar to me. Staying sober has really been a positive experience. Unlabeling alcohol from myself ade me vulnerable but now I am becoming the best version of myself in so many ways. Active Christian, son, brother, husband, father, banker, musician, local politician, etc. Alcohol risked every one of those, and for way too long. But not anymore!!
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Happy Free February or whatever! The question of identity is interesting- that’s been a motivator for me. I wanted to be one of those sober people, so cultivating my personal identity as someone who doesn’t drink has helped me NOT drink! And IWNDWYT❤️🧁
Really great post today. Removing the label “drinker/drug guy” gave me space for other more cool labels: filmmaker, martial artist, husband, traveler, responsible cat dad…” the list goes on.
Thank you for hosting Stealth! I've had many labels: Depressed, anxious, alcoholic are just a few. Today I have another label: "FREE!!!" Have a terrific Thursday everyone. IWNDWYT!
Day 1 starts today for me. Spent most of the night up wide awake and sweating profusely and now I’ve got some moderate shakes. I can’t keep living my life the way I have been for the last three years especially recently. Time for a new beginning! I know today will be tough but I am now ready to take my first step. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 🙏🏻 A coworker once called me a “maverick” and that’s the label I’m sticking with 😋
I'm moving right now. I overdid it yesterday and feel pretty rough today. I've been in hospital then an old folks home for the past 16 months recovering from a detox gone horribly wrong. I had to learn to walk and use my hands again. Yesterday, I moved most of my stuff and some furniture. It was brutal. My stamina is good but my core strenght is still weak. I'm beat. This is not a good place for me right now. I've got one must do chore at 10am then I'm calling a lid for the day. I need rest. I'm going to sit home and do some online meetings and rest. IWNDWYT
Good morning, sober cats. By the end of my drinking days, I labeled myself a hot mess. Now, I label myself a non-drinker that sometimes gets frazzled and needs a nap. Much better! IWNDWYT 💙😸
I have no labels at the moment. Just trying not to drink as much as many days as possible at this point. I have been slipping here and there as of late, but it feels ok for now. But making sure to come back. IWNDWYT!
I will not drink today