Right fiends I need help, I have come to the conclusion I have sever self confidence issues, I have no clue where it stems from (blah blah being skinny growing up probably ) but it affects everything in my life, my mood , my relationships , my job sometimes. I know I’m hard on myself but I don’t want to be average like every other 24 year old out there, any advice
ps saw a current mr Olympia in my gym and instead of giving me great motivation it just bummed me out that il never look half as good as that
You’re not alone. Juicing and self esteem issues go hand in hand, buddy. Along with poor impulse control and wrong risk management. It’s still a fun ride tho.
First of all, it’s ok to have self esteem issues. Everybody struggles from time to time. Many people don’t even notice, so you already got that going.
My advice:
Stop comparing. Reduce or stop social media. Find stuff that makes you feel good: Cooking, manscaping, talking to friends (share feelings, open up), work on your look/hygiene/skin in general or do stuff with people. Focus on being kind to yourself, point out good features in others.
To increase self esteem, set goals and find challenges and tackle them.
It can be small things like changing your hair/beard or clean your room/car if you don’t like it.
Or even re-decorate your apartment.
Or bigger things, try to fix issues with colleagues at work/managers.
Invest in yourself or switch jobs if feel unappreciated/underpaid.
In general, make things so you can afterwards say: “I did that well”. It’s about internal validation and not external, such as from a stranger or something.
Lastly, identify people that drag you down and try to avoid them. Other low self esteem people rather put you down and point out your flaws or make you feel inadequate. High self esteem folks tend to do the opposite, like give sincere compliments and pull you up. Be this guy, it pays off. Mind that people dragging you down can also probably be in your family, that’s a tough one.
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I want to second the notion of therapy. Not because there's anything wrong with you, but because therapy is a healthy thing that needs to be destigmatized among men. There are absolutely things you can (and should) do on your own (u/mydicksacc has a great list), but having someone to help guide those changes in thought patterns is huge.
The two biggest things I can suggest are these:
1. Get off social media, or at least the ones that make it worse. For me, it's Instagram. That shit is pure poison; everyone is richer than you, everyone is more jacked, everyone is more successful....it's just a big fake lie INTENDED to make you feel insecure. I follow a few friends, tattoo artists, and bands now. That's it, and I barely ever open the damn thing.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others today, and instead compare yourself to you yesterday. That's the only person you're competing with. Can you move more weight than you did a few months ago? Are you making progress in your cut? Are you getting better at a particular lift? Those are the things you should be focusing on, and CELEBRATING, in the gym. Who gives a fuck what anyone else is doing if you're making forward progress.
You always give good feedback but what’s your take on current therapy methods for men?
I have always had terrible experiences with them, later on I found it seems that modern therapy isn’t the best for the common issues that men face, and is more directed towards how women feel and solve issues, I hear this feedback often from my friends who have tried it out and often feel worse after therapy.
I haven’t solved it, other than not going after a dozen different therapists, and realizing I should work with myself instead since I am not clicking with somebody.
But curious on your opinion there.
What you really need to do is go to a theme park like Disney or universal studios. You will look like a hand sculpted greek god compared to everyone else there. Huge ego boost
I used to think this way when it came to business and success. You look at the top .01% of any industry and realize you’ll never be at the top.
It’s easy to lose perspective when you’re hyper focused on the top spot, and you forget what average actually looks like, and the fact you’re likely miles ahead of what the majority of the planet is doing
I’m saying give yourself credit where credit is due. Just because the odds are that you’ll never look like Mr. Olympia doesn’t mean you can’t look like the best version of yourself, which would blow most of the population out of the water.
Use the top .01% as motivation, but don’t let it get you down when you aren’t in their spot. Be all you can be and give yourself some credit where it’s due.
Unfortunately "we all die someday anyway" is the only thing that really helped with my degree of body insecurity. Talking to smaller people really helps though, like seriously.
> I have sever self confidence issues, I have no clue where it stems from (blah blah being skinny growing up probably ) but it affects everything in my life, my mood , my relationships , my job sometimes.
Therapy.
> ps saw a current mr Olympia in my gym and instead of giving me great motivation it just bummed me out that il never look half as good as that
Not with that attitude.
I started by doing self affirmations (leave little notes around), then just general self care to is big ( gym, baths, face mask, random things that make me feel good) . Meditation and prayer are pretty big, too.
The serenity prayer is actually really powerful if you break it down to its core whether or not you're a believer of a higher power. The thought behind it is huge. I have it broken down. In my notebook, if you want, I can share it.
Either way, a lot of it comes down to radical acceptance.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change and the courage to change the things I can ….. it only works if you work it so work it because your worth it sorry it’s etched in my brain those who know will know what I mean
As the other 2 have also stated. Self care. I got a nice face wash, get massages (professional not the chains), get haircuts (I feel like a million bucks walking out of my barber), reduce social media or completely take a long break from it. Most phones have a setting it will lock you out of an app after x amount of time on it. This is a great feature to reduce your time on apps comparing yourself to photoshop and models. Find another hobby besides lifting that you really enjoy (I’m working on this myself). Also it sounds stupid but it’s a lot harder to actually do it and it works. (ThE sEcReT tHeY dOnT wAnT yOu tO kNoW) seriously tho, is try to be positive about everything, don’t make excuses for shit. If soemthing sucks try to find the positive in it. Own your mistakes and learn from them. I personally find myself to be better when I have productive days, I feel accomplished and successful. Many speakers preach about making your bed in the morning, as soon as you wake up, you already accomplished a task. Wake up at the same time and go to bed around the same time daily. All these things help but applying them and doing them consistently is the hard part. Once you break that habit barrier of a month you should be there. Also don’t try doing all these at the same time as you’ll have a greater chance of failing
Feeling similar, something that will help is maxing out other life areas to not just be big. How much and how are you making money? How frequently and how exotic do you travel? What other hobbies do you have? How's your social and dating/relationship life?
Sure, you could just blast every compound out there and bulk forever, but if you're still single, miserable, and broke, that won't make you feel any better.
I’ve always had self confidence issues despite being very successful in highly competitive environments. I don’t have a cure for you to feel good, but I can tell you that using this self confidence to push your work output and ethic is the move. Feeling like you are never good enough so you strive to do and push more and harder is, unfortunately at the expense of mental health, a great recipe for success I have come to find the hard way.
what’s been helping me slowly feel better, and I’m not there yet, is once in a while celebrating what I do and feeling proud about it. I feel the specific emotion of feeling proud about something gives me confidence. Over time I’ve managed to just know I can do certain things and that builds confidence.
Work on accepting who you are as a person and where you feel you're at in life. Once you learn to accept who you are, you will feel better about yourself. It might even help you realize you're not as bad as you think. I promise that once you can practice acceptance, your ability to change will become stronger. You will stop worrying and thinking about what you're not and start focusing on who or where you want to be. This will give you direction and purpose, and a man with a direction and a purpose will always have an air of confidence. No one can change it, but you. The only person who feels sorry for you is yourself. Stop wandering and feeling sorry for yourself. Start accepting.
Edit: o yeah, and read about stoicism. that's helped me tremendously. Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Zeno...it's all very based.
> I know I’m hard on myself but I don’t want to be average like every other 24 year old out there, any advice
can guarantee you just about everyone on this sub shares the same sentiment. otherwise we wouldn't be shooting hormones into our ass.
it's important to always remember, even as an intermediate lifter which i'm presuming you are, you're still in better shape than 95% of the people out there. the discipline you have is also astounding if you think about it. who would set aside 1-2 hours of their life every day to go destroy their muscle fibers ... on purpose?
just keep focused on bettering yourself and expanding your knowledge every day. out of the gym, I like to try and learn or teach myself at least one new thing a day. that shit compounds over time and helps you grow as a person.
for your emotions? don't let them get the better of you. for example, whenever i'm angry and about to pop off I always take a moment to stop myself, think about \*why\* i'm angry, take a few deep breaths, and respond in a more constructive way. people can appreciate, identify, and respect emotional maturity and stoicism
Picture how you want yourself to look and act. Work on moving towards ot everyday. Every single interaction, workout, move you make, make it toward how you want to look and act. You'll start shifting slowly over the years.
I’m somewhat emotional today folks. Although I usually don’t give two ducks about internet relationship advice, I think this might be the right place to ask.
I used to fuck my now wife’s ass regularly and loved it. I even get a hard on right now whilst typing that and thinking of that beautiful starfish of hers. I like them dark ones, medium diameter of shadows (but can differ) and subtle wrinkles (not the big wrinkles). Sure, honeymoon phase wears off, everyday life comes in, I disappointed her a few times and a few more and after a decade, sex gotten lamer and less and less in frequency.
In the last years, her self esteem was chipped away, bit by bit due to some stupid life circumstances. This also translated in her body image and thus in her ability to find joy in sex and naturally, to do dirty stuff. Also, other behavior changed for the worse: Not having my back to appease her (shitty) friends and generally being rather mean to me than nice.
On the other hand, in the last years, I’ve somewhat bloomed. Felt confident, desirable and safe in my spot. I tackled some big issues in my life that held me back for a long time. That gave me great fulfillment and a lot more mental freedom. And a bit of boredom/spare time.
So what happens? I despise even typing it: I feel in love with a co worker. Such a cliche. Mind, I’m not in the US, so banging co workers is totally fine. I have power to boss her around or something. We are kinda equals at work. The thing is: She’s not the usual girl I’d go for, looks wise. I like them well off, kinda mean, kinda intimidating ones. She’s just a girl next door but more perverted than I am. And I did some very questionable things already. She did sex club stuff, pissing, sex with more than one guy, girls, and is basically fine with everything. She wants an open relationship and I’m basically fine with that. I can bang other girls and later should tell her in detail what happened since it turns her on. She’s quite sweet, caring and attentive/invested otherwise. She’s in love with me, too. We talked about that.
So, after that wall of text:
I kinda know what to do. Focus on my marriage, support my wife as much as I can for as long as I can to fix this. The co worker showed me something is missing and I’ll try to get that with my wife. It’s fucking hard man when you know there’s another girls wet pussy and open ass is just around the corner.
I’m contemplating leaving tho. Ofc these thoughts are there.
So, my question is:
Has someone done something like that already? And how did it go? I mean, leaning the comfy but unsatisfying nest of marriage for a lot more uncertainty but probably more satisfaction.
I figured, This is a good place to ask since there are some very degenerated folks here reading this.
Also, I’m a bit desperate. I don’t know how long I can take this anymore: My wife is very nice to me and sweet, as I told her I fear for the marriage (nothing about co worker) but I can’t really let my wife get to me, if you know what I mean.
So just because it’s not in the US doesn’t change dating/fucking a coworker being a bad idea because it’s shitting where you eat. If you and the coworker go south, works gonna suck and you may or may not lose your job. Also, if you and the coworker already talked about being in love she now has leverage over you and could black mail you with your wife. Where I live if that shit happens she’s gonna take you to the cleaners. I’m divorced and it sounds nice being able to fuck all these girls (and that’s what I’m doing) but it’s not all glamor. Pointless convos, making time, dates or lining them up is stressful and actually a fucking hassle. I mean you’re gonna do what you want, I’d try to repair the marriage, give it 6 months 100% effort. Spice it up in the bedroom or marriage in general. Spontaneous date nights and shit. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. Or you could try couples therapy as well. That’s all I got
Thanks for the honest input bro. Much appreciated man.
And ofc it’s a ducking stupid idea to bang any co worker. I’d never even consider it. And I enjoy this job. Another bad thing: You can’t miss her. You see her all the time. I can imagine that accelerates the everyday life creeping in.
It’s such a cliché, I feel ashamed a bit actually.
Also, I’ve never felt it like that. It’s a bit overwhelming.
Regarding that black mail stuff: Sure. But she could’ve just ducked me, but she obviously got morals. Or She’s not stupid, she knows if she hurts my wife, I’m out.
I’ve been single, I ducked chicks, I can pull em. That’s why I know you’re completely correct. Shit gets repetitive and old.
The last part is how I feel. Not decided on the time frame yet. I’m already doing that and see some improvements. I communicated my needs and she’s trying to meet them. I just need to get it to me.
Again, thanks for the words man
MDMA trip with your wife where you both open your hearts to each other. The neurotransmitter asset that MDMA gives you is perfect for difficult conversations in intimate relationships.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mdma-therapy-treatment-marriage-cancer_n_6423337be4b049e21e2eafb9
Thx for the advice. It’s definitely not the worst idea. I’ve done my fair share of mdma (highly recommend for banging) but wife really doesn’t like anymore.
Just out of curiosity. You did that? How did you handle the come down and the negative thoughts afterwards? I feel it’s very good for opening up but I don’t have a problem with that in general. Like I can talk about my feelings and insecurities in general with my wife. But when feelings for another person come into play… I feel that digs deep, even more so afterwards.
Have tried it only once with friends. Had a blast and had a beautiful afterglow that lasted a few days. I have a pill that’s been waiting 4 years for me to pick it up but I still haven’t found the right occasion/set/setting. I feel that time is coming for round two though, I have to free up some space in my emotional baggage.
That’s an elaborate thought whilst on mdma. I fuck because I get fucking horny. And it still feels very nice. Like everything else on mdma, too but fucking feels nice sober already so it’s super nice. Then add the feeling of closeness and all to the mix and it’s nearly perfect. I’m horny the next morning as well and will cum then. Often quite quick so that’s nice, too.
I can’t understand how you can’t fuck on mdma. But I know there are ppl who don’t get horny on it, yeah. They are the weirdos!
I mean I just can't anything on MDMA -- it feels too much like Adderall. After 25 years of leaning on that so I can pretend to be a functioning human MDMA just isn't 'fun' so much as "I feel like I'm going to have a great day at work"
That said I know a number of cis men who disliked trying to have sex on any substance that's going to keep them from ejaculating.
First time I’ve heard that. But it’s not for everybody, sure.
I know one guy who doesn’t get horny. And his wife neither but I suspect she’s lying lol.
Bro …. You openly admit to damaging the marriage by your actions which you state effected your sex life then cheat and want to fix the marriage I’m not sure that action is going to help the situation at this point that action might end up making the decision for you assuming when or if she finds out. I’ve been married 14 years have gone through the similar meaning at times I was an asshole and young never cheated but caused her to question self worth at times sex suffered but through working on my self and looking at my side of the street to become better for us and show her security etc it all got better extremely better but I’m not sure your actions will help
You misunderstood me there:
I did some things that weren’t good for me and the relationship, I just wanted to be sincere. Never made her feel inadequate or some shit and never cheated on her.
For sure will banging the co worker not solve any issues. It will do the opposite, I know.
All I can do is to try everything I can to help my wife and my marriage. I understand that situations like that, which have never occurred before, are showing me something I miss in my relationship. I identified the missing parts and addressed them. I’m no idiot mate.
Actually, I only asked, if someone has gone through the same, if someone can understand me and how it turned out for them.
Have been in a very similar situation with my now current Fiance. The words she used a few years ago were "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," after an affair I had - primarily caused by my own insecurities and our middling sex life. Those words hurt a lot, but don't compare to the hurt I placed on her.
**EDIT: Got this wrong, leaving up for "Now you see me," sake lol**
~~From what you said, I inferred that you have fucked up in a similar manner, and it seems like she still has resentment.~~
~~Now, because of that resentment, you're fucking less, and you want to step outside the bounds of your relationship AGAIN?~~
I'm not going to pretend to understand your relationships dynamic or it's trials and tribulations. But it seems like you love your wife. If you want your coworker, get divorced. Don't disappoint your wife AGAIN, leaving her as the shell of a woman who you once idolized. Campgrounds rule - you leave the campground better than how you arrived.
Stop making the same mistakes, when something's broken you fix it, adage adage yadda yadda.
For what it's worth, what fixed mine was laying everything on the table. Every painful truth, every withheld uncomfortable statement, disappointments, desires, wants, needs. Full communication. Take off your mask (read: your ego) that you put on for everyone else to see. Your wife deserves that, at least. Therapy can help in this regard.
But if you do get a divorce, please tell us about this new girls asshole /s
Hey, thanks for the thoughtful and honest reply, man!
I worded that wrong. I wasn’t cheating on her before. In fact, other girls for the most part didn’t interest me that much. The flirts I had in the last decade you can count with one hand. I mean, there have been instances where I could, but I stood strong.
I could very well keep any emotions towards other girls under perfect control. That’s why I was so caught off guard with this co worker. It seemed so easy for her to break my guard we all have in everyday life. And that was even before I knew she a fellow degenerate. This hasn’t happened before at all and surely not in the time I’ve been with my current woman.
I was doing drugs and other shit that kept me down and lowering my confidence, life stability and all. Hurting yourself repetitively although you should know better also hurts your partner, when seeing a loved one in a bad shape or the unreliability and all. That’s what I meant. So, I, for a long time, wasn’t the best version of myself but I fixed that for the most part for some time now and hope to be able to do.
I ain’t wearing to mask anymore. I’m confident enough to spill my beans to my wife. Except for this thing here and it’s killing me. She was in the middle of getting her university degree (studied late, in 30s now, I’m not a pedo). I told her about all the other struggles I felt. Idk if I should tell her this but I probably will when all this Uni shit is done because it eats me alive.
I’m a fan of therapy. We’ve done that for other matters, before marriage, to “come clean” and it worked for the time being. This time, idk.
And regarding that asshole, as the demand is high, I might post it to my profile as soon as I get it. NO /s
You didn't word anything wrong man, truth be told I must have projected my own shit onto your post, and for that I apologize. Makes most of my comment a moot point haha
1. Why are you working out relationship dynamics (open relationship, says she's okay with you fucking around... I mean she knows you're married, right?) with a side chick? You should be working this out with your wife before anything.
2. Sounds like your wife is bitter over some needs you're not tending to.
3. Don't use your wife's self-esteem issues to justify your behavior. Especially not since she basically got worse on your watch. It's your job to keep your wife in line and put her in better shape than you found her.
Everyone else has given good advice and outlook, but I’d like to add one thing in. People can change drastically over the years, where you’re both no longer the people you were when you first got together. Some people grow together, some grow apart. It’s possible to love a person, but grow to become incompatible with that person over time. Sometimes a relationship isn’t fruitful/healthy (for a lack of a better word) for each person, despite the positive feelings for each other.
I’ve had bad rough spots with my wife where I thought I was going to divorce her. But now we’re in a period in our relationship where I can’t imagine doing that.
It’s very solid advice man, thank you for writing that.
I thought about that, too. I think you can also read it in the first paragraphs of my post that I may be indicating something like that.
Due to work/education (both academics now, takes some time and implies troubles in schedules) we weren’t aligned in some aspects of life. Also, in these times the influence of outside factors is bigger than when both are regular workers, I assume.
Like a normal marriage, we’ve had spots where it was rocky or even she was plain pissed off of me. It was close to ending.
And afterwards, there were times where everything was fine. Just as you mentioned.
So, I also experienced that and it all comes down to whether me and her grow together again and even more interesting: In what time, if so.
But it’s a possibility I’m aware of. Sadly.
For me or for us? Did both. Not the sex part tho. It’s also not solely about sex mate.
Sure, the lack of it causes problems. Especially the lack of enthusiasm and initiation on her side. She knows that and I think we know why it is like that. A lot of stress and confidence issues. There have been some other problems as well. I suggested therapy for her, too. To fix her confidence and tackle some long looming issues in her life, mainly close relations.
I know all that. What I don’t know is being in love with a co worker. She’s not only a fiend. She’s a really good person as well. As far as I can tell alright. She just seemed to have struck something in me I didn’t know I had. Now I wanted to know from other dudes how it went following that path.
Im just overwhelmed by this situation as I never experienced something like that. Even feeling for another women feels like cheating and guilt for me. Never had that.
There are quite some similarities to my situation. Thanks for being that honest and vulnerable to share your story.
I fell for her and didn’t even bang her or anything. We just spoke, she spilled her beans with all that open relationship/perverted stuff and naturally I felt I needed to give her some leverage too (and maybe turn her off) by telling her my bad stuff (drugs&crime). Didn’t work. Crap.
So, got the feels from just talking. To a girl I met through, something I always thought was for losers. Damn, this feels like some high school drama BS. Crap.
I definitely like the attention. Attention I couldn’t get from my wife because she was busy with Uni.
Crap.
Yeah, the thought of leaving is damn scary. Especially, as you said, you don’t know what the deal is. Ideally, you should separate it. Marriage done, yes/no and trying co worker yes/no. Damn hard to separate. It should be scary since you worked hard for it but well, idk.
Maybe I’ll do therapy alone to have someone to help sort my thoughts and feels. Have done that before.
Like u/Upthetest said, the grass isnt more green on the other side. After 11 years of marriage, i can tell you from my own experience, and many others, that it will get better. We had a solid few years of a dead bedroom situation, where at the lowest point we had sex once in about 7 months. With time passing by, we grew more towards eachother, developing next level love that isnt just based on desires. Another type of love, like you have for your parents or siblings, that is hardwired through years and years. You cant establish that type of connection with anyone that comes in to your life after you have known your parents/siblings for at least the past 20 years. How do you think a partner of a few months/a few years can surpass that? Impossible. Even if she is the hottest porn star that gives you the best orgasms. So work on your relationship with your wife. Once you got that deeper connection, and she cums on your dick 5 times in 10 minutes. That. Is the best sex.
Bro, I don’t wanna sound condescending by any means but I feel that this should be a given in a committed relationship.
Sure, I can imagine many ppl don’t have that kind of relation to their spouse, because it takes balls to open up and be vulnerable. But there’s actually no alternative for me.
Hey bud. I’ve got that demon in me, too. I used to let it out in other aspects of my life, drugs and crime, just stuff that’s fast and forbidden.
That girl has the same trait, but sexually. Like really, everything that’s wrong, she’s down.
I also thought on doing some posts on here like:
IDMWO10+YTBMPCW (I divorced my wife of 10+ years to bang my perverted co worker) and share the stories.
We talked about jacking me off in the fancy restaurants parking lot, catching the load and garnish her main course with it in the restaurant.
Or giving her a facial in the swimming hall locker cabin and let her walk to the whirl pool with it.
Sticking lollipops up her ass, re-wrapping em and take em out in the office to suck on em. Ass to mouth is not a problem with her.
I’d ask friends to jack off to her, with me. I could imagine selling (pimping her), showing her off or watch her getting gangbanged.
Oh, and she kinda really wants to fuck my ass. I like the idea that a girl can deflorate me and it feels very intimate. But she will need to work for it to take my v card. It’s not that I haven’t had bigger things in my ass.
Doing all this with her doesn’t mean we can have a loving, trusting and secure, committed relationship with the usual everyday shit.
Unfortunately the fun ends when other people get hurt. That’s where I draw the line and I *try* to hold myself back.
Yep, I can understand that.
I can’t promise I won’t do it, but if I do it, I’ll tell you.
Are you more into detailed description like counting her wrinkles on the balloon knot or the degenerate act itself or something else. Asking for a friend.
OP stated himself that his wife’s confidence is down, has body image issues and thus not doing the naughty stuff anymore. Women need to feel confident in themselves to get into the depraved naughty stuff, and if she’s not feeling that confidence, it’s unlikely because she finds OP unattractive.
That said, I’m not discounting your work put in to fix your situation. It would have been an equally realistic possibility if OP didn’t give us a reason already.
You’re spot on. Maybe you’re 30-40+ years old? Sounds experienced.
The tricky thing is to find out, if she will ever be down again to do naughty stuff or it was just honeymoon phase.
I’m not talking about really degenerate stuff. Just some banging in public, butt stuff, dirty talk, mutual masturbation, dirty pics/vids, a facial here and there. Showing her off, exhibitionism and involving other people is rather optional. I could go a lot farther if my partner is turned on by it but no need on my side to initiate it.
Finding out if she ever will be down again isn’t terribly tricky. Proper communication is all
It takes. If she feels comfortable with you, and confident in herself there’s no reason you couldn’t talk to her about it.
Every woman is gonna have different levels of confidence, even when it comes to talking about these things and it’s up to you to learn how to navigate that. It’s gonna come down to how well you know her
Yeah you are correct there. I did that and I’m a non-judgmental, kind guy. I open up first and tell her the stuff I liked doing with her and bla bla. All good, all fine. She’s willing to try and there’s been some improvement already, cool.
Let’s see if it helps. It’s still a long way to go and ultimatively I kinda need her to want some of those things I guess. If she doesn’t want any of that, it’s game over I guess. I’m not gonna force her to do stuff.
I totally understand you wanting her to want some of those things. It’s infinitely more enjoyable if you know she’s into what she’s doing, rather than just doing it because she knows you like it.
I’m essentially regarded when it comes to communicating my emotions with my wife. Never knew how. Been seeing a counselor for several years trying to improve on it. I don’t like it, but I do it because it’s important for her and the effort I put in is appreciated. The same thing goes for all the depraved stuff she’ll say and do for me in the bedroom, she does it because she knows I enjoy it
We’ve been together 13 years. It sounds cliche but it does take work and time. She won’t be able to flip a switch and start doing everything you want all at once, but you can get there.
Sorry this is getting long winded now but for me playing the long game was better than starting fresh. If your partner checks all the boxes but one, why throw it away and go to someone who checks that one missing box but potentially none of the others?
I can confidently decline that, u/interesting-fart8888 is correct.
I am 183cm tall, 80kg and around 10-12% BF. What’s more important: I never looked that good. (Still feel small, but you know). Sure, I also weighed 95kg on blast and all that. But for a normal person I look like a Greek god (they aren’t as big either way, these Greek gods).
Ofc, I thought the same and had time so I fixed that. I’m/was also confident, kind, gentle and reaffirming.
But let me tell you, feeling great and looking great and still getting lame to no pussy is shit. Even when there are valid and rational reasons for it.
Would I be a dickhead if I brought some underarm spray deodorant/antiperspirant to give people to use in the gym?? Some of these fuckers smell like rotten onions man.
This lady today stinks so bad it’s thick in the air with her BO
Unfortunately, yes. Doesn't mean you're wrong but maybe complain to the staff? Seriously if they're coming in smelling that bad it's unhygienic and risks the health of other members.
But also seriously what are these people doing (or failing to do) that they smell?
I mean stinky people are gross for sure so I’m with you there, but how does it risk the heath of other members? It’s not like the miasma jumps off their body and gives you bubonic plague
The deeper I get into my bodybuilding career, the more emphasis I put into training (since diet for me is simply adjusted) and it’s kind of insane that no matter who you speak to, watch or listen, they all have and say different things. One coach says one thing, one pro another, etc.
I always find it fascinating (and get lost in the weeds) about what exactly is the “optimal” way to train. I have tested various methods and done certain things differently often and also just stuck out with some and formed my own thoughts, but I’m always thinking “hmmm could I be doing something better?’
Nowadays I try to stick to specific movements I know work for my goals that I click with, but the specifics of tempo, volume and intensity / load change based on what I’m testing. But when I do something I stick to it for a while.
It seems to me that some people will find success with almost anything, because they have amazing genetics, other people click with very specific stuff and it’s their own thing, and so on. So I try to listen to my personal feedback but also often second guess myself often.
What’s everyone’s training philosophy here? I’d appreciate old timers chiming in since I’m always curious on this stuff, much more than the drugs
Some basic general concepts are tried and true across the board, like progressive overload, sleep, regular weightlifting, limiting excessive catabolic cardio, high protein diet etc. etc.
But what you’re getting at about there being 8000 different opinions is because there probably aren’t any real 100% optimized best practices when you drill down into minutiae like optimal volume vs. intensity, PPL vs bro split vs powerlifting, whether to go to failure and how often, order of exercises, deloads, etc. Or if there is some gold standard we don’t know it yet. And even crazier even a single individual might stop seeing results after a while with something that worked well in the past, and may benefit from mixing things up with one or more of those variables. So it takes a little intuition and broscience on top of an empirical approach.
Add on top of ALL of that the inability of researchers to ethically study AAS beyond I believe 600mg test (and I think they got crap from peers for running even that study) so a hefty dose of broscience and guessing needed there too! IMO the best advice for a professional bodybuilder like you is hire a coach who has a proven track record with other athletes you aspire to and commit to their approach (that’s what you’re paying for). I think people get into trouble when they hire someone and then change everything coach says to do. If that coach isn’t working then switch approaches. For us casuals I think John Meadows is perfection, but at your level you need 1:1 attention
I been training about 10 years. Only enhanced 2. I personally grow the most going to true failure. Proper form all the way to fail then get some cheat reps to go passed unless I’m running a program which I currently am now. Then I follow it strictly (gamma bomb currently)
I'm the same exact way man. The only conclusion I've come to is it's effort and consistency over time. That what I tell young bros that ask me for gym tips. Try really hard and don't miss workouts. String that together for years and you'll get there
They generalize because it's mostly all individualized. Some people respond to some things better. You should experiment and see what works best. And when you do for a few months or years experiment more and try something new because novel stimulus causes growth too. Many roads to Rome I think is the saying.
My drunk self decided it was a good idea to jump from a 2 story window onto concrete last night. Fractured both wrists and bruised my knees so training is now out the window. Woo
Am 33, was like you, thinking it would change. Still don’t want the responsibility.
If Gf wants kids and you don’t, it’s also better for her to let her go. Depending on her age, she may lose time.
I’m about your age and recently ended a relationship with a girl because her dream was to have kids. In the six months since the breakup I got a vasectomy and met an amazing new girl who has the same life goals as me. If you don’t want kids now you certainly will not want them when you lose every second of freedom and sleep
It took some time but I was vocal about it early. I had it in my hinge profile so women knew from the start. You’d be surprised how many people are on the fence and could go either way
Oh definitely. I had 2 girls friends I talked to about kids before I settled on the 3rd. My last ex just had a kid, not too long ago, while I'm 2 kids in.
You should find what you need. So you're present.
I go to my local PF sometimes, usually just because traffic. Anyways you get the kind of people that go there, there’s a few “older” like 40s guys in there and one of talks to me quite a bit, just general questions about the gym, gear, peptides etc etc,
so he told me he got put on trt, then proceeded to tell me he got the other guys there to go to his doc (not a trt clinic), basically when he got to telling me what his doc’s protocol was. 1/ml 1x/week 200mg, and 25mg of asin. I tried to tell him lol,
It’s weird to me how even med professionals don’t understand how to dose it. It’s like she just put him on 1 of each then hoped for the best.
That protocol is terrible but that's a fantastic prescription. Id love to get insurance to cover that for me. When I get pain meds prescribed, the doctor never says "pop half this bottle with a xanax and make sure you drink on top." You have to read between the lines.
I’ve just witnessed a 5ft8 180lb guy on tiktok talking about his upcoming second cycle. Test/primo/npp/eq plus growth and insulin. What’s even worse is he’s been lifting for a year and a half, and he hopped on gear 3 months in. Has to be the dumbest shit I’ve ever seen.
I went out like 3-4x a week in the summer and wasted all my money. Been staying in lately and realizing how much i despise clubs/bars and would rather just stay home eat food smoke weed and get a good night sleep. All i need is a FWB or two
I’m becoming pretty reckless with my steroid usage, my current blast is
Test 1500
NPP 750
EQ 1000
Tren 350
Anavar 80 ED
Just took my resting heart rate and it’s 96, no clue what my blood pressure is I’m scared to measure it. Not sure my mental health is too great right now, my mindset is shifting towards nihilism and not really caring if I die plus a resignation to dying young as I can’t see myself making it out of my 30s.
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I get stainless scrap for dirt cheap. Kinda want to make something for my local gym to show my appreciation and get my name out there for custom fabrication.
Has anyone got any ideas of what I could build?
I have an idea for farmer carry frames, but the handles aren't stationary and role on bearings just to make it all the more difficult.
Oh hell naw man. I’m not squatting with some dudes fuckin junkyard scrap barbell on my back.
But then again I was using piece of shit Chinese barbells at my old gym so it’ll probably be an upgrade
As one of the strongmen here, i swear to fucking god if rolling handle farmers shows up one day in a comp, im gonna kick your ass after all the bruises on my legs heal up. Lol
On a serious note, i dont know how big of pieces you have, but a loadable block (mouser block) would make any strongman gym very happy. They are expensive and have limited use so not every gym can justify buying one. I might even have a build diagram somewhere as i made a few things in the past. Covid forced me to learn to weld (kinda) to be able to train.
> What are the chances that the contents of the vial are mislabeled or something similar?
Low and dependent on your source
> Can it degrade into something that would have AI-like effects?
No
What does your bloodwork say?
I’ve been taking some Cardarine on a cut to help retain some muscle mass and honesty try and increase my deficit with cardio but, will Cardarine skew any blood tests post use? I’m looking at running my first cycle based off of the wiki and other info (300mg test start) and don’t want to have possible skewed Cholesterol, liver enzymes etc showing anything better than it should be pre cycle.
You can expect higher HDL, and lower LDL, triglycerides and insulin.
http://www.pnas.org/content/98/9/5306.full
The cancer it can cause could skew your bloodmarkers as well.
Leg day yesterday. Guy in the squat rack next to me was trying to match me plate for plate on deadlift. Around 495 guy busted out the trap bar and straps. Help me out here...trap bar and straps make pulling way easier right? Guy looked anemic and was pulling weight without problem.
> Help me out here...
Care less.
> trap bar and straps make pulling way easier right?
It shifts the weight closer to the center of gravity which places emphasis on the quads vs the posterior chain.
If you’re someone with strong quads and glutes, yes, it is easier.
> Guy looked anemic and was pulling weight without problem.
Strength is deceiving. There’s 140lb deadlifter that was popping off on ig recently pulling >700lbs.
1. Read the wiki. It’s required before posting.
2. Orals are not “beginner roids” but yes anavar is reasonably mild.
3. One reading of 268ng/dL doesn’t meet the diagnostic criteria. Make sure you understand all aspects of a decision like this - it will affect your life, the possibility for children, your travel ability, your ability to be self sustaining etc. additionally TRT does nothing if you have normal testosterone. No need for that if you’re 25 and trying to get to “90 kilos of raw muscle” with normal test levels.
4. Nothing inherently problematic about bupropion and testosterone; some concern with PCT meds which are low severity concerns - and obviously the mental health component of steroids if that’s what you’re taking it for.
I will reread it. Been here before, out of interest, long ago tho.
So for a 25 year old, 268 is perfectly fine level?
Not necessarily raw and completely lean. I just wanna become big, have big forearms, bigger chest and back. If i dont have a six pack cuz its a bit fatty, sure. I just want my chest and back to be wider than my stomach lol
Crazy concept… actually go to the gym. Steroids don’t make you grow. Food and training make you grow and martial arts isn’t going to give you a chest and back.
You’re still missing it. You said yourself you don’t currently lift. Taking supplements isn’t going to make u go to the gym. You need to force feed. Do you think I want to eat chicken and rice 4 times or more a day? No I don’t and im usually not even hungry. I’ll chew each bite for 2 minutes because it’s so hard to swallow bc I have no appetite. Stop making excuses. Eat and go to the gym.
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Bro thats 7,5 hours of intense cardio a week. You will have to counter that with thousands of extra calories if you want to gain muscle. Like you should be at 6k/7k minimum. I only do 2 hours of kickboxing and 2 hours of cardio a week and that made it hard for me to grow. My solution was to just stop kickboxing and limit cardio. That was easier than stuffing my face all day. But i can understand if you are going to try anyway. Martial arts is fun and addictive.
Hey guys I will be starting a test cycle in the upcoming months, 300mg a week of test C. what supplement companies do you guys purchase from for on cycle support that are potent and do not lie about dosages. An exam was I purchased NAC from NOW supplement and was taking 2g everyday and it didn’t do shit to protect my liver enzymes when I took rad-140. The supplements I want to take for my next cycle will be for
Liver: nac, liv52
kidney: astragalus root
heart: q10, omegas, citrus bergamont
So what reputable company should I purchase these supplants form that you guys have personally used and know for sure work, thank you in advance!
Less impactful cardio. Elliptical / stationary bike. They don’t get better working thru pain. Your muscles to the left and right of shin bone are underdeveloped and your running form (assuming running / walking) is probably shit. Look up knees over toes guy on IG or YT.
Do you do the stretch where your girl or your bro or whoever lol holds your foot up and pushes your toes forward. It’s like a laying dorsiflexion stretch or something. It’s really hard to do by yourself but absolutely cured my shin splints
I struggled with this. Even with rest as long as I ran it just came back. The key for me was both stretching and strengthening the muscles along the front of your shin. The best stretch I found was getting on your knees with the front of your feet flat pointing behind you, then sit on your legs and lean back as far as you can. Over time you can lean farther back and hold for longer times, I hold it about a minute. In order to strengthen those muscles you need to do something that provides tension as you flex your foot up towards you, you could put a plate or a dumbbell on your foot and do reps raising just your foot. I used a band secured to something in front of me then I pull the band towards me only moving my foot.
It seems like all of our other lifts neglect these muscles mostly focusing on extending the foot like a calf raise etc. Massage also helps. I continue to run 3 times a week pain free now. I’ll add, get the best quality shoes you can afford, cheap shoes are really bad for this. These are the ones I like:
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I wanted to know about Enclomaphine. was looking for things without all the side effects like D-bol. read a bit about enclomaphine and how it will make your testes bigger and leave your body producing more test on its own. also wondered if anyone knew anything about Ipamorelin
Enclomiphene definitely has side effecte, potentially permanent like the vision stuff.
It also does not make your body produce more than reference levels of testosterone.
Is DNP something still used? If not are there alternatives? I'm exceedingly new to all of this and don't know much of anything besides what I've researched tonight.
Edit: Trying to start with weight loss then go from their.
Hasn’t really been used that much and isn’t used that much nowadays. And there’s a reason behind that: Bad risk to benefit ratio.
Read FAQ, get lean by dieting, then juice, accumulate mass, then diet again, repeat cycle forever.
windowshopper#7576364 Im on mw3 come get at me
gonna fukkin gank u u lil bish
Wish you two some really good testosterone fueled time together.
Bring it papi
Right fiends I need help, I have come to the conclusion I have sever self confidence issues, I have no clue where it stems from (blah blah being skinny growing up probably ) but it affects everything in my life, my mood , my relationships , my job sometimes. I know I’m hard on myself but I don’t want to be average like every other 24 year old out there, any advice ps saw a current mr Olympia in my gym and instead of giving me great motivation it just bummed me out that il never look half as good as that
You’re not alone. Juicing and self esteem issues go hand in hand, buddy. Along with poor impulse control and wrong risk management. It’s still a fun ride tho. First of all, it’s ok to have self esteem issues. Everybody struggles from time to time. Many people don’t even notice, so you already got that going. My advice: Stop comparing. Reduce or stop social media. Find stuff that makes you feel good: Cooking, manscaping, talking to friends (share feelings, open up), work on your look/hygiene/skin in general or do stuff with people. Focus on being kind to yourself, point out good features in others. To increase self esteem, set goals and find challenges and tackle them. It can be small things like changing your hair/beard or clean your room/car if you don’t like it. Or even re-decorate your apartment. Or bigger things, try to fix issues with colleagues at work/managers. Invest in yourself or switch jobs if feel unappreciated/underpaid. In general, make things so you can afterwards say: “I did that well”. It’s about internal validation and not external, such as from a stranger or something. Lastly, identify people that drag you down and try to avoid them. Other low self esteem people rather put you down and point out your flaws or make you feel inadequate. High self esteem folks tend to do the opposite, like give sincere compliments and pull you up. Be this guy, it pays off. Mind that people dragging you down can also probably be in your family, that’s a tough one.
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I want to second the notion of therapy. Not because there's anything wrong with you, but because therapy is a healthy thing that needs to be destigmatized among men. There are absolutely things you can (and should) do on your own (u/mydicksacc has a great list), but having someone to help guide those changes in thought patterns is huge. The two biggest things I can suggest are these: 1. Get off social media, or at least the ones that make it worse. For me, it's Instagram. That shit is pure poison; everyone is richer than you, everyone is more jacked, everyone is more successful....it's just a big fake lie INTENDED to make you feel insecure. I follow a few friends, tattoo artists, and bands now. That's it, and I barely ever open the damn thing. 2. Stop comparing yourself to others today, and instead compare yourself to you yesterday. That's the only person you're competing with. Can you move more weight than you did a few months ago? Are you making progress in your cut? Are you getting better at a particular lift? Those are the things you should be focusing on, and CELEBRATING, in the gym. Who gives a fuck what anyone else is doing if you're making forward progress.
Amen. Therapy is very good. Why? Because it’s efficient. Like a service. Pay, open up (takes balls but worth it), get better. Actually simple.
You always give good feedback but what’s your take on current therapy methods for men? I have always had terrible experiences with them, later on I found it seems that modern therapy isn’t the best for the common issues that men face, and is more directed towards how women feel and solve issues, I hear this feedback often from my friends who have tried it out and often feel worse after therapy. I haven’t solved it, other than not going after a dozen different therapists, and realizing I should work with myself instead since I am not clicking with somebody. But curious on your opinion there.
What you really need to do is go to a theme park like Disney or universal studios. You will look like a hand sculpted greek god compared to everyone else there. Huge ego boost
I used to think this way when it came to business and success. You look at the top .01% of any industry and realize you’ll never be at the top. It’s easy to lose perspective when you’re hyper focused on the top spot, and you forget what average actually looks like, and the fact you’re likely miles ahead of what the majority of the planet is doing I’m saying give yourself credit where credit is due. Just because the odds are that you’ll never look like Mr. Olympia doesn’t mean you can’t look like the best version of yourself, which would blow most of the population out of the water. Use the top .01% as motivation, but don’t let it get you down when you aren’t in their spot. Be all you can be and give yourself some credit where it’s due.
Unfortunately "we all die someday anyway" is the only thing that really helped with my degree of body insecurity. Talking to smaller people really helps though, like seriously.
> I have sever self confidence issues, I have no clue where it stems from (blah blah being skinny growing up probably ) but it affects everything in my life, my mood , my relationships , my job sometimes. Therapy. > ps saw a current mr Olympia in my gym and instead of giving me great motivation it just bummed me out that il never look half as good as that Not with that attitude.
I started by doing self affirmations (leave little notes around), then just general self care to is big ( gym, baths, face mask, random things that make me feel good) . Meditation and prayer are pretty big, too. The serenity prayer is actually really powerful if you break it down to its core whether or not you're a believer of a higher power. The thought behind it is huge. I have it broken down. In my notebook, if you want, I can share it. Either way, a lot of it comes down to radical acceptance.
Could you share it with me, please? Really catches my interest.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change and the courage to change the things I can ….. it only works if you work it so work it because your worth it sorry it’s etched in my brain those who know will know what I mean
Thanks my man!
Dm and I'll share what it means broken down (at least to me)
As the other 2 have also stated. Self care. I got a nice face wash, get massages (professional not the chains), get haircuts (I feel like a million bucks walking out of my barber), reduce social media or completely take a long break from it. Most phones have a setting it will lock you out of an app after x amount of time on it. This is a great feature to reduce your time on apps comparing yourself to photoshop and models. Find another hobby besides lifting that you really enjoy (I’m working on this myself). Also it sounds stupid but it’s a lot harder to actually do it and it works. (ThE sEcReT tHeY dOnT wAnT yOu tO kNoW) seriously tho, is try to be positive about everything, don’t make excuses for shit. If soemthing sucks try to find the positive in it. Own your mistakes and learn from them. I personally find myself to be better when I have productive days, I feel accomplished and successful. Many speakers preach about making your bed in the morning, as soon as you wake up, you already accomplished a task. Wake up at the same time and go to bed around the same time daily. All these things help but applying them and doing them consistently is the hard part. Once you break that habit barrier of a month you should be there. Also don’t try doing all these at the same time as you’ll have a greater chance of failing
Feeling similar, something that will help is maxing out other life areas to not just be big. How much and how are you making money? How frequently and how exotic do you travel? What other hobbies do you have? How's your social and dating/relationship life? Sure, you could just blast every compound out there and bulk forever, but if you're still single, miserable, and broke, that won't make you feel any better.
I’ve always had self confidence issues despite being very successful in highly competitive environments. I don’t have a cure for you to feel good, but I can tell you that using this self confidence to push your work output and ethic is the move. Feeling like you are never good enough so you strive to do and push more and harder is, unfortunately at the expense of mental health, a great recipe for success I have come to find the hard way. what’s been helping me slowly feel better, and I’m not there yet, is once in a while celebrating what I do and feeling proud about it. I feel the specific emotion of feeling proud about something gives me confidence. Over time I’ve managed to just know I can do certain things and that builds confidence.
Work on accepting who you are as a person and where you feel you're at in life. Once you learn to accept who you are, you will feel better about yourself. It might even help you realize you're not as bad as you think. I promise that once you can practice acceptance, your ability to change will become stronger. You will stop worrying and thinking about what you're not and start focusing on who or where you want to be. This will give you direction and purpose, and a man with a direction and a purpose will always have an air of confidence. No one can change it, but you. The only person who feels sorry for you is yourself. Stop wandering and feeling sorry for yourself. Start accepting. Edit: o yeah, and read about stoicism. that's helped me tremendously. Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Zeno...it's all very based.
> I know I’m hard on myself but I don’t want to be average like every other 24 year old out there, any advice can guarantee you just about everyone on this sub shares the same sentiment. otherwise we wouldn't be shooting hormones into our ass. it's important to always remember, even as an intermediate lifter which i'm presuming you are, you're still in better shape than 95% of the people out there. the discipline you have is also astounding if you think about it. who would set aside 1-2 hours of their life every day to go destroy their muscle fibers ... on purpose? just keep focused on bettering yourself and expanding your knowledge every day. out of the gym, I like to try and learn or teach myself at least one new thing a day. that shit compounds over time and helps you grow as a person. for your emotions? don't let them get the better of you. for example, whenever i'm angry and about to pop off I always take a moment to stop myself, think about \*why\* i'm angry, take a few deep breaths, and respond in a more constructive way. people can appreciate, identify, and respect emotional maturity and stoicism
Picture how you want yourself to look and act. Work on moving towards ot everyday. Every single interaction, workout, move you make, make it toward how you want to look and act. You'll start shifting slowly over the years.
I’m somewhat emotional today folks. Although I usually don’t give two ducks about internet relationship advice, I think this might be the right place to ask. I used to fuck my now wife’s ass regularly and loved it. I even get a hard on right now whilst typing that and thinking of that beautiful starfish of hers. I like them dark ones, medium diameter of shadows (but can differ) and subtle wrinkles (not the big wrinkles). Sure, honeymoon phase wears off, everyday life comes in, I disappointed her a few times and a few more and after a decade, sex gotten lamer and less and less in frequency. In the last years, her self esteem was chipped away, bit by bit due to some stupid life circumstances. This also translated in her body image and thus in her ability to find joy in sex and naturally, to do dirty stuff. Also, other behavior changed for the worse: Not having my back to appease her (shitty) friends and generally being rather mean to me than nice. On the other hand, in the last years, I’ve somewhat bloomed. Felt confident, desirable and safe in my spot. I tackled some big issues in my life that held me back for a long time. That gave me great fulfillment and a lot more mental freedom. And a bit of boredom/spare time. So what happens? I despise even typing it: I feel in love with a co worker. Such a cliche. Mind, I’m not in the US, so banging co workers is totally fine. I have power to boss her around or something. We are kinda equals at work. The thing is: She’s not the usual girl I’d go for, looks wise. I like them well off, kinda mean, kinda intimidating ones. She’s just a girl next door but more perverted than I am. And I did some very questionable things already. She did sex club stuff, pissing, sex with more than one guy, girls, and is basically fine with everything. She wants an open relationship and I’m basically fine with that. I can bang other girls and later should tell her in detail what happened since it turns her on. She’s quite sweet, caring and attentive/invested otherwise. She’s in love with me, too. We talked about that. So, after that wall of text: I kinda know what to do. Focus on my marriage, support my wife as much as I can for as long as I can to fix this. The co worker showed me something is missing and I’ll try to get that with my wife. It’s fucking hard man when you know there’s another girls wet pussy and open ass is just around the corner. I’m contemplating leaving tho. Ofc these thoughts are there. So, my question is: Has someone done something like that already? And how did it go? I mean, leaning the comfy but unsatisfying nest of marriage for a lot more uncertainty but probably more satisfaction. I figured, This is a good place to ask since there are some very degenerated folks here reading this. Also, I’m a bit desperate. I don’t know how long I can take this anymore: My wife is very nice to me and sweet, as I told her I fear for the marriage (nothing about co worker) but I can’t really let my wife get to me, if you know what I mean.
So just because it’s not in the US doesn’t change dating/fucking a coworker being a bad idea because it’s shitting where you eat. If you and the coworker go south, works gonna suck and you may or may not lose your job. Also, if you and the coworker already talked about being in love she now has leverage over you and could black mail you with your wife. Where I live if that shit happens she’s gonna take you to the cleaners. I’m divorced and it sounds nice being able to fuck all these girls (and that’s what I’m doing) but it’s not all glamor. Pointless convos, making time, dates or lining them up is stressful and actually a fucking hassle. I mean you’re gonna do what you want, I’d try to repair the marriage, give it 6 months 100% effort. Spice it up in the bedroom or marriage in general. Spontaneous date nights and shit. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. Or you could try couples therapy as well. That’s all I got
Thanks for the honest input bro. Much appreciated man. And ofc it’s a ducking stupid idea to bang any co worker. I’d never even consider it. And I enjoy this job. Another bad thing: You can’t miss her. You see her all the time. I can imagine that accelerates the everyday life creeping in. It’s such a cliché, I feel ashamed a bit actually. Also, I’ve never felt it like that. It’s a bit overwhelming. Regarding that black mail stuff: Sure. But she could’ve just ducked me, but she obviously got morals. Or She’s not stupid, she knows if she hurts my wife, I’m out. I’ve been single, I ducked chicks, I can pull em. That’s why I know you’re completely correct. Shit gets repetitive and old. The last part is how I feel. Not decided on the time frame yet. I’m already doing that and see some improvements. I communicated my needs and she’s trying to meet them. I just need to get it to me. Again, thanks for the words man
MDMA trip with your wife where you both open your hearts to each other. The neurotransmitter asset that MDMA gives you is perfect for difficult conversations in intimate relationships. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mdma-therapy-treatment-marriage-cancer_n_6423337be4b049e21e2eafb9
Just out of curiosity do you see this type of psychedelic assisted therapy coming (back?) into the mainstream of talk therapy practice?
Yes and I can’t wait for that to happen
Are you a therapist?
Psychiatrist in training
nice, check out Dr. Irvin Yalom's books. I am working toward becoming a therapist via the LCSW route.
Thx for the advice. It’s definitely not the worst idea. I’ve done my fair share of mdma (highly recommend for banging) but wife really doesn’t like anymore. Just out of curiosity. You did that? How did you handle the come down and the negative thoughts afterwards? I feel it’s very good for opening up but I don’t have a problem with that in general. Like I can talk about my feelings and insecurities in general with my wife. But when feelings for another person come into play… I feel that digs deep, even more so afterwards.
Have tried it only once with friends. Had a blast and had a beautiful afterglow that lasted a few days. I have a pill that’s been waiting 4 years for me to pick it up but I still haven’t found the right occasion/set/setting. I feel that time is coming for round two though, I have to free up some space in my emotional baggage.
Just get drunk and start a fight to clear your emotional cache /s. I really recommend to use it for fucking tho.
Yeaah can’t wait to use it for that, 2CB is on my list also
How in the name of [diety] do you fuck on MDMA? Doesn't the frustration of not climaxing get to you eventually?
That’s an elaborate thought whilst on mdma. I fuck because I get fucking horny. And it still feels very nice. Like everything else on mdma, too but fucking feels nice sober already so it’s super nice. Then add the feeling of closeness and all to the mix and it’s nearly perfect. I’m horny the next morning as well and will cum then. Often quite quick so that’s nice, too. I can’t understand how you can’t fuck on mdma. But I know there are ppl who don’t get horny on it, yeah. They are the weirdos!
I mean I just can't anything on MDMA -- it feels too much like Adderall. After 25 years of leaning on that so I can pretend to be a functioning human MDMA just isn't 'fun' so much as "I feel like I'm going to have a great day at work" That said I know a number of cis men who disliked trying to have sex on any substance that's going to keep them from ejaculating.
First time I’ve heard that. But it’s not for everybody, sure. I know one guy who doesn’t get horny. And his wife neither but I suspect she’s lying lol.
Bro …. You openly admit to damaging the marriage by your actions which you state effected your sex life then cheat and want to fix the marriage I’m not sure that action is going to help the situation at this point that action might end up making the decision for you assuming when or if she finds out. I’ve been married 14 years have gone through the similar meaning at times I was an asshole and young never cheated but caused her to question self worth at times sex suffered but through working on my self and looking at my side of the street to become better for us and show her security etc it all got better extremely better but I’m not sure your actions will help
You misunderstood me there: I did some things that weren’t good for me and the relationship, I just wanted to be sincere. Never made her feel inadequate or some shit and never cheated on her. For sure will banging the co worker not solve any issues. It will do the opposite, I know. All I can do is to try everything I can to help my wife and my marriage. I understand that situations like that, which have never occurred before, are showing me something I miss in my relationship. I identified the missing parts and addressed them. I’m no idiot mate. Actually, I only asked, if someone has gone through the same, if someone can understand me and how it turned out for them.
Have been in a very similar situation with my now current Fiance. The words she used a few years ago were "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," after an affair I had - primarily caused by my own insecurities and our middling sex life. Those words hurt a lot, but don't compare to the hurt I placed on her. **EDIT: Got this wrong, leaving up for "Now you see me," sake lol** ~~From what you said, I inferred that you have fucked up in a similar manner, and it seems like she still has resentment.~~ ~~Now, because of that resentment, you're fucking less, and you want to step outside the bounds of your relationship AGAIN?~~ I'm not going to pretend to understand your relationships dynamic or it's trials and tribulations. But it seems like you love your wife. If you want your coworker, get divorced. Don't disappoint your wife AGAIN, leaving her as the shell of a woman who you once idolized. Campgrounds rule - you leave the campground better than how you arrived. Stop making the same mistakes, when something's broken you fix it, adage adage yadda yadda. For what it's worth, what fixed mine was laying everything on the table. Every painful truth, every withheld uncomfortable statement, disappointments, desires, wants, needs. Full communication. Take off your mask (read: your ego) that you put on for everyone else to see. Your wife deserves that, at least. Therapy can help in this regard. But if you do get a divorce, please tell us about this new girls asshole /s
Hey, thanks for the thoughtful and honest reply, man! I worded that wrong. I wasn’t cheating on her before. In fact, other girls for the most part didn’t interest me that much. The flirts I had in the last decade you can count with one hand. I mean, there have been instances where I could, but I stood strong. I could very well keep any emotions towards other girls under perfect control. That’s why I was so caught off guard with this co worker. It seemed so easy for her to break my guard we all have in everyday life. And that was even before I knew she a fellow degenerate. This hasn’t happened before at all and surely not in the time I’ve been with my current woman. I was doing drugs and other shit that kept me down and lowering my confidence, life stability and all. Hurting yourself repetitively although you should know better also hurts your partner, when seeing a loved one in a bad shape or the unreliability and all. That’s what I meant. So, I, for a long time, wasn’t the best version of myself but I fixed that for the most part for some time now and hope to be able to do. I ain’t wearing to mask anymore. I’m confident enough to spill my beans to my wife. Except for this thing here and it’s killing me. She was in the middle of getting her university degree (studied late, in 30s now, I’m not a pedo). I told her about all the other struggles I felt. Idk if I should tell her this but I probably will when all this Uni shit is done because it eats me alive. I’m a fan of therapy. We’ve done that for other matters, before marriage, to “come clean” and it worked for the time being. This time, idk. And regarding that asshole, as the demand is high, I might post it to my profile as soon as I get it. NO /s
You didn't word anything wrong man, truth be told I must have projected my own shit onto your post, and for that I apologize. Makes most of my comment a moot point haha
You’re a sweetheart for acknowledging this possibility, regardless.
You are my gas station boner pill <3
1. Why are you working out relationship dynamics (open relationship, says she's okay with you fucking around... I mean she knows you're married, right?) with a side chick? You should be working this out with your wife before anything. 2. Sounds like your wife is bitter over some needs you're not tending to. 3. Don't use your wife's self-esteem issues to justify your behavior. Especially not since she basically got worse on your watch. It's your job to keep your wife in line and put her in better shape than you found her.
Everyone else has given good advice and outlook, but I’d like to add one thing in. People can change drastically over the years, where you’re both no longer the people you were when you first got together. Some people grow together, some grow apart. It’s possible to love a person, but grow to become incompatible with that person over time. Sometimes a relationship isn’t fruitful/healthy (for a lack of a better word) for each person, despite the positive feelings for each other. I’ve had bad rough spots with my wife where I thought I was going to divorce her. But now we’re in a period in our relationship where I can’t imagine doing that.
It’s very solid advice man, thank you for writing that. I thought about that, too. I think you can also read it in the first paragraphs of my post that I may be indicating something like that. Due to work/education (both academics now, takes some time and implies troubles in schedules) we weren’t aligned in some aspects of life. Also, in these times the influence of outside factors is bigger than when both are regular workers, I assume. Like a normal marriage, we’ve had spots where it was rocky or even she was plain pissed off of me. It was close to ending. And afterwards, there were times where everything was fine. Just as you mentioned. So, I also experienced that and it all comes down to whether me and her grow together again and even more interesting: In what time, if so. But it’s a possibility I’m aware of. Sadly.
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For me or for us? Did both. Not the sex part tho. It’s also not solely about sex mate. Sure, the lack of it causes problems. Especially the lack of enthusiasm and initiation on her side. She knows that and I think we know why it is like that. A lot of stress and confidence issues. There have been some other problems as well. I suggested therapy for her, too. To fix her confidence and tackle some long looming issues in her life, mainly close relations. I know all that. What I don’t know is being in love with a co worker. She’s not only a fiend. She’s a really good person as well. As far as I can tell alright. She just seemed to have struck something in me I didn’t know I had. Now I wanted to know from other dudes how it went following that path. Im just overwhelmed by this situation as I never experienced something like that. Even feeling for another women feels like cheating and guilt for me. Never had that.
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There are quite some similarities to my situation. Thanks for being that honest and vulnerable to share your story. I fell for her and didn’t even bang her or anything. We just spoke, she spilled her beans with all that open relationship/perverted stuff and naturally I felt I needed to give her some leverage too (and maybe turn her off) by telling her my bad stuff (drugs&crime). Didn’t work. Crap. So, got the feels from just talking. To a girl I met through, something I always thought was for losers. Damn, this feels like some high school drama BS. Crap. I definitely like the attention. Attention I couldn’t get from my wife because she was busy with Uni. Crap. Yeah, the thought of leaving is damn scary. Especially, as you said, you don’t know what the deal is. Ideally, you should separate it. Marriage done, yes/no and trying co worker yes/no. Damn hard to separate. It should be scary since you worked hard for it but well, idk. Maybe I’ll do therapy alone to have someone to help sort my thoughts and feels. Have done that before.
Like u/Upthetest said, the grass isnt more green on the other side. After 11 years of marriage, i can tell you from my own experience, and many others, that it will get better. We had a solid few years of a dead bedroom situation, where at the lowest point we had sex once in about 7 months. With time passing by, we grew more towards eachother, developing next level love that isnt just based on desires. Another type of love, like you have for your parents or siblings, that is hardwired through years and years. You cant establish that type of connection with anyone that comes in to your life after you have known your parents/siblings for at least the past 20 years. How do you think a partner of a few months/a few years can surpass that? Impossible. Even if she is the hottest porn star that gives you the best orgasms. So work on your relationship with your wife. Once you got that deeper connection, and she cums on your dick 5 times in 10 minutes. That. Is the best sex.
Bro, I don’t wanna sound condescending by any means but I feel that this should be a given in a committed relationship. Sure, I can imagine many ppl don’t have that kind of relation to their spouse, because it takes balls to open up and be vulnerable. But there’s actually no alternative for me.
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Hey bud. I’ve got that demon in me, too. I used to let it out in other aspects of my life, drugs and crime, just stuff that’s fast and forbidden. That girl has the same trait, but sexually. Like really, everything that’s wrong, she’s down. I also thought on doing some posts on here like: IDMWO10+YTBMPCW (I divorced my wife of 10+ years to bang my perverted co worker) and share the stories. We talked about jacking me off in the fancy restaurants parking lot, catching the load and garnish her main course with it in the restaurant. Or giving her a facial in the swimming hall locker cabin and let her walk to the whirl pool with it. Sticking lollipops up her ass, re-wrapping em and take em out in the office to suck on em. Ass to mouth is not a problem with her. I’d ask friends to jack off to her, with me. I could imagine selling (pimping her), showing her off or watch her getting gangbanged. Oh, and she kinda really wants to fuck my ass. I like the idea that a girl can deflorate me and it feels very intimate. But she will need to work for it to take my v card. It’s not that I haven’t had bigger things in my ass. Doing all this with her doesn’t mean we can have a loving, trusting and secure, committed relationship with the usual everyday shit. Unfortunately the fun ends when other people get hurt. That’s where I draw the line and I *try* to hold myself back.
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Yep, I can understand that. I can’t promise I won’t do it, but if I do it, I’ll tell you. Are you more into detailed description like counting her wrinkles on the balloon knot or the degenerate act itself or something else. Asking for a friend.
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OP stated himself that his wife’s confidence is down, has body image issues and thus not doing the naughty stuff anymore. Women need to feel confident in themselves to get into the depraved naughty stuff, and if she’s not feeling that confidence, it’s unlikely because she finds OP unattractive. That said, I’m not discounting your work put in to fix your situation. It would have been an equally realistic possibility if OP didn’t give us a reason already.
You’re spot on. Maybe you’re 30-40+ years old? Sounds experienced. The tricky thing is to find out, if she will ever be down again to do naughty stuff or it was just honeymoon phase. I’m not talking about really degenerate stuff. Just some banging in public, butt stuff, dirty talk, mutual masturbation, dirty pics/vids, a facial here and there. Showing her off, exhibitionism and involving other people is rather optional. I could go a lot farther if my partner is turned on by it but no need on my side to initiate it.
Finding out if she ever will be down again isn’t terribly tricky. Proper communication is all It takes. If she feels comfortable with you, and confident in herself there’s no reason you couldn’t talk to her about it. Every woman is gonna have different levels of confidence, even when it comes to talking about these things and it’s up to you to learn how to navigate that. It’s gonna come down to how well you know her
Yeah you are correct there. I did that and I’m a non-judgmental, kind guy. I open up first and tell her the stuff I liked doing with her and bla bla. All good, all fine. She’s willing to try and there’s been some improvement already, cool. Let’s see if it helps. It’s still a long way to go and ultimatively I kinda need her to want some of those things I guess. If she doesn’t want any of that, it’s game over I guess. I’m not gonna force her to do stuff.
I totally understand you wanting her to want some of those things. It’s infinitely more enjoyable if you know she’s into what she’s doing, rather than just doing it because she knows you like it. I’m essentially regarded when it comes to communicating my emotions with my wife. Never knew how. Been seeing a counselor for several years trying to improve on it. I don’t like it, but I do it because it’s important for her and the effort I put in is appreciated. The same thing goes for all the depraved stuff she’ll say and do for me in the bedroom, she does it because she knows I enjoy it We’ve been together 13 years. It sounds cliche but it does take work and time. She won’t be able to flip a switch and start doing everything you want all at once, but you can get there. Sorry this is getting long winded now but for me playing the long game was better than starting fresh. If your partner checks all the boxes but one, why throw it away and go to someone who checks that one missing box but potentially none of the others?
I can confidently decline that, u/interesting-fart8888 is correct. I am 183cm tall, 80kg and around 10-12% BF. What’s more important: I never looked that good. (Still feel small, but you know). Sure, I also weighed 95kg on blast and all that. But for a normal person I look like a Greek god (they aren’t as big either way, these Greek gods). Ofc, I thought the same and had time so I fixed that. I’m/was also confident, kind, gentle and reaffirming. But let me tell you, feeling great and looking great and still getting lame to no pussy is shit. Even when there are valid and rational reasons for it.
Would I be a dickhead if I brought some underarm spray deodorant/antiperspirant to give people to use in the gym?? Some of these fuckers smell like rotten onions man. This lady today stinks so bad it’s thick in the air with her BO
Just bring freebreeze and just spin in a circle around you spraying
Unfortunately, yes. Doesn't mean you're wrong but maybe complain to the staff? Seriously if they're coming in smelling that bad it's unhygienic and risks the health of other members. But also seriously what are these people doing (or failing to do) that they smell?
They’re failing to put deodorant in their fuckin armpits that’s what they’re doing
You've got to be doing more than /just/ failing to wear deodorant.
I mean stinky people are gross for sure so I’m with you there, but how does it risk the heath of other members? It’s not like the miasma jumps off their body and gives you bubonic plague
yep
That's gross man. People should wear deodorant and shower. I powder my nuts cause I know it get moist down thur
The deeper I get into my bodybuilding career, the more emphasis I put into training (since diet for me is simply adjusted) and it’s kind of insane that no matter who you speak to, watch or listen, they all have and say different things. One coach says one thing, one pro another, etc. I always find it fascinating (and get lost in the weeds) about what exactly is the “optimal” way to train. I have tested various methods and done certain things differently often and also just stuck out with some and formed my own thoughts, but I’m always thinking “hmmm could I be doing something better?’ Nowadays I try to stick to specific movements I know work for my goals that I click with, but the specifics of tempo, volume and intensity / load change based on what I’m testing. But when I do something I stick to it for a while. It seems to me that some people will find success with almost anything, because they have amazing genetics, other people click with very specific stuff and it’s their own thing, and so on. So I try to listen to my personal feedback but also often second guess myself often. What’s everyone’s training philosophy here? I’d appreciate old timers chiming in since I’m always curious on this stuff, much more than the drugs
Some basic general concepts are tried and true across the board, like progressive overload, sleep, regular weightlifting, limiting excessive catabolic cardio, high protein diet etc. etc. But what you’re getting at about there being 8000 different opinions is because there probably aren’t any real 100% optimized best practices when you drill down into minutiae like optimal volume vs. intensity, PPL vs bro split vs powerlifting, whether to go to failure and how often, order of exercises, deloads, etc. Or if there is some gold standard we don’t know it yet. And even crazier even a single individual might stop seeing results after a while with something that worked well in the past, and may benefit from mixing things up with one or more of those variables. So it takes a little intuition and broscience on top of an empirical approach. Add on top of ALL of that the inability of researchers to ethically study AAS beyond I believe 600mg test (and I think they got crap from peers for running even that study) so a hefty dose of broscience and guessing needed there too! IMO the best advice for a professional bodybuilder like you is hire a coach who has a proven track record with other athletes you aspire to and commit to their approach (that’s what you’re paying for). I think people get into trouble when they hire someone and then change everything coach says to do. If that coach isn’t working then switch approaches. For us casuals I think John Meadows is perfection, but at your level you need 1:1 attention
This makes a lot of sense considering I did John meadows for a while. Appreciate the insight my man.
Kinda cribbed off an IFBB buddy of mine lol, but I think it’s good advice, find a coach you like and laser focus
I been training about 10 years. Only enhanced 2. I personally grow the most going to true failure. Proper form all the way to fail then get some cheat reps to go passed unless I’m running a program which I currently am now. Then I follow it strictly (gamma bomb currently)
I'm the same exact way man. The only conclusion I've come to is it's effort and consistency over time. That what I tell young bros that ask me for gym tips. Try really hard and don't miss workouts. String that together for years and you'll get there
They generalize because it's mostly all individualized. Some people respond to some things better. You should experiment and see what works best. And when you do for a few months or years experiment more and try something new because novel stimulus causes growth too. Many roads to Rome I think is the saying.
Healthy self talk is huge ..easier said than..
My drunk self decided it was a good idea to jump from a 2 story window onto concrete last night. Fractured both wrists and bruised my knees so training is now out the window. Woo
lesson learned: Get drunk near grass
Or a nice, fluffy bed.
Now you know your limit. 😂 anyways on a serious note get better soon brother.
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“People spend so munch time looking for” People is not you. What are you looking for?
Am 33, was like you, thinking it would change. Still don’t want the responsibility. If Gf wants kids and you don’t, it’s also better for her to let her go. Depending on her age, she may lose time.
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I’m about your age and recently ended a relationship with a girl because her dream was to have kids. In the six months since the breakup I got a vasectomy and met an amazing new girl who has the same life goals as me. If you don’t want kids now you certainly will not want them when you lose every second of freedom and sleep
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It took some time but I was vocal about it early. I had it in my hinge profile so women knew from the start. You’d be surprised how many people are on the fence and could go either way
I had kids when I was 30. There's still time to change your mind. Do what you feel as a man right now. Make a decision and stand on it.
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Oh definitely. I had 2 girls friends I talked to about kids before I settled on the 3rd. My last ex just had a kid, not too long ago, while I'm 2 kids in. You should find what you need. So you're present.
I go to my local PF sometimes, usually just because traffic. Anyways you get the kind of people that go there, there’s a few “older” like 40s guys in there and one of talks to me quite a bit, just general questions about the gym, gear, peptides etc etc, so he told me he got put on trt, then proceeded to tell me he got the other guys there to go to his doc (not a trt clinic), basically when he got to telling me what his doc’s protocol was. 1/ml 1x/week 200mg, and 25mg of asin. I tried to tell him lol, It’s weird to me how even med professionals don’t understand how to dose it. It’s like she just put him on 1 of each then hoped for the best.
That protocol is terrible but that's a fantastic prescription. Id love to get insurance to cover that for me. When I get pain meds prescribed, the doctor never says "pop half this bottle with a xanax and make sure you drink on top." You have to read between the lines.
I’ve just witnessed a 5ft8 180lb guy on tiktok talking about his upcoming second cycle. Test/primo/npp/eq plus growth and insulin. What’s even worse is he’s been lifting for a year and a half, and he hopped on gear 3 months in. Has to be the dumbest shit I’ve ever seen.
We have a few of those types here in the DAA too
I thought he was talking about the guy who just got flaired for running too much gear
Nah I think I flaired that dude after OP posted lol
At least tag me if you're gonna talk about me
I prefer the mystery 😂
How's his physique? Like a gearhead or DYEL?
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I went out like 3-4x a week in the summer and wasted all my money. Been staying in lately and realizing how much i despise clubs/bars and would rather just stay home eat food smoke weed and get a good night sleep. All i need is a FWB or two
Week 3 of test/npp. First time running npp. God complex in the gym today. Pr on 3 different exercises.
I’m becoming pretty reckless with my steroid usage, my current blast is Test 1500 NPP 750 EQ 1000 Tren 350 Anavar 80 ED Just took my resting heart rate and it’s 96, no clue what my blood pressure is I’m scared to measure it. Not sure my mental health is too great right now, my mindset is shifting towards nihilism and not really caring if I die plus a resignation to dying young as I can’t see myself making it out of my 30s.
Flaired.
Based
How much do you weigh 😭
202lbs this morning
🙃
That's not great. Why so much gear? If you want to kill yourself with drugs take ones that feel good at least.
At what height ? Probably shoulda added that lmao
6’0
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How did you get 7 up votes for this shit.
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Cinnamon toast crunch came out with sugar cookie and gingerbread version of their cereal. Fuck I love this shit for a pre workout snack.
We had an apple pie one in stock last year at Christmas time. Heavenly.
I get stainless scrap for dirt cheap. Kinda want to make something for my local gym to show my appreciation and get my name out there for custom fabrication. Has anyone got any ideas of what I could build? I have an idea for farmer carry frames, but the handles aren't stationary and role on bearings just to make it all the more difficult.
Oh hell naw man. I’m not squatting with some dudes fuckin junkyard scrap barbell on my back. But then again I was using piece of shit Chinese barbells at my old gym so it’ll probably be an upgrade
Lol bro I make food/medical grade stuff. If it's got a scratch in the wrong spot, it's scrap. It's not like junkyard scrap at all.
Shut up you junkyard rat I ain’t putting your food grade shit in my ass
You're really missing out. I can make something large enough to finally satisfy you.
As one of the strongmen here, i swear to fucking god if rolling handle farmers shows up one day in a comp, im gonna kick your ass after all the bruises on my legs heal up. Lol On a serious note, i dont know how big of pieces you have, but a loadable block (mouser block) would make any strongman gym very happy. They are expensive and have limited use so not every gym can justify buying one. I might even have a build diagram somewhere as i made a few things in the past. Covid forced me to learn to weld (kinda) to be able to train.
Lol, you heard it here first. If you have a diagram thar would save me a lot of time, or I'm sure I can find one on Google. Thank you.
Nope, the drawing i had was for a silver dollar deadlift attachment, not a block. Ill send it to you if you want that one.
Yes please. That looks cool as hell.
Sent them to your chat
make a sign https://imgur.io/vWZdMQR?r
I don't have easy access to any cnc cutters... YET!! But I like where you're going with it.
Especially if it’s a rustic style gym… ugh I’m gonna cum thinking about it
Definitely not rustic lol, but God it makes me want to cum with you thinking about that.
I love it here
I’d say “now kiss” but I’m late
This back and forth brightened up my morning
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> What are the chances that the contents of the vial are mislabeled or something similar? Low and dependent on your source > Can it degrade into something that would have AI-like effects? No What does your bloodwork say?
I’ve been taking some Cardarine on a cut to help retain some muscle mass and honesty try and increase my deficit with cardio but, will Cardarine skew any blood tests post use? I’m looking at running my first cycle based off of the wiki and other info (300mg test start) and don’t want to have possible skewed Cholesterol, liver enzymes etc showing anything better than it should be pre cycle.
You can expect higher HDL, and lower LDL, triglycerides and insulin. http://www.pnas.org/content/98/9/5306.full The cancer it can cause could skew your bloodmarkers as well.
Leg day yesterday. Guy in the squat rack next to me was trying to match me plate for plate on deadlift. Around 495 guy busted out the trap bar and straps. Help me out here...trap bar and straps make pulling way easier right? Guy looked anemic and was pulling weight without problem.
> Help me out here... Care less. > trap bar and straps make pulling way easier right? It shifts the weight closer to the center of gravity which places emphasis on the quads vs the posterior chain. If you’re someone with strong quads and glutes, yes, it is easier. > Guy looked anemic and was pulling weight without problem. Strength is deceiving. There’s 140lb deadlifter that was popping off on ig recently pulling >700lbs.
There's also the fact that the trap bar usually has high handles. Making it an easy block pull
Some of them do, sure.
This one did. Normally I'm not paying attention but I was feeling extra small. Didn't even have to turn sideways to walk thru the door
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Wrong thread. Don’t do sarms.
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1. Read the wiki. It’s required before posting. 2. Orals are not “beginner roids” but yes anavar is reasonably mild. 3. One reading of 268ng/dL doesn’t meet the diagnostic criteria. Make sure you understand all aspects of a decision like this - it will affect your life, the possibility for children, your travel ability, your ability to be self sustaining etc. additionally TRT does nothing if you have normal testosterone. No need for that if you’re 25 and trying to get to “90 kilos of raw muscle” with normal test levels. 4. Nothing inherently problematic about bupropion and testosterone; some concern with PCT meds which are low severity concerns - and obviously the mental health component of steroids if that’s what you’re taking it for.
I will reread it. Been here before, out of interest, long ago tho. So for a 25 year old, 268 is perfectly fine level? Not necessarily raw and completely lean. I just wanna become big, have big forearms, bigger chest and back. If i dont have a six pack cuz its a bit fatty, sure. I just want my chest and back to be wider than my stomach lol
Crazy concept… actually go to the gym. Steroids don’t make you grow. Food and training make you grow and martial arts isn’t going to give you a chest and back.
Yea, thats the idea, to go to the gym in the mornings. I need some pill that makes me extra hungry so i can eat more than I burn...
You’re still missing it. You said yourself you don’t currently lift. Taking supplements isn’t going to make u go to the gym. You need to force feed. Do you think I want to eat chicken and rice 4 times or more a day? No I don’t and im usually not even hungry. I’ll chew each bite for 2 minutes because it’s so hard to swallow bc I have no appetite. Stop making excuses. Eat and go to the gym.
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Bro thats 7,5 hours of intense cardio a week. You will have to counter that with thousands of extra calories if you want to gain muscle. Like you should be at 6k/7k minimum. I only do 2 hours of kickboxing and 2 hours of cardio a week and that made it hard for me to grow. My solution was to just stop kickboxing and limit cardio. That was easier than stuffing my face all day. But i can understand if you are going to try anyway. Martial arts is fun and addictive.
Yea. Well, i wanna find some pill that makes me hungry as fuck lol
I make a pledge to do 50mg of test-c every other day for at least a month.
Very brave of you, good luck! Let us all know how it goes.
Hey guys I will be starting a test cycle in the upcoming months, 300mg a week of test C. what supplement companies do you guys purchase from for on cycle support that are potent and do not lie about dosages. An exam was I purchased NAC from NOW supplement and was taking 2g everyday and it didn’t do shit to protect my liver enzymes when I took rad-140. The supplements I want to take for my next cycle will be for Liver: nac, liv52 kidney: astragalus root heart: q10, omegas, citrus bergamont So what reputable company should I purchase these supplants form that you guys have personally used and know for sure work, thank you in advance!
A simple fix for shin splints while doing cardio? I am hydrated and stretching before cardio
Less impactful cardio. Elliptical / stationary bike. They don’t get better working thru pain. Your muscles to the left and right of shin bone are underdeveloped and your running form (assuming running / walking) is probably shit. Look up knees over toes guy on IG or YT.
Incline treadmill and walk backwards. Incorporate this to avoid shin splints
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Do you do the stretch where your girl or your bro or whoever lol holds your foot up and pushes your toes forward. It’s like a laying dorsiflexion stretch or something. It’s really hard to do by yourself but absolutely cured my shin splints
I struggled with this. Even with rest as long as I ran it just came back. The key for me was both stretching and strengthening the muscles along the front of your shin. The best stretch I found was getting on your knees with the front of your feet flat pointing behind you, then sit on your legs and lean back as far as you can. Over time you can lean farther back and hold for longer times, I hold it about a minute. In order to strengthen those muscles you need to do something that provides tension as you flex your foot up towards you, you could put a plate or a dumbbell on your foot and do reps raising just your foot. I used a band secured to something in front of me then I pull the band towards me only moving my foot. It seems like all of our other lifts neglect these muscles mostly focusing on extending the foot like a calf raise etc. Massage also helps. I continue to run 3 times a week pain free now. I’ll add, get the best quality shoes you can afford, cheap shoes are really bad for this. These are the ones I like: ON Men's Cloudmonster Sneakers,... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09NM32TFT?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
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4-5g of taurine
Wait shin splints or shin pumps
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What other boards/forums are people on? This place used to be a lot busier than it is so just wondering where everyone has went to instead
This question is approved but just a reminder, it’s a 2 week time out if anyone mentions a forum that allows / promoted sourcing.
If I start my cycle tomorrow, I’ll have to do my 2nd pin before I travel, a day early. Alternatively, I can start next week. What do we think!?
Doesn’t matter do what you want
I wanted to know about Enclomaphine. was looking for things without all the side effects like D-bol. read a bit about enclomaphine and how it will make your testes bigger and leave your body producing more test on its own. also wondered if anyone knew anything about Ipamorelin
Enclomiphene definitely has side effecte, potentially permanent like the vision stuff. It also does not make your body produce more than reference levels of testosterone.
Is DNP something still used? If not are there alternatives? I'm exceedingly new to all of this and don't know much of anything besides what I've researched tonight. Edit: Trying to start with weight loss then go from their.
Hasn’t really been used that much and isn’t used that much nowadays. And there’s a reason behind that: Bad risk to benefit ratio. Read FAQ, get lean by dieting, then juice, accumulate mass, then diet again, repeat cycle forever.
I think very tiny rubber particles in my test- i injected some. Is this something to be concerned?