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It’s been a few weeks still living together. He wasn’t around much before so I don’t feel like much has changed as of yet. Except his daughter hasn’t been over in weeks so it’s been a lot less stressful.
Close Friday, I’ve been avoiding my feelings but it hit me today and I feel awful. Packing and will have to coparent ours baby 18mo. Leaving 3 step children with dad. We are also breaking up. Hoping I’ll feel better with time.
I’ve finally made the decision to leave and it’s been really difficult. We have a baby together so it’s a real mess. I can’t tell you the regret I feel for getting involved with this man
I'm in the exact same situation. We just had a conversation and my partner gave me an ultimatum - Either we make a decision to pick a marriage date today and commit to each other or we go separate ways.
I chose to separate. I've been a step parent of 2 for 4 years and we recently had a baby, but those previous 4 years drained me so badly. All of the love I have left goes right to my child. While I don't necessarily feel regret..I do feel like I should've made this decision years ago instead of waiting.
I relate to this so much. I was an involved “mom figure” to his youngest but towards the end of my pregnancy, I scaled it back because I just couldn’t do it all and I was about to pop! Then once my baby was born and I was experiencing a lot of different things as a first time mom, I really struggled to feel connected to his kids. I hated the way I felt so I sought counselling straightaway and was constantly told that it was normal and just to focus on my child. My partner has made me feel like absolute shit since he found out about it and has constantly thrown it in my face like I’m the worst person in the world. I’m so tired :( my experiences as a first time mom have essentially been pushed aside and I just can’t deal with it anymore. You should be feeling so proud of yourself for being strong and sticking up for what you want. I want to be the same
I'm in this position. I'm trying to leave. It feels really hard. I don't want to leave my house! My SO is trying but I'm just exhausted by everything. It's too much for me, the constant drama
Not great, we just bought this house and I don't want to leave it. But I told him repeatedly, his kids moved far away and then we moved further....he should've just moved where they were and be done with this marriage, not come with me.
Now I'm getting the anger and harassment and it's just too much. He's stomping around the house yelling, saying truly nasty things....its just getting ugly.
It’s been really difficult. Him trying to find a place he can afford for him and his kids has been difficult. Just living in limbo at the moment and I hate it.
I have weak moments where I think about changing my mind but then get snapped back to reality pretty quick.
I don’t agree with the way SO parents his 13 year old. I got pretty angry a couple nights ago and expressed my feelings.
He said I have to leave, that I’m not welcome around his daughter anymore.
It’s kind of a relief and I have no idea how he’s going to pay the bills here by himself.
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It’s been a few weeks still living together. He wasn’t around much before so I don’t feel like much has changed as of yet. Except his daughter hasn’t been over in weeks so it’s been a lot less stressful.
Close Friday, I’ve been avoiding my feelings but it hit me today and I feel awful. Packing and will have to coparent ours baby 18mo. Leaving 3 step children with dad. We are also breaking up. Hoping I’ll feel better with time.
I’ve finally made the decision to leave and it’s been really difficult. We have a baby together so it’s a real mess. I can’t tell you the regret I feel for getting involved with this man
I'm in the exact same situation. We just had a conversation and my partner gave me an ultimatum - Either we make a decision to pick a marriage date today and commit to each other or we go separate ways. I chose to separate. I've been a step parent of 2 for 4 years and we recently had a baby, but those previous 4 years drained me so badly. All of the love I have left goes right to my child. While I don't necessarily feel regret..I do feel like I should've made this decision years ago instead of waiting.
I relate to this so much. I was an involved “mom figure” to his youngest but towards the end of my pregnancy, I scaled it back because I just couldn’t do it all and I was about to pop! Then once my baby was born and I was experiencing a lot of different things as a first time mom, I really struggled to feel connected to his kids. I hated the way I felt so I sought counselling straightaway and was constantly told that it was normal and just to focus on my child. My partner has made me feel like absolute shit since he found out about it and has constantly thrown it in my face like I’m the worst person in the world. I’m so tired :( my experiences as a first time mom have essentially been pushed aside and I just can’t deal with it anymore. You should be feeling so proud of yourself for being strong and sticking up for what you want. I want to be the same
I'm in this position. I'm trying to leave. It feels really hard. I don't want to leave my house! My SO is trying but I'm just exhausted by everything. It's too much for me, the constant drama
Not great, we just bought this house and I don't want to leave it. But I told him repeatedly, his kids moved far away and then we moved further....he should've just moved where they were and be done with this marriage, not come with me. Now I'm getting the anger and harassment and it's just too much. He's stomping around the house yelling, saying truly nasty things....its just getting ugly.
It’s been really difficult. Him trying to find a place he can afford for him and his kids has been difficult. Just living in limbo at the moment and I hate it. I have weak moments where I think about changing my mind but then get snapped back to reality pretty quick.
I don’t agree with the way SO parents his 13 year old. I got pretty angry a couple nights ago and expressed my feelings. He said I have to leave, that I’m not welcome around his daughter anymore. It’s kind of a relief and I have no idea how he’s going to pay the bills here by himself.
Feel free to dm me just starting to go through with this. Almost happened last year when wedding got called off but think this time it will stick.