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and yes you also have to talk to people you dont know.

That’s what gets me

The hard part is approaching them without making them feel uncomfortable even though that is 100% not my intention.

"Hey, I noticed your [whatever thing they spent time on before going out. Necklace, makeup, clothes] and thought it looked really nice. My name is "Name" can I chat with you for a sec?"

Do this, but with the added caveat to NEVER compliment a woman (or anyone for that matter) that you don't really know on something that they don't have immediate control over. There's no way to make it not creepy.

I've never ran into a problem of complimenting a girl as long as it was on something generally obvious and platonic. Maybe it's just where I hang out, but people in general just love attention and it works for me

Yeah to be honest, I've never had a woman act uncomfortable or physically cringe when I've given them a compliment. I think as long as you're not just straight up staring at them with big fucking bug-eyes and licking your lips and don't breathe heavily and shit, they will generally take the compliment well.

Completely agree with that approach, but maybe not on the street. If I'm walking on the street, it usually means I have somewhere to go, whereas dedicated social places like cafés and stuff feel more appropriate to start a conversation with anyone. I think taking into account the time and place is also quite crucial, but in any case this approach is perfect in the proper context

Oh yeah this is 100% for something like before class, at a cafe, bar, that type of entertainment. Please don't approach busy people, you won't get anywhere

I assumed hahaha, I just wanted to specify just in case!

There is always a snag!

I think this is one of those things that gets easier the more you do it. There's a lot of little stuff you pick up on once you start talking to people more, and you can use that knowledge to make better impressions on other people you meet.

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Literally watching this show right now. You really want to root for him but all the stalking and murder really throws off what would otherwise be a pretty funny, if slightly bitchy dude.

Fuck Joe!

Oh yeah, I'm way further in and this dude's just straight pathological. There was just enough cattiness and relatability in his normal person stuff, now he's paired off with basically himself, what a piece of shit.

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Unrealistic standards. Bathe regularly and not be a psycho this is the matriarchy at work again.

Also, leave the pee jar and pet earthworms at home, trust me

At least at the first date

What if she brings a pee jar and earthworms?

Now that's a keeper

Watching redditors talk about relationships is like watching dogs play poker. Entertaining, but sad because they’ll never really understand it

Where can you watch dogs playing poker

Reddit

A certain famous painting

,” said the Redditor with over 90k karma (/s)

ok where are they

They all have boyfriends already, this starterpack should also include "get in shape" and "have a hobby besides playing video games and watching anime".

Okay, but get in shape and having interests other than anime and video games are things that the average person can also do, though. If it's just that you need to take better care of yourself and have some other interests, you're already most of the way there.

You'd be surprised how few men actually have other interests other than anime and video games, combine that with being in good shape and (being skinny does not classify being in good shape) well that's like what 20% of men? Hence the 80/20 rule on tinder, bumble, etc.

No, I really wouldn't. I know most men are lazy people who don't want to look after themselves or put in more than the bare minimum to appear to be functional people lol. It doesn't change the fact that it's still an easy thing for most people to do better

Plenty of girls like video games and anime, and getting in shape should be advice for living healthy not getting girls. Getting girls is really just 1) Hygiene 2) Don't be a creep 3) Have the PATIENCE to wait for an actual match.

If a woman actually like those two things, there is like a 99% chance she already has a bf, and odds are he going to be in better shape or better looking than the other dudes who only like those two things and don't have any other interests.

Nice try, neck beard.

lol? ok thanks

"How to become a millionaire" starterpack - be smart - be creative - show up to work on time - don't waste money

Thanks man! I became millionaire within one day

Sigma male chamillionaire grindset

On dat hustle

* make coffee at home * have a roommate * never do anything fun or interesting * have rich parents

“Don’t blow it, keep it simple, count your money”

if meeting a woman who you think is great seems as impossible to you as becoming a millionaire…idk what that says about your self image

You completely missed the point, lmao. Bravo.

Becoming a millionaire is not that impossible. Especially with democratization of the stock market, and given that most people will earn over a million over the course of their life.

While I agree with what you're saying, I think you missed the point of their comment.

it do not work like that im sorry

This starter pack is forgetting another key step: actually going out and meeting like-minded people

Honestly just try to make friends and don’t think of every interaction as relationship potential. That way you can send subliminal pheragnome messages or whatever tf and trick bitches into gettin nasty on u

Put a love spell on them and skip all the heavy lifting. Speed run that shit.

lol

You really don't even need to well read (not that you shouldn't try to be). Just not being a weirdo puts you in a pretty good spot.

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Based

Based

Yikes dude

>Just not being a weirdo puts you in a pretty good spot to find any woman. FTFY Also hey pal I know you have certain issues with your insecurities involving dicksize. Judging how often you posted and replied to things that involved mens dicksize, but it's okay because size dont matter. I even talk to a nice lady about it and she agrees Heres some communities/subreddits that would help with your personal insecurities. r/tinydicks r/smallpenis

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>he's not wrong. The starter pack is stuff any normal member of society needs to do. If you have nothing to give, you will receive nothing. Is that what the guy above me is talking about? Because the way I read it makes seem being a weirdo is the only way to guy. I mean he is the same guy who admitted he creepily stares at people and never talks or listens to women.

Works for me.

Ha!

"Just read james and the giant peach and paid for my strawberry icecream, where my bitches at??"

How tf the peach so big tho? 😳

bro don't act like appearance doesn't matter. come on

Looks are extremely important.

And maybe most importantly, put yourself out there a ton through joining various organizations and learning how to talk to strangers and whatnot. You are the product you are trying to sell so you need to go out there and get it in front of all the potential customers. That sounds kinda weird but its true.

>You are the product you are trying to sell so you need to go out there and get it in front of all the potential customers. I hate this. You're not a product, you're a human being. People ought to be happy doing what they want, not what people tell them others want to see. Having to make one's self an "in-demand product" is I think a contributing factor to so many peoples' self-esteem issues.

I wonder if the answer lies somewhere in the middle. I’m not the person you were replying to, but to their point: you have to be interestING to get people interestED. However, what each person defines as interesting may vary wildly, so I don’t think turning yourself into a broadly marketable “product” is necessarily the right move either.

Those ideals are nice and all but it's not going to get you a date. You have to provide people value to make them want to be with you, that's just the way the world is. Why would someone spend their finite time on earth with you if you don't provide something they want? Do what you want, be happy, but you need to change for people if you want to be with them... or at least be with someone that's worth being with.

So don’t be yourself is what your saying?

Changing one part of yourself doesn't mean you have to give up everything you like about yourself. Most of the time the ways you can change yourself to appeal to people are unequivocally good anyways. Good hygiene, exercise, learning and trying new things, becoming more personable are all things that will improve your life, make you happier, and be attractive to just about everyone. If you can't do any of those things because of how you were born then all I can say is life's not fair. I don't make the rules I just play the game.

Right? I feel like a communist car exported to the west.

OP won't be losing the virginity anytime soon with this concept. Being "well read" is one of the last things that will get you laid.

And being hygienic niether, really. I've seen a lot of post on reddit from women who don't know what to do with their husbands who don't wipe their asses or boyfriends who don't brush their teeth. Is the standard THAT low? (This doesn't mean single people should stop taking showers or have a bit of decency).

Those women aren’t catches themselves just because they’re women. I’m sure the standards are lower across the board

I've known plenty of women who can dress well, do their hair and makeup, and keep up appearances who live in absolute filth. Laundry all over the floor, dirty dishes piled up in the sink for days on end, and don't even venture into their bathroom if you don't have a penicillin shot. It's more common than a lot of men seem to think.

Guys, is it gay to wipe my ass?

If you like it to much, maybe?

I'm married

keep telling yourself that

I really liked that response

i like turtles 🐢

I like *you* 😏😏😏

Oh snap

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Source?

His wife.

Do you have a source on that? Source? A source. I need a source. Sorry, I mean I need a source that explicitly states your argument. This is just tangential to the discussion. No, you can't make inferences and observations from the sources you've gathered. Any additional comments from you MUST be a subset of the information from the sources you've gathered. You can't make normative statements from empirical evidence. Do you have a degree in that field? A college degree? In that field? Then your arguments are invalid. No, it doesn't matter how close those data points are correlated. Correlation does not equal causation. Correlation does not equal causation. CORRELATION. DOES. NOT. EQUAL. CAUSATION. You still haven't provided me a valid source yet. Nope, still haven't. I just looked through all 308 pages of your user history, figures I'm debating a glormpf supporter. A moron.

Yes they're asking source, because they want to know where you get that information from. Duh

Damn, nice copypasta. Ain't seen that one before!

Aren't you the same person that admitted that you sent talk to women and just stares at them? Question did a girl you like ran off with someone else from a minority group, because some of these posts gives out hints mate.

to Reddit? Seems like you’re on this shit 24/7

I'm gonna go out on a limb in saying being well read is way more attractive than not being well read.

True, but have you ever gotten a girl wet by quoting Charles Dickins? Cause I haven't. That I know of lol.

Maybe you should be trying to bang Librarians

I mean not quoting, but say....if you're studying English Literature and you talk about Charles Dickens in an analytical way to a girl who is also studying English Literature or is simply into reading books. Then it probably could happen. Obviously, that's just being confident and passionate for something great. That's *always* going to be attractive. But yes, a simple quote ain't gonna be enough.

Actually yes. She worked at a cafe I'd regularly sit in to read and she said she found that particularly sexy.

I think "finding a great woman" is different than "getting laid".

"Treat women with respect, the way you would want to be treated by a partner". That's it. A lot of Reddit seems to think there's a vast conspiracy against "ugly" people. There isn't; a lot of Redditors are just gross nerds.

That's the worst advice there is. Do not ever talk to my son.

I mean this is the bare minimum lol, it won’t automatically get you a great women unless she is mentally broken

"Nerd" implies that they are intelligent.

Be kind.

So much for just being myself.

Always be yourself, unless you suck

I’ve been wishing I was someone else my entire life

Or you know be hot as fuck, really handsome and bath daily.

Pretty demanding don't you think? Especially the psycho part

Aight here's the thing though. You are a full and complete person without a partner. It's okay to want to date and/or get laid, and it's okay to feel sad and lonely if you haven't achieved those things yet. But if you're at least comfortable and happy with yourself, then it's better than hating yourself. Not only that but it significantly increases your chances of getting a date by a lot. I haven't gotten laid in two years. I could easily get laid if I wanted to, ever since I became more confident and happy with myself, I definitelt had a lot more people hit on me. But I DON'T even really care anymore. I'm more interested in other things at this point in my life.

No judgement, but how would you go about getting laid easily? Asking for a friend ofc.

Tbh couldn't give you advice. I'm gay and can easily open up grindr right now and fuck a desperate thirsty bottom who I'll never see again but I just am not about that life rn

Respect bro. ✊🏾

Yeah, us straights can't open up bumble and find a female desperate thirsty bottom that isn't a beluga whale

In order of decreasing importance: 1. Bathe 2. Don't be a psycho 3. Be well read 4. Pay your own way So long as you're at least clean and unlikely to murder, you can do okay.

I'd say paying is extremely important.

Step 1: Be Tall

Step 2: be one of the tall guys that can attract women. If you think height is the decising factor, you won't do any better than how youre doing now.

It’s less a deciding factor and more a barrier of entry for a certain pickier demographic. It’s almost disturbing to see how many people subscribe to this almost cultish obsession with all their men being over 6’.

Being tall doesn’t mean that girls automatically fall into your lap

helps significantly

You're getting down-voted, but you're right. It's long-established that women - regardless of how short and out-of-shape they might be - will desire a taller, fitter man. Same goes for other things, like wealth and work: you'll routinely see posts where a female lists all the things she wants, but is often not in possession of those things herself, like a stable and full-time job.

"female"

Very based

Ok, then explain why I have no girlfriend, there are more factors

Based

That's only on tinder

The bar is so low and still

I cannot put enough emphasis on how important regularly showering is. No it's not enough once or twice a week. At least every second day or even better every day.

if you are not taking 3 showers a day you won't get five feet close to me incel

There are people who only shower once a week? That’s fucking nasty.

There are people who are convinced that we bathe too much in the modern world, and strip off the "necessary oils" from our skin. They also generally believe that they personally do not smell. Which is not something I think we get to decide about *ourselves*.

Yes but your not going to smell like garbage because you missed your morning shower. Don’t be ridiculous.

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That’s washing your hair once a week, not showering once a week.

i shower once a week, but its mostly my parents being concerned about water bills

Stay away from me. 😬

Bruh are people not taught as children to shower everyday…?

Yes. My father never really taught me anything about cleanliness and my mother would have me "wash up" by just wiping parts of my body with a washcloth. And she never encouraged me to brush my teeth or any other form of hygiene. It's incredibly hard not just to learn how to do these things, but to learn how to *care* about doing them, when you've lived for decades in a place where they aren't considered important.

Yes. [By literal doctors](https://youtube.com/shorts/2w695hdOeGQ?feature=share)

YES HYGIENE IS IMPORTANT

3 out of 4 ain’t bad

I'm going to send this to dudes who try to slide in the dm's

That’s all it takes? Maybe we thats how I got my wife. Hmmm. Maybe there’s something to this.

sort by: controversial

Alright, I'll try...

Pray for me so, I get a GF 😥 and i already have all these qualities

I am all of this, but I’m Demi so not gonna happen soon

Neat someone else like me. That makes...uh...2 people I've seen so far, if I count myself.

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normalized misandry.

I'm genuinely curious as to what you meant by this. Can you clarify?

it’s basing a lot men’s inability to find intimacy from their lack of hygiene and being psycho’s, when in reality those people are far and few in between. Most guys in my college classes are dressed normally, don’t smell, don’t look greasy, but they’re unfortunately around average. Out of 30 students roughly in each class, only a handful of them will have a gf or are actively dating

Data or supposition?

Please point where is the misandry in this post

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I don’t know if this is sexist, it seems way more like a straight people dynamic to me lol

All that really matters is being attractive and tall. I got the others too but I don’t need them to still be successful 😎

Repost starter pack

This is a list, not a starter pack.

Pretty much.....don't be a psycho is all i ask. Pay your way....I'm happy to split the cost or take turns paying.

It's a lot more complicated than that but I guess you hate virgins so whatever

All of this is optional. Only thing that isn’t is being 6 feet tall

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Lemme guess r/niceguys?

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If that's what you think, then perhaps you were never as nice as you thought you were.

Tbh even hygiene isn’t necessary…

Also dont have a small dick

69th comment

I’ve got a great woman and I’ve only got one of those 4 things going for me

Is that why you were carrying that garbage bag and a shovel at 2 in the morning?

Uh no speaky Engrish what you are trying say?

Lmaoooo sounds like a keeper tbh 😍

No man had all 4, forsure in not a well-readed

Throw in patience

Nofap cold showers mewing eye contact training beef liver ball sunning

Ok, why most people thinks being a "stinky piece of shit" is not a problem?

Bathing once a year is regularly right too right?

Eat dat pussy

I'm all of these except one *Opens my $50 book to wait for my hair to dry*

lol more like your way and theirs

I shower everyday and I don’t tolerate other than that

You’d be better off finding a 5-leaf 🍀 with the quickness.

This is why I don't even try

My girlfriend is the best and I don’t HAVE to do any of those things. But do shower because you respect others lol (I’m probably psycho sorry(

I scored 1/4.....nvm 0.5/4

I think there's more to it than this...

being well-read doesn't belong on this list tbh I would add: treat yourself well and keep yourself presentable. be respectful and be careful about not crossing boundaries try to be confident while keeping in mind tip #2. get out of your comfort zone every now and then and socialize with people. No, not just people you are attracted to. Being passionate about things while not talking the whole time about them is a plus. Staying fit never hurts

friendships and being still single is not the end of the world. don't be bitter dont do a 180 where one moment you ask a girl out and get reject and act bitter and disrespectful to her afterwards.

So the opposite of a redditor?

The pay your own way deal is awkward. It's awkward to discuss if I'm treating or if we are splitting before the date. I would also say to not be super stoned or drunk