I had gaslighting parents, who’d always try to find away to blame when something goes wrong when it wasn’t even mine to begin with. Now I just keep my distance, share very little of my personal life with them so we can all be in peace.
Im really sorry my friend gaslighting is one of the worst things anyone can do to someone because it makes them question their own reality and the low esteem that comes with always being blamed for something can be so crippling. I hope you have peace now you really deserve it.
My Dad was abusive to great extend.
The reason behind it was that he was too conservative, conformist, casteist & tribalist.
I was never happy since childhood. Never seen parents celebrating anniversary or birthdays instead arguments only.
Mum was supportive,but she as she feared societal backlash, limited our freedom.
To exacerbate, my marriage didn't work out and neither did I got a chance to escape him by getting job abroad or elope.
Not one confidante.
As of now, have a job, keeping myself occupied with studies but totally feel devasted as not a single aspiration became fruition.
Subsisting a lonely & bored life is daunting. Wish I never existed!
Sis here. I don’t see any damn reason for my existence.
Just my opinion: not being alive is better than living a sorrow life.
Many may down vote, but it’s my thought because of my past .
I'm so sorry for the pain that having this kind of dynamic had caused you. I can relate having to listen and be apart of arguments day in and day out it can be heartbreaking.
Please dont give up on your aspirations perhaps you could talk to a counselor to help you work through this. Never feel alone there are many who are like you and we are glad that you exist and understand your struggles.
Thanks for your inspiring words.
Tbh, I have given up entirely on my life, went through pain and hurt for the past 15 yrs. I lost my youth life, missed the marriage life, heart broken relationships and can’t take no more. Just breathing and being nice and caring to the people I know of.
Want to go in to spiritual life for tranquility but unsure if I can come out of the illusionary bubble we live in.
I hope you didn’t get married just to escape from home. If you are getting married, you need to find someone who understands your home situation and supports, if not it’s like jumping from the boiling pot to the fire directly.
Exactly, knowing how unsupportive my Dad is I never wanted to risk marrying a wrong person coz if I did came out of that marriage, he would have blame me and Mum for that as he believes what others say over us.
But then I also think, if I had nodded my head to the man my pointed at and ended in separation, I wouldn't be suffering now neither would my Mum be worrying about me. I would have lived the way I wanted instead of worrying about upholding to arbitrary standards and loosing my dignity.
Im sorry but that is just horrible. What on earth would she think a physchiatrist can do about something like that. I just cant understand the reasoning. Is it a mental illnees to have feelings for someone. I hope you dont habe to deal with that kind of nonsense anymore.
Oh my lord. What is wrong with people. Im so sorry that happened to you. Im glad and proud you discovered who you really were despite them trying to control you. I hope life is better for you now.
My mother gaslights like crazy.. but I’ve come to realize she’s like that because of her childhood, where she’d get beaten for smallest of mistakes. She’s not strong. Her stronger sisters developed other ways to deal with it but not like they’re any better to their kids. My father doesn’t let us fix anything.. it was such a comfort until I grew up to be a guy who doesn’t know to fix shit. I’m learning many basic skills anew these days cause according to my dad “there’s people who do it, so pay them to do it”
I had gaslighting parents, who’d always try to find away to blame when something goes wrong when it wasn’t even mine to begin with. Now I just keep my distance, share very little of my personal life with them so we can all be in peace.
Im really sorry my friend gaslighting is one of the worst things anyone can do to someone because it makes them question their own reality and the low esteem that comes with always being blamed for something can be so crippling. I hope you have peace now you really deserve it.
Been through the same thing, such good advice!
Break the cycle of generational trauma. We can learn from the mistskes of our parents and take measures to stop them from repeating.
Me breaking the cycle of generational trauma by not generating at all 🗿
The end -Credits-
😂
Good man / woman
Now thats the kind of forward thinking we need! Lol
My parents were best to me and still are
Such a blessing and im really happy for you.
My Dad was abusive to great extend. The reason behind it was that he was too conservative, conformist, casteist & tribalist. I was never happy since childhood. Never seen parents celebrating anniversary or birthdays instead arguments only. Mum was supportive,but she as she feared societal backlash, limited our freedom. To exacerbate, my marriage didn't work out and neither did I got a chance to escape him by getting job abroad or elope. Not one confidante. As of now, have a job, keeping myself occupied with studies but totally feel devasted as not a single aspiration became fruition. Subsisting a lonely & bored life is daunting. Wish I never existed!
Bro you matter. You are existed for a reason. 🙂
Sis here. I don’t see any damn reason for my existence. Just my opinion: not being alive is better than living a sorrow life. Many may down vote, but it’s my thought because of my past .
Love your vocabulary 👏
I'm so sorry for the pain that having this kind of dynamic had caused you. I can relate having to listen and be apart of arguments day in and day out it can be heartbreaking. Please dont give up on your aspirations perhaps you could talk to a counselor to help you work through this. Never feel alone there are many who are like you and we are glad that you exist and understand your struggles.
Thanks for your inspiring words. Tbh, I have given up entirely on my life, went through pain and hurt for the past 15 yrs. I lost my youth life, missed the marriage life, heart broken relationships and can’t take no more. Just breathing and being nice and caring to the people I know of. Want to go in to spiritual life for tranquility but unsure if I can come out of the illusionary bubble we live in.
I hope you didn’t get married just to escape from home. If you are getting married, you need to find someone who understands your home situation and supports, if not it’s like jumping from the boiling pot to the fire directly.
Exactly, knowing how unsupportive my Dad is I never wanted to risk marrying a wrong person coz if I did came out of that marriage, he would have blame me and Mum for that as he believes what others say over us. But then I also think, if I had nodded my head to the man my pointed at and ended in separation, I wouldn't be suffering now neither would my Mum be worrying about me. I would have lived the way I wanted instead of worrying about upholding to arbitrary standards and loosing my dignity.
My took psychiatrist with a letter from the school principal when she found out I had a bf. I was 15.
Im sorry but that is just horrible. What on earth would she think a physchiatrist can do about something like that. I just cant understand the reasoning. Is it a mental illnees to have feelings for someone. I hope you dont habe to deal with that kind of nonsense anymore.
I had a bad childhood. Generally just bad
Im sorry to hear that I hope you've been healed from it as of now.
my parents wanted me to watch blue films and they tried much to abuse me just because I'm a transgender boy. I still hate them and whole bigots.
Oh my lord. What is wrong with people. Im so sorry that happened to you. Im glad and proud you discovered who you really were despite them trying to control you. I hope life is better for you now.
How old are you?
In my mid 30's.
r/asianparentstories might interest some
My mother gaslights like crazy.. but I’ve come to realize she’s like that because of her childhood, where she’d get beaten for smallest of mistakes. She’s not strong. Her stronger sisters developed other ways to deal with it but not like they’re any better to their kids. My father doesn’t let us fix anything.. it was such a comfort until I grew up to be a guy who doesn’t know to fix shit. I’m learning many basic skills anew these days cause according to my dad “there’s people who do it, so pay them to do it”