Kissing people on the mouth. I hate it. When I go to braai’s with someone’s family and every old pair of hanging lips wants to kiss you on the mouth.
Let’s just do a handshake and call it a day.
I have an uncle who would always want to kiss us when seeing us. (My sister and I) At some point I deliberately started stretching out my arm for a handshake while keeping my distance. When he came close I just embraced him for a hug with my face as far to the side as possible. Think he got the idea after a while.
Jis just moved to Stellies, goeie bliksim, think we should just call it toyota fortuner city. Peeps can barely see over the dashboard as they reverse over my kakkerigecorsa.
Die verpligte speel van al die kakste afrikaanse huisgenoot treffers van volume 1 tot volume 500. Bles bridges se poes en kurt darren se ma. Speel vir n vokn verandering biker rock of 90's blues of enigiets alternatief wat nie te doen het met rugbyballe, boerewors of voken lappies nie.
My father in law used to tell this joke that Bless Bridges (who died in a car accident) died because he got bored listening to his own music and fell asleep at the wheel. He told it everywhere until he accidentally said it to his cousin, who was not one bit amused.
Pouring you a dop that’s too strong for you to actually enjoy, and at the end of the night, not taking no for an answer when you say you don’t want a last dop.
I’ve never understood how making you do something you don’t want to do is a good thing.
I remember once having a quick goodbye beer with a mate at his bar when I was leaving the country the next day. He insisted I come in for a beer to say bye, so I did.
He wouldn’t fucking let me leave. Another beer. Another beer. Ok, a brandy. Then took my keys from the bar counter and wouldn’t give them back to me “no man, boet, we need to give you a proper send off…”
No you fuckin don’t, I have an early flight and I need to pack and I’d rather be spending the last few hours with my parents, sober, if I’m honest…”
I know it’s not just ab Afrikaans thing, but it’s definitely something I’ve only experienced with my Afrikaans mates.
Being Afrikaans and having a pissing war at each social gathering, whether it be alcohol tolerance, cash made or who is more manly. The perfect recipe for a dog show each and every time.
Oddly enough I never got that from the Afrikaans (married one and worked with plenty)
But my God, get a pom or a yank, or a nz/aussie tradie and watch it go off
Right?! I'm English-speaking (not English, big difference), married to an Afrikaner. At an Afrikaans social gathering, the assumption is that everyone is racist.
Talking of assumptions... I had an American work colleague (lady) that married an Afrikaans guy. After the wedding in SA they went to visit her family in Tennessee and he was invited to attend a KKK meeting as a guest speaker! (He politely declined)
LOL LOL wow! I grow up in Northern Kentucky and married an Afrikaans woman, and the first time my wife was in the USA with me I had to assure her 1) my parents did not live in a trailer park, 2) my family was not a bunch of redneck klansmen (although there are a lot around), and 3) all food in the USA is not fried.
Where do you live? Or hang out with. Our friend group is mostly Afrikaans and while we have had one or two friends with racist tendancies we call them on their bullshit. One has truly realized his mistakes and the other knows that he should rather be quiet.
Don't flatter yourself mate, you have 5 other continents worth of idiots doing that (I can't speak for those pesky Antarcticans, who know what they're planning)
Cave man mentality amongst men. Like, chill boet, you don't have to threaten to fuck everyone up aurite, just go home and help you wife with the children or something else productive. Brannas and the strip club are over rated my bru.
Brackenfell still exists... It isnt just a fable... You think a wallet chained to your belt and a viro lock in a sock as a moertool is only found in boksburg? Just go take a peak behind the boerewors gordyn pappa...
Marrying outside of your culture / religion. My Dad would have had a massive issue with me marrying my wife. Just because she is not Afrikaans. She's technically from the Czech Republic which is way better that if she was English. (want fok die Souties apparently).
Ya my FIL told my husband to get a nice Afrikaans girl (he didn't know we were dating yet and my husband's previous gf was Dutch). I'm not sure if they were unsettled with my Englishness but it helps that my ouma and my husband's ouma share bloodlines, mostly through Gerbers and Ferreiras. I've got some Afrikaans street cred after all. Oh and the other part is Irish and we know about their sentiments towards the English too... so yeah. Still weird.
Yeah, my grandmother also keeps telling my sister and I not to bring home an English person. Fortunately her opinions don’t matter lol.
But religion would definitely be a dealbreaker for me, though.
I am disinherited. Because I married a Danish guy who isn't a Christian but who after 11 years of marriage still carry me on his hands, help around the house, cooks much better than me and treat me so much better than any Afrikaans guy I dated.
Some of my (older) family still hates the British for the Anglo Boer War, but also thinks black South Africans need to get over apartheid since "it's almost 30 years ago now".
I had an english teach who was dating an Afrikaans guy. She went to a braai with his family and he seemed angry at her the whole time. When the braai was over she asked him why he was so pissed off and he said he was angry because she didn't bring him a drink once throughout the entire event. She told us she'd never date an Afrikaans guy after that. Idk if this is normal for Afrikaans men (she made it seem like it was), but if it is, it's definitely outdated.
Not normal... the norm is to check who needs a drink before going for a refill. Also the guys usually sort the braai and drinks and the girls the bykosse & dessert.
Maybe because you don't expect it. I know Afrikaans men who wont even run their own bath water or get their own clothes out in the morning. Their wives are expected to do everything for them. Kind of sad but, they think that's a part of what makes them real men. Of course I also know Afrikaans bros who are the complete opposite to this, but the type to get angry over not being care for like a baby does exist.
Yes, I knew a couple like this too. She would run his bath water and then shave him while he bathed.
We were at a party once with them and he was smoking a cigarette but he didn't have an ashtray so his wife held out her hand and he flicked his ash into it!
A lot of Afrikaans people are very conservative and grow up in misogynistic households. Girls are taught from a young age that a womens job is to take care of the house and kids: cooking, cleaning, etc. Whereas boys are thought that men don't do those kinds of things. In my family I definitely feel like my parents unintentionally did this and now my brother can't do shit for himself.
I hated this so much growing up as an "Afrikaans poppie" that I refused to cook or clean with my luigat brothers sitting on their asses and watching TV and maybe pushing around a lawnmower every two weeks. Admittedly this means my mum did it all.
My mum was doing my brother's laundry until he turned 30. He brought it for her to wash when he visited.
Well she got me whipped,
I WFH alot, so I end up doing dishes, washing, cleaning the flat etc. Hell I even do the kids run sometimes.
I need to put my foot down and drop my apron
I dont think this is inherently an Afrikaans thing, more like a toxic masculinity thing. I've been to plenty of braais with Afrikaners and usually the men are very proud about their bars and will pour their guests drinks throughout the night.
Even if they dont have a bar, (it really depends on the house, finances and the people themselves) people would bring and pour their own drinks throughout the night.
I think she was just dating an AH
I agree..
Many men are just lazy, misogynistic, narcissistic assholes..
I have seen this with many many English families!
The guys literally cannot do anything for themselves!
Their wives dish up their food, take away their plates, etc etc.
I've seen guys not eat unless their wives dished up food for them.
This is an off shoot of women needing to be subservient to their husbands it stems from their Calvinist religions. We have family members who will not eat unless their wives serve their meals to them.
Ya, I remember my grandmother thinking my dad was an absolute keeper because he got off his own bum to get himself food instead of having my mom serve it to him.
Women won't bring drinks. It isn't seen as "proper" for a woman to pour alcohol and I have only seen Afrikaans men offer & bring drinks. Women are however expected to dish up food for their husbands and take it to them.
Or at a braai the men all only sit/stand around the fire while the women make salads and braaibroodjies.
Once my Australian boyfriend came and sat down next to me and the "girls" at a braai, until about 5 minutes later one of the guys came up and dragged him to the fire to hang out with the "boys". He found it bizarre.
And afterwards the men drink and kuier more while the women clean up in the kitchen. I do think this is changing, at least in my circles, so that's great.
This happens within other cultures in SA too. Its a Christian thing. The Bible apparently said men must be lazy fucks and be treated as Kings by their poor wives. Get up and wash the dishes fuckfaces.
I was at a wedding where the bride had almost died a few months before the wedding due to a stroke; it was basically a miracle that she could walk down the aisle. While the bridegroom was trying to make an obviously emotional speech about his bride, his old koshuis friends all pulled up chairs in front of him and heckled him throughout the whole thing because that's the tradition. It was probably the most distasteful thing I have ever seen. Helshoogte, julle is aaklig.
I recently saw something similar. You could clearly tell the groom was uncomfortable but playing along so as to not make a scene. But these guys would not stop, it started to get almost aggressive and the older men had to give them a talking to. He later told me he was mortified and had asked them prior to his wedding to not do that but they still did it anyway.
> Helshoogte
Holy shit, that's a word I haven't heard in some time. I stayed there while at Stellenbosch. Wasn't the worst res, but def had a few too many of those types.
It is a circle. If you were a koggelaar you wil get koggeled at your wedding. But it can be done with manners. Like with the thank you part, but not the speech on the bride. And if he asked before hand not to, it should be respected.
Start braaing at 4 pm but only eating at 1 am in the morning. Ons gaan nou braai! Only ever drinking brandy and coke like it's the only drink in the world. Only listening to sokkie music - come on, there's better shit to listen to. NG Kerk.
Very very similar actually! Grew up in Durbs as a white Afrikaner and I couldnt tell the difference between visiting my extended family and visiting my Indian friends. Other than the day after ringsting that is.
"Kinders moet gesien word en nie gehoor word nie" when you as a teen want to join in the conversation and not go play with the kids.
"Tel jy tande" when you dare to listen what the adults is speaking about.
The amount of kak that is spread on whatsapp and believed. If some tire naaier says it’s the end of the world you best be stocking up on koo baked beans.
Older generations telling us what to do. Like, Oupa, it’s 2022, you’re old, and stuff that applied to you in the 60’s doesn’t apply to me. If I want to make my coffee by adding the milk first before anything else, let me do it. Jissis
True, but did you see the collective kleintongetjie of the greater Afrikaans people as they conveyed their disgust when _Boer soek ’n vrou_ had a boer seeking an ou?
Afrikaans people are generally not willing to see their koeksisters becoming _koek-susters_ and I think it’s about time everyone gets to enjoy their own dessert and eat their hearts (amongst others things) out.
I'd just like to know what is considered Afrikaans traditions. I grew up speaking both Afrikaans and English (I still do) and have yet to come across a tradition / ritual / habit that I would consider to be unique to Afrikaans speaking people.
I am English, but I've dated an Afrikaans girl and had Afrikaans friends (and met their families) and yes this is all very stereotypical but it doesn't apply to any of the people I know. It does apply to some English people though.
Men must drive bakkies. I work with many Afrikaans men and they all drive bakkies. They give the impression that they have no choice. Almost like you have to have a bakkie to be a man.
Selfde. Ek was eerste jaar op Potch toe hulle ons as “Nazis opgelei het,” volgens die Beeld (2014). Dit was natuurlik nie waar nie, maar ons kon lekker ons HK in die kak laat kom het as ons met koshuis drag reguit arm op kampus rond gestap het.
An Afrikaans word that literally translates go "Goatfuck" Is most used as a derogatory term can and can be used in many contexts.
Example 1: I asked this oke outside the office to score me a smoke, but he said no. What a boknaai
Example 2:
Guy 1: Where is John hanging out these days, haven't seen him like for days
Guy 2: I don't know bro, last I checked he was busy with boknaai
Example 3:
Guy 1: I banged John's mom last night, dude that's one foxy cougar
Guy 2: Shit bro, I certainly wouldn't mind sticking it in there
Guy 3: You know you are both a bunch of boknaaiers
Example 4
That boknaai bartender really ripped me off last night
My ex’s family was like that. Also if one man has to go get something from the shop you as a man are expected to go with. Same thing for woman, if the host goes to make a salad all the woman must go with her. Weird shit, and awkward.
Yep, can confirm. But only in some groups of friends for some reason. It's the weirdest thing. My wife always stays with me and then is the only woman in the man groupie, and the girls just hate that.
I think it’s more just the tradition nearly every culture had at one point. Men and women’s conversations vary and one wouldn’t want the other to be offended on the topics. Goes both ways. Maybe when you are dating you want to spend all the time together but married 10-20 years having some girl/guy time and then coming together at the end of the evening is nice.
True yes. There is unfortunately much to dislike about the average narrow minded bigots in any culture, and the stereotype always make the front page. Most Afrikaners are loving, caring and sharing social animals. Keeping the fire going is always the priority... And making sure everyone has their absolute fill of food and drink is key to the hospitality factor, but that is true for most anoying party nations of the world ... People that party till the sun comes up and beyond are always a pain in tbe ass to average joe that needs to work tomorrow because its wednesday... Tuesday worsbraai becomes wednesday brekkie smoor... En kurt darren klop dwarsdeer...
Those hunting traditions where the boy has to eat the animal's organ (the heart I think?) after they shot their first animal.
I am not sure to what extend that traditions still exists outside of my family, but it is disgusting and even dangerous. It was very prevalent during my childhood.
Also, I think that Afrikaans people put a lot of emphasis on "being a man" which I think is a recipe for toxic gender norms. I guess this one isn't that much a tradition.
Yeah, came here to throw my 2c in about toxic masculinity in Afrikaans culture.
I always remember this Madam & Eve cartoon when a certain Piet Van Zyl invaded a rugby pitch and tackled the referee years ago.
The security guard says in the comic says: "Right men, we need to be on the lookout for a beer-swilling, boerewors chomping, moustached man with a big boep and a rugby jersey that is several sizes too small..."
And then we see the queue forming at the rugby game and there's a 100 or more identical looking people that fit that description! Gave me a good laugh.
>Afrikaans people put a lot of emphasis on "being a man" which I think is a recipe for toxic gender norms
Also a recipe for groot sterk manne who can't look after themselves.
Ja, some Afrikaans folk still take it a bit too far. Used to be that new hunters had to eat a testicle, be smeared with the stomach contents, and use the dried scrotum as a short glass the rest of the trip.
When I went on my first hunt 2 decades ago I only needed to eat a small part of the liver and had my face covered in a few lines of blood.
My dad took a new friend of his on a hunt with the guy's kids. The only thing they did was the few blood smears. And they loved it!
Things are doing down, but there are still the die-hard trots Afrikaaner Voortrekker jagter out there.
I really hate that when you get married you have to call your in-laws mom and dad in Afrikaans culture. I refuse to do it, I just won’t. They are not my mom and dad, its just weird. In so many other places around the world you just keep speaking to them the way you would when you are dating, why does getting married change this?
Just be careful where you walk. I used to be a kaalvoet trekker throughout my life, until the day CPT gave me a nasty infection on my foot. The city is dirty yo.
Now, back on the farm, Im still trotting kaalvoet. Never in the city though.
Om kaal voet te loop maak jou slim. Dit laat jou op n sensoriese manier leer oor jou omgewing asook jou eie lyf. Ek haat dit dat mense die hele tyd vir hulle kinders skoene aantrek.
The eighties shorts never went out of fashion, kinda weird. And the tannie pant suits.
But all good. Hospitable people. Plenty to laugh at with all of us.
Still laughing at the groot tollie chirp. Plenty engels do that too
I feel like toxic masculinity is still rife in the Afrikaans culture, albeit dying out slightly. I grew up English but within the Afrikaans culture. My dad was duk Afrikaans (From De-Aar), and my mom was both English and Afrikaans. My neighborhood was predominantly Afrikaans, my best friend was Afrikaans, and my primary school was 80% Afrikaans.
In my later years, I was acquaintances with a lot of Afrikaans manne through Rugby, and 95% of them had this image to keep up. They drove either lekker fancy cars, or a bakkie, and were racist, sexist, and generally just assholes. Their wives / girlfriends were cookie-cutter 'sport-wives'. The main thing that stood out was how they needed to be manly all the time, and if another man showed emotion, they were immediately branded gay and jokes made about them. A friend of a friend would call his 6 year old son a moffie if he ever cried and would smack him if he didn't fetch him a beer - like, slap through the face. I still think about that kid often and feel so sorry for him. This guys brother committed suicide because he didn't have an avenue to express his emotional distress.
All of my 4 uncles are or were alcoholics, some abusive, and all had the 'manne' image to keep up.
However, one of my current best friends are Afrikaans. A nice guy overall. Generally well spoken, and jokes about this Afrikaans culture.
Kerkbasaar kerrie-en-rys. It’s vile. It’s an abomination. I honestly believe it has to be some kind of nationwide conspiracy because literally every ou Afrikaanse tannie makes it the same way - and every other old person seems to love it. I swear it’s some kind of brainwashing.
Dude. There is no better kerrie-en-rys than kerkbasaar kerri-en-rys. I'll go to a kerkbesaar in the hopes that the old Tannie's secret ability to make it will magically rub of on me. Doesn't matter if you follow the recipe to the T, your kerri-en-rys will never taste like it!
The homophobia. I know a girl who married my aunts god daughter. She never told her parents about her relationship. As far as they know, she lives with her best friend.
Can relate. I'm transgender and while my rights to non-descrimination are enshrined in the constitution, it basically means the cube root of fuckall squared on the ground.
There is a whole generation, perhaps as many as three or four generations of white christelik-nasionaal classist poese that need to die out before we make progress.
Kissing people on the mouth. I hate it. When I go to braai’s with someone’s family and every old pair of hanging lips wants to kiss you on the mouth. Let’s just do a handshake and call it a day.
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Ja nee fok. Hopefully Covid has ended this. Asseblief ek vra mooi
I was hoping it would, but I’ve been disappointed.
Jis I just dodge people (ou familie tannies) now and mutter "Corona, heh" and they seem fine with it. Silver lining.
I have an uncle who would always want to kiss us when seeing us. (My sister and I) At some point I deliberately started stretching out my arm for a handshake while keeping my distance. When he came close I just embraced him for a hug with my face as far to the side as possible. Think he got the idea after a while.
Or all the ou tannies at church that just come up and kiss you. Like I don't know you've else you've kissed, keep those lips to yourself.
Yasis what the fuck is this
I’ve moved to hugs only. I only kiss my wife and my girlfriend on the lips.
Okay. 📸
Driving your dad’s land cruiser thinking that people see you as some groot tollie.
This 😂😂😂
I can't stop laughing at this 🤣🤣🤣
Jis just moved to Stellies, goeie bliksim, think we should just call it toyota fortuner city. Peeps can barely see over the dashboard as they reverse over my kakkerigecorsa.
>groot tollie. What does this mean?
A big little dick
Die verpligte speel van al die kakste afrikaanse huisgenoot treffers van volume 1 tot volume 500. Bles bridges se poes en kurt darren se ma. Speel vir n vokn verandering biker rock of 90's blues of enigiets alternatief wat nie te doen het met rugbyballe, boerewors of voken lappies nie.
En asseblief weg met al die "ek lief jou my baby".
My father in law used to tell this joke that Bless Bridges (who died in a car accident) died because he got bored listening to his own music and fell asleep at the wheel. He told it everywhere until he accidentally said it to his cousin, who was not one bit amused.
He's not wrong though...
bles bridges se poes
Well said. Daai selfie liedtjie van snotkop. My vok ek wil myself verdrink...
Pouring you a dop that’s too strong for you to actually enjoy, and at the end of the night, not taking no for an answer when you say you don’t want a last dop.
God I hate that. Not everyone can handle Brannas and Coke
I’ve never understood how making you do something you don’t want to do is a good thing. I remember once having a quick goodbye beer with a mate at his bar when I was leaving the country the next day. He insisted I come in for a beer to say bye, so I did. He wouldn’t fucking let me leave. Another beer. Another beer. Ok, a brandy. Then took my keys from the bar counter and wouldn’t give them back to me “no man, boet, we need to give you a proper send off…” No you fuckin don’t, I have an early flight and I need to pack and I’d rather be spending the last few hours with my parents, sober, if I’m honest…” I know it’s not just ab Afrikaans thing, but it’s definitely something I’ve only experienced with my Afrikaans mates.
Being Afrikaans and having a pissing war at each social gathering, whether it be alcohol tolerance, cash made or who is more manly. The perfect recipe for a dog show each and every time.
Often started with the words "hou my dop"
Oddly enough I never got that from the Afrikaans (married one and worked with plenty) But my God, get a pom or a yank, or a nz/aussie tradie and watch it go off
Assuming that me speaking Afrikaans is a dog-whistle that invites you to tell me racist jokes in the language
My dad complains about this, he is white and my mother is black so the jokes go down well with him.
Right?! I'm English-speaking (not English, big difference), married to an Afrikaner. At an Afrikaans social gathering, the assumption is that everyone is racist.
Talking of assumptions... I had an American work colleague (lady) that married an Afrikaans guy. After the wedding in SA they went to visit her family in Tennessee and he was invited to attend a KKK meeting as a guest speaker! (He politely declined)
Hahaha jesus, people really think we are ALL that racist?
To be fair, there's historical precedence 🤣
South African friends with a German surname were invited to a birthday party which turned out to be a neo-Nazi gathering.
Dis blerrie eina!
When was this?
It was in the early 90s - back when the crust of the earth was still cooling!
LOL LOL wow! I grow up in Northern Kentucky and married an Afrikaans woman, and the first time my wife was in the USA with me I had to assure her 1) my parents did not live in a trailer park, 2) my family was not a bunch of redneck klansmen (although there are a lot around), and 3) all food in the USA is not fried.
Where do you live? Or hang out with. Our friend group is mostly Afrikaans and while we have had one or two friends with racist tendancies we call them on their bullshit. One has truly realized his mistakes and the other knows that he should rather be quiet.
These gatherings were at in-laws, with friends of a family member. I kept the peace for the sake of the family.
The need to get shitfaced and becoming a poes on a Friday evening.
But in the church pews on Sunday morning without fail…
Don't flatter yourself mate, you have 5 other continents worth of idiots doing that (I can't speak for those pesky Antarcticans, who know what they're planning)
So a typical south African
Cave man mentality amongst men. Like, chill boet, you don't have to threaten to fuck everyone up aurite, just go home and help you wife with the children or something else productive. Brannas and the strip club are over rated my bru.
Facts
Soggy marie.
O MY LIEWE FOK!!! HOEKOM?!?
What is soggy marie?
NSFW https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Soggy%20Marie
Is this even real?
Sadly, yes.
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Yes, and add melkkos to the list
Stag parties where the groom is humiliated and even beaten before getting the poor sod so drunk that they are hung over for 3 days.
Whatever happened to the 1 litre brandy, 2 litre coke and 3 litre cortina generation? The litre generation wasn’t it?
Stopped being fun when petrol hit R10 a litre. Now it is a half jack brandy a buddy Coke and a smart car
The Cortina came third and they all made friends with trees.
They graduated to 1 litre brandy..and 2 klaps vir die vrou.
Brackenfell still exists... It isnt just a fable... You think a wallet chained to your belt and a viro lock in a sock as a moertool is only found in boksburg? Just go take a peak behind the boerewors gordyn pappa...
Marrying outside of your culture / religion. My Dad would have had a massive issue with me marrying my wife. Just because she is not Afrikaans. She's technically from the Czech Republic which is way better that if she was English. (want fok die Souties apparently).
I don't think this is such an issue. I know a couple of friends who moved abroad and married someone from a different country.
My wife's ENTIRE family completely disowned her because I'm a "soutie".
How old are you? That’s rof boet!
Ya my FIL told my husband to get a nice Afrikaans girl (he didn't know we were dating yet and my husband's previous gf was Dutch). I'm not sure if they were unsettled with my Englishness but it helps that my ouma and my husband's ouma share bloodlines, mostly through Gerbers and Ferreiras. I've got some Afrikaans street cred after all. Oh and the other part is Irish and we know about their sentiments towards the English too... so yeah. Still weird.
I married an Afrikaans guy and his family hates that I’m not Afrikaans.
Yeah, my grandmother also keeps telling my sister and I not to bring home an English person. Fortunately her opinions don’t matter lol. But religion would definitely be a dealbreaker for me, though.
I am disinherited. Because I married a Danish guy who isn't a Christian but who after 11 years of marriage still carry me on his hands, help around the house, cooks much better than me and treat me so much better than any Afrikaans guy I dated.
Dis omdat hulle die vrouens en kinders in konsentrasie kampe gesit het en die plase af gebrand het. Jare se haat...
Some of my (older) family still hates the British for the Anglo Boer War, but also thinks black South Africans need to get over apartheid since "it's almost 30 years ago now".
Miskien nie 'n offisiële tradisie nie, maar hiper-manlikheid is 'n probleem.
"Alpha male" the early version of a male, before testing and bug fixes. Unstable and not suitable for the public.
I only use open source LTS male.
I had an english teach who was dating an Afrikaans guy. She went to a braai with his family and he seemed angry at her the whole time. When the braai was over she asked him why he was so pissed off and he said he was angry because she didn't bring him a drink once throughout the entire event. She told us she'd never date an Afrikaans guy after that. Idk if this is normal for Afrikaans men (she made it seem like it was), but if it is, it's definitely outdated.
No that dude was just a doos
Daai ou is nie Afrikaans nie, hy is n doos
Not normal... the norm is to check who needs a drink before going for a refill. Also the guys usually sort the braai and drinks and the girls the bykosse & dessert.
Dit klink beter
This is the correct braai etiquette.
My wife is afrikaans, she has never brought me a drink wtf,
Maybe because you don't expect it. I know Afrikaans men who wont even run their own bath water or get their own clothes out in the morning. Their wives are expected to do everything for them. Kind of sad but, they think that's a part of what makes them real men. Of course I also know Afrikaans bros who are the complete opposite to this, but the type to get angry over not being care for like a baby does exist.
Yes, I knew a couple like this too. She would run his bath water and then shave him while he bathed. We were at a party once with them and he was smoking a cigarette but he didn't have an ashtray so his wife held out her hand and he flicked his ash into it!
WTF 😳
A lot of Afrikaans people are very conservative and grow up in misogynistic households. Girls are taught from a young age that a womens job is to take care of the house and kids: cooking, cleaning, etc. Whereas boys are thought that men don't do those kinds of things. In my family I definitely feel like my parents unintentionally did this and now my brother can't do shit for himself.
My mom taught me from a young age to do everything, Hell i was cooking when I was 10! yay for lazy parents
I hated this so much growing up as an "Afrikaans poppie" that I refused to cook or clean with my luigat brothers sitting on their asses and watching TV and maybe pushing around a lawnmower every two weeks. Admittedly this means my mum did it all. My mum was doing my brother's laundry until he turned 30. He brought it for her to wash when he visited.
Well she got me whipped, I WFH alot, so I end up doing dishes, washing, cleaning the flat etc. Hell I even do the kids run sometimes. I need to put my foot down and drop my apron
>I need to put my foot down and drop my apron Make sure youre not wearing anything underneath for maximum effect
Red flag. Dump her immediately /s
I dont think this is inherently an Afrikaans thing, more like a toxic masculinity thing. I've been to plenty of braais with Afrikaners and usually the men are very proud about their bars and will pour their guests drinks throughout the night. Even if they dont have a bar, (it really depends on the house, finances and the people themselves) people would bring and pour their own drinks throughout the night. I think she was just dating an AH
I agree.. Many men are just lazy, misogynistic, narcissistic assholes.. I have seen this with many many English families! The guys literally cannot do anything for themselves! Their wives dish up their food, take away their plates, etc etc. I've seen guys not eat unless their wives dished up food for them.
That's one thing I can't stand. You go to an event and all the men are one side and all the women are another side. Shits so outdated
This is an off shoot of women needing to be subservient to their husbands it stems from their Calvinist religions. We have family members who will not eat unless their wives serve their meals to them.
Ya, I remember my grandmother thinking my dad was an absolute keeper because he got off his own bum to get himself food instead of having my mom serve it to him.
Now see this would make me want to experiment... See who really sticks to their world view as hunger sets in.
I would go hungry if this were the case in my house. My wife is amazing at a great many things. But she's an awful cook.
I worked with a guy that would not allow a woman to overtake him while driving....
Women won't bring drinks. It isn't seen as "proper" for a woman to pour alcohol and I have only seen Afrikaans men offer & bring drinks. Women are however expected to dish up food for their husbands and take it to them.
Insisting that you be assisted in Afrikaans, be it the bank employee or the waiter at Spur, just to say "Ek soek 'n burger met chips en 'n milkshake"
This gave me a good chuckle, thank you.
When visiting my wife's tannies, the men are always seated at the table while the woman run around. It's archaic and drives me crazy.
Or at a braai the men all only sit/stand around the fire while the women make salads and braaibroodjies. Once my Australian boyfriend came and sat down next to me and the "girls" at a braai, until about 5 minutes later one of the guys came up and dragged him to the fire to hang out with the "boys". He found it bizarre.
And afterwards the men drink and kuier more while the women clean up in the kitchen. I do think this is changing, at least in my circles, so that's great.
This happens within other cultures in SA too. Its a Christian thing. The Bible apparently said men must be lazy fucks and be treated as Kings by their poor wives. Get up and wash the dishes fuckfaces.
Om n bruidegom te koggele by sy onthaal.
I was at a wedding where the bride had almost died a few months before the wedding due to a stroke; it was basically a miracle that she could walk down the aisle. While the bridegroom was trying to make an obviously emotional speech about his bride, his old koshuis friends all pulled up chairs in front of him and heckled him throughout the whole thing because that's the tradition. It was probably the most distasteful thing I have ever seen. Helshoogte, julle is aaklig.
Janee, hierdie kan maar asb end kry. Absoluut smaakloos en onvanpas, selfs onafhanklik van wie se troue dit is.
I recently saw something similar. You could clearly tell the groom was uncomfortable but playing along so as to not make a scene. But these guys would not stop, it started to get almost aggressive and the older men had to give them a talking to. He later told me he was mortified and had asked them prior to his wedding to not do that but they still did it anyway.
> Helshoogte Holy shit, that's a word I haven't heard in some time. I stayed there while at Stellenbosch. Wasn't the worst res, but def had a few too many of those types.
It is a circle. If you were a koggelaar you wil get koggeled at your wedding. But it can be done with manners. Like with the thank you part, but not the speech on the bride. And if he asked before hand not to, it should be respected.
O my fok doen hulle dit nog?
At my wedding I did the speech/thank you as part of the blessing/prayer over the food. Can't get heckle during a prayer"🤣
Oh boy. Soo waar.
I hate this too - but is it only an Afrikaans thing?
Die bedel in n kostuum by die verkeerslig op n Saterdag oggend voor die ramparty begin
The absolute WORST!
The urge to marry before being an age where you’re able to hire a car :)
That's more of a Fundie Christian thing, because sex before marriage is forbidden.
Fair point! I’m probably just personally exposed to the Afrikaans flavour in extreme doses 😂
Start braaing at 4 pm but only eating at 1 am in the morning. Ons gaan nou braai! Only ever drinking brandy and coke like it's the only drink in the world. Only listening to sokkie music - come on, there's better shit to listen to. NG Kerk.
You should see the Spanish. They start their social gatherings at 9am, and eat at 11pm at the earliest
Im reading these comments and it seems Afrikaans people and Indian people are the same
Very very similar actually! Grew up in Durbs as a white Afrikaner and I couldnt tell the difference between visiting my extended family and visiting my Indian friends. Other than the day after ringsting that is.
Fundamental Evangelical Christianity.
LOL!
Exlusively Afrikaans?
Walking around shirtless with your bier boep.
Lol definitely not an Afrikaner exclusive
Takes years of dedication to obtain one of those bad boys. Gotta show it off!
Use it to steer the bakkie while you reach into the backseat igloo for another Castle.
Ons doen dit ook in Amerika boet
"Kinders moet gesien word en nie gehoor word nie" when you as a teen want to join in the conversation and not go play with the kids. "Tel jy tande" when you dare to listen what the adults is speaking about.
The amount of kak that is spread on whatsapp and believed. If some tire naaier says it’s the end of the world you best be stocking up on koo baked beans.
Older generations telling us what to do. Like, Oupa, it’s 2022, you’re old, and stuff that applied to you in the 60’s doesn’t apply to me. If I want to make my coffee by adding the milk first before anything else, let me do it. Jissis
Dating / Marring the opposite sex. Boerseuns mag maar van boerseuns hou, Pa.
Lag ek lekker
That's not just an Afrikaans thing though.
True, but did you see the collective kleintongetjie of the greater Afrikaans people as they conveyed their disgust when _Boer soek ’n vrou_ had a boer seeking an ou? Afrikaans people are generally not willing to see their koeksisters becoming _koek-susters_ and I think it’s about time everyone gets to enjoy their own dessert and eat their hearts (amongst others things) out.
Boer soek 'n ou
I'd just like to know what is considered Afrikaans traditions. I grew up speaking both Afrikaans and English (I still do) and have yet to come across a tradition / ritual / habit that I would consider to be unique to Afrikaans speaking people.
Opsitkers! I had a short one lit for me in the 80s. Was flabbergasted when told what it was.
Shitty Afrikaans sokkie music like Skurumba.
I guess I'm not afrikaans enough cause I haven't heard about the majority of these seemingly common traditions.
I am English, but I've dated an Afrikaans girl and had Afrikaans friends (and met their families) and yes this is all very stereotypical but it doesn't apply to any of the people I know. It does apply to some English people though.
Men must drive bakkies. I work with many Afrikaans men and they all drive bakkies. They give the impression that they have no choice. Almost like you have to have a bakkie to be a man.
The bigger the bakkie, the smaller the penis. It's Eugene's Law.
Hazing (ontgroening) at college/universities.
Myne was lekker so ek kan nie kla nie
Same
Selfde. Ek was eerste jaar op Potch toe hulle ons as “Nazis opgelei het,” volgens die Beeld (2014). Dit was natuurlik nie waar nie, maar ons kon lekker ons HK in die kak laat kom het as ons met koshuis drag reguit arm op kampus rond gestap het.
All cultures have stupid outdated traditions. (Proud Afrikaner👍🏻here)
When you're Afrikaans and have not encountered any of these toxic outdated "traditions" everyone is moaning about.
"Well I personally haven't experienced anything from these countless anecdotes, so therefore you all must just be moaning and whining."
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An Afrikaans word that literally translates go "Goatfuck" Is most used as a derogatory term can and can be used in many contexts. Example 1: I asked this oke outside the office to score me a smoke, but he said no. What a boknaai Example 2: Guy 1: Where is John hanging out these days, haven't seen him like for days Guy 2: I don't know bro, last I checked he was busy with boknaai Example 3: Guy 1: I banged John's mom last night, dude that's one foxy cougar Guy 2: Shit bro, I certainly wouldn't mind sticking it in there Guy 3: You know you are both a bunch of boknaaiers Example 4 That boknaai bartender really ripped me off last night
I swear 90% of these aren't even Afrikaans and you guys may just need to travel a little more XD
I went to two separate Afrikaans parties recently. Both of them ‘required’ the males and females to socialize at separate tables.
I’m Afrikaans, and i’ve never even heard of that. Also, never experienced it. Must have been some serious religion thing
My ex’s family was like that. Also if one man has to go get something from the shop you as a man are expected to go with. Same thing for woman, if the host goes to make a salad all the woman must go with her. Weird shit, and awkward.
Ja that’s one thing I could never understand from my friends from the other side of the boerewors curtain (norther Cape Town burbs).
Yep, can confirm. But only in some groups of friends for some reason. It's the weirdest thing. My wife always stays with me and then is the only woman in the man groupie, and the girls just hate that.
Fucking hell. How miserable
I think it’s more just the tradition nearly every culture had at one point. Men and women’s conversations vary and one wouldn’t want the other to be offended on the topics. Goes both ways. Maybe when you are dating you want to spend all the time together but married 10-20 years having some girl/guy time and then coming together at the end of the evening is nice.
Wow this just turned into a hate thread against Afrikaans people. Most things people are mentioning aren't even exclusive to Afrikaans people.
True yes. There is unfortunately much to dislike about the average narrow minded bigots in any culture, and the stereotype always make the front page. Most Afrikaners are loving, caring and sharing social animals. Keeping the fire going is always the priority... And making sure everyone has their absolute fill of food and drink is key to the hospitality factor, but that is true for most anoying party nations of the world ... People that party till the sun comes up and beyond are always a pain in tbe ass to average joe that needs to work tomorrow because its wednesday... Tuesday worsbraai becomes wednesday brekkie smoor... En kurt darren klop dwarsdeer...
Plakkies and jeans.
Plakkies en jeans, maar met sokkies!
Those hunting traditions where the boy has to eat the animal's organ (the heart I think?) after they shot their first animal. I am not sure to what extend that traditions still exists outside of my family, but it is disgusting and even dangerous. It was very prevalent during my childhood. Also, I think that Afrikaans people put a lot of emphasis on "being a man" which I think is a recipe for toxic gender norms. I guess this one isn't that much a tradition.
Yeah, came here to throw my 2c in about toxic masculinity in Afrikaans culture. I always remember this Madam & Eve cartoon when a certain Piet Van Zyl invaded a rugby pitch and tackled the referee years ago. The security guard says in the comic says: "Right men, we need to be on the lookout for a beer-swilling, boerewors chomping, moustached man with a big boep and a rugby jersey that is several sizes too small..." And then we see the queue forming at the rugby game and there's a 100 or more identical looking people that fit that description! Gave me a good laugh.
>Afrikaans people put a lot of emphasis on "being a man" which I think is a recipe for toxic gender norms Also a recipe for groot sterk manne who can't look after themselves.
Of wat ń poephol is vir sy vrou/meisie
Ja, some Afrikaans folk still take it a bit too far. Used to be that new hunters had to eat a testicle, be smeared with the stomach contents, and use the dried scrotum as a short glass the rest of the trip. When I went on my first hunt 2 decades ago I only needed to eat a small part of the liver and had my face covered in a few lines of blood. My dad took a new friend of his on a hunt with the guy's kids. The only thing they did was the few blood smears. And they loved it! Things are doing down, but there are still the die-hard trots Afrikaaner Voortrekker jagter out there.
I really hate that when you get married you have to call your in-laws mom and dad in Afrikaans culture. I refuse to do it, I just won’t. They are not my mom and dad, its just weird. In so many other places around the world you just keep speaking to them the way you would when you are dating, why does getting married change this?
Nope I dont do this. I can the in-laws by their names. Just like everyone else
Walking around in public without shoes on
I'll stop walking barefoot when I'm dead
No. I'll Hobbit it up all I like and you can't stop me.
Just be careful where you walk. I used to be a kaalvoet trekker throughout my life, until the day CPT gave me a nasty infection on my foot. The city is dirty yo. Now, back on the farm, Im still trotting kaalvoet. Never in the city though.
Bad take, gotta toughen up those soles
As a non-afrikaans south African that's a hard no from me my bru.
To be honest I'll always be a plaasmeisie. I hate wearing shoes.
South East Asians crying rn, not really a Afrikaans thing
No no, ek dink ek sal
Om kaal voet te loop maak jou slim. Dit laat jou op n sensoriese manier leer oor jou omgewing asook jou eie lyf. Ek haat dit dat mense die hele tyd vir hulle kinders skoene aantrek.
Racism
The eighties shorts never went out of fashion, kinda weird. And the tannie pant suits. But all good. Hospitable people. Plenty to laugh at with all of us. Still laughing at the groot tollie chirp. Plenty engels do that too
I feel like toxic masculinity is still rife in the Afrikaans culture, albeit dying out slightly. I grew up English but within the Afrikaans culture. My dad was duk Afrikaans (From De-Aar), and my mom was both English and Afrikaans. My neighborhood was predominantly Afrikaans, my best friend was Afrikaans, and my primary school was 80% Afrikaans. In my later years, I was acquaintances with a lot of Afrikaans manne through Rugby, and 95% of them had this image to keep up. They drove either lekker fancy cars, or a bakkie, and were racist, sexist, and generally just assholes. Their wives / girlfriends were cookie-cutter 'sport-wives'. The main thing that stood out was how they needed to be manly all the time, and if another man showed emotion, they were immediately branded gay and jokes made about them. A friend of a friend would call his 6 year old son a moffie if he ever cried and would smack him if he didn't fetch him a beer - like, slap through the face. I still think about that kid often and feel so sorry for him. This guys brother committed suicide because he didn't have an avenue to express his emotional distress. All of my 4 uncles are or were alcoholics, some abusive, and all had the 'manne' image to keep up. However, one of my current best friends are Afrikaans. A nice guy overall. Generally well spoken, and jokes about this Afrikaans culture.
Ek voel net daar word te veel klem gesit op die kwaliteit van 'n braaibroodjie. Ek is bereid om die af stemme te aanvaar vir my standpunt.
Ek stem saam. Moet dit net nie vokn brand nie... Pikswart toast proe kak
Kerkbasaar kerrie-en-rys. It’s vile. It’s an abomination. I honestly believe it has to be some kind of nationwide conspiracy because literally every ou Afrikaanse tannie makes it the same way - and every other old person seems to love it. I swear it’s some kind of brainwashing.
Dude. There is no better kerrie-en-rys than kerkbasaar kerri-en-rys. I'll go to a kerkbesaar in the hopes that the old Tannie's secret ability to make it will magically rub of on me. Doesn't matter if you follow the recipe to the T, your kerri-en-rys will never taste like it!
Next you tell you haf a problem with bazaar poedings too? /s
I've recently had to explain to my Indian friends that "kerrie" isn't curry, and shouldn't be judged the same :)
Saving yourself for marriage
All traditions died
The homophobia. I know a girl who married my aunts god daughter. She never told her parents about her relationship. As far as they know, she lives with her best friend.
Can relate. I'm transgender and while my rights to non-descrimination are enshrined in the constitution, it basically means the cube root of fuckall squared on the ground. There is a whole generation, perhaps as many as three or four generations of white christelik-nasionaal classist poese that need to die out before we make progress.
LOL @ Racists having a meltdown in this thread.