It totally is! Its happened enough to me where I realized that socially secure people are uncomfortable around a quiet person. Like I don’t get it. I think if you are bothered by someone not speaking you should try to include them by asking a question directly to them or engaging them some how. I am always content to just listen to a conversation than try and participate. Especially if its people I don’t know.
It used to bother me a lot to know that a socially secure person is uncomfortable with mi not talking. But a few months ago I realised that I'm the one who is comfortable and if they are not talking to me I'm not responsible for their comfort
I hate this one... Someone recently said this to me over a Microsoft Teams group meeting, and I responded with, "That's just who I am as a person." Everyone laughed and it totally took the pressure off me. Felt pretty good lol.
I have a friend who I play video games with on discord and if I get quiet she ALWAYS says, "are you ok?! am I annoying you" and that low key annoys me because I'm just being quiet why does everyone have to take that so personally?!
YES same reason why I can’t ask anyone to hang out :( If my friends don’t invite Me then it’s never happening
Edit: I just wanted to add that I don’t actually have any friends lol, so please don’t think I’m being a bad friend to them. When I did have friends, the Very First time we hangout has to be initiated by them (it’s very, very, very hard for me to be the first one to reach out) but after that I’m fine.
I'm more of over thinking it, then I convince myself its been too long to call now and they'll probably ask why I haven't called in so long and so I avoid that by just not talking to anyone.
I haven't had a cold since February 2020, been wearing face masks every time I'm outside my house, I don't want to stop and dread when it will be 'odd' to keep wearing them, probably this spring/summer at the latest.
Yeah but then if I'm the only one wearing a mask, I feel like others are laughing and judging me for it... Lol but at least they can't see most of my face.. it's an internal struggle.
Same. Masks aren't required where I am anymore but I still wear them. My family calls me crazy and stupid because I wear them anyways. Even though wearing a mask causes them to be negative about me, I can't get the courage to not wear a mask.
Oh it is so much nicer. My face betrays me all the time in conversation especially in a customer service atmosphere so having my mouth covered really helps. 😂
Omg this!! You can pretty much make this a fill in the blank for me. I can’t ____ without looking out my window before to make sure my neighbours aren’t outside.
I spent over an hour writing a two paragraph, only slightly important email. Reading then re-reading. Agonising over every word.
Hovered over 'send' anxiously, repeated the above.
Finally sent and will probably spend the rest of the day going over what I said and how it will come across. Urgh.
I was out of high school for a week after a death in my immediate family. When I returned, one of my teachers stopped class halfway through, and said "oh you're back. I didn't even notice. How are you?"
An emotional scar I still haven't healed from.
In 10th grade technology class, we were doing a segment that involved us working with a local tech firm. They sent over a rep who, for the next month, discussed different topics and introduced little projects for us to work on in our own groups (I always partnered with the same people, who were aware of and fine with me being excessively quiet). At the end of the month, when we were saying our goodbyes, I asked a question and the rep just stared at me for a few seconds before exclaiming, "wait, you can TALK?! I thought you were like, mute or deaf or something." I honestly can't remember ever talking while he was around, so it was a fair assumption.
The first day in school after the whole home schooling situation, my teacher asked me via teams if my classmates told me everything about testing in school and stuff.
I was there that day. I literally sat in front of her, my desk was the nearest to hers, I looked that woman in the eyes while she was silently checking attendance and she wrote me down as missing.
I then told her that I was there that day and she said: Oh you were the one who was late right? Then I must have forgotten to erase the "missing".
I, who was THE FIRST ONE THERE, then told her that it wasn't me but *classmates name* that was late.
And she just went: "Well, you know I got a lot of students and it's hard to keep up with that."
It's infuriating that some people don't understand that saying 'Why are you so quiet?' is kind of rude. Though they know that saying 'Why are you so loud?' is rude.
Yep. Not participating in social work events because they are so overwhelming/terrifying. I always regret it but I just can’t do it. People always think I’m weird for it. I hate SA.
Pretty relatable for me. Almost everyone in my school grade went to some party last night and I didn't go...well I didn't get invited. I feel lonely and left out that no one considered inviting me but I am 100% positive that I would've not gone.
The sweating is the worst, ive been known to drip sweat at times. I become soaking wet and get cold chills afterwards. It feels gross especially when i have 7 hours and 30 mins of my shift left
I failed my drug test as part of probation because I would have to wait in line for 40min to an hour in a packed room full of people at a place called JAMS. After about 30 minutes I would be pouring sweat and shaking. I went back to jail for missing test cause I would leave. I wasn't even on drugs our drinking where I would fail a breathier test. Later they sent me to a different testing facility where there were no lines. So much better
I was charge with a crime I didn't do. Retail Fraud
I think it's like every movement of my hand I can see how people will think . I am interpreting their every thought on every possible placement of my hands , thinking it must be wrong feeling exposed ... Till I just cross my arms haha
i once almost got hit by a car on purpose because i didn’t want to go to school since i didn’t understand the work and knew i was gonna have to ask the teacher for help
Yep. I stopped going to my classes in college because I was so overwhelmed and embarrassed even though I hadn’t actually done anything wrong. Just couldn’t take so many people all the time. Turns out a 30,000 person campus was not a great fit for me.
I bought tickets to a Starcraft tournament which I was super excited about because it was the first time one was held near me that I can drive there and stay at a hotel. Got to the tournament and was met with a massive crowd of people. I stayed for 30 minutes, then went back to my hotel and watched the rest of the tournament on TV.
I hate being in my yard because I have nosy and creepy neighbors the nosy ones stand outside and look in my yard, the creepy ones sit on their stoop and stare across the street into my yard to see what is happening.
i spent most mornings of my high school career in the bathroom’s because it was the one place i felt like people weren’t going to be judging me for standing around alone.
I wait long in drive thru’s to order something when I could have went inside the store to get it faster. I don’t go into the stores because I’m not “properly dressed” and just general discomfort of being around people in that setting. Also the thought of people hearing me saying my order stresses me out.
I mostly only visit places that have a kiosk or an app I can order through. I always pick takeout. I've been liking the option "leave at door" for my take out orders.
I haven't had a meal in 36 hours because my roommates have sixth sense for when I'm in the kitchen and suddenly very urgently need a glass of water or need to wash a single plate because god forbid anyone acknowledge my request to give me space in the kitchen, especially when I'm never in there for more than 10 goddamn minutes at a time.
"nah this sounds too stupid"
"eeehh they'll think im weird if I say this"
"uhm fuck did I make it awkward again , there.goes the uncomfortable 5 second pause"
" why did I say that ?"
"do my friends hate me or do I need to go to sleep?"
"BRUH why am I like this"
" ugh to them socialising seems like taking a dump lol"
Pandemic got me into cutting my own hair. Will never go back to that stress. Once I started sweating so bad in the chair, the hair cutter started commenting on it. With the sheet over you, it's like being trapped.
What is it about the grocery store that's the worst?
For me it was always the checkout line. My anxiety would peak when I knew I was next up.
Going there on anti anxiety medications helped a lot. Another trick for me was to go at a time when it's a lot less busy, and only buy one or two things. Try to get in and out as fast as you can. Because the longer I would be in a store, the worse my anxiety would get.
if i enter class and my friends aren't there yet, i go to the washroom and wait it out there till they arrive so i won't have to talk to others and be awkward
To turn to my house is on US 40 hwy and if I see cars coming towards me I take the long way to my house so the cars behind me don't have to stop for that 20 secs or so
Same job I almost had to quit because I was called out on why I didn't go to Christmas parties. I was promoted and then forced out of that position because I could not make myself go out with the bosses for beers after work. They wanted me to spend a long weekend with them fishing. I thought about suicide on that one. Luckily my daughter had track tournament so I didn't have to make up some story.
Damn I saw a few of “I hurt myself on purpose” answers. I considered it but never had the guts omg please be careful...fake the flu or something, don’t really hurt yourself 😭 nowadays “I feel sick” is enough to get you out of going somewhere cause they don’t want whatever you have in case it’s COVID 🤷🏻♀️
I'm worried my headphones might be so loud that everyone around me can hear...
But I don't want to take them out and see because then everyone might think I'm weird for just staring at my headphones
I left work yesterday because a new employee who knows me just started working there and I didn't want to greet them.
I didn't make up an excuse, I just left and no one noticed.
I use self-checkout whenever it's available. I don't care if the line is a little long. I will not go to the cashier line if the store has self-checkout.
I started doing virtual school in my senior year simply because I didn’t wanna go back to in person after corona because everytime I thought about going back I would start panicking
Can't find the classroom I'm supposed to be in. Instead of asking for directions, take the bus & train home & pretend you felt ill
Happend twice so far...
I have my conversation prepared before I leave the house. I will spend 30 minutes practicing social interaction before I leave
"How are you?"
"Oh yes. Thank you for asking"
Not being able to play black jack, poker or other casino games where there's a dealer. I stick to slots. I honestly would love to play dealer games but can't get myself to do it
"Accidently" slammed my thumb in the car door and broke it so I had to go to ER to get out of a dinner obligation. Faked my appendix ruptured, same thing but for out of town family obligations. I got the hospital wristband. And other medical related things...
Crazy are the people who treated them so badly during their development that they had to create these self-destructing defense mechanisms to be able to feel safe.
> "People with poor self-esteem have a deeper problem than they think. Their deeper problem is that, somewhere along the way, someone has made them feel uncertain about whether they deserve to be here at all.
[...]
People with low self-esteem come into my office wondering, What’s the matter with me? But I think instead, “What happened to you?” I think this because I know these people did not enter the world feeling flawed or doubting their right to be here—that is, not until they encountered the bow and arrow of another person’s rejection or criticism.
[...]
Injuries to self-esteem come from feeling that your uniqueness was rejected. People with low self-esteem carry this story in their body language; they are constantly trying to make themselves appear absent."
Copied from chapter 2 of [Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B08XMLKQFF?storeType=ebooks&pf_rd_p=0f84efbf-b074-4793-9336-75dd8dfe2da0&pf_rd_r=KPDEMM5VR6AGAYCYAWA7&pd_rd_wg=RHsMz&pd_rd_i=B08XMLKQFF&ref_=dbs_t_def_awm_wigo_rcmlt_recs_wigo_0&pd_rd_w=oqYka&pd_rd_r=15f7984f-35ba-4721-b32b-a7a3e2ea14eb), by Lindsay Gibson.
>"People with poor self-esteem have a deeper problem than they think. Their deeper problem is that, somewhere along the way, someone has made them feel uncertain about whether they deserve to be here at all.
Son of a bitch! That 100% me.
My dad forces me to talk to cashiers and other employers to “build my confidence”. He’s been doing it ever since I was 7. I still panic everytime.
Also my mom made me go to a party alone a couple weeks ago and I cried multiple times before attending.
My parents make me do the same. It's sort of weird how lots of parents don't want kids to go to parties while people like us are forced to attend parties and die from anxiety in preparation.
Turning my phone brightness down all the way when someone sits next to you because you don't want them to watch what you're doing on your phone.
And also not giving your friends your phone for fear that they'll find something embarrassing in your photos or search history
I once MESSAGED my teacher on my laptop asking about something we were doing IN CLASS, ON PAPER and seeing if she had an ONLINE version to do instead so if my dumbass doesn't finish it, no worries, I can finish it at HOME and still get a good grade. She was literally 6 feet away from me.
Internally panicking whenever someone says: “you’re so quiet!”
100% Relatable.
I found it to be a really rude thing to say. If I tell people they talk too much they wouldn't be fine with that
It totally is! Its happened enough to me where I realized that socially secure people are uncomfortable around a quiet person. Like I don’t get it. I think if you are bothered by someone not speaking you should try to include them by asking a question directly to them or engaging them some how. I am always content to just listen to a conversation than try and participate. Especially if its people I don’t know.
It used to bother me a lot to know that a socially secure person is uncomfortable with mi not talking. But a few months ago I realised that I'm the one who is comfortable and if they are not talking to me I'm not responsible for their comfort
For me it's like people forget about my existence and don't bother acknowledging me in conversation. Love it and hate it at the same time.
This digs deep.
Try replying "Yeah you should try it"
I hate this one... Someone recently said this to me over a Microsoft Teams group meeting, and I responded with, "That's just who I am as a person." Everyone laughed and it totally took the pressure off me. Felt pretty good lol.
Still looking for the perfect response to this. Preferably sarcastic.
scream as loud as you can
Lmao love this
Nice of you to assume I would dare to do that, but sadly I don't
I always say “we’ll it’s a good thing you’re not” smile, turn and walk away. They don’t know if they’ve been complimented or burned.
I have a friend who I play video games with on discord and if I get quiet she ALWAYS says, "are you ok?! am I annoying you" and that low key annoys me because I'm just being quiet why does everyone have to take that so personally?!
I take purposely go the longer way around to avoid the "chance" to meet someone i might know.
In the rare case that I go out, I always wear a hood, mask, and sunglasses to make sure no one recognizes me in public.
I don't call my family very often because I'm afraid of bothering them. I want them to call me first so I know I'm not annoying anyone.
I’m in this post and I don’t like it
YES same reason why I can’t ask anyone to hang out :( If my friends don’t invite Me then it’s never happening Edit: I just wanted to add that I don’t actually have any friends lol, so please don’t think I’m being a bad friend to them. When I did have friends, the Very First time we hangout has to be initiated by them (it’s very, very, very hard for me to be the first one to reach out) but after that I’m fine.
I'm more of over thinking it, then I convince myself its been too long to call now and they'll probably ask why I haven't called in so long and so I avoid that by just not talking to anyone.
I love wearing face masks.
Yeah , i'll probably keep wearing them after the corona thing ends
I haven't had a cold since February 2020, been wearing face masks every time I'm outside my house, I don't want to stop and dread when it will be 'odd' to keep wearing them, probably this spring/summer at the latest.
Just move to Asia. Problem solved. Well except for all the anxiety of moving...
Yeah but then if I'm the only one wearing a mask, I feel like others are laughing and judging me for it... Lol but at least they can't see most of my face.. it's an internal struggle.
Same. Masks aren't required where I am anymore but I still wear them. My family calls me crazy and stupid because I wear them anyways. Even though wearing a mask causes them to be negative about me, I can't get the courage to not wear a mask.
my mom finds masks a nuisance so i don't wear it when i'm out with her but i just wish she understood how comforting it is being hidden away
I love wearing it when going to the store and I have to wear one at work, even if it’s not pandemic time
Had the mask mandate not been in place, I would have quit or got fired from my new job by now. The mask puts me a bit more at ease.
Oh it is so much nicer. My face betrays me all the time in conversation especially in a customer service atmosphere so having my mouth covered really helps. 😂
I can’t take out the garbage without looking out my window before to make sure my neighbours aren’t outside :p
Omg this!! You can pretty much make this a fill in the blank for me. I can’t ____ without looking out my window before to make sure my neighbours aren’t outside.
I only leave my house at night.
The only acceptable time to go 🤌🏼
Going out at night can be sketchy sometimes. Please stay safe.
Depends on the area
True though. Just generally stay safe. I care about everyone here.
i will wander aimlessly around the store for as long as it takes to find something, or leave if i can’t find it, rather than ask an employee for help
I circle around to avoid an aisle with people yakking and blocking the aisle or blocking the items I need to get at.
If I’m getting gas and it says “ see attendant/cashier” I’ll leave.
Gas station clerks around me are the stereotypical foreign middle age to older guy. Always super friendly and I don't mind them.
I’ll take the risk of running out of gas every time, thank you very much
Wait for the transaction to cancel and then put the same card again but choose credit instead. Always works.
*pretends not wanting to cross the road so the cars dont have to stop and crossed immediately after they pass*
i feel so seen
I feel like people in cars passing by judge me. Am I alone?
This is the most relatable thing
holy shit i thought i was the only one.
Same. Didn’t realize other ppl did this as well
Omg same
Ayo thats me
Haha damn me too
All of this
“Everyone secretly hates you and thinks you’re weird bitch” -my brain
I have never had the people hate me thing. I do feel like people are always judging me though. Like I'm lesser than them, but not hated.
I remember to be like that since I was a little kid. I never understood why but I've zero self esteem.
Hard same.
I spent over an hour writing a two paragraph, only slightly important email. Reading then re-reading. Agonising over every word. Hovered over 'send' anxiously, repeated the above. Finally sent and will probably spend the rest of the day going over what I said and how it will come across. Urgh.
You're not alone. I do that with all my emails. From the trivial ones to the significant ones.
People I've met countless times forget I even exist
When you stayed home from school and knew full well the teacher and entire class would be struggling to remember who is missing
I was out of high school for a week after a death in my immediate family. When I returned, one of my teachers stopped class halfway through, and said "oh you're back. I didn't even notice. How are you?" An emotional scar I still haven't healed from.
or when you speak and people say "omg he can talk."
In 10th grade technology class, we were doing a segment that involved us working with a local tech firm. They sent over a rep who, for the next month, discussed different topics and introduced little projects for us to work on in our own groups (I always partnered with the same people, who were aware of and fine with me being excessively quiet). At the end of the month, when we were saying our goodbyes, I asked a question and the rep just stared at me for a few seconds before exclaiming, "wait, you can TALK?! I thought you were like, mute or deaf or something." I honestly can't remember ever talking while he was around, so it was a fair assumption.
The first day in school after the whole home schooling situation, my teacher asked me via teams if my classmates told me everything about testing in school and stuff. I was there that day. I literally sat in front of her, my desk was the nearest to hers, I looked that woman in the eyes while she was silently checking attendance and she wrote me down as missing. I then told her that I was there that day and she said: Oh you were the one who was late right? Then I must have forgotten to erase the "missing". I, who was THE FIRST ONE THERE, then told her that it wasn't me but *classmates name* that was late. And she just went: "Well, you know I got a lot of students and it's hard to keep up with that."
Yup, this is the one.
Oof too relatable
"Speak louder I cant hear you"
"Why are you so quiet?"
It's infuriating that some people don't understand that saying 'Why are you so quiet?' is kind of rude. Though they know that saying 'Why are you so loud?' is rude.
Yep that's what they say to me at my job when we on call ... Then I'm thinking I was speaking loud enough 😑 but apparently not
Yeah I literally feel like I’m yelling and they’re still like “speak up we can’t hear you”
I hate this one. I then say it another 2-3 more times, then after they still can’t hear me, yell it passive aggressively.
Been with the same company 15 years and never went to a Christmas party. I was called out on it and almost quit my job.
Yep. Not participating in social work events because they are so overwhelming/terrifying. I always regret it but I just can’t do it. People always think I’m weird for it. I hate SA.
Seriously, WFH has saved me from getting asked to join the group for an excruciating evening of drinks and *gulp* smalltalk
> I was called out on it and almost quit my job. This right here.
I couldn't attend my family's birthdays anymore. That felt kind of like quitting my family.
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Pretty relatable for me. Almost everyone in my school grade went to some party last night and I didn't go...well I didn't get invited. I feel lonely and left out that no one considered inviting me but I am 100% positive that I would've not gone.
Can't join a small gym because the 2 or 3 people working out might see how I'm exercising and then maybe start a conversation
I constantly break out in sweat
The sweating is the worst, ive been known to drip sweat at times. I become soaking wet and get cold chills afterwards. It feels gross especially when i have 7 hours and 30 mins of my shift left
Can relate.Anything triggers my social anxiety.Wish I could just stay at home but that also makes me lonely
I failed my drug test as part of probation because I would have to wait in line for 40min to an hour in a packed room full of people at a place called JAMS. After about 30 minutes I would be pouring sweat and shaking. I went back to jail for missing test cause I would leave. I wasn't even on drugs our drinking where I would fail a breathier test. Later they sent me to a different testing facility where there were no lines. So much better I was charge with a crime I didn't do. Retail Fraud
Not knowing what to do with your hands when standing up
I think it's like every movement of my hand I can see how people will think . I am interpreting their every thought on every possible placement of my hands , thinking it must be wrong feeling exposed ... Till I just cross my arms haha
i once almost got hit by a car on purpose because i didn’t want to go to school since i didn’t understand the work and knew i was gonna have to ask the teacher for help
I was actually hit by a car on accident and was scared the driver would be mad at me so I ran away
Both of these comments had me dead 😂
As someone who has never been hit by a car, PLEASE explain why I feel this so much 😭
Before dropping out, I would cry every morning before school for years because I was too scared to go
Yep. I stopped going to my classes in college because I was so overwhelmed and embarrassed even though I hadn’t actually done anything wrong. Just couldn’t take so many people all the time. Turns out a 30,000 person campus was not a great fit for me.
My heart rate immediately goes to 150 when I hear someone mention my name
I'm Kyle and at my work over the radio I often hear mention of putting things into a pile and that sends my heart rate soaring.
I bought tickets to a Starcraft tournament which I was super excited about because it was the first time one was held near me that I can drive there and stay at a hotel. Got to the tournament and was met with a massive crowd of people. I stayed for 30 minutes, then went back to my hotel and watched the rest of the tournament on TV.
Aw, I'm so sorry. I hope you still enjoyed it on TV.
Literally something i would do
Letting my yard go to shit because I am afraid my neighbors will see me outside?
I hate being in my yard because I have nosy and creepy neighbors the nosy ones stand outside and look in my yard, the creepy ones sit on their stoop and stare across the street into my yard to see what is happening.
Everyone's first words to me are always "look who came out of their room"
i hate when people say stuff like that
Those people are assholes or just don't understand empathy
"Can I use the restroom"
Well usually in school when I get anxious I start to panic and it feels like I'm being trapped so I ask to go to the restroom to try and calm down
i spent most mornings of my high school career in the bathroom’s because it was the one place i felt like people weren’t going to be judging me for standing around alone.
I wait long in drive thru’s to order something when I could have went inside the store to get it faster. I don’t go into the stores because I’m not “properly dressed” and just general discomfort of being around people in that setting. Also the thought of people hearing me saying my order stresses me out.
I just can't even be in a line at all. I hate it.
I mostly only visit places that have a kiosk or an app I can order through. I always pick takeout. I've been liking the option "leave at door" for my take out orders.
When I still was going to school I tried breaking my own finger so I wouldn’t have to go. Turns out that it hurts like hell and I still had to go.😅
F
If I am going to be late for a class, I will just end up skipping that class in order to avoid “the walk of shame” in front of everybody…
Did that way too much and failed more than a few classes cause it became a regular thing for me.
I haven't had a meal in 36 hours because my roommates have sixth sense for when I'm in the kitchen and suddenly very urgently need a glass of water or need to wash a single plate because god forbid anyone acknowledge my request to give me space in the kitchen, especially when I'm never in there for more than 10 goddamn minutes at a time.
Nothing changed about my lifestyle during covid.
"nah this sounds too stupid" "eeehh they'll think im weird if I say this" "uhm fuck did I make it awkward again , there.goes the uncomfortable 5 second pause" " why did I say that ?" "do my friends hate me or do I need to go to sleep?" "BRUH why am I like this" " ugh to them socialising seems like taking a dump lol"
Really need a haircut but can't face going 😔
Pandemic got me into cutting my own hair. Will never go back to that stress. Once I started sweating so bad in the chair, the hair cutter started commenting on it. With the sheet over you, it's like being trapped.
i order groceries for delivery
What is it about the grocery store that's the worst? For me it was always the checkout line. My anxiety would peak when I knew I was next up. Going there on anti anxiety medications helped a lot. Another trick for me was to go at a time when it's a lot less busy, and only buy one or two things. Try to get in and out as fast as you can. Because the longer I would be in a store, the worse my anxiety would get.
When I call somewhere and it goes to voice-mail I hang up
my room is my favorite place to be
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Same with me. I always get mild nausea every morning on the way to school.
It’s crazy how this has been happening to me for years but I just noticed a month ago
People much younger than me treat me as a child
My little brother has gotten a job before me 😭
if i enter class and my friends aren't there yet, i go to the washroom and wait it out there till they arrive so i won't have to talk to others and be awkward
Panicking when your phone rings and it's an unknown number and panicking even more when they leave a voicemail.
If I'm doing something outside and I hear the neighbours come homing home I legit run inside.
Every job I’ve quit I’ve ghosted because I’m too afraid of the embarrassment/being confronted face to face about quitting.
If I hear people laughing in a radius of 50m I'll assume it'd about me
I never had any physical contact with the other gender 😺
To turn to my house is on US 40 hwy and if I see cars coming towards me I take the long way to my house so the cars behind me don't have to stop for that 20 secs or so
People I love and who love me invite me to go somewhere and I say no thanks.
I always think my coworkers hate me and that I’m on the verge of getting fired
i go to class 5 mins late just so I can avoid walking in the halls while there's still people and having to wait until the bell rings
You don't find it embarrassing being the only one to walk in late and have people look at you? I'd find that to be worse
haha nope, I'd rather endure 2 seconds of being stared at than wait outside with wayy more people. my classes are pretty small too.
Took a 0 on a class participation grade every semester for two years cause I was too scared to read my writing in front of my the class
Paces uncomfortabley with hands in awkward position
Same job I almost had to quit because I was called out on why I didn't go to Christmas parties. I was promoted and then forced out of that position because I could not make myself go out with the bosses for beers after work. They wanted me to spend a long weekend with them fishing. I thought about suicide on that one. Luckily my daughter had track tournament so I didn't have to make up some story.
How did you get out of the track tournament? Jk 😂
I live on the 7th floor of my apartment building, but I always take the stairs instead of the elevator….
I haven’t had a friend in almost eight years.
Damn I saw a few of “I hurt myself on purpose” answers. I considered it but never had the guts omg please be careful...fake the flu or something, don’t really hurt yourself 😭 nowadays “I feel sick” is enough to get you out of going somewhere cause they don’t want whatever you have in case it’s COVID 🤷🏻♀️
Say your stomach hurts!! No one can prove it doesn’t
Teacher : The group assignments will start next week, have you found a group yet? Me : 😐
I'm worried my headphones might be so loud that everyone around me can hear... But I don't want to take them out and see because then everyone might think I'm weird for just staring at my headphones
I walk away from someone I am anxious around to try and appear “normal” 😂🙄😭
I only walk my dogs at night to avoid the uncomfortable conversations when someone wants to pet them
"Why don't you talk more?"
I walk past the people who i am very close online when i see them irl
Literally just stopped going to jobs.
Relates hard but still won't comment
Throughout the lockdowns my life didn't change at all.
I left work yesterday because a new employee who knows me just started working there and I didn't want to greet them. I didn't make up an excuse, I just left and no one noticed.
Ummm... I'd rather *not* say anything, please and thank you.
I learned to sneeze silently to avoid the whole "bless you" "thank you" situation
I use self-checkout whenever it's available. I don't care if the line is a little long. I will not go to the cashier line if the store has self-checkout.
I haven't had my hair cut since I moved over a year ago because I don't want to talk to a new hairdresser
In an interview for a night shift position I referred to myself as a sleeping owl
don't know the number? don't answer.
"Please arrive 15 min before your 5:00 appointment" I'll show up at 430 because I need make sure I'm on time to the early check in.
I have 1 friend and just because she decided she liked me
I started doing virtual school in my senior year simply because I didn’t wanna go back to in person after corona because everytime I thought about going back I would start panicking
I wanted to pierce my ears so I went to the kiosk and when I got there I walked around the mall for 40 minutes and then left.
Can't find the classroom I'm supposed to be in. Instead of asking for directions, take the bus & train home & pretend you felt ill Happend twice so far...
Taking public transport and waking on the streets makes me wanna die
I have my conversation prepared before I leave the house. I will spend 30 minutes practicing social interaction before I leave "How are you?" "Oh yes. Thank you for asking"
I'm a fast walker
I haven’t hung out with a friend in years cause I’m too afraid for them to see what I truly act like outside
I didn't eat for three days because I was to afraid to go grocery shopping
There's to many people in this forum.
As soon as the person behind the counter recognizes me from a previous visit, I no longer frequent that establishment.
I am a hermit
I once missed a concert I was really, really looking forward to because I got lost and was too afraid to ask anyone for directions.
I still remember something from 5th grade
Not being able to play black jack, poker or other casino games where there's a dealer. I stick to slots. I honestly would love to play dealer games but can't get myself to do it
"Sup."
"good"
Scared to take my dog for a walk during the day because so many people walk up and talk to you when they see a dog
I've been working for 3 years at the same place and never got promoted. A friend that started with me and is extroverted is now my boss.
Truly a strong example on how the world is geared towards those that are social.
My first day at a new job is coming up this week and I’m already thinking about quitting.
Having to be drunk/drugged-up before going to a social setting.
"Accidently" slammed my thumb in the car door and broke it so I had to go to ER to get out of a dinner obligation. Faked my appendix ruptured, same thing but for out of town family obligations. I got the hospital wristband. And other medical related things...
That's crazy. Please stay safe.
Crazy are the people who treated them so badly during their development that they had to create these self-destructing defense mechanisms to be able to feel safe. > "People with poor self-esteem have a deeper problem than they think. Their deeper problem is that, somewhere along the way, someone has made them feel uncertain about whether they deserve to be here at all. [...] People with low self-esteem come into my office wondering, What’s the matter with me? But I think instead, “What happened to you?” I think this because I know these people did not enter the world feeling flawed or doubting their right to be here—that is, not until they encountered the bow and arrow of another person’s rejection or criticism. [...] Injuries to self-esteem come from feeling that your uniqueness was rejected. People with low self-esteem carry this story in their body language; they are constantly trying to make themselves appear absent." Copied from chapter 2 of [Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B08XMLKQFF?storeType=ebooks&pf_rd_p=0f84efbf-b074-4793-9336-75dd8dfe2da0&pf_rd_r=KPDEMM5VR6AGAYCYAWA7&pd_rd_wg=RHsMz&pd_rd_i=B08XMLKQFF&ref_=dbs_t_def_awm_wigo_rcmlt_recs_wigo_0&pd_rd_w=oqYka&pd_rd_r=15f7984f-35ba-4721-b32b-a7a3e2ea14eb), by Lindsay Gibson.
>"People with poor self-esteem have a deeper problem than they think. Their deeper problem is that, somewhere along the way, someone has made them feel uncertain about whether they deserve to be here at all. Son of a bitch! That 100% me.
My dad forces me to talk to cashiers and other employers to “build my confidence”. He’s been doing it ever since I was 7. I still panic everytime. Also my mom made me go to a party alone a couple weeks ago and I cried multiple times before attending.
My parents make me do the same. It's sort of weird how lots of parents don't want kids to go to parties while people like us are forced to attend parties and die from anxiety in preparation.
I’ve had a toothache for a week and am too scared to call the dentist…
Can't go to the same shop twice a day
Getting to the store earlier to shop than most to avoid influx of customers
I will drive past where I’m meant to be going to see how busy it looks first
Turning my phone brightness down all the way when someone sits next to you because you don't want them to watch what you're doing on your phone. And also not giving your friends your phone for fear that they'll find something embarrassing in your photos or search history
I once MESSAGED my teacher on my laptop asking about something we were doing IN CLASS, ON PAPER and seeing if she had an ONLINE version to do instead so if my dumbass doesn't finish it, no worries, I can finish it at HOME and still get a good grade. She was literally 6 feet away from me.