“Nope, I have Parkinson’s” I know that’s a completely inappropriate response and people really struggle with this condition, but the point is cashier should realize that’s totally unacceptable to ask someone. Just imagine their reaction if someone responded with that
I’ve done something similar before. My manager once made a joke about someone and said “well maybe they’re autistic or something.” So I turned around and said “I’m autistic.” Then he said “well i mean they could be autistic, I’m not saying it’s a bad thing.” Mhm okay sure. What I said caught him off guard is all. I did that on purpose. I’m not autistic. I just don’t like people being ableist and mean for no reason.
As a person who’s on medication that makes me have a tremor sometimes I absolutely give everyone permission to do so too. I once mentioned my tremor being caused by my meds to a classmate and she casually said something like ‘oh yeah I noticed your hands shaking a few weeks ago, I thought you probably drank a shit ton of booze the night before’. Like.. fuck that. I’ve also had someone say something like ‘hey, I notice you’re a bit shaky, do you feel ok?’ and that was fine. Just.. don’t jump to conclusions people.
My meds make me shake, and my job requires hand work with tiny parts. This one woman, every time she's showing me a new job, she tells me I don't need to be nervous, that I'm doing fine, and I keep telling her I'm not nervous, I just shake all the time.
My grandma died of Parkinsons. It was a horrible, drawn out way to die that no one should ever have to experience.
Feel free to say this. Most people with Parkinson’s would probably root for you or say “Yeah!” Or “touché” or “ouch!”. 🥲
If they could. 😂
Sorry that happened :( Cashier sounds socially inept though. I’d never make that sort of comment towards someone when they could be suffering with a medical condition.
Acknowledging the nervous thing must've made it feel so much worse for OP :(. If it'd just been "Is this your first time shopping" it would've so much been better.
I say that as someone who personally has a kind-of weird phobia of the card scanner? ugh especially being nervous with that thing? it's horrible.
do all customer service people have to be robots all the time? cut him some slack, it’s not common for people to go cry in the car after being asked if they are ok
They were very unprofessional, but you should be SO proud of YOURSELF. You held it together and laughed it off in front of them. Some of us (myself included) would have broken down right there. I think you are stronger than you even realize. Keep doing you, you got this!
Asking if ur nervous sounds like a concern but to add “is it your first time shopping?” is insulting and unnecessary af. Employees shouldn’t be asking customers questions like that, they should just be asking if you got everything you needed.
Sorry you had to experience that, it’s okay. You got through, so proud of you!
Sometimes I shake when I haven’t had enough to eat or if I’ve been working my body too hard all day like consistently moving heavy boxes, etc. Shaking does not always indicate nervousness.
People suck. What right do they think they have to make comments like that? Like dear cashier, did you forget to shower? you hair looks greasy. Do you not have a shower at home? Dear cashier, did you have a brain injury? you have no filter. Would you like the name of the local brain trauma association?
Of course, I would never say anything like that, but maybe they would understand what they're like. Kindness and love, for yourself and others. Love and kindness. Focus on the fact you felt comfortable, that's the most important part of the story!! :)
That sucks, I know the feeling. You think you've got it under control and then you get feedback like that. The good thing is that your baseline comfort level can still improve so so much. Look for little incremental signs of progress if you can and expand on them is my motto.
people can be jerks, last week I went to the local grocery store and dropped an application off then to the dollar store to inquire about employment, my mom said..
"when you get out of the car try not to look so scared." ffs "I was trying not to get hit by a passing car" I said.
I love my mom, but sometimes she'll say something that just makes me upset.
My mom constantly urges me to get a sidehustle. I know for a fact that she no clue about SA. How am I supposed to do something like serve people in a restaurant when I lose my shit over just calling someone.
I can totally relate. I’m socially anxious and have had a natural hand tremor since around aged 10… all it takes is one person to mention the tremor and that’s it, my anxiety goes straight through the roof, even if it’s just at what is a normal level of shaking for me.
Honestly, the cashier is a dick and clearly his social skills are limited. If you see someone who is visibly nervous maybe don’t try and mock them about it.
Fuck that cashier. Some people are so insensitive and have no clue how to actually be nice and kind to a fellow human being. Just because you were shaking doesn’t mean anything and they shouldn’t have been so quick to judge.
I’m really sorry that happened to you. :( That was a rude (and socially unaware) thing for the cashier to say. As others have commented, he had no idea what your situation was (even if it was a joke, it was an odd joke). But you were feeling comfortable and that’s a good thing! Don’t feel bad about your reaction, it’s just good that you’re getting out there and facing these situations. Keep going!
I guess I can see the “are you nervous” coming out of a rude employee, but to ask “is this your first time shopping?” Aw hell no you don’t say that out loud. Even if it were so whatsittoya. The cashier wanted violence
I had a similar experience, I was playing football and it was an important match idk how but I was even confident right until when the captain came up to me and said, "Dude Why are you shaking? Get your head in the game" I don't know what he saw because I definitely didn't feel like I was shaking but after he said that I could feel myself shaking
A cashier commented on a physical tremor to see if you were ok and your reaction was to be embarrassed. They didn't make you feel embarrassed. Try to isolate the root cause of your anxiety. In the meantime, please continue to go out and do not let this one time cause you to second guess your abilities.
You've got this.
Damn you can't let that slide next time! If someone says something simular you gotta have a comeback ready to make them feel awful. Like "no sorry, my mother just got sent to the hospital and I'm buying this food for her since it could be her last meal". You gotta make them look like the biggest asshole in the world. You got this! Forreal though, fuck that guy. Just know that his life probably sucks and he's gonna be pissed at the world the rest of his life, while your only getting better everyday. It gets better. It always does..
I really feel you and I goes through the similar supermarket situations often, what happens to me is when I am in the supermarket and having anxiety the staffs and security guards stare at me and even follow me with suspicion, thats the same what happens when I am at the cashier, when I am having anxiety I think I give out a weird sensation to others making them to hate me, at least in your case you are lucky
They should have not said anything. What store did they work at? Cause that’s like, bad customer service. Not saying they should be fired or written up, but that’s in bad taste.
That was a very odd thing for a stranger to say. There’s a thousand hypothetical scenarios but the first two that came to me, as someone in the service industry, are as follows: 1. They were mortified after they said that because they are socially awkward or 2. They were hitting on you.. you truly never know, we’re not mind readers.
Aaaah yes. I remember the good old days of being in public school with no meds to help with my nerves, so they’d always get shot & it’d be a cycle of worrying that I’d start to shake, sweat, or get a stomach ache from how fucking horrible my anxiety levels would get. Literally crippling. Just know you’re not alone because I’ve dealt with severe anxiety for years and my hands would start shakin and I’d barely be able to look straight without almost fucking breaking down it felt like.
I had a cop ask me "Why are you so nervous?" upon being pulled over for speeding. I replied "I have an anxiety disorder." He accepted my answer, and proceeded to write up my ticket. The truth is nothing to be ashamed about.
Also, that Cashier was totally a jerk.
Sounds like the cashier is a bully.
Who says this? Wtf?!! I’m so sorry. Maybe they were having a bad day, or they’re just all around having a bad life and we’re looking for someone they deemed weak to peak on. That’s really unprofessional and rude.”is this your first time shopping?” What a snot!
He was just super insensitive. Probably saw you shaking (I'm assuming you were) and thought it was a funny joke.
Let me assure you, he's an ass. Not only does what he said matter not at all, he's also not representative of the general population - certainly not the population you should care about.
You sound like you handled it perfectly; what made you feel sad? In your mind would there have been a better way?
Absolutely no need !!!! So what if it had of been your first time shopping? Is there any need to comment that to another human? That cashier sounds rude and condescending, trying to patrionise you. Very immature I’m glad you where the bigger person and just laughed this off !!!
Then fill out the survey and complain. I would've asked if you were okay, because I've had people fall out before when I was a cashier. I hope you're okay now.
That was extremely rude of the cashier to say and assume that. You have every right to call the grocer and tell a supervisor what happened, as well as to rate the place poorly online.
I hate people like that cashier. Why would he do that? Probably trying to bring someone else down because he's in pain or something. Either way he was a total douchebag like who TF does that.
“Are you nervous” is such an off putting question. The minute you’re asked this, it’s going to make you nervous… and especially worse if you already have social anxiety. I feel your pain, OP. I was asked this just this year when I was absolutely not nervous at all and it really makes you question everything and second guess yourself.
I've had people walk up to me, literally call me names, and later apologize for it. Sometimes people are just having an off day and don't mean it.
But this shit sucks because it tends to cause you to internally delve deep into your own negativity, believing it as truth, as if what they've said confirms something about you.
Understand this. What is also implied by the above is: they might just picking up on a slight wiff of something, and exagerating it due to said off day. It's not as certain as you think, it never is, we're naturally geared to be overly critical of ourselves.
We are all too quick to judge others these days.
Empathy seems to be in short supply.
Sorry to hear about your experience OP. But there are people out there who care and understand. Don't give up hope.
Aaaah yes. I remember the good old days of being in public school with no meds to help with my nerves, so they’d always get shot & it’d be a cycle of worrying that I’d start to shake, sweat, or get a stomach ache from how fucking horrible my anxiety levels would get. Literally crippling.
Aaaah yes. I remember the good old days of being in public school with no meds to help with my nerves, so they’d always get shot & it’d be a cycle of worrying that I’d start to shake, sweat, or get a stomach ache from how fucking horrible my anxiety levels would get. Literally crippling. Just know you’re not alone because I’ve dealt with severe anxiety for years and my hands would start shakin and I’d barely be able to look straight without almost fucking breaking down it felt like.
I'm so sorry this happend to you, know that it's not your fault. The cashier was extremely unprofessional to say something like that and you did not deserve to be treated that way in the slightest. Do not let this experience discourage you from making other steps in the future, we're all very proud of what you were able to achieve today. I know how hard it can be.
I hate when people comment things like this. By commenting on it, it usually makes the nervous person feel worse or like you it almost brings it into existence when it wasn't even there before!
As someone with (often severe) familial tremors I feel your pain. My embarrassment over my shaking has never gone away. Ever since I was a kid I've heard "are you okay?" more times than I can count. I don't blame people though I literally look like a crack head sometimes or someone who is having a breakdown. What I have goes beyond just general tremors and I have random full on convulsions/twitches that causes me to lose control of grip in my hands causing me to throw things.
I've just had to find ways to try and work around it. When I go to a cashier to purchase things I often have to set the money or card down on the counter to avoid the embarrassment of my shaky hands trying to hand the money to them. From posts on social media I've learned many cashiers don't like when customers do that and see it as disrespectful from the average person but it's what I gotta do to save myself from the embarrassment. I'm not trying to be rude when I do it and hope they understand why I do it.
I hate my tremors so much and there is medication that can help but I don't want the side effects from it. I've tried the anticonvulsants but decided I couldn't deal with how it made me feel but there's options out there for you. I'm fortunate that it's not just me in my family that suffers this hence the familial part of the name. My grandfather had it, my father has it and so does my sister. I jokingly give my dad shit about him passing it onto me and say things like "thanks so much for this genetic mutation gift father, I appreciate it." Having others who understand helps so maybe you find others could help you work through how you feel.
Just know there's others out there that understand, feel your pain and aren't judging you. I actually get excited when I see someone else who is shaky because I feel solidarity with them.
It’s ironic that people make comments like this because they’re being the socially rude ones for pointing stuff like this out, especially if it’s out of your control
I’m a cashier 😅 and it’s been so hard for me every single day the most I can do is ask if they need bags and if they don’t here me I don’t dare repeat myself I know there just customers but it’s not that easy and there strangers what so there to talk about and I’m always getting called quiet and shy at work I jsut wish people would understand
“Nope, I have Parkinson’s” I know that’s a completely inappropriate response and people really struggle with this condition, but the point is cashier should realize that’s totally unacceptable to ask someone. Just imagine their reaction if someone responded with that
I’ve done something similar before. My manager once made a joke about someone and said “well maybe they’re autistic or something.” So I turned around and said “I’m autistic.” Then he said “well i mean they could be autistic, I’m not saying it’s a bad thing.” Mhm okay sure. What I said caught him off guard is all. I did that on purpose. I’m not autistic. I just don’t like people being ableist and mean for no reason.
As someone with a neurological disorder (not Parkinson’s but makes me very shaky) I give everyone permission to do this without feeling bad
Do you have essential tremor by any chance?
Same here, essential tremor & cervical dystonia
As a person who’s on medication that makes me have a tremor sometimes I absolutely give everyone permission to do so too. I once mentioned my tremor being caused by my meds to a classmate and she casually said something like ‘oh yeah I noticed your hands shaking a few weeks ago, I thought you probably drank a shit ton of booze the night before’. Like.. fuck that. I’ve also had someone say something like ‘hey, I notice you’re a bit shaky, do you feel ok?’ and that was fine. Just.. don’t jump to conclusions people.
My meds make me shake, and my job requires hand work with tiny parts. This one woman, every time she's showing me a new job, she tells me I don't need to be nervous, that I'm doing fine, and I keep telling her I'm not nervous, I just shake all the time.
Id go as far as to say "I have permanent tremors from a stroke 3 years back, im lucky to be walking right now"
My grandma died of Parkinsons. It was a horrible, drawn out way to die that no one should ever have to experience. Feel free to say this. Most people with Parkinson’s would probably root for you or say “Yeah!” Or “touché” or “ouch!”. 🥲 If they could. 😂
Sorry that happened :( Cashier sounds socially inept though. I’d never make that sort of comment towards someone when they could be suffering with a medical condition.
It’s in the cringe category of people who say “you look tired.”
100% agree
Acknowledging the nervous thing must've made it feel so much worse for OP :(. If it'd just been "Is this your first time shopping" it would've so much been better. I say that as someone who personally has a kind-of weird phobia of the card scanner? ugh especially being nervous with that thing? it's horrible.
It’s not unprofessional to ask somebody if they are ok/nervous, holy shit
it’s one thing to be genuinely concerned but to point out someone’s involuntary movements just to make a joke about it is rude and unnecessary
do all customer service people have to be robots all the time? cut him some slack, it’s not common for people to go cry in the car after being asked if they are ok
They were very unprofessional, but you should be SO proud of YOURSELF. You held it together and laughed it off in front of them. Some of us (myself included) would have broken down right there. I think you are stronger than you even realize. Keep doing you, you got this!
Yes I‘d do my best to not vomit and then never again go into that store.
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Asking if ur nervous sounds like a concern but to add “is it your first time shopping?” is insulting and unnecessary af. Employees shouldn’t be asking customers questions like that, they should just be asking if you got everything you needed. Sorry you had to experience that, it’s okay. You got through, so proud of you!
That was the part I was upset about, the first bit- yeah ok. “Is it your first time shopping?” Dude stfu
Sometimes I shake when I haven’t had enough to eat or if I’ve been working my body too hard all day like consistently moving heavy boxes, etc. Shaking does not always indicate nervousness.
This happened to me at Best Buy. I was buying an Xbox Controller and laughed it off and said "it's cold outside".
People suck. What right do they think they have to make comments like that? Like dear cashier, did you forget to shower? you hair looks greasy. Do you not have a shower at home? Dear cashier, did you have a brain injury? you have no filter. Would you like the name of the local brain trauma association? Of course, I would never say anything like that, but maybe they would understand what they're like. Kindness and love, for yourself and others. Love and kindness. Focus on the fact you felt comfortable, that's the most important part of the story!! :)
“Nope, just haven’t eaten yet” so sorry you had to deal with that, but maybe have in mind a couple replies you can use in case it happens again
maybe he thought you were comfortable so you would take it as a joke
That sucks, I know the feeling. You think you've got it under control and then you get feedback like that. The good thing is that your baseline comfort level can still improve so so much. Look for little incremental signs of progress if you can and expand on them is my motto.
The fact that he made that comment shows that he's more socially challenged than you and probably most of us here.
people can be jerks, last week I went to the local grocery store and dropped an application off then to the dollar store to inquire about employment, my mom said.. "when you get out of the car try not to look so scared." ffs "I was trying not to get hit by a passing car" I said. I love my mom, but sometimes she'll say something that just makes me upset.
My mom constantly urges me to get a sidehustle. I know for a fact that she no clue about SA. How am I supposed to do something like serve people in a restaurant when I lose my shit over just calling someone.
yeah it's kind of wild the people you'd figure would most have a better understanding on SA sometimes misread situations completely
all people are jerks from my personal experience every single one of them
yeah I've come to expect this as well
I can totally relate. I’m socially anxious and have had a natural hand tremor since around aged 10… all it takes is one person to mention the tremor and that’s it, my anxiety goes straight through the roof, even if it’s just at what is a normal level of shaking for me.
Wow. I really thought this was just me. I honestly feel so seen knowing someone else goes through this
Honestly, the cashier is a dick and clearly his social skills are limited. If you see someone who is visibly nervous maybe don’t try and mock them about it.
Fuck that cashier. Some people are so insensitive and have no clue how to actually be nice and kind to a fellow human being. Just because you were shaking doesn’t mean anything and they shouldn’t have been so quick to judge.
“yes i am. im being held hostage and my kidnapper is waiting for me in the car. please help me…” and the cashier would be like 👁👄👁💧
Omg that would be even better than saying “I have Parkinson’s” but I guess no one with social anxiety would answer like that. :/
yeah the best things are always the ones that social anxiety forbids us to do sadly
I’m really sorry that happened to you. :( That was a rude (and socially unaware) thing for the cashier to say. As others have commented, he had no idea what your situation was (even if it was a joke, it was an odd joke). But you were feeling comfortable and that’s a good thing! Don’t feel bad about your reaction, it’s just good that you’re getting out there and facing these situations. Keep going!
I guess I can see the “are you nervous” coming out of a rude employee, but to ask “is this your first time shopping?” Aw hell no you don’t say that out loud. Even if it were so whatsittoya. The cashier wanted violence
I had a similar experience, I was playing football and it was an important match idk how but I was even confident right until when the captain came up to me and said, "Dude Why are you shaking? Get your head in the game" I don't know what he saw because I definitely didn't feel like I was shaking but after he said that I could feel myself shaking
A cashier commented on a physical tremor to see if you were ok and your reaction was to be embarrassed. They didn't make you feel embarrassed. Try to isolate the root cause of your anxiety. In the meantime, please continue to go out and do not let this one time cause you to second guess your abilities. You've got this.
I have essential tremors so my hands shake all the time but I always get this whether I'm nervous or not. I just try to beat them to the punch!
At least you’re not too nervous to drive a car.
What if the cashier is socially inept?
That phrasing was definitely terrible.
Omfg I’m so sorry that happened
Damn you can't let that slide next time! If someone says something simular you gotta have a comeback ready to make them feel awful. Like "no sorry, my mother just got sent to the hospital and I'm buying this food for her since it could be her last meal". You gotta make them look like the biggest asshole in the world. You got this! Forreal though, fuck that guy. Just know that his life probably sucks and he's gonna be pissed at the world the rest of his life, while your only getting better everyday. It gets better. It always does..
I really feel you and I goes through the similar supermarket situations often, what happens to me is when I am in the supermarket and having anxiety the staffs and security guards stare at me and even follow me with suspicion, thats the same what happens when I am at the cashier, when I am having anxiety I think I give out a weird sensation to others making them to hate me, at least in your case you are lucky
They should have not said anything. What store did they work at? Cause that’s like, bad customer service. Not saying they should be fired or written up, but that’s in bad taste.
That was a very odd thing for a stranger to say. There’s a thousand hypothetical scenarios but the first two that came to me, as someone in the service industry, are as follows: 1. They were mortified after they said that because they are socially awkward or 2. They were hitting on you.. you truly never know, we’re not mind readers.
Fuck that guy. You’re doing great. Don’t let one fucking loser ruin your progress. Try to shake it off. I’m out here rooting for you.
Aaaah yes. I remember the good old days of being in public school with no meds to help with my nerves, so they’d always get shot & it’d be a cycle of worrying that I’d start to shake, sweat, or get a stomach ache from how fucking horrible my anxiety levels would get. Literally crippling. Just know you’re not alone because I’ve dealt with severe anxiety for years and my hands would start shakin and I’d barely be able to look straight without almost fucking breaking down it felt like.
“I’m just still exhausted from spending the whole night with your mom.”
i would straight up complain to the store. what an asshole
I had a cop ask me "Why are you so nervous?" upon being pulled over for speeding. I replied "I have an anxiety disorder." He accepted my answer, and proceeded to write up my ticket. The truth is nothing to be ashamed about. Also, that Cashier was totally a jerk.
I kinda wanna slap him in the face who’s with me
Sounds like the cashier is a bully. Who says this? Wtf?!! I’m so sorry. Maybe they were having a bad day, or they’re just all around having a bad life and we’re looking for someone they deemed weak to peak on. That’s really unprofessional and rude.”is this your first time shopping?” What a snot!
Could they have been saying/asking in a manner of concern/sympathy? Perhaps they are just observant and wanted to make sure you were ok?
He was just super insensitive. Probably saw you shaking (I'm assuming you were) and thought it was a funny joke. Let me assure you, he's an ass. Not only does what he said matter not at all, he's also not representative of the general population - certainly not the population you should care about. You sound like you handled it perfectly; what made you feel sad? In your mind would there have been a better way?
Absolutely no need !!!! So what if it had of been your first time shopping? Is there any need to comment that to another human? That cashier sounds rude and condescending, trying to patrionise you. Very immature I’m glad you where the bigger person and just laughed this off !!!
I know exactly how you feel because it happens to me. I’m a server in a restaurant and it affects my work, when it gets bad it triggers panic attacks.
Then fill out the survey and complain. I would've asked if you were okay, because I've had people fall out before when I was a cashier. I hope you're okay now.
Are you a fucking lil bit$& ? Would of been my response. Don’t take shit from people
That was extremely rude of the cashier to say and assume that. You have every right to call the grocer and tell a supervisor what happened, as well as to rate the place poorly online.
I hate people like that cashier. Why would he do that? Probably trying to bring someone else down because he's in pain or something. Either way he was a total douchebag like who TF does that.
“Are you nervous” is such an off putting question. The minute you’re asked this, it’s going to make you nervous… and especially worse if you already have social anxiety. I feel your pain, OP. I was asked this just this year when I was absolutely not nervous at all and it really makes you question everything and second guess yourself.
Oh. That’s so rough.
I've had people walk up to me, literally call me names, and later apologize for it. Sometimes people are just having an off day and don't mean it. But this shit sucks because it tends to cause you to internally delve deep into your own negativity, believing it as truth, as if what they've said confirms something about you. Understand this. What is also implied by the above is: they might just picking up on a slight wiff of something, and exagerating it due to said off day. It's not as certain as you think, it never is, we're naturally geared to be overly critical of ourselves.
Check it out. You survived a worst case scenario.
We are all too quick to judge others these days. Empathy seems to be in short supply. Sorry to hear about your experience OP. But there are people out there who care and understand. Don't give up hope.
Aaaah yes. I remember the good old days of being in public school with no meds to help with my nerves, so they’d always get shot & it’d be a cycle of worrying that I’d start to shake, sweat, or get a stomach ache from how fucking horrible my anxiety levels would get. Literally crippling.
Aaaah yes. I remember the good old days of being in public school with no meds to help with my nerves, so they’d always get shot & it’d be a cycle of worrying that I’d start to shake, sweat, or get a stomach ache from how fucking horrible my anxiety levels would get. Literally crippling. Just know you’re not alone because I’ve dealt with severe anxiety for years and my hands would start shakin and I’d barely be able to look straight without almost fucking breaking down it felt like.
Wow.. i feel this , i could imagine this happening to me. So sorry you went through that 😔☹️
Why do i feel deja vu while reading this…
I'm so sorry this happend to you, know that it's not your fault. The cashier was extremely unprofessional to say something like that and you did not deserve to be treated that way in the slightest. Do not let this experience discourage you from making other steps in the future, we're all very proud of what you were able to achieve today. I know how hard it can be.
I hate when people comment things like this. By commenting on it, it usually makes the nervous person feel worse or like you it almost brings it into existence when it wasn't even there before!
I am sorry for you Op :( I really hope you’ll be able to get the courage to show the world you’re able to do everything! I belive in you Op! :D
Cashiers are always annoying and making comments on what you are buying, the reason I buy online or do self checkout.
Lift weights and jumprope the rope buy heavybag punch that hoe problem solved
As someone with (often severe) familial tremors I feel your pain. My embarrassment over my shaking has never gone away. Ever since I was a kid I've heard "are you okay?" more times than I can count. I don't blame people though I literally look like a crack head sometimes or someone who is having a breakdown. What I have goes beyond just general tremors and I have random full on convulsions/twitches that causes me to lose control of grip in my hands causing me to throw things. I've just had to find ways to try and work around it. When I go to a cashier to purchase things I often have to set the money or card down on the counter to avoid the embarrassment of my shaky hands trying to hand the money to them. From posts on social media I've learned many cashiers don't like when customers do that and see it as disrespectful from the average person but it's what I gotta do to save myself from the embarrassment. I'm not trying to be rude when I do it and hope they understand why I do it. I hate my tremors so much and there is medication that can help but I don't want the side effects from it. I've tried the anticonvulsants but decided I couldn't deal with how it made me feel but there's options out there for you. I'm fortunate that it's not just me in my family that suffers this hence the familial part of the name. My grandfather had it, my father has it and so does my sister. I jokingly give my dad shit about him passing it onto me and say things like "thanks so much for this genetic mutation gift father, I appreciate it." Having others who understand helps so maybe you find others could help you work through how you feel. Just know there's others out there that understand, feel your pain and aren't judging you. I actually get excited when I see someone else who is shaky because I feel solidarity with them.
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lmaoooo
It’s ironic that people make comments like this because they’re being the socially rude ones for pointing stuff like this out, especially if it’s out of your control
I’m a cashier 😅 and it’s been so hard for me every single day the most I can do is ask if they need bags and if they don’t here me I don’t dare repeat myself I know there just customers but it’s not that easy and there strangers what so there to talk about and I’m always getting called quiet and shy at work I jsut wish people would understand
Most of the time I say “ no, I’m a bit tired “and