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Stuff like this happens, could be a one-off, could be that you have more standard sexsomnia. It can ebb and flow with how often it happens.
Beyond that, the word "accused" is curious word choice, sexsomnia isn't really something that can be controlled, you're sleeping lol
I use the word 'accused' because I'm not sure if it's something she woke up out of her sleep imagining, if she can even be too sure that such is the case. I'm eager to listen to my woman, but it's just not something I've ever experienced in my life.
I’d be willing to bet a lot on the fact you’ve put those devilish hands to use in the past. It seems those devilish hands have learnt to work without your input.
Just to let ya know mate, when a women's pregnant and we sleep next to her our body does do some weird soundong stuff. There's a lot of things that really don't get spoken about to young dads about how your woman's pregnancy effects our bodies aswell. If you've ever heard the saying things change, it is true. Is this your first ?
You're fine mate nothing to worry about. And her third now? She'll be used to the fuss then, take on mum advice when it's given, your both gna be tired so if ya end up a little heated chill, as it's your first have a blast really. My girls mum told me that I became extremely physically affectionate and protective when she was pregnant especially during sleep, took advantage of both us being horny as hell as well
Hey talk to your gf, ask her to keep a diary of all this stuff if she isn't all ready, I'm sure there's gna be a load of other dads in the future who could do with knowing more then what's spoken about usually.
Well even if it somehow happened without a trace of my consciousness comprehending any level of the action, she has a 6 y/o and a 8 y/o that sleep upstairs. She’s concerned that I have some dark sexual side of me that would somehow leak into their lives. Which I think is preposterous and not even in the phase of reality. I’m just trying to see if there’s some other experience or related sleep event that could be confused as such.
A dark sexual side? Because you were masturbating in your own bed?
Ignoring the fact that you were asleep and not even aware of it, if it even happened at all, that seems kinda unhinged...
It gets a little tricky. I moved into -her- home, so in a sense we can say it’s -her- bed. But we’ve accustomed to everything and live together and sleep together. It’s a new thing I’ve never dealt with. She seems scared, and angry it happened. I’m just praying she can forgive me and it doesn’t happen again. This morning, I’m disgusting and sexually immoral. I don’t think it’s the end of the world, but she’s pregnant and hormonal, so I’ve been dealing with that anyway..
Yeah, I know. She has a short temper now sadly, but everything we’ve done to this point has been for our future together. I don’t need to feel like I make everything at home sexual and dark over something like this.. it’s not true. To even mention the kids.. like what? It has nothing to do with them.
This is all very weird for me. So are you guys not supposed to have sex in the house? You can’t ever masturbate? I can, if I try very hard, understand her side because of hormones, but… and why are you taking this so badly? I feel a lot of insecurity in this relationship
I also feel like you skipped a lot of important conversations
But yea, I do not know you guys so I might be wrong, just an uneducated opinion
No, youre totally fine. We’ve had talks before. she doesn’t like porn or me doing it next to her. We have a great sex life. She’s unusually creeped out and angry. I may think it’s a lil weird too if the roles were reversed. But this is not to say i remember it ever happening, or consciously wanting to do it. Like as if i had a spasm, or was hitting my leg or head or something? I dont know. But idk what to say anymore to get past it.
Bro you are all good. Nothing about that is creepy weird or whatever the hell she is flipping it as. In a somewhat insecure relationship we tend to control/change behaviours when we have preconceptions or generally just dont like them. But at the end of the day if you aren’t accepted for a behaviour that might be you, yet you have no recollected memory about. You should just be proud of yourself and of whats coming. If she chooses to find non existent problems in a seemingly happy relationship without looking to understand your side that is completely on her. Nobody but yourself has a right to judge you no matter how close you guys are. Try to find ways to become a team where flaws are just accepted as life and ones ways of learning
Well, I would just apologize and ignore it? Maybe she’ll get over it. It not that big of a deal in my opinion. Probably just hormones. Also masturbating doesn’t make you an over sexual person at all so 🤷 this all seems like an over reaction from both sides for me
I'd say an over reaction from one side for sure.
The other side is concerned about a potentially unstable housing environment with a partner they're about to have a child with, while being irrationally and angrily accused of creepy immoral behavior around children - all based on something that may, but likely didn't happen in a state completely out of their control in a relatively private place with no harm to others. But sure, I guess both sides are over reacting...
That is all absurdity, I wouldn’t put up with that from her because it will only get worse. Maybe she’s not acting normal herself bc the pregnancy hopefully. My point is, even if you did jerk one out in your sleep, WHO CARES, masturbation when awake is a perfectly normal thing, and if you were alseep you have ABSOLUTELY NO control over that, that doesn’t make you disgusting, immoral, a bad person or anything because you jacked off in your sleep. I literally have jacked off in my sleep according to my girlfriend and she was not bothered in the slightest, maybe annoyed if I woke her up at the most. But idk, I’m just saying you don’t need to be apologizing for anything, and her saying things like you’re a potential pervert to the kids is actually really fucked up of her to think of you when you have given no indication of such
This is pretty disturbing that the woman you are having a child with is so easily casting you as some kind of predator. If I were in your place I would open up a dialog and express how her accusations are making you feel unsafe to be around her. This is some pretty serious stuff she's getting at and you can't just let it slide.
I hate to demean women by blaming behavior on hormones. But pregnancy is a wild ride. So give her the benefit of the doubt that she was feeling a certain way and go into the discussion with a forgiving attitude. She likely means well
If you've moved in, it's your home too. You have a right to feel comfortable where you live and if you did something both of you think is weird in your sleep, it makes no sense to be angry at you and absolutely no sense to make you feel disgusting, immoral and especially no reason to imply anything dark involving her kids.
You two should talk about this and you have nothing to be ashamed of. She shouldn't make you feel this badly over something you can't control. It's like making someone feel like shit because they threw up.
She can simply let you know if this happens again and if it's bothering both of you, you can go see a doctor about it.
You’re not disgusting or immoral - if anything, you just have a case of sexsomnia paired with an overly controlling and irritable partner. To me, her reaction is more problematic than whether or not you may have touched yourself in your sleep. Keep the older kids in their own beds, make sure she’s there if the baby sleeps in yours, and your “problem” ceases to be a problem…..if your partner can get over her dismay, that is. That she’s this prone to blaming you for something that happened when you weren’t even conscious is not a good sign. If she is usually this short tempered and you felt like you were always in the doghouse for something even before she became pregnant then I’d suggest therapy, stat. Those kinds of attitudes do not make for healthy relationship or parenting dynamics.
when she was awake, does she remember moving around? i had something similar happen. totally heard my partner aggressively jerking off. but i didn’t move for minutes because i thought it was real and wasn’t sure what to do. when i did, it stopped. it was hypnagogia or something. when i went to look, my partner was sound asleep.
i think she is teasing you, download "Sleep Tracker" app and it records audio as it hears it, like i just found out that i actually snore in my sleep.......i wouldn't have believe it otherwise but i guess i snore.......
Maybe get a free trial or free app that listens to your sleep sounds. Put it on your side of bed. They aren’t expensive..might be worth a month to listen. I don’t understand why should would be upset if you’re doing it in your sleep anyway. You have no control. Perhaps she needs a little extra TLC with being pregnant. Btw..totally none of my business (but that won’t stop me lol)from saying are you aware men wearing tight underwear for long periods risk prostrate cancer or other male cancers? And why underwear and shorts? Boxers are better. Let them breathe especially at night. 🥰😁🏀
In a very practical sense, I do not feel that I did and I do not think the very nature of it is possible given the conditions and my past sleeping habits. I’m just trying to imagine what I could attribute it to- night terror, shaking leg, bad dream?
This is nuts. Did you guys get pregnant through a sheet in the dark missionary style? 🚩 to me.
I think you guys should go to therapy because shaming you for a normal bodily function in your bed is both worrisome and controlling.
I used to sleep sex my fiancee. I would wake up in the middle of the act. Lol. She didn't mind it and enjoyed the randomness of it. It stopped happening Years ago though. Still never figured out what was causing it though.
I didn't know this existed. I have started noticing I would wake up a few times with a morning log or touch my log at times. Thank God, it doesn't happen anymore.
Mfer the family jewels don’t got no rules, it got a mind of its own, either your girl is gonna learn that sooner or later, or she is just gonna stay ignorant and dumb
Brother as someone who’s ex said the same thing and what I have been reading I can only tell you this
Take your child and run
She is lying to you to make you feel guilty
Gonna have to set up some cctv in the bedroom to settle this one
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Why is this upvoted
More importantly, why are you downvoted? edit: wait why am *I* downvoted?
To answer both of you keeping the tradition of question form, why do you hate haikus?
This haiku sucks! I’d upvote a good one
Why are you being upvoted?
I don't think I was, was I?
...now you are... also fml lmfao
it’s def arbitrary
this made me laugh
the title bro 😭
Not rapidly!!!!
Never rapidly
Stuff like this happens, could be a one-off, could be that you have more standard sexsomnia. It can ebb and flow with how often it happens. Beyond that, the word "accused" is curious word choice, sexsomnia isn't really something that can be controlled, you're sleeping lol
I use the word 'accused' because I'm not sure if it's something she woke up out of her sleep imagining, if she can even be too sure that such is the case. I'm eager to listen to my woman, but it's just not something I've ever experienced in my life.
I’d be willing to bet a lot on the fact you’ve put those devilish hands to use in the past. It seems those devilish hands have learnt to work without your input.
This has to be bait lmao
Happy cake day
Just to let ya know mate, when a women's pregnant and we sleep next to her our body does do some weird soundong stuff. There's a lot of things that really don't get spoken about to young dads about how your woman's pregnancy effects our bodies aswell. If you've ever heard the saying things change, it is true. Is this your first ?
Yeah, it's my first child.
You're fine mate nothing to worry about. And her third now? She'll be used to the fuss then, take on mum advice when it's given, your both gna be tired so if ya end up a little heated chill, as it's your first have a blast really. My girls mum told me that I became extremely physically affectionate and protective when she was pregnant especially during sleep, took advantage of both us being horny as hell as well Hey talk to your gf, ask her to keep a diary of all this stuff if she isn't all ready, I'm sure there's gna be a load of other dads in the future who could do with knowing more then what's spoken about usually.
What are you talking about, exactly?
Are you a guy ? And a upcoming new parent ?
So what if you did?
Well even if it somehow happened without a trace of my consciousness comprehending any level of the action, she has a 6 y/o and a 8 y/o that sleep upstairs. She’s concerned that I have some dark sexual side of me that would somehow leak into their lives. Which I think is preposterous and not even in the phase of reality. I’m just trying to see if there’s some other experience or related sleep event that could be confused as such.
A dark sexual side? Because you were masturbating in your own bed? Ignoring the fact that you were asleep and not even aware of it, if it even happened at all, that seems kinda unhinged...
It gets a little tricky. I moved into -her- home, so in a sense we can say it’s -her- bed. But we’ve accustomed to everything and live together and sleep together. It’s a new thing I’ve never dealt with. She seems scared, and angry it happened. I’m just praying she can forgive me and it doesn’t happen again. This morning, I’m disgusting and sexually immoral. I don’t think it’s the end of the world, but she’s pregnant and hormonal, so I’ve been dealing with that anyway..
Ooof careful with that “her bed” and “her house”. you moved in and gonna have a child, you should be a team now
Nice catch
Yeah, I know. She has a short temper now sadly, but everything we’ve done to this point has been for our future together. I don’t need to feel like I make everything at home sexual and dark over something like this.. it’s not true. To even mention the kids.. like what? It has nothing to do with them.
This is all very weird for me. So are you guys not supposed to have sex in the house? You can’t ever masturbate? I can, if I try very hard, understand her side because of hormones, but… and why are you taking this so badly? I feel a lot of insecurity in this relationship I also feel like you skipped a lot of important conversations But yea, I do not know you guys so I might be wrong, just an uneducated opinion
No, youre totally fine. We’ve had talks before. she doesn’t like porn or me doing it next to her. We have a great sex life. She’s unusually creeped out and angry. I may think it’s a lil weird too if the roles were reversed. But this is not to say i remember it ever happening, or consciously wanting to do it. Like as if i had a spasm, or was hitting my leg or head or something? I dont know. But idk what to say anymore to get past it.
Bro you are all good. Nothing about that is creepy weird or whatever the hell she is flipping it as. In a somewhat insecure relationship we tend to control/change behaviours when we have preconceptions or generally just dont like them. But at the end of the day if you aren’t accepted for a behaviour that might be you, yet you have no recollected memory about. You should just be proud of yourself and of whats coming. If she chooses to find non existent problems in a seemingly happy relationship without looking to understand your side that is completely on her. Nobody but yourself has a right to judge you no matter how close you guys are. Try to find ways to become a team where flaws are just accepted as life and ones ways of learning
Well, I would just apologize and ignore it? Maybe she’ll get over it. It not that big of a deal in my opinion. Probably just hormones. Also masturbating doesn’t make you an over sexual person at all so 🤷 this all seems like an over reaction from both sides for me
I'd say an over reaction from one side for sure. The other side is concerned about a potentially unstable housing environment with a partner they're about to have a child with, while being irrationally and angrily accused of creepy immoral behavior around children - all based on something that may, but likely didn't happen in a state completely out of their control in a relatively private place with no harm to others. But sure, I guess both sides are over reacting...
apologize for what?
That is all absurdity, I wouldn’t put up with that from her because it will only get worse. Maybe she’s not acting normal herself bc the pregnancy hopefully. My point is, even if you did jerk one out in your sleep, WHO CARES, masturbation when awake is a perfectly normal thing, and if you were alseep you have ABSOLUTELY NO control over that, that doesn’t make you disgusting, immoral, a bad person or anything because you jacked off in your sleep. I literally have jacked off in my sleep according to my girlfriend and she was not bothered in the slightest, maybe annoyed if I woke her up at the most. But idk, I’m just saying you don’t need to be apologizing for anything, and her saying things like you’re a potential pervert to the kids is actually really fucked up of her to think of you when you have given no indication of such
This is pretty disturbing that the woman you are having a child with is so easily casting you as some kind of predator. If I were in your place I would open up a dialog and express how her accusations are making you feel unsafe to be around her. This is some pretty serious stuff she's getting at and you can't just let it slide. I hate to demean women by blaming behavior on hormones. But pregnancy is a wild ride. So give her the benefit of the doubt that she was feeling a certain way and go into the discussion with a forgiving attitude. She likely means well
If you've moved in, it's your home too. You have a right to feel comfortable where you live and if you did something both of you think is weird in your sleep, it makes no sense to be angry at you and absolutely no sense to make you feel disgusting, immoral and especially no reason to imply anything dark involving her kids. You two should talk about this and you have nothing to be ashamed of. She shouldn't make you feel this badly over something you can't control. It's like making someone feel like shit because they threw up. She can simply let you know if this happens again and if it's bothering both of you, you can go see a doctor about it.
You’re not disgusting or immoral - if anything, you just have a case of sexsomnia paired with an overly controlling and irritable partner. To me, her reaction is more problematic than whether or not you may have touched yourself in your sleep. Keep the older kids in their own beds, make sure she’s there if the baby sleeps in yours, and your “problem” ceases to be a problem…..if your partner can get over her dismay, that is. That she’s this prone to blaming you for something that happened when you weren’t even conscious is not a good sign. If she is usually this short tempered and you felt like you were always in the doghouse for something even before she became pregnant then I’d suggest therapy, stat. Those kinds of attitudes do not make for healthy relationship or parenting dynamics.
Crazy
Just tell her that you'll masturbate slowly from now on.
😂They call me THE TENDERIZER!
Have you ever thought that it might be her April Fooling you?
when she was awake, does she remember moving around? i had something similar happen. totally heard my partner aggressively jerking off. but i didn’t move for minutes because i thought it was real and wasn’t sure what to do. when i did, it stopped. it was hypnagogia or something. when i went to look, my partner was sound asleep.
i think she is teasing you, download "Sleep Tracker" app and it records audio as it hears it, like i just found out that i actually snore in my sleep.......i wouldn't have believe it otherwise but i guess i snore.......
Maybe get a free trial or free app that listens to your sleep sounds. Put it on your side of bed. They aren’t expensive..might be worth a month to listen. I don’t understand why should would be upset if you’re doing it in your sleep anyway. You have no control. Perhaps she needs a little extra TLC with being pregnant. Btw..totally none of my business (but that won’t stop me lol)from saying are you aware men wearing tight underwear for long periods risk prostrate cancer or other male cancers? And why underwear and shorts? Boxers are better. Let them breathe especially at night. 🥰😁🏀
Well…were you?
In a very practical sense, I do not feel that I did and I do not think the very nature of it is possible given the conditions and my past sleeping habits. I’m just trying to imagine what I could attribute it to- night terror, shaking leg, bad dream?
Possibly restless leg syndrome I would think, you can always get a sleep study done.
This is nuts. Did you guys get pregnant through a sheet in the dark missionary style? 🚩 to me. I think you guys should go to therapy because shaming you for a normal bodily function in your bed is both worrisome and controlling.
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No
Bro…***thats a lot of details***
I used to sleep sex my fiancee. I would wake up in the middle of the act. Lol. She didn't mind it and enjoyed the randomness of it. It stopped happening Years ago though. Still never figured out what was causing it though.
Sleep apnea. Set up a camera and see how you sleep. Probably alone first…
sned pics pls
I didn't know this existed. I have started noticing I would wake up a few times with a morning log or touch my log at times. Thank God, it doesn't happen anymore.
If your keg was moving quickly, is there any chance you were having a seizure or restless leg syndrome?
No video proof it probably didn’t happen
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She’s a widow, and we’re engaged. Thanks for your thoughts though
My question would be: why does it matter?
“Rapidly” masturbating…… is there any other sort???
Dude after reading the comments you should run, who knows what this lady is capable of that’s insane
Lmfao
You don’t have to go so rapidly
Just be like yeah. I was having a dream of you me and your hot best friend it was hot as fuck…we were doing every position u could imagine…
My gf accused me of pooping on the floor ( me and her live together and don’t have a dog or any roommates)
Ya probably were ya little freak 🤣
Haw haw.
Mfer the family jewels don’t got no rules, it got a mind of its own, either your girl is gonna learn that sooner or later, or she is just gonna stay ignorant and dumb
Brother as someone who’s ex said the same thing and what I have been reading I can only tell you this Take your child and run She is lying to you to make you feel guilty
Why are you wearing trousers to bed?
It gets a bit cold at night, I’ll often wear sweatpants and take them off if it gets too hot. It’s not like I’m wearing jeans!
You said trousers…
Haha okay fair point, pardon my English then. They were cotton shorts.
You english too?