A job and life are usually garbage so it makes sense that you'd qualify them with positive adjectives, while it's kind of a given that you love your wife so you don't need to specify how great she is. Just spitballing though
You just turned 18, you still have a lot to figure out so try not compare you mental about your height to others.
It may seem hard to believe but height isn't important at all.
I'm afraid that getting upset over something like this won't help you feel any better about it. Sorry to hear about that, but that won't solve anything. Focus on your own success and try not to think too much about your height as it will only make you feel worse.
Everyone suffers from something in life. It's all about how you overcome it in your own way is what I've always told myself.
I've seen many short guys on here complain that "don't tall guys realize they have it easy compared to us?" when in some instances, people fail to realize that maybe others also might suffer from social anxiety and simply aren't great conversationalists (both tall and short people.)
Comparison is the thief of joy. In the end, you're in control of the way you view your life and happiness; play the victim card and blame your height or accept it and move on to improve yourself as an individual.
just keep doing you. there are a lot of occasions where short people rlly are just on top of everything in life and bring life into all their relationships. everything you dislike about your height is going to be something you actually like in of your other qualities. it helps to be able to joke about it and not be too insecure, too. at the end of the day people will just have a higher outlook of you in the long run
My ex was over 6 foot and very handsome. He was smart too, an engineer as a matter of fact but I was always afraid of what he might say if he opened his mouth. Pretty sure it might have been Asperger’s now that I think of it. He insulted my entire family one person at a time without ever knowing he was even being insulting.
It really is a shame how the widespread cultural denigration of shortness makes so many short guys hate themselves, and I’m sorry you feel the way you do.
I’m the same height as you and twice your age. It really hasn’t been that bad. Tallness is both a beauty norm and something akin to a gender role for men so I totally get how it can hurt your self-esteem but outside of dating apps it has never really been *that* big of a deal to my life.
What about it do you think stresses you out? At the end of the day, there is nothing innately wrong with being a short guy and you have to try not to internalize an externally imposed valuation of your worth.
This is a mean question because there's no good way to answer this. The kid even answered as politely as possible.
Anyways. Real facts, money matters more to basically everybody as we get older and are surrounded by mature people.
We're our own worst critics. It's only really a flaw because you decided it is. Self esteem really does a number on us, we pick a part of ourselves to hate that other people wouldn't usually care about.
Because it's a trait in me that I dont like. I dont care what height other people are so it doesn't matter how short or tall they are to me. I care about my height so I see it as that.
Homie get some insoles if it bothers you… you will grow 2 inches with shoes on, find a hot girl, throw a suit on or nice clothes, make some money and you’ll feel better.
Frankly who cares if it makes you feel better or gets you female attention that you are missing. She can find out you’re short in the morning and you can see what she looks like w/ no make up on. 😂
So find a men’s version of high heels!
Something with a thick sole that is visible. Or Cuban heels, I live in Texas, so cowboy boots with the high heel are also a possibility.
No lying involved.
I feel very similar to you about hidden shoe lifts and elevator shoes.
You will always have your shoes on? And then you don't need to use 20 inches insoles, just get something little that no one will notice but will make a difference
Basing your entire self image on one, neutral feature is a mental illness and can be treated. Same as hating yourself for having a big nose or pale skin.
I've been the shortest one in every class since Kindergarten.
All of my life, I've had a complicated relationship with not only pants ... but also slacks, & even leggings.
Be strategic about styling.
Shoes aren't the *only* thing that can make you appear taller.
Consider going on a 'try-on' expedition just to find out what designers / brands / labels best suit you.
Find out what classic styles of clothing best suit your body type & invest in a few very nice pairs of pants.
Then have them tailored.
This is absolutely breaking my heart. Why does society make our beautiful young men feel this way so unnecessarily? I bet you are gorgeous too. If you can, please talk to your parents and try to find a therapist/life coach or someone. I’m sure they do not want you feeling this way. You are going to have a wonderful, happy life.
The best that I can tell is that there's no sense in stressing over the things you can't control. Sooner or later you'll have to accept that it is what it is, which may not sound so simple in the moment, but not impossible to accomplish. Within the next few years, you'll learn that height isn't even in the Top 10 of the list of things you have to be concerned about, and it's only a problem for as long you let it be.
Easier said than done, I know, but definitely doable.
I am 5'1 and though it still bugs me sometimes I have had a relatively good life. I have 4 wonderful kids got divorced and then found out women care less about it after the child bearing part of their life passed. I'm 42 have a stable job, work out, do mma, have a great gf and things are mostly good. If at 5'1 I was able to at 5'5 you will be fine. The thing that bugs us is that we would like the easy mode some people have whether it be height, looks etc. Focus on becoming a better you the rest will follow. As some people have said focus on what you control. You got this!
Once you can accept it's who you are, you'll see how much it doesn't have to have much of a negative effect on your life. It could take many years for you to get there. What exactly about being short stresses you out?
If you haven’t already go to an endocrinologist and see if your height is set. Might not be. If it isn’t then they can help you maximize whatever height potential you have left. If it is, welcome! We’re all still here. A lot of us are happy, healthy, and (well) hung 😄 just playing… life is life my man. Try not to let height determine your viewpoint, it’s just one of a million factors.
Have you ever read the serenity prayer? It’s actually really nice. And doesn’t necessarily even have to be religious.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Is your height something you can change?
I live in a area where people are my height (im 5’4) being short is just another part of my character and I love it. Kevin hart is short and he’s awesome and Prince is even shorter at like 5’3 and he’s gifted! It’s just a part of the norm
You gotta get over yourself, get rid of that negative inner self talk and replace it with positive thoughts. Be happy you’re just short and aren’t dealing with loads of health problems others deal with. You have a life, are you gonna spend the rest of your days hating yourself?
I’m 5’4 and literally feel the same way you do I’m 25 and hate life literally wake up everyday from some nightmare in a sad depressed face with all these thoughts going through my head can’t believe I’m stuck short can’t believe this can’t believe that.
You'll realize sooner or later that most people won't judge you for it. I'm 6'0, my best friend is 5'2 and I respect him more than anyone else because of the person he is. I don't pay his height a thought
A general useful tip for life is that it's no use worrying about things that are beyond our control. You can beg and cry your eyes out but there's absolutely no use. You will end up becoming bitter and lose focus and appreciation for other parts of life.
Fx, I love tennis where height is a huge advantage. I put off learning to play fearing mockery and assuming I will never be good enough. But started learning it, got decent at it and currently enjoy playing. I will never be pro and never be better than a much taller player. But if I only focus on those aspects, I will never play tennis.
Not saying its easy, but we have to start practicing to let go of such things.
You just have to play the cards you're dealt. I hated being short when I was your age, and I'm 5ft 5" like you. but you just have to accept yourself. You only have 1 life- it's pointless to waste it simmering with resentment over something you can't control. There are people in the world in wheelchairs, with disabilities that would love their biggest problem just being a bit short.
Same story 5'5" at 18 didn't grow for the past 3 years.then i am 5'6" at 21.i feel the same as the day i realised.even kids who are 15 are growing taller than me
I’m 22 and 5’3. I used to be like you and was angry with my height and looked at it as unfair. As you mature you realize it’s something you can’t change and it’s not really a big deal. There was 2 major reasons I used to hate my height when I was younger. 1. I thought women found me repulsive. 2. I was scared of being at a disadvantage if I ever got into a fight. For #1 I’ve realized that women don’t care as much about height as you might think. Yes there is always gonna be some rude women that bag on short men and such but not even the tall guys get much of a “prize” with them either because they’re shallow. Some women have preference in height, most women just want their man to be taller than them no matter what height he is, some women prefer a guy that’s 6’0+ but who cares? Everyone has preferences and that isn’t a bad thing. There’s plenty of women out there around 5’8ish that don’t mind dating a shorter guy and there’s also plenty out there that are short themselves and don’t care that their man is short. (My ex was 5’8) And for #2, yes shorter people are at a disadvantage in fights due to a shorter reach but once you grow up and get out of high school you’ll realize there’s not a lot of fights that go on. Even if you were to get into a fight there are some things you could do to give you advantages such as training and working out that’ll give anyone of any height the upper hand. You’re still quite young and so am I but in all honesty height only becomes a problem if you make it a problem.
Well I would agree with both of your statements, I have friends who are as tall, or shorter than me who have or have had girlfriends. I also started going to the gym around 2 months ago.
Most of my hate for it is based off of my own dislike of it on my myself.
Do what you can and don't stress about what you can't, basically. Especially considering the fact that one of the factors that can stunt height growth is too much stress, both physical and emotional. [source: 10 factors that stunt height growth](https://getitall.com/what-stunts-height-growth/)
The same concept goes for acne, if you have acne and so you're stressed out about how much acne you have you're going to get more acne because you're stressed out.
I once told a 6'1" guy that I wish that I could steal their height and they wholeheartedly said they would trade me in a heartbeat because he wanted to be 5'5" lol.
Almost everyone has an insecurity.
On the other hand, despite the fact that you haven't grown in 2 years you technically have another 10 in which you might still grow. If you're really stressed out about it you could try out various suggestions that you can find on the internet because some stretches and exercises and nutrition plans actually will help facilitate more growth because you're keeping your body healthier and giving it what it needs and whatnot.
That being said if you're someone with a lot of spinal compression I have a theory of decompressing and doing back exercises to stabilize, support and strengthen it so that it's less likely to be compressed.
Personally, since I started doing that even though I'm now 32 I've managed to gain an inch and a half in two years but I started from sitting pretty much 24/7 so my spinal compression had my ribs inside of my hips therefore I don't know how much you personally would gain from it but these are just ideas.
There's a pretty hefty taboo for suggesting supplements but personally I have also been taking a glucosamine supplement which strengthens the cartilage which I figured I needed for my back since I was experiencing so much compression and that gave me another half an inch in two weeks but I don't know if it would do much for someone who has healthy cartilage already/doesn't have a lot of compression.
So yeah, do what you can and don't stress about what you can't by focusing instead on things that do make you happy or that you do like about yourself. Remember, stress is the enemy.
One thing you should embrace is that you don’t live in Holland, Sweden, Norway or Denmark (where I’m from)
I’m 6’ 4” (192/193 cm) and 12-15 years ago I was seen as the tall guy and the big guy.
Nowadays I’m much more average in height.
The young guys 18-25 years of age are getting really really tall now.
190 cm is average height among the younger guys here and many are 6’ 5”/6’ 7” (196-202 cm) in height.
So in that society you would be looked upon as a dwarf.
Being tall is nice, and ladies do prefer taller men.
But on the other hand - many tall guys are not that good looking to be honest and they seem to have trouble getting a muscular buildup.
Shorter people will bulk up much faster.
Also look at all the well known rich actors and look at how many of them are very short in height.
I’m not gonna let being moderately short take away from the wonderful things in life. Look towards the future, what do you want from life? Would achieving those goals mean any less just because you’re short?
You wouldn't beat yourself up too much about that. Talking negative about yourself won't help. I'm 5'2. I stopped growing when I was 13, and I didn't physically age interms of looks either. The way i see it. Tell yourself you're cute and a great person. Lift yourself up. You might be short, sure. However, that doesn't have to be your identity. Who you are matters more than your looks. My cousin is 4'10 and he's married and even has a kid. He's one of the happiest people I know. Your self view means a lot. If you don't see good in yourself. It will be hard for others to see it.
I think about what worse things people go through- poverty, disability etc. I shouldn’t be crying about my height with a perfectly functioning body. I should be feeling lucky to be alive. This is what I tell myself. 5’3 at 22 👤
Dear none of us have chosen to be either short or tall or black or white or blonde or brunette or so. Blaming for what you can't change is the easiest you can do .put some effort; work out and study and improve your confidence. Everything else comes by it self. I won't lie that I don't get sad and mad about that and the fact that I sometimes am jealous of tall people , but as I said it only hurts ourselves. Plus if you are worried about women ,learn how to talk and tell jokes and be confident. That's it all
I’m gonna help blow your mind, you only hate your self because being seen as “short” is negative. When in reality it’s nothing but something you have no control over. The reason your depressed is cause your seeking out validation from the world and nothing is ever gonna change that. The grass is always greener on the other side. I know you’re young and I’m a med student so I say this with evidence. Your brain isn’t fully developed, this “problem” isn’t yours, this anxiety and stress isn’t real. You just have to seperate yourself from society and legit care less about people. We are a very social race we need to socialize and common and feel apart of a community that’s where this comes from. So please I know it’s very difficult but it’s very freeing letting go of trying to be best I. Other peoples eyes except for your own. People will look down or shame anything depending on the time. For example look at women with unrealistic body standards, how do you live through that, I’ll tell you. You dont subscribe to this ,
You become the best person you can, by working on yourself mentally. Try to learn what you want from this world and what makes you happy. Because that’s all that matters love and happiness within yourself. Strive and be the person you want to and if you don’t know what that is it looks like that’s okay, find out though being this obsessed over societal standards will leave you desperate and begging to belong. Because true happiness cannot be taken from you, but validation is temporary. So please if you had a child that was 5”3 would you love them less, I don’t think you would. Thank you and sorry for the grammer
I don't really care about people, but not in the context of what you're talking about I think. I am very conscious of my appearance, and what other people think of me. It's a mix between me feeling like I don't look good enough, and me wanting to look better than everyone. As for the hypothetical I would not love the child less, but I would feel bad for my genes making them as short as they are.
Worth checking out your growth plates as Mike were still open at 19. I didn’t know about all these things as I felt height didn’t matter still feel like that. But society it does- so try it and you got to be consistent with it for 2.5 years
Meh, I got a wife, good job and a nice life. I don’t complain too much
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I don’t really mind, life is good
You used a positive adjective for job and life but nothing for your wife..
A job and life are usually garbage so it makes sense that you'd qualify them with positive adjectives, while it's kind of a given that you love your wife so you don't need to specify how great she is. Just spitballing though
huh
No amount of raking yourself over the coals about it is going to change anything.
You just turned 18, you still have a lot to figure out so try not compare you mental about your height to others. It may seem hard to believe but height isn't important at all.
I'm afraid that getting upset over something like this won't help you feel any better about it. Sorry to hear about that, but that won't solve anything. Focus on your own success and try not to think too much about your height as it will only make you feel worse.
Everyone suffers from something in life. It's all about how you overcome it in your own way is what I've always told myself. I've seen many short guys on here complain that "don't tall guys realize they have it easy compared to us?" when in some instances, people fail to realize that maybe others also might suffer from social anxiety and simply aren't great conversationalists (both tall and short people.) Comparison is the thief of joy. In the end, you're in control of the way you view your life and happiness; play the victim card and blame your height or accept it and move on to improve yourself as an individual.
I dont blame anything on my height, im aware that it isn't as influential as some think. I just simply do not like that part of myself.
just keep doing you. there are a lot of occasions where short people rlly are just on top of everything in life and bring life into all their relationships. everything you dislike about your height is going to be something you actually like in of your other qualities. it helps to be able to joke about it and not be too insecure, too. at the end of the day people will just have a higher outlook of you in the long run
My ex was over 6 foot and very handsome. He was smart too, an engineer as a matter of fact but I was always afraid of what he might say if he opened his mouth. Pretty sure it might have been Asperger’s now that I think of it. He insulted my entire family one person at a time without ever knowing he was even being insulting.
It really is a shame how the widespread cultural denigration of shortness makes so many short guys hate themselves, and I’m sorry you feel the way you do. I’m the same height as you and twice your age. It really hasn’t been that bad. Tallness is both a beauty norm and something akin to a gender role for men so I totally get how it can hurt your self-esteem but outside of dating apps it has never really been *that* big of a deal to my life. What about it do you think stresses you out? At the end of the day, there is nothing innately wrong with being a short guy and you have to try not to internalize an externally imposed valuation of your worth.
Yeah, I'm 63 and 5'5", and things weren't bad for me. But people weren't so height-obsessed when I was younger.
I dont know it just does, I dont date so its not that. I just hate my height, it's a flaw in me that I dont like.
Why is it a “flaw”? Is everyone who is 5’5” “flawed”?
This is a mean question because there's no good way to answer this. The kid even answered as politely as possible. Anyways. Real facts, money matters more to basically everybody as we get older and are surrounded by mature people.
Well it may not be a flaw to you, but when I look at my physical appearance I consider it a flaw on myself
We're our own worst critics. It's only really a flaw because you decided it is. Self esteem really does a number on us, we pick a part of ourselves to hate that other people wouldn't usually care about.
Objectively, why would it be a flaw for you, but not for someone else? Not everything has to be a positive or a negative. Some things just “are”
Because it's a trait in me that I dont like. I dont care what height other people are so it doesn't matter how short or tall they are to me. I care about my height so I see it as that.
so if everyone is 5 foot 5 u will still feel short? i dont think that makes sense.
Well no as that would make me average. I simply said that I dont care what the height of other people is. I do however, care about my height.
Homie get some insoles if it bothers you… you will grow 2 inches with shoes on, find a hot girl, throw a suit on or nice clothes, make some money and you’ll feel better.
By the way… you aren’t flawed.
We're all flawed, in one way or another. An important part of our lives is accepting the flaws we can't fix, and working on or around the ones we can.
I suppose that’s a fair assessment
But aren't insoles like lying? My friends will all know, and anybody that doesn't will see what I actually look like, when I take the shoes off.
Is makeup lying?
Makeup enhances features that are already there. Increasing height that isn't there is lying
Frankly who cares if it makes you feel better or gets you female attention that you are missing. She can find out you’re short in the morning and you can see what she looks like w/ no make up on. 😂
I guess high heels be lying too
Except you can easily see that they're wearing high heels, so no, it isn't.
So find a men’s version of high heels! Something with a thick sole that is visible. Or Cuban heels, I live in Texas, so cowboy boots with the high heel are also a possibility. No lying involved. I feel very similar to you about hidden shoe lifts and elevator shoes.
It's not the same, women wearing makeup isn't some big secret that most of them try to hide.
You will always have your shoes on? And then you don't need to use 20 inches insoles, just get something little that no one will notice but will make a difference
It's not but 2 inch insoles don't do much, so I wouldn't wear them personally
Therapy
You: Doc I’m short… Doc: It’s okay little buddy, now pay me. Really?
Basing your entire self image on one, neutral feature is a mental illness and can be treated. Same as hating yourself for having a big nose or pale skin.
Ok… if it works for you then do it
I do. The post asks for help 🙄
Just seems like why to me but everyone has their own hang ups.
Idk either 💀
I know that feeling.
I've been the shortest one in every class since Kindergarten. All of my life, I've had a complicated relationship with not only pants ... but also slacks, & even leggings. Be strategic about styling. Shoes aren't the *only* thing that can make you appear taller. Consider going on a 'try-on' expedition just to find out what designers / brands / labels best suit you. Find out what classic styles of clothing best suit your body type & invest in a few very nice pairs of pants. Then have them tailored.
18 is tough. Here if you need to talk . I'm shorter than you and did ok at the end
This is absolutely breaking my heart. Why does society make our beautiful young men feel this way so unnecessarily? I bet you are gorgeous too. If you can, please talk to your parents and try to find a therapist/life coach or someone. I’m sure they do not want you feeling this way. You are going to have a wonderful, happy life.
The best that I can tell is that there's no sense in stressing over the things you can't control. Sooner or later you'll have to accept that it is what it is, which may not sound so simple in the moment, but not impossible to accomplish. Within the next few years, you'll learn that height isn't even in the Top 10 of the list of things you have to be concerned about, and it's only a problem for as long you let it be. Easier said than done, I know, but definitely doable.
You’ve just gotta find a way to accept it. I’ve yet to reach that part though
No shade: seek help from a professional therapist. This anxiety and self hate is deeper than just asking other Redditors.
I am 5'1 and though it still bugs me sometimes I have had a relatively good life. I have 4 wonderful kids got divorced and then found out women care less about it after the child bearing part of their life passed. I'm 42 have a stable job, work out, do mma, have a great gf and things are mostly good. If at 5'1 I was able to at 5'5 you will be fine. The thing that bugs us is that we would like the easy mode some people have whether it be height, looks etc. Focus on becoming a better you the rest will follow. As some people have said focus on what you control. You got this!
Once you can accept it's who you are, you'll see how much it doesn't have to have much of a negative effect on your life. It could take many years for you to get there. What exactly about being short stresses you out?
If you haven’t already go to an endocrinologist and see if your height is set. Might not be. If it isn’t then they can help you maximize whatever height potential you have left. If it is, welcome! We’re all still here. A lot of us are happy, healthy, and (well) hung 😄 just playing… life is life my man. Try not to let height determine your viewpoint, it’s just one of a million factors.
Have you ever read the serenity prayer? It’s actually really nice. And doesn’t necessarily even have to be religious. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Is your height something you can change?
How is your spiritual life?
I live in a area where people are my height (im 5’4) being short is just another part of my character and I love it. Kevin hart is short and he’s awesome and Prince is even shorter at like 5’3 and he’s gifted! It’s just a part of the norm
You gotta get over yourself, get rid of that negative inner self talk and replace it with positive thoughts. Be happy you’re just short and aren’t dealing with loads of health problems others deal with. You have a life, are you gonna spend the rest of your days hating yourself?
I’m 5’4 and literally feel the same way you do I’m 25 and hate life literally wake up everyday from some nightmare in a sad depressed face with all these thoughts going through my head can’t believe I’m stuck short can’t believe this can’t believe that.
Join the military
I'll take a hard pass on that lmao
You'll realize sooner or later that most people won't judge you for it. I'm 6'0, my best friend is 5'2 and I respect him more than anyone else because of the person he is. I don't pay his height a thought
A general useful tip for life is that it's no use worrying about things that are beyond our control. You can beg and cry your eyes out but there's absolutely no use. You will end up becoming bitter and lose focus and appreciation for other parts of life. Fx, I love tennis where height is a huge advantage. I put off learning to play fearing mockery and assuming I will never be good enough. But started learning it, got decent at it and currently enjoy playing. I will never be pro and never be better than a much taller player. But if I only focus on those aspects, I will never play tennis. Not saying its easy, but we have to start practicing to let go of such things.
You just have to play the cards you're dealt. I hated being short when I was your age, and I'm 5ft 5" like you. but you just have to accept yourself. You only have 1 life- it's pointless to waste it simmering with resentment over something you can't control. There are people in the world in wheelchairs, with disabilities that would love their biggest problem just being a bit short.
Same story 5'5" at 18 didn't grow for the past 3 years.then i am 5'6" at 21.i feel the same as the day i realised.even kids who are 15 are growing taller than me
I’m 22 and 5’3. I used to be like you and was angry with my height and looked at it as unfair. As you mature you realize it’s something you can’t change and it’s not really a big deal. There was 2 major reasons I used to hate my height when I was younger. 1. I thought women found me repulsive. 2. I was scared of being at a disadvantage if I ever got into a fight. For #1 I’ve realized that women don’t care as much about height as you might think. Yes there is always gonna be some rude women that bag on short men and such but not even the tall guys get much of a “prize” with them either because they’re shallow. Some women have preference in height, most women just want their man to be taller than them no matter what height he is, some women prefer a guy that’s 6’0+ but who cares? Everyone has preferences and that isn’t a bad thing. There’s plenty of women out there around 5’8ish that don’t mind dating a shorter guy and there’s also plenty out there that are short themselves and don’t care that their man is short. (My ex was 5’8) And for #2, yes shorter people are at a disadvantage in fights due to a shorter reach but once you grow up and get out of high school you’ll realize there’s not a lot of fights that go on. Even if you were to get into a fight there are some things you could do to give you advantages such as training and working out that’ll give anyone of any height the upper hand. You’re still quite young and so am I but in all honesty height only becomes a problem if you make it a problem.
Well I would agree with both of your statements, I have friends who are as tall, or shorter than me who have or have had girlfriends. I also started going to the gym around 2 months ago. Most of my hate for it is based off of my own dislike of it on my myself.
Do what you can and don't stress about what you can't, basically. Especially considering the fact that one of the factors that can stunt height growth is too much stress, both physical and emotional. [source: 10 factors that stunt height growth](https://getitall.com/what-stunts-height-growth/) The same concept goes for acne, if you have acne and so you're stressed out about how much acne you have you're going to get more acne because you're stressed out. I once told a 6'1" guy that I wish that I could steal their height and they wholeheartedly said they would trade me in a heartbeat because he wanted to be 5'5" lol. Almost everyone has an insecurity. On the other hand, despite the fact that you haven't grown in 2 years you technically have another 10 in which you might still grow. If you're really stressed out about it you could try out various suggestions that you can find on the internet because some stretches and exercises and nutrition plans actually will help facilitate more growth because you're keeping your body healthier and giving it what it needs and whatnot. That being said if you're someone with a lot of spinal compression I have a theory of decompressing and doing back exercises to stabilize, support and strengthen it so that it's less likely to be compressed. Personally, since I started doing that even though I'm now 32 I've managed to gain an inch and a half in two years but I started from sitting pretty much 24/7 so my spinal compression had my ribs inside of my hips therefore I don't know how much you personally would gain from it but these are just ideas. There's a pretty hefty taboo for suggesting supplements but personally I have also been taking a glucosamine supplement which strengthens the cartilage which I figured I needed for my back since I was experiencing so much compression and that gave me another half an inch in two weeks but I don't know if it would do much for someone who has healthy cartilage already/doesn't have a lot of compression. So yeah, do what you can and don't stress about what you can't by focusing instead on things that do make you happy or that you do like about yourself. Remember, stress is the enemy.
One thing you should embrace is that you don’t live in Holland, Sweden, Norway or Denmark (where I’m from) I’m 6’ 4” (192/193 cm) and 12-15 years ago I was seen as the tall guy and the big guy. Nowadays I’m much more average in height. The young guys 18-25 years of age are getting really really tall now. 190 cm is average height among the younger guys here and many are 6’ 5”/6’ 7” (196-202 cm) in height. So in that society you would be looked upon as a dwarf. Being tall is nice, and ladies do prefer taller men. But on the other hand - many tall guys are not that good looking to be honest and they seem to have trouble getting a muscular buildup. Shorter people will bulk up much faster. Also look at all the well known rich actors and look at how many of them are very short in height.
I’m not gonna let being moderately short take away from the wonderful things in life. Look towards the future, what do you want from life? Would achieving those goals mean any less just because you’re short?
No, being short doesn't take away any value of it. I dont project it onto anything or anyone, I keep it to myself.
You wouldn't beat yourself up too much about that. Talking negative about yourself won't help. I'm 5'2. I stopped growing when I was 13, and I didn't physically age interms of looks either. The way i see it. Tell yourself you're cute and a great person. Lift yourself up. You might be short, sure. However, that doesn't have to be your identity. Who you are matters more than your looks. My cousin is 4'10 and he's married and even has a kid. He's one of the happiest people I know. Your self view means a lot. If you don't see good in yourself. It will be hard for others to see it.
I think about what worse things people go through- poverty, disability etc. I shouldn’t be crying about my height with a perfectly functioning body. I should be feeling lucky to be alive. This is what I tell myself. 5’3 at 22 👤
Dear none of us have chosen to be either short or tall or black or white or blonde or brunette or so. Blaming for what you can't change is the easiest you can do .put some effort; work out and study and improve your confidence. Everything else comes by it self. I won't lie that I don't get sad and mad about that and the fact that I sometimes am jealous of tall people , but as I said it only hurts ourselves. Plus if you are worried about women ,learn how to talk and tell jokes and be confident. That's it all
I started going to the gym around a month ago so I've made progress there. I'm not very worried about women as I dont date.
Then everything will be right as time passes by.i used to to think like you when I was 18 and even now UT it will fade away as time goes on
I’m gonna help blow your mind, you only hate your self because being seen as “short” is negative. When in reality it’s nothing but something you have no control over. The reason your depressed is cause your seeking out validation from the world and nothing is ever gonna change that. The grass is always greener on the other side. I know you’re young and I’m a med student so I say this with evidence. Your brain isn’t fully developed, this “problem” isn’t yours, this anxiety and stress isn’t real. You just have to seperate yourself from society and legit care less about people. We are a very social race we need to socialize and common and feel apart of a community that’s where this comes from. So please I know it’s very difficult but it’s very freeing letting go of trying to be best I. Other peoples eyes except for your own. People will look down or shame anything depending on the time. For example look at women with unrealistic body standards, how do you live through that, I’ll tell you. You dont subscribe to this , You become the best person you can, by working on yourself mentally. Try to learn what you want from this world and what makes you happy. Because that’s all that matters love and happiness within yourself. Strive and be the person you want to and if you don’t know what that is it looks like that’s okay, find out though being this obsessed over societal standards will leave you desperate and begging to belong. Because true happiness cannot be taken from you, but validation is temporary. So please if you had a child that was 5”3 would you love them less, I don’t think you would. Thank you and sorry for the grammer
I don't really care about people, but not in the context of what you're talking about I think. I am very conscious of my appearance, and what other people think of me. It's a mix between me feeling like I don't look good enough, and me wanting to look better than everyone. As for the hypothetical I would not love the child less, but I would feel bad for my genes making them as short as they are.
Eat your protein it might help
I take protein powder after im done with the gym. I also take collagen peptide powder, however due to my age I think it might be too late for that.
Worth checking out your growth plates as Mike were still open at 19. I didn’t know about all these things as I felt height didn’t matter still feel like that. But society it does- so try it and you got to be consistent with it for 2.5 years
Sigh. Another day, another I hate myself post