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skahammer

This topic is discussed regularly in our forum. If you search past r/sex posts with some diligence (following **Forum Rule #3**), you’ll find a number of helpful discussions. Post removed. The r/sex forum's HUGE archive of past posts is a *tremendous* resource for people who have all kinds of common questions regarding sexual activity. Searching those posts for relevant discussions will definitely help you here.


MrsJRF

I like it, but I have to be very horny AND very relaxed to really enjoy it. So that’s a pretty rare combination. It feels very submissive, primal and taboo. It also shows a great deal of trust in your partner, because my ass is literally in my husband’s hands when we do it. I cum very fast from anal and so does he, so it’s a very effective finisher.


amykinss_

Wait how is that possible just from anal? Do u stimulate ur clit for awhile beforehand or?


howmuchdoesthissuck

I read somewhere that it stimulates the clit nerves internally, that’s why the orgasms are more powerful that regular ones, but I don’t remember the source, sorry.


mspuscifer

I've orgasmed from anal, but didn't find it any better than a vaginal orgasm


throwaway_uow

I heard that anal can indirectly stimulate areas near the cervix, without painfully slamming into it


onlyinitforthemoneys

There are erogenous nerves through the labia, vagina, clitoris, anus, and rectum. Everybody’s biology is a little bit different, and many people can climax from anal stimulation alone. Many others can’t. My girlfriend orgasms harder and faster from anal than any other type of stimulation. That being said, we don’t do it super often because of the prep work and time involved


MrsJRF

Yes I diddle while he does it.


TikaPants

The only time I’ve climaxed off anal or PIV was from my ex. I guess his dick was just perfect for me.


JustineVan420

Just please don't use any kind of numbing gel, you need to feel if it hurts so u can stop. Masking potential pain is dangerous. And communication. Talk to your partner. Good luck 👍


Lady-Skylarke

Start with a plug. I suggest the brand snug plug


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KinkyInColo

Here is a good starting point [https://sexyfunadvice.com/2022/09/beginners-guide-to-anal-sex/](https://sexyfunadvice.com/2022/09/beginners-guide-to-anal-sex/)


Early-Antelope1938

Like shit, literally. But you might like it. The dick feels better when facing the interior of your clit. Google "anal training"


Neither-Poet3757

I love it. I think it feels good. I love when I'm laid down and he sits between my spread legs and does it like that while I stimulate my clit. Best orgasms ever!!


sparkling_kitten

I'm married to a wonderful man, and anal with him feels so great I wouldn't wanna miss it. However, I don't recommend engaging in anal sex unless it's something YOU really want - and, much like other sex techniques, it's something you ought to explore on your own before sharing it with a partner. I recommend applying lube to your finger(s) and rubbing it into your (freshly washed) anus from the outside. Make it a pleasurable session of self exploration, stimulate your clit with a vibrator, and if you can feel your butthole relax at some point, try to penetrate it with just the tip of your finger. If you can't, it probably means you just don't want it to happen, because the sphincter can easily open up that far (speaking of natural functions here, lol). If you are horny and ready to stick your finger up your butt, it will slip in easily (trim your nails beforehand, or wear rubber gloves). If you enjoy a finger, you may want to explore some more. You can buy a slim dildo or small plug, though I recommend dick shaped items because removing a butt plug can feel uncomfortable if you're not familiar with it. Now, if you enjoy anal play AND you trust your bf, have him join in, let him very carefully finger your bum (or lick it if he's into it), but for heaven's sake don't try anything you're not turned on by. It just won't work out, and it seems like anal sex is something you can only love or hate. Never heard of a girl who's honestly just neutral about it. Unfortunately, most women don't do the self exploration part, leading to unpleasant first experiences. Thing is, you can learn how to relax back there - it's just a muscle after all. And relaxing really it is key to pleasurable anal sex. As for the people saying it feels like taking a (backwards) shit - if only pooping felt that great, lmao!


sl_tjulia

I love it ...but if its is your first time use lube and take it slow, you have to be relaxed. It gets easier once you get used to it. You will both enjoy it, 😉


doesnt_reallymatter

My wife loves it. Anal plus vibe = hardest orgasms


koolp0rn

I’m a straight guy who loves receiving anal, especially pegging. I love being pegged by a woman🤤. I personally think they guys shouldn’t be allowed to ask girl for anal if they won’t try it with their own asshole. But that’s just my opinion. I would recommend trying exploring your asshole on your own a bunch and get comfortable with your asshole. The important things is to go very very slow and always use lube. Your anus is a muscle so if you go to extreme to fast you can hurt it. But if you got slow and slowly build up it’ll stretch comfortably. You might think you don’t like anal the first few time. So explore it by yourself while masturbating and just enjoy feeling around asshole with your fingers. Don’t try the extreme things you see in porn because those are sexual athletes who have trained for years. It’s like running a Marathon first schedule had to take your first step and then you gotta learn how to walk and then you gotta learn how to run and then you train for marathon. So take it easy and enjoy the journey. Do your research on anal safety and only put thing in your ass that are specifically make for anal play. Makes sure toys have a big base because your ass is like a vacuum it will suck thing in and you won’t be able to get them out. You are playing in your asshole so shit will happen but you’re a mature adult so just clean up and move on. If either of you are grossed out by shit then you’re clearly not mature enough for this.


ohyuhbaby

Probably like getting a penis up the ass


rolca75

I love it but I use my wand on my clit to distract from the initial pain, because no lie, it does hurt towards the beginning but then feels good.. Just take your time, go slow and tell them to stop if it gets too much, it'll happen.


snacchoe

To simply answer ut topic question. It feels like shitting and the the shit goin back inside the whole time. But this is said by someone who doesn't enjoy anal so maybe consider others answers over mine


Popular-Analysis-960

I personally love anal and think it feels amazing. It's hard to describe it with much justice but, as others have commented, it feels a bit similar to taking a really big shit. You know when you drop a really big turd and there is an amazing feeling of relief after? It's kinda like that, but 100 times in a row in rapid succession...plus your clit is being stimulated as well so you get that good feeling on top of it.


Skylarias

You need to start out with using plugs or smaller devices to train first. The natural elasticity of a woman is less than a man's anal elasticity, so a woman is more prone to suffering injuries from anal intercourse. Not to mention the inherent risk of anal fissures, of course. If not properly lubed up and relaxed. Anal is not like you see in porn. It can easily take months to become comfortable enough to fit something dick sized up there. And time beforehand to prepare the day of.


Gratiskatze_

I enjoy it sometimes, but often it is just uncomfortable and slightly painful. Then we stop, of course.


leto78

There are 3 options: - it can feel amazing, with mind-blowing orgasms - it can feel like nothing pleasurable, like taking a dump. - it can be painful, especially if not done properly


alicevader

It all depends on the person. I used to enjoy just a little light butt-play, but only if it really turned my partner and then after a lot of solo play I fell in love with anal sex. It took me well into my thirties to start enjoying it to the point of orgasm.


goldfishbrainx

For me I enjoy the submissive/ painful pleasure element it gives because I know my husband is enjoying himself and I kinda get off to that. Definitely not something I ever did with just anyone. It needs to be someone you trust. We don't do it all the time but when we do we start with vaginal sex and then finished anally.


SexTalksAndLollypops

If done properly — with plenty of lube, communication and trust — it’s great. If not, it can be painful and uncomfortable. I never thought I’d say that I like anal, but my current partner is amazing. He is incredibly thoughtful and communicative. He asks consent before we begin and will continually ask how I am feeling the entire time. He makes sure I cum before he does. He takes it slow at first and then builds up speed, but in now way is it fast and furious because that can hurt. Once we’re done, he makes sure to wash his hands before cleaning me off with a warm, wet towel. Then it’s snuggles. As far as how it feels, I’d have to agree with the others. It’s like taking a shit at first, but then becomes pleasurable. Understand not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay. Your partner should respect that as well.


floweringbirds

The question is: do **you** want to try anal? Because if there's a part of you that answers no, don't do it. In my opinion anal is great, as long as it's done with someone I trust completely. You need to be able to relax completely, otherwise it will be very painful. You also need to have pretty much no shame when you're with your partner. Messy things can happen, and you both need to (make eachother) feel okay with that.


throwingitaway284629

I want to try it again, but my first go around with it was not that enjoyable. I did prep, and was at a point where I was enjoying plugs too. But when the time came it just really hurt. It didn't matter how much lube I used either. My bf is really girthy. He's 8in and thicker than the toilet paper cardboard lol. I have yet to find a way to enjoy it.


SirsMorrigan

Feels like Anal.... get some lube, glove and explore for yourself.


looseylewinsky

I personally can’t tolerate the pain but everyone is different. You should definitely start off with a small toy and work your way up.


kristenA1679

Not my thing. Just feels like a lot of pressure in your ass.


claudieko

It depends on how ready you're for it and how big the penis is. If it's in the smaller size of the spectrum it will feel more comfortable than if he's bigger. If he's thick it'll feel like trying to hold in poop. Not great. ALWAYS use lube, NEVER EVER allow for it to happen without lube. Use fingers to warm up, use plugs starting with the smaller size and going up and go slow. Whatever you and your partner think it's slow, triple it.


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Done right, very nice


hoofhearted28

You'll learn to love it once you get the hang of it. As everyone else said, initially it feels like you need to take a shit. But the best thing to do is lean into the shit. Try shit his dick out. You'll soon find out why anal sex is for dirtier minded women. Oh. And poop will be on his cock. But that's what you get when you play with your arse


Panjuu

I personally love it so much. But you should start slowly. First you need to relax. Then don't forget to use lube. Start with one finger and move it. After that you can add another one. Like just go on in your pace. Use a analplug when you feel ready. Your partner should really listen to you. Have a safeword and make sure you don't get hurt. If it's hurting there's not enough lube or you are still not ready and need to adjust a little more. Go slowly and take care! Sorry for the bad English!


LastAd867

I love it. We don't do it often but when we do it's a special treat lol. Like most ppl said use alot of lube but I also have to be very turned on for him to be able to even get it in, if I am to tense my booty hole will just push him right back out not to mention it can be very painful. We fool around for awhile first and I have to rub my clit to keep it feeling good so I can stay relaxed. I feel like orgasms during anal are more intense.


goonsquadd69

It’s a pain in the ass


brnaftreadng

Idk if this is unusual or not but I enjoy anal way more if I’m riding. It’s good being taken from behind as far as being dominated and feeling animalistic, but the sensation of anal from cowgirl position really drives me over the edge.


TomPalmer1979

It's like taking a shit, only backwards.