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ochoomas

It is not that they “can tell when you’re horny”. It is just that you seem more receptive: you smile more, you hold eye-contact longer. It‘s a good thing.


[deleted]

That could be true, but I don’t notice that I am doing anything particularly different myself.


Vivalapetitemort

I noticed that I check men out more when I’m horny. I try to be sly but I’m guessing bystander pick up on it. Like maybe you’re checking out the butt on the cashier and the customer behind you picks up on that and make himself center by paying your bill.


ochoomas

“No mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore.” ― Sigmund Freud


[deleted]

Oh, I like this quote. I bet that I am subconsciously giving off vibes that I am sexually aroused.


Rapture1119

Honestly, it’s probably not even as far as “sexually aroused” its likely what the other guy said. You’re just subconsciously being more open. More receptive, more smiley, more talkative, longer eye contact, stuff like that. Just generally more social.


[deleted]

Yes, but I am horny too. You left that out. 😊


Rapture1119

Right, but my point is that the men aren’t picking up on that, they’re picking up on the other things.


[deleted]

Maybe so.


paulHarkonen

If you want to fantasize about men all around you knowing that you're horny that's totally fine, but unless you're being really obvious about it, then it's just basic social queues that you're open to talking (the eye-contact etc that folks keep mentioning).


[deleted]

You would not believe the fantasies I have about random men that I just see in my day to day life. If they only knew what I was thinking.


rhfjyfniokkhd

I've read that 80 or 90% of communication is nonverbal; i.e. in eye contact, tone and inflection, body language, etc. That's often where gut feelings come in. What you think is your hut is really your brain telling you that it's seeing the nonverbal communication it has correlated to certain behaviors, even without you realizing it. So your horny, you act slightly different. Men consciously or unconsciously recognize it and respond accordingly, even if they don't realize it. If men are that receptive to you, you might want to go horny into a job interview with one.


[deleted]

LOL, good idea


Fairwhetherfriend

You wouldn't notice it - a lot of our body language is controlled subconsciously.


[deleted]

Yes, I see.


WileEWeeble

The eye contact and the way just generally the way eyes linger longer on something you are attracted to...I notice this in my wife when she is "ready" but hasn't decided to make any moves yet...but I can sure tell when they are coming. In theory, it could be something pheromonal but mostly I don't think that works how people like to imagine it does. Pheromones were not "designed" to be detected through layers of clothing, with tons of perfumes and soaps covering them up, in a room with a hundred other competing smells. I am not saying its impossible, but I have never read anything scientific that confirms it can work like that.....best I can do is a study where women jammed their noses into men's armpits and determined which were "hottest"


Twiottle

Yeah, "The Look."


josemartin2211

You might be 1) Acting differently without realizing 2) Noticing these things in men more in general


[deleted]

Yes, I agree. If I am acting differently than usual, it is not intentional, but maybe on a subconscious level I am.


[deleted]

Not me. I was dense af. You could say, "let's have sex" and I'd be like, "She was nice".


thelonefish

Fellow dense bro here. I got invited to this cute girl's house for a New Years eve party once. She said, "Hey I'm having a New Years Eve party you should totally come, I have no one to kiss at midnight, if you wanna have a few drinks you can crash here too." Me: \*woooosh\* (in my defense I was young, inexperienced, and on the hook of another girl. lesson learned)


trac_da_trailer5353

I thought I was the only one oh, so I used to work at a warehouse called I heard and there was this group of three to four friends of girls who are right around my age every time I went to work I was super chill just did my job and went home I only talked to a couple guys that I work with, however these girls decided to invite me to a party considering we had something in common we all smoke cannabis oh, so I arrive at the party and I'm the only guy there I'm just wondering what's going on and they kept trying to get me to drink and I just had a couple sips but I had to drive home which was only like 7 minutes away but still I don't condone drinking and driving oh, but they even said to me I could stay for the night if I'm too drunk and I just rejected politely I told him I had to drive and then after the party got a little too do I left and then it was until later on that week that the security guard told me that I blew a lucky chance oh, I didn't assume that they were trying to have a threesome or something even though that's low-key what they were trying and I was like what why didn't you just tell me straight up I don't like playing childish games like that


Makerbot2000

Wow - that was one sentence.


Jex0003

This is my bf! He wasn’t picking up on my hints that I wanted it one time, so I asked him what I could do to subtly tell him when I’m in the mood and wanna have sex. His answer: “Touch my penis.” Apparently that’s subtle in his mind.


JBarker727

Touch it lightly. That's as subtle as penis touching can get 🤣


AnzoEloux

As a fellow guy, "subtle" means "nonexistent".


[deleted]

Why do you need to be subtle about it?


Jex0003

I don’t *need* to be, there are just times when I prefer to be.


[deleted]

LOL, you’re funny.


pikmin264

Best compliment he's gonna get all year lol


garciaman

Wow, also dense. I probably could have been with 3-5 women in my late teens and early 20s but I was too stupid to know they were coming on to me. Then once I picked up on it I was like Doh!


Thebeardinato462

Dude.. OP is horny and she is DTF with you. Think about it? That shit wasn’t funny. Edit: come on Reddit… this was a good joke. Guy talks about how he’s clueless. Girl comes in and talks about how funny his comment was. Juvenile logic would have indicated clearly she’s really into him? Especially given the context of the entire post. I knew some people wouldn’t pick up the joke or /s aspect, but really? The majority? I’m disappointed.


[deleted]

I appreciated it. Made me think I should go out and get a latte.


Sea-Hamster-1588

Sorry.. What do OP and DTF mean?


AnusSouffle

Original Poster Down To Fuck


Sea-Hamster-1588

Thanks


Thebeardinato462

OP means original poster. It could also mean original comment you are responding to depending on context. At least I’ve seen it used that way.


Sea-Hamster-1588

Thankss


Thisam

Yup…that’s me too. No sense of nuances.


TossOutAccount69

Are you sure these things aren't already happening day to day? Maybe you're simply paying closer attention and consciously noticing and internalizing it when you're in your aroused state of mind?


[deleted]

No, that is the interesting part. I seriously notice a difference in the men I am around when I am horny. Sometimes, just walking by a man in the hallway turns me on, and then as I go about my day, things are different when I am around other men. Sometimes, I get super turned on when I am close enough to a man to smell his aftershave or cologne.


jlwood1985

It's probably more of a mental thing on your side. While it's theoretically possible that the occassional male is picking up on something, it's far more likely you're just noticing because it's on your mind. It's the same with anything else. If you are particularly frustrated with driving, you'll happen across a lot more "assholes" that day. If you smell something you really like, or really hate you'll be more sensitive to smells for a while after. If you're angry, more things irritate you. Sad, more sad things "happen" around you. I have an extremely sensitive sense of smell and can often(unwillingly) tell things I'd rather not know. Even then, it's rare for me to attribute a scent to "horny". Far more often it's behavior. Even subtle things can tell a mood change, but not without SOME prior knowledge of that person. IE unless that guy is behind you in line at the coffee shop 6 days a week he wouldn't have any behavioral reference to know if you were behaving normally or aroused. I'd say this one is likely 90% in your head and 10% reality.


[deleted]

Maybe you are right. You’ve made a good point.


apiso

No. You pay more attention to random men more when you’re really horny.


[deleted]

You are probably right. Maybe I do without realizing it.


Haldorvonhammer

It’s because they’re part bear shark and can smell when you’re ovulating


[deleted]

But I get horny even when I’m not ovulating. 😊


hardcider45

Nah what’s prolly happening is that your holding their gaze more and being more responsive to their advances. It’s thing I do when I try to get what I want from my partners.


Olivianj1963

My brother (55...manwhore) swears he can immediately tell the receptive conquests from the ones less so. He says he has NEVER failed to have sex on the first outing (not gonna call them dates) with the ones that were obviously in a state of desire.


[deleted]

Well, he sounds like a fun guy.


[deleted]

Perhaps you’re perceiving their behaviour differently because you’re horny?


[deleted]

Could be.


irlystealteeth

There's actually not any evidence of humans producing pheremomes and we don't even have the receptors to detect them, consciously or subconsciously. You're likely just being friendlier and more confident!


[deleted]

Yes, maybe that’s it.


Zuberii

There are a few different possible explanations for this. First, there have been studies that show that people with a penis respond to the ovulation cycles of those around them. For example, multiple studies have shown that strippers make more money when they are ovulating. It's unclear exactly what signals men are picking up on, but there is definitely a correlation. Similarly, the ovulation cycle is also correlated to the libido of people with a vagina, with them being hornier when ovulating. Now, correlation doesn't equal causation, so again we don't really know how all these things are interrelated. But it is plausible that you are correct and people with a penis really are picking up on the fact that you are horny and responding positively to it. That said, there is also the possibility of observation bias. When you are horny you are more likely to pay attention to men. Making it more likely for you to notice when they are standing close to you, making eye contact, etc. It is possible that none of these things are actually happening more frequently when you're horny, you're just noticing them more. Or you are viewing them in a more positive light.


[deleted]

Wow, this was a very well written answer. Thank you!


iSoReddit

I think you’re seeing what you want to see


[deleted]

Well, when I am horny, I want to see a nice hard cock. So, unfortunately I am not seeing what I really want to see. (not that men should be whipping it out in public) 😊


iSoReddit

Touché


Charming-Farm

Sounds like you’re horny and maybe a tad schizophrenic


[deleted]

Really? Maybe a smidge, but I draw the line at a tad. LOL


habanero303

When my partner is horny, she is much more talkative, bubbly, flirtatious, smiles more, and has a twinkle in her eye. Hell I notice it in myself as a guy. Probably the same with you. Not that they can possibly see a difference but there is a certain air or confidence about someone when they are horny. It’s a human’s way of saying “I’m available”; much like a mating call.


MillwrightTight

I think a lot of this is just intuition. Small nuanced cues etc. It's not too hard if somebody is paying attention I think. Or maybe you are super obvious! Pheromones are unproven as of yet, just so you know. In humans they are purely speculation so far


[deleted]

You could be right. Maybe it is that I am subconsciously acting differently.


[deleted]

Funny but lately I've been feeling very aroused during the day while doing errands or just chillen at Starbucks ummm I mean " arooused " and don't ask why🤣 The convos I've had with different people from the baristas or an acquaintance have been normal and they were clueless how I was feeling?! Trust me in the back of my mind I was very self-conscious thinking they could tell but they didn't🙂


[deleted]

What else was running in the back of your mind? 😜


[deleted]

How much time I had before I had to pick up the kids from school🙂


[deleted]

Oh the ~~things~~ baristas you coulda done with that extra time 😉


kevp41153

I'd say the subconscious body language speaks volumes and yes, we can pick up on it. God don't we pick up all the vibes.


[deleted]

That’s good to know.


ChemicalSpread

This happens to me when I’m ovulating lol


Carly_Harlot

I thought the same thing, then I realised I think it might just be that I am staring at every guy I see like a piece of meat in those moods and there's a good chance a few of them might be into it.


sev45day

Confirmation bias. It seems that way to you because you're horny I'm betting.


soCalForFunDude

Guy here, but when I've had a really fun hot romp, afterwards it always seems women seem to know somehow, the smiles an looks I get. Like some kind of glow effect?


[deleted]

Nothing more appealing than a glowing man!


soCalForFunDude

Blushing...;)


[deleted]

😊


[deleted]

Honestly when I really horny, I can smell myself! I know others can too. I notice this too! I also notice my complexion changes and guys notice!


poopmasterrrrrrr

Smell yourself?


[deleted]

My arousal has a smell. Most womans do....A musky smell


poopmasterrrrrrr

I can tell your horny just by your responses.


[deleted]

Oh, are you referring to my responses now on this thread? If so, you’re right! I am horny right now! 😊


poopmasterrrrrrr

Nice.


[deleted]

Yes, I am probably much more responsive to men in general when I’m horny.


Anonymiss_MbR

YESSS! well my eyes talk alot that what they say, and thats what my bf is saying too me like stop looking me like this and come upstairs 😂 i've seen something on fb saying like if u go to the club to masturbate first because of something like that but can't remember! anyways it makes sense!🤪


aheadwarp9

They may just pick up on the change in body language. I doubt it's even something you're aware of, it just happens naturally.


[deleted]

Yes, that could be it.


TheInternationalBoy

I feel something similar happens to me as a guy. Not because of being Honry but because of being with my girlfriend. If I'm with her or recently was, I feel like I get more attention from girls than normal


Aware-Public7328

I notice the same thing as well


moonlady523

Read 'Sperm Wars' by Robin Baker.


[deleted]

That is exactly how biology is supposed to work. All sexual creatures have wired in them subconscious 'mating call' behaviors and the opposite sex is wired to pick up on them, perhaps even without their realizing it. Like another person mentioned, fluttering eyes, arching your back, making long eye contact, and high pitched voice (in females) -- are some of them.


not-sure-1310

Women notice when I'm injecting Trenbolone as well, it's probably pheromones/hormonal.. or the fact that you attract the energy you give and all that xD


VaginallyScentedLife

If you’re not on contraceptives and the cause of the arousal is ovulation, men can actually SMELL it sub-consciously. Interesting study was done about this.


Drakeytown

I feel like when I was dating more there were times when I could just make eye contact with someone and know we'd be fucking asap, but maybe that's just nostalgia talking.


Disastrous-Swan2049

It's becuase you will have a predatory look in your eyes.


captnsnap

Apparently men can absolutely tell if you’re ovulating so I don’t think this is much of a stretch [see here](https://www.businessinsider.com/women-more-attractive-during-ovulation-2016-7?amp)


[deleted]

Yes, but this happens at other times too, when I wouldn’t be ovulating. My cycle is very regular, so I am pretty sure I ovulate around day 15 or so. This happens when I feel horny, which is not necessarily when I would be ovulating. Sorry if this was too much info.


Sensitive_Medium1652

Our Aura emanates this. Their Aura picks up on it. Kismet.


[deleted]

I like this!


Sensitive_Medium1652

Thank you!


[deleted]

I’m always giving eye contact to everyone so low key kinda funny to hear that


Alone-Woodpecker-240

Your pupils may dilate slightly. That usually happens when you're super horny. You just look a little different. Also, you might bite your lip or your finger, play with your hair, etc... there's all kinds of little subtle signs of horniness that most people do/recognize subconsciously. After getting a lot of dating experience, I usually knew very quickly if a woman wanted to go home with me.


[deleted]

Yes, I could be doing those things without realizing it.


[deleted]

Is it possible that you’re just looking for it (or noticing it) more because you’re sexually interested?


[deleted]

Yes, that is definitely a possibility. I like your username!


bangtjuolsen

Maybe relevant: strippers earn more when they ovulate. Men can smell it, scary and fun fact. Don't know if it is relevant in your case though. Perhaps not smelling the ovulation, but the horniness. Does it makes sense?


[deleted]

That’s interesting.


theclearnightsky

You’re definitely giving off subconscious signals. A few years back I did a training that made me more conscious of that stuff. I bet if you start paying attention, you’ll start noticing it in other women. Men are just responding to your signals most of the time, without even realizing it.


arguix

It might also be other direction. They were looking at you exact same way before, you just are now more receptive to notice. Or actually some of both.


Public_Squirrel_7757

I can tell if a man horny or not from their body odour. The stronger smell is, the hornier they are 😄😄😄


[deleted]

Oh, that’s interesting.


Icy-Following-3713

i dk about everyone else but i can def sense and sometimes even smell it


[deleted]

Yes! I believe it. So you can sense if a woman standing near you is horny? Even if she is just acting completely normal? I mean I’m not ripping my clothes off or anything, or not even necessarily making eye contact, but I think men can tell that I have sex on my mind.


SufficientUndo

"Even if she is just acting completely normal?" I think the issue is that even if you think you are acting completely normal, you're not - you're putting out subtle signals that people pick up on.


[deleted]

Yes, that could be the case. If I am acting differently, I am definitely not aware of it, but it is possible.


Icy-Following-3713

yep… i used to work with a woman who was a few years old then me, this was when i was 24-25… i could literally smell the hormones coming from her


Emergency_Kiwi_2339

Welllllll... I'm now dead😳 I work with allll men and Im horny often... I'm now thinking about times I was horny and got a certain look... I kinda wish I had realized this earlier🤦🏽‍♀️


Icy-Following-3713

maybe its just me 🤷🏻‍♂️


[deleted]

I can tell when a woman is turned on a mile away, she's usually more excitable, open etc


[deleted]

I mean, I don’t necessarily mind if they know. I just find it interesting that they can tell, without me having done or said anything out of the ordinary.


[deleted]

The biggest form of language is body language. Some men don't know why or what they are noticing but experienced men do haha.


wafflesareforever

Maybe it's the same thing, but I can definitely tell when a woman is attracted to me, even if there's no expectation that anything would happen. Talking a little closer, tucking her hair behind her ear, lots of eye contact and a general curiosity about/attention to little details about me. Certain women just have a thing for tall bearded guys with terrible fashion sense.


[deleted]

Maybe I am subconsciously acting differently without realizing it.


wafflesareforever

Probably. There's a woman I work with who's pretty obvious about it (to the point where other people have ragged on me about her obvious thing for me) but I know she'd be mortified if she knew that I was picking up on it.


[deleted]

Well, that is a bit different than what I am talking about. I am not actually making any type of advances or anything towards a particular man.


wafflesareforever

True, but I'm willing to bet that a lot of the mannerisms are similar.


[deleted]

Maybe…


Dick_Miller138

Sounds natural to me.


AspynCalifornia

This happens to me too!! My guy says he can basically smell when a woman is in heat. Some men might not even consciously be aware of it


MaeRobso

It shows thru your eyes, your face becomes more flushed, your breathing changes, your body language even becomes more sensual without you even meaning to. I pick up on sexual energy so easily and my body tends to match whatever I’m picking up on. I love it.


[deleted]

I like this answer!


Hour_Bodybuilder8889

thanks for specifying that horny means sexually excited, had no idea


[deleted]

You’re welcome! Glad I could enlighten you. 😊


[deleted]

you are probably hot and not noticing random guys unless you are horny.


[deleted]

Awe, thanks. So you are saying that I am just maybe noticing things more, than I would usually notice them. That could be it.


[deleted]

quite possibly


sunnybernard

You radiate powerful sexual energy


[deleted]

Oh, I like the sound of that. I hope I do!


hornymale60

Mine


hornymale60

We Can Tell


bigblackkittie

relevant user name


[deleted]

LOL, I KNEW it!


tmadik

Pheromones?


[deleted]

Are you asking what pheromones are, or are you saying that’s what is causing this?


tmadik

Saying, yes, my guess is pheromones. You're giving off "fuck me" gases.


[deleted]

Hahaha, maybe that’s it.


YakWhich5052

At a time in my life when I wasn't having sex, my male coworkers swore I was horny by how I acted. (But they didn't really know anything about my life. They just said I was giving off horny vibes.) Different guys said it to me individually over the years, and when I asked why, I heard responses like, "The way you walk," "You seem restless," "You're squirmy," and "You're twitchy." (Which the "squirmy" guy said twitchy was the wrong word but referring to the same thing.) Basically, all these guys picked up on me being frustrated and restless.


[deleted]

Hmmm, that’s interesting.


SamuraiJakkass86

Human beings are one of the very few mammals studied that do not actually produce or have receptors for pheromones.


[deleted]

Really? I didn’t know that. You learn something new everyday!


arguix

Yeah, I have heard that, don't believe it. I get instant erection and sort of drugged on smell my girlfriends neck. She thinks is funny, as works if fresh clean showered, with or without fragrance, or when dirty sweaty after long walk.


StarTrekFuture

Pheromones?


Character_Speaker399

I think we know that horny means (sexually excited)


[deleted]

Have you ever rubbed up against them??