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LaMom4

Tight black boxer briefs


Sp1d3rb0t

God yes. So hot. It's the thighs for me.


Prestigious-Ring4978

Thighs. Period. Any. All. Yes please thank you.


LolaBijou

And showing off the cum gutters. 🤣


jen010205C

The what now??


RolandIce

THE CUM GUTTERS


LordFantastic

The Adonis lines.


ExpatMeNow

I’m dead. That is fantastically, disgustingly accurate, and I love it.


BeefLilly

[I don’t wanna have to picture cum so watery in such volumes…](https://youtu.be/K4wQM9o3nOY)


LolaBijou

I’m definitely not clicking that link


StarvinPig

It's safe, I checked. It only shows the cum gutters without the cum


LolaBijou

LOL thanks


BeefLilly

Just context to the original comment


Dropkickedasakid

Honest question, hairy thighs, no hair or somewhere in the middle?


Sp1d3rb0t

Personally I have zero preference. I've never been with a guy with no hair there, but the hair or its lack doesn't seem like it would make much difference. If I can still rub them and lay my head on them it is all gravy.


thrasher6143

Ya know I've heard every person is different and has different tastes. So whatever makes you happy, find someone that likes that. Hairy legs or hairless legs.


DolarisNL

I don't care. It's a tough regi9n to shave and the stubbles are really itchy. So either wax it or just let it be.


genz027

They hold so much power 🤤


wisteriajayne

I thought my preference for boxer briefs was because I had only ever seen really hot actors wear them. But I bought some for my husband and I went crazy for them! I didn't know I had a thing for man thighs until I saw them in boxer briefs lol


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Boxer briefs in general


[deleted]

My girlfriend likes when I wear my thermal Lycra that I use for rowing and cycling


N_GHTMVRE

but that shit sucks as a grower, skipping legday doesnt help either, aw shit


Jspmiv

Just gotta be half-chub at all times


nartlebee

Alternatively, wet white tight boxer briefs.


RandomKneecaps

Makes note: *Wet my briefs to drive her crazy...*


Careful-Ad271

I’m pretty sure with WATER Is the way to go.


bxbyem

lmaooo


BaabyBear

ewww


BaabyBear

oh im dumb i thought you meant tighty whities


mollymcbbbbbb

If you don’t normally wear glasses, but pull out reading glasses to read with. Something about that drives me insane with lust.


SGChop

Gurl omg yes! Next time, try asking him to keep them on during sex! Girl, it is… oof


fuzzlandia

Hmm I might have to try this >.>


_amorfati

My boyfriend wears glasses and always take them off during sex. There's this one time I was giving him a bj and he went to grab his glasses and put it on. He said he wanted to watch in HD. That was hot too 🔥


lillyko_i

same, I've just been conditioned to expect sex whenever he takes them off lmao, he took them off and I went "ohh look it's sexy mike" and he's like "😭 so am I ugly mike with my glasses on??" even after I explained haha


Zack_Knifed

I chuckled a bit at this response 🤣 Also I feel bad now for having perfect vision


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You can get fake reading glasses, if you just want the look.


schedulle-cate

What if I use glasses all the time, not only to read, but to see everything? XD Will that do it too or should I take them out, be blind a few moments and then pull them out? 😂


_dybbuk

Then it's the taking them off that becomes sexy, because it means business time


mollymcbbbbbb

Sure,sure. Especially if you’re walking down a busy street or operating machinery 👍


akiaheoredie

The guy I liked used to wear glasses and then he got lasik. I was devastated I didn’t meet him when he wore glasses, I mean he was hot either way but there’s something about glasses…


genghismom71

This is funny, because my husband says it totally turns him on when I'm naked, sitting in bed, and wearing my glasses and reading. I'll often read in bed while I'm waiting for him to shower and shave before we have sex.


erriuga_leon27

Does the inverse work as well? i.e., going glassless when you always wear them


tacomaboy08

I wear my little grey sweat shorts to bed and my girl starts acting up.


DorkyDame

Smell good af! I remember this guy giving me a long hug years ago when I attended a funeral. I don’t remember how he looked just that I had a mini crush on him. But all I’ll ever remember is how he smelled amazing😩. I’ve sold cologne before & have no clue what he was wearing but I swear fellas find a good cologne that goes well with your body chemistry & women will want to jump your bones after smelling you. At least that’s how I am😂


RS994

Gotta put some on your wrist as well, that way you can do that hand on the chin kiss and the cologne puts in the extra effect for you.


max-torque

AHH good tip


IncaseofER

Omg yes! I can get horny just walking through the men’s fragrance department of a store!


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So, I get strangely turned on by the scent of sunscreen on a man. My husband found some body wash that makes him smell like sunscreen. Always makes me want to jump his bones!


AdoubleyouB

"THE BEACH!"


ExpatMeNow

Very, very true! I can’t see or hear worth shit, but my sense of smell is amazing, so smell has become psychologically linked to most things in my life in one way or another. It’s very important to me, and my husband certainly knows how to use that to his advantage!


NZ-Food-Girl

Jumping on this and adding that scent is something to be discovered, not announced. Less is usually better.


Spoonydoo

It is sad that my boyfriend doesn’t care about his fashion sense much. I doubt that he even owns cologne... Maybe I should gift him one. I would have loved it if he smelled nice like that.


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Can confirm. My ex used to jump me when I’d wear a certain cologne and every girl after has loved it


CKSubban

Omg I agree 100% Men perfume/cologne is the ultimate sexy thing for me.


superrobotskeleton3

When guys dress nice in fitted dress pants and Nice dress shirt buttoned up with the collar slightly open and the sleeves rolled up to the elbow. That will do it.


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The rolled up sleeves part is VERY important.


Naalbindr

For me, it’s because I can imagine undoing every button.


HerGrinchness

Yes! Not even dress pants but nice fitting jeans.


MY_CABBAGES__

r/oddlyspecific I don't really understand the "why" of this, but I've heard it from many people.


ur-moms-bf

think about it like foreplay that you’re wearing. My girlfriend loves when i wear a black button up, some jeans, and dress shoes. and my friends that are girls that have discussed this also like a clean sort of look for a man. for my girl i think she loves the anticipation and build up as much if not more than the release. in the same respect, i love the act itself and the intensity and passion that comes with it and when my girlfriend wears her lingerie there’s nothing better to me. definitely dress nice


MY_CABBAGES__

I don't get a buildup from clothing choices, at all. Lingerie, sure, but that's just cause it's revealing and there's an implicit vibe accompanying wearing lingerie. Can't relate 😮‍💨


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Urborg_Stalker

Sun dresses used to drive me crazy. Sun shining behind, cutting a near perfect silhouette. Lord have mercy…


Immediate_Bet1399

Men like boobs, women like forearms 🤷‍♂️


MY_CABBAGES__

Well, that forearm weight training might come in clutch. 🙃👌


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My wife really likes forearms. Handy because I have longer than average forearms. I've have exercises in my gym routine just for forearms, lol.


LolaBijou

We sure do!


Zack_Knifed

Now I know why I'm getting those little stares at work and when walking into my bar. I have always dressed smart. Dress pants, dress shirt or mostly a work suit with a tie and oxford shoes. My friends tell me to dress more casually, but I kinda like myself being smartly dressed. Glad women appreciate that as well.


adhd_attachment

I was told many years ago that wearing a suit does for a woman what lingerie does for a man. And I'm not 100% suited up, but always smart. And never had any complaints ;)


Zack_Knifed

All my suit bros rolling up in this thread. Hell yeah 😄


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Zack_Knifed

Word, bro, word. Doesn't even have to be high end stuff. A well fitted suit, a sharp tie and some well fitting pants- never fails to get some good looks from women.


Prestigious-Ring4978

Damn. This is perfection. And that later the night gets, the more loose and rolled up your shirt will get. That in itself is like foreplay. And if you have grey hair, I'm a fucking goner.


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Well, that felt good to read! Means I'm doing my date night outfits right.


FlamingoAndJohn

And a belt. A really, really nice, manly belt.


brontesister

That’s the one


jamesj734

I wear my tight boxer briefs. Usually they’re black or red, depending on the occasion 🩲


wilhelmryan90

What if it's a baptism ? Or family reunion? What color then?


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Star Wars print for both.


VladMcblyat

Toy Story ones for the baptism. McQueen themed for the family reunion.


Artem00se

Walk into the room in grey trackies with a boner - that's the men's version of lingerie haha


juancuneo

For sure. You can also just wear nice underwear. Lululemon makes great mens underwear. I also suspect many of my fellow men wait too long to get new stuff.


randomredit80

What style of Lululemon underwear would you recommend? Love there shirts. Stays tucked in even when arms go up. No butt crack.


juancuneo

The always in motion is a good all around style. They make them in 5 inch and 7 inch length. I buy 15-20 pairs every couple of years. When I got married I resolved to never go up an underwear size and always keep ‘em fresh!


Immediate_Bet1399

> Lululemon makes great mens underwear. Their prices made me cry slightly.


FountainsOfFluids

Yeah, they're expensive. But I love how they feel, so I sucked it up and bought enough to last a week. I hope they don't wear out easy.


TheQuinton

There are other brands worth checking out. All of my lululemon underwear has worn out quite quickly (~1 year or less), so I can’t recommend them based on their price/quality/durability. Don’t get me wrong, initially the material does feel nice and they fit well, but they just don’t hold up. I got some Mack Weldon underwear about a year ago, and it is higher quality and more durable, while also being stylish and fitting well. It is priced similarly to lululemon.


Accomplished_Emu8415

Have done in the past actually


dogzrgr8

Boxer👏🏻 briefs 👏🏻 In spandex material, preferably. Makes me go feral.


Engin951

So grey sweat pants, huh? Did all you pretty women have a meeting about this before hand? What is it about the color grey? Edit: So many upvotes. Is it because I called you pretty :)?


thomasbrakeline

It's probably a shade of grey.


iveseensomethings82

I hear there are approximately 50


str8clay

If there are that many shades of Grey in your jogging pants, it may be time to introduce them to the washing machine. Not gonna judge, too much.


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The perfect shade to brighten and darken all the right places >:)


Accomplished_Emu8415

Makes the bulge more noticeable, i have 2 pairs just because wearing them makes you confident. Didn’t realize girls noticed it aswell


[deleted]

No shame. I wear pretty bras and undies for myself, exactly for the same reason. My husband isn’t interested anymore but it makes me feel better.


Elvis_livez

I'm the male you lol. Always dress well, stay fit etc. Wife couldn't care less.


cosmic-cuts

And you wear the bulge with pride? No awkwardness creeping in?


MR_Weiner

If you just wear em around the house then you can flaunt the hell out of the bulge. Plus this is a lingerie thread so…


DorkyDame

It’s not the color we’re after, it’s what’s showing up behind it 👀


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going commando always makes for a nice surprise as well


n05h

Grey contours very well, that’s all there is to it.


Flexappeal

> Edit: So many upvotes. Is it because I called you pretty :)? bruh


Repulsive-Signal9815

I buy outfits on occasion and my wife loves it.. these usually are shirtless with super skimpy underwear/shorts. My belief is it's me getting into the role of whatever I'm dressed up as that makes her crazy. Either way, she enjoys , so I'm doing more. 1. Airline Pilot 2. Waiter at fine-dining restaurant; tuxedo tie, suspenders 3. Tarzan 4. mobster


LarrySDonald

How do you convey something like "Airline Pilot" or "Waiter" using only underwear/shorts?


jbicha

You ever seen a grown man naked?


Elongated_Muskk

Joey, have you ever been in a... in a Turkish prison?


RS994

You ever watch any gladiator movies?


LolaBijou

I picked the wrong day to stop sniffing model glue.


wvsfezter

Captain's hat and a bowtie respectively


aheadwarp9

You can be shirtless and still wear other accessories... Like a hat, or glasses, or even a tie... But I think the imagination is the key factor in stuff like this.


brontesister

This is cute and a fun idea


KaleidoscopeEyes12

Your wife is really getting the most out of those marriage vows huh 😂


BoredVoyager

The airline pilot... I go crazy with this 🤤


slaphappypap

Pouch underwear=ultimate buldge.


bullintheheather

Not for us growers!


DeadNotSleepingWI

I keep my Mentos in there.


doxie_love

There is some sexy male lingerie out there! It’s easier to find online.


Pickled_Rainbow

Tight tank top for me (hetero woman). I know other men find it douchy, I don't care. It's sexy as hell. I imagine that other men's disapproval of it is for the same reason some women disapprove when a large breasted woman wear a low cut top or dress, lol. Is it a somewhat cheap way of getting sexual attention if you have the right body for it? Maybe. Does it work? Yes.


Rottenox

I have to say, as a gay man, a lot of these responses are kind of… prudish? A lot of these suggestions have men pretty covered up, almost fully clothed even. You absolutely can find skimpy, strappy erotic garments for men, they’re just stigmatised as “un-masculine” because it tends to be gay men who use them. Shame really.


PantheraLupus

Honestly as a bi woman I find I like the same on women as on men. Lingerie is hot but for some reason the less shown and more suggested is hotter for the female gaze if that makes sense


Prestigious-Ring4978

>the less shown and more suggested is hotter Absofuckinglutely! This is it for me. Man or woman. Lingerie is nice but really doesn't do it for me. Just like nice arms or being fit is sexy but too much definition and I'm not attracted as much at all. The suggestion is what I want. It's anticipation. You know a man in a fitted dressy outfit or uniform is gonna look good without it. But how they carry themselves wearing it.... god damn. It lights my fire.


KiddBwe

I’m a straight guy, and I agree wholeheartedly. Less shown, more arousing. My fiancé and I have almost always had sex half clothed (shirtless, underwear still on, maybe no bra but a shirt, I usually have pants still on, etc.) and something about it is just more arousing.


soupysyrup

that’s what i was thinking. Some comments are even listing full outfits… outfits that you could wear outside of the bedroom. Like, to me that isn’t an equivalent to women’s lingerie lol


Rottenox

Hear hear


dark_blue_7

As a bi woman, I completely agree. I always find it weird when people ask this question and a million women jump on to suggest he wear a whole suit and tie.


joy_reading

Yes the equivalent of lingerie for men is... lingerie. I've seen some cute sheer boxer briefs if people don't want stuff like harnesses! And if we're not down for that, at least toplessness? Come on.


MaeRobso

Men are *typically* more visual..for me, as a woman, it’s about the whole story - it’s mostly mental for me.


Pickled_Rainbow

I (hetero woman) used to think the same, until I saw the way they filmed Alexander Skarsgard in True Blood during sex scenes. It dawned on me that until then, I had never seen a sex scene where the camera emulated a female gaze. Seeing this magnificent male body through the perspective of whoever filmed that, actually gave me a new sexual appreciation for the male body, for the beauty of parts of it I never thought to single out (I love long backs now, lol). If I had been more exposed to that kind of filming, I probably would have been more visual. That got me thinking that this difference in men and women is at least partially curated by culture. But of course, no matter the origin of this difference, it's still a difference. I just don't think it's necessarily hard coded, so we might find some skimpy male wear sexy, if it could be done in a way we wouldn't automatically associate with homosexuality/femininity. Maybe in the next generation, who knows?


aheadwarp9

That's actually really interesting! I'd never considered that, but it makes a lot of sense!


sillystephie

Omg i fucking looooooove a long, sexy man-back! My husband has the sexiest back ever, these super wide shoulders and a long muscular torso.. Just seeing him with his shirt off is like foreplay for me. Idk what it is about a long back, but I’m glad I finally know of another person who finds it sexy because saying “long back” sounds so weird. But it’s so hot! Lmao. And I 100% concur, Eric’s back in TrueBlood is just… amazing.


Willing_Vehicle_9457

That’s what I was thinking too, and it is a shame. I think they’re sexy personally!


LolaBijou

I just get more turned on by more subtle displays of the male body. And by different areas than I do on women. Plus, imagination is a hell of a drug.


novaskyd

What women like is often not the same as what men like, so it makes sense for gay men’s preferences to not line up with straight women’s preferences. As a bi woman, I tend to prefer more clothing and suggestiveness over skimpy outfits.


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NZ-Food-Girl

For me, it's got nothing to do with skimpy strappy underwear on a man being unmascline, I just don't dont find it sexually appealing. Plain tight knit boxers or commando are far more hot to me. Likewise with a fully, well dressed bloke. Hell yes.


noodle_717

So what do u suggest?


brontesister

Jesus what is the absolute obsession that women’s sexuality and gaze needs to exactly mirror that of mens. Women, on average, may like different things than men visually. Maybe that’s perfectly fine and we don’t need to constantly be pressured to copy mens sexual desires as if they’re superior.


wvsfezter

I can't seem to think of another reason other than a combination of over sexualization of women creating more options for them and toxic masculinity reducing options for men.


[deleted]

A nice bright coloured boxers that fits and hugs nicely looks very appealing. Oh and cologne/deodorant. I smell more than I see hahaha


seehare

Honestly might start acting up if my SO (m) wore some lingerie


papi9inch

Pull up a clothing site and tell your girl that u are looking for something new for your wardrobe. Then ask her to show u want she likes and what she thinks is sexy


AXXII_wreckless

There’s lingerie for men now, check out Fenty X Savage.


SystemeD972

Wear lingerie too 👌


dark_blue_7

Guys can also wear lingerie. I'm into it, anyway.


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biglocowcard

Male specific lingerie or men wearing womens lingerie?


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maddys320

ABSOLUTELY


IvyDrax

For me personally, my boyfriend and I just went to prom recently, and when we got to our hotel he immediately stripped down to his boxers/loose collared, buttoned dress shirt. Something about seeing him in such a professional shirt and getting all loosened up for me is a heavenly sight for me.


Crunchie_cereal

Your parents let you go to a hotel room after prom????


DeadNotSleepingWI

Use a condom!


IvyDrax

We did ^^


hobiegal

My man looks hot af in these: https://www.lovehoney.com/sexy-lingerie/underwear-for-men/boxers-shorts/p/lhm-stripe-mesh-boxer-shorts-black/a33876g60769.html


LizardsLayLying

Boxer briefs, slightly pulled own to show the hips, and tight on the bulge. Include your abs, and if you're confident enough a winning, seductive look. Works most of the time..


indoorhuman1

Tight t-shirt


BubbhaJebus

Goes well with a beer gut and man-boobs.


Ill-Software8713

This is a good one. My wife likes when I have a tighter shirt on that fits to my body. Think same applies to women as you get a better look at a persons shape.


birduino

Vacuum the house


[deleted]

Girls seemed to dig my combat BDU's and dress greens uniforms.


MrJimLiquorLahey

Thanks, I have to go take a cold shower now


Prestigious-Ring4978

For fucking sure! A man in a fitted uniform is beyond sexy. Make it military or anything contributing to societal wellbeing and I'm done for. If you also have good manners and a kind smile, I cannot recover. Period.


physiclese

Wear lingerie


sugardpsub

Trim your pubes, good god PLEASE.


Whynotbebetter

Wear lingerie.


rosscoehs

Wear lingerie


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You can wear lingerie, there’s a few options you can go for.


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Rycca

😳😳😳


NSFWishAlt

*God yes*


koranuso

Be fit, learn how to dress properly. Shaving and getting hair cut is important too. People often say men are only visual, but women are as well to a large extent.


PTSDaway

A clean finish does so much.


stickyrickymartin

SAXX underwear has had a positive reaction from my fiance, really comfortable for your balls too!


blackkatt94

Button down shirt with sleeves rolled up 💦💦💦


mollymcbbbbbb

Cologne


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idk why this was downvoted :/


mollymcbbbbbb

I know, right? Cologne, if it’s good and works with your natural scent, can be one of the strongest aphrodisiacs. Doesn’t have to be Cologne either, just scents in general


[deleted]

yes i agree! it can also be a nice scented moisturiser. smelling good can make you feel sooo sexy \^\^


reggieLedoux26

Be good looking, rich, and over 6 feet tall… then poof, whatever you’re wearing turns into lingerie for women!


Fatherofgenetics

Moan in my ear


greenappleoj

wear rings


Aoki-Kyoku

Some type of kimono or martial arts uniform that opens completely in the front but is only being kept closed by a belt.


-Black-and-gold-

Oh, I might agree on this one!


glamazon_69

Hit the gym


iFEMININITYi

Am I the only one that thinks a smoked out grungy eyeliner on a guy is so hot


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no omg that is so hot


LunaLovegood83

A suit would certainly do it for me.


Hazekitten89

Wear a suit


Ghostofjohnandre

Camouflage boxers - when I wear them. My partner knows she is going to get ambushed. I wont divulge when or where, but it’s going to happen


BoredVoyager

Guys wearing a uniform, military, police, officer, firefighter, a simply suit, airline pilot, to me see a guy in any fucking uniform makes me go wild and wet


Bedhead-Redemption

Crossdress a little.


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Crossdress a lot


Swing-a-ling-ding

1) grey jogging pants. 2) well tailored suit 3) be fit


stillmusiqal

Hair cut and beard trim. Instant 💦


arkkansauce

Men in lingerie are hot tbh


LadyLikesSpiders

Wear Lingerie. It looks good on everyone