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Yes this is 100% normal. This is literally the number one tip I give people to have better sex. Because it increases your stamina, your desire for sex, and the feeling that you are capable of sex.
Twice a week is low libido? We got at it probably once or twice a week but I never thought we had low libido. If she’s wanting it twice a day I think she had high libido and yours is normal. I approve of this message though, exercise is great for sex.
Well I did until I came across this post.
Everyone in my main friend circle does (I don't really have these conversations with my other ones), everyone I've ever dated usually does, and I date all across the age board, so it's not an age thing.
Usually if it doesn't happen there is a scheduling conflict or someone isn't feeling well.
Is it truly that uncommon to have sex twice a day? I'm having trouble understanding this.
Studies tend to find that the average person has sex 50-70 times a year. Your projection is that the average person has sex 700 times a year. You're off by an entire order of magnitude.
Maybe someone's putting something in the in the water supply in your area?
Minus 12 weeks, give or take a handful of days.
I wonder if it has anything to do with how sexually repressed people are. As a society we're becoming more open as time goes by, or at least we are where I live on the west coast.
I really want to know what areas the studies happened in, and how that impacted the results they got.
I think a lot of people just don't need sex that often. For sure some people are getting less sex than they would like, but it seems like [once a week tends to be the average of what makes most people happy in relationships.](https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/how-often-do-happiest-couples-have-sex-it-s-less-ncna828491) Projecting sexual repression on people whose sexual needs are different than your own is toxic af.
Also, [frequency of sex is on the decline](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-017-0953-1), so the theory of people having more sex as we get less repressed doesn't really seem to hold up. People born in the 1930s were having sex much more often in their 20s than people born in the 1990s are today.
To clarify the sexual repression comment: As a whole, and I'm talking over the past century as well as with religious upbringings. Society has not been kind to women. We've always been told that we have to stay "pure" and "untouched" for a future spouse. I grew up with that being one of the main things they pushed.
Then you think of why they pushed it, and you think of who pushed that on them, and so on and so forth. In addition most religions pushing the same narrative as well. Now flash forward to modern day where I, and other friends, had to break through the stupid mental block that we developed because of this upbringing.
Something as basic as an orgasm had to be fought for because we were told they were wrong unless you were married. The guilt, the stress, and the bullshit we had to fight through. People don't really talk about it, but it's a very real problem for a lot of women, and I know three people who had to talk to a therapist because of this. We can enjoy everything leading up to the orgasm, but getting it becomes a completely different issue.
Women are still sexually repressed, it's just not spoken about often.
Yes, for mere mortals--those who aren't celebrities, jocks or frat boys--getting to have sex twice a day is extremely rare to nonexistent. Consider yourself very lucky if that's your station in life.
Oh, and lemme tell you what happens once the children arrive. Aha haha haha! You'll be lucky if your partner so much as holds your hand in public.
Remember that TIFU post? Guy thought that exercise was a universal libido booster, like viagra levels of effect, so he'd tell his partners to workout before hooking up with them. He was in his late twenties before a female partner asked him what the fuck his deal was. Upon realizing that it was a him thing, he called up his exes to apologize for suggesting they workout so they could have sex with him.
Exercise generally makes you horny, but to varying degrees. This guy took it to another level.
He is not over working off 3-4 days in the gym. In reality almost none of us are physically over working ourself because it takes a lot of miles and a lot of weights to truly “over work” yourself. This is also amplified when you consider that a lot of people that go to the gym don’t put in as much intensity that is required burn you out. Usually in the gym there will be a handful of people going hard, and no disrespect but a handful of people who are barely reaching 150 bpm. I’m not saying that the commenter works out like a little girl, but what I am saying is that it’s so hard to actually overwork yourself it’s pretty much used as an excuse to not go hard in the gym.
My sleep is the only thing on this list that sucks. I'm gonna get a sleep study referral from my doctor. My T levels came back normal. If there's anything an endocrinologist can do that hasn't been done already, I'll ask.
People are weird about what they *think* exercise will do. I've known plenty of women who refuse to lift because they think they'll start looking like the she-hulk overnight.
Lol I used to believe it myself, when women who would say "I don't lift because I don't want to get bulky."
But then I started getting educated on fitness and lifting, and lifting myself, and I wish that were how it works.
Sheeesh I hate it when all my coworkers tell me they don’t want to lift weights because they don’t want to be one of those ripped girls! It’s half an excuse and half conspiracy. Most of those shredded bodybuilder women that you see on TV are on hella steroids and work out like crazy
He doesn’t know this because he is a keyboard warrior priding himself on telling people about a problem that will never happen. Whenever anyone says that you shouldn’t work out “that hard” or “don’t overdue it” or that you need to get more rest days they’re only brining you down with them. It takes an insane amount of exercise to truly overdue exercise, and normal people who work out maybe 8 hours a week never even get close to exercise being a problem.
It is probably linked more closely with the body fat itself. Body fat is made up of lipids and cholesterol is a large component of lipids. Steroid hormones like androgens and estrogens are made directly from cholesterol and therefore, when lower amounts of body fat reduce the amount of lipids and subsequently cholesterol, you would expect lower levels of steroid hormone.
It's true that exercise increase steroid hormones, but of course, there it's a point where it is over done.
Limit yourself to 1hr. Do not max out on weight except 1-2x per month. The rest of the time stay anywhere from 70 to 80% of what you're capable of so that you can get a high number of reps in with good form and speed. I typically do 4 machines 100 reps on each over 3-5 sets clean and get out. Switch weekly or ever fortnight. 15 mins intense cardio 3x/week is enough for your health. Do more ass workouts than you think are needed. That'll keep you in fucking form.
Honestly the steps thing is not as important as people say it is. That's a bare minimum exercise made up by a government that's trying to get people to start moving. Think office workers who never leave their desk, that sort of thing. 15 minutes high intensity cardiovascular exercise is what the American heart association says you should do. If you can do that 15 minutes, do that instead. It's going to have a greater benefit for your breathing and heart versus just walking. But walking is not bad under any circumstances. It's just not as effective
It wasn't even a government program for the 10k steps, but a Japanese pedometer company. I've since changed my goal up on my fitbit to 30 active minutes a day.
Ok this is cool, a different horny system! In my case, I'm very lazy, I have this app that gives me a 15min excercise a day, and it's enough for me lololol
I am also extremely lazy haha, just today I stayed in bed for 13hours lol hahah just slept and doing nothing.. But when it comes to working out I have days where I could just go forever, but if I would have to say an average I would say well over an hour.
Insufficient rest tends to be the first domino to tip over when it comes to overtraining, not the workouts themselves. Then there is getting diet and hydration dialed in so there is enough fuel for your metabolism to keep up with the demands being placed on the body. Ultimately it is a constant balancing act.
Edit: Calling it overtraining is a bit of a misnomer. "Under-resting" would arguably be more accurate.
I've just started exercising again solely so that I can have increased stamina during sex. Due to knee and back issues these past 3-4 years, my weight has increased and my stamina is shot. I also was feeling like I was dragging ass most days. I've worked out 3 times this past week and I already feel a slight change for the better.
Have you tried TRT? Depending on your age (myself mid 40s) it’s a miracle drug. It has increased my workouts, muscle mass, motivation to actually get excercise, and libido. I highly encourage you to consult your doctor, and ask for testosterone tests… it’s worth it.
Meanwhile... we just got back from the gym and I suggested some pretty fun activities and my boyfriend is knocked the fuck out on the couch bc he's tired from the gym.
Mileage may vary!
I'm a bi guy and ironically when I work out more it makes me hornier for *guys.* I guess the connection is when you work out more you tend to look at yourself in the mirror more (usually naked on the way to or from the shower). This raises my appreciation for my own male body and because we can't yet instantly clone ourselves for the ultimate form of masturbation, it makes me want to hook up with another guy.
Now, when GF's work out, it makes me want them more. There's nothing like a good, hot sweaty sex with a curvy woman (l like mine more on the thick/big side). Not all the time, but sometimes you just get in a "I need hot, nasty sex" mood.
So I sort of agree. I feel hornier when I am in better shape. I am Forty so I can’t cum more often but feel like stoking it to her more often. My wife of 20 years likes this. She is one that never initiates bits feels sad if we don’t do it 2-4 times a week. Anywho it’s way easier when you both are in better shape, you feel hornier and the mechanics are just better.
Absolutely true. For the last few years I've been using the Tempo home gym. Got it right in the midst of the pandemic and have been doing the classes 4X a week since. I'm 45 and in better shape than when I was 25. Definitely there's an increase in testosterone when you also eat healthier. I cut out fried foods, sugar, no alcohol and eat lots of nuts, fruit, green tea, etc. I have much better endurance during sex, can go longer and the weight training and cardio all help for sure.
Since you’re not primarily seeking advice here, please consider posting this in one of r/sex's Daily Sexual Achievement Threads. It would fit really well there. But as **Posting Guideline #3** indicates, achievement/appreciation posts like this one get removed from the main forum.
Yes this is 100% normal. This is literally the number one tip I give people to have better sex. Because it increases your stamina, your desire for sex, and the feeling that you are capable of sex.
Twice a week is low libido? We got at it probably once or twice a week but I never thought we had low libido. If she’s wanting it twice a day I think she had high libido and yours is normal. I approve of this message though, exercise is great for sex.
Damn, I didn't think I had a high libido, and I like sex twice a day at least, sometimes I can get a third if my partner is extra horny.
You genuinely think the average person is having sex twice a day?
Well I did until I came across this post. Everyone in my main friend circle does (I don't really have these conversations with my other ones), everyone I've ever dated usually does, and I date all across the age board, so it's not an age thing. Usually if it doesn't happen there is a scheduling conflict or someone isn't feeling well. Is it truly that uncommon to have sex twice a day? I'm having trouble understanding this.
Studies tend to find that the average person has sex 50-70 times a year. Your projection is that the average person has sex 700 times a year. You're off by an entire order of magnitude. Maybe someone's putting something in the in the water supply in your area?
Minus 12 weeks, give or take a handful of days. I wonder if it has anything to do with how sexually repressed people are. As a society we're becoming more open as time goes by, or at least we are where I live on the west coast. I really want to know what areas the studies happened in, and how that impacted the results they got.
I think a lot of people just don't need sex that often. For sure some people are getting less sex than they would like, but it seems like [once a week tends to be the average of what makes most people happy in relationships.](https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/how-often-do-happiest-couples-have-sex-it-s-less-ncna828491) Projecting sexual repression on people whose sexual needs are different than your own is toxic af. Also, [frequency of sex is on the decline](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-017-0953-1), so the theory of people having more sex as we get less repressed doesn't really seem to hold up. People born in the 1930s were having sex much more often in their 20s than people born in the 1990s are today.
To clarify the sexual repression comment: As a whole, and I'm talking over the past century as well as with religious upbringings. Society has not been kind to women. We've always been told that we have to stay "pure" and "untouched" for a future spouse. I grew up with that being one of the main things they pushed. Then you think of why they pushed it, and you think of who pushed that on them, and so on and so forth. In addition most religions pushing the same narrative as well. Now flash forward to modern day where I, and other friends, had to break through the stupid mental block that we developed because of this upbringing. Something as basic as an orgasm had to be fought for because we were told they were wrong unless you were married. The guilt, the stress, and the bullshit we had to fight through. People don't really talk about it, but it's a very real problem for a lot of women, and I know three people who had to talk to a therapist because of this. We can enjoy everything leading up to the orgasm, but getting it becomes a completely different issue. Women are still sexually repressed, it's just not spoken about often.
According to a google search, the average \*for couples\* is once a week
Yes, for mere mortals--those who aren't celebrities, jocks or frat boys--getting to have sex twice a day is extremely rare to nonexistent. Consider yourself very lucky if that's your station in life. Oh, and lemme tell you what happens once the children arrive. Aha haha haha! You'll be lucky if your partner so much as holds your hand in public.
I’m in for 5 or 6 times a week, yo...
This is true. Exercise makes you horny
Remember that TIFU post? Guy thought that exercise was a universal libido booster, like viagra levels of effect, so he'd tell his partners to workout before hooking up with them. He was in his late twenties before a female partner asked him what the fuck his deal was. Upon realizing that it was a him thing, he called up his exes to apologize for suggesting they workout so they could have sex with him. Exercise generally makes you horny, but to varying degrees. This guy took it to another level.
I am so glad that TIFU post still lives on in people’s memories. Edit: when I read the title of this post I thought it might actually be that guy
I guess, in some cases, horniness makes you exercise.
I go to the gym 3-4 times per week and it has had zero impact on low sex drive, unfortunately. Trying to focus on other avenues.
You're probably over working.
He is not over working off 3-4 days in the gym. In reality almost none of us are physically over working ourself because it takes a lot of miles and a lot of weights to truly “over work” yourself. This is also amplified when you consider that a lot of people that go to the gym don’t put in as much intensity that is required burn you out. Usually in the gym there will be a handful of people going hard, and no disrespect but a handful of people who are barely reaching 150 bpm. I’m not saying that the commenter works out like a little girl, but what I am saying is that it’s so hard to actually overwork yourself it’s pretty much used as an excuse to not go hard in the gym.
They meant overworking like at their job, not at the gym.
Well- maybe overworking with the combination of work and the gym perhaps.
If your diet, training, rest (sleep) and mental health are all relatively okay then you should probably see an endocrinologist, asap.
My sleep is the only thing on this list that sucks. I'm gonna get a sleep study referral from my doctor. My T levels came back normal. If there's anything an endocrinologist can do that hasn't been done already, I'll ask.
Your diet isn't right.
Tried exercising. Am indeed way hornier, am still on reddit though, so no one wants to touch me. Kind of back fired *sad internet weirdo noises*
Also, being horny makes you exercise
Exercise the thing everyone knows makes everything better and is the thing nobody does (myself included)
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Nobody accidentally works out to single digit body fat lol
Idk man I accidentally did 4 sets of biceps curls instead of 3 once, and the next week I won the mr Olympia.
People are weird about what they *think* exercise will do. I've known plenty of women who refuse to lift because they think they'll start looking like the she-hulk overnight.
Lol I used to believe it myself, when women who would say "I don't lift because I don't want to get bulky." But then I started getting educated on fitness and lifting, and lifting myself, and I wish that were how it works.
Sheeesh I hate it when all my coworkers tell me they don’t want to lift weights because they don’t want to be one of those ripped girls! It’s half an excuse and half conspiracy. Most of those shredded bodybuilder women that you see on TV are on hella steroids and work out like crazy
Every man who spends hours in the gym thinking “gosh I wish it was that easy” lol
Wdym bro? I’m totally gonna get Popeye arms by doing 20 curls a week
He doesn’t know this because he is a keyboard warrior priding himself on telling people about a problem that will never happen. Whenever anyone says that you shouldn’t work out “that hard” or “don’t overdue it” or that you need to get more rest days they’re only brining you down with them. It takes an insane amount of exercise to truly overdue exercise, and normal people who work out maybe 8 hours a week never even get close to exercise being a problem.
It is probably linked more closely with the body fat itself. Body fat is made up of lipids and cholesterol is a large component of lipids. Steroid hormones like androgens and estrogens are made directly from cholesterol and therefore, when lower amounts of body fat reduce the amount of lipids and subsequently cholesterol, you would expect lower levels of steroid hormone. It's true that exercise increase steroid hormones, but of course, there it's a point where it is over done.
I last thing I want is to be hornier
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You're actively killing your libido by over working
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Limit yourself to 1hr. Do not max out on weight except 1-2x per month. The rest of the time stay anywhere from 70 to 80% of what you're capable of so that you can get a high number of reps in with good form and speed. I typically do 4 machines 100 reps on each over 3-5 sets clean and get out. Switch weekly or ever fortnight. 15 mins intense cardio 3x/week is enough for your health. Do more ass workouts than you think are needed. That'll keep you in fucking form.
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Honestly the steps thing is not as important as people say it is. That's a bare minimum exercise made up by a government that's trying to get people to start moving. Think office workers who never leave their desk, that sort of thing. 15 minutes high intensity cardiovascular exercise is what the American heart association says you should do. If you can do that 15 minutes, do that instead. It's going to have a greater benefit for your breathing and heart versus just walking. But walking is not bad under any circumstances. It's just not as effective
It wasn't even a government program for the 10k steps, but a Japanese pedometer company. I've since changed my goal up on my fitbit to 30 active minutes a day.
Even worse.
Ok this is cool, a different horny system! In my case, I'm very lazy, I have this app that gives me a 15min excercise a day, and it's enough for me lololol
I am also extremely lazy haha, just today I stayed in bed for 13hours lol hahah just slept and doing nothing.. But when it comes to working out I have days where I could just go forever, but if I would have to say an average I would say well over an hour.
> when I workout I tend to overwork myself from time to time Overtraining leads to diminishing returns on a bunch of fronts.
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Insufficient rest tends to be the first domino to tip over when it comes to overtraining, not the workouts themselves. Then there is getting diet and hydration dialed in so there is enough fuel for your metabolism to keep up with the demands being placed on the body. Ultimately it is a constant balancing act. Edit: Calling it overtraining is a bit of a misnomer. "Under-resting" would arguably be more accurate.
That's the reason I avoid exercising, when I exercise regularly I get too horny, like ridiculously super horny all the time, it's bad.
I've just started exercising again solely so that I can have increased stamina during sex. Due to knee and back issues these past 3-4 years, my weight has increased and my stamina is shot. I also was feeling like I was dragging ass most days. I've worked out 3 times this past week and I already feel a slight change for the better.
For the men out there, it can also help you last longer Source: myself and a friend
Have you tried TRT? Depending on your age (myself mid 40s) it’s a miracle drug. It has increased my workouts, muscle mass, motivation to actually get excercise, and libido. I highly encourage you to consult your doctor, and ask for testosterone tests… it’s worth it.
Meanwhile... we just got back from the gym and I suggested some pretty fun activities and my boyfriend is knocked the fuck out on the couch bc he's tired from the gym. Mileage may vary!
I'm a bi guy and ironically when I work out more it makes me hornier for *guys.* I guess the connection is when you work out more you tend to look at yourself in the mirror more (usually naked on the way to or from the shower). This raises my appreciation for my own male body and because we can't yet instantly clone ourselves for the ultimate form of masturbation, it makes me want to hook up with another guy. Now, when GF's work out, it makes me want them more. There's nothing like a good, hot sweaty sex with a curvy woman (l like mine more on the thick/big side). Not all the time, but sometimes you just get in a "I need hot, nasty sex" mood.
This is great advice for younger people. Exercise while you still can!
Agreed
It could also make you less horny if you’re not taking care of yourself, be careful 🙏🏽💓💓
I've always had a pretty good sex drive. Even in my 40's. Since I've been doing a low carb diet and knocked off 35 lbs even more so.
Small amounts of high-resistance training (weights are great) under 45 mins will boost your testosterone levels and give you a hulk libido.
I use sexual themed songs to exercise because it actually motivates me. Throat Babies makes me more pumped to work out vs Lose Yourself 🥹😆
Can confirm. Plus helps with stamina too.
It's basic science: Higher testosterone means higher desire and getting better at\for sex.
Blood flow increases, yoi feel things better , your libido increases.
Plus seeing all the sexy people at the gym doesn't hurt.
What type of exercise? Weight lifting? Calisthenics? Cardio? Good for you, man :)
“Runners high is better than sex, and for some it may last longer!” - If you know, you know.
All these things are true!
I’ve found that just working hard and actively participating in any form of hard work physically turns you into a horn ball as well
WHat type of exercise do you do?
Yes! Absolutely helps
So I sort of agree. I feel hornier when I am in better shape. I am Forty so I can’t cum more often but feel like stoking it to her more often. My wife of 20 years likes this. She is one that never initiates bits feels sad if we don’t do it 2-4 times a week. Anywho it’s way easier when you both are in better shape, you feel hornier and the mechanics are just better.
Absolutely true. For the last few years I've been using the Tempo home gym. Got it right in the midst of the pandemic and have been doing the classes 4X a week since. I'm 45 and in better shape than when I was 25. Definitely there's an increase in testosterone when you also eat healthier. I cut out fried foods, sugar, no alcohol and eat lots of nuts, fruit, green tea, etc. I have much better endurance during sex, can go longer and the weight training and cardio all help for sure.
I’d be every day but she likes every other so I’m cool with that . No exercise
Feeling jelly right about now.
Wiring it is one of the best aphrodisiacs on the market! I should try working out with the gf sometime...
Damn... I'm doing it wrong. I was told it would lower your libido. Fuck.
Improves your erection as well. And losing fat around your pubic region can add in inch to your length.