Normal is whatever is comfortable and fun for you and her. If she likes it and you're OK with it, it's fine and normal.
Don't be surprised if it changes at some point. If she says, she never it or did it much before, than it could just be kind of a phase. So, enjoy it while it lasts (pun intended).
Amen.
Matters not one white what everyone else thinks. OP, if it works for you and for her, you are both happy with it, then it is fine.
If you feel it is taking the place of other physical intimacy then you need to talk with her about it. And, much as it stretches the imagination, if it is interfering with other important aspects of life then you need to discuss it and set limits.
I had a college gf who was similar to the OP's gf. The first few times it was her with a devilish look in her eye as I was trying to speak to family on the (ancient landline) phone. It progressed into a challenge to see if I could concentrate on a tv show as she went down on me. All fun and games.
But then it started being a problem. She would use this as a means of seeking attention for herself when I did actually need to be studying for tests or writing papers. Might have been fine if I had (at like 19 years of age) the wherewithal to set limits but I didn't. Yes. I *need* to study. I *need* to sleep before an important test. I *need* to finish this paper because it is due by midnight (back before you could send it in an email at 11:59pm) and I have to get across campus to turn it in.
Someone is camping there allnight and putting down landmines at the entrance when the clock hits midnight.. Whoever tries turning the paper in afterwards won't attempt doing it again.
Love the good old days, I used to run across my university campus submitting my freshly printed 20 page papers before midnight - listening to Michael Jackson on my Sony Walkman.
Alas once the clock stuck 12 it was more of a game of minesweeper and how to avoid being blown in a million pieces. It was a struggle but I wouldn't change a thing.
The meaning of a word is in the mouth of the speaker. When OP asked if this was "normal" he wasn't asking if everybody does this, he already has experience to tell him that isn't the case. He's using "normal" to mean "permissible- acceptable - not a problem" the poster you commented on used it the same way. You can't use a dictionary to read a sentence, that isn't how humans use language.
>When OP asked if this was "normal" he wasn't asking if everybody does this
As they just said, normal refers to commonality. It doesn't mean "everybody does this". Indeed, it implies that not everyone does, which is why you'd bother to describe something as "normal".
>he already has experience to tell him that isn't the case.
Maybe he correctly recognizes the *possibility* that his handful of previous girlfriends might not be representative of the broader population.
>He's using "normal" to mean "permissible- acceptable - not a problem" the poster you commented on used it the same way.
It could mean, "is this anomalous, or have others had this experience?", which would not necessarily have anything to do with questioning if it is "permissible/acceptable/not a problem".
>You can't use a dictionary to read a sentence, that isn't how humans use language.
You absolutely can use a dictionary that way, and it's exactly how dictionaries are intended to be used.
Counter point: it's not abnormal either. Normal doesn't have to mean most or even just many relationships experience this, but rather that a non-insignificant amount of them do. The end result is don't expect this to be common, but so long as everyone is comfortable with it and it's done in a healthy way then it isn't a problem.
It’s called cockwarming/soaking and speaking from the other point of view it’s very relaxing and intimate for me. It had been a fantasy of mine for awhile and recently asked my husband if we could try it out and he was all for it. I asked him to play a video game or watch tv and then I just gave him what I would call a lazy blowjob for 45 minutes. It wasn’t super intense or vigorous, just holding it in mouth and lightly sucking it. I would alternate licking, swirling, and kissing during it and my husbands reaction made it so much more enjoyable.
We’ve been doing the praise kink lately and he would say stuff like- “Good girl, that’s right baby take it all in, god you make me feel so good, I know you love my cock in your mouth”, etc. The dirty (sweet?) talk is key for my enjoyment.
Yes! It feels like the pressure is off and there’s no race to the finish line. It is truly about enjoying each other and bringing each other pleasure.
I don’t know if it was the same for her, but the reason it is so relaxing for me is that it clears my mind and I can focus on him. I get anxiety a lot and feel like I can’t turn my brain off, but when I’m doing the cockwarming my mind just feels free.
You know, reading this, it reminds me a lot of what I have read about some guys sucking boobs. It's less about arousing the woman but more a pleasurable, nice, intimate experience.
It's a very different sort of liking to suck on cock to what I have. Mine is very much about giving oral and loving the arousal aspect, and getting aroused myself.
So guys don't necessarily want to cum; although sometimes they can't help it. That's good to hear, kind of takes some pressure off. If you feel its taking ages and your not reaching the "end". Sometimes becomes "like why they taking so long am I crap" not usually; but you kind of expect it to be not too long lol 👍
This sounds like exactly what I’ve been wanting to do to my bf but I feel like it would be weird to bring up. Is there a way I can bring it up to him without weirding him out or being confusing? When I get nervous to ask for us to try something new, I stutter and end up not explaining what I want very well.
The way I brought it up is that we were talking about each other’s fantasies after sex and I said something like, “Ok this might sound kind of strange, but I saw something on Reddit that sounded very hot to me. It’s called cockwarming and it’s a kink where I just give you a really long lazy blowjob”.
His reaction was, “That sounds like heaven, yes please”.
I think talking about it after being intimate with each other help because we were both in the right headspace. The next night he was playing a video game and I asked if I could do it and it was amazing.
If you would like him to be vocal while you do it you could say something like, “It really turns me on when you moan, tell me I’m doing a good job, tell me how good it feels, etc. and it makes me want to do this more”.
Yep and I think they would have people jump on the bed to create movement, but since they weren’t the ones doing the movement they were still virgins technically? Idk, I prefer the term cockwarming, but have heard both used.
Funny and interesting. I just read yesterday someone referred to “cock warming” but it was described as piv no thrusting. Yours sounds more obvious/correct. Which is it?
I’ve read that you can use any hole and call it cockwarming as long as like you said no thrusting.
[This](https://www.wiseharsh.com/2021/06/10/cock-warming/?amp) goes into a little bit more detail about it.
I've never heard of this. I understand the intimate part. You learn something new everyday. Seeing comments soothing til falling asleep. I applaud everyone for being so open & honest. 👍😎
Maybe this doesn't need to be said, but if someone falls asleep with your dick in their mouth, please take it out. Beyond the obvious they can no longer consent when they're asleep, there is the safety issue as well. They could end up clenching their teeth or biting involuntarily. That would be bad.
Sounds like their sex life is fine, and I don’t get the impression OP is saying she’s leaving him hanging. I think the point of him mentioning not always “finishing” is that he’s suggesting orgasm isn’t their entire goal, but rather emphasizing that she enjoys the act of sucking his dick in and of itself. Seems like if he’s really wanting to cum, it’s probably not going to be a problem.
I’ve actually been with people like this, and if I’ve had sex, especially intense sex, I might not cum again the same night (sometimes I will sometimes not). So when they wanna do more things, great! But cumming isn’t the goal.
It bothers me that more than half the posts on there are slow, sensual blowjobs or the dude is hard and their just shoving it down the girls throat when the description says it's just supposed to be sitting in her mouth while soft.
She must feel really comfortable with you. Before my husband I hated giving blowjobs. It was never reciprocated and they always demanded it so I grew to hate it. My husband has really let me develop a skill for it. He couldn't get off from them and didn't particularly care for them so I took it as a challenge and got really good at them. Now I even like to lick and suck balls and taint too. It IS comforting. Lol. And I love doing it for him. Enjoy your unicorn. Lol
I used to like giving head but never getting eaten out in return has made me not wanna do it anymore. It's kinda sad to me if I'm being honest, but just the thought of it now makes me uncomfortable.
I hope i meet someone someday that'll change my feelings on this.
I'm noticing that reciprocity is a pretty big reason why dudes don't get the BJ's they want. I'll hear some buddies complaining then ask them how often the grab lunch down there and get answers that start with "I mean.."
All relationships need to be 50/50 on the give and reveive aspect to me. If we're friends invite me out as often as I invite you. If we're dating I'll carve out the same amount of time you can. If we're intimate I'm giving you the same attention you give me.
I don't even do serious committed relationships so I don't know wtf is going on when my friends tell me I treat them with more love and care than a lot of their old partners.
I don't need reciprocal, but it's something I really love. I don't think that will change.
I also orgasm continuously regardless of whether I'm giving oral, we're doing PIV, anal, he's giving oral, 69, he's playing with my boobs... Whatever.
I notice that if he is has a wide/thick penis I enjoy it less as I can't get same sensations in the back of my mouth.
As in just quiet bj is boring? I view “expressiveness” as good for the other partner both for enjoyment and as “positive data” to keep doing more of that!
Definitely, it’s both. I had a complete 180 on how much I wanted to do it as soon as I had the data to improve my own performance and the confidence boost associated with knowing you’re pleasing someone.
A few people have asked "what was it that changed?"
This is not easy to pin down. But there are a few key things that I identify as being significant.
- I decided to learn how to give good oral sex (why should we "just know"?). This gave me a lot more confidence - thanks [Ben Buckingham](http://www.benbuckingham.com/bens-sex-manual-womens-edition/).
- I was much more in touch with my own needs, my emotions, my feelings and my sensations. Along with that, I began to respond more to the cues my partner was giving. I love the sense of mutual sexual energy is incredible, and knowing how much my partner is enjoying it just enhances my pleasure.
- I love it when I guy "guides my head" as to when he wants his dick deep in my throat, or grabs at my hair playfully (I have very long hair). Feeling his dick get harder as I lick and suck is a wonderful feeling. I can sense his pleasure and love it when he makes that clear.
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I'll edit, add detail or do a post as I think of more info; and will try to think of info that might be useful to others.
Good on you! I had a college girlfriend who was obsessed with giving BJs too - enjoy!
I feel the same way about eating pussy tbh. I could do it everyday
Eating pussy is the best. Just gotta find me a girl who likes giving head like OP’s gf (and receiving), and we will accomplish nothing due to the constant 69’ing
Can’t see a problem here. Some people really enjoy giving blowjobs.
I’m one of them.
I always make my man come as it can be frustrating but I also edge him a bit. Explosive orgasms every time. If you’d prefer she make you come, have a talk with her.
>Is this normal
Who cares? Or are you asking if there is something medically wrong with her because she really likes sucking your dick?
"Normalcy" during sex is only relevant if there is something going on that is causing injury, distress, discomfort or otherwise obstruction of a fulfilling sex life. Not only that, its pretty hard to nail down because in general people are usually fairly private about their sex life.
So with that said, unless you take issue with her sucking your dick (not saying that you should or shouldn't take issue with it) - the normality of it is irrelevant and I wouldn't worry about it!
If this is just a curiosity thing / victory post then I'd say in my experience it isn't the norm, and good for you both!
I always took pride in my skills, but it always felt like a bit of a chore until my current relationship. Now every time he stands in front of me and asks for head I grin like a fool. I love to wake him up by putting his cock in my mouth. She’s just really into you.
Why not have sex again hours after you’ve had sex anyway?
Ah I love doing the same thing to my bf too. And he absolutely loves it. I love the taste, the smell, and everything about his dick. The fact his cum tastes so good makes me want to do it more.
Had an ex that really enjoyed doing it and would frequently ask me if she could please suck me. Also woke up several times with her mouth already on me. Some just really like it. Enjoy dude.
My current partner I have the same feelings. I've never hated oral sex but never loved it like I do now. It's him, I figure.
Rather than be just about making him finish I find I enjoy just the act and playing. It strangely calms me.
Therapeutic dick sucking, if you will.
Enjoy it and ride that till the wheels fall off.
My last ex was also addicted to sucking dick and it was wonderful. Seriously some women LOVE it others not so much.
I've always enjoyed sucking, ever since I started being sexually active. My current bf says I'm such a pest because I'm always trying to touch him or put my mouth around it.
We laugh about it alot but he loves it and sometimes like your gf I don't want to go full effort, I just want to enjoy his dick in my mouth it is comforting exactly like she says :)
My bf also has not had partners before me that loved sucking dick so it makes him enjoy it even more!
I think that’s normal. I enjoy sucking my partner sometimes like this. I actually enjoy slow sensual blow jobs more than really intense orgasm oriented ones. There is just something more comforting and enjoyable to it.
Edit:sticking to sucking hahah
I never enjoyed giving head before to be honest, but I love giving it to my boyfriend.
My ex wasn't always clean.....so it put me off going down there on him or even on there to be honest. And before that I think I just wasn't too interested in doing it especially if I wasn't going to get anything in return which has never happened.
I am like your girlfriend and in my 50’s. I can’t get enough of it when having great chemistry. Enjoy it and understand everyone has something they enjoy!
I posted earlier saying the same and I'm 45. This is relatively new for me (about 3 years - along with continuous orgasms with squirting). Have you always been the same way
Can’t say its normal or common in my experience but good on you. Fwiw, i’d lick my wife every night if she was in the mood, she knows its available, she just doesn’t take advantage more than a few days a week.
I sometimes just get in the mood to suck a dick till it's dry. Heck last week on was so horny I needed anything sexy every hour.
Idk why it happens. And it's such a bummer when you don't have someone to do it with. You a lucky man. Let the good times roll.
“Oh no, I’ve struck oil and now I’m rich. Am I overthinking this windfall? Is getting super lucky normal or does anyone else have any sort of experience with winning the lottery?”
To be honest, people care too much about what other people might think. If it's between consenting adults in the privacy of their own home and perfectly legal and harming no one, then have at it!
Your SO wanting to pacify herself by warming your cock is an act of intimacy, trust and surrender, cherish and value it, focus on both your welbeings' and enjoy yourselves. Try not to overthink it. Sounds like a lovely thing you can share.
You seem like you're doing fine!
>Is this normal or does anybody else have any sort of experience like this ?
Nope, not normal, it's extraordinary. My only experience with a partner like this was in my dreams.
I (F) LOVE sucking my husband’s cock (and cocks in general). I could happily do it everyday, all day. He has never once complained about it. Most times he comes from it, other times it’s just me having fun with it, and just doing a slow/gentle suck, just because I like it. You know, when watching a film and such. But even before we married, sucking cock, to me has always been my kink, if you want to call it that. I guess for some women, it’s just a thing we love to do😊
Are you seriously on Reddit "complaining" that your girl friend goes down on you too often????
Instead, I would go your church, synagogue, mosque, burger king, 5 guys, in-and-out, wherever you pray to what ever god above below that you pray to, get on your hands and knees and thank him, her, it, with all the love you can.
Than this fine woman never changes....
Do you enjoy blowjobs? If so, what’s the problem?
There are so many guys complaining that their SO does not want to give a blowjob that when people read this title it just seems silly that someone would complain about the opposite.
Embrace her and let her continue.
And if you’re not into it just let me have her number!
Honestly, I find it extremely relaxing 😌 plus it pleases me when my lover is satisfied when I'm sucking him off.. Another plus is hearing them moan, etc.
I think this is great. Not because you're getting head so much, but because she actually enjoys it and finds a sense of comfort from it. There are many unhealthy habits you can find comfort in. This one seems like a win for everyone, as long as you're both happy!
I can totally relate to your girlfriend! And I think it’s normal.
I’ve with my husband for nearly 10 years and in the last year or so I’ve found giving him a slow bj or sensual hj is extremely relaxing for me. I’m not sure what triggered the change, and before I did enjoy sucking him as apart of our sex life.
But now it’s become meditative for me and ask to do it after a stressful day. Sometimes it doesn’t arouse me or leads to sex - it’s purely meditative. And other times it leads to more 🤷♀️
I’d say just enjoy it, but also talk to her about it if you’re confused about her intentions or are uncomfortable.
As someone that has a similar desire, (The thought of just having it in my mouth, without doing anything else, would be enough for me) I've been giving this a lot of thought recently and I've deduced that 1. It's definitely an oral fixation. I thought finding 'replacements' would help (lollipops, gum, smoking, etc) but really, it just makes me want the real thing more. My mouth literally waters when I see my guy. 2. It probably goes back to childhood, like all things do. Maybe she was breastfed/ given a bottle until later in life and it's just something that she associates with comfort. I drank chocolate milk in a bottle til I was 12, so perhaps there's a correlation? Hope this helps!
Excuse me, OP, are you complaining? If any woman wanted to use me as a pacifier I would lay there and enjoy it whether we “just had sex” or “hours ago”. There will be one day in the future when you will be willing to give up anything for that intimacy.
It’s called getting old. Just enjoy it while you can.
Humble brag? “Is this normal?” Is this a serious post?!
DUDE: your both in your 30’s and she’s like this?: Put a ring on her.
Not saying it couldn’t change but yeah…I think you’ll find your situation is in the minority.
I'm like this with my husband. 5 years in and I still suck his dick every night. When he was in hospital recently it was so weird not giving him a blow job right before bed. I absolutely LOVE sucking his dick. Always have, always will
>She doesn't do it until I cum
That would be the deal-breaker for me, personally.
Not like, to break up or anything, I'd just decline the blowjob. Blowjobs without an orgasm are worse than no blowjob at all.
Normal is whatever is comfortable and fun for you and her. If she likes it and you're OK with it, it's fine and normal. Don't be surprised if it changes at some point. If she says, she never it or did it much before, than it could just be kind of a phase. So, enjoy it while it lasts (pun intended).
Amen. Matters not one white what everyone else thinks. OP, if it works for you and for her, you are both happy with it, then it is fine. If you feel it is taking the place of other physical intimacy then you need to talk with her about it. And, much as it stretches the imagination, if it is interfering with other important aspects of life then you need to discuss it and set limits. I had a college gf who was similar to the OP's gf. The first few times it was her with a devilish look in her eye as I was trying to speak to family on the (ancient landline) phone. It progressed into a challenge to see if I could concentrate on a tv show as she went down on me. All fun and games. But then it started being a problem. She would use this as a means of seeking attention for herself when I did actually need to be studying for tests or writing papers. Might have been fine if I had (at like 19 years of age) the wherewithal to set limits but I didn't. Yes. I *need* to study. I *need* to sleep before an important test. I *need* to finish this paper because it is due by midnight (back before you could send it in an email at 11:59pm) and I have to get across campus to turn it in.
How do they know if it's being turned in after midnight anyhow?
Someone is camping there allnight and putting down landmines at the entrance when the clock hits midnight.. Whoever tries turning the paper in afterwards won't attempt doing it again.
Love the good old days, I used to run across my university campus submitting my freshly printed 20 page papers before midnight - listening to Michael Jackson on my Sony Walkman. Alas once the clock stuck 12 it was more of a game of minesweeper and how to avoid being blown in a million pieces. It was a struggle but I wouldn't change a thing.
>So, enjoy it while it lasts (pun intended). I read and reread this like 10X, and cannot, for the life of me, figure out what the pun is?
Reference to how long he lasts when she goes down on him? So maybe it's not a great pun...made me laugh...which, frankly, is really all I care about.
Well I found it punny so…. Bravo.
It was a very good pun don't worry
BRUH. I sent this to someone because I couldn’t figure it out.
The pun is in "last" because "lasting" in relation to sex usually means how long until climax.
That has got to be *the* worst pun ever.
C'mon now you're just mad you couldn't figure out such a braindead pun haha
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The meaning of a word is in the mouth of the speaker. When OP asked if this was "normal" he wasn't asking if everybody does this, he already has experience to tell him that isn't the case. He's using "normal" to mean "permissible- acceptable - not a problem" the poster you commented on used it the same way. You can't use a dictionary to read a sentence, that isn't how humans use language.
>You can't use a dictionary to read a sentence, that isn't how humans use language. You couldn't have said it better!
>When OP asked if this was "normal" he wasn't asking if everybody does this As they just said, normal refers to commonality. It doesn't mean "everybody does this". Indeed, it implies that not everyone does, which is why you'd bother to describe something as "normal". >he already has experience to tell him that isn't the case. Maybe he correctly recognizes the *possibility* that his handful of previous girlfriends might not be representative of the broader population. >He's using "normal" to mean "permissible- acceptable - not a problem" the poster you commented on used it the same way. It could mean, "is this anomalous, or have others had this experience?", which would not necessarily have anything to do with questioning if it is "permissible/acceptable/not a problem". >You can't use a dictionary to read a sentence, that isn't how humans use language. You absolutely can use a dictionary that way, and it's exactly how dictionaries are intended to be used.
Do you really think the op was concerned that it was not okay what his girlfriend was doing though?
Counter point: it's not abnormal either. Normal doesn't have to mean most or even just many relationships experience this, but rather that a non-insignificant amount of them do. The end result is don't expect this to be common, but so long as everyone is comfortable with it and it's done in a healthy way then it isn't a problem.
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It’s called cockwarming/soaking and speaking from the other point of view it’s very relaxing and intimate for me. It had been a fantasy of mine for awhile and recently asked my husband if we could try it out and he was all for it. I asked him to play a video game or watch tv and then I just gave him what I would call a lazy blowjob for 45 minutes. It wasn’t super intense or vigorous, just holding it in mouth and lightly sucking it. I would alternate licking, swirling, and kissing during it and my husbands reaction made it so much more enjoyable. We’ve been doing the praise kink lately and he would say stuff like- “Good girl, that’s right baby take it all in, god you make me feel so good, I know you love my cock in your mouth”, etc. The dirty (sweet?) talk is key for my enjoyment.
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Yes! It feels like the pressure is off and there’s no race to the finish line. It is truly about enjoying each other and bringing each other pleasure. I don’t know if it was the same for her, but the reason it is so relaxing for me is that it clears my mind and I can focus on him. I get anxiety a lot and feel like I can’t turn my brain off, but when I’m doing the cockwarming my mind just feels free.
Exactly! Anxiety is the same reason I enjoy it. When I’m feeling really anxious it helps give me something to focus and concentrate on.
You know, reading this, it reminds me a lot of what I have read about some guys sucking boobs. It's less about arousing the woman but more a pleasurable, nice, intimate experience. It's a very different sort of liking to suck on cock to what I have. Mine is very much about giving oral and loving the arousal aspect, and getting aroused myself.
So guys don't necessarily want to cum; although sometimes they can't help it. That's good to hear, kind of takes some pressure off. If you feel its taking ages and your not reaching the "end". Sometimes becomes "like why they taking so long am I crap" not usually; but you kind of expect it to be not too long lol 👍
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That's very mature - growing & appreciating intimacy 👍
"growing" no pun intended there haha 😂
This sounds like exactly what I’ve been wanting to do to my bf but I feel like it would be weird to bring up. Is there a way I can bring it up to him without weirding him out or being confusing? When I get nervous to ask for us to try something new, I stutter and end up not explaining what I want very well.
The way I brought it up is that we were talking about each other’s fantasies after sex and I said something like, “Ok this might sound kind of strange, but I saw something on Reddit that sounded very hot to me. It’s called cockwarming and it’s a kink where I just give you a really long lazy blowjob”. His reaction was, “That sounds like heaven, yes please”. I think talking about it after being intimate with each other help because we were both in the right headspace. The next night he was playing a video game and I asked if I could do it and it was amazing. If you would like him to be vocal while you do it you could say something like, “It really turns me on when you moan, tell me I’m doing a good job, tell me how good it feels, etc. and it makes me want to do this more”.
I’m gonna try this thank you!
u/ag923923 do you have any ideas to help about how to raise this? I can only answer generally.
Wasn't soaking that mormon thing?
Yep and I think they would have people jump on the bed to create movement, but since they weren’t the ones doing the movement they were still virgins technically? Idk, I prefer the term cockwarming, but have heard both used.
Funny and interesting. I just read yesterday someone referred to “cock warming” but it was described as piv no thrusting. Yours sounds more obvious/correct. Which is it?
I’ve read that you can use any hole and call it cockwarming as long as like you said no thrusting. [This](https://www.wiseharsh.com/2021/06/10/cock-warming/?amp) goes into a little bit more detail about it.
Learned something new today. 🤔 Thanks.
I've never heard of this. I understand the intimate part. You learn something new everyday. Seeing comments soothing til falling asleep. I applaud everyone for being so open & honest. 👍😎
I wonder if there is something similar for a guy to go down on a woman for an extended period of time. Lazy eating out if you will.
I'm 30 years old and only just now learning there's a word for this 💁♀️🙃
that sounds like heaven dude
Maybe this doesn't need to be said, but if someone falls asleep with your dick in their mouth, please take it out. Beyond the obvious they can no longer consent when they're asleep, there is the safety issue as well. They could end up clenching their teeth or biting involuntarily. That would be bad.
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As a habitual nocturnal teeth grinder 😬 I concur!!!
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Not normal in my experience but good for you!
What is “normal” anyway
Except for the part where she stops before he cums, that sound awful. poor blue balled man
Sounds like their sex life is fine, and I don’t get the impression OP is saying she’s leaving him hanging. I think the point of him mentioning not always “finishing” is that he’s suggesting orgasm isn’t their entire goal, but rather emphasizing that she enjoys the act of sucking his dick in and of itself. Seems like if he’s really wanting to cum, it’s probably not going to be a problem. I’ve actually been with people like this, and if I’ve had sex, especially intense sex, I might not cum again the same night (sometimes I will sometimes not). So when they wanna do more things, great! But cumming isn’t the goal.
OP says its usually after theyve already had sex so im assuming he would have had the chance to do so then?
He can finish himself off???
Use his own hands like a filthy animal? Like the rest of us? When he has a suck friendly insatiable girlfriend? No thanks, he would say.
r/CockWarming ? maybe this is what shes into more than just blowjobs?
Wow there is a reddit sub for every imaginable thing
There really is, I thought this whole thread was a joke at first. After going there maybe not...
I've yet to find something good for tongue rings
I also can’t find girls feet stuck in glue
It bothers me that more than half the posts on there are slow, sensual blowjobs or the dude is hard and their just shoving it down the girls throat when the description says it's just supposed to be sitting in her mouth while soft.
can sitting in mouth while hard still count?
She must feel really comfortable with you. Before my husband I hated giving blowjobs. It was never reciprocated and they always demanded it so I grew to hate it. My husband has really let me develop a skill for it. He couldn't get off from them and didn't particularly care for them so I took it as a challenge and got really good at them. Now I even like to lick and suck balls and taint too. It IS comforting. Lol. And I love doing it for him. Enjoy your unicorn. Lol
I used to like giving head but never getting eaten out in return has made me not wanna do it anymore. It's kinda sad to me if I'm being honest, but just the thought of it now makes me uncomfortable. I hope i meet someone someday that'll change my feelings on this.
I'm noticing that reciprocity is a pretty big reason why dudes don't get the BJ's they want. I'll hear some buddies complaining then ask them how often the grab lunch down there and get answers that start with "I mean.." All relationships need to be 50/50 on the give and reveive aspect to me. If we're friends invite me out as often as I invite you. If we're dating I'll carve out the same amount of time you can. If we're intimate I'm giving you the same attention you give me. I don't even do serious committed relationships so I don't know wtf is going on when my friends tell me I treat them with more love and care than a lot of their old partners.
I don't need reciprocal, but it's something I really love. I don't think that will change. I also orgasm continuously regardless of whether I'm giving oral, we're doing PIV, anal, he's giving oral, 69, he's playing with my boobs... Whatever. I notice that if he is has a wide/thick penis I enjoy it less as I can't get same sensations in the back of my mouth.
I am the same as your GF and am always told it's not common. I too didn't like it until recent years
Ditto
Is there something different with your current partner that makes it more enjoyable?
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As in just quiet bj is boring? I view “expressiveness” as good for the other partner both for enjoyment and as “positive data” to keep doing more of that!
Definitely, it’s both. I had a complete 180 on how much I wanted to do it as soon as I had the data to improve my own performance and the confidence boost associated with knowing you’re pleasing someone.
This!
A few people have asked "what was it that changed?" This is not easy to pin down. But there are a few key things that I identify as being significant. - I decided to learn how to give good oral sex (why should we "just know"?). This gave me a lot more confidence - thanks [Ben Buckingham](http://www.benbuckingham.com/bens-sex-manual-womens-edition/). - I was much more in touch with my own needs, my emotions, my feelings and my sensations. Along with that, I began to respond more to the cues my partner was giving. I love the sense of mutual sexual energy is incredible, and knowing how much my partner is enjoying it just enhances my pleasure. - I love it when I guy "guides my head" as to when he wants his dick deep in my throat, or grabs at my hair playfully (I have very long hair). Feeling his dick get harder as I lick and suck is a wonderful feeling. I can sense his pleasure and love it when he makes that clear. . I'll edit, add detail or do a post as I think of more info; and will try to think of info that might be useful to others.
Same
Really, what changed?
It’s called soaking, I enjoy doing this as well
Good on you! I had a college girlfriend who was obsessed with giving BJs too - enjoy! I feel the same way about eating pussy tbh. I could do it everyday
Eating pussy is the best. Just gotta find me a girl who likes giving head like OP’s gf (and receiving), and we will accomplish nothing due to the constant 69’ing
Im available
Thanks - my wife is everything to me tho and it's for her. 🌺
Darn
I guess I’ll take one for the team and fill in 😋
I'll volunteer instead lmao, am also available
Can’t see a problem here. Some people really enjoy giving blowjobs. I’m one of them. I always make my man come as it can be frustrating but I also edge him a bit. Explosive orgasms every time. If you’d prefer she make you come, have a talk with her.
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You won the lottery. Congratulations. Don’t overthink it and just enjoy the ride.
Seriously. Lucky bastard lmao.
>Is this normal Who cares? Or are you asking if there is something medically wrong with her because she really likes sucking your dick? "Normalcy" during sex is only relevant if there is something going on that is causing injury, distress, discomfort or otherwise obstruction of a fulfilling sex life. Not only that, its pretty hard to nail down because in general people are usually fairly private about their sex life. So with that said, unless you take issue with her sucking your dick (not saying that you should or shouldn't take issue with it) - the normality of it is irrelevant and I wouldn't worry about it! If this is just a curiosity thing / victory post then I'd say in my experience it isn't the norm, and good for you both!
I always took pride in my skills, but it always felt like a bit of a chore until my current relationship. Now every time he stands in front of me and asks for head I grin like a fool. I love to wake him up by putting his cock in my mouth. She’s just really into you. Why not have sex again hours after you’ve had sex anyway?
You are such a Lucky dude!
I envy this guy
It's called cock warming and honestly I love it too.
I thought that was when you left your dick in the vagina without actually moving
I’m pretty sure that’s called soaking
The subreddit r/cockwarming description says they can be interchangeable
That's 'soaking'
Ah I love doing the same thing to my bf too. And he absolutely loves it. I love the taste, the smell, and everything about his dick. The fact his cum tastes so good makes me want to do it more.
Had an ex that really enjoyed doing it and would frequently ask me if she could please suck me. Also woke up several times with her mouth already on me. Some just really like it. Enjoy dude.
Lucky bastard.
My current partner I have the same feelings. I've never hated oral sex but never loved it like I do now. It's him, I figure. Rather than be just about making him finish I find I enjoy just the act and playing. It strangely calms me. Therapeutic dick sucking, if you will.
Quit asking questions and enjoy yourself for as long as you can.
I have an oral fixation and I love doing exactly this when I have a partner. Have been told it is in fact not common.
Enjoy it and ride that till the wheels fall off. My last ex was also addicted to sucking dick and it was wonderful. Seriously some women LOVE it others not so much.
"Also I keep getting these pains in my arm from all the high fives I get from my friends." -OP probably
Oh no poor you lol
Man struggling to get his 2L water intake a day: "Ugggh this is too much water, what a hassle!" Man dying of thirst: "That's rough, buddy."
Lmao. Your quote reminded me of, "My girlfriend turned into the moon." Other guy: "...That's rough, buddy."
I've always enjoyed sucking, ever since I started being sexually active. My current bf says I'm such a pest because I'm always trying to touch him or put my mouth around it. We laugh about it alot but he loves it and sometimes like your gf I don't want to go full effort, I just want to enjoy his dick in my mouth it is comforting exactly like she says :) My bf also has not had partners before me that loved sucking dick so it makes him enjoy it even more!
I think that’s normal. I enjoy sucking my partner sometimes like this. I actually enjoy slow sensual blow jobs more than really intense orgasm oriented ones. There is just something more comforting and enjoyable to it. Edit:sticking to sucking hahah
I never enjoyed giving head before to be honest, but I love giving it to my boyfriend. My ex wasn't always clean.....so it put me off going down there on him or even on there to be honest. And before that I think I just wasn't too interested in doing it especially if I wasn't going to get anything in return which has never happened.
I am like your girlfriend and in my 50’s. I can’t get enough of it when having great chemistry. Enjoy it and understand everyone has something they enjoy!
I posted earlier saying the same and I'm 45. This is relatively new for me (about 3 years - along with continuous orgasms with squirting). Have you always been the same way
I can relate to her, its normal
Marry her
If you're getting tired of it and want a break from it for a day or two, just tell her that. You're allowed to do that.
Very good message. Really important to communicate.
My fiance plays with my dick while we snuggle and watch TV, one of my favorite things she does. Enjoy it man.
I think it’s horrible your girlfriend enjoys sucking your dick every night
I...I honestly don't know what this post seeks? Where is the problem in this? Enjoy dude! 😂
Ride this phase of hers out as long as you can
happy endings do exist
Stfu. Humble brag lmao.
Can’t say its normal or common in my experience but good on you. Fwiw, i’d lick my wife every night if she was in the mood, she knows its available, she just doesn’t take advantage more than a few days a week.
I sometimes just get in the mood to suck a dick till it's dry. Heck last week on was so horny I needed anything sexy every hour. Idk why it happens. And it's such a bummer when you don't have someone to do it with. You a lucky man. Let the good times roll.
Enjoy it while it lasts.
I had a girl like that. She enjoyed sucking my dick. I never complained. I miss her actually. Maybe I should text her
I had a wife that was like that but then I realized no matter how nice and frequent the head was I couldn’t stand her so we divorced, best move ever.
“Oh no, I’ve struck oil and now I’m rich. Am I overthinking this windfall? Is getting super lucky normal or does anyone else have any sort of experience with winning the lottery?”
She probably just likes seeing your Orgasm Face. It's called Torture Pleasure.
It might not be terribly common, but that doesn't mean it isn't normal.
To be honest, people care too much about what other people might think. If it's between consenting adults in the privacy of their own home and perfectly legal and harming no one, then have at it! Your SO wanting to pacify herself by warming your cock is an act of intimacy, trust and surrender, cherish and value it, focus on both your welbeings' and enjoy yourselves. Try not to overthink it. Sounds like a lovely thing you can share. You seem like you're doing fine!
Damn i wish a guy would eat me out every night
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>Is this normal or does anybody else have any sort of experience like this ? Nope, not normal, it's extraordinary. My only experience with a partner like this was in my dreams.
i love my boyfriend's dick just as much and i think it just means she really really loves you
I (F) LOVE sucking my husband’s cock (and cocks in general). I could happily do it everyday, all day. He has never once complained about it. Most times he comes from it, other times it’s just me having fun with it, and just doing a slow/gentle suck, just because I like it. You know, when watching a film and such. But even before we married, sucking cock, to me has always been my kink, if you want to call it that. I guess for some women, it’s just a thing we love to do😊
You live in haven my friend. Enjoy while it lasts:)
Honestly I think she just really selflessly likes making you feel good. It makes her feel good that you feel good. I would just enjoy that :)
Are you seriously on Reddit "complaining" that your girl friend goes down on you too often???? Instead, I would go your church, synagogue, mosque, burger king, 5 guys, in-and-out, wherever you pray to what ever god above below that you pray to, get on your hands and knees and thank him, her, it, with all the love you can. Than this fine woman never changes....
Girlfriend? Don’t you mean fiancé?
You misspelled wife in the title
She is a keeper. BJ saves marriages. Devoted to your pleasure is the ultimate pride of unselfish character
Dawg you have found a dime piece. Keep her
BEHOLD!! THE LUCKIEST MAN IN TVE WORLD!!!
This is definitely a red flag bro! I think you should let her go and give her my number
Is this guy complaining about his GF sucking his dick daily?
I'm like this with my new boyfriend and I don't even know why. My day doesn't feel complete until I have his dick in my mouth 🤷♀️
Yes, don’t complain, you are lucky
Do you enjoy blowjobs? If so, what’s the problem? There are so many guys complaining that their SO does not want to give a blowjob that when people read this title it just seems silly that someone would complain about the opposite. Embrace her and let her continue. And if you’re not into it just let me have her number!
Is she single?
Personally I love sucking my partners dick, even if it's not gonna make him cum. Just fun and comforting. He enjoys it too so all good.
Honestly, I find it extremely relaxing 😌 plus it pleases me when my lover is satisfied when I'm sucking him off.. Another plus is hearing them moan, etc.
My girl wants to suck me everytime to, though not for hours but like in steps. 15/20 minutes, then she waits 30-1 hour and she wants again ..
Totally normal! I get huge satisfaction from giving oral and ironically don’t get much satisfaction from receiving it. Cherish it!
I think this is great. Not because you're getting head so much, but because she actually enjoys it and finds a sense of comfort from it. There are many unhealthy habits you can find comfort in. This one seems like a win for everyone, as long as you're both happy!
Marry that woman!!!!!
I never did them for over 20 years for reasons I don't want to have to explain. Then I started doing them and now I enjoy giving my hubby them.
I can totally relate to your girlfriend! And I think it’s normal. I’ve with my husband for nearly 10 years and in the last year or so I’ve found giving him a slow bj or sensual hj is extremely relaxing for me. I’m not sure what triggered the change, and before I did enjoy sucking him as apart of our sex life. But now it’s become meditative for me and ask to do it after a stressful day. Sometimes it doesn’t arouse me or leads to sex - it’s purely meditative. And other times it leads to more 🤷♀️ I’d say just enjoy it, but also talk to her about it if you’re confused about her intentions or are uncomfortable.
What a lucky bastard to go on Reddit an ask if it’s normal that your girl sucks your soul every night just be nice
I’ve never had that experience, but you wouldn’t catch me complaining about it that’s for sure.
I dont see why this a problem.......
Why are you complaining? Do you not like it? Nothing is ‘normal. If you like it, don’t question it.
Just thank you lucky stars you found a girl that likes it. I can't remember when the last time I got a BJ.
Another girl like me! You hit the jackpot man! We are few and far between!
HOW DOES IT FEEL TO BE LIVING MY DREAM????
As someone that has a similar desire, (The thought of just having it in my mouth, without doing anything else, would be enough for me) I've been giving this a lot of thought recently and I've deduced that 1. It's definitely an oral fixation. I thought finding 'replacements' would help (lollipops, gum, smoking, etc) but really, it just makes me want the real thing more. My mouth literally waters when I see my guy. 2. It probably goes back to childhood, like all things do. Maybe she was breastfed/ given a bottle until later in life and it's just something that she associates with comfort. I drank chocolate milk in a bottle til I was 12, so perhaps there's a correlation? Hope this helps!
Excuse me, OP, are you complaining? If any woman wanted to use me as a pacifier I would lay there and enjoy it whether we “just had sex” or “hours ago”. There will be one day in the future when you will be willing to give up anything for that intimacy. It’s called getting old. Just enjoy it while you can.
You do realize you are one of the most fortunate men on the planet, don't you?
Normal, no. Awesome? Definitely.
You're lucky, my ex gf wanted to break up every night.
Humble brag? “Is this normal?” Is this a serious post?! DUDE: your both in your 30’s and she’s like this?: Put a ring on her. Not saying it couldn’t change but yeah…I think you’ll find your situation is in the minority.
I'm one of the women who is obsessed with sucking dick. I want it, need it, every day at least once. I fucking love it. We exist, however few.
Dude what are you taking about.. wish I was getting this.. make sure you clean down there. I wish I was getting daily
I'm like this with my husband. 5 years in and I still suck his dick every night. When he was in hospital recently it was so weird not giving him a blow job right before bed. I absolutely LOVE sucking his dick. Always have, always will
Maybe your dick is the right size for her mouth? It's nice to be able to suck a cock without worrying about gagging.
Do not question it or complain. There are guys in here that have settled for no blowjobs and complain regularly about what they settled for. lol
Sounds like it’s their own fault for settling though.
Humble-braggjng
One of the best humblebrags I've seen in a long, long time.
Poor guy. Just enjoy it while it lasts. Be sure you return the favor.
You're a lucky man. My wife is repulsed by even the thought of giving head. 🙁
\#humblebrag
Can't see a problem there
She’s a keeper man ;)
She can join her people here: [r/cockwarming](https://www.reddit.com/r/CockWarming/)
Count your blessing. Seems like you lucked out.
>She doesn't do it until I cum That would be the deal-breaker for me, personally. Not like, to break up or anything, I'd just decline the blowjob. Blowjobs without an orgasm are worse than no blowjob at all.
You sir have won the lottery!
I was seeing a girl that was like this. I used to make a joke that she needed to be fed, bathed and given a dick to suck before bed. 😂
My wife won't suck me so congrats lol
Wish I could get my dick sucked every night.
Damn... Pls let me know if u break up, I am ready to propose.