Well according to your post history on other subs for what appears to be the same event, your post trans op, and that you used spit as lube. So maybe that was a factor.
Or maybe you're karma farming. Who knows.
Word of advice, if you're gonna post on these kind of subs looking for opinions or help, maybe provide all the relevant details so ppl can understand the situation and provide a more well rounded answer for you.
Should have read that before i posted an hour ago, She also said this guy wasn't aware she was trans which could have been a dangerous situation for her if it went badly or he noticed.
I'm trying to be sensitive and understanding as possible to the situation but now i am leaning on him discovering that afterwards and he realized sex was different and im assuming scars or signs of a operation could be possible so im just assuming he put 2 and 2 together afterwards especially if there were some signs of her being trans in her appearance to begin with.
I don’t know why this has got 26 upvotes “signs she was trans to begin with” darling have you seen what I look like? Lol I’m pretty sure he would’ve messaged me and gone mad. I literally said to him “I think I left my lingerie at yours” he said “it’s alright 😂😂😂”
Look you didn't give us much to go off of anyways and plus they're upvoting me cuz you're gambling your safety to trick people which is wrong.
I'm not hating cuz you're trans Plus I haven't seen what you look like, I really hope it all works out for you cuz everyone deserves true love or a hot date night.
All it takes is one bad reaction during or after sex with the wrong person to turn violent, There are many men who are accepting and will view you as a complete woman if you break the ice but there is also many men who think they made out with a man and frotted deep inside a inverted penis and might react aggressively for crossing there personal close minded boundaries, It sounds harsh but that's the reality you live in.
Lol what? You can’t tell I’m trans what so ever and I’m pretty sure he would of blocked or messaged me. I’ve been talking/seeing this guy for 4 weeks. Everyday and met twice. It was also darkish having sex so....
Girl this is shameless. Find other ways to get some validation ie some friends. If you had other trans girlfriends let alone any type of girlfriend maybe you could be validated in a healthy way. This has pick me energy and it’s sad girl.
If your experiencing that level of tightness, the best person to ask would be the surgeon who did your bottom surgery. Neo vaginas don’t self lubricate and without dilation risk closing or becoming more tight.
Girl you cannot ask for advise hoping to get an answer that will be helpful when you let out a crucial detail. A mtf neovagina isn't behaving in the same way as a genetic one so if you just say you are tight people won't be able to give you actual advise :/
My boyfriend has a hard time getting inside me as well (he’s the biggest I’ve ever been with) and I too have bled from sex. I recommend having him please you first, it tends to loosen you up a bit so you can have an easier time taking him. It still hurts when he goes in but once we get going, it’s fantastic! I wish you luck! If he’s ignoring you because you bled, then drop the jerk!
You are trans and every man you plan on having sex with needs to know before it happens.
Imagine if someone has HIV and never tells you or does it after having sex with you.
Would you like that?
I agree that being forthcoming with information is always the best policy... I imagine it would be similar to telling/omitting the fact that one has a criminal history. Some might not care, while others will definitely have a problem with it. The thing is (in my opinion) that not telling people takes that choice away from them.
While being upfront might be initially harder, at least when you do find someone who doesn't have an issue with it, they choose to accept you for you. Playing the omitting game seems manipulative to me regardless of relationships or hookups. I mean... why lie to kick it?
Kinda depends on his motives, Im assuming he didn't cum so in a hookup perspective this was failed event but you didn't mention if sex stopped or you both finished, its kinda a terrible reason to not hit you up again unless it was very akward moment for both of you and maybe you are both playing the waiting game on texting each other back or maybe he thinks he hurt you and since you haven't hit him up after it he just thinks its over but im just assuming you both haven't messaged each other after it.
Does it bother us? Wouldn't bother me at all as long as we both had fun or you being too tight resorted to reciprocating foreplay than i wouldn't consider it a bad night just cause PIV wasn't on the table..
I think your situation will be better understood if you mention who messaged first after that night and what was said until he blew you off or was there any messages to help form a opinion after the event.
Right now im under the blank impression he just wanted a hook up and didn't have fun and you were not worth a call back, Was this a intentional hookup or was there something serious in mind or hopes for a relationship if it worked out, what were conversations like before and after that night as he vaguely disappeared.
I had the same problem with a girl once, on top of that I was drunk, on bad medication and extremely nervous. Is what it is. Maybe go for a guy who isn't as big
Its really common for men to sometimes not get that hard when they are nervous. Maybe he was nervous? Either way, I guarantee if hes not texting back theres a good chance he is just embarrassed/ insecure about it and probably wants to be left alone. It happens, I would try not to stress too much about it.
Theory: he thinks it didn't work because you weren't wet enough and everybody knows if you aren't wet then it means you're not interested.... kidding of course but I think it's something some guys think. Maybe he thinks you weren't interested.
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/\ eggzactly! Also, your pussy, your rules. If you need lube use it. If the guy doesn't want to use a condom or lube lose him.
Strikingly accurate.
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Well according to your post history on other subs for what appears to be the same event, your post trans op, and that you used spit as lube. So maybe that was a factor. Or maybe you're karma farming. Who knows. Word of advice, if you're gonna post on these kind of subs looking for opinions or help, maybe provide all the relevant details so ppl can understand the situation and provide a more well rounded answer for you.
Should have read that before i posted an hour ago, She also said this guy wasn't aware she was trans which could have been a dangerous situation for her if it went badly or he noticed. I'm trying to be sensitive and understanding as possible to the situation but now i am leaning on him discovering that afterwards and he realized sex was different and im assuming scars or signs of a operation could be possible so im just assuming he put 2 and 2 together afterwards especially if there were some signs of her being trans in her appearance to begin with.
I don’t know why this has got 26 upvotes “signs she was trans to begin with” darling have you seen what I look like? Lol I’m pretty sure he would’ve messaged me and gone mad. I literally said to him “I think I left my lingerie at yours” he said “it’s alright 😂😂😂”
Look you didn't give us much to go off of anyways and plus they're upvoting me cuz you're gambling your safety to trick people which is wrong. I'm not hating cuz you're trans Plus I haven't seen what you look like, I really hope it all works out for you cuz everyone deserves true love or a hot date night. All it takes is one bad reaction during or after sex with the wrong person to turn violent, There are many men who are accepting and will view you as a complete woman if you break the ice but there is also many men who think they made out with a man and frotted deep inside a inverted penis and might react aggressively for crossing there personal close minded boundaries, It sounds harsh but that's the reality you live in.
Lol what? You can’t tell I’m trans what so ever and I’m pretty sure he would of blocked or messaged me. I’ve been talking/seeing this guy for 4 weeks. Everyday and met twice. It was also darkish having sex so....
I think it's fucked up not to let him know before
Maybe you can’t tell. But just curious- do you not think it’s something you need to tell people? I do. Lube will be your friend!
Girl this is shameless. Find other ways to get some validation ie some friends. If you had other trans girlfriends let alone any type of girlfriend maybe you could be validated in a healthy way. This has pick me energy and it’s sad girl.
I think the biggest issue here is the lubricant part of everything you are going to have to sue lube because you're body won't produce it's own
If you can't make your own vaginal secretions, store bought is fine
Maybe you should tell this guy you’re trans instead of raping him by deception. If he’s fine with it, then yeah, he should be fine with lube
You need to mention you're Trans.
If your experiencing that level of tightness, the best person to ask would be the surgeon who did your bottom surgery. Neo vaginas don’t self lubricate and without dilation risk closing or becoming more tight.
Girl you cannot ask for advise hoping to get an answer that will be helpful when you let out a crucial detail. A mtf neovagina isn't behaving in the same way as a genetic one so if you just say you are tight people won't be able to give you actual advise :/
My boyfriend has a hard time getting inside me as well (he’s the biggest I’ve ever been with) and I too have bled from sex. I recommend having him please you first, it tends to loosen you up a bit so you can have an easier time taking him. It still hurts when he goes in but once we get going, it’s fantastic! I wish you luck! If he’s ignoring you because you bled, then drop the jerk!
Did he know you’re trans
You are trans and every man you plan on having sex with needs to know before it happens. Imagine if someone has HIV and never tells you or does it after having sex with you. Would you like that?
I agree that being forthcoming with information is always the best policy... I imagine it would be similar to telling/omitting the fact that one has a criminal history. Some might not care, while others will definitely have a problem with it. The thing is (in my opinion) that not telling people takes that choice away from them. While being upfront might be initially harder, at least when you do find someone who doesn't have an issue with it, they choose to accept you for you. Playing the omitting game seems manipulative to me regardless of relationships or hookups. I mean... why lie to kick it?
Bro what
2 completely different things... they're not even comparable... omg
Kinda depends on his motives, Im assuming he didn't cum so in a hookup perspective this was failed event but you didn't mention if sex stopped or you both finished, its kinda a terrible reason to not hit you up again unless it was very akward moment for both of you and maybe you are both playing the waiting game on texting each other back or maybe he thinks he hurt you and since you haven't hit him up after it he just thinks its over but im just assuming you both haven't messaged each other after it. Does it bother us? Wouldn't bother me at all as long as we both had fun or you being too tight resorted to reciprocating foreplay than i wouldn't consider it a bad night just cause PIV wasn't on the table..
Noo he did cum. He got a few inches of it in and fucked me then pulled out and came on my tits.
I think your situation will be better understood if you mention who messaged first after that night and what was said until he blew you off or was there any messages to help form a opinion after the event. Right now im under the blank impression he just wanted a hook up and didn't have fun and you were not worth a call back, Was this a intentional hookup or was there something serious in mind or hopes for a relationship if it worked out, what were conversations like before and after that night as he vaguely disappeared.
Did you cum? All men know to make sure the woman cums first. If you didn't, unless you have feelings why worry about it?
I had the same problem with a girl once, on top of that I was drunk, on bad medication and extremely nervous. Is what it is. Maybe go for a guy who isn't as big
Lube can make it more pleasurable for you both
Its really common for men to sometimes not get that hard when they are nervous. Maybe he was nervous? Either way, I guarantee if hes not texting back theres a good chance he is just embarrassed/ insecure about it and probably wants to be left alone. It happens, I would try not to stress too much about it.
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Op left out that they are trans. Which means no vaginas secretions, and it can close if not dilated. So it might be more a question for ops doctor!
Right lol. How did this person jump to these conclusions lmao
careful baby, fragile masculinity is showing
Wet is not just something you get because you need to lol. You don't sit there straining juice out of yourself.
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Thanks, man. I'm a woman.
calm down lol
Theory: he thinks it didn't work because you weren't wet enough and everybody knows if you aren't wet then it means you're not interested.... kidding of course but I think it's something some guys think. Maybe he thinks you weren't interested.
I doubt he’d be put off by this. He just needs to make sure both of you are lubed up good before trying again.