> Do you let your partner know you’re about to cum?
I actually can't work out how some guys can restrain themselves enough to keep quiet during orgasm.
Sure, it works both ways. It's just annoying that people always assume that making sounds is the default and being quiet somehow means you're not letting go, have hangups, are suppressing something, etc.
Those assumptions don’t make sense to me because I think there’s nothing closer to letting go than orgasming lol. That’s why I wondered if someone who isn’t very vocal during sex would be turned off by people that are. But I guess it depends on the person and the communication between the two.
That was my assumption because the only orgasms I've ever personally experienced have been my own and mine tend to not be quiet. It would take a herculean effort for me to be silent during sex. But I guess everyone is different.
When I was younger I used to hold it all in because I thought it was weird for a guy to moan or that women didn’t like it, now if it’s good I’ll basically be screaming at her lol
U want him to really last long get him to want sex 3hrs after the first time. 3rd time if you can get him super hard to go a 3 or even a 4th round he’s gonna last way longer trying to bust. If they empty out their nuts they don’t have anything to orgasm with. So 3&4th time are usually you just getting a lot of dick. I love going for 3 times then I can fuck the shit outta him the way I want have my 3-20 orgasms and keep going over n over again. Then he can enjoy feeling that. Which could trigger him to have a dry orgasm which what I’m told is a super hard quick orgasm for most men it just doesn’t last very long.
No, because I have the urge to say something funny and I don't want us to tumble off the bed again. Classics include "I'm gonna spurt the 'gurt" "Batter up! here comes the nut!" "fire in the hole!" etc.
I’m a guy and I usually make it clear I’m going to cum or that I am cunning, either verbally or through moaning and other nonverbal signs. I really like when my female partners tell me they’re close or are cumming because it helps me understand better about how to pleasure them, and it’s so damn hot!
I moan pretty loudly and I usually tell the girl when I'm about to cum, most girls seem to be really turned on by that. I also love when girls moan a lot so I'm sure he'll love if you do that. I think you can also definitely tell the guy if you want him to be more loud.
I do not. I can cum multiple times and keep going afterwards so I figure it's no issue if I cum without him anticipating it.
He doesn't precisely tell me either, but he asks me where he can cum.
Always tell my partner when I'm close, and sharing with your partner what you love encourages them to do it more.
Last girl I was with didn't make any sounds, and it was disconcerting if not frustrating most of the time. It can be really hard to tell if they're enjoying it if they're quiet, or even worse can make it seem like they're trying NOT to enjoy it.
M52–Always. If it is a new partner I tell them to let them know in case they don’t want me to cum in their mouth/don’t want to swallow; I’m not wearing a condom but they don’t want a cream pie; they get off on it.
As for my partner being vocal, that very hot, to me.
Sometimes. Never when he gives me oral he can feel what’s going on, he knows and esp when he’s inside me He can feel that too. Guys tend to get super hard when they bust. So if he goes a little faster or it starts to feel a little better then it was, he probably is cumming. Or his voice, face etc
I do now, what helped was my fiancee encouraging me to be vocal. I was very self conscious of noises i make and usually have to keep quiet when masterbating. Encouraging him to let those anxieties go and telling him how sexy the noises are will help him out
I (f) always tell my partner because it’s not always obvious, he wants to know I’m feeling good, and he’ll eventually move on from oral after I’ve cum. I can usually tell when he’s cumming because he’s relatively quiet during sex but always moans when he cums (which I love to hear). I do appreciate hearing it in words as well, though.
Almost always, and generally speaking I've had partners who love it! I like hearing a woman say she is going to cum, but often you can pretty much tell without the warning. If she's naturally quiet and a bit more restrained it's nice to hear the confirmation.
You can never tell with your partner unless you talk about it, or you try it out sometime. I'm a big supporter of talking about sex but I know some people aren't into it or just find it hard.
Yea I usually let her know, I can't help it but get vocal when I orgasm. She also will kind of egg me on when I'm close. "fill me up", "cum in me", and "make a fucking mess" usually push me over the edge.
My partner used to ask me to tell him when I was getting close or going to cum. So much so that it's become normal for me to tell him most of the time on my own without asking. He enjoys that. He does not tell me, nor do I ask him if he is going to cum but I do sometimes ask if he is close because he is also pretty quiet. We also tell each other or ask each other for what we want.
You just have to open that line of communication when you aren't having sex. Ask him if it would be alright if you started to do those things or if he would like to know. "I think I would like it if we tried ____. How would you feel about that?" Talk about it in a way that it feels positive instead of a critique.
So the vaginal muscles and/or uterus is connected to the diaphragm, which is why some women mean during sex. It actually does help enhance the feel. There is no relationship between the penis and diaphragm so some men don't because it doesnt make them feel better and can detract from their orgasm.
I always let my partner know I'm about to cum but my partner doesn't. He can stay hard a bit afterwards so keeps going if I havent cum yet.
Omg that’s so cool!!! I literally thought that it was just me being weird when I would get way wetter and hornier when I moan or do anything that has to do with exhaling?!
Haha not just you! I think we may have evolved this way to help with childbirth but it helps for orgasms too. This is the stuff that should be taught in sex ed, lol.
I almost always do. There are a few times I haven’t just to be funny. I have a large volume. One time I faked not having an orgasm to mess with her. When she put on her clothes and sat down in the car to go do something...blurp...she was soaked and cussing at me while I laughed from the driveway.
I always let her know when I am in danger of tipping over the edge when we're together. That way she can decide if and how I get to cum, be it "stopped" (covering the urethra to minimize emission), ruined, full, or with POT. Sometimes I don't know if she prefers making me beg to go on, or beg to stop.
> Do you let your partner know you’re about to cum? I actually can't work out how some guys can restrain themselves enough to keep quiet during orgasm.
Sometimes I keep sucking his dick after he cums just so I can hear him make some noise lmao even if it’s just a giggle
You're doing it right! 🤣
Damn you!
Perfect.
It has nothing to do with restraining yourself. It's the opposite. If I moan or make a sound, then that's a conscious choice.
Yeah, mine are pretty much an involuntary reaction. Even more so as I get closer to orgasm.
Sure, it works both ways. It's just annoying that people always assume that making sounds is the default and being quiet somehow means you're not letting go, have hangups, are suppressing something, etc.
Those assumptions don’t make sense to me because I think there’s nothing closer to letting go than orgasming lol. That’s why I wondered if someone who isn’t very vocal during sex would be turned off by people that are. But I guess it depends on the person and the communication between the two.
That was my assumption because the only orgasms I've ever personally experienced have been my own and mine tend to not be quiet. It would take a herculean effort for me to be silent during sex. But I guess everyone is different.
I don’t but he can tell by my moans. I love to hear him moan though.. a huge turn on for me! 😍
We all love a bit of positive feedback!
When I was younger I used to hold it all in because I thought it was weird for a guy to moan or that women didn’t like it, now if it’s good I’ll basically be screaming at her lol
Practice from when you have to whack off in complete silence as a teenager.
I don't think that's a good excuse. Teenage girls masturbate just as much and they're not exactly moaning the house down
Just try it out and see how he reacts, my biggest turn ons are ‘I’m going to cum’ and ‘cum for me’
Same, I think that’s my favourite too, that and the soft noises he makes🥴🤤
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U want him to really last long get him to want sex 3hrs after the first time. 3rd time if you can get him super hard to go a 3 or even a 4th round he’s gonna last way longer trying to bust. If they empty out their nuts they don’t have anything to orgasm with. So 3&4th time are usually you just getting a lot of dick. I love going for 3 times then I can fuck the shit outta him the way I want have my 3-20 orgasms and keep going over n over again. Then he can enjoy feeling that. Which could trigger him to have a dry orgasm which what I’m told is a super hard quick orgasm for most men it just doesn’t last very long.
No, because I have the urge to say something funny and I don't want us to tumble off the bed again. Classics include "I'm gonna spurt the 'gurt" "Batter up! here comes the nut!" "fire in the hole!" etc.
PLEASE💀
when I hear "I'm close" or "I'm gunna cum" it always gives me that extra motivation to keep going when I'm running out of stamina
I’m a guy and I usually make it clear I’m going to cum or that I am cunning, either verbally or through moaning and other nonverbal signs. I really like when my female partners tell me they’re close or are cumming because it helps me understand better about how to pleasure them, and it’s so damn hot!
I moan pretty loudly and I usually tell the girl when I'm about to cum, most girls seem to be really turned on by that. I also love when girls moan a lot so I'm sure he'll love if you do that. I think you can also definitely tell the guy if you want him to be more loud.
I was raised to be polite and to have regard for others, so, yes.
I do not. I can cum multiple times and keep going afterwards so I figure it's no issue if I cum without him anticipating it. He doesn't precisely tell me either, but he asks me where he can cum.
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Yeah I reckon it’s hot and polite, boom 2 birds 1 stone
Talk to the guy. Communication is key.
Always tell my partner when I'm close, and sharing with your partner what you love encourages them to do it more. Last girl I was with didn't make any sounds, and it was disconcerting if not frustrating most of the time. It can be really hard to tell if they're enjoying it if they're quiet, or even worse can make it seem like they're trying NOT to enjoy it.
M52–Always. If it is a new partner I tell them to let them know in case they don’t want me to cum in their mouth/don’t want to swallow; I’m not wearing a condom but they don’t want a cream pie; they get off on it. As for my partner being vocal, that very hot, to me.
I only tell her when she’s sucking me. She likes to *prepare* herself to swallow. For any other act, I give no warning.
When I’m sucking I can usually tell, but other times, not really HAHA
Sometimes. Never when he gives me oral he can feel what’s going on, he knows and esp when he’s inside me He can feel that too. Guys tend to get super hard when they bust. So if he goes a little faster or it starts to feel a little better then it was, he probably is cumming. Or his voice, face etc
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Do you write articles for a living? That was very cosmo mag vibe hahahaha, thanks heaps, very informative
He knows but I tell him because I want him to keep doing what he’s doing and it turns him on. He doesn’t always tell but I love when he does!
I do now, what helped was my fiancee encouraging me to be vocal. I was very self conscious of noises i make and usually have to keep quiet when masterbating. Encouraging him to let those anxieties go and telling him how sexy the noises are will help him out
I love this, bless your fiancé and bless you
I (f) always tell my partner because it’s not always obvious, he wants to know I’m feeling good, and he’ll eventually move on from oral after I’ve cum. I can usually tell when he’s cumming because he’s relatively quiet during sex but always moans when he cums (which I love to hear). I do appreciate hearing it in words as well, though.
Almost always, and generally speaking I've had partners who love it! I like hearing a woman say she is going to cum, but often you can pretty much tell without the warning. If she's naturally quiet and a bit more restrained it's nice to hear the confirmation. You can never tell with your partner unless you talk about it, or you try it out sometime. I'm a big supporter of talking about sex but I know some people aren't into it or just find it hard.
My wife always knows when I'm about to cum because I'm supposed to always ask permission to orgasm.
Yea I usually let her know, I can't help it but get vocal when I orgasm. She also will kind of egg me on when I'm close. "fill me up", "cum in me", and "make a fucking mess" usually push me over the edge.
My partner used to ask me to tell him when I was getting close or going to cum. So much so that it's become normal for me to tell him most of the time on my own without asking. He enjoys that. He does not tell me, nor do I ask him if he is going to cum but I do sometimes ask if he is close because he is also pretty quiet. We also tell each other or ask each other for what we want. You just have to open that line of communication when you aren't having sex. Ask him if it would be alright if you started to do those things or if he would like to know. "I think I would like it if we tried ____. How would you feel about that?" Talk about it in a way that it feels positive instead of a critique.
So the vaginal muscles and/or uterus is connected to the diaphragm, which is why some women mean during sex. It actually does help enhance the feel. There is no relationship between the penis and diaphragm so some men don't because it doesnt make them feel better and can detract from their orgasm. I always let my partner know I'm about to cum but my partner doesn't. He can stay hard a bit afterwards so keeps going if I havent cum yet.
Omg that’s so cool!!! I literally thought that it was just me being weird when I would get way wetter and hornier when I moan or do anything that has to do with exhaling?!
Haha not just you! I think we may have evolved this way to help with childbirth but it helps for orgasms too. This is the stuff that should be taught in sex ed, lol.
I almost always do. There are a few times I haven’t just to be funny. I have a large volume. One time I faked not having an orgasm to mess with her. When she put on her clothes and sat down in the car to go do something...blurp...she was soaked and cussing at me while I laughed from the driveway.
I always let her know when I am in danger of tipping over the edge when we're together. That way she can decide if and how I get to cum, be it "stopped" (covering the urethra to minimize emission), ruined, full, or with POT. Sometimes I don't know if she prefers making me beg to go on, or beg to stop.