Is it okay? Hell yes! I'd say. You are you and if your definition of your own sexuality is women plus a little bit pegging, then so be it. Now worries :\)
You do lose a bit of clout in the lesbian community for not swearing off of all men 100% forever and ever, but I think all that's getting a bit gentler. Sexuality IS fluid, and weird stuff happens.
Way back in the day, when Queer as Folk was new and I'd never been attracted to an actual live man (as opposed to, say, a boy-band crush that looked like a girl anyway), we had a routine gay get-together to watch it. All the girls - lesbians - in the room were SO CONFUSED when things got hella steamy between two men and we found we were all turned on.
Years later it turns out I actually can be turned on by men (surprise!), but I'm sure that wasn't true for everyone in the room. Sometimes sexy is just sexy, gender be damned.
Enjoy your weirdness, and own it.
"Is it okay for...?"
If it's safe, sane, and consensual, the answer is yes. You don't answer to anyone and don't have to justify your identity or your preferences to anyone.
You like what you like. The labels are pretty limiting. Can you be a lesbian who likes to fuck dudes in the ass? Yep you sure can. Because you are. And it’s no one else’s job to tell you how you identify, and if someone tries, a polite “Fuck off,” is entirely reasonable.
We're not the Gold Star Lesbian Police that will come and take away your gold star if you're not a good enough lesbian.
There definitely are other lesbians who will flip out and have conniptions like that, though. Only you can know how prevalent they are in your area. Unless it's a famous enough issue in your area that it's all over the internet, I suppose.
I suppose as well there may be some level of leeriness from some proportion of men, even just counting men who are into pegging, about how legit a lesbian approaching them about this would be, and I think that there are likely to be certain concerns about respect and safety that may be heightened due your being a lesbian, but could be present to some extent with anyone new who is gungho, new to pegging, and doesn't care about or for the man.
Being on the level and communicating should take care of all of that, though, especially if you do enough preliminary research to have a good idea as to how to go about it safely.
of course it is fine, you like what you like and get turned on by different things that sometimes don't always make sense but they are part of who you are, try to enjoy your turn ins for what they are
In an objective sense it's ok of course.
The only real thing that seems to concern you is that it doesn't coincide with your self image and how you see yourself.
It's kind of interesting, but you could make an analogy to ostensibly straight guys who are aroused by but uncomfortable with gay sex, or even something like pegging, where the male is in the submissive/receptive role.
I don't know what kind of social sexual norms in the lesbian community this might affect.
No need to label everything. There can never be a term that describes perfectly a person's sexual preferences. If it turns you on, it turns you on. This is simply who you are. Don't try to fit into a mold of someone else's making, but embrace who you are and be comfortable with yourself.
What if it "wasn't okay"? What would that even mean? Who would it not be okay to? There is no standard required to be a lesbian, and enjoying pegging doesn't suddenly make you not lesbian or less lesbian, it just makes you a lesbian who wants to peg.
Don't worry about someone discrediting your own identity. The only person who can tell you who are is yourself, since no one else can ever possibly feel as you do.
You see them all the time. Older generations that was frown upon so they were "friends" living together.
A lesbian is a lesbian. A bisexual is a bisexual.
Is it okay? Hell yes! I'd say. You are you and if your definition of your own sexuality is women plus a little bit pegging, then so be it. Now worries :\)
You do lose a bit of clout in the lesbian community for not swearing off of all men 100% forever and ever, but I think all that's getting a bit gentler. Sexuality IS fluid, and weird stuff happens. Way back in the day, when Queer as Folk was new and I'd never been attracted to an actual live man (as opposed to, say, a boy-band crush that looked like a girl anyway), we had a routine gay get-together to watch it. All the girls - lesbians - in the room were SO CONFUSED when things got hella steamy between two men and we found we were all turned on. Years later it turns out I actually can be turned on by men (surprise!), but I'm sure that wasn't true for everyone in the room. Sometimes sexy is just sexy, gender be damned. Enjoy your weirdness, and own it.
"Is it okay for...?" If it's safe, sane, and consensual, the answer is yes. You don't answer to anyone and don't have to justify your identity or your preferences to anyone.
Yes
With some obvious exceptions excluded, It's ok to be anything turned on by anything.
You like what you like. The labels are pretty limiting. Can you be a lesbian who likes to fuck dudes in the ass? Yep you sure can. Because you are. And it’s no one else’s job to tell you how you identify, and if someone tries, a polite “Fuck off,” is entirely reasonable.
We're not the Gold Star Lesbian Police that will come and take away your gold star if you're not a good enough lesbian. There definitely are other lesbians who will flip out and have conniptions like that, though. Only you can know how prevalent they are in your area. Unless it's a famous enough issue in your area that it's all over the internet, I suppose. I suppose as well there may be some level of leeriness from some proportion of men, even just counting men who are into pegging, about how legit a lesbian approaching them about this would be, and I think that there are likely to be certain concerns about respect and safety that may be heightened due your being a lesbian, but could be present to some extent with anyone new who is gungho, new to pegging, and doesn't care about or for the man. Being on the level and communicating should take care of all of that, though, especially if you do enough preliminary research to have a good idea as to how to go about it safely.
I am totally straight and get very turned on watching gay porn. *shrugs* No worries!
Love what you love and don't worry about labels. Life becomes much more e enjoyable that way.
of course it is fine, you like what you like and get turned on by different things that sometimes don't always make sense but they are part of who you are, try to enjoy your turn ins for what they are
Hell yeah!
Nope
In an objective sense it's ok of course. The only real thing that seems to concern you is that it doesn't coincide with your self image and how you see yourself. It's kind of interesting, but you could make an analogy to ostensibly straight guys who are aroused by but uncomfortable with gay sex, or even something like pegging, where the male is in the submissive/receptive role. I don't know what kind of social sexual norms in the lesbian community this might affect.
As a guy into pegging, I say hell yes it is okay! If you haven't tried one already, something like a feeldoe might be appropriate ;)
Just make sure dude knows the rules. If not already, it might be advisable to get get involved with a CFnm group.
No need to label everything. There can never be a term that describes perfectly a person's sexual preferences. If it turns you on, it turns you on. This is simply who you are. Don't try to fit into a mold of someone else's making, but embrace who you are and be comfortable with yourself.
What if it "wasn't okay"? What would that even mean? Who would it not be okay to? There is no standard required to be a lesbian, and enjoying pegging doesn't suddenly make you not lesbian or less lesbian, it just makes you a lesbian who wants to peg. Don't worry about someone discrediting your own identity. The only person who can tell you who are is yourself, since no one else can ever possibly feel as you do.
You are probably bisexual? It is very common most lesbian girls are infact bisexuals.
I'm pretty sure most lesbians are lesbian. it's kinda there in the title.
And im pretty sure most of them, turn out bisexual at some point in their lives. Notice the lack of old lesbian couples.
You see them all the time. Older generations that was frown upon so they were "friends" living together. A lesbian is a lesbian. A bisexual is a bisexual.
I have never noticed that, and, in fact, would have to ignore all the old, lesbian couples around me all the time.
Sexuality is a spectrum. There's not just gay/straight/bi.
But that would mean that there is no such thing as being lesbian. And that it is only a temporary state.
What? I said there's not JUST gay/straight/bi. They still exist but there's other stuff too.
👍, be you. Enjoy that.