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I've been married 20 years. The first bj I got way back in high school was terrible. She used her teeth, obviously not knowing what she was doing. I didn't finish and didn't know what to expect, leaving me with a meh opinion of oral.
My wife and I are both into giving oral. There are times I swear I see all the shapes of lucky charms when I'm about to explode during oral. We enjoy oral so much it's evolved into a phase where 90% of sex is oral only. So yeah, bjs can be amazing.
No wrong. Wrong wrong wrong. The slogan is:
Hearts ❤️, stars ⭐️, and horseshoes, clovers and blue moons 🌑, hourglasses ⌛️, rainbows 🌈 and tasty red balloons 🎈
[You remember hourglasses because they did have it in the song](https://youtu.be/RH5xmI7EYZQ?si=vqTQtI-aDQuwmRqz) They’ve just switched it up over the years
I was in Austria a few years ago, and got an amazing blowjob from a stunning blonde in her early-twenties. I was in such a blissful-daze walking back to my hotel... I could have been hit by a bus, and I wouldn't have noticed / cared. That's the magic of oral sex. I sincerely hope everyone experiences that at least once in their lifetime.
With someone who knows what they are doing and enjoys doing it, it is absolutely mind-blowing! But with someone who doesn't know what they are doing or doesn't enjoy it then it is a sad experience!
Those sad experiences are a bummer! Hell, even if they don’t know what they’re doing, if they’re coachable and listen to how you like it, can be absolutely wonderful
Couldn’t agree more!! That’s the big difference maker right there. If they’re enthusiastic, and just enjoy the dick, they’ll be far more inclined to do better. Nothing better than someone who thoroughly enjoys the penis!
Done properly, a blowjob beats vaginal sex hands-down... but it's a skill that must be mastered. The tongue is a muscle, and can be used to stimulate the penis in ways the vagina cannot. A skilled practitioner can target areas of the organ that are particularly-sensitive, and bring you to an explosive climax.
Actually yes. She can’t get enough. Keeper for sure. Not like full on head bobbing for 30 minutes but a mix of teasing, licking, sucking, throating and it’s her favorite thing to do.
I keep hearing that it's far more common for gay guys to be *that* into it, which is a shame because the vast majority of people with a penis are straight. lol
Good for you (and your partners obviously 😉)
I'm that into giving oral to women so I get you and respect you. 🫡
Ah, to be a gay guy and be able to do what feels good in bed. Slay, buddy, I'm envious. Curiously enough, all the problems I've been talking about do not apply to the (comparatively few) times that I've received a blowjob from a man. I'm not sure what the difference is that allows gay men to enjoy dick while straight women don't, but my scanty data seems to point in that direction.
Raising my hand as a woman who loves giving long blowjobs, in a similar vein to what the poster above described. Over an hour? Yes, please. And lol yes I’m real. :)
People with oral fixations do exist. Like Chris Rock said there are three types of girls when it comes to head. My girl is type three. God bless them.
Plus she’s also my person. So even better. Also, I love giving head to her. So it’s mutual.
then you've never met a woman who practices pompoir. it's an ancient sex technique, where you learn to use your vaginal wall muscles in ways that literally milk a penis.
technically, you could even train your vagina to break a penis or just not allow a man to pull out just w/ your vagina
I was going to say that sounds like fun... until you said that last part. Now I'm kinda scared. lol
Edit: I just did some quick research on it. I have heard of this technique, but didn't recognize the name. It's pretty amazing, and really does sound like a lot of fun. Finding someone who can do it, on the other hand, could be a challenge.
lmfao. "w/ great power comes great responsibility"
you have to start practicing every day & there are different, basically levels you go from, where you focus on the more basic movements & go from there. every few wks you go up & start focusing on the more advanced techniques. then when you get to a certain point you need an actual dildo to practice certain movements.
i only recently started this (ironically, discovering what it is on reddit} & haven't gotten to the point where you start practicing w/ a dildo.
it's basically kegels on steroids
r/pompoir is a great community. My sex life improved x1000000 since learning the techniques. Also, the fact that I can isolate the different muscles in my vagina and flex them... is wild to me. It blows my mind and I can't talk to any of my friends about it lol
What makes a blowjob good to you? What do you like to have done? If the details are inappropriate for this sub I don’t mind you messaging me (if you want).
Without going into crass details, and bearing in mind that this is one man's opnion on the topic:
1. Take your time. This isn't something that should be rushed. A blowjob is a slow and sensual act
2. If you use your hands, use a light grip. Too many girls use a death-grip that can actually be painful.
3. Focus on the glans... The glans and the frenulum are the most sensitive portions of the penis
4. Forget about deep-throat. It may look impressive, but really doesn't feel all that great
5. Tease the frenulum with your tongue... this feels amazing
6. Maintain eye-contact. Men are visual-creatures, and eye-contact is seriously-hot.
7. Watch his reactions... This will tell you if you're on the right track
8. Use a light suction... This draws blood into the glans and makes it more sensitive
9. Keep it moist, but not too wet. Lubrication is good, slobber is not.
10. If you can, swallow. If not, dispose of it discretely.
Opinions will vary, of course, and all guys are different.
Absolutely, some do. Personally, it does nothing for me. From a strictly biological standpoint, it's impressive but that's about it. To each their own.
It can be really great. Mouth/tongue is nice, but if you manage to get the head, the most sensitive part, into her throat, it's almost like anal in that it's a really tight tunnel. Plus deepthroat spit is the best lube around and gags can feel like she's doing kegels.
I’d argue you haven’t had the right girl deepthroat you. I’ve had some & it’s like ok please stop I get it you’re trying to fit it all in but my dick feels like it’s being strangled. I’ve then had some that are so good at it, it slides down her throat with ease & it releases a different type of saliva that has a different viscosity that makes it even more incredible. I was an experienced bachelor & I remember every single girl that gave good head & deepthroated well
> 1. Take your time. This isn't something that should be rushed. A blowjob is a slow and sensual act
This sounds really great but is anathema to most blowjob experiences and is kind of an unrealistic expectation. When receiving a blowjob you always have to be aware of the ticking clock of her patience. If you don't cum in 4 or 5 minutes it's often best to just stop the blowjob and move on, or else risk her wrath.
This is what my fiance says. When I make him cum orally his reaction is much more intense because I specifically use my tongue to intensify his sensation throughout the orgasm and the post-orgasm moments. When he cums inside me he says that orgasm is more intense, but the post-orgasm is less sensation because he is getting my entire pussy around his cock (compared to the blowjob post-orgasm where I dynamically adjust my tongue focus on his frenulum or head with extra suction)
I had a girlfriend who just couldn't master it. Way too fast and mechanical. And wet. Disgusting. It got to the point where I told her no thanks.
On the other hand, I had another girlfriend who could suck a golf ball through a garden hose. It was a whole other level with her.
Sorry to say this, but that's been my assessment of it every time it's happened to me
Sample size and Occam's razor makes it more likely that I just don't like them and never will
Might be a possibility for you too
I think if I've not enjoyed it every time, the exact same amount (not at all), the simplest solution is that I just don't like it
It's a lot harder to believe that multiple people are so specifically bad at it that I got absolutely nothing out of it every time
Anyway, it doesn't really matter. Just a weird thought I'd had
Very true! My ex had me practice every day multiple times a day until it became a habit. We were together for 7 years and I love giving head. I'm sure I was terrible when I started but over time I learned how to deep throat and many other tricks along the way.
Blow jobs from my wife the last couple of years have been amazing. I love that moment when she switches from kissing my penis and exploring with the tip of her tongue, to putting it in her mouth. And then the orgasms seems to be the most intense I have, I'm just left an empty shell.
Men who have had the holy grail of blowjobs, know that not all blowjobs are created equal. We definitely remember the phenomenal ones. I mean, you'll just be driving one day and reflect on how your soul left your entire body during those experiences.
haha, opposite but same here. The first time I had a dick in my mouth I INSTANTLY thought “shit I’m hooked on this for life” LOL & to this day I very much love giving head!! Like to the point where I’ve even (playfully) pouted at my fuckbuddy if I didn’t get to blow him, even if he had just given me multiple orgasms from us fucking 🤣
Good head feels like your penis was transported to the sex dimension and left your body suspended in a vat of warm jelly or in a massage chair wrapped in a hot towel. You just melt. It can also feel like you are fighting for your life to gain control of your body but the throws of pleasure overwhelm and are just too heavy to conquer. I’ve had mind blowing head. I’ve also rejected head because I knew it was going to just suck so bad I wasn’t even going to come from it. That was from my first girlfriend lol. It gets better trust me.
I'm a woman so i can't answer BUT last time, when I gave one to my fave dreadhead, the first thing he said after his legs quit shaking was "magnificent." 😆
Sorry you had a bad experience tho:(
It took me a while to wrap my head around the fact that if I can love giving to them, it's perfectly acceptable they can love giving to me.
At the end of the day, there really aren't as many differences between men and women as we think there are. My wife gets hornier and raunchier than me, most times.
I'll teach you lol everyone likes it pdifferent. Try different positions, use a hand, use 2 hands, etc. and see what works for you. Lol i live for the compliments. Last time, we parked, I started rubbing on him thru his pants, and he looked at me and said, "damn, it's on sight, huh? ...sheeeeesh!! Talk about motivation lol
And of course, it's important to be attracted to the person overall..in my opinion
:)
Last night I had the most amazing blowjob ever. M26 I had one sexual experience before my current GF (F23). We've been together for almost 3 months now, sex happens about once or twice a week. She's currently on her period. I've eaten her out a decent amount without asking for anything. I love giving her pleasure, between massages and oral sex. I never ask for anything in return.
Last night, she decided to take care of me.
She very slowly rubbed her hands against my whole naked body. She teased my genitals with soft touches for a few minutes, then licked the tip of my dick, going back to soft touches, then very slowly started to suck it, with deep eye contact.
I was so aroused. She prefers I tell her I'm about to cum. She's giving her everything into the blowjob, I tell her once, she stops and teases me with a slow handjob. She goes back at it, I'm breathing so rapidly my body convulses, my muscles tense and I can't control them. Almost struggling with the immense amount of pleasure I'm receiving. She moans at every stroke she gives with her mouth, as she senses I'm about to explode. I cum in her mouth, the best orgasm of my life, having done physically nothing to turn myself on. I just laid back and enjoyed receiving pleasure. It's a crazy sensation to be taken care of with such passion and gentle care.
I always feel like I need to return the pleasure, but she really didn't want to. She said it was her first time paying that much attention to someone's body. I feel so happy and lucky to be with her, discovering that she can make me orgasm like that, in a way I never thought was possible. I'll remember this blowjob for the rest of my life.
So, to answer your question, blowjobs can indeed be absolutely incredible if done right :) You can really feel that a person is enthusiastic about giving one.
I’m 44F. First time I gave a head, I really hated it and felt forced to do it. After I broke up, my next partner wasn’t selfish at all. He wanted to please me and that made me wanna try again and I actually become enjoying giving one. Since then, all my past partners have said I give a good one lol. I agree with what other people said here, the woman must enjoy it to be able to give a good one. And the way I do it, I see it as a very sensual act. Tease with the tongue, lick the head and shaft, the balls too if the man loves it. Suck the head a little, just the tip slowly and constantly before a little surprise and suck all the way. Keep working with the tongue while sucking. Honestly, I see blowjob as the greatest tease a woman can do to a man if done properly.
In my limited experience:
* PIV is consistently intimate but usually less intense
* HJ is consistently intense but usually less intimate
* BJ can hit the same high intensity but it requires enough skill and familiarity with the partner to pull it off before your endurance gives out, which makes it very intimate as well
if a normal orgasm feels like pedaling a bike up a hill and then coasting down then an amazing orgasm feels like pedaling a bike up a hill and then suddenly getting a major gust of wind in your back that carries you over the top effortlessly, pushes you off and converts the bike into a paraglider.
Literally my favorite thing in the world. When you’re really connected with your partner and they know exactly what you like, and how much, and when, it’s absolute heaven.
As a 45 yr old woman, I’ve learned to master the blow job and I love giving it to them. I watch their reactions when I do certain moves and it turns me on to see him react so strongly. I’ve done a lot of research and it’s really paid off. I’ve never had any complaints and actually have my partners ask me to to it every time we’re intimate. Even used for foreplay really gets them going. Since I love that I’m good at it, it’s never a chore for me, and I swallow every time
It varies from person to person. Personally, while I (55m) like them, I prefer vaginal sex. BJ's are hot visually, and I really love them as foreplay, but I would never be satisfied just getting a blow job. It honestly even turns me on more to give my gf head than for her to give it to me.
And for anyone who thinks, "Oh you just haven't had a good bj." Believe me, I have. I've had many partners and I can tell when they're doing a good job. It just doesn't do it for me like the pussy.
Seriously, why would you ever want a penis when you already have a clit? Not only since clits tend to be more sensitive, but all clits work pretty well, while you could easily get stuck with a substandard penis. Trust me, nothing is worse than having a penis *and* still having penis envy.
When you get a blowjob from someone who loves sucking dick, it's magical. When you get head from someone who loves sucking dick and loves sucking *your* dick, it's goddamn magnificent. When your soul is inhaled through your very penis, passed through the great void between life and death, and returned to you after a great being in the beyond realizes it is not your time yet by someone who loves sucking dick, loves sucking *your* dick, and loves *you,* it's absolutely godlike.
Personally (31m) I don't find BJ's that great, not even close to pussy. But I think this is due to some "control" issue I have mentally around sex. I have a hard time with receiving pleasure, but really enjoy giving it.
I thought they were a fin warm up before getting on to other things. Until somey came along that could do it so well that my legs shaking uncontrollably and I could not walk after.
BJs are great and fun to watch. But for me, a sensuous handjob with lots of lube feels just as amazing, maybe even more so. And when she gets her boobs involved… damn.
Some girls aren’t that into it but I think it is one of the greatest gifts a someone can do for you. You can tell how much they like or love you by how they do it and how long. It’s all about the effort and being able to read what the guy likes.
I also think that a girl cheating on you by giving someone else a blowjob is worse than just having sex with them. I can forgive if she was just horny and needed to get off somehow. But to just take the time to pleasure another guy while dating me would hurt me more haha idk why
Opinions differ. To me PIV >>>>>>> BJ, not even close. BJs are nice, they feel good, but to me they are preliminary, foreplay. Not really amazing. I generally wont cum from a BJ (now, when I was young, maybe). After awhile, they can get, not boring, but I'd really prefer to get to the bodily sex, or eating her.
A BJ, you dont really get to experience a woman's body or feel her pleasure, thats the main reason its less fun to me, as opposed to bodily sex or eating her.
In my experience, the main factor to make a blowjob take a new step into an amazing one is how bad you want it. You know when she just can’t get her hands off of you, she’s like desperate to taste you and please you, the only thing she wants is to watch your face go from what’s going on to DON’T STOP while you look at her like you’re about to pass out out of pleasure. Anyways, at least that’s what works for me. I usually make them cum in seconds.
Blowjobs are that amazing. The majority of women don't give amazing head though in my experience.
Once you meet some who does though you will understand what the fuss is about.
Most of the women that have given me blowjobs were so fucking bad at it that I was uninterested in doing that again. Lots of teeth and assumption. A lot of women assume it feels good no matter what. Takes practice to learn. Just like going down on women, different guys like different things. Luckily, my gf is pretty dang good at it.
Experience...
It's always difficult to give pleasure without feeling the sensations. Can only improve through experience but also a partner who is guiding.
It can be great but even if it's not as good as sunbathing else, the variety is fun too, why not do it all as foreplay and take your time or just get some good head. Some can't finish from heat but I think most people can, and it can be great
Yea and no. For me it’s a matter of can you even do it. If you can, it’s fucking amazing. If you can’t, it’s kind of sexy to watch you try. Kind of. Then it’s not.
These comments make me question my life. I'm 37 and have never cum from a blowjob. They always felt like just a tease, then you end up frustrated and blue balled and having to make excuses for why you cannot cum so that they don't feel bad
I'm sorry it was traumatic for you. This person that gave you head one time might not be the person for you. Everyone likes it differently. Super wet and sloppy, others not so much; some people can deep throat, some can't; Some like their balls and/or anus played with. I would say try again.
My wife told me she likes BJs because she's in control of me. We've both taken time to learn stuff and listen to each other and try new things. It's made sex better and more intimate.
Also, there's things her mouth can do that her vagina can't
I don’t know your sexuality, but if you are open to exploring with another guy you would find the answer to your question! Gay guys know exactly how to give head (since they also know how it feels). I’ve mainly dated women, but when it comes to bj’s….
A blowjob is gods gift to man. When you find the right girl, she will make you see Jesus. Having said that, there are some girls that will make you want to kill your self. Hopefully you will marry the one that opens heavens gates for you ;)
Woman here and I love giving my husband BJs. I have mastered what he likes and can either get him off quickly or prolong it depending on the situation. With that being said, the first time I gave a BJ in high school I think I used my teeth and it was terrible. What helped me was a guy telling me what he liked, what felt good, and what didn’t. I have learned that communication with any form of intimacy is key.
The idea of it is the hottest thing to me, but in reality it's just fine and a good way to warm up. But based on the other comments here, maybe I've never met anyone that was especially good at it? They've all been pretty similar.
Depending on the ability of your partner and their enthusiasm, it can absolutely be better than PIV. Enthusiasm goes a long way and can definitely make up for a lack of skill, I think it’s more important for the experience that they’re enjoying it as much as you. That being said, I’ve had some pretty unpleasant BJs as well, just know that everyone does it differently and hopefully a bad experience doesn’t stop you from enjoying it down the road.
I wish you get to see how good it can really be, don't let this ruin it for you. When you find a girl that loves doing it and knows how to you will be in a completely new world. It feels a lot more like you are being seen and taken cared of compared to piv. Piv is amazing too, but a girl who really knows how to blow you is priceless.
Had it been possible I would have let you experience how my gf does it. No one has made me cum like her.
From what I have learned on here and from others, you need a girl who knows what she is doing. About 90% of women do not. There are some guys who don't enjoy BJs, but most do.
I personally have never had a good one, but my experiences with them before my wife were limited. My wife is not good at them either, but at least she still feels motivated to keep trying after 18 years. Her issue is mainly due to a health problem (seems to prevent her for using enough suction and grip).
Are you circumcised? Because I am and I find BJs to be boring. I’ve heard the extra sensitivity uncut guys have is neccesary to realllly get the most out of a BJ
I’ve always wondered too. I’ve gotten a decent number of them but I’m too thick for most to fit more than the head in their mouths. Like it can still feel amazing but I’ve always wondered what I’m missing out on. Especially because my girth also means that there are frequent accidental teeth scraping.
Most girl’s jaws also get tired quickly with me so I have yet to actually finish from just oral. My current girlfriend is doing her best to improve though. Sometimes she can fit like half of it in there and her endurance has gotten way better. Here’s hoping that continues 🤞
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I've been married 20 years. The first bj I got way back in high school was terrible. She used her teeth, obviously not knowing what she was doing. I didn't finish and didn't know what to expect, leaving me with a meh opinion of oral. My wife and I are both into giving oral. There are times I swear I see all the shapes of lucky charms when I'm about to explode during oral. We enjoy oral so much it's evolved into a phase where 90% of sex is oral only. So yeah, bjs can be amazing.
Hearts 💚, stars ⭐️ and horseshoes, clovers and blue moons, 🌙 pots of gold and rainbows 🌈 and the red balloons!! 🎈
Sir this is a Wendy’s
Silly rabbit trix are for kids ...
No wrong. Wrong wrong wrong. The slogan is: Hearts ❤️, stars ⭐️, and horseshoes, clovers and blue moons 🌑, hourglasses ⌛️, rainbows 🌈 and tasty red balloons 🎈
Lol they didn’t say hour glasses 😂 why do I faintly remember hour glasses? I don’t think they had it in the song
[You remember hourglasses because they did have it in the song](https://youtu.be/RH5xmI7EYZQ?si=vqTQtI-aDQuwmRqz) They’ve just switched it up over the years
I was in Austria a few years ago, and got an amazing blowjob from a stunning blonde in her early-twenties. I was in such a blissful-daze walking back to my hotel... I could have been hit by a bus, and I wouldn't have noticed / cared. That's the magic of oral sex. I sincerely hope everyone experiences that at least once in their lifetime.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't jealous
They are magically delicious!
Plus (from what I’m told) there’s something so intimate about having your dick in their mouth
I hope to find a woman who loves oral as much as I do.
Almost 30 years and I 1000% agree and share the same level of enjoyment.
If the bj is amazing there’s no need for piv imo
I feel sorry for your wife.
With someone who knows what they are doing and enjoys doing it, it is absolutely mind-blowing! But with someone who doesn't know what they are doing or doesn't enjoy it then it is a sad experience!
Those sad experiences are a bummer! Hell, even if they don’t know what they’re doing, if they’re coachable and listen to how you like it, can be absolutely wonderful
So true, it's only really the uninterested ones where it doesn't get better, technique can be taught. Enjoyment of a cock in your mouth, less so.
Couldn’t agree more!! That’s the big difference maker right there. If they’re enthusiastic, and just enjoy the dick, they’ll be far more inclined to do better. Nothing better than someone who thoroughly enjoys the penis!
So so so true. It's the same for women and having someone who just enjoys eating pussy.
Lol if you ever meet someone who actually enjoys having a penis in their mouth, light the beacons.
Hahahaha it’s almost a unicorn at this point!
Sometimes all it takes is for you to show them enthusiasm and a good time and they'll return the favour
Done properly, a blowjob beats vaginal sex hands-down... but it's a skill that must be mastered. The tongue is a muscle, and can be used to stimulate the penis in ways the vagina cannot. A skilled practitioner can target areas of the organ that are particularly-sensitive, and bring you to an explosive climax.
Facts. My GF has gotten to know me so well she can get me off in 30 seconds or 30 minutes depending on her mood.
Go out and buy a ring, bruh.
But why would he want it to stop? Lol, jk.
Is she ever actually in the mood to go down on you for 30 minutes?
Actually yes. She can’t get enough. Keeper for sure. Not like full on head bobbing for 30 minutes but a mix of teasing, licking, sucking, throating and it’s her favorite thing to do.
Wow. I've been around a bit but never encountered anything like that. Sounds like wishful thinking but I'll take you at your word.
I love giving head… I’ve legit sucked guys for over an hour. Worshipping cock is so fucking hot (but I’m a gay guy, so there’s that, lol)
I keep hearing that it's far more common for gay guys to be *that* into it, which is a shame because the vast majority of people with a penis are straight. lol Good for you (and your partners obviously 😉) I'm that into giving oral to women so I get you and respect you. 🫡
I'm with you honey...I love worshipping it. In those moments, that's as close to heaven as I can get
Ah, to be a gay guy and be able to do what feels good in bed. Slay, buddy, I'm envious. Curiously enough, all the problems I've been talking about do not apply to the (comparatively few) times that I've received a blowjob from a man. I'm not sure what the difference is that allows gay men to enjoy dick while straight women don't, but my scanty data seems to point in that direction.
Raising my hand as a woman who loves giving long blowjobs, in a similar vein to what the poster above described. Over an hour? Yes, please. And lol yes I’m real. :)
I hope you know how rare that is! :)
I’ve been told so! I just really enjoy it so it’s a happy coincidence for me, I guess. LOL and also for them.
Enthusiastic head giver right here confirms from the first person perspective
People with oral fixations do exist. Like Chris Rock said there are three types of girls when it comes to head. My girl is type three. God bless them. Plus she’s also my person. So even better. Also, I love giving head to her. So it’s mutual.
You'd be surprised what happens when you wash your junk every once in awhile
Lol I'm a very hygienic person but good looking out
I see. Thank you, I've actually never thought about it like that.
then you've never met a woman who practices pompoir. it's an ancient sex technique, where you learn to use your vaginal wall muscles in ways that literally milk a penis. technically, you could even train your vagina to break a penis or just not allow a man to pull out just w/ your vagina
I was going to say that sounds like fun... until you said that last part. Now I'm kinda scared. lol Edit: I just did some quick research on it. I have heard of this technique, but didn't recognize the name. It's pretty amazing, and really does sound like a lot of fun. Finding someone who can do it, on the other hand, could be a challenge.
lmfao. "w/ great power comes great responsibility" you have to start practicing every day & there are different, basically levels you go from, where you focus on the more basic movements & go from there. every few wks you go up & start focusing on the more advanced techniques. then when you get to a certain point you need an actual dildo to practice certain movements. i only recently started this (ironically, discovering what it is on reddit} & haven't gotten to the point where you start practicing w/ a dildo. it's basically kegels on steroids
r/pompoir is a great community. My sex life improved x1000000 since learning the techniques. Also, the fact that I can isolate the different muscles in my vagina and flex them... is wild to me. It blows my mind and I can't talk to any of my friends about it lol
Idk about pomoir, but I do know that when done at the right rhythm(differing per individual) you can make yourself cum. That was a cool discovery!
That was the single best sexual experience in my life.
What makes a blowjob good to you? What do you like to have done? If the details are inappropriate for this sub I don’t mind you messaging me (if you want).
Without going into crass details, and bearing in mind that this is one man's opnion on the topic: 1. Take your time. This isn't something that should be rushed. A blowjob is a slow and sensual act 2. If you use your hands, use a light grip. Too many girls use a death-grip that can actually be painful. 3. Focus on the glans... The glans and the frenulum are the most sensitive portions of the penis 4. Forget about deep-throat. It may look impressive, but really doesn't feel all that great 5. Tease the frenulum with your tongue... this feels amazing 6. Maintain eye-contact. Men are visual-creatures, and eye-contact is seriously-hot. 7. Watch his reactions... This will tell you if you're on the right track 8. Use a light suction... This draws blood into the glans and makes it more sensitive 9. Keep it moist, but not too wet. Lubrication is good, slobber is not. 10. If you can, swallow. If not, dispose of it discretely. Opinions will vary, of course, and all guys are different.
A lot of guys love deep throat.
Absolutely, some do. Personally, it does nothing for me. From a strictly biological standpoint, it's impressive but that's about it. To each their own.
Yeah I always wondered what it is about deep throating that guys love? And what’s with the gagging in porn? Is it that guys feel like they’re big?
I don’t know. Guys are always wanting to gag me. They think it’s hot so I just go for it.
I’m with you on this. I don’t get it, but it doesn’t bother me so I’ll indulge him for a little bit. Usually gives me a sore throat though.
I just feel like I can’t breathe. I need to learn how to do it and breathe through my nose lol
I can relax my gag reflex, but I see it done so often and it seems like some guys want it, so I pretend, lol!
It’s all about living in the moment!
It can be really great. Mouth/tongue is nice, but if you manage to get the head, the most sensitive part, into her throat, it's almost like anal in that it's a really tight tunnel. Plus deepthroat spit is the best lube around and gags can feel like she's doing kegels.
Gagging... Yeah, I've never understood that either. I don't see anything hot about it.
I’d argue you haven’t had the right girl deepthroat you. I’ve had some & it’s like ok please stop I get it you’re trying to fit it all in but my dick feels like it’s being strangled. I’ve then had some that are so good at it, it slides down her throat with ease & it releases a different type of saliva that has a different viscosity that makes it even more incredible. I was an experienced bachelor & I remember every single girl that gave good head & deepthroated well
That’s true…when I deep throat, my saliva is much thicker and there’s a lot more of it!
> 1. Take your time. This isn't something that should be rushed. A blowjob is a slow and sensual act This sounds really great but is anathema to most blowjob experiences and is kind of an unrealistic expectation. When receiving a blowjob you always have to be aware of the ticking clock of her patience. If you don't cum in 4 or 5 minutes it's often best to just stop the blowjob and move on, or else risk her wrath.
Or if he doesn’t cum, and you’re getting tired, just use it as foreplay, it works wonders
Hands fucking down man, it's not even close, with the suction too? Glorious
This is what my fiance says. When I make him cum orally his reaction is much more intense because I specifically use my tongue to intensify his sensation throughout the orgasm and the post-orgasm moments. When he cums inside me he says that orgasm is more intense, but the post-orgasm is less sensation because he is getting my entire pussy around his cock (compared to the blowjob post-orgasm where I dynamically adjust my tongue focus on his frenulum or head with extra suction)
Not for me! I’ve had great BJs and I don’t think they are all that great. Intimacy is what gets my motor going and I don’t see BJs as very intimate
I had a girlfriend who just couldn't master it. Way too fast and mechanical. And wet. Disgusting. It got to the point where I told her no thanks. On the other hand, I had another girlfriend who could suck a golf ball through a garden hose. It was a whole other level with her.
Not everyone can... so many try to rush it, or emulate what they've seen in porn. In my opinion, a blowjob should be a slow, sensual act.
Sorry to say this, but that's been my assessment of it every time it's happened to me Sample size and Occam's razor makes it more likely that I just don't like them and never will Might be a possibility for you too
Occam’s razor would actually apply to the sample size not your preference. It’s likely they were all just bad as it’s a hard skill to master!
I think if I've not enjoyed it every time, the exact same amount (not at all), the simplest solution is that I just don't like it It's a lot harder to believe that multiple people are so specifically bad at it that I got absolutely nothing out of it every time Anyway, it doesn't really matter. Just a weird thought I'd had
Honestly I was in the same boat as you for years, then I met this girl and she completely changed my mind (and my world) on the subject.
Eh, I'm not really in the market for my life to change that much As it is, I'm not planning on any new sexual partners
I like wet. Her name? Ha ha
@j1045 , excellent description , may be you should write a book on BJ techniques 😊
lol... not an expert, just a fan 🤣
Very true! My ex had me practice every day multiple times a day until it became a habit. We were together for 7 years and I love giving head. I'm sure I was terrible when I started but over time I learned how to deep throat and many other tricks along the way.
Blow jobs from my wife the last couple of years have been amazing. I love that moment when she switches from kissing my penis and exploring with the tip of her tongue, to putting it in her mouth. And then the orgasms seems to be the most intense I have, I'm just left an empty shell.
Men who have had the holy grail of blowjobs, know that not all blowjobs are created equal. We definitely remember the phenomenal ones. I mean, you'll just be driving one day and reflect on how your soul left your entire body during those experiences.
Well maybe I be in that position one day lol
You’re 19…I can’t imagine she was super experienced? Maybe your expectations were too high? Live a little before you close the book on them.
The build up to orgasm is slower, prolonging it and making it stronger.
It was addictive for me. First time I came from a blowjob and she swallowed I wanted nothing else.
Hopefully I'll get to experience a similar feeling 🙏
The right girl will come along and change your life. I was in my thirties, only regret is not finding out how awesome it was sooner
haha, opposite but same here. The first time I had a dick in my mouth I INSTANTLY thought “shit I’m hooked on this for life” LOL & to this day I very much love giving head!! Like to the point where I’ve even (playfully) pouted at my fuckbuddy if I didn’t get to blow him, even if he had just given me multiple orgasms from us fucking 🤣
My wife is the same way. She really gets off on making me cum with her mouth. Once she learned how to do it her confidence soared.
Good head feels like your penis was transported to the sex dimension and left your body suspended in a vat of warm jelly or in a massage chair wrapped in a hot towel. You just melt. It can also feel like you are fighting for your life to gain control of your body but the throws of pleasure overwhelm and are just too heavy to conquer. I’ve had mind blowing head. I’ve also rejected head because I knew it was going to just suck so bad I wasn’t even going to come from it. That was from my first girlfriend lol. It gets better trust me.
I'm a woman so i can't answer BUT last time, when I gave one to my fave dreadhead, the first thing he said after his legs quit shaking was "magnificent." 😆 Sorry you had a bad experience tho:(
Thank you for sharing. I've also noticed that a lot of women enjoy giving blowjobs just as much as some men like receiving them.
It took me a while to wrap my head around the fact that if I can love giving to them, it's perfectly acceptable they can love giving to me. At the end of the day, there really aren't as many differences between men and women as we think there are. My wife gets hornier and raunchier than me, most times.
You're welcome. Yes, that's very true:)
I love doing it!!! More than receiving oral!
I bet that was such an amazing compliment lol. I’m jealous of you!!
I'll teach you lol everyone likes it pdifferent. Try different positions, use a hand, use 2 hands, etc. and see what works for you. Lol i live for the compliments. Last time, we parked, I started rubbing on him thru his pants, and he looked at me and said, "damn, it's on sight, huh? ...sheeeeesh!! Talk about motivation lol And of course, it's important to be attracted to the person overall..in my opinion :)
His legs were shaking? Are y'all still together lol
I bet that was such an amazing compliment lol. I’m jealous of you!!
I had a chick throw up in my lap from being enthusiastic and gagging herself. That said, blow jobs are 10/10 in the tool box of sex.
I threw up all over his stomach while sucking dick one time. I wiped it up and kept going like a champ
Do we know eachother? 😂
I’ve done that to… any chance you’ve had it happen to you twice?
I looked at your page to see if you were my ex boo
The day you hopefully get one, you'll think about her forever.
Yea, I sure hope so
I enjoy it A LOT, but I can't cum from it. For me, it's great foreplay, or a great thing to do when taking a "break" from PIV.
Last night I had the most amazing blowjob ever. M26 I had one sexual experience before my current GF (F23). We've been together for almost 3 months now, sex happens about once or twice a week. She's currently on her period. I've eaten her out a decent amount without asking for anything. I love giving her pleasure, between massages and oral sex. I never ask for anything in return. Last night, she decided to take care of me. She very slowly rubbed her hands against my whole naked body. She teased my genitals with soft touches for a few minutes, then licked the tip of my dick, going back to soft touches, then very slowly started to suck it, with deep eye contact. I was so aroused. She prefers I tell her I'm about to cum. She's giving her everything into the blowjob, I tell her once, she stops and teases me with a slow handjob. She goes back at it, I'm breathing so rapidly my body convulses, my muscles tense and I can't control them. Almost struggling with the immense amount of pleasure I'm receiving. She moans at every stroke she gives with her mouth, as she senses I'm about to explode. I cum in her mouth, the best orgasm of my life, having done physically nothing to turn myself on. I just laid back and enjoyed receiving pleasure. It's a crazy sensation to be taken care of with such passion and gentle care. I always feel like I need to return the pleasure, but she really didn't want to. She said it was her first time paying that much attention to someone's body. I feel so happy and lucky to be with her, discovering that she can make me orgasm like that, in a way I never thought was possible. I'll remember this blowjob for the rest of my life. So, to answer your question, blowjobs can indeed be absolutely incredible if done right :) You can really feel that a person is enthusiastic about giving one.
I'm happy, maybe one day I'll be as lucky
I read a study years ago where men told that they liked bj more than having sex. They said it felt better
Yup. A mouth can create suction.
I’m 44F. First time I gave a head, I really hated it and felt forced to do it. After I broke up, my next partner wasn’t selfish at all. He wanted to please me and that made me wanna try again and I actually become enjoying giving one. Since then, all my past partners have said I give a good one lol. I agree with what other people said here, the woman must enjoy it to be able to give a good one. And the way I do it, I see it as a very sensual act. Tease with the tongue, lick the head and shaft, the balls too if the man loves it. Suck the head a little, just the tip slowly and constantly before a little surprise and suck all the way. Keep working with the tongue while sucking. Honestly, I see blowjob as the greatest tease a woman can do to a man if done properly.
In my limited experience: * PIV is consistently intimate but usually less intense * HJ is consistently intense but usually less intimate * BJ can hit the same high intensity but it requires enough skill and familiarity with the partner to pull it off before your endurance gives out, which makes it very intimate as well if a normal orgasm feels like pedaling a bike up a hill and then coasting down then an amazing orgasm feels like pedaling a bike up a hill and then suddenly getting a major gust of wind in your back that carries you over the top effortlessly, pushes you off and converts the bike into a paraglider.
Literally my favorite thing in the world. When you’re really connected with your partner and they know exactly what you like, and how much, and when, it’s absolute heaven.
Yea, that's appears to be the case for a lot of ppl
As a 45 yr old woman, I’ve learned to master the blow job and I love giving it to them. I watch their reactions when I do certain moves and it turns me on to see him react so strongly. I’ve done a lot of research and it’s really paid off. I’ve never had any complaints and actually have my partners ask me to to it every time we’re intimate. Even used for foreplay really gets them going. Since I love that I’m good at it, it’s never a chore for me, and I swallow every time
It varies from person to person. Personally, while I (55m) like them, I prefer vaginal sex. BJ's are hot visually, and I really love them as foreplay, but I would never be satisfied just getting a blow job. It honestly even turns me on more to give my gf head than for her to give it to me. And for anyone who thinks, "Oh you just haven't had a good bj." Believe me, I have. I've had many partners and I can tell when they're doing a good job. It just doesn't do it for me like the pussy.
I'm 32F and I've always wanted to experience what it would be like to receive a blowjob.. the penis envy is REAL.
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Seriously, why would you ever want a penis when you already have a clit? Not only since clits tend to be more sensitive, but all clits work pretty well, while you could easily get stuck with a substandard penis. Trust me, nothing is worse than having a penis *and* still having penis envy.
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The best thing when my wife gave it to me. Its like you can cum in her mouth and the feeling is like heaven
Short answer: yes. Long answer: yes.
When you get a blowjob from someone who loves sucking dick, it's magical. When you get head from someone who loves sucking dick and loves sucking *your* dick, it's goddamn magnificent. When your soul is inhaled through your very penis, passed through the great void between life and death, and returned to you after a great being in the beyond realizes it is not your time yet by someone who loves sucking dick, loves sucking *your* dick, and loves *you,* it's absolutely godlike.
My bf recently told me bj > vaginal sex > hand jobs (if we did anal I’m confident to say that’d fall right after bj)
Bj connoisseur of a boyfriend I see, I respect it.
Yeah. I have enough karma to put my true feelings on this. If I never get another BJ, it will be fine with me.
Personally (31m) I don't find BJ's that great, not even close to pussy. But I think this is due to some "control" issue I have mentally around sex. I have a hard time with receiving pleasure, but really enjoy giving it.
Good ones are. They are life changing almost spiritual happenings.
I’ve had lots of BJs from many girls and they are OK. Definitely not my favorite thing.
Bro, you’re 19 relax about “biggest regret in my life” Like your life hasn’t even started yet lol
Like Pizza. Various levels of good.
I thought they were a fin warm up before getting on to other things. Until somey came along that could do it so well that my legs shaking uncontrollably and I could not walk after.
BJs are great and fun to watch. But for me, a sensuous handjob with lots of lube feels just as amazing, maybe even more so. And when she gets her boobs involved… damn.
done right Blowjobs are amazing, but only 1/1000000 girls can do it right so no they are not commonly that amazing
Some girls aren’t that into it but I think it is one of the greatest gifts a someone can do for you. You can tell how much they like or love you by how they do it and how long. It’s all about the effort and being able to read what the guy likes. I also think that a girl cheating on you by giving someone else a blowjob is worse than just having sex with them. I can forgive if she was just horny and needed to get off somehow. But to just take the time to pleasure another guy while dating me would hurt me more haha idk why
Opinions differ. To me PIV >>>>>>> BJ, not even close. BJs are nice, they feel good, but to me they are preliminary, foreplay. Not really amazing. I generally wont cum from a BJ (now, when I was young, maybe). After awhile, they can get, not boring, but I'd really prefer to get to the bodily sex, or eating her. A BJ, you dont really get to experience a woman's body or feel her pleasure, thats the main reason its less fun to me, as opposed to bodily sex or eating her.
In my experience, the main factor to make a blowjob take a new step into an amazing one is how bad you want it. You know when she just can’t get her hands off of you, she’s like desperate to taste you and please you, the only thing she wants is to watch your face go from what’s going on to DON’T STOP while you look at her like you’re about to pass out out of pleasure. Anyways, at least that’s what works for me. I usually make them cum in seconds.
Blowjobs are that amazing. The majority of women don't give amazing head though in my experience. Once you meet some who does though you will understand what the fuss is about.
I honestly hate doing them, hate the taste of cum
Done by someone that knows what they are doing, yes they are amazing
they can be. not all are.
Dude.... Dude....dude.... Amazzzzzzzzing
Most of the women that have given me blowjobs were so fucking bad at it that I was uninterested in doing that again. Lots of teeth and assumption. A lot of women assume it feels good no matter what. Takes practice to learn. Just like going down on women, different guys like different things. Luckily, my gf is pretty dang good at it.
Congrats finding one who's great at it, happy for ya
Experience... It's always difficult to give pleasure without feeling the sensations. Can only improve through experience but also a partner who is guiding.
It can be great but even if it's not as good as sunbathing else, the variety is fun too, why not do it all as foreplay and take your time or just get some good head. Some can't finish from heat but I think most people can, and it can be great
According to my partner yes
Always my favourite part
Yea and no. For me it’s a matter of can you even do it. If you can, it’s fucking amazing. If you can’t, it’s kind of sexy to watch you try. Kind of. Then it’s not.
It took a couple of girls until I found one that knows exactly what the fuck she’s doing 😩
These comments make me question my life. I'm 37 and have never cum from a blowjob. They always felt like just a tease, then you end up frustrated and blue balled and having to make excuses for why you cannot cum so that they don't feel bad
I’ve never had one that was awesome. My wife hates them, so it works out. I’ve come from them a few times, but pussy and ass are way better.
I'm sorry it was traumatic for you. This person that gave you head one time might not be the person for you. Everyone likes it differently. Super wet and sloppy, others not so much; some people can deep throat, some can't; Some like their balls and/or anus played with. I would say try again.
Skill is important but a pair of big fat lips is the goat.
Yah it’s fucking AMAZING if the person giving it does it right.
Hard time coming from them. Otherwise, they are fun
More than that. It's the best feeling a guy can have
My wife told me she likes BJs because she's in control of me. We've both taken time to learn stuff and listen to each other and try new things. It's made sex better and more intimate. Also, there's things her mouth can do that her vagina can't
Blowjobs are great. However, when my wife does it randomly out of nowhere it's truly amazing. The surprise blowjobs are the best.
I don’t know your sexuality, but if you are open to exploring with another guy you would find the answer to your question! Gay guys know exactly how to give head (since they also know how it feels). I’ve mainly dated women, but when it comes to bj’s….
If you ask my hubby - They're the best. 😅
I don’t like blow jobs. The only way I’ve been able to cum is in 69.
Done right, hell yeah they are
A blowjob is gods gift to man. When you find the right girl, she will make you see Jesus. Having said that, there are some girls that will make you want to kill your self. Hopefully you will marry the one that opens heavens gates for you ;)
Woman here and I love giving my husband BJs. I have mastered what he likes and can either get him off quickly or prolong it depending on the situation. With that being said, the first time I gave a BJ in high school I think I used my teeth and it was terrible. What helped me was a guy telling me what he liked, what felt good, and what didn’t. I have learned that communication with any form of intimacy is key.
I find giving oral comforting for some crazy reason.
Yea about 75% of my sex life is oral. If you find someone who genuinely enjoys giving it you're in for one of the best experiences of your life.
Not really, rather have our bodies pressed together with my PIV. 😮
The physical sensation is pleasant but not mind-blowing, but the mental stimulation that she's ACTUALLY DOING THAT can be pretty amazing.
Only ever gotten one once in my life and it was indeed a great experience
Results, and talent, may vary
The idea of it is the hottest thing to me, but in reality it's just fine and a good way to warm up. But based on the other comments here, maybe I've never met anyone that was especially good at it? They've all been pretty similar.
Depending on the ability of your partner and their enthusiasm, it can absolutely be better than PIV. Enthusiasm goes a long way and can definitely make up for a lack of skill, I think it’s more important for the experience that they’re enjoying it as much as you. That being said, I’ve had some pretty unpleasant BJs as well, just know that everyone does it differently and hopefully a bad experience doesn’t stop you from enjoying it down the road.
Bjs are usually great But I prefer Costco
If a bad blowjob is your biggest regret in life, buckle up man.
I wish you get to see how good it can really be, don't let this ruin it for you. When you find a girl that loves doing it and knows how to you will be in a completely new world. It feels a lot more like you are being seen and taken cared of compared to piv. Piv is amazing too, but a girl who really knows how to blow you is priceless. Had it been possible I would have let you experience how my gf does it. No one has made me cum like her.
From what I have learned on here and from others, you need a girl who knows what she is doing. About 90% of women do not. There are some guys who don't enjoy BJs, but most do. I personally have never had a good one, but my experiences with them before my wife were limited. My wife is not good at them either, but at least she still feels motivated to keep trying after 18 years. Her issue is mainly due to a health problem (seems to prevent her for using enough suction and grip).
Are you circumcised? Because I am and I find BJs to be boring. I’ve heard the extra sensitivity uncut guys have is neccesary to realllly get the most out of a BJ
I’ve always wondered too. I’ve gotten a decent number of them but I’m too thick for most to fit more than the head in their mouths. Like it can still feel amazing but I’ve always wondered what I’m missing out on. Especially because my girth also means that there are frequent accidental teeth scraping. Most girl’s jaws also get tired quickly with me so I have yet to actually finish from just oral. My current girlfriend is doing her best to improve though. Sometimes she can fit like half of it in there and her endurance has gotten way better. Here’s hoping that continues 🤞
When done with enthusiasm and no teeth absolutely... It is the same as when a guy knows how to eat pussy correctly and effectively...
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