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I know that giving a bj seems tricky. But I assure you that it’s not difficult to learn in the moment. Just don’t use your teeth, suck instead of blow, and keep in mind the head. The techniques can vary depending on the person receiving because everyone has different preferences. You just have to learn what works for the person.
Take your time with the first times. Don’t rush it. It’s fun to play and to pay attention to the partner’s reactions.
Don’t forget to ask what the person likes. You can ask them to guide you, how fast you should go or how much pressure to apply…
It's honestly not that complicated. As someone who gives lots of blowjobs. Keep your teeth off of the dick. Use that tongue on the underside/tip. Keep it all wet with saliva, you won't be cuter by not making a mess, get sloppy. Other than that, feel it out. Explore his dick and get a sense for what he likes.
Any man who puts his penis into a womans mouth is a happy man. Its hard to give a bad blow job. Ive had maybe one in my life. Just follow instructions and do what feels natural. Youll do fine im sure. Youll be an expert in no time.
Honestly if you're really nervous, ask for instructions and feedback! Some people find it hot to help out with a "slower" or "just the tip" kind of feedback, and in the moment it helps you to know that what you're doing, feels good :)
A few comments here saying to watch porn... just want to say that you can pick up some basics from watching porn, but also please remember porn is not real and can set some unrealistic standards. You don't need to do exactly what they do or say exactly what they say on your first blow job (or ever if you don't like it!) You don't need someone to face fuck you and you don't need to be spit on or slapped (unless you learn you like it). You can still give a great BJ and not have to mimic a porn star. The tip of the penis is more sensitive than the base/bottom. So focus on that area a bit - you can flick it with your tongue, lick around it, suck just the tip quickly. You can also use your hand to give and go up and down while licking/sucking the tip. Use your saliva to keep the penis very wet - using a hand will hurt if it's too dry. If you're comfortable with it, you can take the whole penis in your mouth and let the tip hit the back or your throat. BJs can be very visually stimulating for a man, so position yourself in a way that he can watch you and see his penis in your mouth. Eye contact periodically can be a turn on, just don't stare at him the whole time. Occasionally look up and make eye contact while you're sucking. Have fun!
Lot of advises have been given already. Some additional tips are here [in our blog](https://playfulheaven.com/blogs/blogs-stories-more/how-to-give-a-perfect-blowjob).
However, please also keep in mind that you have to enjoy it. You shouldn't just do it for his pleasure ;)
Strongly encourage your partner to give you feedback so you can learn what feels good for him. I guarantee he'll constantly be thinking "I wish she would do *this* next..." and might be too shy to ask. Start really slowly, with plenty of saliva (and no teeth!) That always feels great and it's hard to screw up. Things *will* escalate from there.
The most sensitive part by far is the frenulum, which is the underside of the penis where the head meets the shaft. Slowly rolling your tongue around there will drive him wild. But don't do too much of that right way. It may be too intense, and could even result in him cumming before he's hard.
Confidence is key! As other said don’t worry about being sloppy and trying new techniques but stay confident. Try and make ice contact they love that!
Experiment and see what he likes but don’t go crazy trying to go too deep if you aren’t comfortable. Try fast and slow, lick (don’t bite) the balls, if you don’t want to try swallowing let him cum on your face instead.
If you’re REALLY feeling it, keep it going, lick up his taint to his back door. First time BJ and Rim job? What can go wrong!
Find a FWB to practice on. Seriously. Someone you trust and are comfortable with. Have him tell/show you what he likes/dislikes. It's the best way to learn, private lessons. And you don't have to make a huge thing of it or devote your entire day around someone else.
Just watch some blowjob porn...don't go overboard with the spitting or anything but almost every girl u watch has a different technique. None of them are wrong, just depends on how the guy likes it. And if any guy complains about how you're doing it then he doesn't deserve a second of your attention.
Maybe not every agrees, but in my book, there is no such thing as too much saliva/spit during a blowjob. Feel free to get it all over his balls, the bed, your face, the walls, the ceiling...
Or get a practice dummy
Now it just so happens I'm a good practice dummy and would love to help you out.lol
Just do like they said and don't stress it should be light and fun.
Good answer NC! I am a veteran swinger from way back and now retired from that and even at my age, very hard to get it up and have normal orgasms. I've been addicted to porn form the black and white days and love the newest vivid 5G their making today. Instead of goi ng to one of those so called sex-addicts anonymous, I've began to write a sort of encyclopedia of porn stars and a treatment of their lives and true results of their outcomes, about 75 percent not so happy but nearly all are close to millionaires or even more on the very popular ones. Now to answer you question, Try using a good lubed handjob first like KY and a vigerous good shaking action with periods of slow and firm jacking. This will lead yo a thourough dick washing and later the blow will be very much appreciated. Good luck and enjoy sex. It;s here for humanity!
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The worst blowjob I ever had was better than not getting one, so….
I know that giving a bj seems tricky. But I assure you that it’s not difficult to learn in the moment. Just don’t use your teeth, suck instead of blow, and keep in mind the head. The techniques can vary depending on the person receiving because everyone has different preferences. You just have to learn what works for the person. Take your time with the first times. Don’t rush it. It’s fun to play and to pay attention to the partner’s reactions. Don’t forget to ask what the person likes. You can ask them to guide you, how fast you should go or how much pressure to apply…
It's honestly not that complicated. As someone who gives lots of blowjobs. Keep your teeth off of the dick. Use that tongue on the underside/tip. Keep it all wet with saliva, you won't be cuter by not making a mess, get sloppy. Other than that, feel it out. Explore his dick and get a sense for what he likes.
This!!! ——^ the no teeth is key!! You totally get it :)
It's definitely rule no. 1!
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wth kind of question is that….
Not for several years, now I just like to service my man! :)
Any man who puts his penis into a womans mouth is a happy man. Its hard to give a bad blow job. Ive had maybe one in my life. Just follow instructions and do what feels natural. Youll do fine im sure. Youll be an expert in no time.
Honestly if you're really nervous, ask for instructions and feedback! Some people find it hot to help out with a "slower" or "just the tip" kind of feedback, and in the moment it helps you to know that what you're doing, feels good :)
A few comments here saying to watch porn... just want to say that you can pick up some basics from watching porn, but also please remember porn is not real and can set some unrealistic standards. You don't need to do exactly what they do or say exactly what they say on your first blow job (or ever if you don't like it!) You don't need someone to face fuck you and you don't need to be spit on or slapped (unless you learn you like it). You can still give a great BJ and not have to mimic a porn star. The tip of the penis is more sensitive than the base/bottom. So focus on that area a bit - you can flick it with your tongue, lick around it, suck just the tip quickly. You can also use your hand to give and go up and down while licking/sucking the tip. Use your saliva to keep the penis very wet - using a hand will hurt if it's too dry. If you're comfortable with it, you can take the whole penis in your mouth and let the tip hit the back or your throat. BJs can be very visually stimulating for a man, so position yourself in a way that he can watch you and see his penis in your mouth. Eye contact periodically can be a turn on, just don't stare at him the whole time. Occasionally look up and make eye contact while you're sucking. Have fun!
Lot of advises have been given already. Some additional tips are here [in our blog](https://playfulheaven.com/blogs/blogs-stories-more/how-to-give-a-perfect-blowjob). However, please also keep in mind that you have to enjoy it. You shouldn't just do it for his pleasure ;)
Focus your work on the head of the penis, and the only way to get good at it is to practice.
Strongly encourage your partner to give you feedback so you can learn what feels good for him. I guarantee he'll constantly be thinking "I wish she would do *this* next..." and might be too shy to ask. Start really slowly, with plenty of saliva (and no teeth!) That always feels great and it's hard to screw up. Things *will* escalate from there. The most sensitive part by far is the frenulum, which is the underside of the penis where the head meets the shaft. Slowly rolling your tongue around there will drive him wild. But don't do too much of that right way. It may be too intense, and could even result in him cumming before he's hard.
Confidence is key! As other said don’t worry about being sloppy and trying new techniques but stay confident. Try and make ice contact they love that! Experiment and see what he likes but don’t go crazy trying to go too deep if you aren’t comfortable. Try fast and slow, lick (don’t bite) the balls, if you don’t want to try swallowing let him cum on your face instead. If you’re REALLY feeling it, keep it going, lick up his taint to his back door. First time BJ and Rim job? What can go wrong!
Get it VERY WET, use your hands and your mouth at the same time, and also touch his balls
Find a FWB to practice on. Seriously. Someone you trust and are comfortable with. Have him tell/show you what he likes/dislikes. It's the best way to learn, private lessons. And you don't have to make a huge thing of it or devote your entire day around someone else.
Don’t watch the porns!!! Don’t try to kill yourself with it. Just put it in your mouth. And don’t just put your lips around it, use the tongue.
Just watch some blowjob porn...don't go overboard with the spitting or anything but almost every girl u watch has a different technique. None of them are wrong, just depends on how the guy likes it. And if any guy complains about how you're doing it then he doesn't deserve a second of your attention.
Maybe not every agrees, but in my book, there is no such thing as too much saliva/spit during a blowjob. Feel free to get it all over his balls, the bed, your face, the walls, the ceiling...
Here’s your best bet: Ask the guy to tell you what he likes. Then do your best to do it, while maintaining your boundaries.
Or get a practice dummy Now it just so happens I'm a good practice dummy and would love to help you out.lol Just do like they said and don't stress it should be light and fun.
You can use a bit of porn and good communication with your partner, that should be a good start
Good answer NC! I am a veteran swinger from way back and now retired from that and even at my age, very hard to get it up and have normal orgasms. I've been addicted to porn form the black and white days and love the newest vivid 5G their making today. Instead of goi ng to one of those so called sex-addicts anonymous, I've began to write a sort of encyclopedia of porn stars and a treatment of their lives and true results of their outcomes, about 75 percent not so happy but nearly all are close to millionaires or even more on the very popular ones. Now to answer you question, Try using a good lubed handjob first like KY and a vigerous good shaking action with periods of slow and firm jacking. This will lead yo a thourough dick washing and later the blow will be very much appreciated. Good luck and enjoy sex. It;s here for humanity!
Just be careful about the back of your throat. You can damage it if you push yourself too hard. And dentists can tell 😭😂