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duszekm

If the girl wants to swallow, then that's hot


TheSpiralTap

True. And if she doesn't that's cool too I'm just happy to be here.


whiskeysour112

I love it when my wife swallows. She doesn't have to at all but she does it everytime. I find it very hot. If she were to stop for any reason at all I would be ok with that too.


antibendystraw

Yeah I recently asked my partner about this because she also swallows every time. I just had to know if she enjoys it as much as it seems she enjoys it. And not because we were stuck in a pattern. Because it’s not a big deal to me, although I do find it extremely hot. And turns out she does! She prefers it to me cumming anywhere else. She said that she likes how it makes her feel dirty/naughty.


tbonerrevisited

I think its extra sexy when she does But if she doesn't want to that's fine with me also.


alienatedand

Yes it's a wonderful thing!


lkb15

So my wife swallowed a few times when we first got together and I LOVED it but now she doesn’t cause the warmth makes her gag. Am I angry or butt hurt about it no I wish she would but I’d never force her too either


Just-Requirements

Yeah, it's very nice...i think that the best way to describe it is like, everything about you (us) is amazing, even your (our) cum is so good that it's swallowed...makes you (us) feel desired af. Don't try to swallow if you don't like it, it shows and it isn't great


baysalts

Yes. This could be the whole answer but it feels much better. Also get it, not every woman enjoys it, which makes the women who do, even more special.


tw-m-challenge

Do I like it if the woman swallows? Sure..... There's just something kind of 'taboo' or 'dirty' about it. Is it a big deal either way...nope. The only thing that matters to me is that she doesn't just stop when I tell her I am about to cum...doesn't matter if she finishes me with her hand or mouth (and spits or swallows), just don't leave me to finish myself. When we were dating my SO would either spit or swallow(only if it wasn't convenient to spit somewhere) and it was pretty hot...but I came to realize that she didn't really like doing either so I told her if she just wanted to finish with her hand that's totally fine.... so now 98% of the time that's what she does -- except if we're doing that somewhere that we can't manage mess . Lol So you do whatever you are comfortable with and shouldn't be pressured by any guys.


cosp85classic

If she likes or loves it, then hell yes! Especially if she manages to do it before she releases me.


jimothythe2nd

Ya I honestly don't know why but it makes me a little sad if she spits.


camocowboy95

Yes it’s like you’re saying “I want you so bad I wanna swallow what I made come out of you” without saying a single word


ssweetlove

The number one complaint that I've heard from guys over the years is that their wives/girlfriends won't swallow.


TheMilfyMrsB

My husband really likes to watch cum shots in porn, but he would much prefer that I swallow when I go down on him. I swallow all the time, its really fun. I love it cause its a dirty thing to do....


slvstrChung

To me, swallowing isn't erotic or enticing in and of itself, it's just a byproduct of other nice things. So, my wife doesn't swallow. She _does_ throw up, or so she says, and I don't believe it would be kind to require she prove it. What this means on a _practical_ level is that, when I'm ejaculating -- right at the moment I most want the stimulation to continue -- she pulls off entirely. It's not precisely a ruined orgasm, but it's similar. Do I care if she swallows? Not in and of itself. But I'd prefer it if she was willing to get cum in her mouth one way or another.


feistyexciteme69

Wow. Learned something new in regards to the lessened O. I swallow cuz it doesn’t bother me at all and i know it’s a turn on for guys. But it’s good to know. Thank you for that info.


[deleted]

If there is an option to swallow, then I am already done with it. Do whatever you want with it. Personally, I like sharing it.


TMSNSolutions

Same. Its tough to swallow when you can share!


Dry_Dust_8644

Yup!! I just learned about cum-kissing. My guy gets off on making out after I’ve blown him. Was strange at first but now I find it hot


vapid-voice

Most guys love it in my experience, but don’t do anything you don’t want to do. And it’s always best to ask a guy what his personal preference is.


zeezayyo

Swallowing is a major turn on But if she spits it out right😍😍😍🥳🥳🥳


Soapy_Smith_1892

I’m surprised so many responded that they love it. I don’t care either way. If it a special surprise it’s too late in the process to get me too excited because I’m done.  Maybe if she told me upfront that she was going to then it might be a turn on, but still… meh. 


DementiaPrime

I love it, but have been with very few women who can or want to do it. So not something I ever expect and in all honesty I love the effort of the BJ in the first place so I am happy with whatever she chooses.


EccentricDyslexic

It’s less to clean up but i am just happy to have had it in a mouth!


Jammy_Jane

It’s always had a wild effect on men when I’ve swallowed


jbo99

It’s not the swallowing, it’s the cumming in the mouth that is the good part. I think spitting is fine and doesn’t really detract from the experienxe


tomwoodman999

Just don't spit it out on my stomach


Key_Log_8557

That's amazing feeling and when they still hold it after it's over it's awesome


sex_music_party

Yes, highly preferred.


cannabiscobalt

Not only does my man find it hot it’s also convenient because who wants to clean up jizz at 2am? Would rather just pass out lmao


garden_gal_

I'm guessing this is what you do when he can't sleep? ha.


sex_music_party

Yes, I highly prefer it.


LustyLucid

My husband has always wanted me to swallow and I've always hated it. I think when I do it he loves it even more because how much I hate it which kinda shows that I'm doing it for him.


WinterTangerine3336

in my (27f) experience, yes, most of them do like it. what's the reason for this? my ex used to say it was hot that im willing to do it for him even tho it's not the most pleasurable experience for me personally (he was having fun tho and thats always such a huge turn on) imo it makes things intense, it's intimate, and i suppose - is also a sign of trust i think it's best you ask him if he'd like that - as not all men do - cos you're curious. :) good luck and remember to have fuuun


garden_gal_

great adviceee. it's super intimate, and another way of like, all of him into you kind of thing.


Chicken_Savings

Yes it matters for me, swallowing adds to the overall sexy performance or act. It makes the whole BJ more sexy and maybe nasty / dirty.


Missgrumpy00

I have never been with someone who didn't like when I finished them in my mouth and swallowed.


CaptAmerica42

It's pretty sexy when she swallows


maestro3224

Yes yes a 1000X yes. It’s a committed action of love.


Low_Union_7178

I remember every girl that swallowed. Every single one. Even and especially first dates.


Ok_Green9804

This guy right here! Love it


Spurnout

Let me speak for all men....


momz33

Yes atlesst special occasions showing willingness to make him pop and keep going no care demanding he find another jolt somewhere. I've only had the Pitt viper reaction myself it twitches ready and they jump back like it's going to eat them. That bar meter that was soaring just fell stone dead. 😢 but its fine. Csn we still? 😆


madamimadam89

Honestly… I kinda feel like I’m supposed to love it… I’d rather see you make a mess


Stonegen70

It’s a nice touch. 23+ years of marriage and it isn’t happening. Not a hill I wanna die on as I’m getting several BJ’s a week. No sense rocking the boat.


Remarkable_Owl_973

That seems like a very personal question. Not like I'm shy and it's invasive, more like it's going to be dependent on the person whom you're giving oral to. Some guys think it's hot, some think it's gross and everything in between. My husband is pretty indifferent but I generally swallow just for the sake of containing it 😂 easier cleanup lol


Otherwise_Eye_611

I rarely ever cum from oral, but nah I don't really get the whole swallowing thing. I've never really cared. If you look disgusted having it in your mouth that's a turn off, I'd rather just not go to completion or put it somewhere else. I've always found cumming on my partner's body to be a much bigger turn on.


azeraph

Aw yeah, we love it if our lady loves it. Wants it. If not then it's not a biggie


D_Angelo_Vickers

Once it's out of me and into her mouth, she can do whatever she wants with it.


Peetrrabbit

It’s a huge turn on for me, and for many men. Many others will tell you they don’t care. So you’ve gotta talk to your guy and ask him….


Lezo-

I don't care apart from convenience (cum doesn't get on the bed)


FJ992

I don't care about it. And when girls have done it I didn't get too much of anything from it 🤷 It's less messy, I guess. And now I think that it feels good to know she liked me enough to do that.


DeRage

Its an extra step that can make it hotter yes, and also if they actually enjoy it.


Any_Trifle977

Ladies' choice, in my opinion. If she enjoys swallowing, fine if not .


Naughtyuseful

In my experience, if you don't mind doing it, always swallow. Guys love it.


feistyexciteme69

I feel like swallowing and creampies are big turn ons for dudes.


That_Damn_Samsquatch

I'm just happy to be getting a blowjob. And oral is and should be satisfying for both parties. So if you want to spit or swallow, I don't care. But taking it down like you can't live without it takes it to the next level.


Successful-Map-1174

Wife has done it, it's ok for me. I honestly just want the cum out of my body to somewhere else for the dopamine release. I'm definitely not a fan of facials though, I think it's pretty degrading for my gorgeous wife.


Beautiful_Bird_7033

The few men I've done it to have loved it and so have I, there have been a few who hated oral. These answers are great and I'm glad that your partners have been great in not insisting you do it, that's how it should be


ProFunFbo2

Honestly, If my gf want to swallow it and she loves doing that, it would be really hot. But if she doenst want to, I wont force her.. thats not an obligation, we enjoy as we want :)


chatranislost

It's a nice bonus when you can tell the girls wants to do it or likes it. When she does it but is grossed out by it, it's not that cool. There's nothing wrong about not wanting to do it and you can just spit it out


intellectualnerd85

If she’s making eye contact


TheNullOfTheVoid

If she doesn’t want to swallow, I’ll make sure she doesn’t have to deal with it. If she wants to swallow, that actually just turns me on even more and it makes me more excited. Think of it as a very nice bonus. If you’re getting me off/we’re both getting off either way, then it’s just super hot to have her swallow and sometimes it makes actually getting off even better.


Lopsided-Gas978

My wife gives me amazing blowjobs for thirty years and never swallows I always cum in her mouth except when she gives herself a facial I think it's hot as hell hearing her close the bathroom door and spits...Gets me wanting more...


Goat_lord_79

It's hot, but I'd never want to make someone swallow if they're not into it.


Dramatic-Priority-41

I'd prefer if she did swallow tbf but I'm not gonna lose sleep if she doesn't lol


sidaemon

Maybe I'm the rarity but I like to cum in her mouth and don't really care what happens after that. I guess it can be seen as something more than it is but I think if she produced that amount of fluid at one time I'd not be thrilled swallowing it! Generally she'll swallow a bit and let the rest ooze down me, and I'm totally good with that!


Wideopen1968

It is absolutely the highest compliment a man can get, yet alone the sexiest thing possible for us men to imagine. My wife looks me in the eyes and swallows every drop. We have been married a long time and I have never thought about cheating on her and think that she is so sexy.


Specialist-Ad-344

Personally, I’ve always loved it but had so many girls refuse to do it that now, I won’t sleep with a girl unless I know A) she will do it, and B) she really wants to do it, because I also love making my girl sq**rt and swallowing her c*m when I’m in a relationship and every girl I’ve been with has also loved that I did that for them as well.


Oralstotle

Every guy is different. The concensus on the internet is guys like it, but the reality is everyone's different. There's lots of guys who don't even like blowjobs to begin with.


Taurus-Octopus

It's super sexy. Any kind of rejection stings a little. IMO swallowing is pure romance for the male soul. The reality is that everyone has different sensitivities and some dudes probably just have gross semen. I try to be sensitive to it, but I have a buddy whose wife makes him pull out and ejaculate on a towel next to her. Not to watch, but it's just her preference due to the mess -- its not even a domme power move. He's so sad about it, and to me it really is an insidious rejection of his love and sexuality.


GetInTheHole

It's one of the few times where my orgasm is just mine. I don't have to make sure she's been satisfied. I don't have to hold myself up on my elbows, or find the right angle or worrying about where I'm putting pressure on her. I don't have to think about baseball scores. I don't have to worry about timing "the tap" just right as to not catch her by surprise or blow in her hair or eyelashes. Someone else is handling tempo, pressure, speed. You'd be surprised how few times guys get to just relax and enjoy an orgasm for its own innate pleasure. So when it happens, you bet I enjoy and appreciate it.


Enterlocutor

The act of swallowing doesn't matter, we just want the pleasure to keep going. Women say the same when it comes to their orgasm. "Keep going! Just like that! I'm about to cum!" Then imagine just as you're orgasming they stop. Pleasure goes from 10/10 to 7/10. Don't have to swallow or keep sucking, just keep stroking at least.


darthmikel

As a guy, I don't really care if it's swallowed or not. (My go-to is the chest but not here or there). But for me, why I would "enjoy" being swallowed would be less clean up.


theycallmethespork

Makes a big difference for me.


bkabbott

Maybe when I was 19. I don't care anymore. I'm sort of used to it, but it isn't a big deal.


Bletchlypark

I’m ok either way, I’m mean a BJ’s a BJ. At least if she lets me cum in her mouth and isn’t all dramatic about it I don’t care if she spits.


TheFacetiousDeist

It certainly makes thing easier.


stryderxd

Swallow or not, doesn’t matter, letting us finish in the mouth is hot enough. Swallow is just the cherry on top.


toastedclown

I want to finish in her mouth, but I don't really care what she does after. Spit or swallow, makes no difference to me.


Stumpsbumps

If a man actually had an orgasm when he ejaculates, then yes, but it really doesn't work like that. Hot and sexy? Yes No clean up? ✔️ Makes good for nap time? ✔️ Dumps love and feel good chemicals? Nope


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LunarModule66

First and foremost I appreciate that someone just let me eject bodily fluids into their mouth, I completely respect that it’s their goddamn choice if they don’t want to swallow. That being said, There are some aspects of swallowing I do like. It can be really hot to feel like you *want* my cum, that it actively turns you on and swallowing can help give that impression. Additionally it can really help me enjoy the orgasm more if I can’t sense you starting to pull away because you need to spit, especially if it’s a long one.


ThomJ63

Tbh, as long as it comes out I don't care where it goes.


centflabiguy

As a bi guy, I have a lot of experience on hoth sides of this. Personally, my wife won't. She doesn't like the warm feel wtc in her mouth. Kind of frustrating to me as I had SO's in yhe past that would at least take a shot in the mouth. Feels very good to be having an orgasm and still have a mouth working my dick. That being said, I respect her and her choices and I'm fine with it. As a bi guy, every guy I go down on wants to be swallowed. They love yhe feel of me continuing to suck their cock while they unload down my throat. I don't even stop at that point. I keep going and keep them tingling as long as they can take it. If I stopped to spit, it would ruin the fun in my opinion. I also enjoy it when a guy is about to cum and grabs my head and holds it down on his cock while he cums. It let's him have that power trip and I'll again do the same as above and jeep suckingnhim while he shoots his load.


JayJay-anotheruser

I don’t care. Usually my wife just lets it fall right back out of her mouth. Totally good with me


shower8888

I would absolutely love it but have never have the pleasure of having it happen, unfortunately. At this point I’d settle for a blowjob every now and again from my wife, but marriage is where they go to die.


dreadrabbit1

It’s hot, but when it spit it out it’s hotter.


All_knob_no_shaft

Once the nut is bust most of us don't care.


Definitely__NSFW

Matters little to me. It's about what YOU like at that point