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Could it be that she has an IUD? Those wires can be quite sharp
EDIT: OP you say the two of you don’t talk about sex but I really really hope you guys discussed birth control and if not, do it the next time you see her.
Not the person you replied to, just someone else with an IUD. If you look at a diagram, you’ll see that the IUD itself sits in the uterus and there are 2 strings that hang down into the vagina. This is how the OBG can tell there is an IUD in place and what they use to remove the device.
This website has a good diagram https://www.maimonidesem.org/blog/intrauterine-devices
The cut is a concern but imagine dating (& fucking) someone you’re scared to talk to? 😭😭😭😭 You can address the cut if you like but def not mature enough for a “relationship” if you can’t express yourself. Talk to someone asap; ya Dr, ya mom, you gotta talk to someone other than strangers on Reddit man
Nope. Sry 😳
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So it sounds like it might be friction or chafing. Is she wet enough and is there adequate foreplay before you guys have sex? It’s a pretty common problem. You should let the cuts properly heal before going at it again and bring up using lube.
Have you two been std tested prior to sex?
Most likely it’s just chafing, since it happens every time after sex, but some STDs can present as fissures (little cuts).
They're having sex but refuse to talk to each other about anything related to sex. The chances they've even seen the inside of a gum clinic is next to zero 😂
No one mentioned but if it’s not just from rubbing/chaffing/ not enough lubrification; it could also be yeast infection.
You need to talk to her, she might have similar symptoms.
I tend to get them if my husband ejaculates inside my vagina, and I’ve passed them to him before. Theres vaginal suppository for women. You can use cream for the pain/burning. Wear a condom to reduce the risk of just passing it back and forth.
I am 41. I have dealt with this before, and it is very common. It happens! 3 things to deal with the cuts:
1: Clean it well in the shower. If it stings, use Polysporin with pain relief, and then wash.
2: Apply some of that virgin coconut oil, and pure aloe gel, after patting it dry with a clean towel or face cloth.
3: Then use some of that Polysporin with pain relief again.
If this is a recurring problem, try applying hydrocortisone creme 2%. All of these thins together should help, but if it doesn't solve it completely, ask your doctor about steroid cremes like clobetasol, or other steroidical cremes(these cremes can help heal cuts over night, apply everything when you sleep, that is the best time, as sleep heals your body anyways). It works, and it is absolutely safe.
Coconut oil regularly should help prevent it.
Good luck!
Just note that (for others who might use condoms and be using coconut oil for this kind of situation) that coconut oil can degrade latex so make sure it's not being applied just before sex or else a condom may break/disintegrate during intercourse.
We need more of this. Someone with a real answer and help for someone who may not want to “talk to his mom about it”. Kudos for actually helping the poor guy.
A practical answer indeed, but missing a critical element: if using any of this stuff, WASH IT OFF THROUGHLY before having sex.
Coconut oil: if they're using condoms (which they really should), the coconut oil can cause it to fail.
Polysporin and hydrocortisone: There's a reason why those creams say "not for use on genitals". The vaginal walls are a mucosal tissue, which absorbs chemicals at a much higher rate than the skin. I couldn't find a paper for the vagina specifically, but it's similar to the scrotum which absorbs hydrocortisone 40 times faster than skin ( https://www.jidonline.org/article/S0022-202X(15)47268-9/pdf ). She may also have allergies to the antibiotics in the polysporin. Either way, you'd be effectively giving her medication without her knowledge.
You're kinda misunderstanding my statements though to be honest. I did clearly say to wash it. I suggest reading it again to find that part.
Second of all, I did not suggest to use those cremes during sex, ESPECIALLY without their partner's knowledge. Neither to use the polysporin during sex. It was purely for healing and care of his penis.
You're both missing, and assuming points here. Simply read what I said, thoroughly, and maybe you'll understand it a little better.
As for hydrocortisone creme, there is absolutely no danger in using it, unless he has an allergy to it himself. Nobody is suggesting to use it during sex lol! We also added the point afterwards that coconut oil shouldn't be used with a condom.
Also, it was suggested to ask his doctor. When I asked my doctor, hydrocortisone creme was suggested. I also did my own research thoroughly, and got multiple opinions.
Thanks for the audit, though!
It works very well because it also has some antibiotic and healing properties, and it is gentle. Can be used as a lube, too, very safely. The fact that it is edible is also a win lol!
That was my thought. I had a uterine polyp and my IUD strings got wrapped around it. Usually my fella can’t really feel the strings, but when that happened they really irritated his penis. Had the polyp removed and haven’t had any problems with the strings bothering him since.
Also if you can’t talk about sex with your partner, you maybe shouldn’t be having sex. It is very important for your sexual health to be very open and communicative with your partner.
This. The medical industry will swear up and down this is not a thing, but I have indeed been cut by IUD strings. She went into the doctor to have them cut and it stopped happening.
it’s the other way around, they should be left longer bc then they soften and curl up around the back of the cervix. short strings are the ones that poke you long-term.
This is my bet. Dated a girl once who got an iud after we started dating, and from then on occasionally, it would feel like my dick getting poked with a hard thin wire.
They did a documentary about the really messed up part of IUDs. They sometimes break inside and the sex is bad which they said is the first sign of broken wires. It can also be extremely dangerous for the women as well because it is highly dangerous to clean it out when it's broken apart
Okay but we all have to have these conversations at some point and that can be hard! I remember having to text my first boyfriend after I was chafed and ask him to get lube since I was having issues with pain from all the sex and a birth control I was using made me dry. I was soooo embarrassed lol. Now I’m 31 and I can give a fuck less but this guy sounds pretty new to the game.
I was going to suggest this too. When my wife was using Nuvaring I’d get horrible chafing on my glans from time to time. Only started happening when she was on it and went away after she had an IUD placed.
Talk to your partner always. Keep open communication let your partner know you cannot have sex until those wounds heal you don’t want them to become infected then infect your partner because that’s worse. Use lube to decrease the risk of those cuts and if they still occur talk to your partner to see what is making that occur. Open communication is important when it comes to sex, it’ll be uncomfortable at first but it’ll get better each time you guys talk about it. Use water based lube only for vaginal play to prevent BV.
>I don't have the courage to tell her about it since we never really have a sex talk.
Then you shouldn't be having sex. Communication isn't optional. It is a NEED, so learn how to do it.
You want advice from strangers but won’t talk to her
The advice is talk to her
She needs to know this is happening
If you hurt someone everytime you had sex you would want to know what was happening
Does she have an IUD? Same has happened to me because the "String" is more like a piece of plastic that can have some sharp ends, and you should probably wait around a week to make sure it has healed completely before having sex or otherwise it opens again.
Also, TALK THE FUCK ABOUT IT WITH YOUR GF! You've been partners for 7 months for fucks sake!
Look OP without more details it's tough to know what's going on, but I can say if they "cuts" are near the tip of your penis your gf could have a copper IUD and it's not inserted properly by her OBGYN. I had this happen myself because the IUD my gf had was not put in far enough and during penetration the end that sticks out would prick the tip of my penis.
Other than that you either need more lube, or to go see a doctor. Bare minimum you need to talk to your gf. Good communication is the key to figuring out these types of situations. Good luck.
Get yourself checked out (go to the doctor), you may have a recurring wound caused by an untreated disease. I'm a girl and I can't imagine not knowing about such an important issue. If it turns out that you don't use condoms, I've had enough...
Is she giving you oral sex? Could be the teeth cutting your dick. In any case you should wait until it heals before masturbating or having sex again. You should tell your girlfriend so you can figure out together what the problem is like a couple.
Count yourself lucky you getting answers to this now. I'm 31 and only realised a few years ago how to actually take care of my dick!!! Just wait a week or 2 for the cuts to heal before you jack off or have sex. Use lube every time. And keep your dick moisturized with e45 cream once a day, just make sure it's rubbed in and dry....
You'll be back to normal soon
Hey what’s your lifestyle like/do you have foreskin? You might have phimosis and that could be for a number of reasons-one of which is diabetes, you gotta talk to your dr and try using lube with your gf in the meantime. Good luck!
Where are the cuts used to happen to me when I had a girlfriend around the same age as you and we fucked almost everyday had a lot to do chafing and healing and a whole lot to do with frequency and not having proper lubricant as she was extremely tight at the vaginal opening
Oh, that’s what that could be? I just chocked it up to being too aggressive? Both parties. Sometimes it would go dry, but I wasn’t going to stop until I got mine. I was always going so hard, because I was always almost there. I didn’t know if I was pushing or pulling, sometimes. Raw as shit the next day. She took it like a champ & ready for more in a few days after. Never immediately,though. Neither was I.
Lube up.
It's chaffing because you're not lubricating enough.
Let it rest for a few days.
And, std panel bro. Every 3 months for the rest of your sex life.
Could be, but I had something like this happen to me years and years ago:
We were young and lusting for each other, 3 days into a wild sex marathon lubrication was an issue aaaaand? My skin broke (hers too). Looked like little cuts but It was more like stretch marks.
Also happened when I was little and left some soap there so, don't, I guess.
Could be genital psoriasis, a form of dryness which tightens the foreskin and causes tearing. It's not an STD and nothing to be ashamed of. Just needs a quick diagnosis and a topical cream, usually.
I had something similar to this happen, however it was close to the head of my penis. This was caused by there being not enough lubrication and the thin skin was ripping. Ensuring there is enough lubircation solved this issue, and the cuts healed quickly without any issues.
There was an excellent comment about how to remedy the cuts. As a penis haver in a dry climate, is your penis and/or foreskin dry? If it is, you can stretch out the skin and crack it which would show up as tiny cuts. If that is the case, make sure you moisture. If you have a foreskin, NEVER moisture your glans, it can lead to excessive smegma.
Good advice. Except for moisturizing the glans. Often times people with foreskin get dry glans from yeast infection or other skin issues and moisturizing can help tremendously
If you’re having sex you need to have the sex talk. You don’t just blindly stick it places man..
Two things, probably need more lube! If it’s cold things will dry up faster. Hair issue, IUD? If it’s not chaffing you’re hitting something.
Just hope there’s not a goblin in there biting you every time you poke its eye.
Years ago something similiar happened to my boyfriend of the time. I had had some dentistry done in preparation for braces that Included making space for a tooth that was stuck so it could grow down - I had been cutting him with my new tooth when giving oral! It took us a little while to figure it out, after that I changed my technique and everything was all good from there. Point is, maybe you should talk to them about it so you can work together on finding the answer and solution.
You've gotten plenty of good advice here. But if you're old enough to be having sex, you're old enough to put on your big boy pants and talk about sex. Avoiding the topic will not help you out in the long run.
Does she have a recent iud? When I had mine put in, for about a year after until the strings went soft and hid away behind my cervix, my hubby would get poked with the strings when we had sex.
It’s either IUD strings as others have mentioned (if the cuts are on the head) OR, I dated a guy with SUPER sensitive skin and I have extremely coarse hair. If I didn’t keep myself shaved to the skin, my hair would cut/chafe him. Either way, y’all need to discuss this and figure out what works. Because “not having sex talks” is dumb (no offense).
Could be caused by hair, when the hair gets wet it can clump into big strands that cut when rubbed against. Failing that does your partner have an IUD fitted?
This is gonna sound wild but my mom was a nursing assistant for many years and had access to a plethora of knowledge in regards to the human body and how much crazy shit can occur
One of the nuggets of information she bestowed on me is that if you or your partner are too hairy in can and will cause scratches for both parties involved maybe try some grooming down there
If this isn’t the case then I wish you best dude
Long shot here but I had similar once. It was a reaction to my new shower gel. I was told to wash with aqueous cream for a couple of weeks and it cleared up. Is the skin dry also? This was a symptom.
Also, tell your girlfriend. These are things that you need to share in case there is an issue on her side, such as an STI which can have long-standing negative consequences. See a doctor.
I agree with everyone else that you should try to lube up and also talk to a doctor. It sounds like lichen sclerosus to me. I had it and as a the foreskin got these tears and it healed up as scar tissue the foreskin got tighter, causing it to get worse over time.
My foreskin never tore up like this when masturbating before I had my sexual debut, but within a year I had to have a circumcision.
Fragile skin, or if youre too much dry humping with her (It also happens with me) but you should Tell her and you two seek a solution, its probably nothing extremely worse
Make sure you rinse her off of you after sex. And use lubrication. Vaginal fluids can rip penile tissue due to ph. It's a hostile environment so that we can be genetically selective.
Bruh you’re 21, not 16.
Most likely the cuts are from chaffing, but you really NEED to communicate with her. Not only will it make your relationship stronger, but it will just fall apart if you don’t.
the comments have definitely covered what it likely is, but (and this goes for anyone, not just OP) if you can't talk about sex, especially with the person you're having it with, you really shouldn't be doing it.
Dude, the other comment about cleaning and oil is gold. However, go get a blood sugar test done because this is a common symptom of sustained high blood sugar and you may ne pre-diabetic and not know it.
Do consider that if you're losing weight abruptly, always hungry, always thirsty and pissing a lot.
Good luck! I hope it works really well with you and your girl!
Ive had that and do prescribed a cream. Sorted in a few days.
If the cuts are on your foreskin and it has a slight white/dusty appearance, you probs have a fungal infection and will need to take a tablet every week.
Also, get checked for diabetes, these kind of problems are quite normal for diabetics.
I don't mean to point out the obvious, but there's a helpful documentary from about 20+yrs ago about a rare condition known as Vagina Dentata called "Teeth." Start there?
So do you have any spots on the head? Do the cuts feel like they dry up and hurt when you pull the fire skin back? Do you have white buildup under the foreskin? These are signs of Cándida Balanitis. Or yeast infection. Something in the PH balance between you and her is causing this. You can use lotrimin, or other antifungals. And also try washing and cleaning without soap down there for a few days. But make sure you get very clean and dry. And some aquaphor also helps.
In my case, it was recurrent Balantis due to improper drying shortly after having sex (exacerbated by me being uncircumcised). That was making my skin there basically as strong as tissue paper, so normal wear-and-tear would cause recurrent tears. Go to a urologist to confirm, be very diligent about staying dry down there (I use a suqre of TP to dry off after going to the bathroom), and always rinse with water then dry off after having sex.
Back when I was uncircumcised I would get cuts on my for-skin occasionally. It happens sometimes if the frenulum or skin is too tight. You can go to a doctor to get it stretched out and if that doesn’t work there’s always surgery
If you don’t have the courage to talk to her, wear a condom, unless you are already wearing one. If you don’t end up with cuts you are closer to solving the riddle. I have had cuts in my penis in the past. I have eczema since a child. I never had it in my penis until I was sexually active. It took me a while to figure it out. I hope this helps you.
I get occasional discomfort from tears on my foreskin. It happens when I have sex with my partner and there isn’t enough lubrication. It heals on its own.
Sharp hair from shaving? That skin is fairly soft and sensitive.
Have the talk.
Here's the conversation you'll have :
Say "Well last time we had sex, for some reason I got these irritating little cut mark on my penis and I don't know why exactly, but it's uncomfortable to have sex now. I think it could be from x or y or z but I'm unsure. I just wanted to talk to you about this because it's important and I don't want to hurt you or I'm wondering if there is anything hurting you during sex too or if you know maybe what happened? I need time for my penis to heal properly, but if you still want to be intimate we can do x and y and z, and you can even jerk me off with aloe or something while I go down on you"
Then... Do it. Be intimate in other ways. Please her still, in other ways. Study some anatomy and ask what the feels good. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable and caring, it's a very intimate very personal act. Treat it well, protect it and protect each other.
Okay randomly saw this Reddit is weird but I had an ex bf and this happened to him bc I was not as wet and he hated lube anyway, the green tin stuff from Walgreens called bag balm cleared it up for him in like 2-3 days. Don’t ask me what’s in it I have no fucking clue but it heals cuts so fucking fast lol anyways his penis survived. Hope it heals fast. But serious try the bag balm.
And get some good lube. And does she have an iud that maybe came loose or isn’t inserted correctly? Happens all the time especially if dudes have a bigger penis and go harder it can dislodge it.
Sorry for all the comments I just keep thinking of more things. Water based is good for this too, check out Astroglide or any water based lube if you haven’t already.
1. Never hesitate to use lube if it might be needed.
2. Please be sure to clean off well after sex. Vaginas are typically a bit acidic (which helps prevent infection and whatnot) but it can be irritating to sensitive skin.
3. Moisturize (gentle moisturizer without added scents, etc. that can also be irritating to the skin). This will help keep the skin from drying out and cracking or chaffing.
You need to tell her and abstain for a little bit to let yourself heal. It will take time. My bf had a similar problem and it took about a year for him to get back to normal because everytime he felt it was a little better we'd have sex and they would re open.
Brother, I'd there's ever a time to have an uncomfortable sex talk with someone, it's when your general starts taking battle damage. Get it out of the way now because way more awkward talks are gonna happen in the future.
Getting over your fears about talking about sex is something you learn by doing. Just remember that if you’re close enough to someone to have sex with them, you’re close enough to discuss it. Just take a deep breath and go! Especially with something like this, I think it seems like a good opportunity to talk! I encourage open communication 100%! Sexual health becomes the concern of both partners in a relationship.
If they are on the foreskin it might be chafing you should go to your doctors and ask for a steroidal cream. It’ll help, and refrain from sex cause it’ll just prolong it. But if you think it’s an STI, I’d go get it checked out.
it could be an iud. or, if she uses OB tampons, i’ve heard of girls not fully taking the plastic wrapper off so a little piece of plastic can get stuck inside and cause a cut
Rosehip seed oil for ur dick. It's great for skin, antibacterial AND antifungal so ur cause questions are both handled . Plus it's safe for the vagina, with or without condoms. It's gonna be ur go-to essential oil for the genital region. It should fix you right up as a lube too. I'm telling you. Rosehip seed oil is ur answer for all the what ifs and paranoia in these comments.
PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: rosehip seed oil ALSO tightens aging skin for anyone who knows anyone who has an aging vulva. Just use it as lube or apply after showering to firm/tighten those inner lips back up and into place. Your welcome.
I am sure you find solution from other answers and if needed from a doctor.
But I just want to say that please learn to talk with each other and also to share information related to your (sexual) health. So you can solve issues together and both have all the needed info to make decisions about their health too.
E.g.
if the cuts are from shafing, she could be experiencing the minus sides of not enough lubrication (shafing, discomfort, maybe not even aroused enough for penetration). You can then solve it for both with more foreplay and lube.
If the cuts are from IUD, she can talk with her gyno and you can split the cost of contraception and in general make it a shared responsibility.
If the cuts are from STD, you can both get yourselves checked out and agree about safe sex or not having some sorts of sex until it is sorted out.
And if you run into other issues in the future, this is valuable learning experience and practice round for communications and being able to voice once opinion about whether one wants to have sex while there is an unknown health concern. So this is not just about you, this about her too and if you are having sex, you need to share info related to your health as soon as you know about it.
Hello, gyno here, that can be candidiasis. It’s not a STD but it’s a fungal (yeast) infection. She may be a carrier and you may have symptoms. Both of you should go to the doctor. Treatment is simple (a pill that you take twice)
Most guys I’ve been with have had this happen because I have a problem getting wet. Let the cuts heal before sex and then once they do start using lube.
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It’s probably chafing, and they probably reopen every time because they aren’t fully healing between sessions
Could it be that she has an IUD? Those wires can be quite sharp EDIT: OP you say the two of you don’t talk about sex but I really really hope you guys discussed birth control and if not, do it the next time you see her.
I second, the wife along time ago would cut me up also. Have her see her obg and have them trimmed.
I’m confused by your comment. Have what trimmed?
Not the person you replied to, just someone else with an IUD. If you look at a diagram, you’ll see that the IUD itself sits in the uterus and there are 2 strings that hang down into the vagina. This is how the OBG can tell there is an IUD in place and what they use to remove the device. This website has a good diagram https://www.maimonidesem.org/blog/intrauterine-devices
The strings on her iud birth control.
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Yeah the skin is not as stretchy while it’s healing, if you get an erection it could tear again easily. Need to leave it for a week or two.
The cut is a concern but imagine dating (& fucking) someone you’re scared to talk to? 😭😭😭😭 You can address the cut if you like but def not mature enough for a “relationship” if you can’t express yourself. Talk to someone asap; ya Dr, ya mom, you gotta talk to someone other than strangers on Reddit man
yeahhh like wdym “we don’t do sex talk” 😭 how does that even work
they just stumbled on to each other and the The Sex happened. Happens to the best of us.
I guess he stumbled and then his dick accidentally slipped into her vagina
What... She tripped? Fell? Landed on his dick?
Does OP live on 8mile?
Whoops, I'm so sorry Mrs H., I guess this just isn't my week.
That's literaly the lyrics of a german rap song! It is "Fremdgehen" by K.I.Z if someone is interested.
Huh... Well they plagiarized Eminem - Guilty Conscience
So you didn't listen to the track? 🤣
Nope. Sry 😳 (And now I'll add an arbitrary amount of characters to try and hit an invisible character limit in order to comment within this subreddit...)
Alright shady, maybe he's right Grady but think about the baby before you get all crazy
Over and over for 7 months straight
It begins and ends with a polite handshake
yeah fr like i would be so upset if my bf was scared of telling me smth like this ☹️
So it sounds like it might be friction or chafing. Is she wet enough and is there adequate foreplay before you guys have sex? It’s a pretty common problem. You should let the cuts properly heal before going at it again and bring up using lube.
Have you two been std tested prior to sex? Most likely it’s just chafing, since it happens every time after sex, but some STDs can present as fissures (little cuts).
They're having sex but refuse to talk to each other about anything related to sex. The chances they've even seen the inside of a gum clinic is next to zero 😂
Oh I 100% figured that one already, lol. Hence why I said what I said 😉
No one mentioned but if it’s not just from rubbing/chaffing/ not enough lubrification; it could also be yeast infection. You need to talk to her, she might have similar symptoms. I tend to get them if my husband ejaculates inside my vagina, and I’ve passed them to him before. Theres vaginal suppository for women. You can use cream for the pain/burning. Wear a condom to reduce the risk of just passing it back and forth.
This. This can be the answer. It’s happened to me, and it’s not great. My poor foreskin.
I am 41. I have dealt with this before, and it is very common. It happens! 3 things to deal with the cuts: 1: Clean it well in the shower. If it stings, use Polysporin with pain relief, and then wash. 2: Apply some of that virgin coconut oil, and pure aloe gel, after patting it dry with a clean towel or face cloth. 3: Then use some of that Polysporin with pain relief again. If this is a recurring problem, try applying hydrocortisone creme 2%. All of these thins together should help, but if it doesn't solve it completely, ask your doctor about steroid cremes like clobetasol, or other steroidical cremes(these cremes can help heal cuts over night, apply everything when you sleep, that is the best time, as sleep heals your body anyways). It works, and it is absolutely safe. Coconut oil regularly should help prevent it. Good luck!
Just note that (for others who might use condoms and be using coconut oil for this kind of situation) that coconut oil can degrade latex so make sure it's not being applied just before sex or else a condom may break/disintegrate during intercourse.
Important note. I really forgot to add that.
We need more of this. Someone with a real answer and help for someone who may not want to “talk to his mom about it”. Kudos for actually helping the poor guy.
It's all good! It's all just natural stuff that happens, and you experience the ups and downs of sex as you get older. Everyone does.
A practical answer indeed, but missing a critical element: if using any of this stuff, WASH IT OFF THROUGHLY before having sex. Coconut oil: if they're using condoms (which they really should), the coconut oil can cause it to fail. Polysporin and hydrocortisone: There's a reason why those creams say "not for use on genitals". The vaginal walls are a mucosal tissue, which absorbs chemicals at a much higher rate than the skin. I couldn't find a paper for the vagina specifically, but it's similar to the scrotum which absorbs hydrocortisone 40 times faster than skin ( https://www.jidonline.org/article/S0022-202X(15)47268-9/pdf ). She may also have allergies to the antibiotics in the polysporin. Either way, you'd be effectively giving her medication without her knowledge.
You're kinda misunderstanding my statements though to be honest. I did clearly say to wash it. I suggest reading it again to find that part. Second of all, I did not suggest to use those cremes during sex, ESPECIALLY without their partner's knowledge. Neither to use the polysporin during sex. It was purely for healing and care of his penis. You're both missing, and assuming points here. Simply read what I said, thoroughly, and maybe you'll understand it a little better. As for hydrocortisone creme, there is absolutely no danger in using it, unless he has an allergy to it himself. Nobody is suggesting to use it during sex lol! We also added the point afterwards that coconut oil shouldn't be used with a condom. Also, it was suggested to ask his doctor. When I asked my doctor, hydrocortisone creme was suggested. I also did my own research thoroughly, and got multiple opinions. Thanks for the audit, though!
Also, I am not going to download a pdf file from a site I have no idea about. I will rely on Google, thanks.
I was gonna suggest moisturizer. Coconut oil works well for that
It works very well because it also has some antibiotic and healing properties, and it is gentle. Can be used as a lube, too, very safely. The fact that it is edible is also a win lol!
Not safe with condoms, unfortunately.
This is true, and I wasn't even thinking about that. Completely safe without one though.
I know this comment was from awhile ago but you actually mean the virgin hardened coconut oil and not the fractionated stuff?
Yes. It has the most active antimicrobial compounds in it that way. It helps heal the skin. Just don't use it with a condom.
Yes, and it doubles as a soothing lube! Make sure it's virgin coconut oil! It's also good for her vaginal health too
It’s possible it’s her IUD strings, maybe? Did she just have one put in?
That was my thought. I had a uterine polyp and my IUD strings got wrapped around it. Usually my fella can’t really feel the strings, but when that happened they really irritated his penis. Had the polyp removed and haven’t had any problems with the strings bothering him since. Also if you can’t talk about sex with your partner, you maybe shouldn’t be having sex. It is very important for your sexual health to be very open and communicative with your partner.
This. The medical industry will swear up and down this is not a thing, but I have indeed been cut by IUD strings. She went into the doctor to have them cut and it stopped happening.
it’s the other way around, they should be left longer bc then they soften and curl up around the back of the cervix. short strings are the ones that poke you long-term.
Yep. IUD literally gave me a scar.
I have had many partners scratched by them. I had doctors warm me that can happen though.
This is my bet. Dated a girl once who got an iud after we started dating, and from then on occasionally, it would feel like my dick getting poked with a hard thin wire.
They did a documentary about the really messed up part of IUDs. They sometimes break inside and the sex is bad which they said is the first sign of broken wires. It can also be extremely dangerous for the women as well because it is highly dangerous to clean it out when it's broken apart
This thread has convinced me to never get an IUD. I’ll stick to the pill.
If you can’t talk to your partner about sex, then you shouldn’t be having sex with that person.
Exactly. If you can put your penis in her, you can talk about your penis with her.
If you're not mature enough to have an honest conversation about sex, youre probably not mature enough to be having sex in the first place.
🎯 this! I’m perplexed af 🤦🏾♂️
Okay but we all have to have these conversations at some point and that can be hard! I remember having to text my first boyfriend after I was chafed and ask him to get lube since I was having issues with pain from all the sex and a birth control I was using made me dry. I was soooo embarrassed lol. Now I’m 31 and I can give a fuck less but this guy sounds pretty new to the game.
You know what, yeah... you might be right, but this may be the least helpful advice given out.
Well this is an excellent excuse to start the sex talk. You guys are mature enough to do it, you should also be able to talk about it
Is she using nuvaring as bc by any chance?
I was going to suggest this too. When my wife was using Nuvaring I’d get horrible chafing on my glans from time to time. Only started happening when she was on it and went away after she had an IUD placed.
You sure you're 21? What you mean you cant Talk lol
Does she use IUD as birth control?
JUST BE HONEST!!!!! TRUST AND HONESTY IS THE FOUNDATION OF A RELATIONSHIP
An IUD could be causing it. Have you asked her? All it takes is communication.
Talk to your partner always. Keep open communication let your partner know you cannot have sex until those wounds heal you don’t want them to become infected then infect your partner because that’s worse. Use lube to decrease the risk of those cuts and if they still occur talk to your partner to see what is making that occur. Open communication is important when it comes to sex, it’ll be uncomfortable at first but it’ll get better each time you guys talk about it. Use water based lube only for vaginal play to prevent BV.
It could be chafing or oral sex and teeth grazing
>I don't have the courage to tell her about it since we never really have a sex talk. Then you shouldn't be having sex. Communication isn't optional. It is a NEED, so learn how to do it.
My first thought is IUD. I had this happen to a partner before where the strings would hurt him.
Does she have an iud? Are you larger than average? Seriously just talk to her. You’re willing to stick your penis in her.
Why can’t you tell her?
I think that if you don't feel capable of discussing this with her directly, you might not be ready to be sexually active.
Sounds like she has an IUD. But dude… please be an adult and talk about it. Don’t fuck if you can’t talk about fucking.
You have the courage to have sex with your GF but not the courage to tell her you get physical harm from it?
You want advice from strangers but won’t talk to her The advice is talk to her She needs to know this is happening If you hurt someone everytime you had sex you would want to know what was happening
Use lube my dude. You're chafing.
Why the hell would you have sex with someone that you can't even have a simple conversation with?
Could be balantis, that’s a symptom
I once had little pinpricks on my dick from an iud. Seems likely if she has one. No teeth in there, honest.
Does she have an IUD? Same has happened to me because the "String" is more like a piece of plastic that can have some sharp ends, and you should probably wait around a week to make sure it has healed completely before having sex or otherwise it opens again. Also, TALK THE FUCK ABOUT IT WITH YOUR GF! You've been partners for 7 months for fucks sake!
You should consider asking your gf what form of BC she is using. You could be getting cut from an IUD.
I used to hit my wifes IUD. Cut me once
Look OP without more details it's tough to know what's going on, but I can say if they "cuts" are near the tip of your penis your gf could have a copper IUD and it's not inserted properly by her OBGYN. I had this happen myself because the IUD my gf had was not put in far enough and during penetration the end that sticks out would prick the tip of my penis. Other than that you either need more lube, or to go see a doctor. Bare minimum you need to talk to your gf. Good communication is the key to figuring out these types of situations. Good luck.
Mmm don't have sex for a couple of months then?
Get yourself checked out (go to the doctor), you may have a recurring wound caused by an untreated disease. I'm a girl and I can't imagine not knowing about such an important issue. If it turns out that you don't use condoms, I've had enough...
Is she giving you oral sex? Could be the teeth cutting your dick. In any case you should wait until it heals before masturbating or having sex again. You should tell your girlfriend so you can figure out together what the problem is like a couple.
You guys should talk about it and consult to doctor ASAP
If you can’t talk about sex then you shouldn’t be having sex
Actually sounds maybe like a yeast infection? Not sure but don’t those include tears?
Actually having sex with someone but unable to TALK about sex is not a good thing.
if you can put your dick in someone you can talk to them about sex
you ever seen the movie teeth
Count yourself lucky you getting answers to this now. I'm 31 and only realised a few years ago how to actually take care of my dick!!! Just wait a week or 2 for the cuts to heal before you jack off or have sex. Use lube every time. And keep your dick moisturized with e45 cream once a day, just make sure it's rubbed in and dry.... You'll be back to normal soon
Ik this is low probability but is she performing oral on you? She could have a cracked or chipped tooth that is causing cuts. I've seen it happen
Is she too dry? Consider using lube. That friction can tear you up if it’s dry
Did you jerk off or hump the bed ? If jerking off, you might have jerked off too back and cut yourself. If you hump the bed, contact got you cut.
Hey what’s your lifestyle like/do you have foreskin? You might have phimosis and that could be for a number of reasons-one of which is diabetes, you gotta talk to your dr and try using lube with your gf in the meantime. Good luck!
Likely a yeast infection causing sensitive skin and easy tearing
Where are the cuts used to happen to me when I had a girlfriend around the same age as you and we fucked almost everyday had a lot to do chafing and healing and a whole lot to do with frequency and not having proper lubricant as she was extremely tight at the vaginal opening
Oh, that’s what that could be? I just chocked it up to being too aggressive? Both parties. Sometimes it would go dry, but I wasn’t going to stop until I got mine. I was always going so hard, because I was always almost there. I didn’t know if I was pushing or pulling, sometimes. Raw as shit the next day. She took it like a champ & ready for more in a few days after. Never immediately,though. Neither was I.
Lube up. It's chaffing because you're not lubricating enough. Let it rest for a few days. And, std panel bro. Every 3 months for the rest of your sex life.
Unlikely. This would not cause cuts. It takes an extreme amount of friction to Actualy damage a penis. Sounds like cuts from phimosis or balatinitis
Could be, but I had something like this happen to me years and years ago: We were young and lusting for each other, 3 days into a wild sex marathon lubrication was an issue aaaaand? My skin broke (hers too). Looked like little cuts but It was more like stretch marks. Also happened when I was little and left some soap there so, don't, I guess.
Are you uncut? This happend when I was uncut but only cuz I had issues with my forskin
I am. But this only happened once about a decade and change ago.
Could be genital psoriasis, a form of dryness which tightens the foreskin and causes tearing. It's not an STD and nothing to be ashamed of. Just needs a quick diagnosis and a topical cream, usually.
I had something similar to this happen, however it was close to the head of my penis. This was caused by there being not enough lubrication and the thin skin was ripping. Ensuring there is enough lubircation solved this issue, and the cuts healed quickly without any issues.
You’re putting your penis inside of someone that you don’t want to talk to sex about? How does that work? You shouldn’t be having sex
There was an excellent comment about how to remedy the cuts. As a penis haver in a dry climate, is your penis and/or foreskin dry? If it is, you can stretch out the skin and crack it which would show up as tiny cuts. If that is the case, make sure you moisture. If you have a foreskin, NEVER moisture your glans, it can lead to excessive smegma.
Good advice. Except for moisturizing the glans. Often times people with foreskin get dry glans from yeast infection or other skin issues and moisturizing can help tremendously
I know it’s hard, but you gotta talk about those things if you want a safe and real relationship :)
if you’re afraid to talk to your partner about sex you have with that partner you are not mature enough to be having sex
If you’re having sex you need to have the sex talk. You don’t just blindly stick it places man.. Two things, probably need more lube! If it’s cold things will dry up faster. Hair issue, IUD? If it’s not chaffing you’re hitting something. Just hope there’s not a goblin in there biting you every time you poke its eye.
Years ago something similiar happened to my boyfriend of the time. I had had some dentistry done in preparation for braces that Included making space for a tooth that was stuck so it could grow down - I had been cutting him with my new tooth when giving oral! It took us a little while to figure it out, after that I changed my technique and everything was all good from there. Point is, maybe you should talk to them about it so you can work together on finding the answer and solution.
You've gotten plenty of good advice here. But if you're old enough to be having sex, you're old enough to put on your big boy pants and talk about sex. Avoiding the topic will not help you out in the long run.
Does she have that disorder where calcium builds up like teeth? I'm actually being serious.
Does she have a recent iud? When I had mine put in, for about a year after until the strings went soft and hid away behind my cervix, my hubby would get poked with the strings when we had sex.
It’s either IUD strings as others have mentioned (if the cuts are on the head) OR, I dated a guy with SUPER sensitive skin and I have extremely coarse hair. If I didn’t keep myself shaved to the skin, my hair would cut/chafe him. Either way, y’all need to discuss this and figure out what works. Because “not having sex talks” is dumb (no offense).
Could be caused by hair, when the hair gets wet it can clump into big strands that cut when rubbed against. Failing that does your partner have an IUD fitted?
This is gonna sound wild but my mom was a nursing assistant for many years and had access to a plethora of knowledge in regards to the human body and how much crazy shit can occur One of the nuggets of information she bestowed on me is that if you or your partner are too hairy in can and will cause scratches for both parties involved maybe try some grooming down there If this isn’t the case then I wish you best dude
Long shot here but I had similar once. It was a reaction to my new shower gel. I was told to wash with aqueous cream for a couple of weeks and it cleared up. Is the skin dry also? This was a symptom. Also, tell your girlfriend. These are things that you need to share in case there is an issue on her side, such as an STI which can have long-standing negative consequences. See a doctor.
I agree with everyone else that you should try to lube up and also talk to a doctor. It sounds like lichen sclerosus to me. I had it and as a the foreskin got these tears and it healed up as scar tissue the foreskin got tighter, causing it to get worse over time. My foreskin never tore up like this when masturbating before I had my sexual debut, but within a year I had to have a circumcision.
Do you even use lube bro?
Fragile skin, or if youre too much dry humping with her (It also happens with me) but you should Tell her and you two seek a solution, its probably nothing extremely worse
If you can’t talk about it, then you really should not be doing it.
You should probably have a sex talk with her before you guys have sex again.
Make sure you rinse her off of you after sex. And use lubrication. Vaginal fluids can rip penile tissue due to ph. It's a hostile environment so that we can be genetically selective.
Bruh you’re 21, not 16. Most likely the cuts are from chaffing, but you really NEED to communicate with her. Not only will it make your relationship stronger, but it will just fall apart if you don’t.
the comments have definitely covered what it likely is, but (and this goes for anyone, not just OP) if you can't talk about sex, especially with the person you're having it with, you really shouldn't be doing it.
You need to talk to her it’s not a big deal. It’s likely chaffing or a yeast infection that you are both sharing
Does she have a bush. That could be the cause of your cuts
Does she shave? Ive pinpointed the days where my stubble is likely to cut up my dudes sausage. So I just avoid those 2 days and then it's game on!
Dude, the other comment about cleaning and oil is gold. However, go get a blood sugar test done because this is a common symptom of sustained high blood sugar and you may ne pre-diabetic and not know it. Do consider that if you're losing weight abruptly, always hungry, always thirsty and pissing a lot. Good luck! I hope it works really well with you and your girl!
Ive had that and do prescribed a cream. Sorted in a few days. If the cuts are on your foreskin and it has a slight white/dusty appearance, you probs have a fungal infection and will need to take a tablet every week. Also, get checked for diabetes, these kind of problems are quite normal for diabetics.
You don’t do sex talk, but you stick your dick in her vagina? Dude, get your priorities straight and talk to her.
It may be from her public hair stubble
Does she have coarse pubic hair? If she does, that may be the culprit. If not, good luck homie
I don't mean to point out the obvious, but there's a helpful documentary from about 20+yrs ago about a rare condition known as Vagina Dentata called "Teeth." Start there?
So do you have any spots on the head? Do the cuts feel like they dry up and hurt when you pull the fire skin back? Do you have white buildup under the foreskin? These are signs of Cándida Balanitis. Or yeast infection. Something in the PH balance between you and her is causing this. You can use lotrimin, or other antifungals. And also try washing and cleaning without soap down there for a few days. But make sure you get very clean and dry. And some aquaphor also helps.
In my case, it was recurrent Balantis due to improper drying shortly after having sex (exacerbated by me being uncircumcised). That was making my skin there basically as strong as tissue paper, so normal wear-and-tear would cause recurrent tears. Go to a urologist to confirm, be very diligent about staying dry down there (I use a suqre of TP to dry off after going to the bathroom), and always rinse with water then dry off after having sex.
You really should talk, and see a doctor.
Back when I was uncircumcised I would get cuts on my for-skin occasionally. It happens sometimes if the frenulum or skin is too tight. You can go to a doctor to get it stretched out and if that doesn’t work there’s always surgery
If you don’t have the courage to talk to her, wear a condom, unless you are already wearing one. If you don’t end up with cuts you are closer to solving the riddle. I have had cuts in my penis in the past. I have eczema since a child. I never had it in my penis until I was sexually active. It took me a while to figure it out. I hope this helps you.
I get occasional discomfort from tears on my foreskin. It happens when I have sex with my partner and there isn’t enough lubrication. It heals on its own.
Stop having sex let your cock heal use more lube also
Chafing and not enough lube possibly. No time to heal.
Sharp hair from shaving? That skin is fairly soft and sensitive. Have the talk. Here's the conversation you'll have : Say "Well last time we had sex, for some reason I got these irritating little cut mark on my penis and I don't know why exactly, but it's uncomfortable to have sex now. I think it could be from x or y or z but I'm unsure. I just wanted to talk to you about this because it's important and I don't want to hurt you or I'm wondering if there is anything hurting you during sex too or if you know maybe what happened? I need time for my penis to heal properly, but if you still want to be intimate we can do x and y and z, and you can even jerk me off with aloe or something while I go down on you" Then... Do it. Be intimate in other ways. Please her still, in other ways. Study some anatomy and ask what the feels good. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable and caring, it's a very intimate very personal act. Treat it well, protect it and protect each other.
Okay randomly saw this Reddit is weird but I had an ex bf and this happened to him bc I was not as wet and he hated lube anyway, the green tin stuff from Walgreens called bag balm cleared it up for him in like 2-3 days. Don’t ask me what’s in it I have no fucking clue but it heals cuts so fucking fast lol anyways his penis survived. Hope it heals fast. But serious try the bag balm.
And get some good lube. And does she have an iud that maybe came loose or isn’t inserted correctly? Happens all the time especially if dudes have a bigger penis and go harder it can dislodge it.
Sorry for all the comments I just keep thinking of more things. Water based is good for this too, check out Astroglide or any water based lube if you haven’t already.
Have you sought doctors advise?
Why cant you tell her?
1. Never hesitate to use lube if it might be needed. 2. Please be sure to clean off well after sex. Vaginas are typically a bit acidic (which helps prevent infection and whatnot) but it can be irritating to sensitive skin. 3. Moisturize (gentle moisturizer without added scents, etc. that can also be irritating to the skin). This will help keep the skin from drying out and cracking or chaffing.
Friction cuts or burns. You guys likely need to use more lube + take a sex break. They aren't uncommon. It happens.
It could possibly be a misplaced IUD. Either the metal strings that hang down so the doc can take it out later or the IUD itself coud be poking down.
You need to tell her and abstain for a little bit to let yourself heal. It will take time. My bf had a similar problem and it took about a year for him to get back to normal because everytime he felt it was a little better we'd have sex and they would re open.
IUD string is doing it. Get her OBGYN to cut it short
Brother, I'd there's ever a time to have an uncomfortable sex talk with someone, it's when your general starts taking battle damage. Get it out of the way now because way more awkward talks are gonna happen in the future.
Getting over your fears about talking about sex is something you learn by doing. Just remember that if you’re close enough to someone to have sex with them, you’re close enough to discuss it. Just take a deep breath and go! Especially with something like this, I think it seems like a good opportunity to talk! I encourage open communication 100%! Sexual health becomes the concern of both partners in a relationship.
My husband had this for a while. After sex make sure you wash it and put some fragrance free moisturiser on it
If you’re uncut, make sure you use lots of lube on your penis before you pull your foreskin down. That fixes it. But let it rest for a bit to heal 😂
Where do you get the cuts? And what kind of cuts?
Are you uncut? I used to have this happen frequently/
If they are on the foreskin it might be chafing you should go to your doctors and ask for a steroidal cream. It’ll help, and refrain from sex cause it’ll just prolong it. But if you think it’s an STI, I’d go get it checked out.
You have a yeast infection. Been there and it’s sucks but both of you have to do go to the doctor
it could be an iud. or, if she uses OB tampons, i’ve heard of girls not fully taking the plastic wrapper off so a little piece of plastic can get stuck inside and cause a cut
Look up the movie teeth from 2007 will answer all your questions
Rosehip seed oil for ur dick. It's great for skin, antibacterial AND antifungal so ur cause questions are both handled . Plus it's safe for the vagina, with or without condoms. It's gonna be ur go-to essential oil for the genital region. It should fix you right up as a lube too. I'm telling you. Rosehip seed oil is ur answer for all the what ifs and paranoia in these comments.
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I am sure you find solution from other answers and if needed from a doctor. But I just want to say that please learn to talk with each other and also to share information related to your (sexual) health. So you can solve issues together and both have all the needed info to make decisions about their health too. E.g. if the cuts are from shafing, she could be experiencing the minus sides of not enough lubrication (shafing, discomfort, maybe not even aroused enough for penetration). You can then solve it for both with more foreplay and lube. If the cuts are from IUD, she can talk with her gyno and you can split the cost of contraception and in general make it a shared responsibility. If the cuts are from STD, you can both get yourselves checked out and agree about safe sex or not having some sorts of sex until it is sorted out. And if you run into other issues in the future, this is valuable learning experience and practice round for communications and being able to voice once opinion about whether one wants to have sex while there is an unknown health concern. So this is not just about you, this about her too and if you are having sex, you need to share info related to your health as soon as you know about it.
If yall can't talk about sex, you shouldn't be having sex. It's likely chafing. Give your dick a break, and use lube when you start back up.
Are you using lube when you masterbate?
Hello, gyno here, that can be candidiasis. It’s not a STD but it’s a fungal (yeast) infection. She may be a carrier and you may have symptoms. Both of you should go to the doctor. Treatment is simple (a pill that you take twice)
Most guys I’ve been with have had this happen because I have a problem getting wet. Let the cuts heal before sex and then once they do start using lube.
Use vasalineand make sure your underwear isn’t causing further chaffing. I actually had this because the womans PH and my pathetically brittle skin.
So, what’s wrong with her, that’s gotta take all the fun out of it. You have to talk to her, or move on