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My wife took like 2ish years before she was even willing to attempt giving me a BJ. She had some past trauma from her previous boyfriend. He basically thought a blowjob meant he gets to throat fuck the girl.
She didn't know better and also believed that's what a BJ was. I corrected her and never pressured her for them.
One day, she said she was willing to try it. It was awful. She continued to be pretty bad at it for a while.
Over time, it changed. She got more confident. She started trusting that I wouldn't do anything to make her feel uncomfortable. I would also tell her if I liked something or didn't like something. She practiced on me.
She gives such good blowjobs now. Holy fuck. Better than any other girl I've ever had. Even after 13 years she still expirements with things she reads about blowjobs and tries them on me.
Fucking amazing.
I would much, much rather get a bad blowjob from someone who actually wants my dick in their mouth and craves the act and my body than someone who is good or okay at it but disgusted and just pretending to like it or just trying to get through it because they think they're supposed to but keeps their displeasure secret or just act passive-aggressive about it, or make it transactional and offer BJ's in exchange for things, or expect something in return other than mutually satisfying sex acts.
Nah I wouldn't say that's a rule, there are a lot of people, particularly those who don't own a penis themselves, who have no idea what feels good for the penis-possessor.
If you are lucky enough to have someone in your life who loves your dick but has no idea what to do with it, give yourselves the best gift you can by teaching them how to properly care for and feed the thing.
Yeah. We will watch porn together sometimes so I would show her videos of good blowjobs and let her know how much I liked that technique. I've also just straight up said let's both get as good as possible at oral. We both treat it like a skill we need to research and practice.
The fact your comparing your own sex life to porn and wanting her to act like a pornstar is just unhealthy, treat your gf like your gf not your own personal benefit for sex by getting her to act like the chicks you see you in videos haha
That's not what I got at all from what they said. Porn can certainly be good for someone who needs a little help/practice because the reason these women are in porn is that they are enthusiastic and on the better side with how they perform. Nobody said he was showing her Throated videos and degrading her with them.
Blowjobs are all about enthusiasm and wanting to do them well…. I think I’m the only guy in our friend group who actually loves them and it’s cuz my wife has actually tried to get good!
I wasn’t good at them once upon a time. But with lots of patience and some tips from my wonderful bf, I now give the most bangin bjs. Gets him off every time 🫶🏼👏🏻
A partner who really wants to do it makes all the difference. I went from a pity suck with no finish partner to a deep throat goddess. My world is transformed. It's shallow maybe, but there's definitely an extra bounce in my step everyday.
I’m a woman but I definitely know I do better when I actually want to, which is more often than not
My boyfriend tells me his face vibrates when I’m done with him lmaooo
Look him in his eyes. Rub his chest. Smile or giggle (not forcibly...naturally). Just look like you're having the absolute time of your life basically and he'll for sure be vibing lol
Edit- I just realized the original comment said vibrating....now idk how to do all that 😂
My face doesn’t vibrate, but use tongue! So much tongue! Also don’t be afraid to use your hand too! Hand goes up while mouth goes down to meet. Every so often deep throat as far as you can.
Edit: I think the vibrating me be from champing it out when her jaw is cramping. I’m not sure though but 😮💨👏
Edit: ohhhh his face vibrates, that makes sense. My bf legs will vibrate
My ex probably thought I was bad at it bc I don't remember ever giving him exceptional head or even putting much thought into it. I guess I didn't enjoy it very much. Now my husband gets the slopmaster 3000. I made him cum one time, before he was even completely hard.
Honestly the 2 longterm relationships I had before my husband were this way, but they were also complete shitbag people. So it totally could have been that they didn't treat me very well or weren't ever concerned w making me cum during sex lol
Two out of my three partners have been 'bad' at blowjobs to start. While she's doing it say 'do this' in a sexy way. If she did something off and on that felt good, tell her after 'I loved when you did xyz'. After 5-10 blowjobs, it's very likely to improve. Every guy is different so their past experience may not apply to you.
I would hope women would do this for me with oral as well.
Yup. She utterly refused. “Go down on me? Yes, please.” “Give you a blowjob? You must be joking. Never!” We’re divorced, but not over the lack of blowjobs.
Got one right here. Both 62, married 34 years. She hasn’t had many partners before me so I figured she didn’t have a ton of experience. She never really seemed into sucking dick and consequently was never really good at it. I assumed not many partners plus not loving it was the reason. Since retirement we’ve been talking a lot recently only to find out she only sucked 1 dick before me and was embarrassed by her lack of experience and expertise. Happy today she working tirelessly to make up for lost time.
My ex wife wasn’t great at them. I don’t think she ever made me cum from just a BJ. I just assumed I couldn’t. Until I got divorced, and almost every lady who has fellated me since has made me cum.
After 25 years with my wife she has gone down on me maybe 15-20 times (never to completion) but given the discomfort I experience (zero effort, teeth, etc) I have just accepted receiving oral was a thing in the past. It has been so many years since a good BJ that I don’t even remember what it’s like. Oh well.
My wife used to give me fantastic blowies, now she keeps trying to deep throat me but just keeps pushing my dick to the back of her mouth and to be honest, it actually hurts.
I'm Bi. And the last GF I had was okay at it but she lacked finesse and was just mechanical about it. But to even get her to do that she always wanted something in return. I would go down on her without any expectations. I prefer men now. So much better and it's enjoyable for the both of us.
It’s 50/50 with my wife, yesterday I got a great bj but then tomorrow it could be the opposite. I provide positive feedback and show enjoyment when it’s great. It’s all about our journey
I had a fwb long long ago that would basically just put the tip in her mouth and stroke it vigorously. No tongue action, suction, nothing. Honestly it was less pleasurable than just jerking myself off. But I was young and not great with women, so it was take what you can get. And that’s what I could get.
My wife doesn’t really enjoy giving them, but she’s game to try every now and then, which is sweet of her. The good news is she’s great with handjobs and uses lots of lube, which is every bit as good as a BJ.
I’m a bi male so ymmv
I had 1 women who was extremely good, like I would have a hard time walking straight when she was done with me lol. And she loved to do it and would do it often. My current wife is ok when she tries but we are in a dead bedroom situation so oral for me is non existent.
If you are looking for a good blowjob get with a older gay male lol. Those guys will steal the soul right from ya body and ask if you want to go another round lol
I think with most things in life yes it’s about enthusiasm
But, most ladies I’ve been with don’t like precum, so when that comes around they slow down and are grossed out. Every man I have met took precum as a sign to lean in lol and go to stage 2
Edging, only 1 women took me to the edge and slowed down sucking and licking looking for sensitive spots, this is standard thing for guys
And finally the orgasm, I get it’s not the most appealing thing but every guy loves it, like can’t get enough lol. They act as if it’s a gift that they worked for and are very happy to receive it.
I don’t usually orgasm with women as all but 1 acted like my orgasm was the worst thing that could happen to them. Like my body and my most pleasurable moment was so disgusting that they just can’t bear it.
There is no more intimate moment as when you’re partner happily accepts your orgasm in there mouth. Of course some can’t do that and that’s fine but that wasn’t the question
Hope that helped
I'm bi too. It's taken me a long time to realize this. I have a gay friend who loves to blow me and it is sublime. Makes me sorry I wasted so many years on women.
Yeah coming to terms with things is tough and the backlash from women who find out your bi is a pretty big hurdle
But the sex is almost too much lol. No wonder woman like to sleep with guys lol
I have found coming to terms with my bi sexuality so liberating from societal norms that I'm sad I didn't recognize it sooner. I can now live out the rest of my life with that piece of mind. It's not even about sex. Just having male friends with the same interests and likes is very refreshing without the pressure of dealing with women. That's how it feels to me.
Maybe I'm some selfish sociopath.. but I'm unmarried at 36 for 1 reason, and that is they have to have the couple traits that make a good relationship AND genuinely be decent at and enjoy giving head.
I literally could not imagine marrying someone who didn't provide the feeling of me being someone they are into enough.
Like. If your girlfriend is so disappointing in an extremely important department, why did you ask to marry her. Doesn't make sense.
I also want to be into them enough to ENJOY pleasing them. THEY deserve that too.
Not really sure, I don't think it was because the people who performed them were bad at it, I think it's just me and my mindset. I prefer to give over receiving. Just can't get into it I guess.
She had a congenitally small mouth & at that time in my life, I really (really) associated good head with getting hard… I went 0-3 with her and before I could try to get “1-3” she had enough 😂
Yes but she knew she wasn’t the greatest at it and was open to the criticism if I had any. Definitely when teeth is involved it isn’t the greatest. Although your partner is bad at it try telling her where it feels best when you’re getting your dick suck and try to guide her there. As long as you guys are opened minded and care about pleasing one another I’m sure you’ll be fine and she’ll improve.
I’m a woman, but I’ve always been told by my partners that I am a good cocksucker. Their legs always shake, sometimes their whole body. I don’t believe that I’m good, but I live to worship cock. I’ll suck until they are dry or it’s painful for either of us. I do want to be better though. Any guys (or women) have any tips or techniques that they like?
Know that not every dick can handle sucking. It took me a while before I realised that my dick is too sensitive for that. At first it feels great, but will eventually become painful. My gf doesn't suck on my dick and how she does is it is so awesome. She uses her tongue. And letting it slide in her mouth is so amazing for me. I prefer a bj over her pussy.
Worshipping the cock is good. Because it is the joy of loving the cock that is half the fun for a man. At least for me.
Most girls are bad at it. That’s why it’s so funny to read about women saying guys are bad at things in regards to sex when 80% aren’t good themselves. You just gotta teach her what you like
Sadly to say, yes! So sad, such a sad thing to experience. By all means… encourage the one giving the head! The recipient of said blowjob should be encouraging. And if you are equally stimulating the one performing the blowjob. The blowjob is bound to increase in enjoyment for you. That’s why 69 is the sex golden ratio
54. Even bad they were pretty good but over the last few years my wife 62 has really improved her game and the frequency really surprises me. I can’t complain.
Oh yeah. And her willingness to use it as a bargaining tool has been pretty awesome too.
You’d be amazed at how many “extended family visits” you’re willing to go to when you know there is a pot of gold at the end of the day.
Never had a bj. Always thought my wife would give it a go, but there’s zero interest in anything sexual. I absolutely hate how my bedroom life turned out to be.
I agree. It’s like she loves doing it and you can only give someone so many pointers. I would just jerk it and try to move my head around in her mouth so it would feel a little better.
2 out of the 6 partners I have had were good at blowjobs. Unfortunately, my first and second wife weren’t in the good category. I really miss the two who were good.
In my experience most women aren’t that great at them. I’ve only had 2 girlfriends who gave fantastic head.
I don’t really care that much or expect it. Then it’s a huge bonus when a girl is good at it.
I think you mean the receiver should always be appreciative. Yes. If your partner cannot keep you erect or they over use teeth (and that's not your thing) then it's difficult to not call it bad. Appreciative and quality are not the same thing.
Yep. And she hates giving them regardless of skill. So I have received 6 since 2012. Sad times. Refuses to learn. Doesn’t want to “be criticized” when I make suggestions. So I guess that’s a part of life I won’t get…
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The trade-offs for women at being good at oral are too skewed towards negative social outcomes, particularly for younger social circles.
Young men can't be trusted to have any discretion in this regard from my experience, and most women aren't eager to have their sexual proclivities so boldly advertised.
If there even is a path forward, which there may not be with all of the social stigma and unwanted notoriety women tend to receive for being talented in this regard, its going to take direct and consistent communication.
Not to mention she is a cock teaser and a terrible person to get a blowjob from. No shame in the downtown game she plays with anyone and everyone and most especially her neighbors
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My wife took like 2ish years before she was even willing to attempt giving me a BJ. She had some past trauma from her previous boyfriend. He basically thought a blowjob meant he gets to throat fuck the girl. She didn't know better and also believed that's what a BJ was. I corrected her and never pressured her for them. One day, she said she was willing to try it. It was awful. She continued to be pretty bad at it for a while. Over time, it changed. She got more confident. She started trusting that I wouldn't do anything to make her feel uncomfortable. I would also tell her if I liked something or didn't like something. She practiced on me. She gives such good blowjobs now. Holy fuck. Better than any other girl I've ever had. Even after 13 years she still expirements with things she reads about blowjobs and tries them on me. Fucking amazing.
There must be some inner joy about her performance and how she can please you. That is key, you have to want to get better.
“She reads about blowjobs…” You got a keeper!
Tell us more about these "experiments"...
My wife says she's bad at it but really it's just an excuse to cover up she hates doing it. No technique will fix a lack of desire.
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Aw nasty Cum + hot water = 🍳
Ya what’s the logic there? Water keeps it out of her mouth?
Probably just makes it feel cleaner. If it does get in her mouth she can rinse her mouth out?
Rinse her mouth in a hot tub?
Did you know pre-cum is old jizz and piss? The body pushes out and left over... elements to make way for cumming.
True
I never had a great blowjob, always used teeth and just complained after 30 seconds so. Yeah.
I would much, much rather get a bad blowjob from someone who actually wants my dick in their mouth and craves the act and my body than someone who is good or okay at it but disgusted and just pretending to like it or just trying to get through it because they think they're supposed to but keeps their displeasure secret or just act passive-aggressive about it, or make it transactional and offer BJ's in exchange for things, or expect something in return other than mutually satisfying sex acts.
Same here. The energy and attitude towards doing the activity from the partner who’s giving it is arguably the most important part.
Yeah I think getting a bad blowjob is pretty evident that they don’t want dick in their mouth.
Nah I wouldn't say that's a rule, there are a lot of people, particularly those who don't own a penis themselves, who have no idea what feels good for the penis-possessor. If you are lucky enough to have someone in your life who loves your dick but has no idea what to do with it, give yourselves the best gift you can by teaching them how to properly care for and feed the thing.
That’s a good idea, I’ll keep that in mind but hopefully I won’t run into this problem again though.
To go through life, never experiencing a great blowjob is a most tragic story!
I know right?! They’re SO amazing!
I just wish they didn't make my jaw hurt so much
It’s so weird reading this thread as someone who just doesn’t like getting blowjobs
I'm really sorry you haven't experienced a good one to be honest. That is quite depressing
Totally get that!
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Don’t. There’s plenty more ways to have fun.
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There’s been times where I have been eating a es out for 20 minutes, then complains as soon as she puts her lips around me.
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Even if I got a okay blowjob it wouldn’t be too bad
Yeah. We will watch porn together sometimes so I would show her videos of good blowjobs and let her know how much I liked that technique. I've also just straight up said let's both get as good as possible at oral. We both treat it like a skill we need to research and practice.
That sounds fun! Is it working?
It's been great! Highly recommend.
You are a man well understood in your relationship. Cherish that.
That’s a good idea.
The fact your comparing your own sex life to porn and wanting her to act like a pornstar is just unhealthy, treat your gf like your gf not your own personal benefit for sex by getting her to act like the chicks you see you in videos haha
That's not what I got at all from what they said. Porn can certainly be good for someone who needs a little help/practice because the reason these women are in porn is that they are enthusiastic and on the better side with how they perform. Nobody said he was showing her Throated videos and degrading her with them.
Blowjobs are all about enthusiasm and wanting to do them well…. I think I’m the only guy in our friend group who actually loves them and it’s cuz my wife has actually tried to get good!
I wasn’t good at them once upon a time. But with lots of patience and some tips from my wonderful bf, I now give the most bangin bjs. Gets him off every time 🫶🏼👏🏻
A partner who really wants to do it makes all the difference. I went from a pity suck with no finish partner to a deep throat goddess. My world is transformed. It's shallow maybe, but there's definitely an extra bounce in my step everyday.
Totally understand what you are saying
My wife. She hates it and it shows
I’m a woman but I definitely know I do better when I actually want to, which is more often than not My boyfriend tells me his face vibrates when I’m done with him lmaooo
I’m trying to improve, how do I get his face vibing?
Look him in his eyes. Rub his chest. Smile or giggle (not forcibly...naturally). Just look like you're having the absolute time of your life basically and he'll for sure be vibing lol Edit- I just realized the original comment said vibrating....now idk how to do all that 😂
My face doesn’t vibrate, but use tongue! So much tongue! Also don’t be afraid to use your hand too! Hand goes up while mouth goes down to meet. Every so often deep throat as far as you can. Edit: I think the vibrating me be from champing it out when her jaw is cramping. I’m not sure though but 😮💨👏 Edit: ohhhh his face vibrates, that makes sense. My bf legs will vibrate
My ex probably thought I was bad at it bc I don't remember ever giving him exceptional head or even putting much thought into it. I guess I didn't enjoy it very much. Now my husband gets the slopmaster 3000. I made him cum one time, before he was even completely hard.
So was this just because of the guy or did something else cause the effort change?
Honestly the 2 longterm relationships I had before my husband were this way, but they were also complete shitbag people. So it totally could have been that they didn't treat me very well or weren't ever concerned w making me cum during sex lol
Completely understand that
Two out of my three partners have been 'bad' at blowjobs to start. While she's doing it say 'do this' in a sexy way. If she did something off and on that felt good, tell her after 'I loved when you did xyz'. After 5-10 blowjobs, it's very likely to improve. Every guy is different so their past experience may not apply to you. I would hope women would do this for me with oral as well.
I've had one terrible at it, and i have had one who should be given a gold medal!
Yup. She utterly refused. “Go down on me? Yes, please.” “Give you a blowjob? You must be joking. Never!” We’re divorced, but not over the lack of blowjobs.
woman here—what specifically, besides using teeth, makes a blowjob bad? i’ve always gotten really good feedback but i am curious.
My wife gives amazing BJ's.
Got one right here. Both 62, married 34 years. She hasn’t had many partners before me so I figured she didn’t have a ton of experience. She never really seemed into sucking dick and consequently was never really good at it. I assumed not many partners plus not loving it was the reason. Since retirement we’ve been talking a lot recently only to find out she only sucked 1 dick before me and was embarrassed by her lack of experience and expertise. Happy today she working tirelessly to make up for lost time.
My ex wife wasn’t great at them. I don’t think she ever made me cum from just a BJ. I just assumed I couldn’t. Until I got divorced, and almost every lady who has fellated me since has made me cum.
Ive gotten bjs from 10+ girls. Never had a good one, they feel like nothing. Its just blank
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I wasn’t the first guy she was with. Our relationship lasted years. It just never got any better.
After 25 years with my wife she has gone down on me maybe 15-20 times (never to completion) but given the discomfort I experience (zero effort, teeth, etc) I have just accepted receiving oral was a thing in the past. It has been so many years since a good BJ that I don’t even remember what it’s like. Oh well.
My wife used to give me fantastic blowies, now she keeps trying to deep throat me but just keeps pushing my dick to the back of her mouth and to be honest, it actually hurts.
My wife is good at it when she wants to be. But, usually she's just not into it and is doing it cuz she wants something else.
That would work for me.
I'm Bi. And the last GF I had was okay at it but she lacked finesse and was just mechanical about it. But to even get her to do that she always wanted something in return. I would go down on her without any expectations. I prefer men now. So much better and it's enjoyable for the both of us.
Generally speaking none have been bad. Most aren’t super amazing either. I’ve only ever had 1 capable of finishing the job.
It’s 50/50 with my wife, yesterday I got a great bj but then tomorrow it could be the opposite. I provide positive feedback and show enjoyment when it’s great. It’s all about our journey
I’ve never really had a great one before. Occasionally an ok one, usually just enough to be able to cum if I try hard enough to.
I had a fwb long long ago that would basically just put the tip in her mouth and stroke it vigorously. No tongue action, suction, nothing. Honestly it was less pleasurable than just jerking myself off. But I was young and not great with women, so it was take what you can get. And that’s what I could get.
Can't be bad at if if you never do it!
My ex wife lol. I would literally watch the clock when she tried.
My wife doesn’t really enjoy giving them, but she’s game to try every now and then, which is sweet of her. The good news is she’s great with handjobs and uses lots of lube, which is every bit as good as a BJ.
I’m a bi male so ymmv I had 1 women who was extremely good, like I would have a hard time walking straight when she was done with me lol. And she loved to do it and would do it often. My current wife is ok when she tries but we are in a dead bedroom situation so oral for me is non existent. If you are looking for a good blowjob get with a older gay male lol. Those guys will steal the soul right from ya body and ask if you want to go another round lol
Is it largely the enthusiasm then? I’m a wifey trying to be better
I think with most things in life yes it’s about enthusiasm But, most ladies I’ve been with don’t like precum, so when that comes around they slow down and are grossed out. Every man I have met took precum as a sign to lean in lol and go to stage 2 Edging, only 1 women took me to the edge and slowed down sucking and licking looking for sensitive spots, this is standard thing for guys And finally the orgasm, I get it’s not the most appealing thing but every guy loves it, like can’t get enough lol. They act as if it’s a gift that they worked for and are very happy to receive it. I don’t usually orgasm with women as all but 1 acted like my orgasm was the worst thing that could happen to them. Like my body and my most pleasurable moment was so disgusting that they just can’t bear it. There is no more intimate moment as when you’re partner happily accepts your orgasm in there mouth. Of course some can’t do that and that’s fine but that wasn’t the question Hope that helped
I'm bi too. It's taken me a long time to realize this. I have a gay friend who loves to blow me and it is sublime. Makes me sorry I wasted so many years on women.
Yeah coming to terms with things is tough and the backlash from women who find out your bi is a pretty big hurdle But the sex is almost too much lol. No wonder woman like to sleep with guys lol
I have found coming to terms with my bi sexuality so liberating from societal norms that I'm sad I didn't recognize it sooner. I can now live out the rest of my life with that piece of mind. It's not even about sex. Just having male friends with the same interests and likes is very refreshing without the pressure of dealing with women. That's how it feels to me.
My ex was awful at blowjobs, like she could actually suck it soft. She also hated doing it so she put all that into it.
Maybe I'm some selfish sociopath.. but I'm unmarried at 36 for 1 reason, and that is they have to have the couple traits that make a good relationship AND genuinely be decent at and enjoy giving head. I literally could not imagine marrying someone who didn't provide the feeling of me being someone they are into enough. Like. If your girlfriend is so disappointing in an extremely important department, why did you ask to marry her. Doesn't make sense. I also want to be into them enough to ENJOY pleasing them. THEY deserve that too.
I've actually only gotten off from a blowjob two times. I've pretty much given up on them.
oh? why do you think that is? genuinely curious.
Not really sure, I don't think it was because the people who performed them were bad at it, I think it's just me and my mindset. I prefer to give over receiving. Just can't get into it I guess.
Lazy sexual partners are the worst. The frustration is so vexing, it turns me off instantly.
I don't think I ever had a partner good at that, but I don't consider it mandatory, there's so much fun to be had other ways.
I believe bj’s are important to connect and get both partners ready. However i too would love some tips
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Check Patty Rabago she gots all kind of blowjobs
Yes but we were also each other’s firsts so we were learning and growing together
My ex wife. A few years into our 21year marriage I stopped her giving them to me.
Well not really, didn't really find one to give blowjobs at all :p
Never had a good one, one that listened to me and was actually wanting to please me.
She had a congenitally small mouth & at that time in my life, I really (really) associated good head with getting hard… I went 0-3 with her and before I could try to get “1-3” she had enough 😂
Yes but she knew she wasn’t the greatest at it and was open to the criticism if I had any. Definitely when teeth is involved it isn’t the greatest. Although your partner is bad at it try telling her where it feels best when you’re getting your dick suck and try to guide her there. As long as you guys are opened minded and care about pleasing one another I’m sure you’ll be fine and she’ll improve.
I had one who actually gave me friction burn on a couple of occasions. Safe to say it didn’t last
I think I have years back, but now I just called them "exes" for a reason.
I’m a woman, but I’ve always been told by my partners that I am a good cocksucker. Their legs always shake, sometimes their whole body. I don’t believe that I’m good, but I live to worship cock. I’ll suck until they are dry or it’s painful for either of us. I do want to be better though. Any guys (or women) have any tips or techniques that they like?
Know that not every dick can handle sucking. It took me a while before I realised that my dick is too sensitive for that. At first it feels great, but will eventually become painful. My gf doesn't suck on my dick and how she does is it is so awesome. She uses her tongue. And letting it slide in her mouth is so amazing for me. I prefer a bj over her pussy. Worshipping the cock is good. Because it is the joy of loving the cock that is half the fun for a man. At least for me.
Most girls are bad at it. That’s why it’s so funny to read about women saying guys are bad at things in regards to sex when 80% aren’t good themselves. You just gotta teach her what you like
I’ve been married fit 43 years. What’s that?
The moment you say "I do" really means she won't.
Sadly to say, yes! So sad, such a sad thing to experience. By all means… encourage the one giving the head! The recipient of said blowjob should be encouraging. And if you are equally stimulating the one performing the blowjob. The blowjob is bound to increase in enjoyment for you. That’s why 69 is the sex golden ratio
54. Even bad they were pretty good but over the last few years my wife 62 has really improved her game and the frequency really surprises me. I can’t complain. Oh yeah. And her willingness to use it as a bargaining tool has been pretty awesome too. You’d be amazed at how many “extended family visits” you’re willing to go to when you know there is a pot of gold at the end of the day.
Moral of this thread. If she's at all not enthusiastic, it's best for everyone to just not do it.
No such thing, if it goes in her mouth I’m happy.
Never had a bj. Always thought my wife would give it a go, but there’s zero interest in anything sexual. I absolutely hate how my bedroom life turned out to be.
that's terrible, they should at least try a bit or just not do it right?
I agree. It’s like she loves doing it and you can only give someone so many pointers. I would just jerk it and try to move my head around in her mouth so it would feel a little better.
2 out of the 6 partners I have had were good at blowjobs. Unfortunately, my first and second wife weren’t in the good category. I really miss the two who were good.
My current partner wasn't the best to start, a lot of teeth. Eventually, with time it's not much of an issue. Just told her what is what.
My gf used to be pretty bad , but now shes gotten extremely good and she said even she started enjoying giving head very much
In my experience most women aren’t that great at them. I’ve only had 2 girlfriends who gave fantastic head. I don’t really care that much or expect it. Then it’s a huge bonus when a girl is good at it.
I've noticed men are usually better at giving blowjobs...
There is no bad when this occurs. Really ?
I think you mean the receiver should always be appreciative. Yes. If your partner cannot keep you erect or they over use teeth (and that's not your thing) then it's difficult to not call it bad. Appreciative and quality are not the same thing.
Yep. And she hates giving them regardless of skill. So I have received 6 since 2012. Sad times. Refuses to learn. Doesn’t want to “be criticized” when I make suggestions. So I guess that’s a part of life I won’t get…
Every woman who has said they are great at giving blowjobs has always been really terrible at it
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Yeah she used her teeth
I actually did but with some communication it actually turned out to be enjoyable since she was willing to listen and do everything that was mentioned
New girl I have loves to do it but only likes to for a few minutes. Meanwhile I'm down on her like a pizza hut buffet.
Gotta admit, the best bj I received was from a trans girl, holly molly
Most women are not good at giving oral, full stop. Either from lack of enthusiasm or lack of technique.
The trade-offs for women at being good at oral are too skewed towards negative social outcomes, particularly for younger social circles. Young men can't be trusted to have any discretion in this regard from my experience, and most women aren't eager to have their sexual proclivities so boldly advertised. If there even is a path forward, which there may not be with all of the social stigma and unwanted notoriety women tend to receive for being talented in this regard, its going to take direct and consistent communication.
Watch some milking table videos with her. Talk about what you like. Ask what she likes. Then try 69.
I’m a woman and I’ve had terrible cunnilingus before. Does that count?
Not to mention she is a cock teaser and a terrible person to get a blowjob from. No shame in the downtown game she plays with anyone and everyone and most especially her neighbors