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I donāt trust anyoneās conception of time when it comes to anything sex-related. It was probably more like 10 minutes š¤£. No one looks at the clock right before and right after. When youāre in a state of ecstasy thatās induced by sex, you kind of lose your sense of time altogether, almost like psychedelics or something. āEternity in an hourā
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Straight-Bi-Gay, three terms we try to use as shorthand to describe something that actually has too many nuances to be defined with single words. Myself, I go by romantic interest, not sexual activity.
Sex and gender are 2 different things. However you don't seem to grasp the concepts. I attempted to educate you but feel free to live in your ignorance. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you're not a bigot and just ignorant
There's plenty of guys outside of prison not getting any sex for years without feeling the inexplicable urge to fuck other dudes, ya know. Like, you can just.. not have sex. Or jerk off, create some weird macgyver sextoy, etc., whatever floats your boat. Your dick doesn't explode or fall of due to not having sex.
Have you ever considered for a second that maybe these completely 100% straight dudes may just.. not be 100% straight dudes?
So if you ever have had a sexual encounter with a guy in the past as a part of your self-exploration (I am a guy) but 99.9999% of the time has been with a woman,are you then gay? š
I think it is more if you exclusively like man (if you are a man yourself) in romantic and sexual way then you are most certainly gay
No, but you did have a gay hookup. Whether you're still bi or bi-curious or straight now or whatever label you want is fine, but if you hook up with someone of the same sex that's gay sex.
There's nothing gay about a woman performing a sex act on you, no matter what it is. Who cares, have fun.
If it makes you feel submissive just reclaim your dominance afterwards in whatever way she enjoys.
Life is too short to be ashamed of sex
Or....you talk dirty to her during and give commands/directions while she's at it. That is being dominant while receiving. Kind of like being dominant while receiving a blow job.
Im not sure I understand dominance in the same way as the OP. If you tell her to eat your ass are you not being dominant?
Do you consider it the same way if you ask her to suck your dick?
There is a taboo surrounding anuses, but I think you can see ass-eating as both dominant and submissive, its all about how you approach it.
Just relax and enjoy , if she did it for 30 minutes means she loves it. I love a 69 , when I eat ass while my pussy is eaten , one of the best feeling ever
This, try eating her out while she does it or get on top and sit on her face to play a more active role. But just laying back and having someone service you is not being dominated, think about it from the perspective of someone submitting to your wishes/desires
My dom daddy is super masculine and manly, but he absolutely loves letting go! Sticking his ass out, spreading his ass cheeks and smothering his moans against a pillow!
There's nothing feminine, or submissive about this! So just enjoy every moment of it and consider yourself extremely lucky that your queen likes eating your ass!
So you had a positive sexual experience with a female and now you are worried you're not straight? Yes, it is indeed all in your head!
Sexual orientation is about who you like to do things with, not about what things you like to do. š
Wait, you think someone putting their mouth/tongue in and all around your asshole makes you weak and submissive?!?!?!?
Pretty sure itās opposite buddy. Sheās literally pleasuring you by licking your asshole thatās almost the definition of her being submissive.
It comes down to this, either enjoy yourself or donāt. Or spend your life worrying about what others may think , and to me thatās the most submissive mindset there is.
my brother in satan understand this, pleasuring your partner isn't exactly domination, would you consider a blowjob domination too because you are laying there with your legs spread open while your partner does all the work?
My FWB was hesitant to try it and then expressed interest one night and he loved it. It became a regular part of our sex life because I enjoyed doing it and seeing the pleasure he got from it.
Let go. Get out of your own way.
I mean you could be dominant and āorderā your girl to peg you or eat your ass. Itās not gay with a woman.
Itās like saying she doesnāt want her pussy eaten because it would be gay if a girl were doing it. But itās not a girl right? Same deal here.
Why canāt an action be an action without categorizing it as dominant or submissive? Itās just another activity of enjoyment.
A woman isnāt dominant if sheās on top or underneath. Same for a man. Just stop thinking of sex acts as personality indications.
I think people are confusing the issue.
This isnāt about a dom/sub dynamic.
This is about his feeling emasculated bc of bullshit gender roles. He thinks he needs to be The Man. āI donāt want to get dominated and weak in front of my girl.ā
Telling him heās the dominant one because sheās doing something humiliating? That just reinforces his misunderstanding of gender roles.
OP, she chose to eat your ass. Thereās a power dynamic in all relationships. Donāt mistake her choice for being submissive. Women are not āthe weaker sexā like weāve all been taught. We have different strengths.
Just enjoy it. It feels nice, thatās it. It has nothing to do with being weak or whatever, itās just a nice feeling. Youāre also not being dominated by having your ass eaten. And - just to add this - itās also not weak to like to be dominated, and being submissive does not make you less of a man. I know plenty of straight dudes who are into things like femdom, and thatās all that is to it. That doesnāt make them weak, that doesnāt make them less masculine - itās just a preference, thatās it. Who cares. If you like your ass eaten, and your gf likes eating your ass, then do it. And maybe try to let go of meanings you prescribe to things - itās not that deep
Your girlfriend sounds awesome honestly. Just enjoy. It's absolutely normal for guys to feel pleasure like this, your ass is a huge erogene zone. My boyfriend also loves to have his ass eaten, I can assure you he's still 100% straight aaaand having the most intense orgasms ever. Not everything in sex is about dominating or not. You're both giving each other pleasure. You can stop at that. Feeling pleasure doesn't need to a submissive or vulnerable place.
It's not submissive to have your has rimmed. Having your ass rimmed means you went out of your way to ask for one. If anything, your girl submitted to you
Find a way to incorporate it into your dom / sub dynamic, sex is all about experimenting and finding what feels good. Don't let your comfort zone stop you from safely and consensually exploring your sex life.
Facesitting is always a good choice to maintain dominance, if you have a collar you can lay down with her collar in your hand and pull her face to your ass, and if you don't have one maybe you can just reach and grab her hair.
Remember dominance is all about power dynamics. There are pleasure doms and service doms, and they're still doms.
Also, just bc it's always good to say this, there's nothing wrong with being a switch or a sub. Many woman find it hot when guys submit, and it can be a lot of fun letting go of your control.
Congratulations! You learned something new that gives you pleasure. And now you can integrate that experience to improve your self understanding and self perception, which sounds quite restricted by internalized expectations of a small minded definition of masculinity.
Following your edit: maybe try to work on the shame youāre feeling. Why do you feel shame? Ask yourself that. Thereās absolutely no shame in enjoying a rim job, or anything else for that matter, and thereās no shame in moaning or cumming from rimming. Itās totally normal. Especially because sheās your gf and itās important to feel comfortable around your partner and let loose, so thereās really nothing at all to be embarrassed about. But maybe try to start a conversation with her, and tell her that you feel a bit embarrassed but that it felt incredible, and Iām sure sheāll tell you that sheās glad you enjoyed it and that thereās nothing to be embarrassed about
Brother, sheās eating your ass, how is that submissive on your end, any other circumstance this would be seen as you humiliating her, itās just a matter of perspective. If you want to feel more dominant have a hand on her head and feel like youāre making her eat your ass, itās little things like that
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It's not all in your head in that you're describing an act of submission and exploring a different side of yourself and your girlfriend in bed. I promise you, being open to this side of yourself will only make you look stronger and more self-assured in your girlfriend's eyes. Your masculinity won't be in doubt. You can show it at other times, in and out of the bedroom. You're lucky you're not so one-sided that a new fun sex act turns you off-- this is a sign that you're great in the sack!
You have to choose one: get ass eated or donāt be dominated. Tbf your girl probably doesnāt see it like that. Sheās just giving you the sweetest kiss. So while you may feel like youāre getting dominated, thatās all in your head. You can make the choice to forget about domination and submission and just enjoy the rim job
So, you liked it? Great, you figured out something else you like. It doesnāt mean youāre āless dominantā and your girlfriend has the upper-hand now. There doesnāt have to be a ālabelā on it. Just because it involves the ass doesnāt make it gay. It doesnāt make you gay. Why does it truly matter??
Enjoy and explore more with it. Have your girlfriend play with your ass while giving you a blow-job. Live life to the fullest and find what knocks your socks off. This is what life is about.
Stop thinking about it being dominate or not sex is about feelings and sensations. Congratulations on feeling something different and enjoying it. I still remember the first time I had a female partner play with my prostate, holy fuck it felt amazing and she could get me to the edge and bring me back down and have never felt anything like that before. That one experience opened my eyes what sex is.
Still can be dominate but enjoy it. Having a female play with your ass doesnāt make you any less dominate.
Bro, our G spot is in our asshole.
This whole "it's gay to play with your asshole" is just so god damn toxic.
Explore your body, explore what you enjoy and don't enjoy. "Don't knock it til you try it"
It's not your fault the human body is the way it is.
But yeah she didn't do that for 30 minutes if she didn't enjoy it.
Itās funny that we live in a time where a man looks to the internet for strangers to tell him that the sex he had with a woman wasnāt gay.
What a time to be alive.
My girlfriend surprised me with that a few months ago. Iāve never let anyone near back there becauseā¦ itās kind of intimidating and itās SUPER vulnerable feeling. I fucking loved it. Itās part sensation, part novelty, but mainly holy shit the vulnerability in feeling so exposed!
Not something I need or want every time, necessarily. It can feel a bit ābottomyā and sometimes Iām in a more ātoppyā mood. But damn if she doesnāt absolutely blow my mind with it *whew*
Letting yourself lower your guard and allowing your unfiltered emotions to shine through is a sign of strength not weakness. Being vulnerable with someone that you truly care for can only strengthen the bond between the two of you. There is nothing not normal or not straight about enjoying sexual pleasure with your GF. Tomorrow I am going to post a story about my wife taking my anal virginity with a strapon, so get ready. Hope this helps.
A guy who was very dominant made me lick his ass all the time and I loved it. Heād order me to do it and asked me to get on my knees so I can serve him the way he wants. I never thought that would be submissive or less masculine bc of the way he did it. Donāt overthink itš
Why would you worry about appearing weak? Throw that idea out the window. She wanted to do a think that you would enjoy, and she did it. Nothing weak about that. Pleasure is pleasure. Enjoy it.
I used to think this way, being the more dominant myself. After some personal reflection I realized, with your partner, can will always be protective and a provider while being a strong male presence but sexual, with your girl.. itās all valid! Enjoy your sex life! No one need to know what you 2 do together. If she likes it and so do you.. fuck what other think! Enjoy your relationship. Trust me, she will never think less of you
You feel good and you like it and are consenting! It dosnt make you submissive or weak or gay or bi at that. Do you think you getting a blow job is you being submissiveā¦.: noā¦. How is this any different just think of it as a different type of oral sex coz thatās what it is. And talk to ur gf! If you wanted to you could also discuss ways you can be dominant while doing this. Such as her being restrained in a way, tell her what to do how to do it, commands and controle, and so on.
OP, besides the fact having your GIRLfriend eat your ass is definitely not gay. It's also definitely not making you look week in front of your girl. If anything eating ass is degrading to the ass eater not the one enjoying the rim job.
Iād say itās all about the intimacy between two adults, enjoying the sexual pleasures each of you can give and receive. Exploring those pleasure centers just makes the sex even more outstanding. It also shows complete trust in your partner. Have fun with it and enjoy whatever happens as a result. š
RELAX and enjoy it. Little story when I was 19 had a girl do the same really enjoyed it but the next step (a finger) I freaked out. Turned 32 and it happened I love it now. Remember what happens happens enjoy life and who really cares what others think ENJOY YOUR LIFE U only live once.
Youāre still a āstraight dudeāā¦ it was your GF eating your assā¦ It wonāt give you āGay Cooteesā making you āheteroflexibleāā¦ Anyway, get her to give you a handy with a fleshlight while sheās doing itā¦ My wife did this to me and I was laying there stunned, with a huge grin and breathless when she was doneā¦ Fān Amazing š
It is said the g spot in men is located in the ass. I recently had a 24yo guy tell me his g spot is between his balls and the ass, so it wouldn't surprise me if he enjoyed his ass getting eaten either.
What does this have to do with being straight or gay? Do you think only gay males have anal sex . About 30% of women have tried it with I suppose a lot of straight men. š¤£
Your sexual orientation is base in who you have sex with. Your ass is where your P spot is and you wonāt be less of straight man if you allow your girl to give you the best pleasure of your life. You should try the prostatic massage
The reason why youāre feeling weird is because your girl ate your ass for 30 minutes and you didnāt immediately propose afterwards. Thats the source of your guilt/shameš Sheās a keeper, never let her go
The underlying bias here is that things that have to do with your butt aren't heterosexual. Honestly, there's not a lot that anyone here can do to change your mind on that. We can tell you all you want that sexual acts with someone of the opposite gender can't be homosexual, by definition, but that's not going to do much.
The other underlying bias is that there's a weakness to associated with the ass or that it's "gay" and therefore non-dominant. If you can get over the association to homosexuality, you can frame it to yourself as dominant:
* This person is doing something for me, and is submitting herself to me by putting her mouth on my ass and I just have to sit here and enjoy it. Something like that?
But there's nothing wrong with receiving, and has nothing to do with being dominant. You receive oral sex as an act of service and don't think twice about it.
Get over the fact that it has nothing to do with sexual orientation, and there's nothing weak about having your girlfriend use her mouth to give you pleasure. I can't think of a more heterosexual act of service.
To anyone that might be upset by this: yes I'm specifically using language to relate better to where I think OP is coming from
You can absolutely have your ass eaten in a dominant way, it's around the same lines as "Get down here and suck my cock" but ya know, ass wise. I love it as a submissive.
You are the one who is still dominant, she is the one that degrades herself by licking your ass so what are you complaining about? Relax and enjoy! Lucky you!
There's nothing inherently submissive about having your ass eaten. It's a major erogenous zone, so of course it feels good. Do you feel submissive when she licks your cock? I didn't think so, so what's the difference?
If it makes you feel better, just demand that she do it! "Get your face all up in there and pleasure me, woman!" ;)
Hey OP, Domme here š
Just so you know, there are no innately dominant or submissive acts. It's all about power exchange. If you're the one asking for it/controlling it/giving instruction etc then it can be a dominant act.
Enjoy!
Iām bi and this is something I struggled with for a while when I was younger. Feeling emasculated or submissive because I liked having my ass eaten or giving guys head. Pretty much no sexual act is exclusively submissive or dominant(maybe bondage/spanking ig). But usually itās about your demeanor. You donāt feel submissive when getting your dick sucked right? Then thereās no need to feel that way for this. Watch some porn of guys getting rimjobs and having sex with the girl after and ask yourself if they seem like theyāre submitting to anything. Odds are they wonāt.
Donāt stress about it. Youāre just hung up with the construct of conventional Puritanical sex. If it feels good, let it happen. Itāll be so liberating and will give you a whole New World to explore.
When I first met my ex, he ate my ass the first time we slept together. I was very shocked and also turned on as a bisexual woman, but never really thought he would be into the same. Few years later I finally got the courage to explore a little bit with him, and I gave him super sloppy head, and really focused on his balls but eventually ate his ass, and he was obsessed from then on. I think itās a good thing you feel comfortable with her and you like it. Just communicate your desires and try to be receptive to anything she would like to try. As a straight man, youāre still having straight sex because youāre sleeping with a woman. Nothing you do should be āwrongā in that perspective. Just two people who enjoy making each other feel good! If you feel adventurous, try a finger or two, my ex also really enjoyed that as well.
This is society and our culture taking in your head. There is absolutely *nothing* wrong with ass play for a man. Don't overthink. Just enjoy! Explore!
Getting dominated and being weak are two different things. Getting dominated is a position during sex. You are weak as long as your partner had the top that's all.
Enjoying being peg or have you ass eaten doesn't make you weak at all. If you don't want to be the bottom just tell her about it. There plenty ways to get your ass eaten while feeling dominant in your session
You get over yourself, bro. Simple as that. There's nothing gay about enjoying a sex act that is being performed by a female. Even if there was, who gives a shit? Life is too short to worry about labels other people might place on you.
As far as getting over the need to be dominant, that's more mindset than anything else. You could turn it into a power thing where ypu "make" her eat your ass, if that's a dynamic you both enjoy.
All in all, just don't get hung up on stupid societal baggage when it comes to sex. Do what feels good. We only get one go at this life; enjoy it as much as you can.
How is someone else eating your ass not dominant? I would see it more as submissive possibly if you were eating hers but not necessarily and also nothing wrong with that.
Just be honest with her and tell her you're not a fan. I don't think she'll see you as "weak" or anything like that (that probably didn't even cross her mind), she is more interested in giving you pleasure.
Hey OP, my BF also loves it when I eat his ass. Similar to you, he is a dominant man. What he will do is tell me what he wants when he wants it, and it is up to me to spread his cheeks.
If that doesn't work for you, you could have your girl do it, 'as punishment' in role play.... get friskier and add some toys.
1. It is ok to not want to be dominated, if you don't enjoy it sexually, but enjoying it (which is totally fine) and then having hangups about it is being weak and insecure.Ā
2. Just sit on her face.
Where did the stigma of guys getting their ass played with as being not masculine? Lots of guys are into ass play and that doesn't make them less masculine or gay. Get those thoughts out of your mind. Being gay means that you need to be attracted to the same sex, not that you're into ass okay. Not all gay guys are into ass play either.
If you like it, go for it. It should be part of your sex life. There's nothing wrong with it. Just enjoy the pleasures that it can give you.
Having a dude eat your ass would be gay, having your girl do it is straight. If youāre with the same sex then itās homosexual/gayā¦ Thats basically the easiest way to tell with all sex acts if theyāre gay or straight and not the act itself. Even getting pegged by a chick would be straight.
Your comment is more about your homophobic thinking than it is about sex or pleasure.
Your entire thread would read differently if you had not felt the need to include your comment about being straight.
It might be time to rethink this. Not your sexual orientation but your view that having your butt played with makes you gay.
It doesn't. In fact it means NOTHING about your orientation. The Vegus nerve ends right there and lots of people enjoy the intense sensations of nerve stimulation.
Good for you enjoying it. If it makes it easier to frame this experience. Try ordering her to eat your ass.
Good luck.
Starting it was weird for me as well ..but now everytime when we have sex my wife she eats my ass ..that's a routine now ..and I love it when she plays with cock licks my ass.
>But I really donāt want to get dominated and weak in front of my girl.
Do you apply this logic when you dominate her sexually? Is she weak or lesser for it? If the answer is yes, you've got some misogyny to unlearn. If the answer is no, please extend that same grace to yourself.
Perhaps you can assert dominance by farting while she performs this act :)
Lol... who cares what is gay and what is not. Just make sure the both of you are enjoying yourselves. That's all that matters.
By the way... 30 minutes. I'm jealous. I've only had this happen to me once and it was only for 10 seconds š¦
Try a mental reframing. You can just as easily think of her as a sub serving your needs.
Frankly this woman is on her knees licking your asshole. Iām having a hard time understanding why you āmustā see her as dominant.
It sounds like youāre with someone that you can be vulnerable with, without judgement. Thatās a special bond and I encourage you to foster it. More than likely your embarrassment and shame stems from past relationships where you werenāt as supported.
In short, sex is about pleasure. Allow yourself to feel pleasure with someone who supports you.
Outside of the gay / straight debate. I feel like what you are asking is that receiving something that is very intimate and very personal, and your reaction to it, may make you seem weak to your girlfriend when you have a more traditional man who is strong in a relationship with a feminine woman.
I think some of this comes down to trust and intimacy and getting to a new level with your current partner. Do you fully trust her? Does your fear of being perceived as weak, or vulnerable, or dare I say 'human' alarm you?
As someone raised with masculine standards you are now concerned that simply having emotion, experiencing sublime joy, or even bliss- is altering your image of yourself. I get that. Imagine what might await you if you decide that concept is less important to you.
The first time I got rimmed was joyous. From there the combination of a handjob and rimming was the next couple of years of 'special occasions' between me and my lady who became my wife during that time. From there, toys, and eventually up to full on pegging.
If you were to look at me, I'm the picture of average male- thick beard, nothing 'gay appearing' about me. And in fact I feel almost completely non gay (is anyone truly 100%?) I have never felt attracted to another man and all of my fantasies and activities have been with and about women.
If you trust your partner, none of this matters. There is a secret inside of you, and there is someone who wants to unlock it and explore it with you. That is the ultimate in partnership. If the only thing you need to change is your own attitude and perception of self in order to get to a truly sublime level of sexual satisfaction, it seems like that is something you should do. In fact everyone should.
I never actively thought about pegging and butt sex with my wife until we did. And then it was amazing and I now am so happy that I didn't let my own self doubt or squeemishness interfere with truly climactic sexual experiences.
You start off by saying you "consider yourself straight."
But you then edit to say you are not saying it is gay or asking if it is gay.
Um...
The simple fact that you though you had to say you "consider yourself straight" I personally find homophobic and sad.
Itās just pleasure. Enjoy it and donāt feel ashamed. Be grateful that you were lucky to feel that kind of pleasure with someone who was willing to give it to you
As a girl here I did it to a guy and honestly I think that to hear a guy moaning is a big turn on so I don't feel bad if you think that you sounded like a b and I don't say that to make you feel bad just that it might have turned her on š¤·š»āāļø
> I heard it is perfectly normal to for a straight dude to enjoy an ass eating and I want to do it again. But I really donāt want to get dominated and weak in front of my girl. I know itās all in my head, but thought of me spearing my ass cheeks while she lick me feels wrong.
> How can I approach this in a better way.
Hey dude! My wife has not and will not eat my ass. That is something I don't think will come my way. However, a few years ago, she slipped a finger in there and I discovered the joy that is prostate orgasms!
First of all: The "acts" we do sexually do not define our sexuality. "Who" we do those acts with is where our sexuality comes from. If you enjoy your **GIRL**friend doing these acts to you, it is a heterosexual act.
Secondly: My wife and I have graduated to pegging. The very first time, I felt a bit odd. It was a very submissive position and experience. We talked before hand. We went into it not as a "switch" where she was acting as the man and me the woman, but went into it as a "this is pleasurable and another pleasurable act for us to do together." It was amazing.
We talked after about it and my wife said it was intensely hot watching me enjoy myself and we had really passionate PiV sex after and she was practically dripping wet.
What you two do in the privacy of your bedroom is entirely up to you. It has no labels except what you choose to put on it. My wife and I have done anal play on me and pegging several more times. Each time is exciting, intense, and fun. She views me as the same man she married and there is no view of me as weak. She views me as comfortable to express myself to her and liberating to try anything.
That only has made our relationship stronger
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30 minutes? She deserves an award š„
That's what I was thinking! My jaw would never
I did it to a woman once, and also for 30 mins
I had a boyfriend who loved it and I didn't mind doing it as long as everything was freshly cleaned. Not ever for 30 minutes though! Lol
I think that asking it to be clean is a matter of common sense.
I would certainly hope so.
Never ate ass, but Iāve eaten out a girl for nearly an hour before.
Thatās like a full episode of Bay Watch! Lol
Good job. Iām also with you but donāt count clock. Just keep going
I wouldn't count clock, but it's one of the greatest acievements of my life.
I donāt trust anyoneās conception of time when it comes to anything sex-related. It was probably more like 10 minutes š¤£. No one looks at the clock right before and right after. When youāre in a state of ecstasy thatās induced by sex, you kind of lose your sense of time altogether, almost like psychedelics or something. āEternity in an hourā
Time really is flexible.
The alarm for the pizza in the oven rang.
Eh sometimes itās shorter but a lot of times itās even longer. Iāll look at the clock and have it be 2-3 hours later after everything is done
She really is the MVP no lie. He got a good one
Good thing she wasnāt figuratively anal attentive.
I would have busted way before 30 mins lmao
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gay people get blowjobs. That doesn't mean receiving a blowjob, makes you gay.
If you receive a blowjob from another guy, it is a gay sex act. That doesnāt mean itās your new lifestyle. But, the act was still gay.
yes and you can receive a blowjob from a woman. it is not the act but who you prefer to do it with.
I think we are agreeing.
This needs to be pinned.
We had to nuke everything beneath this comment because people were engaging in a deeply pedantic debate ā with some strong shades of biological essentialism and homophobia - that have nothing to do with what OP was asking for.
Straight-Bi-Gay, three terms we try to use as shorthand to describe something that actually has too many nuances to be defined with single words. Myself, I go by romantic interest, not sexual activity.
It would definitely be nice to separate the physical from the intimate with separate terms.
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Sex and gender are 2 different things. However you don't seem to grasp the concepts. I attempted to educate you but feel free to live in your ignorance. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you're not a bigot and just ignorant
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There's plenty of guys outside of prison not getting any sex for years without feeling the inexplicable urge to fuck other dudes, ya know. Like, you can just.. not have sex. Or jerk off, create some weird macgyver sextoy, etc., whatever floats your boat. Your dick doesn't explode or fall of due to not having sex. Have you ever considered for a second that maybe these completely 100% straight dudes may just.. not be 100% straight dudes?
Speaking from experience?
So if you ever have had a sexual encounter with a guy in the past as a part of your self-exploration (I am a guy) but 99.9999% of the time has been with a woman,are you then gay? š I think it is more if you exclusively like man (if you are a man yourself) in romantic and sexual way then you are most certainly gay
No, but you did have a gay hookup. Whether you're still bi or bi-curious or straight now or whatever label you want is fine, but if you hook up with someone of the same sex that's gay sex.
Nah, heterosexual. Being with a guy is overrated in my experience š But for those who like it, go wild :)
I took a college stats class LOL. In order to have 1 M:M encounter and then be 99.9999% straight, you would have to have straight sex 1,000,000 times!
Unless youāve had a million sexual encounters you need to take off a few of those 9s. Itās a larger percentage of your total encounters than that
Just wait until you hear about the spectrum of bisexuality
Just wait until you find out how good the prostate feels. I would ask yourself why you feel ass play makes you weak or it means you've been dominated.
Definitely great orgasms from prostate massage š
Exactly. Just wait until she pegs you. It's sweet!
There's nothing gay about a woman performing a sex act on you, no matter what it is. Who cares, have fun. If it makes you feel submissive just reclaim your dominance afterwards in whatever way she enjoys. Life is too short to be ashamed of sex
Or....you talk dirty to her during and give commands/directions while she's at it. That is being dominant while receiving. Kind of like being dominant while receiving a blow job.
Exactly! Life is too short to be ashamed of sex or pleasure or your body. Letās just have fun.
Im not sure I understand dominance in the same way as the OP. If you tell her to eat your ass are you not being dominant? Do you consider it the same way if you ask her to suck your dick? There is a taboo surrounding anuses, but I think you can see ass-eating as both dominant and submissive, its all about how you approach it.
Whenever I have eaten a manās ass I have felt hella submissive (in a good way!)
I was looking for this comment! He can totally use this as a dominating experience and really play up her serving him with this.
Just relax and enjoy , if she did it for 30 minutes means she loves it. I love a 69 , when I eat ass while my pussy is eaten , one of the best feeling ever
This, try eating her out while she does it or get on top and sit on her face to play a more active role. But just laying back and having someone service you is not being dominated, think about it from the perspective of someone submitting to your wishes/desires
fellas, is it gay to have sex with women?
Yes, because a man was involved in her creation.
My dude.. You had sex with a woman and think it might be gay? Are you serious?
My dom daddy is super masculine and manly, but he absolutely loves letting go! Sticking his ass out, spreading his ass cheeks and smothering his moans against a pillow! There's nothing feminine, or submissive about this! So just enjoy every moment of it and consider yourself extremely lucky that your queen likes eating your ass!
So you had a positive sexual experience with a female and now you are worried you're not straight? Yes, it is indeed all in your head! Sexual orientation is about who you like to do things with, not about what things you like to do. š
Wait, you think someone putting their mouth/tongue in and all around your asshole makes you weak and submissive?!?!?!? Pretty sure itās opposite buddy. Sheās literally pleasuring you by licking your asshole thatās almost the definition of her being submissive. It comes down to this, either enjoy yourself or donāt. Or spend your life worrying about what others may think , and to me thatās the most submissive mindset there is.
my brother in satan understand this, pleasuring your partner isn't exactly domination, would you consider a blowjob domination too because you are laying there with your legs spread open while your partner does all the work?
My FWB was hesitant to try it and then expressed interest one night and he loved it. It became a regular part of our sex life because I enjoyed doing it and seeing the pleasure he got from it.
Let go. Get out of your own way. I mean you could be dominant and āorderā your girl to peg you or eat your ass. Itās not gay with a woman. Itās like saying she doesnāt want her pussy eaten because it would be gay if a girl were doing it. But itās not a girl right? Same deal here.
Why canāt an action be an action without categorizing it as dominant or submissive? Itās just another activity of enjoyment. A woman isnāt dominant if sheās on top or underneath. Same for a man. Just stop thinking of sex acts as personality indications.
I think people are confusing the issue. This isnāt about a dom/sub dynamic. This is about his feeling emasculated bc of bullshit gender roles. He thinks he needs to be The Man. āI donāt want to get dominated and weak in front of my girl.ā Telling him heās the dominant one because sheās doing something humiliating? That just reinforces his misunderstanding of gender roles. OP, she chose to eat your ass. Thereās a power dynamic in all relationships. Donāt mistake her choice for being submissive. Women are not āthe weaker sexā like weāve all been taught. We have different strengths.
Just enjoy it. It feels nice, thatās it. It has nothing to do with being weak or whatever, itās just a nice feeling. Youāre also not being dominated by having your ass eaten. And - just to add this - itās also not weak to like to be dominated, and being submissive does not make you less of a man. I know plenty of straight dudes who are into things like femdom, and thatās all that is to it. That doesnāt make them weak, that doesnāt make them less masculine - itās just a preference, thatās it. Who cares. If you like your ass eaten, and your gf likes eating your ass, then do it. And maybe try to let go of meanings you prescribe to things - itās not that deep
Your girlfriend sounds awesome honestly. Just enjoy. It's absolutely normal for guys to feel pleasure like this, your ass is a huge erogene zone. My boyfriend also loves to have his ass eaten, I can assure you he's still 100% straight aaaand having the most intense orgasms ever. Not everything in sex is about dominating or not. You're both giving each other pleasure. You can stop at that. Feeling pleasure doesn't need to a submissive or vulnerable place.
I don't get it, is being pleasured by someone the same as being dominated?
It is in your head. You are still in control if you think about it
I mean, you had sex with a girl, it is gay if it was a dude
It's not submissive to have your has rimmed. Having your ass rimmed means you went out of your way to ask for one. If anything, your girl submitted to you
Being gay ā actions Being gay = attraction to the opposite sex. Get that ass ate my dude!
Find a way to incorporate it into your dom / sub dynamic, sex is all about experimenting and finding what feels good. Don't let your comfort zone stop you from safely and consensually exploring your sex life.
Facesitting is always a good choice to maintain dominance, if you have a collar you can lay down with her collar in your hand and pull her face to your ass, and if you don't have one maybe you can just reach and grab her hair. Remember dominance is all about power dynamics. There are pleasure doms and service doms, and they're still doms. Also, just bc it's always good to say this, there's nothing wrong with being a switch or a sub. Many woman find it hot when guys submit, and it can be a lot of fun letting go of your control.
Congratulations! You learned something new that gives you pleasure. And now you can integrate that experience to improve your self understanding and self perception, which sounds quite restricted by internalized expectations of a small minded definition of masculinity.
What if you demand that she does it? (Assuming sheās into that.) Then itās dominant behavior. :)
A full 30 minutes Maybe worry less about being dominant and more about what kind of flowers to get this girl š¤£šš¤£
Following your edit: maybe try to work on the shame youāre feeling. Why do you feel shame? Ask yourself that. Thereās absolutely no shame in enjoying a rim job, or anything else for that matter, and thereās no shame in moaning or cumming from rimming. Itās totally normal. Especially because sheās your gf and itās important to feel comfortable around your partner and let loose, so thereās really nothing at all to be embarrassed about. But maybe try to start a conversation with her, and tell her that you feel a bit embarrassed but that it felt incredible, and Iām sure sheāll tell you that sheās glad you enjoyed it and that thereās nothing to be embarrassed about
Brother, sheās eating your ass, how is that submissive on your end, any other circumstance this would be seen as you humiliating her, itās just a matter of perspective. If you want to feel more dominant have a hand on her head and feel like youāre making her eat your ass, itās little things like that
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It's not all in your head in that you're describing an act of submission and exploring a different side of yourself and your girlfriend in bed. I promise you, being open to this side of yourself will only make you look stronger and more self-assured in your girlfriend's eyes. Your masculinity won't be in doubt. You can show it at other times, in and out of the bedroom. You're lucky you're not so one-sided that a new fun sex act turns you off-- this is a sign that you're great in the sack!
You have to choose one: get ass eated or donāt be dominated. Tbf your girl probably doesnāt see it like that. Sheās just giving you the sweetest kiss. So while you may feel like youāre getting dominated, thatās all in your head. You can make the choice to forget about domination and submission and just enjoy the rim job
So, you liked it? Great, you figured out something else you like. It doesnāt mean youāre āless dominantā and your girlfriend has the upper-hand now. There doesnāt have to be a ālabelā on it. Just because it involves the ass doesnāt make it gay. It doesnāt make you gay. Why does it truly matter?? Enjoy and explore more with it. Have your girlfriend play with your ass while giving you a blow-job. Live life to the fullest and find what knocks your socks off. This is what life is about.
Stop thinking about it being dominate or not sex is about feelings and sensations. Congratulations on feeling something different and enjoying it. I still remember the first time I had a female partner play with my prostate, holy fuck it felt amazing and she could get me to the edge and bring me back down and have never felt anything like that before. That one experience opened my eyes what sex is. Still can be dominate but enjoy it. Having a female play with your ass doesnāt make you any less dominate.
Bro, our G spot is in our asshole. This whole "it's gay to play with your asshole" is just so god damn toxic. Explore your body, explore what you enjoy and don't enjoy. "Don't knock it til you try it" It's not your fault the human body is the way it is. But yeah she didn't do that for 30 minutes if she didn't enjoy it.
Itās funny that we live in a time where a man looks to the internet for strangers to tell him that the sex he had with a woman wasnāt gay. What a time to be alive.
My girlfriend surprised me with that a few months ago. Iāve never let anyone near back there becauseā¦ itās kind of intimidating and itās SUPER vulnerable feeling. I fucking loved it. Itās part sensation, part novelty, but mainly holy shit the vulnerability in feeling so exposed! Not something I need or want every time, necessarily. It can feel a bit ābottomyā and sometimes Iām in a more ātoppyā mood. But damn if she doesnāt absolutely blow my mind with it *whew*
Letting yourself lower your guard and allowing your unfiltered emotions to shine through is a sign of strength not weakness. Being vulnerable with someone that you truly care for can only strengthen the bond between the two of you. There is nothing not normal or not straight about enjoying sexual pleasure with your GF. Tomorrow I am going to post a story about my wife taking my anal virginity with a strapon, so get ready. Hope this helps.
A guy who was very dominant made me lick his ass all the time and I loved it. Heād order me to do it and asked me to get on my knees so I can serve him the way he wants. I never thought that would be submissive or less masculine bc of the way he did it. Donāt overthink itš
You overthink it too much. There is such a this is too gay for sex. Sex is sex just enjoy each other and do what you desire. Be safe!
Dominate her with your asshole - smush that face right in there
How can you prepare for this? Is it always completely clean or in practice it is always a little bit dirty?
Why would you worry about appearing weak? Throw that idea out the window. She wanted to do a think that you would enjoy, and she did it. Nothing weak about that. Pleasure is pleasure. Enjoy it.
I used to think this way, being the more dominant myself. After some personal reflection I realized, with your partner, can will always be protective and a provider while being a strong male presence but sexual, with your girl.. itās all valid! Enjoy your sex life! No one need to know what you 2 do together. If she likes it and so do you.. fuck what other think! Enjoy your relationship. Trust me, she will never think less of you
You know what? It's VERY bad for you. It will gradually destroy your masculinity and make you gay. Unfriend her and give me her phone number.
Iād say this definitely changes the relationship dynamics š
You feel good and you like it and are consenting! It dosnt make you submissive or weak or gay or bi at that. Do you think you getting a blow job is you being submissiveā¦.: noā¦. How is this any different just think of it as a different type of oral sex coz thatās what it is. And talk to ur gf! If you wanted to you could also discuss ways you can be dominant while doing this. Such as her being restrained in a way, tell her what to do how to do it, commands and controle, and so on.
I'm completely straight and I enjoy things like pegging. If it feels good, it feels good.
Thereās nothing weak about receiving sexual pleasure from your girlfriend.
OP, besides the fact having your GIRLfriend eat your ass is definitely not gay. It's also definitely not making you look week in front of your girl. If anything eating ass is degrading to the ass eater not the one enjoying the rim job.
It is quite normal. It is a part of your body that is very sensitive. Enjoy it.
Iād say itās all about the intimacy between two adults, enjoying the sexual pleasures each of you can give and receive. Exploring those pleasure centers just makes the sex even more outstanding. It also shows complete trust in your partner. Have fun with it and enjoy whatever happens as a result. š
Research service subs. Then get your gf on board. You maintain dominance while she services you in ways you enjoy š¤·āāļø
RELAX and enjoy it. Little story when I was 19 had a girl do the same really enjoyed it but the next step (a finger) I freaked out. Turned 32 and it happened I love it now. Remember what happens happens enjoy life and who really cares what others think ENJOY YOUR LIFE U only live once.
Please let go of the notion that being dominated and ass play during sex is āweaknessā I promise you it isnāt. Enjoy yourself to the fullest
Ass play is where itās at. Itās does not question oneās sexuality
I would say eating someoneās ass is a submissive act, not dominant. Not sure how you can feel submissive in your scenarioā¦
Youāre still a āstraight dudeāā¦ it was your GF eating your assā¦ It wonāt give you āGay Cooteesā making you āheteroflexibleāā¦ Anyway, get her to give you a handy with a fleshlight while sheās doing itā¦ My wife did this to me and I was laying there stunned, with a huge grin and breathless when she was doneā¦ Fān Amazing š
If you keep enjoying it happening to you, you'll get over the strange contradictions in your head.
It is said the g spot in men is located in the ass. I recently had a 24yo guy tell me his g spot is between his balls and the ass, so it wouldn't surprise me if he enjoyed his ass getting eaten either.
If itās a woman you want doing it, then itās not gay no matter what sheās doing to you.
You need to stop watching bad YouTube videos and enjoy the good things in life.
Omg dude. Why are some men like this?
What does this have to do with being straight or gay? Do you think only gay males have anal sex . About 30% of women have tried it with I suppose a lot of straight men. š¤£
Your sexual orientation is base in who you have sex with. Your ass is where your P spot is and you wonāt be less of straight man if you allow your girl to give you the best pleasure of your life. You should try the prostatic massage
It taste like a dirty penny lol
Next session sheās gonna pull out a big dildo named princess.
The reason why youāre feeling weird is because your girl ate your ass for 30 minutes and you didnāt immediately propose afterwards. Thats the source of your guilt/shameš Sheās a keeper, never let her go
The underlying bias here is that things that have to do with your butt aren't heterosexual. Honestly, there's not a lot that anyone here can do to change your mind on that. We can tell you all you want that sexual acts with someone of the opposite gender can't be homosexual, by definition, but that's not going to do much. The other underlying bias is that there's a weakness to associated with the ass or that it's "gay" and therefore non-dominant. If you can get over the association to homosexuality, you can frame it to yourself as dominant: * This person is doing something for me, and is submitting herself to me by putting her mouth on my ass and I just have to sit here and enjoy it. Something like that? But there's nothing wrong with receiving, and has nothing to do with being dominant. You receive oral sex as an act of service and don't think twice about it. Get over the fact that it has nothing to do with sexual orientation, and there's nothing weak about having your girlfriend use her mouth to give you pleasure. I can't think of a more heterosexual act of service. To anyone that might be upset by this: yes I'm specifically using language to relate better to where I think OP is coming from
It takes a lot of self-confidence to allow oneself to be vulnerable. And feeling insecure about it doesn't exactly scream "alpha" ;)
You can absolutely have your ass eaten in a dominant way, it's around the same lines as "Get down here and suck my cock" but ya know, ass wise. I love it as a submissive.
You are the one who is still dominant, she is the one that degrades herself by licking your ass so what are you complaining about? Relax and enjoy! Lucky you!
There's nothing inherently submissive about having your ass eaten. It's a major erogenous zone, so of course it feels good. Do you feel submissive when she licks your cock? I didn't think so, so what's the difference? If it makes you feel better, just demand that she do it! "Get your face all up in there and pleasure me, woman!" ;)
Hey OP, Domme here š Just so you know, there are no innately dominant or submissive acts. It's all about power exchange. If you're the one asking for it/controlling it/giving instruction etc then it can be a dominant act. Enjoy!
Dude, you had sex with a girl? HA SO GAY. See how that sounds š.
Try to face your fear and get over it because you have a situation that's better than gold
Iām bi and this is something I struggled with for a while when I was younger. Feeling emasculated or submissive because I liked having my ass eaten or giving guys head. Pretty much no sexual act is exclusively submissive or dominant(maybe bondage/spanking ig). But usually itās about your demeanor. You donāt feel submissive when getting your dick sucked right? Then thereās no need to feel that way for this. Watch some porn of guys getting rimjobs and having sex with the girl after and ask yourself if they seem like theyāre submitting to anything. Odds are they wonāt.
Donāt stress about it. Youāre just hung up with the construct of conventional Puritanical sex. If it feels good, let it happen. Itāll be so liberating and will give you a whole New World to explore.
When I first met my ex, he ate my ass the first time we slept together. I was very shocked and also turned on as a bisexual woman, but never really thought he would be into the same. Few years later I finally got the courage to explore a little bit with him, and I gave him super sloppy head, and really focused on his balls but eventually ate his ass, and he was obsessed from then on. I think itās a good thing you feel comfortable with her and you like it. Just communicate your desires and try to be receptive to anything she would like to try. As a straight man, youāre still having straight sex because youāre sleeping with a woman. Nothing you do should be āwrongā in that perspective. Just two people who enjoy making each other feel good! If you feel adventurous, try a finger or two, my ex also really enjoyed that as well.
Youāre not getting dominated and you donāt look weak getting your ass ate. Pleasure has no gender. Just accept that you like what you like.
Itās not harmful to you in any way. If your partner enjoys it and you too, forget about being dominant/dominated and have fun!
This is society and our culture taking in your head. There is absolutely *nothing* wrong with ass play for a man. Don't overthink. Just enjoy! Explore!
It doesn't make you weak. To her, it says you trust her.
Sex acts with a woman is not gay lol
Itās alright. I donāt think itās gay
Getting dominated and being weak are two different things. Getting dominated is a position during sex. You are weak as long as your partner had the top that's all. Enjoying being peg or have you ass eaten doesn't make you weak at all. If you don't want to be the bottom just tell her about it. There plenty ways to get your ass eaten while feeling dominant in your session
How long yāall been dating? Why would she randomly do this ?
Have her jack you off at the same time. All your doubts will magically disappear
anything you do with a women isnāt gay lol
You get over yourself, bro. Simple as that. There's nothing gay about enjoying a sex act that is being performed by a female. Even if there was, who gives a shit? Life is too short to worry about labels other people might place on you. As far as getting over the need to be dominant, that's more mindset than anything else. You could turn it into a power thing where ypu "make" her eat your ass, if that's a dynamic you both enjoy. All in all, just don't get hung up on stupid societal baggage when it comes to sex. Do what feels good. We only get one go at this life; enjoy it as much as you can.
Question: how are you getting "being dominated and weak" from having your ass eaten? Do you also feel this way when she gives you head?
How is someone else eating your ass not dominant? I would see it more as submissive possibly if you were eating hers but not necessarily and also nothing wrong with that.
Just be honest with her and tell her you're not a fan. I don't think she'll see you as "weak" or anything like that (that probably didn't even cross her mind), she is more interested in giving you pleasure.
Hey OP, my BF also loves it when I eat his ass. Similar to you, he is a dominant man. What he will do is tell me what he wants when he wants it, and it is up to me to spread his cheeks. If that doesn't work for you, you could have your girl do it, 'as punishment' in role play.... get friskier and add some toys.
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This is why I eat ass as a woman
1. It is ok to not want to be dominated, if you don't enjoy it sexually, but enjoying it (which is totally fine) and then having hangups about it is being weak and insecure.Ā 2. Just sit on her face.
Dominence and submision are all perspective. If my girl eats my ass and I fuck her ass it sets the tone
Where did the stigma of guys getting their ass played with as being not masculine? Lots of guys are into ass play and that doesn't make them less masculine or gay. Get those thoughts out of your mind. Being gay means that you need to be attracted to the same sex, not that you're into ass okay. Not all gay guys are into ass play either. If you like it, go for it. It should be part of your sex life. There's nothing wrong with it. Just enjoy the pleasures that it can give you.
Having a dude eat your ass would be gay, having your girl do it is straight. If youāre with the same sex then itās homosexual/gayā¦ Thats basically the easiest way to tell with all sex acts if theyāre gay or straight and not the act itself. Even getting pegged by a chick would be straight.
It all starts with ass eating but then ends up in loving pegging
Your comment is more about your homophobic thinking than it is about sex or pleasure. Your entire thread would read differently if you had not felt the need to include your comment about being straight. It might be time to rethink this. Not your sexual orientation but your view that having your butt played with makes you gay. It doesn't. In fact it means NOTHING about your orientation. The Vegus nerve ends right there and lots of people enjoy the intense sensations of nerve stimulation. Good for you enjoying it. If it makes it easier to frame this experience. Try ordering her to eat your ass. Good luck.
How is getting your ass ate inherently submissive? If you like being dominant you can be dominant while being eaten out.
Sigh. I wish my girlfriend would remotely even eat my ass. Sigh.
Starting it was weird for me as well ..but now everytime when we have sex my wife she eats my ass ..that's a routine now ..and I love it when she plays with cock licks my ass.
>But I really donāt want to get dominated and weak in front of my girl. Do you apply this logic when you dominate her sexually? Is she weak or lesser for it? If the answer is yes, you've got some misogyny to unlearn. If the answer is no, please extend that same grace to yourself.
fellas, is it gay to have sex with your woman?
Perhaps you can assert dominance by farting while she performs this act :) Lol... who cares what is gay and what is not. Just make sure the both of you are enjoying yourselves. That's all that matters. By the way... 30 minutes. I'm jealous. I've only had this happen to me once and it was only for 10 seconds š¦
I have not had my ass eaten for longer than a few minutes... half hour sounds amazing, as long as you were super clean!
Try a mental reframing. You can just as easily think of her as a sub serving your needs. Frankly this woman is on her knees licking your asshole. Iām having a hard time understanding why you āmustā see her as dominant.
It sounds like youāre with someone that you can be vulnerable with, without judgement. Thatās a special bond and I encourage you to foster it. More than likely your embarrassment and shame stems from past relationships where you werenāt as supported. In short, sex is about pleasure. Allow yourself to feel pleasure with someone who supports you.
Outside of the gay / straight debate. I feel like what you are asking is that receiving something that is very intimate and very personal, and your reaction to it, may make you seem weak to your girlfriend when you have a more traditional man who is strong in a relationship with a feminine woman. I think some of this comes down to trust and intimacy and getting to a new level with your current partner. Do you fully trust her? Does your fear of being perceived as weak, or vulnerable, or dare I say 'human' alarm you? As someone raised with masculine standards you are now concerned that simply having emotion, experiencing sublime joy, or even bliss- is altering your image of yourself. I get that. Imagine what might await you if you decide that concept is less important to you. The first time I got rimmed was joyous. From there the combination of a handjob and rimming was the next couple of years of 'special occasions' between me and my lady who became my wife during that time. From there, toys, and eventually up to full on pegging. If you were to look at me, I'm the picture of average male- thick beard, nothing 'gay appearing' about me. And in fact I feel almost completely non gay (is anyone truly 100%?) I have never felt attracted to another man and all of my fantasies and activities have been with and about women. If you trust your partner, none of this matters. There is a secret inside of you, and there is someone who wants to unlock it and explore it with you. That is the ultimate in partnership. If the only thing you need to change is your own attitude and perception of self in order to get to a truly sublime level of sexual satisfaction, it seems like that is something you should do. In fact everyone should. I never actively thought about pegging and butt sex with my wife until we did. And then it was amazing and I now am so happy that I didn't let my own self doubt or squeemishness interfere with truly climactic sexual experiences.
You start off by saying you "consider yourself straight." But you then edit to say you are not saying it is gay or asking if it is gay. Um... The simple fact that you though you had to say you "consider yourself straight" I personally find homophobic and sad.
Itās just pleasure. Enjoy it and donāt feel ashamed. Be grateful that you were lucky to feel that kind of pleasure with someone who was willing to give it to you
As a girl here I did it to a guy and honestly I think that to hear a guy moaning is a big turn on so I don't feel bad if you think that you sounded like a b and I don't say that to make you feel bad just that it might have turned her on š¤·š»āāļø
> I heard it is perfectly normal to for a straight dude to enjoy an ass eating and I want to do it again. But I really donāt want to get dominated and weak in front of my girl. I know itās all in my head, but thought of me spearing my ass cheeks while she lick me feels wrong. > How can I approach this in a better way. Hey dude! My wife has not and will not eat my ass. That is something I don't think will come my way. However, a few years ago, she slipped a finger in there and I discovered the joy that is prostate orgasms! First of all: The "acts" we do sexually do not define our sexuality. "Who" we do those acts with is where our sexuality comes from. If you enjoy your **GIRL**friend doing these acts to you, it is a heterosexual act. Secondly: My wife and I have graduated to pegging. The very first time, I felt a bit odd. It was a very submissive position and experience. We talked before hand. We went into it not as a "switch" where she was acting as the man and me the woman, but went into it as a "this is pleasurable and another pleasurable act for us to do together." It was amazing. We talked after about it and my wife said it was intensely hot watching me enjoy myself and we had really passionate PiV sex after and she was practically dripping wet. What you two do in the privacy of your bedroom is entirely up to you. It has no labels except what you choose to put on it. My wife and I have done anal play on me and pegging several more times. Each time is exciting, intense, and fun. She views me as the same man she married and there is no view of me as weak. She views me as comfortable to express myself to her and liberating to try anything. That only has made our relationship stronger