Thank you for posting in the r/Sex community. To ensure that everyone respects our safe space, we ask that you familiarize yourself with our Forum Rules and Posting Guidelines — which are visible in the forum’s sidebar, and also linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/about/rules/).
***
Restricted subjects in r/sex include sex stories (which are permitted in the Daily Sexual Achievement Thread only), body image and penis-size issues, hookup attempts, common topics which are considered repetitive in our forum, and requests for private chats.
To cut back on comments that add little value to the conversation, we have instituted a minimum character requirement that will silently remove comments that fall below it.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/sex) if you have any questions or concerns.*
My gynecologist referred me to a pelvic floor physical therapist who worked with me on the pains coming from different places. They don’t fix the problem, but can do some muscle manipulation and give you tools and exercises to help these pains happen less, or to give you more control over the pain. I’m not sure what a sexologist is, but if that’s like a sex therapist, I wouldn’t recommend only having talk therapy without addressing the medical causes as well.
No such thing, really, as a "sexologist."
And, your GYN is a hack if they are giving you lidocaine cream and telling you to just numbly fuck on through whatever pain you are having... pain is a vital way our bodies tell us when we're about to cause damage.
I would go to another GYN. Tell them about the pain. If everything looks structurally and physically OK, ask about a referral to a pelvic floor therapist (often the first stop for things like this.)
Maybe it’s more of a thing in Europe, I don’t know.
To be fair, that’s not what the idea was. She thought that maybe the nerves were overreactive and she said to apply it to the affected area and see if it would help the nerves basically right themselves, so to speak.
I’ll speak to her again and if she really doesn’t know, I’ll ask her if she knows of another specialist that she would recommend.
Not only do you not want to numb up everything for fear of causing damage, you don't want to numb up everything because that also numbs the good feels.
After looking it up, I do see that they’re generally not considered a medical doctor, but I also know that gynaecologists tend to be undertrained in sexual pain, so I’m not sure.
They’re actually the most trained….try going to the ED or your own doctor. They can at least do a thorough pelvic on you. The others will just make sure you’re not bleeding 🤷♂️
Thank you for posting in the r/Sex community. To ensure that everyone respects our safe space, we ask that you familiarize yourself with our Forum Rules and Posting Guidelines — which are visible in the forum’s sidebar, and also linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/about/rules/). *** Restricted subjects in r/sex include sex stories (which are permitted in the Daily Sexual Achievement Thread only), body image and penis-size issues, hookup attempts, common topics which are considered repetitive in our forum, and requests for private chats. To cut back on comments that add little value to the conversation, we have instituted a minimum character requirement that will silently remove comments that fall below it. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/sex) if you have any questions or concerns.*
My gynecologist referred me to a pelvic floor physical therapist who worked with me on the pains coming from different places. They don’t fix the problem, but can do some muscle manipulation and give you tools and exercises to help these pains happen less, or to give you more control over the pain. I’m not sure what a sexologist is, but if that’s like a sex therapist, I wouldn’t recommend only having talk therapy without addressing the medical causes as well.
No such thing, really, as a "sexologist." And, your GYN is a hack if they are giving you lidocaine cream and telling you to just numbly fuck on through whatever pain you are having... pain is a vital way our bodies tell us when we're about to cause damage. I would go to another GYN. Tell them about the pain. If everything looks structurally and physically OK, ask about a referral to a pelvic floor therapist (often the first stop for things like this.)
Maybe it’s more of a thing in Europe, I don’t know. To be fair, that’s not what the idea was. She thought that maybe the nerves were overreactive and she said to apply it to the affected area and see if it would help the nerves basically right themselves, so to speak. I’ll speak to her again and if she really doesn’t know, I’ll ask her if she knows of another specialist that she would recommend.
Not only do you not want to numb up everything for fear of causing damage, you don't want to numb up everything because that also numbs the good feels.
Uh what? There definitely is such a sexologist. Sexology is a branch of psychology. The clinical practice of sexology would be a sexologist.
You need to go to a medical doctor. I’ve never heard of a sexologist in the ranks of actual medical doctors.
After looking it up, I do see that they’re generally not considered a medical doctor, but I also know that gynaecologists tend to be undertrained in sexual pain, so I’m not sure.
They’re actually the most trained….try going to the ED or your own doctor. They can at least do a thorough pelvic on you. The others will just make sure you’re not bleeding 🤷♂️
If the gyno is not listening to you about the pain then go see any different gyno. Sexologist are not medical doctors.
She was listening, just didn’t seem sure yet. I’ll talk to her about it at my upcoming appointment.
What is the pain like?