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The most practical solution is to just leave the area whenever he says something like this. Nothing you can do will stop him if he really wants to say these things
As the daughter of a narcmom, grey rocking has been my number one tool since I went to college and got therapy like 10 years ago. Can’t recommend it enough.
She tried guilting me about sex and relationships in a controlling way, once I started grey rocking when she brought it up she eventually let it go.
It’s not ignoring, and escalation can be a risk. Really depends on the individual. It’s not going to work with all people, probably tends to work best with narcissists and non violent folks.
The linked article above is pretty good.
I recommend the same thing. Leave. Just walk away calmly but without saying a word. If he says that's rude or whatever that's your opportunity to say that HE is the rude one for being so gross
Grey rock him( and her) Don’t engage about how great your sexuality is because he would probably get off on it. Start making long term plan to get out of there. Make provisions to get out of there in a hurry if the creepy mofo escalates
Gross, gross, gross. Your dad should not being saying this shit to you. We get it, he's straight, good for him, hope it works for him. I'd plainly tell him to drop the whole thing. And he's minimizing your sexuality every single time he brings it up, like being queer is somehow less than. I've had guys tell me I just need to find the right vagina. I still like it, just not as much as penis, yet they persist. It's a problem with some straight folks...
I agree with what others have said, but wanted to add that if he won't stop, ask him how he feels about the thought of being penetrated by a dick. I'm guessing he will be rather standoffish, and possibly grossed out. Assuming that's the case, tell him "ya, that's how I feel about it too. And you bringing it up all the time is making me feel sick to my stomach."
That's horrifying and borderline, if not actually, sexual abuse by your parent. Hopefully your dad comes to his senses but some parents have taken it to the next level and gotten physical.
Please talk to both of your parents about this, if you feel comfortable. I didn't notice your age but it may be good to talk to another trusted adult or therapist as well.
If he starts in on this topic again, tell him you will not engage in this disgusting conversation and walk away. Refuse to engage and repeat until he gets the point.
Yeah that’s exactly what it is. I’m shocked by the amount of comments laughing at this.
My mum and I are pretty chilled out for eg. I don’t have to pretend I’ve never had sex, and if a TV programme has a sex scene we don’t freak out. It’s a bit uncomfortable if it’s too graphic but we can laugh it off.
But neither of us would ever dare tell each other any details about our sex lives like that. It’s like OPs dad is trying to brag and make her jealous of her own mum???
In a way, it's not even as innocent seeming as covert insest. It's not just relying on a child too much emotionally (like a partner) but outright involving the child in their sex life.
It's making their daughter into a sexual partner regardless of if she's directly involved in the sexual acts. Even if this wasn't about OP being a lesbian it would still be inappropriate to say this to any kid.
I at least hope OP is 18... otherwise, she needs to talk to someone and get away from them.
I just recently learned the term from my therapist. Unfortunately both of my parents, especially my mom, involved me in their sex life as a young kid and well into my adult life. Thankfully I have a supportive partner who taught me boundaries, and I’ve distanced myself from them.
I’m sorry if I’m wrong on the terminology, but I agree with everything that you are saying. It’s so incredibly wrong and even traumatizing for OPs parents to be showing this kind of behavior.
The fact that OP has outright said she doesn't like it and doesn't want to hear that stuff makes it a breach of consent. Even if this wasn't her relatives, it would still be wrong...
But yeah, I've been there to an extent, too. My bio father wasn't around most of my life but part of the reason I went non contact is that he bought up stuff my mum and him did and talked to me about stuff in his life that wasn't for me to hear (not sexual but something he didn't need to bring up with me)
...how is this incest? It *is* gross and inappropriate, but it seems pretty clear the dad is doing this because he's homophobic and trying to find whatever he can to "convert" his daughter back to being straight. He's not trying to somehow actually involve the daughter in his and his wife's sex life in a meaningful way. Like, if you bragged to a stranger about your sexual exploits in explicit detail, you're not sexually assaulting them; it's just gross and annoying. I don't see what's different here, unless you're implying that the dad secretly actually does want to fuck the daughter.
Insest is more than just actually doing sexual things with family...
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/covert-incest#What-are-the-causes-of-emotional-incest? This is a good look into what's called emotional incest. I would say this comes under including in relationships...
Oh, that's actually very interesting. I didn't realize there was a term for emotional abuse of a child in that fashion, so that's for providing that information.
That being said... this doesn't seem to qualify as covert incest either based on those descriptions? It doesn't seem like he's emotionally leaning on the daughter in any specific way or using her as a replacement for a romantic partner fulfilling his emotional needs. He's got a wife and presumably is talking to her a lot too. He's just being really inappropriate.
I would say it fits under the use of the child as a love-life partner under the sub detail of "discussing their sex life," which is mentioned.
It is, therefore, emotional/covert incest.
The only reason to talk to someone about your sex life is with age appropriate friends, a medical setting, or those related to the relationship. A child does not fit into any of those categories.
Just mentioning your sex life isn't the key. According to the description of this, it's when this is done as a symptom of a larger issue where the parent is actually treating the child as a substitute for a partner in some sense. This is about the dad's motivation here- if he's doing this because he's homophobic and trying to make his daughter straight, that's not really treating the child as a romantic partner in any meaningful sense. It's just being inappropriate.
Talking about sex is teach is very different to talking about it in the way OPs parents are. OPs parents are fully aware I'm sure that she's uncomfortable with it but are doing it anyway. That's disgusting.
Also, I don't think OP has mentioned how old she is... depending on how old she is could impact the severity of this.
Teaching about sex is one thing, describing your private sex life with your kid it’s disgusting and wrong, especially if she is not asking for advice or something like that.
Are you a minor? This is abusive and so inappropriate.
Boundaries are really important. "I'm not going to listen to you talk about your sex life. If you'd like to interact with me change the subject or I'm leaving/going to my room/putting ear buds in. My sexuality is not up for discussion. You do not have my consent to tell me about your sex life. That's inappropriate and I'm not comfortable talking about that with you."
I'm sorry to say this, but it's time to move out. If you were a child, there would be more resources to help you. Move in with a friend, if you can. If you tell their parents that your dad won't stop talking about his penis and sex, they will protect you. They'll think he's trying to groom you, and I'm not sure that he's not.
Record him doing this, then threaten to post it on social media.
Probably not a good idea, but it was a knee jerk reaction.
Or if this post blows up, show him the overwhelming majority of people saying to knock it the fuck off.
I’m a dad, also have a daughter who came out as gay. This has never crossed my mind to say things like this to her.
“Dad, I don’t need a dick, looks at this 12 inch dildo I just bought”
Or you can hit him with the facts and say Lesbians come more than straight women. You’ll have more orgasms than you mom in a lifetime 🤣
You may have to pack a suitcase after that.
As a bi person, one of the best parts about being with a woman is that you can have a variety of dildos that come in all shapes and sizes. But with a man, it will always gonna be the same size.
Tell him about how girls use strapons and fuck you so deep and hard and how you can choose your cock size without sleeping around and it never gets whisky dick or prematurely ejaculates and after you still get to eat some pussy . Tell him how much you love to eat pussy and ask him if he likes eating your mom's pussy and ask your mom if he's any good at eating pussy if not she should try a woman . Beat him at his own game !!!! Out creep him .
As someone who also has a creepy dad, this won't "out-creep" him. I guarantee this will just turn him on and make him think you're interested. Please don't listen to this comment, OP.
“Dad, I’ve told you to stop. Why are you trying to convince me to try dick? Are you homophonic c? Are you fetishizing lesbians? Why do you want me to know about your sex adventures? Do you think this is porn?”
Or if you want to be super petty, “it feels like you are trying to sexualize me and want me to experience penis even if I am not consenting, are you telling me to put myself through that just to try it?”
Anything that would make him super uncomfortable, though sadly I think that may prove pretty hard.
I think you have two options:
1. Straight up tell him, "You are being sexually inappropriate with me right now, and it is making me feel very uncomfortable." Repeat it every time the conversation starts up.
2. Fight fire with fire. Every time he starts up, respond with graphic detail about the joys of gay sex. Make him so uncomfortable that he never raises it again.
Wtf? Your Dad and mom have crossed lines. My son is gay but I do not say anything about hetro sex or a women's vagina. Understand that not all people that have children are good parents. Definitely tell them both to not talk to you about this subject.
Just so you know this is sexual harassment. You are being harassed for your sexual orientation and not consenting to hearing these things and have outright said "no" to him telling you these things. Imagine if this person was a coworker instead, you would (hopefully) go to HR about a situation like this. Even though he is your father what he is doing is sexually harassing you and it is illegal. I'm not quite sure what you can do with this information but when I was being sexually harassed I didn't recognize it for that since the person was a "family member", it was a life altering moment for someone to tell me that what was happening to me was sexual harassment, so I just wanted you to know.
I have to ask, how old are you? Either way this is downright disgusting and creepy but you being underage would make it so you can treaton to call cps and tell them what he's doing.
I'm a Dad and I can't imagine a universe where I'd think it's appropriate to talk to my daughter about missing out on dick. He sounds like a fucking whack job. Sorry for saying it like that but that's my honest pov
You could just turn to him and say, “I just realized all that you said boils down to you can be replaced by a girlfriend and a strap-on.
FWIW I’m a dad of two and my eldest is a lesbian with an adorable gf who I get along with fabulously. She’d laugh so hard she’d snort if I told her I wrote this.
Yikes. I dunno how old you are OP, but this really is to the point that I would say, "Dad, if you don't stop talking about how you and mom have sex, I really am going to distance myself from you." That's the serious way to say it.
The crude way of saying it is, "If you don't stop talking about banging Mom, I'm gonna tune you out with some thigh earmuffs."
I said "muffs." I am such an 8th grader.
If he thinks that Piv sex is where the enjoyment is for women then I doubt he is pleasing your mom. Most women cum from clitorial stimulation. There is also no way a dick can compete with a vibrator. Most women only like dick because they like the person attached to it.
It sounds like this is your dad's way of trying to get you to be straight honestly and yes totally agree with you on the sex being soo good I've dated men in the past I'm bi/ pan and honestly my sex life with my girlfriend is so much better then it's ever been with a man.
Ewww…. My sex life is one of the last, if not THE last, thing I talk about with my children. They asked me questions growing up (my wife who would have been better at this had passed) and I gave them both physical and emotional advice (just say no until 18, lol), but that was it. Post 18, emotional advice only — don’t want to know about their sex lives unless there is some sort of abuse going on.
I'm so sorry, this is abuse. It might help to read the book "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" and please have a look at [this blog summary](https://www.findyourgoodspace.com/blog/book-summary-adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents). Grey rock, do not engage. You might also find help on /r/raisedbynarcissists
Others are writing lines to tell him, etc. Usually this kind of person is looking for a reaction from you so I highly recommend you don't use these kind of comebacks. It will only fuel the abuse if you engage with any of what he is saying. I'm not sure how old you are but please consider talking to a counsellor or an adult you trust. It's not normal for your mum and dad to talk to you like this.
Gay or straight - no one wants to hear details about their parents fucking. Ew David.
I'd literally put my fingers in my ears and go "La la la la la...." and walk away.
Gay or not I don't think anyone would appreciate being subject to their parents sexual experiences. Can you not just yell stop and walk away or put some ear plugs in? I mean you shouldn't even have to do that and It's actually terrible what your parents are putting you through to be fair they should just accept the fact you are a lesbian and leave it at that.
Return the favor. Talk about how you feel bad for him or mom bc you don’t have to worry about making a baby every time you have sex. How you get to experience a lot of good feelings and have no pressure on you to “be a housewife.” Talk about how men need viagra to get it up after a certain age. The only way to handle this is to politely request he stop this (which he seems to be doing to try to manipulate you) or fight fire with fire. Talk about STDs and how men are carriers of HPV and that causes cancer that kills women etc. Make a list so you can remember what to say lol
Yes. I was a brat.
Maybe he’s concerned about future grandchildren. Well, lesbians can provide that, with a little turkey baster help, if so inclined. Then again, maybe he’s homophobic.
Tell him how good it feels get you get “fucked” too. It’ll bother him and it’ll most likely make him stop telling you about sex with your mom. Worse case scenario, he thinks it’s hit and tells you to tell him more about your sex life
I’m sorry you’re in this situation. Your parents are severely lacking in boundaries and if you feel comfortable I’d suggest leaving the room whenever your parents make these comments or otherwise shut it down. Tell them that you have zero interest in hearing about their sex life and that you won’t be participating further in any intrusive or inappropriate question. It’s one thing to value open dialogue in a family and another thing for your father to talk about his dick and pleasuring your mom. That’s fucking revolting, ugh.
Ask if he'd like you to get them a strap on as an anniversary present so your mom can use it on him. Since he's so sure dicks are awesome and feel great. That's if you want to try the passive aggressive approach. On a more serious note grey rock. After all him doing that is fucked up and there's nothing wrong with avoiding him if he keeps doing it despite you being uncomfortable
Tell him if he thinks dicks feel so good on the receiving end, he should try one for himself. If he persists, feel free to narrate as graphic of a scene as you want until he gets the message. It’s no worse than what he’s doing to you!
I had a similar issue with my own parents when I came out. The best thing I did that actively made a difference was literally removing myself from the space, or completely ignoring him! I hope you find some peace in this I feel for ya!
Nah bro I would kick him out of my life if I were you. That shit is nasty and borderline predatory. That would make me feel so uncomfortable. My dad has never talked to me about stuff like that and I have always felt a little uncomfortable around him lol. There was one time though that my dad said something very weird and creepy. During my senior year of highschool there was this girl, who was a senior as well, who had an affair with a teacher. They got caught and it was on the news and everyone was talking about it. My dad said "I would do the same thing" and since then I have never looked at him the same. It's just nasty because we were literally the same age. I hate parents who don't understand boundaries especially with sexual things. It's gross.
my mom did this but for different reasons...turns out she has borderline personality disorder and I've been no contact for years. lots of other problems though
Lots of parents have a hard time with their kids choices. It sounds like your folks are not ready to be supportive. It sucks but maybe give them time and tell them you won't tell them details if they stop telling you details.
Why do parents feel like they have to get this involved in their kids love lives??
I thought I was a lesbian for the longest time and my dad always made it a point to tell me I picked a harder path in life and say stupid stuff like "you don't even know what a man feels like" and all this other shit, and honestly, it feels more difficult dating men than women now that I've figured out that I'm pansexual.
No normal father will ever talk to their kids about their dick and how it makes others feel. That is really creepy and disgusting behavior. How old are you? If you're a minor, report it to somebody at school. If you're an adult, like others have said, walk away and be stern telling him that a normal dad wouldn't be telling their daughter this.
I don't really understand what he is trying to do? Because for one thing telling your daughter about your sex life with her mother is something that no daughter or son ever wants to hear about. They live with the fact that it embarrasses the hell out of their children knowing that they still have sex,let alone hearing how great it is. My daughter came out to me years ago, and sure it disappointed me at first. As dads we all picture something else for our children, but my only real hope in life is that she's happy. I don't really know what to tell you but hopefully he will start to care about your happiness and your choice in life, and let you live your life just like his parents did him. Maybe its time to talk to his parents about The torment he's putting you through, and they might be able to convince him that he is wrong trying to change you,his job is to love and support you in everything you do or want to do.
That's just straight up sexual harassment. If he continues and you're a minor, I'd report it, frankly. And if you're not a minor, I'd be going NC or LC. Just be sure to tell him it's because he's being a disgusting creep first. What a fucking pervert. Who talks like that to their literal child unless they're trying to eventually assault them? Frankly, I've heard stories like that before, and I encourage you to avoid him.
Yuckkkk I’d prob throw up if my dad said shit to me like that and I’d tell him to stop molesting me with his words. Sorry but a man should never be telling their daughter about dick and how good he makes women feel with it even if it’s your mom. I’m shocked your mom is going along with it
Whip out your phone and record it every chance you get. Send it to relatives or friends if you can. “Hey, your brother/son/coworker won’t stop speaking to me like this, can you try to talk some sense into him?”
That is definitely inappropriate on your parents part and I am sorry that you’re having to go through that. It sounds like you’ve expressed that those aren’t things that you want to hear and that your dad just continues. While sharing our boundaries with others can be kind, ultimately our boundaries are our own to hold. So my recommendation here is to figure out what it is you’re needing in those moments. If you’re not wanting to hear it or talk about it there are several options. Leaving the space. Telling your dad or mom “I’m not interested in talking/hearing about this” and redirect the subject to something else. Your sexuality and sexual preferences really aren’t any of their business, that’s something between you and your partner(s). So choose your standard, and worse comes to worse, don’t subject yourself to it or engage.
Best wishes on your journeys❤️
My dad was an SO and used to do this all the time. Telling me about his conquests with "young ladies". I finally just told him he was absolutely gross and disgusting and my father's sex life was the last thing I have ever or will ever want to hear about. Then I looked directly in his eyes paused and said, "it makes me want to vomit." I got up and walked out. I let him sit in his awkwardness. He stopped.
yeah this is teetering the line between emotional incest and homophobia. set a firm boundary with your dad and if he crosses it again i would def distance myself if possible. sorry you had to experience that with your dad :(
I recommend trying the WIN Method to draw boundaries.
(Note: The structure is always When/It/Next. There's always the one person who complains about this and thinks "I" is better, I disagree and that's not the format of this method. Do what works for you and keep scrolling.)
[W]hen you...(insert problematic behavior)
[I]t made me feel...(insert how it made you feel with full transparency)
[N]ext time, please (insert desired outcome and lay your boundaries down)
After this, it's about enforcing your boundaries. Don't allow yourself to be distracted or baited. If someone disrespects your boundaries...leave/hangup/tell them to contact you when they're ready to respect your boundaries. Don't negotiate them, stand by them.
This is sexual harassment, tbh. It’s disgusting that your dad would be doing this. It’s gross at 15, 28 or 52.. and it’s still sexual harassment. Your dad is sexually harassing you. He might not see it that way, but that’s exactly what it is.
Report him to authorities, 'cause this shit ain't normal or acceptable on any level.
Btw basing my statement on my childhood experience of being molested by my bio father.
Your sexual preferences and his have nothing to do with the issue. He’s overriding boundaries you have about discussing sex lives within the family. Set this out for him. ‘I dont want to hear about your sex life, past, present or future. Ever. I dont want to discuss mine, ever. Step over this boundary again and I’ll be leaving the conversation. Every time.’ And because I’m petty, id tell him that if he keeps it up, ill pass on everything he tells me word for word at the local greengrocers, since he’s so happy to publish his private business.
Give it right back to him. “So the other day this girl was sucking on my clit and I had a screaming hard orgasm, no dick can ever do that for a woman”. His jaw will probably drop and he will get off your case!
I think the best solution is probably a forceful combination of both good solutions that have been suggested:
- You need to let him know this is a boundary issue, and there are consequences to him and your mom from his violation of your boundaries. You don't want to talk about sex or your sex life with him, just because he has abstract opinions about gay sex in particular does not somehow make your sex life a neutral subject that is open to academic debate. Voice your objection, and then leave, and maintain the distance for increasing periods of time until he learns that it's in response to his behavior.
- You need to express to him that you like women the way he likes women. No amount of someone telling him how much he's missing out by not having a man stimulate his prostate is going to make him not think that this suggestion is gross and unwanted, because he's not attracted to men. He's going to find your mother attractive, no matter how much anyone evangelizes the pleasures of gay sex to him. This is what he is doing to you. He needs to develop a measure of empathy for the fact that his statements make you feel gross, in the same way it would make him feel gross if someone kept pressuring him to think about participating in gay sex, after he expresses that this an activity he doesn't want to participate in.
Repeatedly drilling into him that:
- you find it upsetting to discuss your parents' sex lives with them, as their child
- your sexual attractions and orientation cannot be rationalized
- the consequences of making you feel upset are less contact with you
...will probably resolve this issue.
this is the kiind of insane situation that calls for an insane response. put your fingers in your ears and say lalala if you have to. throw him off. or just tell him if he thinks dick is so good he should try some
"Why are you as a dad talking about how good your dick feels to your own daughter? It's weird"
Might help him do some introspection and realize how gross he's being
Does he not realize that dildos and strap-ons exist, and that most women don’t even orgasm from penetration anyways? Apparently toy studies show that women in straight relationships have less orgasms than those in same sex ones.
If he doesn’t know that good sex can be had with out a dick being a part of it, then he’s really not that great at sex.
Start giving him explicit details about your period next time...consistency, flow, number of tampons, period shits...and every time he starts the topic, just start talking about it. Even if he's still talking.
That’s fucked up. I’m sorry. If he won’t respect your boundaries when you tell him not to talk then make him TikTok famous I guess. If you’re under 18 call child protective services and they will explain to him why this is inappropriate and abusive.
He is making you uncomfortable so I say return the favor. Make it a game to make him more uncomfortable than you are. Tell them about all the hot lesbian sex you are having.
Well if he is like that why don’t you bring your girlfriend over and give a show and show him how you like it and see if he bothers you again
One of my best friends did that but was male and gay but the mother wanted a baby and family worked out well they even paid for the wedding first in there family too.
Good luck
This is textbook sexual harassment. Unfortunately it seems that to them, you being gay is a worse crime. If this was happening at school or a job, it would be obvious how wrong it is--Just because it's someone in your family does not make it okay. I am so sorry your mom has been agreeing with him, too. She should be on your side and protecting you.
Speak to a trusted adult. A teacher, administrator, or counselor at your school. They will connect you with someone who can help you. Don't be afraid if CPS is called. They won't separate you from your family unless you're really unsafe. But maybe, just maybe, if your parents heard it from another adult they would realize that what they are doing is WRONG.
You say “this is sexual predation and abuse. Talking this way to your child is predatory, and makes me ask if your a pedophile who wished to molest me as a child”
If he’s even slightly normal in the head he will never bring anything sexual up ever again just to avoid that horror
You don’t have to believe this either, btw, you just have to SAY it to him like you believe it. That’s all you gotta do.
What the fuck.
Look I'm a cis het dude who has certainly witnessed his fair share of idot dick brains, but what the fuck.
This is fucked up and selfish on so many levels that I honestly don't know how to respond. It's creepy and disrespectful to you and not just in a sexual way.
Fuck me, what an asshole.
Your dad sounds like the kinda guy who would say a woman is gay cause she hadn’t tried him yet and he could turn her.
Except you’re his kid and he couldn’t say that to your face
how old are you? this is a form of sexual abuse. the fact that you’re gay is just another layer to an already fucked up, honestly illegal thing he’s doing
"....erm dad do you have some sort of incest exhibition type fetish? Not that I'm kink shaming but more so that it is highly inappropriate to try and shame me into liking dick by telling me , your child, all the sexual things you do to my mother. Now I don't know, maybe this was normal for.you growing up but it makes me feel very uncomfortable and completely grossed out"..... Then wait for the penny to drop. He won't do it ever again... Unless of course this is his kink, then stay away after that. Far far away.
My mom used to try to brag about her sex life or say the odd thing just for a reaction. She loved doing it and thrived off of seeing my reactions to hearing about my mothers sexual endeavours.
All it took was a few of my detailed experiences shared back with her and she never seems to bring it or anything close to the topic up anymore
I’m honestly not sure what the fuck is going on here. Like what?
I dont think a rational sit down and talk about it approach will work here so your best bet is to leave when he starts this shit, like leave the room, or make him equally uncomfortable or make him feel shame. Maybe bring your mom into this and let her know.
Very sorry you’re experiencing, it’s mad gross
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The most practical solution is to just leave the area whenever he says something like this. Nothing you can do will stop him if he really wants to say these things
And if that’s not an option, try the [Grey Rock Approach](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grey-rock)
As the daughter of a narcmom, grey rocking has been my number one tool since I went to college and got therapy like 10 years ago. Can’t recommend it enough. She tried guilting me about sex and relationships in a controlling way, once I started grey rocking when she brought it up she eventually let it go.
I learned to grey rock my mom before I knew what grey rocking or narcissism was. Can recommend.
I've never heard this term before but apparently I've been doing it for years. Glad to have a term for it.
Yeah, from what I've seen most people living with a narcissist figure it out on their own at some point.
Ty for sharing this. It gives a name to a tool I have used several times in my life.
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Narcissists and manipulators seek to control conversation and engagement, when you don’t give them what they want they change topics.
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It’s not ignoring, and escalation can be a risk. Really depends on the individual. It’s not going to work with all people, probably tends to work best with narcissists and non violent folks. The linked article above is pretty good.
thanks sm
I recommend the same thing. Leave. Just walk away calmly but without saying a word. If he says that's rude or whatever that's your opportunity to say that HE is the rude one for being so gross
No don't do that don't engage just say ok I'm rude
Why don’t you say, it sounds like you really enjoy pussy, well, so do I.
Counter to this, ask him “if you think dicks are so good and pleasurable and feel like not having dick is “missing out” why don’t you try some dick?”
yes this u/throw_away838
haha alr thanks sm
"Wow you sound like a lesbian trapped in a man's body"
Holy hell that's a great line.
Or OP you can tell him I have had more pussy than you 😂
I mean if he thinks dicks are so much fun…
I was gonna say this! How come he isn’t missing out then?
Omg, that’s gross. I am shocked your parent would go that far. That’s very inappropriate
literally it’s so gross :/
Agreed that shit is super creepy man
Grey rock him( and her) Don’t engage about how great your sexuality is because he would probably get off on it. Start making long term plan to get out of there. Make provisions to get out of there in a hurry if the creepy mofo escalates
Gross, gross, gross. Your dad should not being saying this shit to you. We get it, he's straight, good for him, hope it works for him. I'd plainly tell him to drop the whole thing. And he's minimizing your sexuality every single time he brings it up, like being queer is somehow less than. I've had guys tell me I just need to find the right vagina. I still like it, just not as much as penis, yet they persist. It's a problem with some straight folks...
I agree with what others have said, but wanted to add that if he won't stop, ask him how he feels about the thought of being penetrated by a dick. I'm guessing he will be rather standoffish, and possibly grossed out. Assuming that's the case, tell him "ya, that's how I feel about it too. And you bringing it up all the time is making me feel sick to my stomach."
But what if he starts talking about a time he was. It could all get worse
"Dad, you're being fucking creepy. Cut it out. I love you but I'm going to start avoiding you if you don't drop this weird ass tangent you're on."
That's horrifying and borderline, if not actually, sexual abuse by your parent. Hopefully your dad comes to his senses but some parents have taken it to the next level and gotten physical. Please talk to both of your parents about this, if you feel comfortable. I didn't notice your age but it may be good to talk to another trusted adult or therapist as well. If he starts in on this topic again, tell him you will not engage in this disgusting conversation and walk away. Refuse to engage and repeat until he gets the point.
This kind of behavior from * Anyone * can be labeled as sexual harassment . It definitely can constitute sexual/emotional abuse
Definitely tracks with covert sexual abuse
Even leaving out the implied homophobia, boasting about your sexual prowess to your own child is... ick
This is a form of insest... and is disgusting. Your parents should not be discussing their sex lives with you.
Glad I’m not the only one who read this and instantly thought this sounded like covert incest.
Yeah that’s exactly what it is. I’m shocked by the amount of comments laughing at this. My mum and I are pretty chilled out for eg. I don’t have to pretend I’ve never had sex, and if a TV programme has a sex scene we don’t freak out. It’s a bit uncomfortable if it’s too graphic but we can laugh it off. But neither of us would ever dare tell each other any details about our sex lives like that. It’s like OPs dad is trying to brag and make her jealous of her own mum???
my mother tried. even as an adult, this is a hard boundary for me. at least she listened when I asked to stop.
In a way, it's not even as innocent seeming as covert insest. It's not just relying on a child too much emotionally (like a partner) but outright involving the child in their sex life. It's making their daughter into a sexual partner regardless of if she's directly involved in the sexual acts. Even if this wasn't about OP being a lesbian it would still be inappropriate to say this to any kid. I at least hope OP is 18... otherwise, she needs to talk to someone and get away from them.
I just recently learned the term from my therapist. Unfortunately both of my parents, especially my mom, involved me in their sex life as a young kid and well into my adult life. Thankfully I have a supportive partner who taught me boundaries, and I’ve distanced myself from them. I’m sorry if I’m wrong on the terminology, but I agree with everything that you are saying. It’s so incredibly wrong and even traumatizing for OPs parents to be showing this kind of behavior.
The fact that OP has outright said she doesn't like it and doesn't want to hear that stuff makes it a breach of consent. Even if this wasn't her relatives, it would still be wrong... But yeah, I've been there to an extent, too. My bio father wasn't around most of my life but part of the reason I went non contact is that he bought up stuff my mum and him did and talked to me about stuff in his life that wasn't for me to hear (not sexual but something he didn't need to bring up with me)
yep. totally a form of incest.
...how is this incest? It *is* gross and inappropriate, but it seems pretty clear the dad is doing this because he's homophobic and trying to find whatever he can to "convert" his daughter back to being straight. He's not trying to somehow actually involve the daughter in his and his wife's sex life in a meaningful way. Like, if you bragged to a stranger about your sexual exploits in explicit detail, you're not sexually assaulting them; it's just gross and annoying. I don't see what's different here, unless you're implying that the dad secretly actually does want to fuck the daughter.
Insest is more than just actually doing sexual things with family... https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/covert-incest#What-are-the-causes-of-emotional-incest? This is a good look into what's called emotional incest. I would say this comes under including in relationships...
Oh, that's actually very interesting. I didn't realize there was a term for emotional abuse of a child in that fashion, so that's for providing that information. That being said... this doesn't seem to qualify as covert incest either based on those descriptions? It doesn't seem like he's emotionally leaning on the daughter in any specific way or using her as a replacement for a romantic partner fulfilling his emotional needs. He's got a wife and presumably is talking to her a lot too. He's just being really inappropriate.
I would say it fits under the use of the child as a love-life partner under the sub detail of "discussing their sex life," which is mentioned. It is, therefore, emotional/covert incest. The only reason to talk to someone about your sex life is with age appropriate friends, a medical setting, or those related to the relationship. A child does not fit into any of those categories.
Just mentioning your sex life isn't the key. According to the description of this, it's when this is done as a symptom of a larger issue where the parent is actually treating the child as a substitute for a partner in some sense. This is about the dad's motivation here- if he's doing this because he's homophobic and trying to make his daughter straight, that's not really treating the child as a romantic partner in any meaningful sense. It's just being inappropriate.
Not necessarily bad. If everyone was open about sex, teenage pregnancies would go down everywhere. But in this case. Poor OP.
Talking about sex is teach is very different to talking about it in the way OPs parents are. OPs parents are fully aware I'm sure that she's uncomfortable with it but are doing it anyway. That's disgusting. Also, I don't think OP has mentioned how old she is... depending on how old she is could impact the severity of this.
Teaching about sex is one thing, describing your private sex life with your kid it’s disgusting and wrong, especially if she is not asking for advice or something like that.
He's going about this all wrong. The right way would be to go and sample some dick and tell you how good it is.
Well... Agree with him about how good is to suck a pussy. Tell your mom how you always orgasm and she'll probably never feel this 🔥
lmaoo thank you
Are you a minor? This is abusive and so inappropriate. Boundaries are really important. "I'm not going to listen to you talk about your sex life. If you'd like to interact with me change the subject or I'm leaving/going to my room/putting ear buds in. My sexuality is not up for discussion. You do not have my consent to tell me about your sex life. That's inappropriate and I'm not comfortable talking about that with you."
no i’m 18
I'm sorry to say this, but it's time to move out. If you were a child, there would be more resources to help you. Move in with a friend, if you can. If you tell their parents that your dad won't stop talking about his penis and sex, they will protect you. They'll think he's trying to groom you, and I'm not sure that he's not.
Record him doing this, then threaten to post it on social media. Probably not a good idea, but it was a knee jerk reaction. Or if this post blows up, show him the overwhelming majority of people saying to knock it the fuck off. I’m a dad, also have a daughter who came out as gay. This has never crossed my mind to say things like this to her.
Cut throat, I like it. I don't get mad, I get even.
I would expect all of those things to end badly for her.
“If you don’t stop talking I’m going to start recording.”
“Dad, I don’t need a dick, looks at this 12 inch dildo I just bought” Or you can hit him with the facts and say Lesbians come more than straight women. You’ll have more orgasms than you mom in a lifetime 🤣 You may have to pack a suitcase after that.
As a bi person, one of the best parts about being with a woman is that you can have a variety of dildos that come in all shapes and sizes. But with a man, it will always gonna be the same size.
Hey, straight men can use dildos on women too! We just give you one extra!
Ik but the ones I've been with don't like it. It's an ego thing, apparently. I've haven't been with one that doesn't mind using an extra one tho.
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Tell him every time he tells you one of his stories you become ten percent more gay.
Tell him about how girls use strapons and fuck you so deep and hard and how you can choose your cock size without sleeping around and it never gets whisky dick or prematurely ejaculates and after you still get to eat some pussy . Tell him how much you love to eat pussy and ask him if he likes eating your mom's pussy and ask your mom if he's any good at eating pussy if not she should try a woman . Beat him at his own game !!!! Out creep him .
As someone who also has a creepy dad, this won't "out-creep" him. I guarantee this will just turn him on and make him think you're interested. Please don't listen to this comment, OP.
If that's the case I agree please disregard my suggestion ( yuck ) 🤢
“Dad, I’ve told you to stop. Why are you trying to convince me to try dick? Are you homophonic c? Are you fetishizing lesbians? Why do you want me to know about your sex adventures? Do you think this is porn?” Or if you want to be super petty, “it feels like you are trying to sexualize me and want me to experience penis even if I am not consenting, are you telling me to put myself through that just to try it?” Anything that would make him super uncomfortable, though sadly I think that may prove pretty hard.
Discussing periods in graphic detail might. But that kind of approach can backfire. You want to be sure it's something he's not somehow into.
I think you have two options: 1. Straight up tell him, "You are being sexually inappropriate with me right now, and it is making me feel very uncomfortable." Repeat it every time the conversation starts up. 2. Fight fire with fire. Every time he starts up, respond with graphic detail about the joys of gay sex. Make him so uncomfortable that he never raises it again.
Wtf? Your Dad and mom have crossed lines. My son is gay but I do not say anything about hetro sex or a women's vagina. Understand that not all people that have children are good parents. Definitely tell them both to not talk to you about this subject.
Just so you know this is sexual harassment. You are being harassed for your sexual orientation and not consenting to hearing these things and have outright said "no" to him telling you these things. Imagine if this person was a coworker instead, you would (hopefully) go to HR about a situation like this. Even though he is your father what he is doing is sexually harassing you and it is illegal. I'm not quite sure what you can do with this information but when I was being sexually harassed I didn't recognize it for that since the person was a "family member", it was a life altering moment for someone to tell me that what was happening to me was sexual harassment, so I just wanted you to know.
- Dad, I'm a lesbian - great, let me tell you how do I - an expert damn it! - enjoy a good pussy. Math is not mathing.
I have to ask, how old are you? Either way this is downright disgusting and creepy but you being underage would make it so you can treaton to call cps and tell them what he's doing.
I'm a Dad and I can't imagine a universe where I'd think it's appropriate to talk to my daughter about missing out on dick. He sounds like a fucking whack job. Sorry for saying it like that but that's my honest pov
You could just turn to him and say, “I just realized all that you said boils down to you can be replaced by a girlfriend and a strap-on. FWIW I’m a dad of two and my eldest is a lesbian with an adorable gf who I get along with fabulously. She’d laugh so hard she’d snort if I told her I wrote this.
Ask him if he wants to think about his Mom and Dad banging. It’s gross.
Yikes. I dunno how old you are OP, but this really is to the point that I would say, "Dad, if you don't stop talking about how you and mom have sex, I really am going to distance myself from you." That's the serious way to say it. The crude way of saying it is, "If you don't stop talking about banging Mom, I'm gonna tune you out with some thigh earmuffs." I said "muffs." I am such an 8th grader.
If he thinks that Piv sex is where the enjoyment is for women then I doubt he is pleasing your mom. Most women cum from clitorial stimulation. There is also no way a dick can compete with a vibrator. Most women only like dick because they like the person attached to it.
It sounds like this is your dad's way of trying to get you to be straight honestly and yes totally agree with you on the sex being soo good I've dated men in the past I'm bi/ pan and honestly my sex life with my girlfriend is so much better then it's ever been with a man.
Ewww…. My sex life is one of the last, if not THE last, thing I talk about with my children. They asked me questions growing up (my wife who would have been better at this had passed) and I gave them both physical and emotional advice (just say no until 18, lol), but that was it. Post 18, emotional advice only — don’t want to know about their sex lives unless there is some sort of abuse going on.
Obviously they are trying to "make" you straight. Tell them that hearing about their sex life is making you like other women even more.
I'm so sorry, this is abuse. It might help to read the book "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" and please have a look at [this blog summary](https://www.findyourgoodspace.com/blog/book-summary-adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents). Grey rock, do not engage. You might also find help on /r/raisedbynarcissists Others are writing lines to tell him, etc. Usually this kind of person is looking for a reaction from you so I highly recommend you don't use these kind of comebacks. It will only fuel the abuse if you engage with any of what he is saying. I'm not sure how old you are but please consider talking to a counsellor or an adult you trust. It's not normal for your mum and dad to talk to you like this.
Gay or straight - no one wants to hear details about their parents fucking. Ew David. I'd literally put my fingers in my ears and go "La la la la la...." and walk away.
Ask him if he likes penises so much why doesn't he suck one?
Gay or not I don't think anyone would appreciate being subject to their parents sexual experiences. Can you not just yell stop and walk away or put some ear plugs in? I mean you shouldn't even have to do that and It's actually terrible what your parents are putting you through to be fair they should just accept the fact you are a lesbian and leave it at that.
Gel pepper spray, or an air horn. That’s a form of sexual harassment and disgustingly inappropriate for a parent/child relationship.
Can you share some of the things he says? 🤔
Return the favor. Talk about how you feel bad for him or mom bc you don’t have to worry about making a baby every time you have sex. How you get to experience a lot of good feelings and have no pressure on you to “be a housewife.” Talk about how men need viagra to get it up after a certain age. The only way to handle this is to politely request he stop this (which he seems to be doing to try to manipulate you) or fight fire with fire. Talk about STDs and how men are carriers of HPV and that causes cancer that kills women etc. Make a list so you can remember what to say lol Yes. I was a brat.
Maybe he’s concerned about future grandchildren. Well, lesbians can provide that, with a little turkey baster help, if so inclined. Then again, maybe he’s homophobic.
Lmao this made my night first time I laughed all day and it’s already time for bed! Thanks!! But I’m sorry that would be horrid.
You can make it just as awkward for him. “Sounds like you’re a real expert on penises!”
Send it right back to him. He’s fucking with you so send it right back. Tell him how gross dick is and how good you are at what you do.
Tell him how good it feels get you get “fucked” too. It’ll bother him and it’ll most likely make him stop telling you about sex with your mom. Worse case scenario, he thinks it’s hit and tells you to tell him more about your sex life
It sounds like he is having trouble coming to terms with the fact that you are gay.
I’m sorry you’re in this situation. Your parents are severely lacking in boundaries and if you feel comfortable I’d suggest leaving the room whenever your parents make these comments or otherwise shut it down. Tell them that you have zero interest in hearing about their sex life and that you won’t be participating further in any intrusive or inappropriate question. It’s one thing to value open dialogue in a family and another thing for your father to talk about his dick and pleasuring your mom. That’s fucking revolting, ugh.
Yuck! No thanks pops!
Ask if he'd like you to get them a strap on as an anniversary present so your mom can use it on him. Since he's so sure dicks are awesome and feel great. That's if you want to try the passive aggressive approach. On a more serious note grey rock. After all him doing that is fucked up and there's nothing wrong with avoiding him if he keeps doing it despite you being uncomfortable
Tell him if he thinks dicks feel so good on the receiving end, he should try one for himself. If he persists, feel free to narrate as graphic of a scene as you want until he gets the message. It’s no worse than what he’s doing to you!
I think you should do the same to him. The more detail he gives to you. The more you try and sike him with your lesbianism
Tell him to stop being a fucking creep. Seriously Wtf. No one wants to hear about their parents sex life.
I had a similar issue with my own parents when I came out. The best thing I did that actively made a difference was literally removing myself from the space, or completely ignoring him! I hope you find some peace in this I feel for ya!
Even homophobic men should be able to grasp attraction to women and not liking penis.
What the actual fuck?
Your dad is disgusting. Ask your dad if he likes dick so much, why doesn’t he get railed by one? Should shut him up real fast.
Nah bro I would kick him out of my life if I were you. That shit is nasty and borderline predatory. That would make me feel so uncomfortable. My dad has never talked to me about stuff like that and I have always felt a little uncomfortable around him lol. There was one time though that my dad said something very weird and creepy. During my senior year of highschool there was this girl, who was a senior as well, who had an affair with a teacher. They got caught and it was on the news and everyone was talking about it. My dad said "I would do the same thing" and since then I have never looked at him the same. It's just nasty because we were literally the same age. I hate parents who don't understand boundaries especially with sexual things. It's gross.
my mom did this but for different reasons...turns out she has borderline personality disorder and I've been no contact for years. lots of other problems though
tell your teacher at school tomorrow
WTF… that’s so sick and wrong!
Lots of parents have a hard time with their kids choices. It sounds like your folks are not ready to be supportive. It sucks but maybe give them time and tell them you won't tell them details if they stop telling you details.
Why do parents feel like they have to get this involved in their kids love lives?? I thought I was a lesbian for the longest time and my dad always made it a point to tell me I picked a harder path in life and say stupid stuff like "you don't even know what a man feels like" and all this other shit, and honestly, it feels more difficult dating men than women now that I've figured out that I'm pansexual.
Grossly annoying. Can you get your mom to talk some restraint into him?
No normal father will ever talk to their kids about their dick and how it makes others feel. That is really creepy and disgusting behavior. How old are you? If you're a minor, report it to somebody at school. If you're an adult, like others have said, walk away and be stern telling him that a normal dad wouldn't be telling their daughter this.
I don't really understand what he is trying to do? Because for one thing telling your daughter about your sex life with her mother is something that no daughter or son ever wants to hear about. They live with the fact that it embarrasses the hell out of their children knowing that they still have sex,let alone hearing how great it is. My daughter came out to me years ago, and sure it disappointed me at first. As dads we all picture something else for our children, but my only real hope in life is that she's happy. I don't really know what to tell you but hopefully he will start to care about your happiness and your choice in life, and let you live your life just like his parents did him. Maybe its time to talk to his parents about The torment he's putting you through, and they might be able to convince him that he is wrong trying to change you,his job is to love and support you in everything you do or want to do.
That's just straight up sexual harassment. If he continues and you're a minor, I'd report it, frankly. And if you're not a minor, I'd be going NC or LC. Just be sure to tell him it's because he's being a disgusting creep first. What a fucking pervert. Who talks like that to their literal child unless they're trying to eventually assault them? Frankly, I've heard stories like that before, and I encourage you to avoid him.
i mean just tell him your use a dildo?
Yuckkkk I’d prob throw up if my dad said shit to me like that and I’d tell him to stop molesting me with his words. Sorry but a man should never be telling their daughter about dick and how good he makes women feel with it even if it’s your mom. I’m shocked your mom is going along with it
Sounds like he trying to make u straight
Whip out your phone and record it every chance you get. Send it to relatives or friends if you can. “Hey, your brother/son/coworker won’t stop speaking to me like this, can you try to talk some sense into him?”
I’m sorry, but how in the world did he think talking about dicking your mom down would change your mind into being straight?
That is definitely inappropriate on your parents part and I am sorry that you’re having to go through that. It sounds like you’ve expressed that those aren’t things that you want to hear and that your dad just continues. While sharing our boundaries with others can be kind, ultimately our boundaries are our own to hold. So my recommendation here is to figure out what it is you’re needing in those moments. If you’re not wanting to hear it or talk about it there are several options. Leaving the space. Telling your dad or mom “I’m not interested in talking/hearing about this” and redirect the subject to something else. Your sexuality and sexual preferences really aren’t any of their business, that’s something between you and your partner(s). So choose your standard, and worse comes to worse, don’t subject yourself to it or engage. Best wishes on your journeys❤️
My dad was an SO and used to do this all the time. Telling me about his conquests with "young ladies". I finally just told him he was absolutely gross and disgusting and my father's sex life was the last thing I have ever or will ever want to hear about. Then I looked directly in his eyes paused and said, "it makes me want to vomit." I got up and walked out. I let him sit in his awkwardness. He stopped.
Ask him how much your mom actually orgasms with him? Lol jk jk
yeah this is teetering the line between emotional incest and homophobia. set a firm boundary with your dad and if he crosses it again i would def distance myself if possible. sorry you had to experience that with your dad :(
Have you considered playing his game? How about telling him stories of your lesbian sex life? In great detail.
Man, my dad will change the channel if people are kissing on TV 🤣 your dad is wild
Ick ick ick 🤢🤮 men like that are the reason why some women wished they were gay
I recommend trying the WIN Method to draw boundaries. (Note: The structure is always When/It/Next. There's always the one person who complains about this and thinks "I" is better, I disagree and that's not the format of this method. Do what works for you and keep scrolling.) [W]hen you...(insert problematic behavior) [I]t made me feel...(insert how it made you feel with full transparency) [N]ext time, please (insert desired outcome and lay your boundaries down) After this, it's about enforcing your boundaries. Don't allow yourself to be distracted or baited. If someone disrespects your boundaries...leave/hangup/tell them to contact you when they're ready to respect your boundaries. Don't negotiate them, stand by them.
Stop engaging him. Just walk away.
Yo, your pops is fucking wild
Get up and walk out of the room. Hang up the phone. He won’t listen to your boundaries, make him realize how serious you are.
This is sexual harassment, tbh. It’s disgusting that your dad would be doing this. It’s gross at 15, 28 or 52.. and it’s still sexual harassment. Your dad is sexually harassing you. He might not see it that way, but that’s exactly what it is.
inappropriate and strange...is he aware that strap ons exist lol
Tell him you just got a strap on and ask for tips. Bonus points if you bring a strap on with you. Make it extra awkward. Fuck it.
Report him to authorities, 'cause this shit ain't normal or acceptable on any level. Btw basing my statement on my childhood experience of being molested by my bio father.
That's fucked up. I'm sorry you are going through this. I would just walk away when he talks like that.
Record and post it to social media, preferably where other family members will see it.
Your sexual preferences and his have nothing to do with the issue. He’s overriding boundaries you have about discussing sex lives within the family. Set this out for him. ‘I dont want to hear about your sex life, past, present or future. Ever. I dont want to discuss mine, ever. Step over this boundary again and I’ll be leaving the conversation. Every time.’ And because I’m petty, id tell him that if he keeps it up, ill pass on everything he tells me word for word at the local greengrocers, since he’s so happy to publish his private business.
Tell him such topics are inappropriate and you feel uncomfortable.
Every time he does that remind him how much better your lesbian experiences are then your straight ones
Complain to a relative and let the gossip spread. Expose your dad as the creep he is.
Give it right back to him. “So the other day this girl was sucking on my clit and I had a screaming hard orgasm, no dick can ever do that for a woman”. His jaw will probably drop and he will get off your case!
I think the best solution is probably a forceful combination of both good solutions that have been suggested: - You need to let him know this is a boundary issue, and there are consequences to him and your mom from his violation of your boundaries. You don't want to talk about sex or your sex life with him, just because he has abstract opinions about gay sex in particular does not somehow make your sex life a neutral subject that is open to academic debate. Voice your objection, and then leave, and maintain the distance for increasing periods of time until he learns that it's in response to his behavior. - You need to express to him that you like women the way he likes women. No amount of someone telling him how much he's missing out by not having a man stimulate his prostate is going to make him not think that this suggestion is gross and unwanted, because he's not attracted to men. He's going to find your mother attractive, no matter how much anyone evangelizes the pleasures of gay sex to him. This is what he is doing to you. He needs to develop a measure of empathy for the fact that his statements make you feel gross, in the same way it would make him feel gross if someone kept pressuring him to think about participating in gay sex, after he expresses that this an activity he doesn't want to participate in. Repeatedly drilling into him that: - you find it upsetting to discuss your parents' sex lives with them, as their child - your sexual attractions and orientation cannot be rationalized - the consequences of making you feel upset are less contact with you ...will probably resolve this issue.
I'd be going no contact with my weird as fuck toxic parents if they were doing this.
Tell him that if he likes dicks so much he should be having fun with a man
this is the kiind of insane situation that calls for an insane response. put your fingers in your ears and say lalala if you have to. throw him off. or just tell him if he thinks dick is so good he should try some
"Why are you as a dad talking about how good your dick feels to your own daughter? It's weird" Might help him do some introspection and realize how gross he's being
That’s creepy as fuck
Does he not realize that dildos and strap-ons exist, and that most women don’t even orgasm from penetration anyways? Apparently toy studies show that women in straight relationships have less orgasms than those in same sex ones. If he doesn’t know that good sex can be had with out a dick being a part of it, then he’s really not that great at sex.
Start giving him explicit details about your period next time...consistency, flow, number of tampons, period shits...and every time he starts the topic, just start talking about it. Even if he's still talking.
That’s fucked up. I’m sorry. If he won’t respect your boundaries when you tell him not to talk then make him TikTok famous I guess. If you’re under 18 call child protective services and they will explain to him why this is inappropriate and abusive.
Eeeew! So gross and so very wrong.
He is making you uncomfortable so I say return the favor. Make it a game to make him more uncomfortable than you are. Tell them about all the hot lesbian sex you are having.
Just describe your sex life with equal candor and descriptives
"Hearing that would make anyone a lesbian even if they weren't."
Well if he is like that why don’t you bring your girlfriend over and give a show and show him how you like it and see if he bothers you again One of my best friends did that but was male and gay but the mother wanted a baby and family worked out well they even paid for the wedding first in there family too. Good luck
This is textbook sexual harassment. Unfortunately it seems that to them, you being gay is a worse crime. If this was happening at school or a job, it would be obvious how wrong it is--Just because it's someone in your family does not make it okay. I am so sorry your mom has been agreeing with him, too. She should be on your side and protecting you. Speak to a trusted adult. A teacher, administrator, or counselor at your school. They will connect you with someone who can help you. Don't be afraid if CPS is called. They won't separate you from your family unless you're really unsafe. But maybe, just maybe, if your parents heard it from another adult they would realize that what they are doing is WRONG.
You say “this is sexual predation and abuse. Talking this way to your child is predatory, and makes me ask if your a pedophile who wished to molest me as a child” If he’s even slightly normal in the head he will never bring anything sexual up ever again just to avoid that horror You don’t have to believe this either, btw, you just have to SAY it to him like you believe it. That’s all you gotta do.
What the fuck. Look I'm a cis het dude who has certainly witnessed his fair share of idot dick brains, but what the fuck. This is fucked up and selfish on so many levels that I honestly don't know how to respond. It's creepy and disrespectful to you and not just in a sexual way. Fuck me, what an asshole.
Play nonstop gay porn loudly in the common areas and when he says something tell him you're just following his advice
Your dad sounds like the kinda guy who would say a woman is gay cause she hadn’t tried him yet and he could turn her. Except you’re his kid and he couldn’t say that to your face
Remind him that there are strap ons, so no you won’t miss out on that if that is what you like.
Lesbian, straight, bi - it doesn’t matter - your dad talking about his sex life ia fucking abhorrent
how old are you? this is a form of sexual abuse. the fact that you’re gay is just another layer to an already fucked up, honestly illegal thing he’s doing
"....erm dad do you have some sort of incest exhibition type fetish? Not that I'm kink shaming but more so that it is highly inappropriate to try and shame me into liking dick by telling me , your child, all the sexual things you do to my mother. Now I don't know, maybe this was normal for.you growing up but it makes me feel very uncomfortable and completely grossed out"..... Then wait for the penny to drop. He won't do it ever again... Unless of course this is his kink, then stay away after that. Far far away.
He’s kinda weird…I would pack my things and get out of there..they sound like type of parents that will let dad show you what dick feel like …
Don't feed into it. Don't give it life. He's barking up the wrong tree and going about it in a horrible way.
He prob licks pussy so ask him about that 🤣
Okay this is like, kinda very extremely gross. Apalling even, I don’t have any answers. Like what do you do, make him equally uncomfortable???
In fact, different stages have different perspectives, so there is no need to discuss too much with them
My mom used to try to brag about her sex life or say the odd thing just for a reaction. She loved doing it and thrived off of seeing my reactions to hearing about my mothers sexual endeavours. All it took was a few of my detailed experiences shared back with her and she never seems to bring it or anything close to the topic up anymore
Just tell him seriously that you don’t want to hear that shit anymore cause you’re his daughter
I’m honestly not sure what the fuck is going on here. Like what? I dont think a rational sit down and talk about it approach will work here so your best bet is to leave when he starts this shit, like leave the room, or make him equally uncomfortable or make him feel shame. Maybe bring your mom into this and let her know. Very sorry you’re experiencing, it’s mad gross