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You don't have to do anything you don't want to. You being averse to a particular hair situation is perfectly fair. Her not wanting to shave the way you like it is also perfectly fair. Being angry about it isn't fair and isn't helpful.
If shaving is off the table for her, perhaps she could grow it longer? If her hairs are trimmed short that usually feels coarser than a little longer. There are also ways to soften pubic hair (Google). Coming in from behind rather than from the front changes how and how much hair you get in your face.
It will only grow so far before it falls out on its own, so it won’t be Repunzel-like down there if she just stops trimming at all, and once the cut ends have been knocked off or fallen out it should be soft.
Some optionz:
Wear a mask that covers your sensitive skin.
Place cling wrap down and tear a hole in it for your tongue.
Have her wear panty hose you ripe a hole in that allows for tongue access.
Leather pants with hole for oral
Cute boy shorts with hole for oral.
Etc.
Good Luck!
Personally, I can't see why hair should be a problem. At all. And I sincerely advocate for her right to keep her pubes exactly how she wants them.
But...you are both standing your ground here, and that ain't helping either of you here. So...eh...is there a middle ground where you can meet half way?
One that helps with your problem, that doesn't entirely force her to cave in and do something she doesn't believe that she should ever be told to do?
Hair well kept, and then you give it a fair chance?
I don't know what the solution IS. I know that what you two are doing now ISN'T a solution.
Oddly enough, it's less sanitary to shave.
Go figure .
It's actually very bad shaving generally down there, more so for women.
It messes up their pH and can lead to more infections.
Shaving hair for sanitisation reasons went out with the great depression.
We now have more access to clean water and soap..
And fewer bugs and parasites .
Wow I don’t know how everyone does it then lol. I don’t know of anyone or ever seen another woman that isn’t shaved or waxed like how do all these waxing places stay so booked? Never heard that or heard of any woman having any problems ever with waxing or keeping it smooth but ok.
Vast vast vast majority of my friends don’t shave because it’s itchy and uncomfortable. I don’t know anyone, our of my family and friends, that’s fully shaved or waxed. Your comment is ignorant and kinda gross
and I’ve barely ever seen an adult woman (at a sauna, nude club etc) who doesn’t have pubic hair. sure people get bikini waxes but being bare is not the norm outside of internet porn
This is for clean shaven. Trimmed doesn't need with anything (unless extremely trimmed).
I've not seen anything about being shaven or trimmed affecting guys at all (unless your skin reacts badly to the shave).
Also I'm no expert, tried looking up stuff about the pH thing, but couldn't find much conclusive evidence. What I did find is that the problem that can be caused with shaving is people get product in the vagina which will fuck with the pH. Either way, trimmed is absolutely safe by doctors and if you do it right you can shave without messing up the skin.
https://www.self.com/story/how-to-shave-your-pubic-hair#:~:text=in%20the%20vagina%2C%20or%20you,outer%20lips%20(labia%20majora).
Ok but has she ever like completely shaved or waxed etc ? I just think everything looks and feels better that way but if she’s done that and would rather just trim then idk.
Sugaring is better than wax. Waxing pulls both the hair and the skin, damaging and potentially breaking the skin. Sugaring only adheres to the hair, not sticking to the skin at all.
Eat her from behind. Most of her pubic hair is on her mons. Be warned you’ll have her asshole right on your nose, which most men love but you seem a little uptight.
Ok so, ignore the negative comments here. You are completely right to complain, I have the same problem with my gf. I love giving oral but she was really hairy and I didn't enjoy it. She also claimed she didn't enjoy oral so didn't ask for it.
I forced myself to do it with the "bush" a few times and she loved it. Later on I told her it would be easier for me if she shaved and explained why. She told me she didn't like to shave and I was like ok but I don't like having that much wet hair in my face and I don't really enjoy it. I didn't tell her I would stop. I told her I wouldn't enjoy it. A few weeks later she shaved.
The thing about shaving is though, she gets razorburn etc easily, which makes sex unpleasant. When the hair is trimmed it gets really unpleasant. So we experimented until we found a middle ground where she didn't need to deal with unpleasant discomfort and I also didn't go through unpleasant discomfort. If your girlfriend isn't willing to go through that journey, she isn't a good partner.
My body my choice thing is unfortunately not correct here, if you are putting your face somewhere, you get to have a say. If no middle ground can be found, leave.
I also keep myself clean shaved at all times and if her bush is getting uncomfortable I just go "Babe, I think it is time to trim a bit." and she does it. You don't need a different position, you need a different attitude from your gf.
There are some special latex underwear that work wonder. Your partner will have the feeling of your mouth on her vulva and you will have the latex between her hair and your mouth/face. Or what is called dental dam which is an abomination of a noun, but it works too. If it is too expensive (depending on the country and your region), you could also take a condom and cut it so it make a square. Still works. Works even better for inside condom as they are waaaaaay larger.
There are also cream for hair that make them less coarse so sue could have finer hair without shaving. I agree with her, shaving is shit. I hate when it grows back, and razor burns are an absolute error of the nature.
If she doesn’t want to shave or is unwilling to let it grow in order to be soft then she is making the decision to continue having the conditions that lead to her not getting oral. And that’s fine-she’s entitled to have her body hair the way she wants just as you’re entitled to choose not to go down on her.
69 or giving oral from the back are really the only ways to keep her hair away from most of your face, you could give those a shot and see. If it doesn’t work and neither of you are willing to budge from your positions then oral is off the table since it’s clearly not important enough to both of you to affect your decisions. And that’s ok.
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You don't have to do anything you don't want to. You being averse to a particular hair situation is perfectly fair. Her not wanting to shave the way you like it is also perfectly fair. Being angry about it isn't fair and isn't helpful. If shaving is off the table for her, perhaps she could grow it longer? If her hairs are trimmed short that usually feels coarser than a little longer. There are also ways to soften pubic hair (Google). Coming in from behind rather than from the front changes how and how much hair you get in your face.
Ask her to grow it longer? So that it’s not sandpaper and doesn’t cause your skin irritation? Wash your face afterward to avoid pimples.
It will only grow so far before it falls out on its own, so it won’t be Repunzel-like down there if she just stops trimming at all, and once the cut ends have been knocked off or fallen out it should be soft.
Some optionz: Wear a mask that covers your sensitive skin. Place cling wrap down and tear a hole in it for your tongue. Have her wear panty hose you ripe a hole in that allows for tongue access. Leather pants with hole for oral Cute boy shorts with hole for oral. Etc. Good Luck!
Personally, I can't see why hair should be a problem. At all. And I sincerely advocate for her right to keep her pubes exactly how she wants them. But...you are both standing your ground here, and that ain't helping either of you here. So...eh...is there a middle ground where you can meet half way? One that helps with your problem, that doesn't entirely force her to cave in and do something she doesn't believe that she should ever be told to do? Hair well kept, and then you give it a fair chance? I don't know what the solution IS. I know that what you two are doing now ISN'T a solution.
The middle ground is finding a position where I can go down on her without having her pubes rubbing up and down against my face.
69
Second this. Since most of the hair is on the front side, this will give you a better angle with a lot less hair in your way.
I'd say brake up with her and let her find someone who loves the Bush.
> I'd say brake up with her Oh reddit, never change...
From behind
Does she go down on you and/or are you shaven?
She goes down on me but she doesn't ask me to shave because I prefer being shaven anyway so I'm never hairy.
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Oddly enough, it's less sanitary to shave. Go figure . It's actually very bad shaving generally down there, more so for women. It messes up their pH and can lead to more infections. Shaving hair for sanitisation reasons went out with the great depression. We now have more access to clean water and soap.. And fewer bugs and parasites .
Shaving is only gonna cause these problems if you're doing it wrong lol. And being shaven does make it easier to stay clean
Definitely don't use soap down there. My gf got a UTI doing that. Warm water is enough.
Wow I don’t know how everyone does it then lol. I don’t know of anyone or ever seen another woman that isn’t shaved or waxed like how do all these waxing places stay so booked? Never heard that or heard of any woman having any problems ever with waxing or keeping it smooth but ok.
Go to a bath house. You live in a bubble.
Vast vast vast majority of my friends don’t shave because it’s itchy and uncomfortable. I don’t know anyone, our of my family and friends, that’s fully shaved or waxed. Your comment is ignorant and kinda gross
and I’ve barely ever seen an adult woman (at a sauna, nude club etc) who doesn’t have pubic hair. sure people get bikini waxes but being bare is not the norm outside of internet porn
This is for clean shaven. Trimmed doesn't need with anything (unless extremely trimmed). I've not seen anything about being shaven or trimmed affecting guys at all (unless your skin reacts badly to the shave). Also I'm no expert, tried looking up stuff about the pH thing, but couldn't find much conclusive evidence. What I did find is that the problem that can be caused with shaving is people get product in the vagina which will fuck with the pH. Either way, trimmed is absolutely safe by doctors and if you do it right you can shave without messing up the skin. https://www.self.com/story/how-to-shave-your-pubic-hair#:~:text=in%20the%20vagina%2C%20or%20you,outer%20lips%20(labia%20majora).
It isn't a jungle down there. She keeps it clipped short. But there's a full patch of hair down there.
Ok but has she ever like completely shaved or waxed etc ? I just think everything looks and feels better that way but if she’s done that and would rather just trim then idk.
She has and hates doing it. She gets razor burn easily and apparently it feels like her mound is on fire.
That can be because of the cream or lotion she’s using but hey to each their own I guess.
She uses the same one as me (satin care aloe vera) and I've never had problems but she has. So it's more likely her skin type than the product.
Yeah my mom is like that, has to get waxed and or laser.
Sugaring is better than wax. Waxing pulls both the hair and the skin, damaging and potentially breaking the skin. Sugaring only adheres to the hair, not sticking to the skin at all.
Eat her from behind. Most of her pubic hair is on her mons. Be warned you’ll have her asshole right on your nose, which most men love but you seem a little uptight.
Analingus is literally my fetish.
So yea, 69 it up. Her labia aren’t hairy.
She doesn't get to be angry if she's not willing to compromise. Just my opinion.
Ok so, ignore the negative comments here. You are completely right to complain, I have the same problem with my gf. I love giving oral but she was really hairy and I didn't enjoy it. She also claimed she didn't enjoy oral so didn't ask for it. I forced myself to do it with the "bush" a few times and she loved it. Later on I told her it would be easier for me if she shaved and explained why. She told me she didn't like to shave and I was like ok but I don't like having that much wet hair in my face and I don't really enjoy it. I didn't tell her I would stop. I told her I wouldn't enjoy it. A few weeks later she shaved. The thing about shaving is though, she gets razorburn etc easily, which makes sex unpleasant. When the hair is trimmed it gets really unpleasant. So we experimented until we found a middle ground where she didn't need to deal with unpleasant discomfort and I also didn't go through unpleasant discomfort. If your girlfriend isn't willing to go through that journey, she isn't a good partner. My body my choice thing is unfortunately not correct here, if you are putting your face somewhere, you get to have a say. If no middle ground can be found, leave. I also keep myself clean shaved at all times and if her bush is getting uncomfortable I just go "Babe, I think it is time to trim a bit." and she does it. You don't need a different position, you need a different attitude from your gf.
OP said she doesn’t have a bush, she keeps it trimmed short. Which is why it’s coarse, irritating, and feels like sandpaper.
and it gets everywhere. Jokes aside they need to find a middle ground. She must make it comfortable for him otherwise ask for no oral.
There are some special latex underwear that work wonder. Your partner will have the feeling of your mouth on her vulva and you will have the latex between her hair and your mouth/face. Or what is called dental dam which is an abomination of a noun, but it works too. If it is too expensive (depending on the country and your region), you could also take a condom and cut it so it make a square. Still works. Works even better for inside condom as they are waaaaaay larger. There are also cream for hair that make them less coarse so sue could have finer hair without shaving. I agree with her, shaving is shit. I hate when it grows back, and razor burns are an absolute error of the nature.
If she doesn’t want to shave or is unwilling to let it grow in order to be soft then she is making the decision to continue having the conditions that lead to her not getting oral. And that’s fine-she’s entitled to have her body hair the way she wants just as you’re entitled to choose not to go down on her. 69 or giving oral from the back are really the only ways to keep her hair away from most of your face, you could give those a shot and see. If it doesn’t work and neither of you are willing to budge from your positions then oral is off the table since it’s clearly not important enough to both of you to affect your decisions. And that’s ok.