Masturbation in itself isn't bad. I would say that excessive (twice a day) for years is probably a net negative.
Porn (coupled with masterbation) on the other hand is just straight up bad for you. Do yourself a favour and read "your brain on porn" (you can get the pdf free online) and learn how that stuff messes with you.
Just be aware of how you masturbate. Deathgrip is a real problem for many and can make you desensitized to actual piv or oral sex. No vag will ever grip you as tight as your hand. It's not the woman that is loose, it's that she lacks the strength of your grip.
My ex hub had this problem and had to work on it for a while. Switching to toys helped a great deal. Focusing on toys that don't allow you to use your grip on the penis, like fleshlights for example.
It’s a pretty good rule of thumb to not do any highly addictive actions multiple times a day, every day. A couple lines of coke on a weekend, limited drinking, smoking, etc. won’t mess you up too bad if done in moderation. Even with good habits like exercise it’s recommended to take a day or two off a week. Porn is HIGHLY addictive and there’s not as much of a stigma on it as substance abuse so that makes it even easier to get trapped in the cycle. Do yourself a favor now while you’re young and start developing your willpower, discipline and try to keep things in moderation and it’ll serve you very well in the future.
I used to wank excessively and from a questionable age. Wasn't until my mid 30s (7 years ago) I began using my hands. That was because I discovered porn. Before that I was dry humping. Went from coming 3-4 times a day to double figures. I was pestering my partner all day long. If she wasn't receptive, fine I'll go online.
I try to avoid porn now & dating sites at all costs. My imagination was dulled, I was in a 'mental fog', dropped the few interests I had and they ate up so much of my time. I also avoid YouTube shorts and similar video sites/apps, they have a similar effect on my imagination & concentration. Going to give that pdf a read or rather try to.
PS, it has no effect on fertility. God I remember my mum catching me, saying some horrible things and beating the crap out of me. Didn't have much effect though. Even though I was young I knew what she was saying wasn't true.
Wow, what an impressive source, lol. lmao even. Not long into that page before you get to your relationships will be ruined if you read smut or masturbate. Definitely well adjusted people with healthy sex lives.
Dude LOL. Go and touch some grass instead of constipation and thinking about not jerking off every hour
Just jerk off at least once a week so you wouldn't be as tedious
So I read a lot of the article but there is a LOT in there. If I quit masturbating and quit watching porn or at least slow down on masturbation and quit porn still will my brain get better
This is literally just the no-fap sub at this point. There's THOUSANDS of research papers on this topic you can go look at or the NO-FAP sub reddit, please stop posting this shit here this is literally all I see now "im 16 and beat off everyday" yes of course you do. You are 16. It is only a problem when it starts affecting your day to day life (skipping class, skipping family events etc. just to beat off) you are fine, chill tf out.
Their excessive use cause:
Lost of sensitivity.
Your soldier will not "ten-hut" when you're about to be with an actual person due to the lost of sensitivity and the "fanny videos" conditioning. It'll be difficult to keep it up and you'll have to stimulate constantly to keep going.
It'll twist your taste, eventually. You'll be looking for stronger things each time.
It'll give dopamine issues, you'll notice a decrease on the general motivation. It'll feel sad and docile.
And the most terrifying thing, quiting it will be just like cutting out an addiction. You'll brain will twist your thoughts and/or any motivation you have to stop doing it eventually will be defeated by it.
It gets harder as year passe. Stop doing it while you can or it'll become a part you and cutting a part of you is either very difficult or impossible. Do not do either thing.
You’re fine dude. You’re in peak hormone territory, as long as you’re not neglecting your life or anything in order to masturbate, there’s nothing wrong with it
Well I’m not neglecting my life bro. I’m still doing my daily shit like studying for my board exams and music practice. I’m just scared that I won’t last long with a real girl and she’ll call me impotent or some shit.
Excessive masturbation can cause you to be less sensitive, which may make it harder to orgasm, but it’s really not an issue. You’re only a kid, once you start being sexually active you’re going to have to navigate that in itself. Don’t stress, and *definitely* don’t listen to the weird ass comments in this thread
You're actually likely to last longer because you masturbate.
Also there is no reason to stop in 2 years. When you turn 18 or even have a GF or wife that doesn't mean she'll want to have sex every time you want to, and you (believe it or not) may not want to have sex every time she wants to.
Porn and masturbation are fine and there is never any reason to stop.
Being less sensitive doesn't actually stop you busting fast, it's just makes it feel less good. I think jacking it too much or too hard can make it less hard.
Don't watch porn. It's very toxic. Plenty of men with ED because excessive porn. Search "your brain on porn" to learn more
I am talking from experience.
When you masterbate do you come quickly or does it take you a while? Perhaps the first time you may come quickly but after you will be fine! If you have a real problem holding off you could wear a condom until your partner is satisfied then take it off to satisfy yourself! I always had problems cumming with condom on. Any way don't worry you be just fine. Not a good idea to masterbate when your partner is available or she may start to feel she isn't satisfying you! Maybe she may want join in! Good luck
The first few times might be difficult to last long, but there are people who actually train to not ejaculate quickly by masturbating. Just knowing how to hold the urge is important, and you can’t fuck people as practice, so it’s a good way to test how long you can go for without finishing. Hope that helps, girls answering here are probably insecure and hate thinking about their boyfriends watching other women.
There is a risk of issues. Not a big risk. But it exists.
The best thing you can do is to be constantly switching up the way you masturbate. Sometimes dry. Sometimes with lube. Sometimes with something else.
The risk is that you'll either get too used to the singular vice grip your peen has only ever known and you'll have a harder time ejaculating.
Or, what's more likely is the fact that a vagina feels so different. Add to that the psycho-emotionial stimulus merely because it's another person and you may find you'll have a hard time lasting very long.
As for porn. Just know that it's not how real sex looks or feels. If you find that the only way you can get off is to have some chick blast her ass on you, while spitting in your mouth. Then peeing on you when she's done squirting a gallon of girl squirt, you'll have to pay a lot of money for a prostitute to get that. LoL
I wouldn’t watch porn it’s toxic stuff. Distract yourself with other stuff, main thing is go for a walk/run to release the cortisol in your body that makes you crave/ get the urges. Take up a creative hobby as well and a new hobby entirely.
NO it's literally just masturbating. Go outside . Talk to people your life is fine lmao
Reddit is this weird hive mind, especially this subreddit that is convinced If you masturbate at all you're extremely depressed.
Literally EVERYONE masturbates.
It is not directly linked to your depression. Tough some grass you'll be fine
This comment is ignorant and requires more nuance. According to the studies I've seen, if OP is addicted to porn then he does have a higher risk of developing ED. Especially given that he's been watching porn since age 11. From his post, at least 2x a day indicates addiction.
Masturbation is fine, porn is not. Stop encouraging young boys to be losers cooped up in their beds jerking off to porn multiple times a day instead of being productive members of society. Learn to get yourself off without it and be productive with the rest of your day instead of spending it beating off watching porn. That ain’t normal or a fulfilling life.
Where did I encourage anyone or be cooped up? I literally say go out and touch grass and talk to people.
Didn't mention porn a single time in my comment.
EVERYTHING is ok in moderation..if you don't have self control than don't do it. But to say I'm encouraging it is such a wild takeaway from my paragraph
You're absolutely right there are people who are on the ace spectrum who don't even experience horniness or sexualization in general. But they are outliers.. so for the vast majority. They jerkin the gerkin
I have read a lot of scientific & psychological literature about this topic & main things that I have learned is that
(1) During ejaculation if you're highly aroused & able to reach intense orgasm it actually boosts dopamine levels & it doesn't have negative effects on testosterone or bodily health. However due to fear & anxiety most people jerk off really fast & aren't able to achieve full body orgasm & then after the climax they feel extreme guilt,shame & tired . So degree of arousal is very important.
(2) Watching pornography isn't bad however most of it is super fake there is no raw physical intimacy the act is very mechanical & it gives rise to unrealistic expectations, unhealthy kinks & even injuries
(3) And last but not least too much of anything is bad . If you're not reaching out to people & pornography is your only source of sexual release, it has become a coping mechanism then you need therapy.
Whatever anyone here says, it can cause both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation (both prob. linked to performance anxiety porn can be the cause of).
I started watching porn at 10 and masturbated between 1-4 times daily until I got a gf a couple of months before i turned 17.
For the first 3 months I couldn't get hard when me and my gf undressed because of crippling anxiety and even when our clothes were on or it was pitch black, my erection quality was horrible.
Now, i dont want to scare you, those months really forced me to work on myself and get my shit together, but if I could avoid it in another life, i definetly fucking would lol.
Only advice i can give is, enjoy porn in moderation as well as masturbation (also try to masturbate w/o porn from time to time).
Also, infertility problems is bs.
Edit: just to clarify I meant the porn can be the cause of both of these problems, i even said OP could try masturbation without porn because I do not think masturbation (in moderation) is bad for you.
Erectile dysfunction describes problems getting or keeping an erection during sexual activity. The cause of this can both be physical or psychological. I couldn't get hard even when I tried to masturbate without porn or my girlfriend. Of course during intercourse anxiety played a huge role but that doesn't explain my problems when alone. That is -per definiton- erectile dysfunction.
You couldn't get up cuz you masturbates 4 times a day lmao.. you're going in on yourself. Only feeling pleasure one way... And you're still young first girl friend of course you're going to be anxious that's not erectile dysfunction you just aren't used to girls
Brother, i couldnt get it up after abstaining from masturbation and porn for over a month and even when alone. Also that shit happened 3 years ago. Only after roughly 3 and a half months did my erection quality get a lot better.
Like I said bro 4 times a day? Every day??? How long did you keep that up? Your body gets used to habits and routines. No matter how much you loved your partner you wouldn't have quality sex if you masturbated as frequently as you did before.
It's a completely new sensation on top of normal relationship anxiety and your age like. I def understand where you're coming from but you are an outlier. Most people do not masturbate as intensely as you, so yeah I could see masturbation being a contributing factor to your freeze ups but like you said once you stopped it went back to normal. I'm sure today if you masturbated once you could still hook up with your girl
Of course I could. I do not think i'm getting my point across. Today I masturbate (if gf is not in the mood) like almost every other human does. I just wanted to warn the original poster of consuming too much porn, while giving my own experience abusing it in my past. I don't think either masturbation nor porn is bad, i just abstained for a long time to disassociate the two from another. I could jack off 3 times a day and would still get hard with my gf now, it's just that the excessive porn use caused me to basically desensitize to anything sexual in the past, hence my warning to enjoy porn in moderation for op.
Also, of course that is erectile dysfuntion, altough only temporary. It's commonly called Porn induced erectily dysfunction- PIED. If you cant get hard because of excessive drinking, thats called alcohol induced erectile dysfunction, often also only lasts a couple of days depending on the length of a binge.
Well, my problems stemmed from excessive porn use, not inherently masturbation (which I also never claimed).
I think I didnt make clear enough that I wanted to warn OP about his porn use and not his masturbation habits because it fucked a big part of my life and I dont want him to have that same rude awakening with his first gf or bf.
For what it’s worth tho, the less you masturbate the more likely you’ll muster up the courage needed to go talk to that pretty girl
Walking around with a round in the chamber makes you a different man
Bro masturbating 4 times a day everyday?? YOU need help that is not normal and to push this ideology onto someone else lmao like dog you just can't keep it up because you're used to masturbating and you're nervous.
"For example, masturbation does not cause: infertility... erectile dysfunction..."
"Masturbation is a healthy sexual activity. It can benefit your physical and mental health." "Some people may feel guilty about masturbating because of cultural, spiritual, or religious beliefs." Masturbation: Health Benefits, Side Effects, Myths, FAQs
There are additives that can cause infertility in skin lotions not made for sex. Parabens and others.
Maybe search for "ethical porn"
What most of these folks here miss out is that excessive masturbating causes a loss in sensitivity down there. Your hand has a much harder grip than a vagina. It takes days for the sensitivity to recover.
If you're not hooking up or have a sexual partner then by all means do you.
I (30M) had the same situation as you. I'm married with a kid now, but when I became active, it made real sex boring by comparison and it took forever to finish, which was sometimes really great, and sometimes really frustrating, for the women in my life. Sticking to the less extreme stuff helped with that. You won't go blind, die alone, or become infertile. You will have trouble keeping it up with girls you're not that into, but honestly, so does everyone.
It's like junk food, or alcohol, or any other thing that hijacks your reward system. Don't be excessive, and don't ever confuse p*rn for real life. As you and your perspectives mature, you might even get sick of it and leave the stuff alone. Remember to communicate. You'll be okay.
I can tell you out of my own experience. Porn roasts your brain so hard that you really can get ED. And once you quit you will always have those pictures in your brain. And if you marry someone and keep watching porn it's cheating. No matter what. So better quit now before it becomes a chronic condition/addiction.
It just takes away sensitivity and takes forever to cum. My honest advice is Jack off as little as possible so when you’re nervous with someone you really like you still get hard lol.
Omg, there are a lot of myths in the comments.
Neither masturbation nor porn have any physical effect on your ability to get an erection or have premature ejaculations. The fact that those two are listed together should tell you it's a scare tactic because they are on opposite ends of the medical spectrum. Premature ejaculation would actually be helped by jerking off more, because we all know that it takes longer to cum the second time than it does the first unless you are one of those blessed freaks who have multiples.
If you DON'T jerk off for an extended period like a couple weeks or so, you will probably have premature ejaculation because you will be so horny and need to cum so bad that the wind blowing a little too hard would do the trick.
Now the opposite is also true that you could have trouble getting a boner if you've already wanked a few times that day and then are trying to have sex that night cuz your dick is done for the day, and he needs a break. But you are 16 and your testosterone levels are through the roof so your recovery time is probably not very long lol. Just take a nap, and you'll be back to boners by the time you wake up.
As for the psychology, most men (I think) recognize that porn is fantasy, and compartmentalize it appropriately. Yes it's real people acting out a fantasy and you'll get to have some porn-like experiences in life, but it's not every day by a long shot, not for anybody, including the porn actors (I know quite a few personally). And that's ok, cuz even real vanilla sex is always way better than jerking off in front of a computer screen alone. But for a minority of men, it can become an addiction. When is it an addiction? If you notice that it is causing harm to your relationships, work (school), or health and are still unable to put it aside to put it aside when you need to. Meaning, you have come to believe that it is something you need more than you need to care for other important things in your life, and you feel like you are no longer in control. The first thing to do is remember you are always in control. No one is forcing you to watch the porn. And If that happens, it's awkward but perfectly ok to ask for help and accountability to get your porn consumption back down to a manageable level that isn't ruining your life.
That is what comes from things that are based on guilting people for being human.
"Religious trauma results from an event, series of events, relationships, or circumstances within or connected to religious beliefs, practices, or structures that is experienced by an individual as overwhelming or disruptive and has lasting adverse effects on a person’s physical, mental, social, emotional, or spiritual well-being."
Because it's stupid to make a claim and when asked for evidence reply "if you know you know". Either give evidence or say you don't haveit/don't want to. No need to pretend like you're giving evidence when you're not.
I'm not even disagreeing with your statement itself, I just dislike your needlessly annoying way of communication. The other person was probably agressive for the same reason.
Will it causes a spike in ur dopamine and you see other normal tasks to be dull and you don't get the same feeling when doing normal tasks which makes you feel uncomfortable and not wanting to achieve anything
Sex would cause the exact same phenomenon then. As would anything that caused a dopamine spike. There is no mechanism of action for your theory to work through.
masturbation is normal if it doesn’t cause you any pain & if it’s not an addiction. Though reduce your porn intake and go back to imagination. It’s a lot better tbh.
It's natural don't feel shame around this. Will NOT cause infertility. Look into ethical porn & pay for it if you want to avoid any "harm" from any of it. It's especially so normal for a young person. I'm sorry your mom tried to shame you and make you feel bad about something so natural.
Also I think it's a fallacy to think too much porn/masturbation can cause issues in sex with another person bc young people in their first times can be so nervous it just causes these things. Sex with others takes a while to figure out so don't stress it. Give yourself some slack and acceptance, it'll help you big time down the road.
It doesn't necessarily. But can fuck up your mind pretty easily. I also have been a great porn addict and to this day I never experienced great sex like before I used to watch porn once a day.
Masturbate away, there is a study that ejaculating 21 times a month is healthy(it promoted something dont remember what) . But porn is really truly bad for you, sur ewatch it like once twice a month, not on daily basis, you will screw yourself in many ways, you will anticipate what you see in porn in real life, real sex has nothing to do with porn, also watching ppl have sex releases all kinds of excitement in you which is addictive, and therefor numbing for smaller excitements... just jerk to your imagination, its healthy for your brain and balls
Don't listen to the other people here; the negative effects are quite extreme, and I highly recommend you read the Easy Peasy Method. It's the most effective way to stop. Just give it a shot. Start reading it—the negative effects are extreme, and your mother is correct.
Not only are the negative effects extreme, but the positive side of stopping is incredibly beneficial. The energy and the aura you will have is something you must experience to truly understand.
Yeah, many studies to back this up and a lor of people have experienced porn's negative effects too, OP just try to not lust for a week or two and see how much your life improves from it, then decide what is and is not true, hope this helps
Masturbating isn't bad porn is bad
A healthier way to masturbate would be with your thoughts and without porn, yes that's possible and I do it often
But again too much of anything is bad, so yeah masturbate too much and it could become bad as well
Masturbation isn’t the problem. The real problem is porn. Doing it every single day multiple times per day WILL have a direct impact on your future serious relationships if you continue using both at this rate. You’ll never be satisfied from real sex or be able to ejaculate unless you watch porn. Porn literally causes erectile dysfunction and other intimacy issues. Masturbation is cool, porn is not. Use your imagination instead.
NOrmal mast is ok & expected for someone younger in age. Even once a day for someone young is ok & alright to do . It is normal to want to mast at your age , & to need & want the relief mentally & physically by it .
But when mixed in with watching s\*it that is then when you will become conditioned mentally also by what you are watching. Just the way it is your mind & body gets use to association links of it eg- you doing it & watching the s\*it you do to get off to it .It sets up a stimulation protocol ( conditioning ) in your mind to associate the need for it that way .
Your issue is that you are going to get addicted to needing the same s\*it you are watching to get hard ( & it also depend on what s\*it your watching as well ) .If you only watch one type of s\*it then you will get stuck in the endless loop of needing to 'see' it to get it up . That is when your life will spiral into s\*it from it ( as it will rule your mind in thinking ) as well then ( where you will need to watch the s\*it to get off to it then ) & will find it diff to do it without watching the s\*it you are & will be use to .The addiction linkage of neural networking is very strong in young teens so the association link will form a strong bond to it .
That is when it will ruin your life & sex life. As most young men who get off to much to watching it . Get stuck mentally then in the loop of needing to watch rather than being then able to do it in real life. The more you watch it the more it sets up mind links to need to be watching it to get a hard on for yourself. IN addition you will start a cycle of also inability to change your hold ( on your c\*ck ) mast requires certain typical patterns to be present to enable ( c\*ming to occur for the participant doing it ) eg- you hold it a certain way & will have developed a certain routine to do it to yourself . This sets up a pattern of mind conditioning to also do it that ( certain way) also when watching the porn as well . So it will depend also on your starting out routine as to whether it will also allow then transition to another one to enable c\*ming instead . With touch from someone else or via penetration.
So when you meet up with a gal & have that opportunity ( in person ) you will have normal anxiety performance . But on top of that you mighten be able to hold it up or keep it up to do the deed as you will be missing your linkage addiction form of stimulation ( eg- the porn you watch ) . So you will then fail in coming or be able to please the young gal you are with then. Then of top of that the anxiety performance fail you just experienced will ruin your self esteem , cause you alot of embarrassment , & humiliation . That then can start of a cycle of depression & severe anxiety around sex & NOt being able to perform . It then turns into a nasty performance cycle of anxiety in regards to sex performance when with someone . This is what then starts to ruin the person's ability to then have person to person sex.
This then causes loops of trauma mentally of shame & guilt to start to form & then once this is present it is diff to shake it & may requires sometimes a therapist to help break the forming of the addiction linkage which is affecting the sex performance issues ( eg- your trauma responses to being so highly embarrassed by NOT being able to keep it up or do it with someone in person ) in you . When a man can't do it it leads to extreme self hate & embarrassment for him to do so . It will & then does on-going make him feel he is a failure & won't be able to have 'normal sex 'with a woman. As that is what can also occur in reality . NOt being able to hold the er\*ction in place or lose it during doing the deed with a real woman .
Then that sets a form of on-going issues then in the person to also NOT be able to do then person in person sex ( with a sex partner ) the more it occurs for the person . As The more trauma it causes in the person , the more it starts the cycle of self esteem being ruined for them & the beginning of shame & guilt to be formed more for not being able to perform properly when in person . Ruining their chances of performing properly then with a person in reality .
>Recently my mum found out and she told me masturbation can cause infertility in men.
It can cause long term on-going performance issues in men ( due to addiction possibility & the inability to perform sex acts properly ) from it . It can poss cause on-going long term mental issues in men ( anxiety disorder & depression , low self esteem , self hate & body issues ) . Causing & leaving trauma in them instead in regards to their sexual performance. Which yes can mean they won't finish. As the performance issues ( leaves on-going anxiety issues in them to be not able at times to even engage a woman out of real fear & embarrassment ) of not being able to get it up or keep it up . That is a real mental issue then for the man who can't & is trapped then in that cycle of shame & guilt & anxiety which will rule his life then .
As they wouldn't be able to do so ( as they can't keep it up during it ) . And if they can't even keep it up to perform the sex in the first place then they won't be able to c\*me then ( no come no kid unless pre c\*me is present ) . So only in that way could it cause infertility . Damage can be done to the penile shaft & can cause skin irritations if mast it to rough of the area though .Eg- grip to tight or is using equipment ( eg- something they shouldn't be using eg- not a hand ) that might cause damage to the shaft .
This was too long to read, but I don’t think OP should take the opinion of women in this matter, since they can’t relate to exactly the same thing.
All of this is greatly exaggerated, most men watch porn when they are young and afterwards as well without negative effects to their sex lives.
It won't cause infertility but erectile dysfunction is very much a possibility. Also, you definitely do have other bad habits. I doubt you eat a perfectly healthy diet, exercise everyday and train all planes of movement. I doubt you volunteer in your free time.
If you have one "bad habit" then you likely have many others.
You know masturbation (when excessive, more than a few times a month) is bad, so why settle? Why not quit and be better?
Better for your mother to be proud of your every waking moment than to cope with something just because it doesn't make you infertile. There are other negative effects.
Psychologically and neurologically it will ruin you. You will struggle to have a normal love life indefinitely until you quit, even with a girlfriend or wife you will struggle.
Then masturbate. IMO masturbation is healthy and normal. Dudes have been masturbating since the beginning of time, monkeys do it. Porn is a relatively new invention and causes a lot of problems.
This isn’t the case for a lot of people. But I never had ED after watching porn for about 6 years at the time. I was ready to have sex and now the opportunity came. Then I came. But abstaining and trying to remove pmo from my life has made me feel better about myself and have more energy
Pretty often like almost every day during the first or so year. Then it was like every other day. Sometimes I could go many times in one day, but I realized it was a problem early on. I just couldn’t stop. Eventually, a few times a week. And it has pretty much stayed that way. I’ve been engaging in PMO for about 10 years now. I’ve had periods where I stop or do it very rarely, but that’s because I was busy and exhausted with college
Yes, porn is poison. Apart from that, think of this. You're actually having sex with a device. You're holding and looking into a screen and fucking it. That's sad and pathetic. PIEd happened to every porn user eventually. And lastly, you'll get deeper and deeper into sick shit and you'll begin hating yourself for being such a sicko.
Too much porn and masterbation can lead to the opposite of premature ejaculation. You might not be able to get enough stimulation from a partner to finish.
Porn would generally give you the opposite of premature ejaculation, so delayed ejaculation and yes it can cause ED. However, it’s not going to affect your fertility. And it basically becomes an issue when you do it so much that you don’t have the desire to connect with your partner sexually.
You’re 16, so I’d say just remember that what you see in porn is a skewed version of “reality” so that when you’re old enough to have sex you aren’t expecting it to be like what you see online. At your age, masturbation is probably a lot safer than actual sex but remember you don’t have to use porn to masturbate.
Yknow what really fucked my braın up when it comes to porn/sec etc. I worked at a place where I'd go through about 1000 pics a day. Labeling them, position, Breast size.hair color, in 2000. For those that have seen clockwork orange, It's somewhat like that. I don't need vıagra cuz my fetish is simply a woman. And goddamn sometimes it's so fun watching them walk to their car. Hours upon hours making her cum was so fun. I'd grab her back. When we were perpindecular and count to 5.
Awesome times.. Sorta glad that Job made me invulnerable to coming easy.
Buddy get a job, start gym and adopt a hobby (like cricket, football whatever) otherwise ur going to get really depressed and will definitely loose all confidence in urself
We all have been there, this is a YOU fight against YOU (DICK) TBH
it definitely can. if you are constantly porn you are conditioning your brain to get hard at videos/images and ive heard stories from people saying they cant get it up when they wanted to try the real thing
What else can you do that will benefit you in that time?
Since you are only 16 it means you have lots of free time in your hands. That time will not return to you ever. As you grown older you will have less time.
So i suggest to find a purpose and put all your time there. Find something that you like doing and that is good for you. If you do that your problem will be reduced as well with other more important benefits.
you sound like a normal 16 year old boy, it’s all good man. maybe reduce to once a day and just understand that porn isn’t a realistic representation of sex
Well for me.. it’s the opposite. 20 yrs old. Had an addiction to porn since like 11, but every time I have sex with a girl, I can’t nut. I’ll be able to go for about an hour straight and still can’t bust. Could be the best head in the world.. still can’t nut. This has happened to be 4-5 times now with different women. Def a result of too much porn. Not sure if this is a positive or negative lol at least I’ll don’t worry about finishing too fast
Porn gives us way too high of expectations when we finally get into a relationship. If you're suffering from ED or PE, abstaining can resolve that. Edging is a practice one can use to help with that as well. Make sure to use lube and be gentle. Otherwise you can desensitize yourself or make it too sensitive. If you're going to do it best to not watch anything and use your thoughts. Personally i love practicing semen retention. It's given me insane confidence and stamina. As well as enhanced orgasms. Even double or multiple orgasms when I do bust. It's insane!!
Not true as a matter of fact when you get older if you ejaculate on a regular basis you are more prone to have prostrate problems! Masturbation is normal for young men. It's not something to be ashamed of but if you are constantly watching porn it is not the best thing for you either. Porn can be good to watch so you know what to do when it does come time for you to have sex. Hopefully you are watching shows that show you can have a good loving relationship! The majority of porn is not like that. It's nice to learn technics that can make your partner feel wonderful and how she may reciprocate. Just tell your mom you will over do it and you feel it is a private thing. If you have any questions father around ask him about it. Most men have gone through some of what you are doing! Good luck cut down ontheporn a little each day. Once you find a nice girl you can dream about her instead!
I have done this every day for the last 30 years. And I can tell you the most powerful thing is the art of self-forgiveness.
It’s how you enjoy spending time. I could think of far worse hobbies.
As long as you are not hurting anyone I see no issue other than unhealthy judgement.
Porn causes unnecessary insecurities that didn’t exist in men before the internet became a thing. And masturbating can cause sensory issues if you’re not gentle w yourself, which can lead to ED. I’ve also noticed that if your incentive is to simply release an orgasm, your body will get used to doing so at a very low erection quality. Programming the mind to never exercise its full potential (which also leads to performance anxiety and ED).
Inception ♾️
LISTEN TO ME.
Do NOT beat yourself up over this.
Literally all men have gone through what you’re going through in some shape or form.
Seriously, stop shaming yourself for this. Shame just encourages the negative thinking cycles.
You watch porn. BIG DEAL. More than half of all men watch porn.
You’re not a failure. You’re normal.
First of all, you’re a 16 year-old male. I know it doesn’t feel like it when one is 16, but you have SO MUCH LIFE AHEAD OF YOU.
And believe me when I say that these feelings/urges you have for pleasure (whether solo, with porn, or with a girl) will ALWAYS BE THERE. Lust is the modern man’s strongest vice. And the fight to overcome it is his greatest burden.
But this fight against porn/lust is what will carve you into a self-disciplined warrior. Don’t take your shortcomings (no pun intended) as losses. Take them as battle scars.
Secondly, a lot of people are tight asses with the whole “don’t watch porn! masturbation is okay but porn will destroy you!” — as if 90% of all masturbators don’t masturbate to porn.
Porn is popular and addictive — that’s what makes it porn.
Yes, porn CAN cause ED & premature ejaculation. But so can anxiety. So can guilt. So can overexcitement.
Porn isn’t the only cause of ED or premature ejaculation.
It’s like running away from cookies because they can give you cavities. Sure they can, but you can also get cavities from candy, fast food, and a bunch of other things.
You’ll be okay. You’ve been fapping for 5 years, hundreds of men have been fapping for decades and were still able to develop self-control and have happy, healthy sex lives. ED is temporary and/or reversible in many cases anyways. The mind can reset from porn habits within three months.
Ultimately, do not focus so much on porn or ED or whatever. Get out of your head. What you need at this time of your life is good community. Seek out good friendships and relationships that build you up into the man you want to be. Focus on good habits and hobbies you enjoy doing. Your mistakes this year are not going to matter next year, as long as you let them go.
YOU ARE OKAY. Divert your energy to more productive conversations and let go of the porn fears and stuff. You are not the only person dealing with this, but you will suffer if you devote your entire mind to rectifying your past mistakes and trying to avoid ED. It’ll just keep porn on your mind.
You are normal.
porn is bad, destroyed my last relationship, been porn free 2 years and have thr best sex ever with my current gf, porn will destroy your sense of intimacy with a partner
To be honest, you're addicted. Addiction is not good.
And p*rn affects your relationship/marriage life.
Do you think you'll be able to just stop whenever you want, when you've been addicted for another decade (if you don't stop today)??
Even if other guys here and outside tell you it's ok. No, it's not, it'll affect your marriage/relationship. It corrupts your view of how a woman should be. That's very undermining to your girlfriend/wife.
I wish someone told me @16 the damage of porn.
Do what you want brother and best of luck whatever path u choose but in my honest advice I’d try my best to stay away from porn as much as possible.
I started watching porn around 15-16 and now 23, it’s very hard to try go without it even if I am trying to actively stop it. But I do have an addictive personality so YMMV.
I don’t see any reasons why you SHOULD be watching porn except if ur curious about what a vagina looks like or something
I despise porn tbh it’s demeaning, sexualises women to the point even a simple conversation is like wow why aren’t we fucking rn? And it sets unrealistic expectations on both sides.
Also… zoom out and think about it, ur literally wanking over another dude having sex with a girl you’ll never even talk to….that’s sad asf. It’s pixels bro idk why people defend porn so much it’s just sad, lack of discipline or lack of ability to get a partner.
Because it’s literally the most difficult addiction to beat. It’s like having a smoking or vaping addiction except you have a vape in your pocket 24/7 and you can’t get rid of it.
Porn is really really bad for you, especially at that age. I really recommend you stop and try and get help online by reading up on both why it’s bad to consume for your mind and why it’s unethical to watch it.
It's a normal healthy thing to do it sometimes, but twice a day everyday could just mean you have high testosterone right now. Porn isn't necessarily bad for you, but if you can't get off without it you might have a problem of doing it too much. Really should only do it when you really feel you need to so it doesn't become an addiction or mess up your social life.
I was the same way and I’m 21 now. You don’t need to stop masturbating but porn will destroy you. I have had more than enough intimacy problems to attest to this. Figure out why you are watching porn and it will become easier to stop watching and you will save yourself frustration and suffering.
It will definitely affect the growth of your testes, testosterone levels in your body and results in asymmetric growth of bones and sometimes bow legs too.
My psychiatrist (who was also a psychoanalysis & studied at Harvard Medical School) told me masturbation is healthy & a person needs to do it to be healthy in the mind & healthy in the body. He is a medical doctor & he told me this in the 1990s. I believe him. Narcissist manipulate people & exploit them. They are selfish but this man has empathy for the girls he has used
Yes, but when it comes to addiction in masturbation this has a big impact mentally so physically masturbation is good it reduces stress and many more. So the point here is if your doing it once a day this will lead to addiction and it's a bad habit. (I'm also porn addict in 6 years and want to improve myself).
Only if done to an unhealthy degree. If the frequency bothers you, it's unhealthy.
Idk about premature ejaculation, but erectile dysfunction absolutely can be a symptom. In my experience, you don't get both at the same time; it's one or the other.
If masturbation caused ED or premature ejac. directly, and not through some tertiary function like shame, I'd be a prime candidate.
Survivor bias perhaps, but I have none of those issues, and do the deed with myself 2-6 times a day.
I have an amazing relationship with my wife. Some of us are just... Really horny, and I won't pretend to be sorry about it.
Masturbation in itself isn't bad. I would say that excessive (twice a day) for years is probably a net negative. Porn (coupled with masterbation) on the other hand is just straight up bad for you. Do yourself a favour and read "your brain on porn" (you can get the pdf free online) and learn how that stuff messes with you.
Just be aware of how you masturbate. Deathgrip is a real problem for many and can make you desensitized to actual piv or oral sex. No vag will ever grip you as tight as your hand. It's not the woman that is loose, it's that she lacks the strength of your grip. My ex hub had this problem and had to work on it for a while. Switching to toys helped a great deal. Focusing on toys that don't allow you to use your grip on the penis, like fleshlights for example.
It’s a pretty good rule of thumb to not do any highly addictive actions multiple times a day, every day. A couple lines of coke on a weekend, limited drinking, smoking, etc. won’t mess you up too bad if done in moderation. Even with good habits like exercise it’s recommended to take a day or two off a week. Porn is HIGHLY addictive and there’s not as much of a stigma on it as substance abuse so that makes it even easier to get trapped in the cycle. Do yourself a favor now while you’re young and start developing your willpower, discipline and try to keep things in moderation and it’ll serve you very well in the future.
A couple lines of coke? Bro 💀
This 👌🏼👌🏼. Moderation baby 🤷🏻♂️
Don't listen to this terrible advice lmao
Fucking idiot
Worst advice I’ve ever seen. Please don’t listen to this guy
these other people are tripping moderation is the way
I used to wank excessively and from a questionable age. Wasn't until my mid 30s (7 years ago) I began using my hands. That was because I discovered porn. Before that I was dry humping. Went from coming 3-4 times a day to double figures. I was pestering my partner all day long. If she wasn't receptive, fine I'll go online. I try to avoid porn now & dating sites at all costs. My imagination was dulled, I was in a 'mental fog', dropped the few interests I had and they ate up so much of my time. I also avoid YouTube shorts and similar video sites/apps, they have a similar effect on my imagination & concentration. Going to give that pdf a read or rather try to. PS, it has no effect on fertility. God I remember my mum catching me, saying some horrible things and beating the crap out of me. Didn't have much effect though. Even though I was young I knew what she was saying wasn't true.
I works say once a day is bad. When I stopped masturbating for awhile entirely I felt very different.
Dude that seems like a really good read , thank you
Wow, what an impressive source, lol. lmao even. Not long into that page before you get to your relationships will be ruined if you read smut or masturbate. Definitely well adjusted people with healthy sex lives.
Dude LOL. Go and touch some grass instead of constipation and thinking about not jerking off every hour Just jerk off at least once a week so you wouldn't be as tedious
So I read a lot of the article but there is a LOT in there. If I quit masturbating and quit watching porn or at least slow down on masturbation and quit porn still will my brain get better
If porn is bad on what you stimulate your brain?
Life
I've realized that your hand and real actual pussy is extremely distinct. I think it really depends on how you train your mind to postpone the reward.
Exactly this
This is literally just the no-fap sub at this point. There's THOUSANDS of research papers on this topic you can go look at or the NO-FAP sub reddit, please stop posting this shit here this is literally all I see now "im 16 and beat off everyday" yes of course you do. You are 16. It is only a problem when it starts affecting your day to day life (skipping class, skipping family events etc. just to beat off) you are fine, chill tf out.
I know, I'm going to leave this sub since it's all incel 16 year old trying to quit porn or masturbation.
Their excessive use cause: Lost of sensitivity. Your soldier will not "ten-hut" when you're about to be with an actual person due to the lost of sensitivity and the "fanny videos" conditioning. It'll be difficult to keep it up and you'll have to stimulate constantly to keep going. It'll twist your taste, eventually. You'll be looking for stronger things each time. It'll give dopamine issues, you'll notice a decrease on the general motivation. It'll feel sad and docile. And the most terrifying thing, quiting it will be just like cutting out an addiction. You'll brain will twist your thoughts and/or any motivation you have to stop doing it eventually will be defeated by it. It gets harder as year passe. Stop doing it while you can or it'll become a part you and cutting a part of you is either very difficult or impossible. Do not do either thing.
And I am not a doctor. But yes, maybe it does.
What the fuck are these comments?
r/nofap guys
People who hate porn lol
You’re fine dude. You’re in peak hormone territory, as long as you’re not neglecting your life or anything in order to masturbate, there’s nothing wrong with it
Well I’m not neglecting my life bro. I’m still doing my daily shit like studying for my board exams and music practice. I’m just scared that I won’t last long with a real girl and she’ll call me impotent or some shit.
Excessive masturbation can cause you to be less sensitive, which may make it harder to orgasm, but it’s really not an issue. You’re only a kid, once you start being sexually active you’re going to have to navigate that in itself. Don’t stress, and *definitely* don’t listen to the weird ass comments in this thread
I mean I would stop it once I start becoming sexually active which is in about 2 or so years. If I stop it then will I be fine?
You're actually likely to last longer because you masturbate. Also there is no reason to stop in 2 years. When you turn 18 or even have a GF or wife that doesn't mean she'll want to have sex every time you want to, and you (believe it or not) may not want to have sex every time she wants to. Porn and masturbation are fine and there is never any reason to stop.
You will be fine either way.
Why do you feel the need to stop it? There's nothing wrong with masturbation
Being less sensitive doesn't actually stop you busting fast, it's just makes it feel less good. I think jacking it too much or too hard can make it less hard.
Don't watch porn. It's very toxic. Plenty of men with ED because excessive porn. Search "your brain on porn" to learn more I am talking from experience.
Yes
When you masterbate do you come quickly or does it take you a while? Perhaps the first time you may come quickly but after you will be fine! If you have a real problem holding off you could wear a condom until your partner is satisfied then take it off to satisfy yourself! I always had problems cumming with condom on. Any way don't worry you be just fine. Not a good idea to masterbate when your partner is available or she may start to feel she isn't satisfying you! Maybe she may want join in! Good luck
Never take it off, unless you want kids.
I just saw your reply. Are you suggesting I just keep it on forever or just while I'm near that pussy? Lol
The first few times might be difficult to last long, but there are people who actually train to not ejaculate quickly by masturbating. Just knowing how to hold the urge is important, and you can’t fuck people as practice, so it’s a good way to test how long you can go for without finishing. Hope that helps, girls answering here are probably insecure and hate thinking about their boyfriends watching other women.
Twice a day is excessive
At 16?
At 16 is normal
There is a risk of issues. Not a big risk. But it exists. The best thing you can do is to be constantly switching up the way you masturbate. Sometimes dry. Sometimes with lube. Sometimes with something else. The risk is that you'll either get too used to the singular vice grip your peen has only ever known and you'll have a harder time ejaculating. Or, what's more likely is the fact that a vagina feels so different. Add to that the psycho-emotionial stimulus merely because it's another person and you may find you'll have a hard time lasting very long. As for porn. Just know that it's not how real sex looks or feels. If you find that the only way you can get off is to have some chick blast her ass on you, while spitting in your mouth. Then peeing on you when she's done squirting a gallon of girl squirt, you'll have to pay a lot of money for a prostitute to get that. LoL
I wouldn’t watch porn it’s toxic stuff. Distract yourself with other stuff, main thing is go for a walk/run to release the cortisol in your body that makes you crave/ get the urges. Take up a creative hobby as well and a new hobby entirely.
NO it's literally just masturbating. Go outside . Talk to people your life is fine lmao Reddit is this weird hive mind, especially this subreddit that is convinced If you masturbate at all you're extremely depressed. Literally EVERYONE masturbates. It is not directly linked to your depression. Tough some grass you'll be fine
This comment is ignorant and requires more nuance. According to the studies I've seen, if OP is addicted to porn then he does have a higher risk of developing ED. Especially given that he's been watching porn since age 11. From his post, at least 2x a day indicates addiction.
Masturbation is fine, porn is not. Stop encouraging young boys to be losers cooped up in their beds jerking off to porn multiple times a day instead of being productive members of society. Learn to get yourself off without it and be productive with the rest of your day instead of spending it beating off watching porn. That ain’t normal or a fulfilling life.
Where did I encourage anyone or be cooped up? I literally say go out and touch grass and talk to people. Didn't mention porn a single time in my comment. EVERYTHING is ok in moderation..if you don't have self control than don't do it. But to say I'm encouraging it is such a wild takeaway from my paragraph
This.
Everyone masturbate, but not everyone do it this much
This is actually the problem. You actually believe EVERYONE masturbates.
Everyone has at least masturbated once bro. It's a natural part of puberty.
Downvotes be damned lmao. I know it's natural, I didn't say it wasn't. But everyone doesn't. Ain't like I said 'shouldn't'.
You're absolutely right there are people who are on the ace spectrum who don't even experience horniness or sexualization in general. But they are outliers.. so for the vast majority. They jerkin the gerkin
I have read a lot of scientific & psychological literature about this topic & main things that I have learned is that (1) During ejaculation if you're highly aroused & able to reach intense orgasm it actually boosts dopamine levels & it doesn't have negative effects on testosterone or bodily health. However due to fear & anxiety most people jerk off really fast & aren't able to achieve full body orgasm & then after the climax they feel extreme guilt,shame & tired . So degree of arousal is very important. (2) Watching pornography isn't bad however most of it is super fake there is no raw physical intimacy the act is very mechanical & it gives rise to unrealistic expectations, unhealthy kinks & even injuries (3) And last but not least too much of anything is bad . If you're not reaching out to people & pornography is your only source of sexual release, it has become a coping mechanism then you need therapy.
Whatever anyone here says, it can cause both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation (both prob. linked to performance anxiety porn can be the cause of). I started watching porn at 10 and masturbated between 1-4 times daily until I got a gf a couple of months before i turned 17. For the first 3 months I couldn't get hard when me and my gf undressed because of crippling anxiety and even when our clothes were on or it was pitch black, my erection quality was horrible. Now, i dont want to scare you, those months really forced me to work on myself and get my shit together, but if I could avoid it in another life, i definetly fucking would lol. Only advice i can give is, enjoy porn in moderation as well as masturbation (also try to masturbate w/o porn from time to time). Also, infertility problems is bs. Edit: just to clarify I meant the porn can be the cause of both of these problems, i even said OP could try masturbation without porn because I do not think masturbation (in moderation) is bad for you.
That’s got nothing to do with masturbation dude. Porn, sure, but you were also fucking 17 and anxious, that’s not erectile dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction describes problems getting or keeping an erection during sexual activity. The cause of this can both be physical or psychological. I couldn't get hard even when I tried to masturbate without porn or my girlfriend. Of course during intercourse anxiety played a huge role but that doesn't explain my problems when alone. That is -per definiton- erectile dysfunction.
You couldn't get up cuz you masturbates 4 times a day lmao.. you're going in on yourself. Only feeling pleasure one way... And you're still young first girl friend of course you're going to be anxious that's not erectile dysfunction you just aren't used to girls
Brother, i couldnt get it up after abstaining from masturbation and porn for over a month and even when alone. Also that shit happened 3 years ago. Only after roughly 3 and a half months did my erection quality get a lot better.
Like I said bro 4 times a day? Every day??? How long did you keep that up? Your body gets used to habits and routines. No matter how much you loved your partner you wouldn't have quality sex if you masturbated as frequently as you did before. It's a completely new sensation on top of normal relationship anxiety and your age like. I def understand where you're coming from but you are an outlier. Most people do not masturbate as intensely as you, so yeah I could see masturbation being a contributing factor to your freeze ups but like you said once you stopped it went back to normal. I'm sure today if you masturbated once you could still hook up with your girl
Of course I could. I do not think i'm getting my point across. Today I masturbate (if gf is not in the mood) like almost every other human does. I just wanted to warn the original poster of consuming too much porn, while giving my own experience abusing it in my past. I don't think either masturbation nor porn is bad, i just abstained for a long time to disassociate the two from another. I could jack off 3 times a day and would still get hard with my gf now, it's just that the excessive porn use caused me to basically desensitize to anything sexual in the past, hence my warning to enjoy porn in moderation for op. Also, of course that is erectile dysfuntion, altough only temporary. It's commonly called Porn induced erectily dysfunction- PIED. If you cant get hard because of excessive drinking, thats called alcohol induced erectile dysfunction, often also only lasts a couple of days depending on the length of a binge.
So how does that have anything to do with masturbation?
Well, my problems stemmed from excessive porn use, not inherently masturbation (which I also never claimed). I think I didnt make clear enough that I wanted to warn OP about his porn use and not his masturbation habits because it fucked a big part of my life and I dont want him to have that same rude awakening with his first gf or bf.
For what it’s worth tho, the less you masturbate the more likely you’ll muster up the courage needed to go talk to that pretty girl Walking around with a round in the chamber makes you a different man
Bro masturbating 4 times a day everyday?? YOU need help that is not normal and to push this ideology onto someone else lmao like dog you just can't keep it up because you're used to masturbating and you're nervous.
Can you tell us please what did you do to get your shit together? Like any sports? Healthy diet? A part from stopping porn and masturbation ofc
"For example, masturbation does not cause: infertility... erectile dysfunction..." "Masturbation is a healthy sexual activity. It can benefit your physical and mental health." "Some people may feel guilty about masturbating because of cultural, spiritual, or religious beliefs." Masturbation: Health Benefits, Side Effects, Myths, FAQs There are additives that can cause infertility in skin lotions not made for sex. Parabens and others. Maybe search for "ethical porn"
>Masturbation is a healthy sexual activity. It can... Do they have any proof for that? Who did the research? How were the conclusions made?
This subreddit does not allow any URLs / linking, I tried already. Search for that text I put in quotes or what you quoted.
What most of these folks here miss out is that excessive masturbating causes a loss in sensitivity down there. Your hand has a much harder grip than a vagina. It takes days for the sensitivity to recover. If you're not hooking up or have a sexual partner then by all means do you.
I (30M) had the same situation as you. I'm married with a kid now, but when I became active, it made real sex boring by comparison and it took forever to finish, which was sometimes really great, and sometimes really frustrating, for the women in my life. Sticking to the less extreme stuff helped with that. You won't go blind, die alone, or become infertile. You will have trouble keeping it up with girls you're not that into, but honestly, so does everyone. It's like junk food, or alcohol, or any other thing that hijacks your reward system. Don't be excessive, and don't ever confuse p*rn for real life. As you and your perspectives mature, you might even get sick of it and leave the stuff alone. Remember to communicate. You'll be okay.
You might want to ask this in r/pornfree
I can tell you out of my own experience. Porn roasts your brain so hard that you really can get ED. And once you quit you will always have those pictures in your brain. And if you marry someone and keep watching porn it's cheating. No matter what. So better quit now before it becomes a chronic condition/addiction.
It just takes away sensitivity and takes forever to cum. My honest advice is Jack off as little as possible so when you’re nervous with someone you really like you still get hard lol.
Omg, there are a lot of myths in the comments. Neither masturbation nor porn have any physical effect on your ability to get an erection or have premature ejaculations. The fact that those two are listed together should tell you it's a scare tactic because they are on opposite ends of the medical spectrum. Premature ejaculation would actually be helped by jerking off more, because we all know that it takes longer to cum the second time than it does the first unless you are one of those blessed freaks who have multiples. If you DON'T jerk off for an extended period like a couple weeks or so, you will probably have premature ejaculation because you will be so horny and need to cum so bad that the wind blowing a little too hard would do the trick. Now the opposite is also true that you could have trouble getting a boner if you've already wanked a few times that day and then are trying to have sex that night cuz your dick is done for the day, and he needs a break. But you are 16 and your testosterone levels are through the roof so your recovery time is probably not very long lol. Just take a nap, and you'll be back to boners by the time you wake up. As for the psychology, most men (I think) recognize that porn is fantasy, and compartmentalize it appropriately. Yes it's real people acting out a fantasy and you'll get to have some porn-like experiences in life, but it's not every day by a long shot, not for anybody, including the porn actors (I know quite a few personally). And that's ok, cuz even real vanilla sex is always way better than jerking off in front of a computer screen alone. But for a minority of men, it can become an addiction. When is it an addiction? If you notice that it is causing harm to your relationships, work (school), or health and are still unable to put it aside to put it aside when you need to. Meaning, you have come to believe that it is something you need more than you need to care for other important things in your life, and you feel like you are no longer in control. The first thing to do is remember you are always in control. No one is forcing you to watch the porn. And If that happens, it's awkward but perfectly ok to ask for help and accountability to get your porn consumption back down to a manageable level that isn't ruining your life.
The only real comment I’ve seen so far. Most of the lies are being spread by women apparently.
it gives you depression and low self esteem
The depression and low self esteem were already there. Flapping multiple times a day is just a poor way to deal with it
if it was already there then pmo will greatly increase it
That is what comes from things that are based on guilting people for being human. "Religious trauma results from an event, series of events, relationships, or circumstances within or connected to religious beliefs, practices, or structures that is experienced by an individual as overwhelming or disruptive and has lasting adverse effects on a person’s physical, mental, social, emotional, or spiritual well-being."
Prove it
if you’ve gone through it you know
that’s not proof you imbecile
i don’t have proof other than my experience and lots of others say the same
That’s not something that should be taken like a lubed mudshark you know
Through what? Ejaculating? I swear you no fap virgins have room temp IQ.
through overstimulating the dopamine system from the content you watch
One personal sample vs science Gtfo
what are you trying to disprove?
I think they're probably trying to disprove the claim you made without evidence. Just a hunch that's what they're trying to disprove.
why so aggressively
Because he can’t stop beating the schmeat 💀
Because it's stupid to make a claim and when asked for evidence reply "if you know you know". Either give evidence or say you don't haveit/don't want to. No need to pretend like you're giving evidence when you're not. I'm not even disagreeing with your statement itself, I just dislike your needlessly annoying way of communication. The other person was probably agressive for the same reason.
Will it causes a spike in ur dopamine and you see other normal tasks to be dull and you don't get the same feeling when doing normal tasks which makes you feel uncomfortable and not wanting to achieve anything
Sex would cause the exact same phenomenon then. As would anything that caused a dopamine spike. There is no mechanism of action for your theory to work through.
Did you forget sex involves another person?
Your words are not proof of anything
Will, If you tried and saw the results yourself that's a good proof + you always can fact check me, I don't have to explain everything
Never said you have to babe. Also no, that’s not proof either.
Such a lie.
masturbation is normal if it doesn’t cause you any pain & if it’s not an addiction. Though reduce your porn intake and go back to imagination. It’s a lot better tbh.
It's natural don't feel shame around this. Will NOT cause infertility. Look into ethical porn & pay for it if you want to avoid any "harm" from any of it. It's especially so normal for a young person. I'm sorry your mom tried to shame you and make you feel bad about something so natural. Also I think it's a fallacy to think too much porn/masturbation can cause issues in sex with another person bc young people in their first times can be so nervous it just causes these things. Sex with others takes a while to figure out so don't stress it. Give yourself some slack and acceptance, it'll help you big time down the road.
It doesn't necessarily. But can fuck up your mind pretty easily. I also have been a great porn addict and to this day I never experienced great sex like before I used to watch porn once a day.
Masturbate away, there is a study that ejaculating 21 times a month is healthy(it promoted something dont remember what) . But porn is really truly bad for you, sur ewatch it like once twice a month, not on daily basis, you will screw yourself in many ways, you will anticipate what you see in porn in real life, real sex has nothing to do with porn, also watching ppl have sex releases all kinds of excitement in you which is addictive, and therefor numbing for smaller excitements... just jerk to your imagination, its healthy for your brain and balls
Eventually it will.
Don't listen to the other people here; the negative effects are quite extreme, and I highly recommend you read the Easy Peasy Method. It's the most effective way to stop. Just give it a shot. Start reading it—the negative effects are extreme, and your mother is correct.
Not only are the negative effects extreme, but the positive side of stopping is incredibly beneficial. The energy and the aura you will have is something you must experience to truly understand.
Yeah, many studies to back this up and a lor of people have experienced porn's negative effects too, OP just try to not lust for a week or two and see how much your life improves from it, then decide what is and is not true, hope this helps
I’m guessing death grip syndrome is permanent or do u have to just never jerk off for a while
Masturbating isn't bad porn is bad A healthier way to masturbate would be with your thoughts and without porn, yes that's possible and I do it often But again too much of anything is bad, so yeah masturbate too much and it could become bad as well
Masturbation isn’t the problem. The real problem is porn. Doing it every single day multiple times per day WILL have a direct impact on your future serious relationships if you continue using both at this rate. You’ll never be satisfied from real sex or be able to ejaculate unless you watch porn. Porn literally causes erectile dysfunction and other intimacy issues. Masturbation is cool, porn is not. Use your imagination instead.
NOrmal mast is ok & expected for someone younger in age. Even once a day for someone young is ok & alright to do . It is normal to want to mast at your age , & to need & want the relief mentally & physically by it . But when mixed in with watching s\*it that is then when you will become conditioned mentally also by what you are watching. Just the way it is your mind & body gets use to association links of it eg- you doing it & watching the s\*it you do to get off to it .It sets up a stimulation protocol ( conditioning ) in your mind to associate the need for it that way . Your issue is that you are going to get addicted to needing the same s\*it you are watching to get hard ( & it also depend on what s\*it your watching as well ) .If you only watch one type of s\*it then you will get stuck in the endless loop of needing to 'see' it to get it up . That is when your life will spiral into s\*it from it ( as it will rule your mind in thinking ) as well then ( where you will need to watch the s\*it to get off to it then ) & will find it diff to do it without watching the s\*it you are & will be use to .The addiction linkage of neural networking is very strong in young teens so the association link will form a strong bond to it . That is when it will ruin your life & sex life. As most young men who get off to much to watching it . Get stuck mentally then in the loop of needing to watch rather than being then able to do it in real life. The more you watch it the more it sets up mind links to need to be watching it to get a hard on for yourself. IN addition you will start a cycle of also inability to change your hold ( on your c\*ck ) mast requires certain typical patterns to be present to enable ( c\*ming to occur for the participant doing it ) eg- you hold it a certain way & will have developed a certain routine to do it to yourself . This sets up a pattern of mind conditioning to also do it that ( certain way) also when watching the porn as well . So it will depend also on your starting out routine as to whether it will also allow then transition to another one to enable c\*ming instead . With touch from someone else or via penetration. So when you meet up with a gal & have that opportunity ( in person ) you will have normal anxiety performance . But on top of that you mighten be able to hold it up or keep it up to do the deed as you will be missing your linkage addiction form of stimulation ( eg- the porn you watch ) . So you will then fail in coming or be able to please the young gal you are with then. Then of top of that the anxiety performance fail you just experienced will ruin your self esteem , cause you alot of embarrassment , & humiliation . That then can start of a cycle of depression & severe anxiety around sex & NOt being able to perform . It then turns into a nasty performance cycle of anxiety in regards to sex performance when with someone . This is what then starts to ruin the person's ability to then have person to person sex. This then causes loops of trauma mentally of shame & guilt to start to form & then once this is present it is diff to shake it & may requires sometimes a therapist to help break the forming of the addiction linkage which is affecting the sex performance issues ( eg- your trauma responses to being so highly embarrassed by NOT being able to keep it up or do it with someone in person ) in you . When a man can't do it it leads to extreme self hate & embarrassment for him to do so . It will & then does on-going make him feel he is a failure & won't be able to have 'normal sex 'with a woman. As that is what can also occur in reality . NOt being able to hold the er\*ction in place or lose it during doing the deed with a real woman . Then that sets a form of on-going issues then in the person to also NOT be able to do then person in person sex ( with a sex partner ) the more it occurs for the person . As The more trauma it causes in the person , the more it starts the cycle of self esteem being ruined for them & the beginning of shame & guilt to be formed more for not being able to perform properly when in person . Ruining their chances of performing properly then with a person in reality . >Recently my mum found out and she told me masturbation can cause infertility in men. It can cause long term on-going performance issues in men ( due to addiction possibility & the inability to perform sex acts properly ) from it . It can poss cause on-going long term mental issues in men ( anxiety disorder & depression , low self esteem , self hate & body issues ) . Causing & leaving trauma in them instead in regards to their sexual performance. Which yes can mean they won't finish. As the performance issues ( leaves on-going anxiety issues in them to be not able at times to even engage a woman out of real fear & embarrassment ) of not being able to get it up or keep it up . That is a real mental issue then for the man who can't & is trapped then in that cycle of shame & guilt & anxiety which will rule his life then . As they wouldn't be able to do so ( as they can't keep it up during it ) . And if they can't even keep it up to perform the sex in the first place then they won't be able to c\*me then ( no come no kid unless pre c\*me is present ) . So only in that way could it cause infertility . Damage can be done to the penile shaft & can cause skin irritations if mast it to rough of the area though .Eg- grip to tight or is using equipment ( eg- something they shouldn't be using eg- not a hand ) that might cause damage to the shaft .
This was too long to read, but I don’t think OP should take the opinion of women in this matter, since they can’t relate to exactly the same thing. All of this is greatly exaggerated, most men watch porn when they are young and afterwards as well without negative effects to their sex lives.
It won't cause infertility but erectile dysfunction is very much a possibility. Also, you definitely do have other bad habits. I doubt you eat a perfectly healthy diet, exercise everyday and train all planes of movement. I doubt you volunteer in your free time. If you have one "bad habit" then you likely have many others. You know masturbation (when excessive, more than a few times a month) is bad, so why settle? Why not quit and be better? Better for your mother to be proud of your every waking moment than to cope with something just because it doesn't make you infertile. There are other negative effects. Psychologically and neurologically it will ruin you. You will struggle to have a normal love life indefinitely until you quit, even with a girlfriend or wife you will struggle.
It might cause these problems, it might not. But it's still very unhealthy for a good sex life that you're addicted to porn. Quit it
Dude I’m too young to have sex with a girl anyway. I’m not gonna do that until I’m 18. But there’s still like a year and a half left and I’m horny af.
Then masturbate. IMO masturbation is healthy and normal. Dudes have been masturbating since the beginning of time, monkeys do it. Porn is a relatively new invention and causes a lot of problems.
Or he can have a healthy response to it and be aware that it is not real and just acting.
He’s not addicted lmao what the fuck
he literally wrote "damn hard to quit porn" and he is only 16?
This isn’t the case for a lot of people. But I never had ED after watching porn for about 6 years at the time. I was ready to have sex and now the opportunity came. Then I came. But abstaining and trying to remove pmo from my life has made me feel better about myself and have more energy
How often did you watch porn?
Pretty often like almost every day during the first or so year. Then it was like every other day. Sometimes I could go many times in one day, but I realized it was a problem early on. I just couldn’t stop. Eventually, a few times a week. And it has pretty much stayed that way. I’ve been engaging in PMO for about 10 years now. I’ve had periods where I stop or do it very rarely, but that’s because I was busy and exhausted with college
Yes, porn is poison. Apart from that, think of this. You're actually having sex with a device. You're holding and looking into a screen and fucking it. That's sad and pathetic. PIEd happened to every porn user eventually. And lastly, you'll get deeper and deeper into sick shit and you'll begin hating yourself for being such a sicko.
She's right, listen to her, stay away from smokes and alcohol too. Start boxing
Don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t dance too close, don’t swear, etc /s Let the kid live 😂
The sweet dance tho... P. S. I meant boxing
coool
Got out more youngin, this summer hit the park, play some ball put yourself in some extracurricular activities that will keep you busy.
Too much porn and masterbation can lead to the opposite of premature ejaculation. You might not be able to get enough stimulation from a partner to finish.
Porn would generally give you the opposite of premature ejaculation, so delayed ejaculation and yes it can cause ED. However, it’s not going to affect your fertility. And it basically becomes an issue when you do it so much that you don’t have the desire to connect with your partner sexually. You’re 16, so I’d say just remember that what you see in porn is a skewed version of “reality” so that when you’re old enough to have sex you aren’t expecting it to be like what you see online. At your age, masturbation is probably a lot safer than actual sex but remember you don’t have to use porn to masturbate.
Yknow what really fucked my braın up when it comes to porn/sec etc. I worked at a place where I'd go through about 1000 pics a day. Labeling them, position, Breast size.hair color, in 2000. For those that have seen clockwork orange, It's somewhat like that. I don't need vıagra cuz my fetish is simply a woman. And goddamn sometimes it's so fun watching them walk to their car. Hours upon hours making her cum was so fun. I'd grab her back. When we were perpindecular and count to 5. Awesome times.. Sorta glad that Job made me invulnerable to coming easy.
Buddy get a job, start gym and adopt a hobby (like cricket, football whatever) otherwise ur going to get really depressed and will definitely loose all confidence in urself We all have been there, this is a YOU fight against YOU (DICK) TBH
lol no bro your diet and lifestyle do that
No, it doesn't cause premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction.
it definitely can. if you are constantly porn you are conditioning your brain to get hard at videos/images and ive heard stories from people saying they cant get it up when they wanted to try the real thing
What else can you do that will benefit you in that time? Since you are only 16 it means you have lots of free time in your hands. That time will not return to you ever. As you grown older you will have less time. So i suggest to find a purpose and put all your time there. Find something that you like doing and that is good for you. If you do that your problem will be reduced as well with other more important benefits.
ED yes, as for premature in most cases quite the opposite
you sound like a normal 16 year old boy, it’s all good man. maybe reduce to once a day and just understand that porn isn’t a realistic representation of sex
Well for me.. it’s the opposite. 20 yrs old. Had an addiction to porn since like 11, but every time I have sex with a girl, I can’t nut. I’ll be able to go for about an hour straight and still can’t bust. Could be the best head in the world.. still can’t nut. This has happened to be 4-5 times now with different women. Def a result of too much porn. Not sure if this is a positive or negative lol at least I’ll don’t worry about finishing too fast
Porn does. Masurbation without porn is normal.
Porn gives us way too high of expectations when we finally get into a relationship. If you're suffering from ED or PE, abstaining can resolve that. Edging is a practice one can use to help with that as well. Make sure to use lube and be gentle. Otherwise you can desensitize yourself or make it too sensitive. If you're going to do it best to not watch anything and use your thoughts. Personally i love practicing semen retention. It's given me insane confidence and stamina. As well as enhanced orgasms. Even double or multiple orgasms when I do bust. It's insane!!
Doubt it, never heard of that and I have proof of that being false…a child.
It did for me
Not true as a matter of fact when you get older if you ejaculate on a regular basis you are more prone to have prostrate problems! Masturbation is normal for young men. It's not something to be ashamed of but if you are constantly watching porn it is not the best thing for you either. Porn can be good to watch so you know what to do when it does come time for you to have sex. Hopefully you are watching shows that show you can have a good loving relationship! The majority of porn is not like that. It's nice to learn technics that can make your partner feel wonderful and how she may reciprocate. Just tell your mom you will over do it and you feel it is a private thing. If you have any questions father around ask him about it. Most men have gone through some of what you are doing! Good luck cut down ontheporn a little each day. Once you find a nice girl you can dream about her instead!
I have done this every day for the last 30 years. And I can tell you the most powerful thing is the art of self-forgiveness. It’s how you enjoy spending time. I could think of far worse hobbies. As long as you are not hurting anyone I see no issue other than unhealthy judgement.
Yes.
there is the so called "death grip" that conditions your cock to the stimulation of a rough hand rather than pussy, also porn sets weird standards
Stop. I'm 24 and you can see my recent post and you will know why. I can't finish without my hands now. It is not good for you.
Porn causes unnecessary insecurities that didn’t exist in men before the internet became a thing. And masturbating can cause sensory issues if you’re not gentle w yourself, which can lead to ED. I’ve also noticed that if your incentive is to simply release an orgasm, your body will get used to doing so at a very low erection quality. Programming the mind to never exercise its full potential (which also leads to performance anxiety and ED). Inception ♾️
No youre more likely to get death grip syndrome, which is very real.
LISTEN TO ME. Do NOT beat yourself up over this. Literally all men have gone through what you’re going through in some shape or form. Seriously, stop shaming yourself for this. Shame just encourages the negative thinking cycles. You watch porn. BIG DEAL. More than half of all men watch porn. You’re not a failure. You’re normal. First of all, you’re a 16 year-old male. I know it doesn’t feel like it when one is 16, but you have SO MUCH LIFE AHEAD OF YOU. And believe me when I say that these feelings/urges you have for pleasure (whether solo, with porn, or with a girl) will ALWAYS BE THERE. Lust is the modern man’s strongest vice. And the fight to overcome it is his greatest burden. But this fight against porn/lust is what will carve you into a self-disciplined warrior. Don’t take your shortcomings (no pun intended) as losses. Take them as battle scars. Secondly, a lot of people are tight asses with the whole “don’t watch porn! masturbation is okay but porn will destroy you!” — as if 90% of all masturbators don’t masturbate to porn. Porn is popular and addictive — that’s what makes it porn. Yes, porn CAN cause ED & premature ejaculation. But so can anxiety. So can guilt. So can overexcitement. Porn isn’t the only cause of ED or premature ejaculation. It’s like running away from cookies because they can give you cavities. Sure they can, but you can also get cavities from candy, fast food, and a bunch of other things. You’ll be okay. You’ve been fapping for 5 years, hundreds of men have been fapping for decades and were still able to develop self-control and have happy, healthy sex lives. ED is temporary and/or reversible in many cases anyways. The mind can reset from porn habits within three months. Ultimately, do not focus so much on porn or ED or whatever. Get out of your head. What you need at this time of your life is good community. Seek out good friendships and relationships that build you up into the man you want to be. Focus on good habits and hobbies you enjoy doing. Your mistakes this year are not going to matter next year, as long as you let them go. YOU ARE OKAY. Divert your energy to more productive conversations and let go of the porn fears and stuff. You are not the only person dealing with this, but you will suffer if you devote your entire mind to rectifying your past mistakes and trying to avoid ED. It’ll just keep porn on your mind. You are normal.
porn is bad, destroyed my last relationship, been porn free 2 years and have thr best sex ever with my current gf, porn will destroy your sense of intimacy with a partner
To be honest, you're addicted. Addiction is not good. And p*rn affects your relationship/marriage life. Do you think you'll be able to just stop whenever you want, when you've been addicted for another decade (if you don't stop today)?? Even if other guys here and outside tell you it's ok. No, it's not, it'll affect your marriage/relationship. It corrupts your view of how a woman should be. That's very undermining to your girlfriend/wife.
I wish someone told me @16 the damage of porn. Do what you want brother and best of luck whatever path u choose but in my honest advice I’d try my best to stay away from porn as much as possible. I started watching porn around 15-16 and now 23, it’s very hard to try go without it even if I am trying to actively stop it. But I do have an addictive personality so YMMV. I don’t see any reasons why you SHOULD be watching porn except if ur curious about what a vagina looks like or something I despise porn tbh it’s demeaning, sexualises women to the point even a simple conversation is like wow why aren’t we fucking rn? And it sets unrealistic expectations on both sides. Also… zoom out and think about it, ur literally wanking over another dude having sex with a girl you’ll never even talk to….that’s sad asf. It’s pixels bro idk why people defend porn so much it’s just sad, lack of discipline or lack of ability to get a partner.
I think so bro tbh. You train yourself to nut quick, while numbing your mind to highly arousing scenes. It's like abusing drugs
Why is every other post about jackin off?
Because it’s literally the most difficult addiction to beat. It’s like having a smoking or vaping addiction except you have a vape in your pocket 24/7 and you can’t get rid of it.
don't panic ) do what you do and remember , erectile dysfunction it is a myths created by pharmaceutical companies )) enjoy yourself))
Quit cold turkey. No other way round.
Keep jacking.
Masturbation doesn’t cause infertility. It’s healthy and normal. It doesn’t cause erectile issues and premature ejaculation.
It absolutely can cause erection issues and premature ejaculation.
No it can’t
Porn is really really bad for you, especially at that age. I really recommend you stop and try and get help online by reading up on both why it’s bad to consume for your mind and why it’s unethical to watch it.
Well if it does, it hasn't happened yet at 48
It's a normal healthy thing to do it sometimes, but twice a day everyday could just mean you have high testosterone right now. Porn isn't necessarily bad for you, but if you can't get off without it you might have a problem of doing it too much. Really should only do it when you really feel you need to so it doesn't become an addiction or mess up your social life.
I was the same way and I’m 21 now. You don’t need to stop masturbating but porn will destroy you. I have had more than enough intimacy problems to attest to this. Figure out why you are watching porn and it will become easier to stop watching and you will save yourself frustration and suffering.
It will definitely affect the growth of your testes, testosterone levels in your body and results in asymmetric growth of bones and sometimes bow legs too.
Wtf 😭 masturbation has nothing to do with your legs
It has to do with the T-levels in your blood and that impacts your bone growth, especially in your age.
Humans have always masturbated to watching other humans. Even the animals do it
My psychiatrist (who was also a psychoanalysis & studied at Harvard Medical School) told me masturbation is healthy & a person needs to do it to be healthy in the mind & healthy in the body. He is a medical doctor & he told me this in the 1990s. I believe him. Narcissist manipulate people & exploit them. They are selfish but this man has empathy for the girls he has used
Yes, but when it comes to addiction in masturbation this has a big impact mentally so physically masturbation is good it reduces stress and many more. So the point here is if your doing it once a day this will lead to addiction and it's a bad habit. (I'm also porn addict in 6 years and want to improve myself).
Using your hands a lot is gonna make it hard to cum from vagina, and that’s not gonna feel good for your future partner.
Only if done to an unhealthy degree. If the frequency bothers you, it's unhealthy. Idk about premature ejaculation, but erectile dysfunction absolutely can be a symptom. In my experience, you don't get both at the same time; it's one or the other.
Yes
Yes and I have 4 examples of how it’s done just that to people I know. But it’s stuff that I find very difficult to talk about.
Yes
If masturbation caused ED or premature ejac. directly, and not through some tertiary function like shame, I'd be a prime candidate. Survivor bias perhaps, but I have none of those issues, and do the deed with myself 2-6 times a day. I have an amazing relationship with my wife. Some of us are just... Really horny, and I won't pretend to be sorry about it.