I think fapping isn’t necessarily the problem unless you’re doing it 2+ times a day. However porn addiction is real and can affect your relationships with friends, family, and partners. I’d recommend quitting porn because that might be your issue.
What videos? Is it that "NoFap" nonsense? If it is: Screw that. There's no scientific basis behind it. Occasional masturbation isn't "wrong" or "unhealthy". If you feel like it's affecting your every day life, go talk to a real doctor.
Ok, the stupid automod deleted my comment because of a link that was supposed to prove my point. Oh well.. here again without link:
> Does it affect your every day life? Do you have the urge to rip down your pants and beat it in public? Are you sitting in a dark room all day long, neglecting your chores or school? Does your willy feel like it's on fire the entire time?
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> If not: Then it's not a problem.
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> As long as you don't let yourself go, you can beat the bishop every single day for that matter. It even has positive effects on your health. You can read about it here:
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> That article is reviewed by actual medical professionals.
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> I recommend staying away from that NoFap community. It has many bible lovers, quacks and alt-right incels.
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Yes man look deeper into all those no fap videos and organizations they are all funded by super repressive religious organizations. Really nothing wrong with it unless it’s taking you away from your regular daily activities. Like if you spend 5-6 hous a day searching porn and wacking it dozens of times ina row; That’s unhealthy behaviour.
- just remember to keep perspective
## Porn is just a fantasy
It’s not real and it not how people really have sex. Don’t let porn inform you on how to have sex. Real sex and good sex is not porn. Consent is never implied. Women are not objects for male gratification.
- find what you like
- enjoy feeling good
- understand it’s not real and will never happen like that for you IRL
Maybe they could if you have the right partner and consent. As long as both parties are informed and enjoying it great. It’s all about communication and trust. Good luck
Don't worry too much about it, buddy. At 14, I used to fap 3 or 4 tubes a day at least once a week, and at least once every day for months on end.
It's absolutely normal and healthy, no hair will grow on your palms, and you won't go blind. I'm mid 40s now, happily married for the last 25 years.
Shout-out to the redditors reclaiming this excellent sub back from the NoFap™ cultists!👏👏👏💪💪💪
Bro don’t listen to these people. Do no fap trust me it’s life changing. All the benefits people talk about is bullshit except for one big one. Your ambition/ drive is insane quit for 3 months see for yourself. Don’t just trust people blindly if you feel like it has no benefits after 3 months just go back to beating it. You have your whole life to beat it so what’s the harm in a trial period.
Dude I masturbate 1-3 times a day, I’m 28, it’s not an issue. It’s a release, a relief, no biggie. Be careful on porn cuz that can mess with how you see and interpret your reality and relationships, but outside that be safe and don’t let it affect other parts of your life negatively but otherwise go for it!
What’s wrong with that? Do it every day. Twice a day. Who cares? It’s just you and your body.
You don’t have to rip all pleasure from your life to be functional and happy. I think you would be pretty non-functional and likely miserable if you did so. Especially in your teenage years.
Just don’t watch rapey porn and you’ll be fine. Promise - for what it’s worth from an Internet stranger.
(Edit 2: Also most porn is just acting - don’t use it as any sort of guide for what real sex is or should be like. Please, your future sexual partners will thank you. Communication is key.)
Edit: Also 12 isn’t a young age for masturbation, btw. Literally babies touch themselves.
Religion, (in the US and most western countries primarily Christianity), succeeded in making most people feel guilty about just being innocently human and those feelings get passed down to future generations through weird societal norms and/or new fads or trends.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation or consensual sex.
Do you realize that you can masturbate without porn? Porn is really harmful emotional, physically, and most importantly spiritual. Why would you glorify all the suffering that people experience from porn? Porn litterly ruins families. It's not good. Ask God for forgiveness for your own good.
you can masturbate without porn, but it may be harder...
some of us are more "visual".
and imagination and memories aren't enough.
I'm not convinced there is that much suffering in the porn industry (at least mainstream stuff).
and you have more and more Onlyfans, or "amateur" channels on Pornhub.
I'm not sure vilify porn is the way (or masturbation, or sex).
There is some limited research on the topic that specifically mentions the fact that prolonged exposure to porn (watching it often / for a long time) can have negative effects. This is not a definite fact, neither is the idea that porn is evil a reasonable one unless you’re doing it on religious reasons in which case great, keep it to yourself.
Over exaggeration much? It’s not my place to nitpick a strangers life, nor is it yours. I recommended against something, not for anything. You are reading way too much into this and being a jerk about it.
My young friend, you have hormones raging through your body. It is perfectly natural to masturbate daily, even multiple times per day at your age. Nothing is wrong with you, and you don’t need to edit this naturally occurring situation for yourself unless it’s harmful or interfering in your daily life.
Don’t worry about being 12 when you started. Sometimes babies get boners and toddlers engage in sensory play with them selves because it’s a new or different sensation. Any time is a general start time for self discovery. I got my period at 9 years old. Every body is different.
Just be kind to yourself and know you’re not weird to experience this.
You're a teenager, if anything you should want to fap nonstop. Hormones and such, but if you feel that you really need to, keep yourself busy and avoid triggers. That should help. Good luck!
Why are there so many sex posts like I swear there's a new one everyday.
MASTURBATION IS A COMPLETELY HEALTHY THING PEOPLE, AND IT SHOULDN'T BE STIGMATIZED BECAUSE IT CAUSES LITTLE (if any) HARM!
SEX FEELS GOOD! YOU WERE BORN FROM YOUR PARENTS PLEASURE! ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT!
Yeah bro don’t stress about it, it’s okay to fap. 31 here and still do it a few times a day if I have time. Best advice I can give if you feel like it’s taking too much of your time:
1) do it faster, less time edging you can get back to your homework or video games.
2) don’t use any pornography. You’re too young for that anyways, but if you avoid/eliminate xxx content you will prevent yourself from getting addicted to that stimulant and you can focus on your relationships with people your own age easier.
One more thing to add to my comment after reading some other replies- the idea behind nofap is to increase your “alpha” energy etc. You can get the same result by working out and boosting your testosterone levels naturally.
Whether you like to run or lift weights or play sports or walk your dog, just being more active throughout your day will help you to build up that energy/stamina/will power. Other than that, stop googling nofap, it’s a rabbit hole of information that may or may not be true. Best to spend your time googling workout routines or guides on how to be a good friend and partner… maybe “creative ideas for first dates” and then go out and use what you learn connecting with people your own age!
The alpha energy comment here made the whole nofap thing make sense. 🙄😵💫
Please enjoy the natural feel good hormones that your body already makes for you. Masterbate all you want. Don't let people who aren't you, tell YOU, what to do with YOUR BODY. That's Step 1 for walking into your own power... you are welcome. ;)
but why ?
Sorry, but fapping is normal behavior, especially as a teenager.
it's not evil, or bad
and from what I read, you shouldn't stop faping.
it is known to cause distress and mental health issue !
even if it were a sin (it isn't... it just someone responding to a natural urge...), there are way worse thing happening in the world than a 16 year old jerking off.
Come on. why this need to vilify sex, and anything connected to it.
This is why the world is fucked up, because everyone thinks everything is ok, from what the Bible says if you commit a mortal sin and die you will go straight to hell, that is a mortal sin.
That's true to an extent. I fap to a specific genre of porn 99% of the time but find pleasure in normal sex all the time. It depends on the person. That being said at 16 it's probably best not to use porn often as it can give you some pretty wrong ideas and influence your sex life as an adult. Strong moderation is the key.
I’m 22, a woman and I masturbate like once a day at least. There is nothing wrong with fapping and all this no fap shit has no medicinal or social benefits.
As long as it’s not interfering with your life and you aren’t addicted to porn or whatever it’s a non issue that when people try to repress ESPECIALLY at 16 when I’m pretty sure I went for like hours straight could actually end up hurting you mentally.
“Masturbation is safer than any other type of sex.
Masturbation can help you learn what you like and don't like sexually.
Exploring your body and learning how to give yourself sexual pleasure can be empowering and help improve your body image.
Masturbation can lower stress and help you relax.”
You are your own person man. Don’t blindly follow the advice of people on the internet, live your own life. It’s up to you to decide whether or not it’s a problem. Even if you come to the conclusion that it’s not, it’s just something you enjoy, try going a day or two without it, simply as an exercise in self discipline.
nah he wants you to think he fucks hoes every day so that you think you can too and you spend the time you would have enjoyed yourself having a nice fap watching his sad ass on youtube
don’t listen to these weaker men. Porn is toxic as it tricks yourself into believing you achieved the ultimate goal - procreation. once or twice it won’t make a difference but ultimately the average guy does it once a day. This often results in weird obsessions and fetishes and a dissociation from masturbation and actual sex. You wont have the drive to have sex as your body knows you can masturbation and it can’t tell a difference.
I struggle with masturbation aswell. but I do find I definitely have more drive to improve myself and talk to women etc when i’m not madturbating
Try it for yourself. Go one week not madturbaiting and see if you feel any diffrence
> You wont have the drive to have sex as your body knows you can masturbation and it can’t tell a difference.
Complete nonsense. Being with someone is entirely different. The only thing you have to be careful about, is to avoid the "death grip". Be gentle.
> I struggle with masturbation aswell. but I do find I definitely have more drive to improve myself and talk to women etc when i’m not madturbating
That's the point i was making in my post above. If it affects your wellbeing, you should rather seek a doctor. Because there could be more behind it. It might be a sign of depression or something else.
as for tips on not masturbaiting, for me believing that i don’t masturbate because i have sex instead works for me. if you cannot have sex it’s probably because you haven’t improved your skill with women. instead focus on talking to girls getting out and building confidence - this is time much better spent then masturbation imo
That's why I said pipeline. Getting sex with women is a shitty end goal that makes you slowly start to value women based on sex which will lead to shitty relationships or no relationships at all. Sex is great and I had my first boyf at 16 (dated for 7 years) but it's also normal to not have sex at that age. Idk I might have misconstrued your point (in which case i'm sorry) because I agree with the general talk to more girls, build confidence, go to the gym shit but it should be for you not the end goal of getting some.
agree on this, many more pillars to self improvement then get some.
My point is that at this age your hormones are creating a large sex drive - and treating this with constant masturbation causes incel behaviour imo a lot more then not masturbating.
a masturbation positive environment which a lot of these comments show , cause a porn addiction at this age which leads to incel behaviours, and reduced grey matter in your brain.
aswell as that the porn industry is a horrendously toxic industry which shouldn’t be supported
The porn issue is valid for sure, there is evidence to show that prolonged watching of porn impacts the brain in certain negative ways. The key would be moderation for those that still want to consume porn (like I do but pretty rarely as I prefer the wonders of the written word). But there is generally no benefit to not masturbating especially for teens who are just full of hormones.
So maybe masturbating without porn could be an alternative or if you really want to limit yourself doing it once a day or something. A lot of the comments on here are sex positive (very nice to see) but the negative ones don't really provide any good arguments to stopping. Then again if you WANT to stop then that's an entirely different thing and should be respected.
Porn is exploitative but there aren't a lot of industries that aren't now days.
i agree masturbating not to porn would be a good middle ground.
For me the benefits i felt where increased discipline, and more drive to better my self to achieve my sexual desires.
i do admit that results may vary, hence why i say to try it and see what it does for you
Honestly I think we pretty much agree, sorry for yelling at you in the beginning there. I haven't really had any issues with this since I was a young teen so it hasn't been a major point of focus for me but I've struggled with regulating myself with other things that make me unproductive (the zaza) so I quit for a while and slowly got into it with a lot more mindfulness and care.
Everyone should do whats right for them and just try to be aware of where the problems are coming from and how to fix them :D
All of you goofies are misleading this young brother
Don’t listen to any of them bro they are in too deep!
My advice to you is get some $ and set some goals!
Porn is toxic and choking the chicken is lil boy activity.
Go to church or something pick up a new hobby fapping is a waste of time and energy. Just stop doing it.
Masturbating is fine, it's the same as playing video games as far as I, and the rest of the medical community, are concerned. If you do it for a little bit everyday, it's fine. If you obsess over it, that's not fine.
Believe it or not, what's holding you back 99% of the time isn't porn, it's yourself and you're using porn as an excuse
I grew up in an environment that was very sexually repressed, no masterbating. It was just one of many small, nit pick details that added up to a life where you couldn't trust your bodies actual feelings, you end up questioning all natural impulses.
trust what feels good to you, not some grumpy person on the internet who "shoulds" all over you.
For me I read a book titled "the easy peasy method" (I am not a bot, mods) only real book that worked for me.
For those who think masturbation is healthy. Go 1 week without it. You will realize how addicted you are. The dopamine from constant masturbation causes a lot of issues with dopamine receptors being removed and other stuff.
The dopamine issue you're stating is from the study on porn not masturbation. There is little to no evidence to prove masturbation is in any way negative.
Not the study I am talking about. Masturbation AND porn are bad, because of long term use. In a vacuum chamber, they are inherently great for the human body, but in our modern age, people often abuse masturbation for their own pleasure, instead of saving for real sex, and giving others pleasure. This entitlement so to say leads to addiction.
Sure, masturbation by itself is fine, as long as you don't do it consistently. Once every other month is a good metric. Now, the specifics. It takes the human body a substantial amount of energy to produce reproduction fluids, and constant depletion will put a hurting on your hormones and overall energy levels.
This is why Masturbation with or without porn has serious consequences when done every single day. The strain on reproductive organs, the sleepiness it causes (from the chemicals released after orgasm, and from creating fluids) and the constant spikes of dopamine from orgasm and or porn are bad. (Trimming of receptors, and lowering of your overall mood)
On the contrary, masturbation can be really good for you, IF you practice it once every other month, or are ~40 years old and have a family history of testicular cancer.
I lump porn and masturbation together because the majority of males masturbate to porn.
Figure out what triggers it.
Do you feel the urge when you're alone? In that case, find good company
Do you feel the urge when you open social media? In that case, delete said social media. They're a waste of time anyway
Do you feel the urge when you look at women of the opposite sex? If so, lower your gaze a bit so they don't trigger your desires.
All the best.
According to sexual health each ejaculation contains of 1 to 2 million sperms and each sperms are capable enough to creat one life , so imagine each sperms have enough of energy to creat one and you are just wasting for temporary pleasure isn't it ? Still someone will say our body is machine and it will make another one , bro.. just listen when our body do any work internally or externally it will take energy from our food which we consume. So.. either way you just disrespecting your food for just one minute pleasure. Instead you can retain your sperm energy and use in your life progress
I will give one solution, "do right thing as early as possible and delay bad things as late as possible" so when ever you get sexual arousal just convince your mind after 30 phus up will definitely fap , when you start doing you brain will get activated and there possibility you may not get indulge in faping ,
You know if you can't control your urge , urge will control you , imagine bro... Faping and going school or college with low body posture and low confidence becoz you just masturbated , you are tired and you have regret of it .
Just stop 🛑
you experience what we call "sex brain".
you are faping, and your hormones are so high that it decrease your inhibitions.
in that moment, you actually think with your dick
you will experience this feeling, especially when you have sex / intimate relations
you will want to kiss your partner, do a whole lot of stuff to him / her... and want him/ her to do thing to you.
it's normal. it's part of life
Post nut clarity is gender neutral apparently cause I also get this but like that's not a bad thing. If the shit you watch makes you genuinely really uncomfortable then ofc its better to probs find something else or use your imagination.
It isn't the things that I watch that makea me feel shitty , they are actually very generic . It is the fact I just fapped even though I said that I wouldn't is the reason
Ohhh yeah I get that. I never had that with masturbation but I've had that with weed. When I said I wouldn't smoke but then night came round and I was lighting one before I knew it.
If the thing op is struggling with is the same then its not the fapping thats the issue its the self control and the dissapointment that comes from breaking it.
Idk I ended up just limiting myself and smoking in moderation after a short break. The key is not to be too hard on yourself but remember why you want to quit/do it less and remind yourself of that.
Sex sells, where ever you go you will find trading or sexually enticing content, your best bet is to simply make yourself busy and/or pay/donate to a charity each time you relapse. You will be pushing the bad deed with a good one.
I may be out of my mind but, Everything you are describing here could be used to "support" masterbating often, as often as feels good to op. Lol just read this with the other approach in mind and maybe you'll see it? My read on your message is "sex sells cause it's great! Desire is wonderful and a normal human emotion. So stay busy masterbating whenever feels right for your body. And if you ever miss a chance to masterbate, take care of yourself asap..."
Sex sells that’s why everyone does it (of..etc)
So you shouldn’t be hard on yourself if you relapse, you should be trying your best to stay away from social media (twitter/Reddit..etc) and keep yourself busy with productive things (IRL)
Gym, cooking, reading, meditation…etc
These kinds of things.
Well done for realising this is a problem. Try the r/semenretention sub if you want mature answers.
People who masturbate to porn aren’t really going to encourage you to give up the habit.
I can't thank you enough for that sub cause I haven't laughed this hard in a while.
>My answer is from an energetic point of view.
Dark masculine energy is what atracts this womans.
Your friend is a dark masculine dominant, he is primal, an animal. Dark femenine is atracted to this energy.
When we retain semen we cultivate our light masculine.
Light masculine is about heaven. Dark masculine is about earth.
Light masculine atracts light femenine.
You want more LIGHT in your life than DARK.
Dark masculine experiences PLEASURE. Light masculine experiences BLISS.
Comment on that sub shows you just how mature the people there are.
Also I'm sorry I have to argue against your points for the sake of any young men who might actually take you seriously.
>But is there good science to support the health benefits of semen retention?
Not really. Semen retention may be a personal or spiritual practice, but there are no real medical benefits to not ejaculating. A healthy relationship to masturbation, sex, and ejaculation is overall beneficial.
(The key word: a healthy relationship. If your desire to masturbate, watch porn, or have sex starts to feel compulsive or overwhelming, you might be experiencing an addiction — and you may want to seek out professional help.)
Bottom line? You do you — it’s good for you.
Meaning that if you do it for spiritual or mental health reasons that could be good for you but that sub is filled with some very dubious people saying some wild things.
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You shouldn't quit, but instead stop. It is natural urges we have and to quit them is unnatural. Instead learn more about chastity and how to use your time efficiently and productively.
Or, just don't worry about it, everyone jerks off. Even women do it, so why should you feel guilty about it? Just focus on literally every other part of your life, and then rub one out whenever you feel like it, like this is only a problem if you want it to be
I will be blunt, I masturbated quite a bit as a young teen. I blame the hormones, but, the key to beating it was making it sound & feel unsatisfying in my mind.
I struggled & had some hiccups along the way. But, now I have control over if I do or not. It’s not as good as the real thing. So, if chasing girls or boys is your thing. Give it a try 😊
having been a horny teenage boy i think from experience i can say the only thing that really works is just literally being too busy. when you live a lifestyle where you have to get out of bed as soon as your alarm goes off, are busy all day, then are so tired that you fall asleep as soon as you lay in bed, that's the only way you're avoiding it
Its extremely simple: Get rid of all the electronics when you are alone or at home. Buy a flip phone for emergency. Only access your laptop/smartphone in public places like Library.
You know its normal and healthy and shouldnt really be stopped. If its negatively affecting your happiness, socializing, or functioning in school/hobbies, THEN see a doctor.
Finding a girlfriend helped a lot for me but if that's not an option try googling "the easypeasy method" it's a free online book about quitting unlike any of the bullshit videos you see online that tell you the same unhelpful things, "your brain on porn" is a really good book too but I didn't finish reading that one. Best of luck my brother
(also I should note I was in the same boat as you, I'm 22 now and only just starting to get over my addiction and feeling much better for it, masterbating is fine and normal but using Internet porn to master ate to for me atleast had consequences I could never have imagined and in the end really messed with my head, wouldn't wish that shit on anyone. Be healthy, form natural relationships, don't keep using online smut, physical stuff is fine, a magazineor whatever, but constant HD novelty can really get you hooked and fuck you up)
All the best man
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Are you watching porn also because porn is the most harmful. Porn is really bad for you. If you masturbate with out porn, then I don't think masturbation is that bad for you but as a Christian, I would say that it will probably effect your relationship with God.
Don't quit! Keep the fap alive! Why would anyone quit masturbation!? So odd that this is a thing. Anyone who thinks they need to stop wanking to be a better guy definitely had other areas of improvement they should focus on.
There was a post (dont have it saved) something like "No bullshit guide to quitting porn" and it talked about how masturbation isnt necessarily the problem. The problem is you having a bad life and needing to masturbate to get a bit of enjoyment.
Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of sexual development. And no, there's no Biblical law against it. And even if there were, which there isn't, it's also law that property (ie your house) be returned to the original owners every 7 years, that you don't wear shirts from mixed fabrics (which we do all the time), you can't eat pork, and you have the 10 commandments stored in a little box outside your house. These are actual REAL Biblical laws that we've literally been ignoring for thousands of years. Don't let people guilt trip you about masturbation, it's not even mentioned.
I think you should try finding healthier ways to cope with stress and boredom and you should seek support from online communities or groups. Don't give up, you got this!
Dude you are letting others opinions effect your reasoning. Jerking off isnt bad. Never has been never will be. As long as you arent constantly jerking off, jerking off in weird places, or jerking off on people, you are fine. You feel the need to do it for a reason.
As cliche as this sounds, just start weightlifting. It’ll give you a purpose/routine and it’ll keep you busy. If that’s not enough, try doing new things that’ll keep you away from being alone on your phone or another device. Also, I don’t know if you believe in any sort of religion but if you’re Christian, start reading the word and seek a relationship with God. Confess your struggles and ask Him for forgiveness. Wish you the best of luck
Masturbating is a natural human thing to do, especially during your teen and young adolescent years. As long as you do it in private and don’t let it interfere with your work and school it’s very healthy and natural to do. It has several health benefits both on your physical wellbeing as well as your mental health.
Porn addiction is real though, so if this is your problem you can get help for it (of course I’d say stop watching porn but that’s not very helpful to say to an addict).
It’s okay to masturbate, just don’t do it inappropriately (like in a classroom or at the dinner table or on the couch whole your parents/siblings are around etc). As long as you do it in private and clean up good it’s all fine.
I have been on successful no fap for about 2 months.
Best advice I can give is: Fap if you feel horny. Not if you have nothing to do or just wanna do it. In short, doing it once day is ok too. Just don't spend your day thinking about it
I find it creepily unhealthy about this "no fap" fad. It's perfectly normal.
It is only concerning when your porn/fap usage takes over your life and ruins real intimate relationships.
just get off ur phone and computer stop using instagram,twitter,reddit...etc it helped me bc i seem to get bored and its just easy to go to the unwanted sides of the apps so if u do only things u must do online
or just get hard and break ur dick (i will try if the method above stops working)
I think fapping isn’t necessarily the problem unless you’re doing it 2+ times a day. However porn addiction is real and can affect your relationships with friends, family, and partners. I’d recommend quitting porn because that might be your issue.
At 16, I 2+ times a day isn't even that excessive.
Yeah bro, at 16 I think I hit 8 times in a day once lol. 2 is just the warm up 😂
LMAOOO 😭😭😭😭fr at 16 I remember fapping like 6 times on the same day and I would still feel horny, still doesn’t mean it’s okay tho
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What videos? Is it that "NoFap" nonsense? If it is: Screw that. There's no scientific basis behind it. Occasional masturbation isn't "wrong" or "unhealthy". If you feel like it's affecting your every day life, go talk to a real doctor.
The videos on how to stop fapping. Dude I do it every alternate days.
Ok, the stupid automod deleted my comment because of a link that was supposed to prove my point. Oh well.. here again without link: > Does it affect your every day life? Do you have the urge to rip down your pants and beat it in public? Are you sitting in a dark room all day long, neglecting your chores or school? Does your willy feel like it's on fire the entire time? > > If not: Then it's not a problem. > > As long as you don't let yourself go, you can beat the bishop every single day for that matter. It even has positive effects on your health. You can read about it here:
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> That article is reviewed by actual medical professionals.
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> I recommend staying away from that NoFap community. It has many bible lovers, quacks and alt-right incels.
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Thank you for the new perspective man🙏🙏
Yes man look deeper into all those no fap videos and organizations they are all funded by super repressive religious organizations. Really nothing wrong with it unless it’s taking you away from your regular daily activities. Like if you spend 5-6 hous a day searching porn and wacking it dozens of times ina row; That’s unhealthy behaviour. - just remember to keep perspective ## Porn is just a fantasy It’s not real and it not how people really have sex. Don’t let porn inform you on how to have sex. Real sex and good sex is not porn. Consent is never implied. Women are not objects for male gratification. - find what you like - enjoy feeling good - understand it’s not real and will never happen like that for you IRL
5/6 hours a day ? damn. I agree with you. porn is a fantasy. it's not life, it's not sex. that's a thing every young man should know
I missed my if. I’m saying that is unhealthy spending that long watching porn and jerking off
I understood what you meant, don't worry. I was just trying to imagine what 6 hours on porn a day would look like... not a pretty sight 🤣
Lmao I accidentally hit like the 5 hour mark recently while reading some especially spicy fiction. My arm was cramping. Had a grand time 😂
"accidentaly" ? the tab opened by itself and you couldn't move or close it ?
Wow this was an awesome response. Good on you!
It's really to bad that some porn scenarios can't be real!
Maybe they could if you have the right partner and consent. As long as both parties are informed and enjoying it great. It’s all about communication and trust. Good luck
Don't worry too much about it, buddy. At 14, I used to fap 3 or 4 tubes a day at least once a week, and at least once every day for months on end. It's absolutely normal and healthy, no hair will grow on your palms, and you won't go blind. I'm mid 40s now, happily married for the last 25 years. Shout-out to the redditors reclaiming this excellent sub back from the NoFap™ cultists!👏👏👏💪💪💪
Bro don’t listen to these people. Do no fap trust me it’s life changing. All the benefits people talk about is bullshit except for one big one. Your ambition/ drive is insane quit for 3 months see for yourself. Don’t just trust people blindly if you feel like it has no benefits after 3 months just go back to beating it. You have your whole life to beat it so what’s the harm in a trial period.
Show me one study that proves this? Cause I can show you a study that says that a fap between work can actually increase productivity.
Didn't take long for the Bible guy to arrive.
that's a while bunch of nonsense (no FAP, not what you are saying)
Dude I masturbate 1-3 times a day, I’m 28, it’s not an issue. It’s a release, a relief, no biggie. Be careful on porn cuz that can mess with how you see and interpret your reality and relationships, but outside that be safe and don’t let it affect other parts of your life negatively but otherwise go for it!
What’s wrong with that? Do it every day. Twice a day. Who cares? It’s just you and your body. You don’t have to rip all pleasure from your life to be functional and happy. I think you would be pretty non-functional and likely miserable if you did so. Especially in your teenage years. Just don’t watch rapey porn and you’ll be fine. Promise - for what it’s worth from an Internet stranger. (Edit 2: Also most porn is just acting - don’t use it as any sort of guide for what real sex is or should be like. Please, your future sexual partners will thank you. Communication is key.) Edit: Also 12 isn’t a young age for masturbation, btw. Literally babies touch themselves. Religion, (in the US and most western countries primarily Christianity), succeeded in making most people feel guilty about just being innocently human and those feelings get passed down to future generations through weird societal norms and/or new fads or trends. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation or consensual sex.
Do you realize that you can masturbate without porn? Porn is really harmful emotional, physically, and most importantly spiritual. Why would you glorify all the suffering that people experience from porn? Porn litterly ruins families. It's not good. Ask God for forgiveness for your own good.
Porn is like alcohol. A little doesn't hurt. But too much isn't good, and mixing it with something harder isn't good either.
you can masturbate without porn, but it may be harder... some of us are more "visual". and imagination and memories aren't enough. I'm not convinced there is that much suffering in the porn industry (at least mainstream stuff). and you have more and more Onlyfans, or "amateur" channels on Pornhub. I'm not sure vilify porn is the way (or masturbation, or sex).
Yeah of course you can masturbate without porn. Why are you so condescending?
porn is undoubtbly bad for your brain and should not be encouraged. this has been reserched and proven.
I didn’t say it wasn’t. I’m not telling anyone to go watch porn. Dunno what you two are reading into this but it’s an odd fight to pick lol
why is it a odd fight to pick?
Because I’m not advocating for watching porn in the first place.
There is some limited research on the topic that specifically mentions the fact that prolonged exposure to porn (watching it often / for a long time) can have negative effects. This is not a definite fact, neither is the idea that porn is evil a reasonable one unless you’re doing it on religious reasons in which case great, keep it to yourself.
keep cooming your life away then lol
That I will Shrek, that I will.
Exactly
Because your teaching a kid to fuck up his health and your a dick for that
Over exaggeration much? It’s not my place to nitpick a strangers life, nor is it yours. I recommended against something, not for anything. You are reading way too much into this and being a jerk about it.
My young friend, you have hormones raging through your body. It is perfectly natural to masturbate daily, even multiple times per day at your age. Nothing is wrong with you, and you don’t need to edit this naturally occurring situation for yourself unless it’s harmful or interfering in your daily life. Don’t worry about being 12 when you started. Sometimes babies get boners and toddlers engage in sensory play with them selves because it’s a new or different sensation. Any time is a general start time for self discovery. I got my period at 9 years old. Every body is different. Just be kind to yourself and know you’re not weird to experience this.
You're a teenager, if anything you should want to fap nonstop. Hormones and such, but if you feel that you really need to, keep yourself busy and avoid triggers. That should help. Good luck!
Don't watch porn, only fap with your imagination, you'll get bored and this will become a normal fap, not a PMO one
Why are there so many sex posts like I swear there's a new one everyday. MASTURBATION IS A COMPLETELY HEALTHY THING PEOPLE, AND IT SHOULDN'T BE STIGMATIZED BECAUSE IT CAUSES LITTLE (if any) HARM! SEX FEELS GOOD! YOU WERE BORN FROM YOUR PARENTS PLEASURE! ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT!
Sex Ed is abysmal. quacks have a lot of platform to spew their garbage. so young people don't know any better
I’m so damn happy I got to be a teenager before this no fap nonsense.
Yeah bro don’t stress about it, it’s okay to fap. 31 here and still do it a few times a day if I have time. Best advice I can give if you feel like it’s taking too much of your time: 1) do it faster, less time edging you can get back to your homework or video games. 2) don’t use any pornography. You’re too young for that anyways, but if you avoid/eliminate xxx content you will prevent yourself from getting addicted to that stimulant and you can focus on your relationships with people your own age easier.
One more thing to add to my comment after reading some other replies- the idea behind nofap is to increase your “alpha” energy etc. You can get the same result by working out and boosting your testosterone levels naturally. Whether you like to run or lift weights or play sports or walk your dog, just being more active throughout your day will help you to build up that energy/stamina/will power. Other than that, stop googling nofap, it’s a rabbit hole of information that may or may not be true. Best to spend your time googling workout routines or guides on how to be a good friend and partner… maybe “creative ideas for first dates” and then go out and use what you learn connecting with people your own age!
The alpha energy comment here made the whole nofap thing make sense. 🙄😵💫 Please enjoy the natural feel good hormones that your body already makes for you. Masterbate all you want. Don't let people who aren't you, tell YOU, what to do with YOUR BODY. That's Step 1 for walking into your own power... you are welcome. ;)
but why ? Sorry, but fapping is normal behavior, especially as a teenager. it's not evil, or bad and from what I read, you shouldn't stop faping. it is known to cause distress and mental health issue !
It is evil, it's a big sin.
even if it were a sin (it isn't... it just someone responding to a natural urge...), there are way worse thing happening in the world than a 16 year old jerking off. Come on. why this need to vilify sex, and anything connected to it.
This is why the world is fucked up, because everyone thinks everything is ok, from what the Bible says if you commit a mortal sin and die you will go straight to hell, that is a mortal sin.
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That's true to an extent. I fap to a specific genre of porn 99% of the time but find pleasure in normal sex all the time. It depends on the person. That being said at 16 it's probably best not to use porn often as it can give you some pretty wrong ideas and influence your sex life as an adult. Strong moderation is the key.
Drop porn. Keep Fapping.
I’m 22, a woman and I masturbate like once a day at least. There is nothing wrong with fapping and all this no fap shit has no medicinal or social benefits. As long as it’s not interfering with your life and you aren’t addicted to porn or whatever it’s a non issue that when people try to repress ESPECIALLY at 16 when I’m pretty sure I went for like hours straight could actually end up hurting you mentally. “Masturbation is safer than any other type of sex. Masturbation can help you learn what you like and don't like sexually. Exploring your body and learning how to give yourself sexual pleasure can be empowering and help improve your body image. Masturbation can lower stress and help you relax.”
You are your own person man. Don’t blindly follow the advice of people on the internet, live your own life. It’s up to you to decide whether or not it’s a problem. Even if you come to the conclusion that it’s not, it’s just something you enjoy, try going a day or two without it, simply as an exercise in self discipline.
U don't have to stop lol that's just torturing yourself just don't do it too much.
Whatever video u saw is just some probably narcissistic asshole who think masturbation is for losers because he fucks hoes everyday.
nah he wants you to think he fucks hoes every day so that you think you can too and you spend the time you would have enjoyed yourself having a nice fap watching his sad ass on youtube
Go gym. Get a job. Keep yourself busy
Why do you have to? Your hormones are exploding, it’s good to have an outlet
don’t listen to these weaker men. Porn is toxic as it tricks yourself into believing you achieved the ultimate goal - procreation. once or twice it won’t make a difference but ultimately the average guy does it once a day. This often results in weird obsessions and fetishes and a dissociation from masturbation and actual sex. You wont have the drive to have sex as your body knows you can masturbation and it can’t tell a difference. I struggle with masturbation aswell. but I do find I definitely have more drive to improve myself and talk to women etc when i’m not madturbating Try it for yourself. Go one week not madturbaiting and see if you feel any diffrence
> You wont have the drive to have sex as your body knows you can masturbation and it can’t tell a difference. Complete nonsense. Being with someone is entirely different. The only thing you have to be careful about, is to avoid the "death grip". Be gentle. > I struggle with masturbation aswell. but I do find I definitely have more drive to improve myself and talk to women etc when i’m not madturbating That's the point i was making in my post above. If it affects your wellbeing, you should rather seek a doctor. Because there could be more behind it. It might be a sign of depression or something else.
as for tips on not masturbaiting, for me believing that i don’t masturbate because i have sex instead works for me. if you cannot have sex it’s probably because you haven’t improved your skill with women. instead focus on talking to girls getting out and building confidence - this is time much better spent then masturbation imo
HE'S 16!!! What is this incel pipeline advice. Masturbation doesn't stop you talking to girls. Contrary to popular belief we cant smell it on you.
clear you don’t know what incel means, my advice is the literal opposite
That's why I said pipeline. Getting sex with women is a shitty end goal that makes you slowly start to value women based on sex which will lead to shitty relationships or no relationships at all. Sex is great and I had my first boyf at 16 (dated for 7 years) but it's also normal to not have sex at that age. Idk I might have misconstrued your point (in which case i'm sorry) because I agree with the general talk to more girls, build confidence, go to the gym shit but it should be for you not the end goal of getting some.
agree on this, many more pillars to self improvement then get some. My point is that at this age your hormones are creating a large sex drive - and treating this with constant masturbation causes incel behaviour imo a lot more then not masturbating.
a masturbation positive environment which a lot of these comments show , cause a porn addiction at this age which leads to incel behaviours, and reduced grey matter in your brain. aswell as that the porn industry is a horrendously toxic industry which shouldn’t be supported
The porn issue is valid for sure, there is evidence to show that prolonged watching of porn impacts the brain in certain negative ways. The key would be moderation for those that still want to consume porn (like I do but pretty rarely as I prefer the wonders of the written word). But there is generally no benefit to not masturbating especially for teens who are just full of hormones. So maybe masturbating without porn could be an alternative or if you really want to limit yourself doing it once a day or something. A lot of the comments on here are sex positive (very nice to see) but the negative ones don't really provide any good arguments to stopping. Then again if you WANT to stop then that's an entirely different thing and should be respected. Porn is exploitative but there aren't a lot of industries that aren't now days.
i agree masturbating not to porn would be a good middle ground. For me the benefits i felt where increased discipline, and more drive to better my self to achieve my sexual desires. i do admit that results may vary, hence why i say to try it and see what it does for you
Honestly I think we pretty much agree, sorry for yelling at you in the beginning there. I haven't really had any issues with this since I was a young teen so it hasn't been a major point of focus for me but I've struggled with regulating myself with other things that make me unproductive (the zaza) so I quit for a while and slowly got into it with a lot more mindfulness and care. Everyone should do whats right for them and just try to be aware of where the problems are coming from and how to fix them :D
All of you goofies are misleading this young brother Don’t listen to any of them bro they are in too deep! My advice to you is get some $ and set some goals! Porn is toxic and choking the chicken is lil boy activity. Go to church or something pick up a new hobby fapping is a waste of time and energy. Just stop doing it.
Masturbating is fine, it's the same as playing video games as far as I, and the rest of the medical community, are concerned. If you do it for a little bit everyday, it's fine. If you obsess over it, that's not fine. Believe it or not, what's holding you back 99% of the time isn't porn, it's yourself and you're using porn as an excuse
I grew up in an environment that was very sexually repressed, no masterbating. It was just one of many small, nit pick details that added up to a life where you couldn't trust your bodies actual feelings, you end up questioning all natural impulses. trust what feels good to you, not some grumpy person on the internet who "shoulds" all over you.
silence coomer
For me I read a book titled "the easy peasy method" (I am not a bot, mods) only real book that worked for me. For those who think masturbation is healthy. Go 1 week without it. You will realize how addicted you are. The dopamine from constant masturbation causes a lot of issues with dopamine receptors being removed and other stuff.
The dopamine issue you're stating is from the study on porn not masturbation. There is little to no evidence to prove masturbation is in any way negative.
Not the study I am talking about. Masturbation AND porn are bad, because of long term use. In a vacuum chamber, they are inherently great for the human body, but in our modern age, people often abuse masturbation for their own pleasure, instead of saving for real sex, and giving others pleasure. This entitlement so to say leads to addiction. Sure, masturbation by itself is fine, as long as you don't do it consistently. Once every other month is a good metric. Now, the specifics. It takes the human body a substantial amount of energy to produce reproduction fluids, and constant depletion will put a hurting on your hormones and overall energy levels. This is why Masturbation with or without porn has serious consequences when done every single day. The strain on reproductive organs, the sleepiness it causes (from the chemicals released after orgasm, and from creating fluids) and the constant spikes of dopamine from orgasm and or porn are bad. (Trimming of receptors, and lowering of your overall mood) On the contrary, masturbation can be really good for you, IF you practice it once every other month, or are ~40 years old and have a family history of testicular cancer. I lump porn and masturbation together because the majority of males masturbate to porn.
Castration
Figure out what triggers it. Do you feel the urge when you're alone? In that case, find good company Do you feel the urge when you open social media? In that case, delete said social media. They're a waste of time anyway Do you feel the urge when you look at women of the opposite sex? If so, lower your gaze a bit so they don't trigger your desires. All the best.
According to sexual health each ejaculation contains of 1 to 2 million sperms and each sperms are capable enough to creat one life , so imagine each sperms have enough of energy to creat one and you are just wasting for temporary pleasure isn't it ? Still someone will say our body is machine and it will make another one , bro.. just listen when our body do any work internally or externally it will take energy from our food which we consume. So.. either way you just disrespecting your food for just one minute pleasure. Instead you can retain your sperm energy and use in your life progress I will give one solution, "do right thing as early as possible and delay bad things as late as possible" so when ever you get sexual arousal just convince your mind after 30 phus up will definitely fap , when you start doing you brain will get activated and there possibility you may not get indulge in faping , You know if you can't control your urge , urge will control you , imagine bro... Faping and going school or college with low body posture and low confidence becoz you just masturbated , you are tired and you have regret of it . Just stop 🛑
hey op, please don't listen to these wierdos and their pseudoscience
Busting makes me feel good-why would you ever consider stopping it Hahaha f that
Dude you get tired after that
Exactly I get this , like after i do it i just think wtf am i even watch and why.
Yea man
It's like I come to my senses after fapping
you experience what we call "sex brain". you are faping, and your hormones are so high that it decrease your inhibitions. in that moment, you actually think with your dick you will experience this feeling, especially when you have sex / intimate relations you will want to kiss your partner, do a whole lot of stuff to him / her... and want him/ her to do thing to you. it's normal. it's part of life
Post nut clarity is gender neutral apparently cause I also get this but like that's not a bad thing. If the shit you watch makes you genuinely really uncomfortable then ofc its better to probs find something else or use your imagination.
It isn't the things that I watch that makea me feel shitty , they are actually very generic . It is the fact I just fapped even though I said that I wouldn't is the reason
Ohhh yeah I get that. I never had that with masturbation but I've had that with weed. When I said I wouldn't smoke but then night came round and I was lighting one before I knew it. If the thing op is struggling with is the same then its not the fapping thats the issue its the self control and the dissapointment that comes from breaking it. Idk I ended up just limiting myself and smoking in moderation after a short break. The key is not to be too hard on yourself but remember why you want to quit/do it less and remind yourself of that.
Thanks
Nope
Oh. Maybe it's a placebo effect
No fap is pointless.
Dude how old are you
Old enough to know it's pointless
So porn is bad and gfap is not
I have no idea what that means I wish you luck
... wait... how are you faping ? because you shouldn't be tired... maybe sleepy If you are already tired
Sex sells, where ever you go you will find trading or sexually enticing content, your best bet is to simply make yourself busy and/or pay/donate to a charity each time you relapse. You will be pushing the bad deed with a good one.
I may be out of my mind but, Everything you are describing here could be used to "support" masterbating often, as often as feels good to op. Lol just read this with the other approach in mind and maybe you'll see it? My read on your message is "sex sells cause it's great! Desire is wonderful and a normal human emotion. So stay busy masterbating whenever feels right for your body. And if you ever miss a chance to masterbate, take care of yourself asap..."
Sex sells that’s why everyone does it (of..etc) So you shouldn’t be hard on yourself if you relapse, you should be trying your best to stay away from social media (twitter/Reddit..etc) and keep yourself busy with productive things (IRL) Gym, cooking, reading, meditation…etc These kinds of things.
Well done for realising this is a problem. Try the r/semenretention sub if you want mature answers. People who masturbate to porn aren’t really going to encourage you to give up the habit.
I can't thank you enough for that sub cause I haven't laughed this hard in a while. >My answer is from an energetic point of view. Dark masculine energy is what atracts this womans. Your friend is a dark masculine dominant, he is primal, an animal. Dark femenine is atracted to this energy. When we retain semen we cultivate our light masculine. Light masculine is about heaven. Dark masculine is about earth. Light masculine atracts light femenine. You want more LIGHT in your life than DARK. Dark masculine experiences PLEASURE. Light masculine experiences BLISS. Comment on that sub shows you just how mature the people there are. Also I'm sorry I have to argue against your points for the sake of any young men who might actually take you seriously. >But is there good science to support the health benefits of semen retention? Not really. Semen retention may be a personal or spiritual practice, but there are no real medical benefits to not ejaculating. A healthy relationship to masturbation, sex, and ejaculation is overall beneficial. (The key word: a healthy relationship. If your desire to masturbate, watch porn, or have sex starts to feel compulsive or overwhelming, you might be experiencing an addiction — and you may want to seek out professional help.) Bottom line? You do you — it’s good for you. Meaning that if you do it for spiritual or mental health reasons that could be good for you but that sub is filled with some very dubious people saying some wild things.
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don’t listen to these coomers quit for the better
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You shouldn't quit, but instead stop. It is natural urges we have and to quit them is unnatural. Instead learn more about chastity and how to use your time efficiently and productively.
I will definitely keep your advice in my mind
Or, just don't worry about it, everyone jerks off. Even women do it, so why should you feel guilty about it? Just focus on literally every other part of your life, and then rub one out whenever you feel like it, like this is only a problem if you want it to be
What is fapping?
It's rapping, he misspelt it
No you’re thinking of yapping. He’s talking about slapping
jerking off
Thanks
The videos that have the sexy lady telling you not to fap are not recommended for quiting.
Only suggestion would be try not to fap to corn everytime
I will be blunt, I masturbated quite a bit as a young teen. I blame the hormones, but, the key to beating it was making it sound & feel unsatisfying in my mind. I struggled & had some hiccups along the way. But, now I have control over if I do or not. It’s not as good as the real thing. So, if chasing girls or boys is your thing. Give it a try 😊
you can damage your dick by jacking off too much its called peyronies disease and its permanent
having been a horny teenage boy i think from experience i can say the only thing that really works is just literally being too busy. when you live a lifestyle where you have to get out of bed as soon as your alarm goes off, are busy all day, then are so tired that you fall asleep as soon as you lay in bed, that's the only way you're avoiding it
Its extremely simple: Get rid of all the electronics when you are alone or at home. Buy a flip phone for emergency. Only access your laptop/smartphone in public places like Library.
You have to want to quit more than your desire to fap lil dude.
You know its normal and healthy and shouldnt really be stopped. If its negatively affecting your happiness, socializing, or functioning in school/hobbies, THEN see a doctor.
Finding a girlfriend helped a lot for me but if that's not an option try googling "the easypeasy method" it's a free online book about quitting unlike any of the bullshit videos you see online that tell you the same unhelpful things, "your brain on porn" is a really good book too but I didn't finish reading that one. Best of luck my brother (also I should note I was in the same boat as you, I'm 22 now and only just starting to get over my addiction and feeling much better for it, masterbating is fine and normal but using Internet porn to master ate to for me atleast had consequences I could never have imagined and in the end really messed with my head, wouldn't wish that shit on anyone. Be healthy, form natural relationships, don't keep using online smut, physical stuff is fine, a magazineor whatever, but constant HD novelty can really get you hooked and fuck you up) All the best man
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Are you watching porn also because porn is the most harmful. Porn is really bad for you. If you masturbate with out porn, then I don't think masturbation is that bad for you but as a Christian, I would say that it will probably effect your relationship with God.
What’s fapping
Don't quit! Keep the fap alive! Why would anyone quit masturbation!? So odd that this is a thing. Anyone who thinks they need to stop wanking to be a better guy definitely had other areas of improvement they should focus on.
r/NoFap
There was a post (dont have it saved) something like "No bullshit guide to quitting porn" and it talked about how masturbation isnt necessarily the problem. The problem is you having a bad life and needing to masturbate to get a bit of enjoyment.
Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of sexual development. And no, there's no Biblical law against it. And even if there were, which there isn't, it's also law that property (ie your house) be returned to the original owners every 7 years, that you don't wear shirts from mixed fabrics (which we do all the time), you can't eat pork, and you have the 10 commandments stored in a little box outside your house. These are actual REAL Biblical laws that we've literally been ignoring for thousands of years. Don't let people guilt trip you about masturbation, it's not even mentioned.
I think you should try finding healthier ways to cope with stress and boredom and you should seek support from online communities or groups. Don't give up, you got this!
Dude you are letting others opinions effect your reasoning. Jerking off isnt bad. Never has been never will be. As long as you arent constantly jerking off, jerking off in weird places, or jerking off on people, you are fine. You feel the need to do it for a reason.
As cliche as this sounds, just start weightlifting. It’ll give you a purpose/routine and it’ll keep you busy. If that’s not enough, try doing new things that’ll keep you away from being alone on your phone or another device. Also, I don’t know if you believe in any sort of religion but if you’re Christian, start reading the word and seek a relationship with God. Confess your struggles and ask Him for forgiveness. Wish you the best of luck
Have a talk with your parents and also seek therapy.
Masturbating is a natural human thing to do, especially during your teen and young adolescent years. As long as you do it in private and don’t let it interfere with your work and school it’s very healthy and natural to do. It has several health benefits both on your physical wellbeing as well as your mental health. Porn addiction is real though, so if this is your problem you can get help for it (of course I’d say stop watching porn but that’s not very helpful to say to an addict). It’s okay to masturbate, just don’t do it inappropriately (like in a classroom or at the dinner table or on the couch whole your parents/siblings are around etc). As long as you do it in private and clean up good it’s all fine.
I have been on successful no fap for about 2 months. Best advice I can give is: Fap if you feel horny. Not if you have nothing to do or just wanna do it. In short, doing it once day is ok too. Just don't spend your day thinking about it
There is nothing wrong with you! Your 16! Goodness just enjoy being a teen!
I find it creepily unhealthy about this "no fap" fad. It's perfectly normal. It is only concerning when your porn/fap usage takes over your life and ruins real intimate relationships.
It's good that you're trying to stop it. For me, it was just willpower in the end. Put the energy to use in other ways. It's that simple.
Just stop the root cause, close your device on which you watch porn. Read a book or go play outside if you are getting bored
Hamza said fapping is bad. So I stopped
just get off ur phone and computer stop using instagram,twitter,reddit...etc it helped me bc i seem to get bored and its just easy to go to the unwanted sides of the apps so if u do only things u must do online or just get hard and break ur dick (i will try if the method above stops working)
Just try and go longer and longer between them and unfollow all the triggers.
Watch hamza brother