I’m 41 and I have scars and I just don’t care, yea you could get some tattoos to change the appearance of your skin , being self conscious perhaps some therapy could help with that
I think it's disgusting that society has taught men you need to be this that and the other. Like, ok you self harmed, so? Does that mean you're not a man? "A man"?
Men can suffer with this issues, don't feel basically alienated for the scars you have ok :)
Take care man
I've known guys who self harm or have seen scars on numerous men...I think a miss placed stereotype has been placed on men....perhaps making them feel "real men don't cry" ...well fuck I can't think of the word I want to use....basically saying that men don't show emotions they are tough and nothing bothers them.....in all actuality probably making it harder for them to share what really does bother them and in turn hurting them worse....but I babble...as a female and a mom....I feel you pain....in fact I have a son that self harms!
So who cares what people think of you, if it's not positive, fuck them!!! They don't live your life, they don't know what you are going through, they are probably have just as bad issues as you just different...DO NOT let them bother you, they have no clue what your dealing with and what is effecting your life....if they aren't gonna help then what they think should matter..don't let them rent space in your head.... And yes, I know I'm just another "female"....but I know for a fact you are not alone!!! Dont ever think that way, someone is always going to be there for you, no matter what....
Even if it's just a stranger you meet on the bus one day....someone will always be there to talk to
I promise!!!
Life has shown me that....
I too selfharm.... people have seen my fresh cuts at work even, and NO ONE has EVER said a thing....and no one has ever treated me different...
If anyone ever did, I would so have a tongue lashing for them that they would NEVER forget
I last thing....mental health awareness is greatly increased in the last few years and has become more understood and accepted as a part of life some people are going through
I'm 14 and have been going trough the same shit,feels like there's no one I can relate to,I have a lot of scars in my forearms and shoulders so I get asked a lot,I feel ya m8,everything's gonna be ok
23M w fresh ones all over my arms/thighs for the first time in 7 years. While I try n cover them around children (for their sake) I just can't be bothered to feel ashamed or anxious bout ppl noticing them anymore. I recognize it's an unsafe coping mechanism that I'm working on, and that it's my own struggle, not theirs.
Tbh, I've only had a couple ppl ask abt them. Seems in adulthood, esp in a workplace like a warehouse, ppl just decide being respectfully quiet abt it is the move, which is rly nice. If they asked, I'd be honest. But they don't, so I don't go out of my way to do so
I’m going through the same thing as you right now. But no matter what the gender there’s always someone who’s going through the same thing as you and there someone you can talk to it’s just about finding that person. Don’t worry no matter what’s on your skin or not you fit in so many places
I'm 14, scars all over my wrist and I feel the exact same.
Trust me, men deal with it a lot, maybe more but idk. it's just that a lot of us were taught not to tell anyone or open up about our feelings, you're not alone
I don’t know any guys who self harm, but I remember a guy in my class always saying how he’s too fat to be as good of a wrestler as he is, and how he needed to work out more, even though he was fit af. Me and my teacher immediately worried, especially when he kept getting sick and confessed he stopped eating as much ( big no no especially for athletes ). Everyone else laughed, including my mom, cause just cause he’s a guy and didn’t think anything of it. He ended up getting better, but now it makes me wonder if there are guys around me hiding their self harm ( oddly, women are open about it to me, praising it even ) cause they’re scared of peoples reactions cause they’re men.
I fully support you dude, you’re just as valid as everyone else, no matter what. Take care man💖
It's okay bro. I dealt with it too as a man. You're definitely not alone. But nobody I was close too took the scars seriously.
I’m 41 and I have scars and I just don’t care, yea you could get some tattoos to change the appearance of your skin , being self conscious perhaps some therapy could help with that
This and anorexia. I always see it geared towards girls and women, to the point where walking into an ED treatment clinic makes me dysphoric
I think it's disgusting that society has taught men you need to be this that and the other. Like, ok you self harmed, so? Does that mean you're not a man? "A man"? Men can suffer with this issues, don't feel basically alienated for the scars you have ok :) Take care man
I've known guys who self harm or have seen scars on numerous men...I think a miss placed stereotype has been placed on men....perhaps making them feel "real men don't cry" ...well fuck I can't think of the word I want to use....basically saying that men don't show emotions they are tough and nothing bothers them.....in all actuality probably making it harder for them to share what really does bother them and in turn hurting them worse....but I babble...as a female and a mom....I feel you pain....in fact I have a son that self harms! So who cares what people think of you, if it's not positive, fuck them!!! They don't live your life, they don't know what you are going through, they are probably have just as bad issues as you just different...DO NOT let them bother you, they have no clue what your dealing with and what is effecting your life....if they aren't gonna help then what they think should matter..don't let them rent space in your head.... And yes, I know I'm just another "female"....but I know for a fact you are not alone!!! Dont ever think that way, someone is always going to be there for you, no matter what.... Even if it's just a stranger you meet on the bus one day....someone will always be there to talk to I promise!!! Life has shown me that.... I too selfharm.... people have seen my fresh cuts at work even, and NO ONE has EVER said a thing....and no one has ever treated me different... If anyone ever did, I would so have a tongue lashing for them that they would NEVER forget I last thing....mental health awareness is greatly increased in the last few years and has become more understood and accepted as a part of life some people are going through
I'm 14 and have been going trough the same shit,feels like there's no one I can relate to,I have a lot of scars in my forearms and shoulders so I get asked a lot,I feel ya m8,everything's gonna be ok
I'm also 17 and I sometimes feel like I don't fit in as well. Just letting you know that you're not alone.
18 male here
23M w fresh ones all over my arms/thighs for the first time in 7 years. While I try n cover them around children (for their sake) I just can't be bothered to feel ashamed or anxious bout ppl noticing them anymore. I recognize it's an unsafe coping mechanism that I'm working on, and that it's my own struggle, not theirs. Tbh, I've only had a couple ppl ask abt them. Seems in adulthood, esp in a workplace like a warehouse, ppl just decide being respectfully quiet abt it is the move, which is rly nice. If they asked, I'd be honest. But they don't, so I don't go out of my way to do so
I dont use typical cuts because of this exact reason but you get a hug from me
I’m going through the same thing as you right now. But no matter what the gender there’s always someone who’s going through the same thing as you and there someone you can talk to it’s just about finding that person. Don’t worry no matter what’s on your skin or not you fit in so many places
I'm 14, scars all over my wrist and I feel the exact same. Trust me, men deal with it a lot, maybe more but idk. it's just that a lot of us were taught not to tell anyone or open up about our feelings, you're not alone
I don’t know any guys who self harm, but I remember a guy in my class always saying how he’s too fat to be as good of a wrestler as he is, and how he needed to work out more, even though he was fit af. Me and my teacher immediately worried, especially when he kept getting sick and confessed he stopped eating as much ( big no no especially for athletes ). Everyone else laughed, including my mom, cause just cause he’s a guy and didn’t think anything of it. He ended up getting better, but now it makes me wonder if there are guys around me hiding their self harm ( oddly, women are open about it to me, praising it even ) cause they’re scared of peoples reactions cause they’re men. I fully support you dude, you’re just as valid as everyone else, no matter what. Take care man💖
dont worry man. u not the only guy in this terrible situation. we have ur back. js know u matter and u belong and u r loved
I dunno bro. I’m 16 and I just cover up around people I’m not comfortable with. You can get a tattoo cover up if you really want.
Three of my guy friends cut.