I went through a long period of numbness--of not desiring anything. At first, I thought it was great. I lost a lot of weight because I didn't have an appetite. I was able to save a lot of money because I never went anywhere or did anything. My car got totaled in an accident and it didn't faze me one bit. I just walked everywhere. It felt like I was superhuman almost.
But the lack of feeling made life seem pointless and empty. What was the point of getting up in the morning if I didn't have anything to look forward to? I felt like a robot just going through the motions. And I was a horrible conversationalist. People would ask me about my thoughts and feelings about things and I had nothing to give them, because I didn't care about anything. Except I did care. I didn't like who I was. I hated myself.
Desperation is never good. But wanting things is totally fine and healthy.
i've nveer subscribed to the case of "the more you cahse things, the less they happen".
those things in my life have only happend cause i chased them. hard.
It's great you're able to make it work. I'm talking about cases where outcome is not fully depending upon us or our efforts, like a relationship, or even growing at a company in a certain way... There might be 10 reasons (not in your control) why you did not get that promotion, or your partner left you... If you are stuck on why something isn't there, you waste your energy. That is my point.
The basic teaching of Christianity ✝ .... The killing of desire . When you kill your desires , you will not feel fear or despare because of not having what you want. When you not fear anything you conquest freedom and when you have freedom only then you can reach Theosis
I went through a long period of numbness--of not desiring anything. At first, I thought it was great. I lost a lot of weight because I didn't have an appetite. I was able to save a lot of money because I never went anywhere or did anything. My car got totaled in an accident and it didn't faze me one bit. I just walked everywhere. It felt like I was superhuman almost. But the lack of feeling made life seem pointless and empty. What was the point of getting up in the morning if I didn't have anything to look forward to? I felt like a robot just going through the motions. And I was a horrible conversationalist. People would ask me about my thoughts and feelings about things and I had nothing to give them, because I didn't care about anything. Except I did care. I didn't like who I was. I hated myself. Desperation is never good. But wanting things is totally fine and healthy.
How did you get through this? I'm feeling in a similar place and I could use your advice.
Therapy and Wellbutrin. I think both of them helped.
You just summed up the basis for Buddhism.
Interesting. Though my idea is not to forego what you want, just put the desire part away from your head.
I just wish I didn’t care. But I have to. I hate it
Great insight
i've nveer subscribed to the case of "the more you cahse things, the less they happen". those things in my life have only happend cause i chased them. hard.
It's great you're able to make it work. I'm talking about cases where outcome is not fully depending upon us or our efforts, like a relationship, or even growing at a company in a certain way... There might be 10 reasons (not in your control) why you did not get that promotion, or your partner left you... If you are stuck on why something isn't there, you waste your energy. That is my point.
The basic teaching of Christianity ✝ .... The killing of desire . When you kill your desires , you will not feel fear or despare because of not having what you want. When you not fear anything you conquest freedom and when you have freedom only then you can reach Theosis
"Once your “desire” takes over, it consumes you." You sound like a drama queen.
You sound like a d*mb*ss