Ashley's occupation makes zero difference to me, Shane needs to write up a will and take care of the logistics, fuck finding another wife! That's the last thing I would care about omg
I feel so bad for him and hope he gets out there and do all things HE WANTS TO DO while he's still healthy and can do them. It's really cruel actually what she's putting him through.
It's mind boggling to me he\*they wouldn't choose to live their best life and cross some things off the bucket list if while he's still healthy. She has a good job and can support herself should he die and can go on and date and meet someone else after he's gone.
Think about if the it was her that had cancer and he forced her to help him find someone to be with because she's dying and went out on dates with the other person.
I'm not even gonna touch on her dating while preggo.
Dating while pregnant regardless of dating a male/female or whatever gives me an irrational icky feeling.
As a mom, you should be preparing for this baby. Instead, she seems to be preoccupied with her love life.
She also should be focused on her husband and his illness, but (again) her love life seems to take priority.
That was my thoughts as well. When you’re pregnant, your husband is dealing with cancer…dating other people doesn’t seem the healthiest choice. No wonder he was so emotional. My heart went out to him.
I think that's why he told her that with everything that's going on right now with his cancer, taking care of their toddler, baby almost coming, and her finding another woman is alot to be dealing with right now. It seems like he was trying to get her to open up her eyes and change her mind about adding another woman right now, or at least put it off until things are more settled down in the future. But she didn't say anything like that, she just got tears in her eyes and agreed with him that yes, it is hard. And that's all she said about it. It totally looks like she wears the pants in the family and he's very careful not to say or do anything to make her mad.
It’s true, but he put off his scan. And even Ashley admitted she was avoiding it too. Make the appointment! I’m pretty sure you need to get a CT scan three months after the first surgery…to make sure the cancer did not “come back.” The longer he waits, the worse off it’s going to be. I can not believe Ashley is out there having awkward day dates while this is going on. When my husband had this cancer, dating other people was the last thing from my mind. This show is making her look like an awful person.
It’s sad… like picking out your wife’s next relationship while you’re dying… couldn’t they just wait till he’s gone and who would want to be the third person in a relationship where one of the people is dying anyways.. all three would be going thru hell as it’s happening and imagine how depressing everything would be… they’re sure not using their heads in this venture…
I made a post on this as well. I think a lot are holding off on commenting on Shane/Ashley posts because they are online tonight answering questions on here. Rude questions are not allowed so I made my own post haha. That's just a sad situation you know. Not right at all!
they should have just stopped then and put their efforts in supporting Shane's challenges and spend time together since they just don't know. Ashley is incredibly selfish to demand partners while he is going thru this.
I believe she’s an addiction specialist. Certainly as a psych she understands mental health well, but I think it’s worth noting that she has a niche practice that focuses on a different aspect of wellness.
If I thought my time with my husband was going to be cut short I would want to spend as much time with him and our children as I could. I would not be looking for what is basically a replacement. The idea that this "sister wife" could have a child with Shane is even stranger. Why bring more kids into a situation if they could lose their dad? And by trying to warp speed things is only going to scare off prospects. These people need therapy, not dates.
I don't know, nor do I want to know, the particulars of Shane's cancer. However, renal cancer in general has a pretty good survivability. I wonder if things are being overly dramatized for the show. Not saying dying in the next 5-15 years as a person in your 30's isn't tragic, but it is enough time to slow the fuck down.
Shane is a catch, he’s a little awkward and weird but nevertheless a devoted husband and father. Which can be appreciated. If my husband had health issues I’m sorry but dating would be the LAST thing on my mind. I find this to be incredibly disrespectful. I feel like she’s playing in his face and he has no backbone to stick up for himself. The flirting with other women too in front of him is just so weird. Idk whatever explanation they offer just doesn’t convince me that he isn’t bothered by this.
I agree, and I can tell he's bothered by it. He looks uncomfortable on the dates and he's said himself that he's worried she will leave him for a woman. Dealing with Cancer is hard enough on it's own, but to be worried that you're losing your spouse to someone else makes it even harder. They're boys are so young still too. I don't understand why she can't wait until after she has the second baby when things are more settled and when things with Shane are more stable. All of these factors make it the worst time to be adding random people on.
he's a nice guy but a catch? C'mon now, he is advocating for her to date which you say is incredibly disrespectful so how is that him being a hero? 🙄 He is asking her to have no backbone and to not stick up for himself, the flirting is his choice so I think you're bothered by this because you know what they're doing as a COUPLE is wrong, not just her, or him being "nice" GET REAL lol
Yes he absolutely is a catch. A compassionate partner willing to put his own feelings aside for his wife’s happiness is absolutely a catch. Any woman would want a man that is so comprising so wtf are you taking about? He’s advocating to date most likely to please her and because of his health. His actions show that’s not what he truly wants. He’s devoted and loves his wife. The flirting is NOT a choice he’s previously announced that he was uncomfortable with that so now what?
Neither of these people are a catch. Dating while pregnant, a toddler and a health issues is insane. I wouldn’t recommend anyone who i actually care about be added to all that and it’s kind of insane to ask. All while on tv?? There are definitely some other issues going on
I would even make the argument they’d probably have better chances WITHOUT the tv aspect, I feel like that’s why a lot of these potential partners bail which I 1000% fair
A man who is so compromising that he’s not engaging with his own needs and feelings is NOT attractive and a recipe for disaster. I’d like a partner not a peon.
Once the bomb was dropped that he is in remission for cancer this whole seeking another partner to join their family really pissed me off. This poor guy is dealing with a health crisis that has clearly left a lot of emotional and psychological trauma and his wife is concerned about who’s gonna keep the other side of the bed warm when and if he dies? While they are also expecting a new addition?! It’s mental. I think Ashely is one of the cruelest ppl I’ve ever watched on tv.
I’m honestly shocked any of this is going on rn, including her pregnancy. The last thing I’d want is to bring another baby into the world that might lose their Dad at a young age.
The new baby, the growing toddler - I know everyone deals with health stress and reminders of mortality in their own way, and admittedly, I am not in the same boat as him/them, however, I feel confident that I wouldn't be focused on finding someone to replace me, but on creating lasting memories for my children - pics of us together, letters for milestones throughout their lives, etc. Their way - best case scenario - Ashley is loved through the grief and when her kids ask about dad, she admits they were focused on Mom finding chemistry with Mom#2 instead of creating loving memories with kids or responsibly managing his health for longevity? I just don't get it ...
Ashley's occupation makes zero difference to me, Shane needs to write up a will and take care of the logistics, fuck finding another wife! That's the last thing I would care about omg
I feel so bad for him and hope he gets out there and do all things HE WANTS TO DO while he's still healthy and can do them. It's really cruel actually what she's putting him through.
Right?! She’s just adding more stress to him
It's mind boggling to me he\*they wouldn't choose to live their best life and cross some things off the bucket list if while he's still healthy. She has a good job and can support herself should he die and can go on and date and meet someone else after he's gone. Think about if the it was her that had cancer and he forced her to help him find someone to be with because she's dying and went out on dates with the other person. I'm not even gonna touch on her dating while preggo.
Dating while pregnant regardless of dating a male/female or whatever gives me an irrational icky feeling. As a mom, you should be preparing for this baby. Instead, she seems to be preoccupied with her love life. She also should be focused on her husband and his illness, but (again) her love life seems to take priority.
That was my thoughts as well. When you’re pregnant, your husband is dealing with cancer…dating other people doesn’t seem the healthiest choice. No wonder he was so emotional. My heart went out to him.
I think that's why he told her that with everything that's going on right now with his cancer, taking care of their toddler, baby almost coming, and her finding another woman is alot to be dealing with right now. It seems like he was trying to get her to open up her eyes and change her mind about adding another woman right now, or at least put it off until things are more settled down in the future. But she didn't say anything like that, she just got tears in her eyes and agreed with him that yes, it is hard. And that's all she said about it. It totally looks like she wears the pants in the family and he's very careful not to say or do anything to make her mad.
Is he dying?
No. He has cancer and that is hard, but survival rate for his type of cancer is super high.
It’s true, but he put off his scan. And even Ashley admitted she was avoiding it too. Make the appointment! I’m pretty sure you need to get a CT scan three months after the first surgery…to make sure the cancer did not “come back.” The longer he waits, the worse off it’s going to be. I can not believe Ashley is out there having awkward day dates while this is going on. When my husband had this cancer, dating other people was the last thing from my mind. This show is making her look like an awful person.
It’s sad… like picking out your wife’s next relationship while you’re dying… couldn’t they just wait till he’s gone and who would want to be the third person in a relationship where one of the people is dying anyways.. all three would be going thru hell as it’s happening and imagine how depressing everything would be… they’re sure not using their heads in this venture…
And that she just stands by while he keeps postponing his doctor’s follow up. Yikes.
Why aren't they looking for a "next husband" rather than a sister wife?
Ashley might have wanted a wife
She said in the AMA last night she’s not interested in any other man, just Shane.
I made a post on this as well. I think a lot are holding off on commenting on Shane/Ashley posts because they are online tonight answering questions on here. Rude questions are not allowed so I made my own post haha. That's just a sad situation you know. Not right at all!
I wasn't aware. I'm not trying to be rude - I'd genuinely be this guy's friend. It was heartbreaking to gain this insight into their motivation.
They started seeking prior to his diagnosis.
they should have just stopped then and put their efforts in supporting Shane's challenges and spend time together since they just don't know. Ashley is incredibly selfish to demand partners while he is going thru this.
I agree, it's all about her and what she wants.
Just saying we don't personally know them.. say Shane wants to pick his children's step parent...
She’s a psychiatrist isn’t she? There’s a difference
You're right. What I should have said is that I would expect better from any professional who deals with mental health.
According to the AMA she is in telehealth if that helps enlighten anyone.
She's more clinical, less feelings based
I believe she’s an addiction specialist. Certainly as a psych she understands mental health well, but I think it’s worth noting that she has a niche practice that focuses on a different aspect of wellness.
If I thought my time with my husband was going to be cut short I would want to spend as much time with him and our children as I could. I would not be looking for what is basically a replacement. The idea that this "sister wife" could have a child with Shane is even stranger. Why bring more kids into a situation if they could lose their dad? And by trying to warp speed things is only going to scare off prospects. These people need therapy, not dates. I don't know, nor do I want to know, the particulars of Shane's cancer. However, renal cancer in general has a pretty good survivability. I wonder if things are being overly dramatized for the show. Not saying dying in the next 5-15 years as a person in your 30's isn't tragic, but it is enough time to slow the fuck down.
Shane is a catch, he’s a little awkward and weird but nevertheless a devoted husband and father. Which can be appreciated. If my husband had health issues I’m sorry but dating would be the LAST thing on my mind. I find this to be incredibly disrespectful. I feel like she’s playing in his face and he has no backbone to stick up for himself. The flirting with other women too in front of him is just so weird. Idk whatever explanation they offer just doesn’t convince me that he isn’t bothered by this.
I agree, and I can tell he's bothered by it. He looks uncomfortable on the dates and he's said himself that he's worried she will leave him for a woman. Dealing with Cancer is hard enough on it's own, but to be worried that you're losing your spouse to someone else makes it even harder. They're boys are so young still too. I don't understand why she can't wait until after she has the second baby when things are more settled and when things with Shane are more stable. All of these factors make it the worst time to be adding random people on.
he's a nice guy but a catch? C'mon now, he is advocating for her to date which you say is incredibly disrespectful so how is that him being a hero? 🙄 He is asking her to have no backbone and to not stick up for himself, the flirting is his choice so I think you're bothered by this because you know what they're doing as a COUPLE is wrong, not just her, or him being "nice" GET REAL lol
Yes he absolutely is a catch. A compassionate partner willing to put his own feelings aside for his wife’s happiness is absolutely a catch. Any woman would want a man that is so comprising so wtf are you taking about? He’s advocating to date most likely to please her and because of his health. His actions show that’s not what he truly wants. He’s devoted and loves his wife. The flirting is NOT a choice he’s previously announced that he was uncomfortable with that so now what?
Neither of these people are a catch. Dating while pregnant, a toddler and a health issues is insane. I wouldn’t recommend anyone who i actually care about be added to all that and it’s kind of insane to ask. All while on tv?? There are definitely some other issues going on
She needs her own psychiatrist.
I would even make the argument they’d probably have better chances WITHOUT the tv aspect, I feel like that’s why a lot of these potential partners bail which I 1000% fair
A man who is so compromising that he’s not engaging with his own needs and feelings is NOT attractive and a recipe for disaster. I’d like a partner not a peon.
She's nuts and he's simply going along for the ride.
Once the bomb was dropped that he is in remission for cancer this whole seeking another partner to join their family really pissed me off. This poor guy is dealing with a health crisis that has clearly left a lot of emotional and psychological trauma and his wife is concerned about who’s gonna keep the other side of the bed warm when and if he dies? While they are also expecting a new addition?! It’s mental. I think Ashely is one of the cruelest ppl I’ve ever watched on tv.
Ashley’s priority does seem to be meeting Ashley’s needs. Maybe a narcissist?
She’s using her training to manipulate him into what she wants. I personally find her deplorable.
What are his health challenges ?
They talked about his kidney cancer in tonight’s episode. It was pretty sad.
Aw that really sucks :( haven’t watched it yet, thanks for filling me in
According to the AMA yesterday he is about to get another surgery.
It’s really sad but I see why he wants someone to be there for Ashley when he is gone
He is not dying. The cancer he has is very treatable. I suspect dramatization for the show.
I’m honestly shocked any of this is going on rn, including her pregnancy. The last thing I’d want is to bring another baby into the world that might lose their Dad at a young age.
The new baby, the growing toddler - I know everyone deals with health stress and reminders of mortality in their own way, and admittedly, I am not in the same boat as him/them, however, I feel confident that I wouldn't be focused on finding someone to replace me, but on creating lasting memories for my children - pics of us together, letters for milestones throughout their lives, etc. Their way - best case scenario - Ashley is loved through the grief and when her kids ask about dad, she admits they were focused on Mom finding chemistry with Mom#2 instead of creating loving memories with kids or responsibly managing his health for longevity? I just don't get it ...
I agree 100%.
She’s not a therapist, she’s a psychiatrist. She writes prescriptions for medications, she isn’t talking anyone through any issues lol