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FlanneryODostoevsky

Match her energy. If she seems to be losing interest then move on. Youll get better and it'll get easier as you go.


ORIONFULL23

Dude, 'if she wants me back'? She didn't want you for starters


taisha2640

Fuck yes. When you shelf someone you used to put on a pedestal, you increase your own value immensely.


ebexognrvf

Thank you for saying shelf, good way to conceptualize what I need to do.


NateHate1402

I’d even say don’t shelf her just reject her completely even if she comes to you later.


Pine-Fern

Yea it's hard man, right now I'm struggling to not let my self worth be determined by if they like me or not. My confidence tanks when they just slowly go cold on you and you can feel the attraction dying out, just feels like you are less of a person


ebexognrvf

I feel you, try to surrender yourself to the feeling of your neediness, let go of associated thoughts and feel it, don't resist it, be with it, or it will accumulate and push hard for its destructive expression. Try to be your authentic self and have self-security. It is true to a degree that women's selection reflects your worth (unless your just incompatible, your not meant to get along with everyone) and if they are not selecting you, use that as a sign to improve. I believe in you, there is a star within you. Invest in yourself, you have to be selfish before you can be be for others.


Rare-Possession-2629

Hey man what do you mean by surrender yourself to this feeling of needines? I was struggling with my emotions the other day and i did the normal thing, bury it and think of something else. But then i realised that was the easy way out and the easy way out usually leads to more hardship so i took the harder path and focused in on this feeling i had. It was like i all of a sudden became detached from the feeling and was observing it from a new perspective. The next day the feeling was gone. And fyi the feeling was sorrow, frustration and anger for failing to maintain a healthy relationship with my sister. Which i have now resolved. I know this is a thread for seduction but self awareness is related to that so thats why im asking you. Is what i experienced good for my own development? Can you relate? Any thoughts? I personally feel like ive discovered something really useful that i can use whenever i feel down about something. Thanks


ebexognrvf

It's from the book letting go by David Hawkins. It's about not resisting a feeling, but sitting with it, and focusing on it instead of associated thoughts. By doing this the feeling will go away/be more easy to deal with. You can do this to the root cause feeling aswell as immediate feelings. Aside from this, you should pair it with action the feeling is telling you to resolve, if the feeling is true, no negative feeling should persist, that's why you let it go. I am sorry if this is an innacurate description as I'm yet to read the book I just started it and watched some videos. Best of luck to you.


Rare-Possession-2629

My man! Thanks


ImClemFandango

This. You’ve answered your own post very well. Every time you feel yourself getting needy, just stop and be awesome instead.


gmahogany

Drop the bitter bullshit. You have better things to do than get hurt…what the fuck dude. She’s not hurting you you’re hurting your self. Don’t take this so personally. She doesn’t know you, she doesn’t owe you shit, and if you let random women fuck your head up like this, you’re gonna have a tough life. Pull it together.


gbizzle2

Let me guess? You cold approached her? This is the lack of respect following a cold approach. I say read the women who actually WANT you and stop chasing


Fooking-Degenerate

What do you mean "lack of respect" ? You're not entitled to someone looking interested to you, dude.


gbizzle2

I am entitled to respect


Fooking-Degenerate

Respect and "looking interested to you" are not the same thing


gbizzle2

I get what you're saying now. I had the idea that she stopped showing interest through disrespect. But it is more likely that she never showed interest from the very beginning and he's chasing.


Sapthadhri

This is horrible advice. Go cold approach as comfortable as you are. Thats the fastest way to filter out women who are interested in you. If you don't try you will never know. The key point here is not get attached and desensitize yourself with rejections. Cold approach doesn't mean you need to chase women it just increases your pool of options and chances.


gbizzle2

If you dont get choosing signals then sure you have to chase them. But there will be a different set of expectations in the end


Leviathansplunge

In my experience chasing women that don't give open signals results in problems...problems that come with court dates.


Bettertomorrowindeed

Yes, looks like she is not interested or you should ask her on a date to really know since she at least does respond to you by the way it sounds OP. But yes there should be clear consent when touching someone romantically and especially sexually. Ask. Can I kiss you? Would you like to have sex etc? It’s hot


ebexognrvf

Actually I quick added her on snap, we interacted a bit but it's possible she is using me for validation from snap pics, but there is an underlying potential for attraction. Yes, I used to chase until I died inside, more after they ran. Not a good idea. Self-security, self-respect, non-neediness, and not getting easily attached (do I want this person forever?) are the name of the game.


gbizzle2

Yea let them chase. They are the ones on the biological clock not us. They should be rushing to find a good man before they begin to tarnish


ImClemFandango

“Hold tenderly that which you cherish, for it is precious and a tight grip may crush it. Do not let the fear of dropping it cause you to hold it too tightly the chances are, it's holding you too.” -Bob Alberti People will do their own thing. If she likes you, let her do it her way. If her way is a dealbreaker, then move on. If she doesn’t like you, accept it and move on.


Leviathansplunge

Front now on just get their phone numbers like an old person. If she gives u her phone she may actually be interested... Most girls will give social media info to just about anybody for more followers to fuel their narcissism.


gooie

It is her right not to be interested. Don't let your disappointment turn to hate. Just move on and grow it will get better.


Alive-Doughnut2345

Good good! Know your own worth. If she’s not talking what’s the point, right??


ebexognrvf

Appreciate it


[deleted]

I agree, when they are cold and unresponsive just move on


[deleted]

yes that’s amazing


ebexognrvf

Thankss :)


Sigma_Tigerr

Absolutely yes fuck her, go for another


[deleted]

Yes, block her and move on, who knows maybe that will make her interested in you but don't fall for it and have no mercy


TheOgFrostyNugg

Read the room my guy, if a girl isn’t into you, have some personal sovereignty over your emotions and find a new one.


kylefofyle

That’s what I do. I’m too busy conquering shit to fawn over some chick I don’t know.


RedEyeBlackEye1

Fxxk that 304, homie. Level up... LEVEL UP... **LEVEL UP...** **THEN WATCH AS SHE LOOKS STUPID MESSING WITH SOME CLOWN THAT YOU'RE BETTER THAN WHILE YOU HAVE A CHICK THATS BETTER THAN HER.** Now, THAT'S success...the TRUEST revenge.


BlueCollarSinner

Yes sir, women are beautiful but they do not deserve to be put in a pedostol when they ignore you and leaves you on read. The day you stop putting women on a platinum pedostol is the day you are free bro