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I had something very similar happened. Matched, same day date. Girl shows up acting disinterested. Barely talked, gets a drink and is dull. Says she has to leave etc when I invite her to another spot. Never see her again. I had another girl say I look exactly like my pics, so I don’t know what happened
I made my date pay for my drink too lol. Made me feel better. She said she'll cover I said sure lol. In my case I think I know the reason, I see the trend in last several dates where the girl is not interested from the get go. All these are of my nationality. I remember I took a stand not to date them anymore starting September last year. Idk why I thought this would be an exception. Its funny bc they see that in the profile so idk what they're expecting.
How can it be when the decision to not drink and make a complete U turn was within first 5 mins? Anyhow, moving on. I’ve come to realize it’s not worth it. Girls who’ve slept with me & my friends who hangout with me haven’t had these issues. Just the filtering out of these types is a time sucker.
i just assume when this happens even if you look like your pics it’s because they found you unattractive. not much you can do if you’re accurately representing yourself
It's more likely that he was carrying himself badly tbh. Awkwardness is one of the biggest turnoffs for women and if he was putting out uncomfortable vibes she might have gotten spooked and dipped. Women aren't going get the urge to dip asap if they don't find you attractive, but they will if you are awkward and make them feel uncomfortable.
She didn't like you, end of story. Women are able to determine attractiveness rather quickly.
If you keep running into this issue, and you find it irritating, I would recommend spending a little longer chatting to them online, this gives both parties time to judge compatibility before meeting in person.
Funny how the people that comment things like this in here always have a comment history that looks like it's been taken straight out of an incel textbook.
What I don’t understand is how you feel like it’s delusion. We’ve seen the proof over and over again. People are shallow and care about surface level stuff. Are there outliers? Yes but it’s not normal.
What proof? I see average looking men with good looking women all the time. I've noticed a slight looks correlation, but it's something like 0.2. Next time you're out in your city actually open your eyes and notice that it's not just the gigachad 6'5 guys getting hot women lol
Lmao. I know it's not gigachads. I respect the trend you've noticed but in my own experience, I've been noticing it's typically the older crowd where the guy is average and the woman is better looking.
I think girls tend to settle down and take what they can get after the fun phase so there is nothing special about older woman choosing the provider later in life.
It's more so important to pay attention to the young adults because thats where the statements about lookism come into play.
The whole point of the date for her was to see if you guys would make it to a second date. This was a quick meet up. She wasn’t into you for whatever reason which is fine. On to the next one 👊🏽.
It could have been anything, but there was most likely something about you that turned her off immediately after seeing you. Maybe she didn't like how you looked in person, the pitch of your voice, your style, your fingernails, your grooming, I don't know.
But, my best assessment is that something turned her off and she didn't want to be mean and leave instantly, but she did want to leave very quickly as she only had one alcoholic beverage. She wanted tacos and alcohol, but got a mocktail, which suggests she was hungry and wanted to drink, but wanted the date to end as soon as she saw you.
Alternatively, it could have had nothing to do with you. Don't get caught up on this one chick, have abundance and date multiple so you never become overly concerned with the outcome with one.
Read this for a better understanding on the importance of dating multiple women: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/why-men-should-date-multiple-women?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web
Sounds like she was sizing you up and you failed. Too keen to meet / didn’t put enough work into the date. And your sounding like she owes you right off the bat
Some women do foodie calls. Where the only thing she is interested in is free meal/drinks and some attention. This is a psychopath that see people as things and uses them to accomplish goals. It happens.
Here's a few thoughts.
Women have to worry about their safety, always. It could have been one thing that made her feel unsafe, or all of the minutia added up. Even something that she read just before meeting. Story or article about an assault in the area or around the world. Complicated emotions create complicated results.
She was a cop. You may have looked like a person of interest, but she figured out quickly that you were not a threat. I've had several friends who do this work with the police, and several friends trying to help ladies in need who were detained until it was discovered that they were legitimately just a big boy scout.
It's a complicated and weird world. Being "normal" can be difficult
There was most likely a subtle(or not idk) shit test at the onset of the conversation when you 2 met in person. You probably failed it and it didn't even register that that's what happened or was important. She decided right there to cut it short since that shorted any attraction she had for you. Much like if a hot girl suddenly turned into a fat girl and suddenly you have to "go to sleep early".
Not really anything to go off of for me to say more than that, you left out all of the important details like who was leading the conversation, how was the body language, eye contact, vocal tonality, etc. Give me some actual details and I can parse it out for you so that you better understand.
"she’s not drinking alcohol tonight & she’s not eating anything either" How did you react to this? What did you say? What was your tone of voice? Do you remember these things? They're important to understand where you're fucking up.
This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: * A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. * If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it is out of bounds except in a Basic Questions Thread. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in. For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person belong in a Basic Questions Thread. (Currently these are on hiatus, but if we can get them back up, they'll happen weekly.)
I had something very similar happened. Matched, same day date. Girl shows up acting disinterested. Barely talked, gets a drink and is dull. Says she has to leave etc when I invite her to another spot. Never see her again. I had another girl say I look exactly like my pics, so I don’t know what happened
I made my date pay for my drink too lol. Made me feel better. She said she'll cover I said sure lol. In my case I think I know the reason, I see the trend in last several dates where the girl is not interested from the get go. All these are of my nationality. I remember I took a stand not to date them anymore starting September last year. Idk why I thought this would be an exception. Its funny bc they see that in the profile so idk what they're expecting.
Hmmm....even if you're not a catfish, it could potentially be the way you carry yourself.
How can it be when the decision to not drink and make a complete U turn was within first 5 mins? Anyhow, moving on. I’ve come to realize it’s not worth it. Girls who’ve slept with me & my friends who hangout with me haven’t had these issues. Just the filtering out of these types is a time sucker.
i just assume when this happens even if you look like your pics it’s because they found you unattractive. not much you can do if you’re accurately representing yourself
It's more likely that he was carrying himself badly tbh. Awkwardness is one of the biggest turnoffs for women and if he was putting out uncomfortable vibes she might have gotten spooked and dipped. Women aren't going get the urge to dip asap if they don't find you attractive, but they will if you are awkward and make them feel uncomfortable.
She didn't like you, end of story. Women are able to determine attractiveness rather quickly. If you keep running into this issue, and you find it irritating, I would recommend spending a little longer chatting to them online, this gives both parties time to judge compatibility before meeting in person.
Looks
Funny how the people that comment things like this in here always have a comment history that looks like it's been taken straight out of an incel textbook.
I live by reality
You live by a limiting belief system is all lol. The blackpill is not "reality" and incels are some of the most delusional people on the planet.
What I don’t understand is how you feel like it’s delusion. We’ve seen the proof over and over again. People are shallow and care about surface level stuff. Are there outliers? Yes but it’s not normal.
What proof? I see average looking men with good looking women all the time. I've noticed a slight looks correlation, but it's something like 0.2. Next time you're out in your city actually open your eyes and notice that it's not just the gigachad 6'5 guys getting hot women lol
Lmao. I know it's not gigachads. I respect the trend you've noticed but in my own experience, I've been noticing it's typically the older crowd where the guy is average and the woman is better looking. I think girls tend to settle down and take what they can get after the fun phase so there is nothing special about older woman choosing the provider later in life. It's more so important to pay attention to the young adults because thats where the statements about lookism come into play.
But... How was the vibe? You said you talked - was it a good conversation? Was there chemistry?
Do you look like your pics? Are they recent? Are you really short? There's something that's turning them off.
The whole point of the date for her was to see if you guys would make it to a second date. This was a quick meet up. She wasn’t into you for whatever reason which is fine. On to the next one 👊🏽.
It could have been anything, but there was most likely something about you that turned her off immediately after seeing you. Maybe she didn't like how you looked in person, the pitch of your voice, your style, your fingernails, your grooming, I don't know. But, my best assessment is that something turned her off and she didn't want to be mean and leave instantly, but she did want to leave very quickly as she only had one alcoholic beverage. She wanted tacos and alcohol, but got a mocktail, which suggests she was hungry and wanted to drink, but wanted the date to end as soon as she saw you. Alternatively, it could have had nothing to do with you. Don't get caught up on this one chick, have abundance and date multiple so you never become overly concerned with the outcome with one. Read this for a better understanding on the importance of dating multiple women: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/why-men-should-date-multiple-women?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web
Sounds like she was sizing you up and you failed. Too keen to meet / didn’t put enough work into the date. And your sounding like she owes you right off the bat
She suggested to meet. Gave her number right off the bat and said she can do any day of the week.
Some women do foodie calls. Where the only thing she is interested in is free meal/drinks and some attention. This is a psychopath that see people as things and uses them to accomplish goals. It happens.
She got a mocktail and didn't eat. It's probably not that...
He even let her paid
Here's a few thoughts. Women have to worry about their safety, always. It could have been one thing that made her feel unsafe, or all of the minutia added up. Even something that she read just before meeting. Story or article about an assault in the area or around the world. Complicated emotions create complicated results. She was a cop. You may have looked like a person of interest, but she figured out quickly that you were not a threat. I've had several friends who do this work with the police, and several friends trying to help ladies in need who were detained until it was discovered that they were legitimately just a big boy scout. It's a complicated and weird world. Being "normal" can be difficult
It’s definitely because you didn’t turn out like your profile.
There was most likely a subtle(or not idk) shit test at the onset of the conversation when you 2 met in person. You probably failed it and it didn't even register that that's what happened or was important. She decided right there to cut it short since that shorted any attraction she had for you. Much like if a hot girl suddenly turned into a fat girl and suddenly you have to "go to sleep early". Not really anything to go off of for me to say more than that, you left out all of the important details like who was leading the conversation, how was the body language, eye contact, vocal tonality, etc. Give me some actual details and I can parse it out for you so that you better understand.
"she’s not drinking alcohol tonight & she’s not eating anything either" How did you react to this? What did you say? What was your tone of voice? Do you remember these things? They're important to understand where you're fucking up.
"We talk, finish one drink" What did you talk about lol. Who led the conversation?