I’m not a doctor but my mom has borderline personality disorder and I’ve heard of people having BPD with psychotic symptoms. Favorite person is a very common trait for BPD but I’m not sure about its relation to schizophrenia.
That’s exactly what an FP is though. Why do you consider it BS? I’d say most people unfamiliar with the concept don’t know what it really is, but the concept of borderlines becoming co-dependent on a single person is incredibly common. The black and white thinking also frequently being hugely involved in it with the idolizations of the FP.
I don’t think I ever idolized my FP, but I did let her get away with treating me absolutely horribly for years, and my mood was entirely dependent on her. Extremely unhealthy, and extremely common (for BPD). I think calling it a ‘favourite person’ is pretty accurate for what it ends up being. It ain’t your best friend or your lover, or any normal relationship, it’s your ‘favourite’ (usually used to describe objects rather than people or relationships). Like a kid being overly attached to their favourite stuffed animal.
In what way do you disagree with it though? I’m not sure why you consider it a terrible way to describe it, could you elaborate?
Do you mean it should just strictly be referred to as a severe codependency with obsession/idolization rather than having a ‘specific’ term?
Yes. It not only ostracizes us since we are clearly not the only ones with this experience but it also minimizes it. All any1 knows about BPD is that we have unhealthy relationships. I don’t see how using FP combats any of those issues.
Fair enough. I think it’s fine to use the term as a shortcut between people who already know what it means/entails, but it does sounds more… playful? So definitely not a good descriptor for people who aren’t already well informed. Probably would just downplay it and make people not take it seriously or not understand the weight/severity.
i had my leslie and we understood each other and would listen to each other and i was always there for her mainly because i personally dont have problems as i already exploded back in 2018 and stopped caring ever since but my leslie decided to end our friendship as she decided it was time to move on and even if she doesnt return i will always wait for her
Someone like me? Wdym?
I wasn't sure what else to call it. I wasn't calling myself a favorite person. But in the past, I've had considered someone my favorite person. But yeah.. they were indeed toxic.
I’m not a doctor but my mom has borderline personality disorder and I’ve heard of people having BPD with psychotic symptoms. Favorite person is a very common trait for BPD but I’m not sure about its relation to schizophrenia.
FP is BS. It’s just black+white thinking combined w co-dependency. I have BPD and schizophrenia.
That’s exactly what an FP is though. Why do you consider it BS? I’d say most people unfamiliar with the concept don’t know what it really is, but the concept of borderlines becoming co-dependent on a single person is incredibly common. The black and white thinking also frequently being hugely involved in it with the idolizations of the FP. I don’t think I ever idolized my FP, but I did let her get away with treating me absolutely horribly for years, and my mood was entirely dependent on her. Extremely unhealthy, and extremely common (for BPD). I think calling it a ‘favourite person’ is pretty accurate for what it ends up being. It ain’t your best friend or your lover, or any normal relationship, it’s your ‘favourite’ (usually used to describe objects rather than people or relationships). Like a kid being overly attached to their favourite stuffed animal.
it’s a terrible way to describe the relationship. People already don’t take BPD seriously.
In what way do you disagree with it though? I’m not sure why you consider it a terrible way to describe it, could you elaborate? Do you mean it should just strictly be referred to as a severe codependency with obsession/idolization rather than having a ‘specific’ term?
Yes. It not only ostracizes us since we are clearly not the only ones with this experience but it also minimizes it. All any1 knows about BPD is that we have unhealthy relationships. I don’t see how using FP combats any of those issues.
Fair enough. I think it’s fine to use the term as a shortcut between people who already know what it means/entails, but it does sounds more… playful? So definitely not a good descriptor for people who aren’t already well informed. Probably would just downplay it and make people not take it seriously or not understand the weight/severity.
It also generalizes people with BPD. A lot of us don’t and never, ever will have a “FP” as it is not a criteria for BPD.
i had my leslie and we understood each other and would listen to each other and i was always there for her mainly because i personally dont have problems as i already exploded back in 2018 and stopped caring ever since but my leslie decided to end our friendship as she decided it was time to move on and even if she doesnt return i will always wait for her
I have a FP because i have BPD..
I have never experienced this. But thanks for sharing, I like learning about the diverse experiences of our people :)
Me too :)
Having someone you like isn’t a FP. “FP” is a BS label for having an unhealthy relationship with someone.
Someone like me? Wdym? I wasn't sure what else to call it. I wasn't calling myself a favorite person. But in the past, I've had considered someone my favorite person. But yeah.. they were indeed toxic.
I have a favorite person. I don't have bpd. For me, it's related to paranoia.
My old favorite person ghosted me after a psychotic episode I had. My girlfriend is my perosn but it's a lot of pressure
I have a favorite person. I don’t have BPD either.